#Violence against trans men

[st-dionysus]

Glad you mentioned the squeeze test, this is something I've had to teach other trans men, to make sure we don't get clocked in a club, bathhouse, or any other place where a cis woman or cis man thinks it's OK to grope our crotch because consent doesn't count when you pass as a man. I've been gropped, touched without my permission, and hit far more as a man than I ever was as a woman.

For trans men who don't know about the squeeze test. When you get a soft packer, you should put it on adjust it, so it sits right in your boxers and then squeeze your packer, grab it like someone is gropping you, you want to make sure it doesn't feel rigid, squeeze the fat on your stomach (or if you have breasts, that fat) it should feel similar to that. If you have a partner with a natal phallo, and they don't have bottom dysphoria, ask if you can cope a feel to compare.

If someone grabs your crotch at a party, and it's obvious that your packer is not a natal phallo you can get clocked, especially in a bathhouse (an issue I have had before, and I was removed from the bathhouse by security, because the man who gropped me left to make a complaint about a "female" being in the gay bathhouse). I was lucky that it was anonymous, cause if that guy wanted to he could have charged me with Sexual Assault for not disclosing that I was transgender despite the fact that he gropped me without permission while i was giving oral to another guy.

Hard packers and semi-soft packers are harder (no pun intended) to past the squeeze test, so I don't recommend wearing a hard packer out to the club and only wearing a semi-soft to a straight nightclub or a strip club, where you'll be less likely to be touched.

And in regard to violence, there are trans men murdered every year with their corpses genitals mutilated, frequently they are transmasc children.

Other fun issues include: forced detransition, having our bodies weaponized as the reason why trans children shouldn't get to transition, the highest rate of sexual assault among all trans people and all other demographics, the highest rate of suicide among all trans people and all other demographics, the highest rate of medical abuse among all trans people (the only demographic higher is that of black women), the highest amount of abuse during pregnancy of all demographics, no legal protections to abortion even in states that have abortion protection, no legal protections to birth control pills in any state, forced detransition to get access to an abortion, forced detransition to get access to homeless shelters, forced detransition to get any "female" medical care in many states, being denied surgery if you are autistic in several states, being denined surgery if you are mentally ill, depressed, or suicidal (even if not having surgery is what causes those issues), out HRT is only possible through either medical professionls or the black-market (no grey-market or DIY of our hormones are allowed, and can result in being sent to federal prison), speaking of prison - we often fear changing our gender marker because a "M" can get us sent to men's prison -- and not one wants to be the man with a vagina in prison, and MUCH MUCH more!

i think posts like this show just how utterly disconnected other trans people are from the actual experiences of trans men, and just from trans men in general. bc a lot of y’all literally cannot comprehend that trans men experience anything besides getting misgendered occasionally and having to wear a binder. y’all think that’s the extend of trans masculine existence. because most of y’all do not fucking care to learn a damn thing about us.

we are literally talking about all of the things the second poster mentioned. we are talking about our rates of sexual assault and murder, we’re talking about medical transphobia, we’re talking about employment discrimination, public harassment, how the repeal of roe v wade affects american trans men, etc.

but you know what happens when we do that?

we get told to shut the fuck up.

so like. you gotta pick one. you can’t claim trans men aren’t talking about Serious Stuff that affects us and then actively silence us when we are literally talking about Serious Stuff that affects us.

[glitched-starlight]

As Gravity Falls reenters the void, and the inevitably of fanfiction begins to recirculate, there is a comment I fear I must send out to the general public.

As a trans man who gets, like, -1 representation in shows that aren’t explicitly about queer people, I often will latch onto characters that inexplicably have The Trans (TM) written into their bones, which includes Dipper Pines. And, as one might expect, I turn to my silly little A03 account to get my fix of representation and enjoyment of many a trans dilemma. Unfortunately, this is where my qualms get given the spotlight.

This is a generalization, but it seems as though every single godforsaken fic about trans!Dipper (I see this in the Spider-Man fandom a lot too, but that’s a conversation for a different day) he loses all his unhingedness, all his insanity, and is boiled down to a weak and sad little uwu trans boy who can’t handle his own dysphoria and falls apart at every slight inconvenience?

You’re telling me DIPPER, the same man who got called weak one (1) time and then disappeared into the woods for a solid 12 hours and came back half naked and rambling about positive vs toxic masculinity and manotaurs, is going to get misgendered and fall completely and utterly apart? You seriously think he’s going to have a run in with somebody who tries to bully him for being trans and he isn’t going to read them to filth? Are we forgetting that this is the same man who spent a whole episode learning about how to live and let live and then STILL told Pacifica her family was a sham with the mic-drop line of “deal with it”?????

Like good lord, please give this man some credit. I’m not saying he can’t have panic attacks, or trauma, or be treated differently by certain people, but it is the year of our lord and savior 2024 and we are STILL infantilizing trans men in fanon versions of media???

All I’m saying is if Mabel gets to keep her unhinged characteristics, you gotta let Dipper keep his too. Let Dipper punch a transphobe, as a treat.

[autistic-and-radical]

A trans identified teenager (17 years old) raped a younger girl (14 years old). The girl was told to refer to him per "she" in the courtroom because her rapist uses she/her pronouns. This happened in 2021, the case was resumed in 2023. The rapist got sentences to 3 years. AND GOT SENT TO AN ALL FEMALE PRISON!!!

[niiwa-angel]

TRAs to Radfems: telling young women who are concerned about doing risky sex acts like anal or oral is grooming. Talking to 15 year olds who asked how to properly enforce boundaries when it comes to sex or even just relationships in general is the exact same as being a pedophile. Telling Lesbians that they don't have to date trans women is dangerous. You're basically Hitler.

Also TRAs: posts shit like this

[girlbloggercrowley]

trending tag right now is filled with “guys the author is a terf!!! and this is an election year!!! think about the implications!!!” and all i’m thinking is

1: the allegations are not about trans women. the allegations are about a cis man behaving abhorrently towards two women. the author, whatever her beliefs may be, is not speaking from a transphobic perspective in the piece. she is talking about misogyny, and how powerful men get away with things. this is not about trans people. you are using trans people as a deflection from discussion about men in power, something that affects trans people.

2: you guys are deathly allergic to even considering that a man might have committed sexual assault.

3: this is not a government psyop are you fucking stupid

[st-dionysus]

Quick question? Was Ebeng Mayor, a trans man that was gang raped and murdered and then his genitals mutilated by shoving a wooden stake in it -- mistaken for a transfem, by his attackers that went out of their way to define him by his genitals?

When Roberto González Onrubia, a trans man that was psychologically and physically tortured for a year by two cisgender women who knew he was a transgender man, and then murdered by them -- an accidental victim of transmisogyny?

Was Valera, the 46 year old Russian trans man who "fully passed" was murdered by his roommates after they found out he was a transgender man -- incorrectly clocked as transfem?

Was Brandon Teena, who was raped and murdered by people in his hometown that knew he was AFAB, and whose murder and rape was mocked as something he deserved on SNL while being constantly misgendered in death and then his murder made into a snuff film for a cis woman to profit off of -- collateral damage in the war against transfem people?

Was Nex Benndict, whose friends and partner has stressed to the press preferred he/him pronouns (and despite this the press refuses to use those pronouns), was beaten in the women's bathroom that he was forced to use by cis girls that were completely aware of the fact that he was AFAB since he was constantly misgendered in school as per the legal requirement in his state, and then died afterwards of either suicide or trauma from the beating -- really a victim of the only real form of gendered violence (transmisogyny of course).

No. They were all murdered because they were trans men who refused to play the role of a cisgender woman. They were murdered for not conforming to the femininity expected of them. The reason for the violent murder, mutilations, and rapes of these people were because they dared to present themselves as men in a world that had decided they were not allowed to.

These men died of transphobia directed at them because of their identities as "tboys" (to use OPs language) and because they were masculine. To deny that transgender men face oppression for their masculinity is the definition of transandrophobia, it is to use trans men and trans boys identities as male and/or masc, as a way to dismiss their oppression as fake, because real boys don't cry and masculine men don't get hate crimed.

(EDIT: the second reply should say existing outside of the role assigned to us at birth)

Well, good to know people are finally going mask off about it. They are straight up saying now that butches and gnc women aren't ever targeted, except for when it's incidental to transmisogyny. It's OK everyone! Gender noncomformity in women is totally accepted as long as you're not clocked as transfem! No one has an issue with it!

[queerism1969]

[mongrel-mage]

Literally trans men get hatecrimed and murdered as well. Trans men get assaulted and abused and terrorized for being trans. Trans men are victimized by larger systems as well.

Brandon Teena. Robert Eads. Camdyn Rider. Mar'Quis "MJ" Jackson. E.J. Boykin. Poe Black. Jeffrey "JJ" Bright. Oliver "Ollie" Taylor. Jacob Williamson.

So many names. I can go on. Trans men are not somehow exempt from transphobia, trans men experience sexism and misogyny and violence. Stop pretending that we don't.

[uncanny-tranny]

The idea that manhood is a type of violence that can be wielded is definitely something that I've found impacts me - the idea that to be a man, I have to fight and bleed for it, that fostering anything else is sacrilege. It's honestly really sad to look at cis men who are entrenched in this idea because it's a curse. I've also found this threat of violence wielded against me in order to "prove" I'm not a man, that if I can not beat people into submission that I am not truly worthy of manhood.

I ultimately see this viewpoint of manhood as fragile - not because manhood or masculinity is inherently so, but because it relies so heavily on other people and if they approve of their manhood. It relies on climbing on other people through any means necessary. Should our manhood only be expressed through the blood on our knuckles? Is it right that we bathe ourselves in so many layers of machismo and false arrogance that our true selves are frozen beneath layers upon layers of apathy and fear?

[lord-radish]

imagine thinking that trans men are inherently bad or evil or predatory on the basis of gendered privilege and societal power structures. cringe

[clit-a-cola]

you’re disgusting by the way.

it’s bad enough that you’re a rampant transphobe, but now you’re also attacking kids on the internet for voicing their own opinions? holy fuck, the block button exists for a reason. if you don’t agree get over yourself and press it.

also trans people (like myself) are valid, no matter what you say :)

Uh oh girlies anon thinks I'm gross for defending gay people :(

That homophobic dipshit is 18 dumbass she's gonna have to learn to grow tf up eventually and deal with it when people call out on her homophobia and she can block me herself if she don't like being called out on her bigotry!

And ???Ok?????? Go be valid???? I fucking guess????

[niiwa-angel]

Hey ladies. You wanna know what trans "women" think of us? You really wanna know? It's disturbing, I warn you.

See that? See how they think of us as lesser? They aren't our "sisters" they are not our allies. They're just like every other porn sick, abusive, disgusting man out there. Do not fall for their whining that they "just want to pee" or "are trapped in the wrong body"

They're perfectly happy in their bodies, they love that they can hurt us by raping us. They love even more that they've created a category that makes them untouchable. Don't give them the benefit of the doubt, this is what they are.

[thekidsfromyestergay]

Reminder that the idea of the Evil Trans People Forcing Cis Men To Become Women was made up by t/rfs to paint trans women as evil and predatory while also perpetuating their narrative that feminine men are "appropriating womanhood", and attempting to reframe that exact idea as a real and serious problem is simply feeding into their transphobia and lending it validity

[ariel-seagull-wings]

@the-blue-fairie @themousefromfantasyland @thealmightyemprex @piterelizabethdevries @professorlehnsherr-almashy

[lovebloods]

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[hard--headed--woman]

?? isn’t it a bit dramatic. isn’t it fucking dramatic. like is it really what oppression, discrimination and systemic violence are for you? wow you're lucky.