#Uni advice

[studyingchemeng]

Hey, do you have any tips to regularly motivate yourself to study?

I often get overwhelmed by the homework and forget about the textbook readings and preparation.

Hi anon,

sorry for taking so long to answer and thanks for the question.

1) get a study buddy. find a person with similar academic goals to you even if you don't study the same thing and set a time and a place regularly, were you just go to actually study and hold eachother accountable. my friend and I meet every saturday and go to the library or a study cafe for five hours. we are different majors so we can't really help one another but it's about accountability.

2) habits, routines >> motivation. I am the biggest procrastinator and motivation doesn't work for me. I have created systems that force me to study. Like the study friend or going to a study group meeting, going to the library after class without going home in between cause if I go home I now I'm just going to watch tv and not study at all. you can also try virtual study groups if it's more accessible to you although I've never tried with strangers before.

3) plan everything. plan ahead from the moment you get the syllable as far as you can. organize time for smaller tasks every day or every other day if you can. make the schedule as realistic and as flexible as you can.

4) a little bit every day. textbook readings don't usually get done cause a.our asses are on fire from hw b. they don't have a deadline c. are huge . So break it down in smaller chunks. let's say you have to get through 800 pages. from the stem prospective I try to skim through 10 to 20 pages each time and get the general gist.

5) 5% is better than 0. even if you do nothing but read one page or solve one practice problem a day it's still something.

6) find old exams. if most of your classes have exams in the end and not projects lime mine, try to find as many older exam questions as possible. if the professor is the same they usually have a similar style of exams each year. this way you know what kind of exam you are studying for and can focus on the material that actually matters so you don't get overwhelmed as much.

7) make friends with upperclassmen. they've been already through this and usually have pretty good advice and tricks. I like to bribe them with coffee or food and they'll even give you the work they've done for the class before, this way you get a better understanding of what you have to do for the class. they are also a good motivation or reminder cause they are the proof that you can pass this class.

8) it's going to be ok. school and uni suck sometimes but you can get through it. if it gets too overwhelming academically see if you have the option for a tutor or sth similar and don't be too proud to ask for help, we've all been there.

Hope this helps!!! If anyone has more questions my dms and asks are open!!!

[sebs-studies]

Unsolicited advice from a second year uni student

Since it's now September and most people I know will be heading either back to school or gearing up for university. And if anyone did what I did they might look at Tumblr to get some studying/life ideas (I did this during my A-levels and ended up making my own blog!). So I wanted to give some general advice from my perspective to anyone who might want it - also this will be specific to the UK but some of it is just general too. Also I want to be able to look back on this since I went back through my blog recently and realised I may have needed this advice even just a year ago.

For those who are about to go to university do not panic (cliché I know) but seriously. You will survive the first year I promise! It obviously varies from person to person and between unis and degrees but the first year will generally be a massive adjustment period in your life. And that will likely impact your mental health. This is totally normal. I got major impostor syndrome the first few months of uni. It wasn't until semester 2 that I started to feel comfortable. And largely because if was an entirely new way of learning and teaching, I had to completely relearn how to study, whilst also learning how to live on my own, and living in a new city and making friends.

You will make friends, it might not be immediately but you will find someone before the end of your first year. I got blessed by chance in making friends, but I know lots of people who it took the entire year to find their people. The unfortunate part of this advice is to make friends you do have to go outside and meet them (and I don't always mean going out drinking although this is definitely an option). Look for societies and clubs at your uni this will be 100% an easy way to meet people. And especially especially in the first few weeks of uni go to the welcome/fresher/first year events. I avoided them because I was anxious but turns out they're an amazing way to meet people because guess what? Everyone else is just as anxious as you are!

Expect your grades to go down at first and don't be discouraged, you can and will get those grades back up. And even if you don't (given that you are passing) it doesn't matter. Grades, especially at grad level are kind of inconsequential for most people. Two things to be mindful of are if you are going for a work placement or study abroad year (if you live in the UK) as first year grades do matter for those. Something no one will probably tell you till it's too late. But even then for most study programs you only need a 60% in your first year. And to just progress you only need a 40% (at most unis double check yours). Point being if there's ever a time for your grades to go down it's now, don't panic, your degree isn't over, you're not an impostor, you deserve to be here.

Everyone is struggling just as much as you are. Don't be fooled by Instagram or whatever. Even though I am guilty of it, we only show the nice parts of our lives online. When I get most stressed I step back from this blog, and you guys don't see the tears, sleepless nights, frustrating, and also kind of gross parts of being a student. So don't be fooled if Amanda from your seminar seems to have a perfect life on her Instagram, chances are she hasn't got it as together as you think, and you are no less better than anyone else in the room.

Save money anyway you can!!! I cannot stress this enough but one of the students biggest issues is spending. I'm guilty too but do your best especially in the first year to not overspend too much. Still enjoy yourself 100%, but do you really need to take out five times a week? Or the new shoes? Trust me by the time you get to your second year and your savings or your loan is gone you'll be wishing you held back a little.

If you are struggling. Talk to someone. For uni students, go to your mentor, academic lead, or look up the mental health service at your uni. Every uni (in the UK) has a mental health team. I know many of us are disillusioned with student support networks but I mean this when I say uni support systems are better funded, more rigorous and it serves them to support you. You are not just a student at the university, you are a customer paying a lot of money to be there. It's important that you are happy and you are progressing, otherwise both you and the uni lose! Don't be afraid to speak up when you need it, there will be someone there.

For UK students look up student groups for your university of Facebook. I'm being 100% serious when I say there is a gold mine of info on Facebook for unis. I never ever post on Facebook but it is so useful for staying in the know on events, stuff currently happening, and lots of student groups are pretty funny/gossipy. Some unis even have pages giving away free stuff from previous students, i.e. crockery, kitchen stuff, speakers etc. I managed to save some decent money on these groups. Also if you're into clubbing this is a pretty good way to learn where the good spots are in your city ;)

Romanticism will only go so far. Don't exhaust yourself on how you look. At the end of the day if you are getting the job done who cares if you did it hunched over a bag of cold McDonalds at 3 am? It's no better than someone with a green smoothie at a coffee shop.

I say a lot of this because my first semester was an emotional rollercoaster. During my GCSEs to A-Levels I thrived academically and then coming to Uni I felt like I was so out of my depth. And it wasn't until the second year I realised that this is, a) normal, and b) not that deep! So you scored a little low on an essay? Take the advice and work on the next one. You had some awkward conversation at a uni event? Everyone has forgotten about it already, give a different event a go. One of my favourite things about university is that it is surprisingly low consequence (in the grand scheme of things). Making mistakes won't end you it's okay. I know everyone on studyblr is a perfectionist but give yourself some leniency please. Anyway that's enough of my ranting. To be honest I expect no one to read this. But I am curious how I'll update it in a year's time once I'm going into third year.

If anyone has any questions about university my DMs are open. (I actually am now a paid guide for welcoming first years so it is literally my job lol).

[ashersbraincell]

The best piece of advice I can give you, as someone who’s done with it and deeply regrets just about everything:

Don’t sell your entire childhood for praise. Don’t waste your entire childhood chasing a dream that can throw you away the moment you’re no longer performing at your unrealistic best all of the time. You have a life, you’re not some kind of drone ffs.

And when it’s all done, will you truly be able to look back on everything and say with absolute certainty that this is what you truly desire? That this path you forged is what fulfills you?

When there’s no longer anybody there to tell you that you’ve done a good job, how will you find that validation within yourself?

[manasseh]

Studyblr, have any of you taken a long break / gap year for (medical) reasons?

I'd love to chat and hear your thoughts 🙏

I can't shake the thought of just taking a year to rest, brush up on some skills, earn some money and take care of myself, but every time I hint at the idea people tell me it's a bad idea.

For reference, I am a Game Technologies student in my second year. Passed everything from year 1 with a very pretty average. I'm in Western Europe and got very lucky with low tuition and study compensation and everything. I still need to work for living expenses.

I got clearance for a reduced study load for this block and I can drop a side-course (would have to resit next year) but I dread going through the process of asking for help or less work again next block because it takes SO much energy to ask for that it doesn't seem worth it.

[burningvelvet]

Literature major, how was that? I'm asking because it's something I'm considering going into even if it's just a minor

The study of literature is all about reading, researching, citing, analyzing, and writing. If you like doing these things then you're in luck. Whatever you do, I recommend taking classes focusing on topics you're very passionate about, with the best professors you can (who you like, who have good reviews on RateMyProfessor.com, and who ideally give you as much intellectual freedom as possible). Good luck, and thanks for the ask!

[ifindus]

wait, as a student, do you live in a dorm with someone? I am planning on studying but Idk how I am going to handle living with someone else that I don't know, at least in the beginning (ㅠ﹏ㅠ)

I don't know how it works in your country, but I don't think dorms are a thing in Norway? There is student housing though, both privately and through the university, but they are all off campus and more like flats.

I went to "high school" in the next town over, so I shared a flat with other people for two years already then; one good experience and one not so good. Throughout the years I've shared a room with another person at a folkehøyskole, then lived with my ex, then alone in an apartment, and the last year I shared a flat with some friends of mine. Most of them were very positive experiences.

The experiences definitely vary depending on who you live with, and the down-side with living with strangers is that you can be unlucky if they are very annoying/unhelpful etc. However, most people are very nice, and everyone wants to have a peaceful relationship with their flatmates. Communication is definitely a very important part of it. It does help to have your own room you can retreat to when the social battery is dead though. Most of my friends love their flatmates and living with other people. Here are some positives for you;

you will always have someone to come home to

you can save money on groceries

you don't have to go food shopping alone

you can have movie nights regularly

you have someone to play board games with

you have someone who can buy you stuff for you when you get sick

you have someone to walk to uni with

you can went to them about your classes (complaining is what brings us all together)

you have someone who can give you a toilet-roll while you are stuck on the toilet

you don't have to do all the cleaning alone

you can share common expenses (like dish soap etc.)

it's a nice way to get to know other people; your flatmates might introduce you to new friends etc.

Overall, living with strangers for some years, is a valuable experience. You will learn a lot from it and can make some really good friends in the process 💖 My advice is to be understandable to other people's situations and personalities, but at the same time set clear boundaries for yourself and communicate any issues you have ✨ and if it's the worst, at least you get some good stories to tell later

[zanderbobs]

Idk why but I wanted to make a little post of advice about uni (generally about emotional and social things) for people starting this year based almost purely on my own experiences as someone about to go into second year:

. The first few months (between September and Christmas) are probably going to be hard. Even as someone who enjoys autumn and winter, I found that the more miserable weather, darker days, and earlier nights made that first few months harder and feel slower. The only advice I can rly offer is to hold on until after Christmas, as the spring and summer term passed a lot quicker and happier for me.

. When you first arrive, I'd recommend just focusing on getting through the first few weeks, even if the way you do so is kinda silly. I generally just pretended I was on a silly school trip to get me few the freshers' week and the first week of lectures. After that you can step back and be proud and a lot more confident about making it on your own.

. Never feel bad for going home to visit your family and friends. University is a good time for some people to thrive away from their family, but that's not always the case for everyone! You're not weak for feeling homesick or wanting to see your family.

. Don't feel obligated to join any societies right off the bat. A lot of unis will recommend you try out as many things as possible, which is a great way to settle in for some, but for people like me personally, I didn't want to overwhelm myself. Take things at your own pace- societies will be willing to welcome you at any point of the year, at any point of your time at university.

. Also don't feel obligated to go out and be massively social. If first year taught me anything, it's that going on a night out is not for me. University offers plenty of opportunities and places to hang out with people aside from drinking and nights out.

. You'll find friends through all sorts of different paths: your course, your housemates, whatever societies you might wanna join etc. However I think it's also important to realise that making friends can take time, especially if you're out of your hometown for the first time. You don't have to force yourself to be friends with people just because you feel the need to do so.

. This is more of a random one, but if you do want to get a job while at uni, I'd recommend trying to get one on campus. Both student unions and university canteens, for example, often hire students. Because they're part of the university, they'll have to be considerate of the fact you're studying and be flexible, and also generally pay more than, say, a bar in the city/town centre. Student ambassadors are also paid roles but they're less reliable, as universities will only use them when they're needed (on open days etc).

[university-dayz]

study surroundings : part 1

(Part 1 of this post will be addressing what makes an effective study area. Part 2 of this post will be more focused on my personal likes and dislikes of different study spaces)

There is a specific emphasis placed on having a suitable study atmosphere. Some studies have shown that the area in which a student studies can affect their grade by as much as 25%. for For this reason, you must get it correct.

physical factors

Whether or not the study area is within your home or in a public space, three vital characteristics are needed for a study area to be efficient. it should

allow for free movement

be organised with the necessary equipment close by

comfortable enough that a student can stay in the area for long periods of time

When creating a study area within your house, one way to keep on top of the tidiness is to designate a specific area as the study area. Designating a specific area not only helps the student stay organised (as it's not an entire room) but it also helps when maintaining focus as, after some time., the brain will eventually enter a "study mode" when in that area.

when it comes to comfort, it is tempting to study in bed. where possible try to avoid this as the bed might become associated with studying and not sleep. making it harder to get an adequate amount of sleep. but, if its unavoidable there are steps you can take to avoid this connection developing

don't get under the sheets

sit in a different position to the one you sleep in

don't lie down

don't study in your pyjamas get dressed

environmental factors

personally as an individual with ADHD I have found that frequently changing my study environment helps to keep my focus more regularly

there is numerous different environments that a student could choose to study in and they fall into two categories : public and private, and they both have various levels of noise

a "public" study space refers to an area that is open to the general public and has the resources can be used outside of studying or working on assessments. an example of a well known study space is a public library. the resources in a library can be used by students, jobseekers and people looking for there next read. because its open to the public the disturbance levels may be higher than if you where studying at home

having said that not all libraries ARE open to the public. university libraries are often only open to students and, therefore resources are more specifically tailored towards the courses that the university offers. when studying in a university library I have observed that it is easier to control the noise levels around me. for instance if I'm doing group work, don't want to disturb people around me but would still like to hear what my classmates are saying, I would book a private room. but if I'm wanting to focus for a long period of time on a computer, I would go into the silent study section of the library.

in the second part of this post i will be talking about what I think the pros and cons are of the study spaces I have used during my foundation year

[todaywestudy]

things i learnt during my first term at uni

have a system to classify and organise your notes!

whether you type or handwrite your notes or write them digitally, make sure you work out a labelling system to keep all your documents in order.

i have google drive folders for every year and class and label things by week, lecture slides and notes/seminar notes/reading document/reading notes using abbreviations.

W1L1 - Pol0004 is Week 1, Lecture 1 for HSPS004 et cetera

don’t be afraid of office hours!

to me office hours seemed super scary, as with many new things at uni i didn’t know what the exact procedure would be and thus shied away at first.

the office hours i actually attended were genuinely useful and in case you also feel a bit iffy about going, i recommend sticking to a few key points to get the conversation started

1. why are you there? - easy but prepare to talk about a) the class, b) the assignment, c) the readings, d) the workload, e) the professor’s research, f) further materials, g) …

2. what help would you benefit from? - assignments, extracurriculars in a specific field, internship ideas, how to access or find out about certain services on campus, ... etc.!

TRY. don't be afraid to fail, you might even succeed.

instead of holding yourself back because you either don't like being amazing at something first try or because you are afraid people might be better than you at something and you would feel "out of place", just show up! go and try out for this really random thing, run in that election for this cool society you wanna hold a position in, go to castings and submit your writing to competitions, don't be afraid to try new stuff! i went from being afraid to participate in a selection trial to being offered a really amazing opportunity and from committing to a debate tournament (fully expecting to bomb) to actually ending up in the finale. and even when things don't go amazing and you rank last, you tried, and that's worth a win.

last but not least: give yourself breaks and don’t be afraid to ask questions!

[studyingchemeng]

that's such great advice!!!! may I add:

+++ if you qualify for financial aid (whatever that may look like) TAKE it!!!! if you qualify for it you need it!!!! you are the target group! you are not taking anyone else's place, bleed your uni dry!

++ if you don't make friends right away don't worry and don't change yourself for the sake of fitting in. I know it's cliche but I'm taking from firsthand experience.

+ also know that there are different types of friends for different kind of things. not many friendships are the "one size fits all" kind. some friends are only for study groups and getting coffee, others for traveling together or going to parties and that is ok.

advice for first year uni students from a uni senior

the roommate(s) will always be more important than the room

+ for roommates, SET. CLEANING. EXPECTATIONS. EARLY. don't wait until you're uncomfortable with how much mess is in the kitchen for you to start thinking if you should bring it up or not. set standards and make them clear.

put your key on a lanyard and hang it from your doorknob when you’re at home so you don’t forget it on the way out

if your dorm has a shared laundry room, set your timer for when your laundry finishes ~5 mins early to give you time to walk from your room to the laundry - especially during weekends/evenings/finals people wont have the patience to wait for you - even if your load just finished

If you have noodle arms like me, buy yourself one of those collapsible grocery carts you drag behind you like a luggage - best purchase i've ever made

Or if you're lazy, order online - but order on a free day because even if you schedule a time they're always gonna come stupid early and you dont want any frozen items to get spoiled or have your groceries stolen

DONT BUY ANY TEXTBOOKS/MATERIALS UNTIL THE FIRST WEEK/CLASSES ARE OVER. sometimes you’ll have early access to the booklist or syllabus and go ahead and start buying textbooks, but increasingly often you’ll buy the materials and show up to class just to find your prof has uploaded scanned copies of everything. *save your money*, wait!

BEFORE SCHOOL STARTS - look at your class schedule and walk around campus to find each classroom. you will probably get lost on day 1 and so will many other students so this will save you a lot of walking around bumping into other lost first years

trust me after a few weeks you won’t be waking up for that 8am class. i know you did it 5 days a week in high school, but there’s a reason uni students are allergic to morning classes. know your natural energy/attention levels and take advantage of the freedom to build your schedule around your energy fluctuations

compress/stack your class schedule as much as possible. if you absolutely do need breaks, make them at least 1.5-2 hours long or you probably wont get anything productive done and minimize these long breaks as much as you can so you can just get your day over with sooner

work smarter, not harder - when school starts note each course’s assessment type by quizzes/finals/essays. if i ever have a course thats just essays, i only do lecture notes + write my own annotations about readings rather than taking notes on them which saves time i can dedicate to textbook notetaking for courses with frequent quizzes + finals

if your school has benefits/discounts/insurance - know what it is and USE IT.

most clubs wont be like high school where there are regular meetings you attend. unless youre in the exec team the membership fee you pay/when you sign up for membership it’s just for access to their events when they happen. if you want to be involved in a club in a way thats as involved as high school, look at their social media pages for hiring.

+ as someone who has had to hire before - if you’re nervous, literally just do it. i was in an exec position for our student union services and once only had like 3 applicants to pick from

if you want to be noticed by a professor, sit in the front row. and always answer/ask questions - it doesn’t matter if you said anything of substance or not, they will remember that you contributed

that and also always make the point to say hello and goodbye! eventually (in my experience) if you come early enough and are just waiting for class to start, a conversation will happen - make these regular enough and you could have an important connection!

disclaimer: of course, not all of this might be something that resonates with you/possible for your course or school, so in the words of my cousin - take what resonates

+ anyone else is free to add on!!

[louisa-gc]

how to start reading again

from someone who was a voracious reader until high school and is now getting back into it in her twenties.

start with an old favourite. even though it felt a little silly, i re-read the harry potter series one christmas and it wiped away my worry that i wasn't capable of reading anymore. they are long books, but i was still able to get completely immersed and to read just as fast as i had years and years ago.

don't be afraid of "easier" books. before high school i was reading the french existentialists, but when getting back into reading, i picked up lucinda riley and sally rooney. not my favourite authors by far, but easier to read while not being totally terrible. i needed to remind myself that only choosing classics would not make me a better or smarter person. if a book requires a slower pace of reading to be understood, it's easier to just drop it, which is exactly what i wanted to avoid at first.

go for essays and short stories. no need to explain this one: the shorter the whole, the less daunting it is. i definitely avoided all books over 350 pages at first and stuck to essay collections until i suddenly devoured donna tartt's goldfinch.

remember it's okay not to finish. i was one of those people who finished every book they started, but not anymore! if i pick up a book at the library and after a few chapters realise i'd rather not read it, i just return it. (another good reason to use your local library! no money spent on books you might end up disliking.)

analyse — or don't. some people enjoy reading more when they take notes or really stop to think about the contents. for me, at first, it was more important to build the habit of reading, and the thought of analysing what i read felt daunting. once i let go of that expectation, i realised i naturally analyse and process what i read anyway.

read when you would usually use your phone. just as i did when i was a child, i try to read when eating, in the bathroom, on public transport, right before sleeping. i even read when i walk, because that's normally a time i stare at my screen anyway. those few pages you read when you brush your teeth and wait for a friend very quickly stack up.

finish the chapter. if you have time, try to finish the part you're reading before closing the book. usually i find i actually don't want to stop reading once i get to the end of a chapter — and if i do, it feels like a good place to pick up again later.

try different languages. i was quickly approaching a reading slump towards the end of my exchange year, until i realised i had only had access to books in english and that, despite my fluency, i was tired of the language. so as soon as i got back home i started picking up books in my native tongue, which made reading feel much easier and more fun again! after some nine months, i'm starting to read in english again without it feeling like a huge task.

forget what's popular. i thought social media would be a fun way to find interesting books to read, but i quickly grew frustrated after hating every single book i picked up on some influencer's recommendation. it's certainly more time-consuming to find new books on your own, but this way i don't despise every novel i pick up.

remember it isn't about quantity. the online book community's endless posts about reading 150 books each year or 6 books in a single day easily make us feel like we're slow, bad readers, but here's the thing: it does not matter at all how many books you read or what your reading pace is. we all lead different lives, just be proud of yourself for reading at all!

stop stressing about it. we all know why reading is important, and since the pandemic reading has become an even more popular hobby than it was before (which is wonderful!). however, there's no need to force yourself to be "a reader". pick up a book every now and then and keep reading if you enjoy it, but not reading regularly doesn't make you any less of a good person. i find the pressure to become "a person who reads" or to rediscover my inner bookworm only distances me from the very act of reading.

[academic-vampire]

𝔶𝔬𝔲 𝔡𝔬𝔫’𝔱 𝔥𝔞𝔳𝔢 𝔱𝔬 𝔥𝔬𝔩𝔡 𝔱𝔥𝔢 𝔴𝔥𝔬𝔩𝔢 𝔴𝔬𝔯𝔩𝔡 𝔬𝔫 𝔶𝔬𝔲𝔯 𝔰𝔥𝔬𝔲𝔩𝔡𝔢𝔯𝔰, 𝔡𝔞𝔯𝔩𝔦𝔫𝔤 🩶

[coffeeinthelibrary]

my friend was saying that they're scared of transphobic professors/students because we're going to uni next year and thus far we've been in a VERY accepting school - does anyone have any advice or resources, either on how I can support them or on how they can support themself? I honestly felt heartbroken hearing them voice this because they've got into their dream uni and it would break me if this was ruined for them by transphobia.

[zukotheartist]

Hiii :) i need a bit of help

(Ik i said i wouldnt do rant posts here but this one is also advice seeking? So we'll let it slide this time)

It's about uni and mental health and jobs, etc and just overall oversharing lmao. Feel free to skip ofc lol but if anyone has some advice/opinions to share, im all ears.

Basically, i just really don't know what to do with my life💀. I even took a gap year in between hs and uni to decide and ig it still didnt work😭.

I'm in uni studying languages (mandarin, portuguese and japanese) and the language part is going well so far, I guess? (And I do like it!). I even like a few of the other subjects (some of them i only have them for 1 semester so theyre not major subjects) but i really just cant handle it???

I wasn't happy with my choice in the sense that I think my job prospects after uni won't be great but I knew I wouldn't be able to handle anything else (im terrible at stem and most high-paying jobs require it lol + i have depressive episodes 24/7💀 and im pretty sure i have adhd*). But even picking smth i like and am not terrible at (not great at either but at least it's not math lol) im not able to handle it???

I was trying really hard at first, i didn't want to fuck this up, but the rhythm needed is just... way too much for someone who stuggled all throughout hs and has shit mental health.

I managed to work hard for a bit (studying everyday after class, doing 8hr study sessions during the weekend, revising quickly while waiting in line, etc) but then i let loose (or even went full days/weeks with minimal amount of studying) bc it was so overwhelming and now im cramming like 2/3 months worth of 3 different subjects and my exams are in Jan/Feb (the first available dates on the 10th) and ill be lucky to pass a single one of them with the speed im going at.

Even on days i get up early to study and barely even look at my phone, it's just too much stuff and im not fast enough + i lack a lot of things bc of my slacking off in hs.

I go to uni in Italy and if you fall behind u have to pay more but ig it's better than putting all this effort and most of all money to then just drop out and be left degreeless?

But I feel so freaking terrible bc i literally dont even work part-time or anything and i still live with my parents and theyre the ones paying for all of my stuff basically? So to add a higher cost bc i couldnt keep up with uni🥲 but then, if i take a part-time job, ill be making some money but uni will be going even worst and itll still be a waste of money???

I've talked to multiple therapists/psychiatrists, asking them even for LIGHT anxiety meds and *all* of them have refused (I also made it clear that I would still go to therapy even if I got meds but nothing).

Studying calms me down a bit but even tho ive started doing it daily again and for hours on end, im still akskdkdkrkr

Ill talk to my family and my therapist but i honestly dont know wtf to do with my life. Ik the whole "dont cry over spilled milk" thing but i really wish i could re-do hs to not be in this fucking mess.

It doesn't really help that my only goal in life is to make a lot of money bc i think ill be alone (both romantically and platonically) forever but with the way it's going, ill be lucky to get a minimum wage one (im not saying it as a diss, those are respectable jobs too but like i said, my only goal is to make money so i can live comfortably and distract myself from my depression lmao).

This is all very specific and i doubt anyone responds (let alone reads) but if anyone does read, tysm for reading this sad long rant🫂🫂🫂. I pretty much wont be able to see my therapist until just a bit before my exams so this was also my way to let out some frustration.

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*Ive tried to get an official diagnosis, and it's fine if im wrong ofc, but i was immediately denied and told that couldnt be it... bc of my age lmao💀

[abbyofthecosmos]

Can you help me with my personal statement?

Hey! I don't know how much help I can be but I'm happy to answer any questions :)

I made a post with personal statement tips here which you can check out if you haven't already. Good luck!

[help-im-a-gay-fish]

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Yeah, so this is lazy but just something I randomly thought about and wanted to doodle! Remembered this and thought about how they are both aro! Even though Aim is ace, too, I thought it was fun.

Creamer is just the best babysitter. XD

Aim by @zu-is-here

Creamer by me! And yes I missed his bday again