#The impact of judgment in religious communities

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Ministering with Compassion: Addressing the Harm Behind “The Church is Perfect, But the People Are Not”

The phrase “The church is perfect, but the people are not” has been a source of controversy and reflection for many of us. It raises a critical question: what does it mean to be part of a community that embodies spiritual ideals while still being made up of flawed individuals? As Latter-day Saints, we often find ourselves navigating this balance, recognizing the divine potential within the church…

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Pet Shop Boys' Impact on Queer Culture

Pet Shop Boys, the synth pop pioneer duo consisting of Neil Tennant and Chris Lowe, have long been acclaimed for their contributions to queer culture through their music. They are considered icons within the queer community since their songs often contain subtle and clear references to LGBTQ+ themes.

As a big fan of Pet Shop Boys (indeed, my pseudonym is an allusion to one of my favorite albums of them named Actually), I would like to introduce you to them by tackling this fundamental aspect of their musical identity.

Let's start with "It's a sin" and "The Sodom and Gomorrah Show", two songs that address queerness and criticize the role of religion in perpetuating homophobia.

"It's a sin" is a critique of Neil Tennant's Catholic education. It tells a real-life story based on his personal experience of queerness in a Catholic family. So, the question of authenticity is beyond doubt. The song uses religious imagery, denouncing how the church's teachings made him feel guilty and ashamed of his desires. The lyrics mirror his internal conflict between faith and sexuality : respecting his religious beliefs means betraying one's true self. They also suggest that anything pleasurable, including queerness, is labelled as sinful. The stuttering effect in the chorus in "It's a, it's a, it's a, it's a sin" amplifies through the repetitive, almost hesitant delivery, the inner struggles faced by the victims of religious condemnation for their identity. This stylistic choice reinforces the impression of a speaker being trapped in a loop of guilt and confession imposed by societal norms. In the music video directed by Derek Jarman, the characters engaging in rebellious acts against religious constraints such as tearing pages of the Bible and smashing religious statues illustrate Neil Tennant's response to stay true to himself, no matter what the church's teachings say.

"Father, forgive me I tried not to do it Turned over a new leaf Then tore right through it Whatever You taught me I didn't believe it Father, You fought me 'Cause I didn't care And I still don't understand"

The bridge highlights the pressure to resist actions deemed sinful by religious beliefs. It epitomizes, through the apostrophe to God and the metaphor of “a new leaf”, the cycle of sin and repentance Neil Tennant and many queer people are subjected to. By asking God for forgiveness, Pet Shop Boys deliver a poignant commentary on how religious teachings can induce shame and remorse, even when all they do is trying to accept the parts of their true identity.

"The Sodom and Gomorrah Show" takes a more satirical approach to critique how society often demonize and sensationalize queer lives turning them into spectacles. Indeed, the introduction describes a fictional show whose promise of "Sun, sex, sin, divine intervention", "Death and destruction" is repeated throughout the song. Presenting the story as a show insists on the absurdity of such moral condemnation. The theatrical atmosphere is used to mock how religious institutions portray queerness. The title itself refers to the biblical cities of Sodom and Gomorrah which are often mentioned in religious texts to condemn homosexuality. Hence, Pet Shop Boys defie traditional interpretations and utilize them to oppose homophobic attitudes. The lyrics underscore the importance of embracing one's true self, even if it goes against religious and societal norms, to live a fulfilling life. The message they convey is to embrace and celebrate queer identity.

Both songs challenge the negative perceptions and moral judgments on queer individuals and encourage defiance against oppressive religious narrative.

Moreover, Pet Shop Boys incorporate disco elements into their music like high-energy disco sounds, lush orchestration, celebratory lyrics, pulsing beat, and danceable, upbeat feel. Their songs "New York City Boy", "Domino Dancing" and "Always on My Mind/In My House" are perfect examples of that. The synth pop duo pays homage to disco which was historically associated with the LGBTQ+ community and alligns with its values : freedom, self-expression and rebellion against societal norms. Their use of disco music highlights their identity as artists who proudly advocate LGBTQ+ rights while making timeless pop music.

Pet Shop Boys' collaborations with queer artists show their commitment to support and celebrate them. Neil Tennant and Chris Lowe teamed up with Dusty Springfield for the hit "What Have I Done to Deserve This?", produced Boy George's song "Crying Game" and have songs featuring Elton John ("Alone Again, Naturally", "Believe / Song for Guy" and "In Private"). In 1996, they also remixed David Bowie's track "Hallo Spaceboy" adding their own disco flair and additional lyrics. The result pleased Bowie a lot, so that he invited them to perform live with him at the BRIT Awards. In their lattest album Nonetheless, "Dancing Star" is even inspired by the queer ballet legend Rudolf Nureyev.

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The new phenomenon of Young Men commenting "Fatherless behavior" and its deeply harmful roots in already well established Misogyny in Patriarchy:

Comments like "Fatherless behavior" under harmless videos of women and girls enjoying hobbies, expressing themselves, or simply existing—reflects the harmful impact of reactionary misogyny, "alpha male" ideologies, and incel/Redpill worldviews. These movements perpetuate a toxic framework that dehumanizes women and polices their behavior according to regressive gender norms. Below is a breakdown of the issue and its implications.

1. The Root of the Problem: Misogyny and Reactionary Ideologies

Incel and Redpill Ideologies: These movements claim to expose "truths" about gender, portraying women as objects to be controlled and evaluated, often through shallow metrics like appearance, modesty, or behavior. In these spaces, women's hobbies, creativity, or autonomy—such as gaming or cosplay—are mocked or policed as signs of rebellion against male dominance.

Alpha Coaches like Andrew Tate: Figures like Andrew Tate popularize the belief that women who enjoy "male" hobbies (e.g., gaming) or engage in expressive activities (e.g., cosplay) are acting out due to a lack of proper "male control." This mindset underpins comments like "Fatherless behavior," framing women’s joy as improper without a male's "stern hand."

Religious and Conservative Patriarchy: This ideology blames fathers for failing to "discipline" daughters who express themselves creatively or engage in public-facing hobbies. It promotes the idea that women must adhere to modesty, quietness, and submissiveness, invalidating pursuits like cosplay or gaming, particularly if they involve any degree of visible skin.

2. The "Fatherless Behavior" Insult

Underlying Assumption: The phrase "Fatherless behavior" implies that women and girls pursuing hobbies like cosplay or gaming, or dressing in ways deemed "immodest" (even if entirely normal within the context of the activity), lack male guidance to keep them "in line." It reduces their self-expression to a supposed failure of patriarchal control.

Targeting Visible Skin: The criticism often intensifies when women show even minimal skin in cosplay, despite such designs being common for both genders in many fantasy, anime, and gaming genres. Men portraying shirtless or hyper-muscular characters are typically praised, while women are accused of seeking attention or behaving inappropriately.

Double Standards: Men enjoying gaming, cosplaying, or self-expression face no comparable judgment. For instance, a man dressing as a heroic, scantily clad character is celebrated, while a woman in a similar outfit is condemned.

3. Emotional Impact on Women and Girls

Invalidation of Hobbies: Women in gaming communities or cosplay are often accused of "seeking attention" or "trying too hard," as if their interests are inherently performative rather than genuine. This erodes the joy of participating in these hobbies.

Policing of Bodies: In cosplay, women are disproportionately criticized for costumes that align with canonical designs or popular aesthetics, leading to shame around their bodies. Men rarely face equivalent scrutiny for costumes that show off their physiques.

Denial of Fun and Autonomy: Women playing video games, sharing clips, or streaming are accused of being "fake gamers" or "trying to impress men," stripping them of the right to enjoy gaming for its own sake. Similarly, women cosplaying popular characters are met with skepticism or outright hostility, as if their enjoyment requires external validation.

Emotional Exhaustion: Facing constant criticism for harmless behavior—like dressing as a favorite character, gaming, or posting lighthearted videos—can cause women to feel unwelcome, unsafe, and unmotivated to continue participating in these hobbies.

4. Societal Implications

Normalization of Harassment: Comments like "Fatherless behavior" create a toxic culture where women and girls expect criticism or harassment as the price of participating in public-facing hobbies. Over time, this drives women out of gaming, cosplay, and similar communities.

Enforcement of Double Standards: By perpetuating the idea that women must meet stricter behavioral and aesthetic standards, these ideologies reinforce gender inequality. Women are discouraged from engaging in activities deemed "male-dominated," narrowing their opportunities and potential.

Silencing Creativity and Joy: Young girls interested in cosplay, gaming, or other hobbies often withdraw due to fear of being sexualized, mocked, or harassed. This stifles their personal growth and self-expression, impacting their confidence and long-term development.

Encouragement of Toxic Male Behavior: These movements validate and reward men who degrade women online, creating environments hostile not only to women but to any form of inclusivity or equality.

5. Counter-Arguments to Misogynistic Narratives

Women Are Autonomous Beings: Women’s enjoyment of hobbies like cosplay or gaming is a reflection of their individuality, not a failure of male control. Policing their behavior reduces them to objects rather than recognizing them as full human beings.

Rejecting the Policing of Visible Skin: Cosplay often reflects existing character designs from games, comics, or anime. Criticizing women for accurately representing characters with revealing costumes ignores the creative and artistic skill involved in cosplay. The same criticism is rarely leveled at men.

Gaming Is for Everyone: The idea that gaming is inherently "male" is outdated and exclusionary. Women and girls enjoy gaming for the same reasons men do: challenge, storytelling, community, and fun.

Double Standards in Attention-Seeking: Men engage in cosplay or gaming for various reasons, including self-expression and visibility, without being accused of "seeking attention." Women deserve the same freedom without judgment or harassment.

6. Broader Harm to Women and Girls

Erosion of Safe Spaces: Communities like gaming or cosplay become unsafe for women when misogynistic ideologies dominate, leading to fewer women participating in these spaces and perpetuating male-dominated cultures.

Stunted Personal Development: Young girls internalizing this negativity may avoid exploring interests like gaming or cosplay, fearing judgment or harassment. This limits their opportunities to build skills, networks, and confidence.

Societal Regressiveness: The resurgence of traditional gender norms as a response to women’s growing independence harms everyone by reinforcing outdated stereotypes that limit both women and men.

Perpetuation of Misogyny Across Generations: When young boys see such comments normalized, they may adopt these harmful views, perpetuating cycles of sexism and discrimination.

7. How to Push Back Against This Harm

Challenge Sexism in Communities: Call out comments like "Fatherless behavior" as misogynistic and baseless. Explain how they undermine women’s autonomy and perpetuate double standards.

Support Women in Gaming and Cosplay: Amplify women’s voices and achievements in these spaces. Encourage their participation and highlight the skill, creativity, and passion they bring to these hobbies.

Educate About Gender Equity: Promote awareness about the harm caused by these ideologies and the value of inclusivity in all spaces, from gaming to cosplay.

Celebrate Women’s Contributions: Share examples of women thriving in gaming, cosplay, and other male-dominated areas to inspire and validate others.

Conclusion

The rise of misogynistic ideologies from incel culture, Redpill rhetoric, and figures like Andrew Tate has directly contributed to toxic commentary targeting women enjoying harmless hobbies like gaming or cosplay. Insults like "Fatherless behavior" not only perpetuate double standards but actively harm women and girls by invalidating their interests, undermining their autonomy, and creating hostile environments. Combating this requires collective effort to educate, advocate, and celebrate women’s rights to express themselves freely without fear of judgment or harassment.

[emeraldspiral]

A Christmas Carol except it's about Halloween. A Halloween Haunt.

Scrooge is a Karen who won't let her kids celebrate Halloween because she thinks it's a Satanic holiday. Won't even let them eat candy shared by their friends because "it might have poison or razor blades in it". Hates scary/violent movies unless it's The Passion of the Christ. Sneers at the immorality of women in sexy costumes and children dressed like scary murder clowns. Thinks anybody who likes anything dark, spooky, gothic, or edgier than a potato is a baby sacrificing Satanist. Repeats insane conspiracy theories unaware of their antisemitic and/or eugenicist roots. Won't allow her kids to participate in the Halloween carnival at school. Says "no" to hanging out at a friend's house because she knows they're going to watch scary movies/go to a Halloween party behind her back. Doesn't want to answer the door for trick-or-treaters so she tries to drag the kids to do something she likes that they think is boring. They fight and she threatens to ground the kids and they decide "Fuck it, go ahead and ground us, we're gonna do what we want tonight" and leave.

Karen is then visited by the ghost of her fundie mom who regrets the way she raised her and informs her that 3 spirits are going to visit her.

The Ghost of Halloween Past shows her her childhood of religious indoctrination that shamed and emotionally manipulated her into becoming the intolerant bigot she is today. She had the chance to befriend some more tolerant people and even had a romance with an atheist, but ultimately rejected them all because she was too afraid of losing connections with her family and community, and too afraid to admit that she was wrong about everything that made her morally superior, which is all her self-esteem hinges on. So she doubled-down on her religious bigotry instead.

The Ghost of Halloween Present shows her children complaining to their friends about her attitude. How her thoughtless, judgmental remarks about marginalized groups both disgust them on behalf of people they care about and make them feel personally insulted as at least one of them is a closeted queer person and at least one is neurodiverse. But more than being bigoted, Karen's own insecurities created by her upbringing lead her to constantly dismiss her children's feelings and refuse to hear anything they have to say if they don't think or feel the way she thinks they should.

The Ghost of Halloween Future shows Karen that at least one of her kids grows up to be happily married with kids eagerly preparing to celebrate Halloween, but that child has gone no-contact with her. Another one of her kids is spending Halloween in therapy discussing her unresolved resentment toward Karen because she wanted a better relationship with her, but Karen's unwillingness to listen made her feel like her feelings didn't matter and it had a lasting negative impact on her self-esteem. The Tiny Tim character in this story either died of a preventable illness because they weren't vaccinated, took their own life because of a lack of queer acceptance, or died because they had an ectopic pregnancy and couldn't get an abortion that would've saved their life, all because of people who shared Karen's beliefs and fought for those circumstances. Karen herself is also dead because she refused to wear a mask and got COVID, and spread it to others and got them killed to. Her no-contact child didn't attend the funeral and the child in therapy couldn't get through her eulogy without bringing up the stuff she resented about her. None of the kids wanted the house and all her personal effects were donated to charity because they didn't want anything with memories of her attached to it.

Karen finally realizes she's been a total bitch but wakes up from a nap to find out it's not too late to hit up Spirit of Halloween and grab some last minute costumes, decor, and candy, then rushes off to find her kids and make things right with them.

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47. Emotional Despotism: A Critical Examination of Moral Relativism and Its Consequences

“The most monstrous monster is the monster with noble feelings.” — Fyodor Dostoyevsky

In the intricate architecture of human civilization, one must ponder: what now beholds the foundation of our moral compasses? Moral frameworks, constructed meticulously through historical, religious, and philosophical lenses, stand as bastions against the chaotic tides of subjective emotion. However, as Dostoyevsky observed, "The most monstrous monster is the monster with noble feelings," highlighting the paradox that arises when emotion supersedes objective moral reasoning.

Historically, moral guidelines have emerged from a constellation of religious doctrines, philosophical insights, and cultural traditions. Yet, in our increasingly secular society, many individuals find themselves unmoored, the rigid frameworks of yesteryears eroded. This cultural shift does not merely leave a void; it creates a moral vacuum that invites a cacophony of personal feelings to dictate behavior, resulting in a chaotic moral landscape devoid of coherence.

As individuals grapple with their ethical dilemmas, they often lean heavily on their emotional responses. This reliance cultivates a fertile ground for subjective judgments, causing the individual to paint their reality through a distorted lens of personal feelings. What ensues is a permissive culture where actions are justified not by universal principles but by fleeting impressions—what might feel right in the moment often trumps what enduring wisdom dictates.

This reliance on feelings unveils a larger psychological phenomenon—one echoing throughout sociological studies and psychological evaluations. The inconsistency in moral decision-making reflects deeper biases rooted within our psyches. Cognitive dissonance emerges when personal experiences contradict established moral standards, leading individuals to twist their ethics to align with emotional truths, ultimately feeding the cacophony where every voice is considered equal, yet none lead.

In essence, the disintegration of established moral frameworks begets a society where confusion reigns. Moral decisions fluctuate dangerously from person to person, creating a chasm of ethical understanding. It becomes pertinent to emphasize the necessity of grounding ethical decision-making within stable, objective principles—otherwise, we willingly embrace the monstrous within, cloaking ourselves in the guise of noble sentiments while promoting a chaotic ethical netherworld.

The Psychology of Moral Choices

Digging deeper into the psychological underpinnings of morality, one finds an intricate web spun from the threads of emotion and intellect. The interplay between these constituents can illuminate the shadows in which moral decisions lurk. Psychopathy, often misrepresented, presents an intriguing case study in understanding moral relativism. Individuals with psychopathic tendencies often possess advanced cognitive skills but lack the emotional resonance that typically guides ethical behavior.

The clinical understanding of learned psychopathy reveals that emotional detachment can arise from environmental influences, thereby shaping one’s moral outlook. This interplay fosters a sense of disconnection from collective social frameworks that traditionally help steer ethical decision-making. When emotions are sidelined, individuals may develop a warped sense of morality, justifying actions that contradict societal norms under the banner of rational detachment—a phenomenon that translates splendidly into online behavior where anonymity permits moral transgressions.

The mere presence of social parasitism within religious communities exemplifies the subtle, yet impactful, influence of group dynamics in moral decision-making processes. Be it through spiritual manipulation or collective emotional appeals, many individuals find themselves anchored in sectarian ideologies that prey on their noble feelings. The allure of belonging often fosters a disconcerting atmosphere where personal ethical standards dissolve in favor of prevailing group sentiments, leading to collective moral relativism.

In the digital realm, this psychological dynamic plays out amplified through likes, shares, and online convictions. Individuals may engage in performative morality, aligning themselves with trending sentiments instead of cranking out nuanced thoughts. This trend reveals how emotional resonance can manipulate public perception, convincing adherents that their feelings are justified while overshadowing more profound moral considerations. Online, the engagement thrives within echo chambers where emotional affirmation becomes vital, pushing collective moral judgment further into ambiguity.

Ultimately, the ramifications of this psychological mechanism ripple through society, reminiscent of the primordial chaos that beckons to be tamed. The intertwining of emotions with moral choice emboldens a culture that often prioritizes feelings over solid ethical foundations. It is crucial to confront these underlying drivers to seek a more coherent, universal understanding of morality—a quest which, paradoxically, begins at the intersection of emotion and rationality, seeking alignment rather than discord.

The Societal Reflection of Moral Ambivalence

As moral frameworks dissolve into the ether of individual subjectivity, society at large reflects a concerning ambivalence toward ethics. The terrain of social interaction, once navigated by shared understandings and consented norms, has become fragmented under the influence of personalized moral judgments. Empirical studies suggest that this disjunction fosters a culture where empathy becomes entangled with ideological sentiments, blurring the lines of moral consideration.

The ramifications of this moral ambiguity resonate through societal structures, impacting everything from politics to interpersonal relationships. Individuals, emboldened by the potency of personal narratives, often disregard collective ethical standards in favor of their own feelings, creating a milieu where disagreements escalate into moral crises. The societal fabric frays as the perception of right and wrong becomes mired in a conundrum of diverse emotional appeals—a confounding paradox echoing Dostoyevsky’s reflection on the nature of monstrous beings.

In this context, the propagation of moral relativism becomes a double-edged sword. On one hand, the acceptance of diverse viewpoints can foster understanding; on the other, it breeds discord as individuals become tangled in webs of conflicting moral interpretations. Such variability poses significant challenges to societal cohesion and complicates the pursuit of justice, leading to an advocacy landscape marred by contradiction rather than clarity.

Moreover, when morality becomes malleable—shaped by emotional tides rather than a cohesive ethical framework—individuals inadvertently relinquish their accountability. The burden of moral choice shifts from collective responsibility to individual whims, a dangerous paradox that justifies actions by mere feelings rather than a broader ethical discourse. It is in this dissolution of responsibility that societal disarray finds its foothold, reinforcing the need for a foundational morality that transcends individualism.

Ultimately, the societal embrace of moral ambivalence invites reflection on the nature of authority and accountability. Institutions, once regarded as moral arbiters, now grapple with a populace steeped in moral subjectivity. What is needed is not merely an endorsement of diverse perspectives but a return to foundational principles that can weather the storms of emotional surges. Without this grounding, society risks succumbing to a cycle of ethical disarray—where the monstrous masquerades behind the veil of noble sentiments, and our moral compasses spin in the winds of change.

The Role of Online Narratives in Shaping Morality

The digital realm, a pulsating nexus of ideas and emotions, serves as both a mirror and a magnifier of society’s moral fabric. In this illusionary landscape, emotions dictate moral judgments with alarming fluidity, shaping ethical perspectives informed more by digital engagement than by substantive reflection. Online narratives create an environment where emotions reign supreme, devaluing the essence of reasoned argumentation in favor of impassioned affirmations.

Diverse social media platforms have become battlegrounds for moral ideologies, where the rush of likes and shares reaffirms personal biases rather than cultivating constructive dialogue. The immediacy afforded by the online world enables moral judgments to crystallize quickly—often privileging emotional resonance over critical examination. This trend illustrates the inherent risks of allowing emotional biases to govern moral decision-making in communal contexts, where individual impulses often drown out collective wisdom.

Moreover, the performative nature of online interactions exacerbates the disconnect between individual feelings and overarching moral principles. Participation in digital conversations becomes less about ethical authenticity and more about social validation, where noble sentiments are paraded as badges of honor. This phenomenon cultivates an environment of moral absolutism wrapped in emotional fervor, further complicating the path to holistic ethical considerations.

Parallel to this, the infiltration of social parasitism within online discourse elucidates how groups wield emotional narratives to shape collective morality. Convincing rhetoric preys upon noble feelings, perpetuating ideologies that often gloss over complexities for the sake of simplicity. Much like religious communities, online collectivism can subsume personal ethical standards under the guise of community, leading to a reiteration of relativism that denies the legitimacy of objective moral foundations.

As individuals navigate the intricacies of online morality, the emotional undercurrents that characterize digital interactions render broader ethical considerations obscured. With emotions wielding such immense power over moral judgments, society finds itself at a precipice—one where coherent moral frameworks risk being subsumed under waves of subjective sentiments. Recognizing and delineating these emotional influences becomes imperative for reclaiming a more steadfast approach to morality that embraces both empathy and rationality.

The Path Towards Objective Moral Reasoning

To navigate the tumultuous waters of moral choice, society must turn its focus toward the establishment of objective moral frameworks robust enough to endure the lures of emotional tyranny. The journey demands that we disentangle ourselves from the turbulent realm of subjectivity and rekindle the timeless wisdom offered by ethical traditions—blending emotional understanding with rational thought.

Intellectual endeavors in moral philosophy offer a wealth of insights ripe for exploration. Bridging ancient wisdom with modern scientific understanding gives voice to the often-ignored foundations of ethical reasoning, where principles transcend individual sentiments. By engaging with diverse philosophical discourses—virtue ethics, consequentialism, and deontological perspectives—individuals can glean valuable tools to hone their moral decision-making.

The synthesis of emotions and rationality encourages a balanced approach—one that recognizes the importance of empathy without succumbing to the whims of impermanent feelings. In fostering a moral dialogue grounded in established frameworks, individuals create spaces where ethical integrity flourishes, permitting a deeper understanding of perspectives that may differ from their own. This commitment to objective reasoning cultivates not only personal growth but societal cohesion.

Moreover, establishing collective dialogues that emphasize the ethical implications of our actions fortifies the moral fabric of communities. As we engage proactively in conversations that blend empathy with accountability, we empower individuals to confront the monstrous nature lurking beneath noble sentiments, paving the way for ethical clarity. This evolution underscores the importance of not merely reacting to emotions but critically assessing their implications for broader ethical discourse.

Ultimately, the path towards objective moral reasoning hinges on our willingness to commit to a future where ethics are not dictated solely by momentary feelings. By grounding our decisions in universal principles and nurturing the courage to engage in complex discussions, we cultivate a moral landscape resilient against the chaotic currents of subjective emotions. The respect for objective moral foundations not only emboldens individuals but rejuvenates society, steering us away from the precipice of moral ambiguity and towards a horizon illuminated by ethical clarity.

Conclusion: Navigating the Current Moral Landscape

In conclusion, the intricate interplay between emotion and morality underscores the precarious nature of ethical decision-making in the absence of established frameworks. As we have explored, the surrender to feelings as primary influencers often leads to a distorted moral compass—one that is both relative and inconsistent. The ripple effects of this reliance permeate society, sowing confusion and discord in its wake.

Recognizing the weight of历史 on our moral choices provides a crucial lens through which we can assess the importance of grounding ethical decisions in objective principles. As Dostoyevsky’s teachings echo, the most monstrous actions can masquerade under the guise of noble emotions, revealing a critical need for a rigorous and introspective moral discourse. True moral maturity lies not merely in the presence of empathy but in the manner we anchor that empathy within unyielding ethical constructs.

To forge a path toward a more coherent ethical understanding, we must collectively engage in dialogue that transcends individual emotional experiences. By championing the synthesis of emotion and rationality, we foster a society where morality is not dictated by fleeting sentiments but anchored in enduring principles that benefit both individual and communal well-being. In this pursuit, we reclaim moral clarity and dispel the shadows cast by subjective relativism, paving the way for a more just, deeply humane, and ethically well-grounded society.

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Thank you for slowly making me more okay with organized religion

I grew up (and still live )in a very religious and homophobic country where the church actively discriminates against queer people and is interfering with the government to make it hard for queer friendly laws to be passed

Your blog is really helping me be more positive towards organized religion, overcome part of my trauma and generally be more fine with religious people

Keep up the good work 👍

-M from somewhere in the Balkans

There are a lot of good things about organized religion. There's reasons it has stuck around for thousands of years, it meets some needs that humans have.

For example, there's the community aspect. You get to make connections with other worshipers, there's a sense of belonging, it can feel like this is a place that is safe. The rituals of religion provide a sense of structure, they can mark time as there are special holidays, and rituals mark important moments of life like weddings and funerals. Plus, the teachings can teach us to be more empathetic, to forgive, and can emphasize the importance of gratitude and doing what's right.

There's also problems with organized religion. For example, there's been MANY sex abuse scandals, predators take advantage of the trust that exists in these communities. The teachings may be queerphobic, misogynistic, or racist and exclude people whose life doesn't fit their ideal. Many members of religious communities can be judgmental of others and hypocritical as they don't live up to the ideals they judge others for. Organized religion can be harmful.

I try to take the best offered by my church and to limit the impact of the negative parts, however that's not easy to do

Best to you in your journey

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Exploring Neurodivergence and Spirituality: Matthew's Story, Personal Struggles, and a Journey to Inclusive Faith

Introduction: Uncovering the Intersection of Neurodivergence and Spirituality

Matthew the tax collector, as depicted in The Chosen, offers a fascinating exploration of neurodivergence within a religious context. This portrayal resonates deeply with my personal experiences of addiction, mental health struggles, and a profound spiritual transformation. My journey through religious intolerance in Calvinistic Southern Baptist churches not only exacerbated my struggles with alcoholism and depression but also highlighted the need for a more inclusive understanding of neurodivergence and spirituality. This article explores how Matthew’s neurodivergence parallels my experiences and how a recent spiritual encounter reshaped my approach to faith and healing.

Matthew’s Neurodivergence in The Chosen

A Modern Take on Autism in Ancient Times

In The Chosen, Matthew is portrayed with characteristics commonly associated with autism spectrum disorder. His intense focus on numbers, social awkwardness, and flat emotional affect reflect a neurodivergent perspective. This modern depiction provides valuable insights into how autistic traits might have manifested in Biblical, historical contexts.

Matthew’s role as a tax collector required exceptional numerical skills and meticulous attention to detail, traits often associated with neurodivergent individuals. His social difficulties and emotional detachment mirror challenges faced by many today. This nuanced portrayal offers a fresh perspective on inclusion and acceptance, challenging traditional views within religious communities.

Personal Reflection: Neurodivergence and Social Isolation

My own neurodivergent traits closely align with Matthew’s depiction. Traits such as intense focus and analytical skills have been assets in my life, but they have also led to social isolation. My deep immersion in research and learning, or my special interests, often made it challenging for others to connect with me, reflecting Matthew’s struggles in The Chosen.

For instance, my difficulty in grasping social nuances and my intense focus on specific interests often left me feeling disconnected from others. This parallels Matthew’s experiences and underscores the need for greater empathy and understanding within both religious and social environments. Have you ever felt like an outsider because of traits others couldn’t understand?

How Religious Intolerance Worsens Mental Health Challenges

The Harmful Effects of Rigid Doctrines

The intolerance I faced within Calvinistic Southern Baptist churches significantly impacted my struggles with alcoholism, addiction, depression, and anxiety. The rigid doctrines, including predestination and the concept of "the elect," created an environment of exclusion and judgment. This atmosphere not only failed to address my mental health challenges but also deepened my sense of inadequacy and isolation.

At one point during my 25 years in the church, I began to question whether I was ever "saved." Around the age of 12, many of my peers claimed to have experienced the Holy Spirit, yet I felt nothing. When I voiced my concerns to my father and the preacher, I was told I was simply "doubting" my faith. This experience left me feeling alienated and forced me to wear a mask of belief I didn't feel. Have you ever felt pressured to fit into a religious mold that didn't feel right to you?

A Personal Story of Judgment and Misunderstanding

One vivid memory from my time in the church occurred when I was volunteering at a nursing home. My flat affect led a deacon to suggest that I might be possessed by demons because he couldn’t see the "joy of the Lord" in me. This harsh judgment reflects the broader issue of religious intolerance and its impact on neurodivergent individuals. How often do neurodivergent traits go misunderstood, leading to unwarranted judgment and exclusion? Experiences like this underline the urgent need for a more compassionate and understanding approach within religious communities.

From Despair to Spiritual Awakening: A Journey of Healing

Overcoming Addiction and Finding Faith Through Grace

After a long and dark journey, I experienced a profound spiritual encounter during a meditation session that marked a turning point in my life. Despite my earlier skepticism, this experience with Jesus provided a renewed sense of hope and purpose. It challenged the dogmatic beliefs I had been taught, leading me to reconsider my approach to faith and healing. It’s clear to me that had I stayed within the confines of the churches I once knew, I would have never experienced such a transformation.

This encounter with Jesus has been life-changing, offering a new perspective on faith that emphasizes grace, acceptance, and personal connection. Unlike the rigid doctrines of my past, which I deconstructed, this renewed understanding of spirituality focuses on the unique challenges each individual faces. Has there been a moment in your life where your perception of faith was completely transformed?

Matthew’s Journey: Lessons in True Christian Compassion and Inclusion

Matthew’s Story as a Reflection of True Christian Values

Matthew’s journey from a despised tax collector to a respected disciple serves as a powerful reminder of the inclusive and compassionate nature of true Christianity. Jesus’ acceptance of Matthew, despite his marginalized status, highlights the importance of embracing diversity and recognizing the inherent value of every individual, regardless of their traits or circumstances.

The portrayal of Matthew in The Chosen reinforces this message by presenting a neurodivergent perspective that challenges traditional notions of worth and inclusion. It encourages viewers to rethink their perceptions of neurodivergent individuals and embrace a more empathetic and understanding approach to faith. How might our communities change if we approached faith and inclusion with the same compassion Jesus showed?

Conclusion: Embracing Inclusion and Compassion in Faith

The intersection of neurodivergence, religious intolerance, and personal struggle highlights the need for a more inclusive and compassionate approach to spirituality. Matthew’s portrayal in The Chosen provides valuable insights into the challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals within religious contexts, while my personal journey underscores the impact of intolerance on mental health and well-being.

By embracing the true spirit of Christianity—one that values grace, acceptance, and personal connection—we can create faith communities that support and uplift all individuals, regardless of their differences. This renewed understanding of faith offers hope and healing for those who have faced exclusion and judgment, providing a path toward redemption and recovery. How can we, as individuals and communities, work toward creating more inclusive and compassionate spaces for everyone?

Call to Action

If you’ve experienced similar struggles with neurodivergence, mental health, or religious intolerance, you're not alone. Let’s start a conversation about healing and inclusion by sharing our experiences and insights.

In hope, with Christ,

Sharing Heaven

Bible verses and definitions used in this article can be found below.

Jesus' Words on Faith, Inclusion, and Compassion: Answering Critics with Biblical Truth

1. Question: What is the greatest commandment?

Answer: "‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments." – Matthew 22:37-40

2. Question: Why should we not judge others?

Answer: "Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you." – Matthew 7:1-2

3. Question: How should we treat people who are different from us?

Answer: "In everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets." – Matthew 7:12

4. Question: What did Jesus say about religious leaders who exclude others?

Answer: "Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You shut the door of the kingdom of heaven in people's faces. You yourselves do not enter, nor will you let those enter who are trying to." – Matthew 23:13

5. Question: How should we treat people who are marginalized or different?

Answer: "Whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me." – Matthew 25:40

6. Question: What should we do when we feel burdened and weighed down?

Answer: "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls." – Matthew 11:28-29

7. Question: Is it wrong to question tradition or religious doctrine?

Answer: "Thus you nullify the word of God for the sake of your tradition. You hypocrites! Isaiah was right when he prophesied about you: ‘These people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me. They worship me in vain; their teachings are merely human rules.’" – Matthew 15:6-9

8. Question: How does Jesus offer forgiveness and acceptance?

Answer: "For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost." – Luke 19:10

9. Question: What is Jesus’ view on wealth and power?

Answer: "It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for someone who is rich to enter the kingdom of God." – Matthew 19:24

10. Question: Can we find peace and overcome fear through faith in Jesus?

Answer: "Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid." – John 14:27

The Ultimate Promise: A 100% Biblical Guarantee from the Words of Jesus

Every word spoken here is from the mouth of Jesus, the Son of God, who guarantees eternal life to those who believe in Him. His words are the foundation of truth and offer the promise of grace, peace, and inclusion to all who follow Him.

"Heaven and earth will pass away, but my words will never pass away." - Matthew 24:35

Defining Key Terms: Essential Concepts in Neurodivergence, Spirituality, and Faith

Neurodivergence: A term used to describe individuals whose neurological development and functioning are atypical, often including conditions such as autism, ADHD, dyslexia, and others. Neurodivergent individuals process information and experience the world differently from neurotypical people.

Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD): A developmental disorder that affects communication, behavior, and social interaction. Individuals with ASD may have difficulty with social cues, exhibit repetitive behaviors, and have specific interests or intense focus on certain subjects.

Religious Intolerance: The unwillingness to accept or respect beliefs, practices, or people that differ from one's own religious views. In the article's context, it refers to rigid, dogmatic beliefs that exclude or judge individuals based on their perceived adherence to religious doctrine.

Calvinism: A branch of Protestant theology associated with John Calvin that emphasizes predestination, the belief that God has already chosen who will be saved, and that human free will plays no role in salvation.

Predestination: The religious doctrine that God has already determined the fate of every individual, particularly regarding salvation and eternal life, independent of their actions or decisions.

Dogma: A set of principles or beliefs that are accepted by members of a particular group without question. In religious contexts, it refers to doctrines that are viewed as authoritative and infallible.

Deconstruction (in religious context): The process of critically examining and questioning long-held religious beliefs, doctrines, and traditions, often leading to a reassessment or rejection of previous faith practices.

Spiritual Awakening: A profound realization or experience that leads to a deeper understanding of one’s spirituality or connection to a higher power. It often involves a transformation of beliefs, emotions, and perspectives on life.

Mental Health: A person’s emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It affects how people think, feel, and act, and can be influenced by factors such as stress, trauma, or genetics.

Grace: In Christian theology, grace refers to the unearned and unconditional love and favor of God toward humans. It is often seen as the means by which people receive salvation and forgiveness.

Special Interest (Autism): A term used to describe an intense focus on a particular subject or activity, which is often a defining characteristic of individuals with autism spectrum disorder.

Exclusion: The act of intentionally or unintentionally leaving someone out or marginalizing them. In religious contexts, it can refer to individuals being alienated due to not conforming to specific beliefs or behaviors.

Empathy: The ability to understand and share the feelings of another person, often regarded as a critical component of building inclusive and supportive communities.

Faith: Trust or belief in a higher power, deity, or set of religious teachings. Faith often involves acceptance of concepts that cannot be seen or proven.

Spirituality: A broad concept that may or may not involve religion, spirituality encompasses a sense of connection to something greater than oneself, often involving a search for meaning, purpose, and peace.

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Reposting this letter written by a Canadian Professor, Lena Bykhovsky who teaches biblical studies at Carleton University in Ottawa.

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“Dear Students,

I have spent the last 25 years showing you the beauty of all of the literary, cultural, philosophical, and artistic heights of the human spirit over the course of human history. Teaching you has been the most wonderful and satisfying of callings. I never wanted to do anything other than meet with you, discuss ideas with you, discover and rediscover human insights, truths, and wonders. I never regretted my career path, never hated my job, and never doubted my legacy. I felt privileged and honoured to show you how to analyse, to think critically, to weigh evidence, and to understand people and ideas, contexts and complexity, deeply and thoroughly. I thought my work was helping to make the world a better, more humane, more thoughtful place.

You have broken my heart. No: shattered it, irreparably. I don’t know how I will ever set foot in a classroom again. I don’t know how I will ever see you the same way. I know now that I was deluding myself that I ever had any impact, would ever leave any positive legacy, that my work ever made any difference.

I watch you all on social media, in the streets and the quads, marching in solidarity with a movement that seeks only to wipe me out. To exterminate me, my children, my parents, my entire family and community. I know, some of you think you’re trying to help the oppressed. You think that my kind is the white colonialist racist kind that you hate.

But I thought I taught you how to evaluate arguments. I thought I taught you the importance of understanding context, both historical and rhetorical. I thought that I taught you that the world did not operate according to dichotomies, like black and white, oppressor and oppressed, villain and victim. I thought I taught you about complexity, about judgment, and to examine your sources and not to take anyone’s statements at face value.

Zionism is the Jewish right to self-determination in our ancestral homeland. Israel is that ancestral homeland. Jews are the indigenous peoples of that land; not the only indigenous peoples of that land, to be sure. But Israel is the only land to which we are indigenous. After 2000 years of longing, the result of the Holocaust – a Nazi movement which sought to ethnically cleanse the world of Jews by systematically exterminating us – was that the international community granted us a sliver of that ancestral homeland.

It was to be shared, partitioned into a Jewish state and an Arab state. The Arabs rejected the partition and attacked the Jews when they declared the state of Israel in 1948. The Jews won. Arabs who remained in Israel became citizens with full rights and freedoms. 20% of Israel’s population today is Arab. They fight in the army, they are doctors, lawyers, members of Parliament and supreme court judges. There is no apartheid. Israel’s Jewish population consists of Jews from Arab lands, whose parents or grandparents were kicked out when the state of Israel was formed, and of descendants of refugees from Eastern Europe, Holocaust survivors who had no homes to return to. Some are more recent refugees from Europe, Russia, and the Americas who either returned to Israel for religious reasons or because the Jew-hatred in their communities grew too excessive and they decided to emigrate, to head for the one place in the world Jews can go if their neighbours or governments turn against them.

The West Bank and Gaza strip – along with refugee camps that still exist in Lebanon, Syria, and Jordan -- were the places that the Arab nations who attacked Israel at its founding told the Arabs living in Palestine (later to be known as Palestinians) to flee. It was supposed to be temporary, because the plan was to “push the Jews into the sea.” When the plan didn’t work out, all of these states refused to absorb the Palestinians. They wanted to keep them in camps because they still planned to annihilate Israel and the Jews that lived there and then the Palestinians could return. The West Bank was in Jordan and Gaza was in Egypt until 1967, when the Arab states tried again to push the Jews into the sea. Their failure this time ended with Israel capturing these territories.

When Israel tried to exchange land for peace and give Gaza back to Egypt, Egypt didn’t want it. And so the territories remained in Israel. In 2005 Israel pulled out of Gaza and left it to govern itself. Most of the West Bank is also self-governing, but not all because of the high number of suicide bombers and other threats to Israel’s existence fomenting there, so Israel hasn’t been able to fully remove itself. The current awful Israeli government has allowed religious fanatics, “settlers,” to build settlements there, which makes everything worse.

And you see what I did there? I criticized Israel’s government. I can do that, and still support the existence of a Jewish state in our ancestral homeland.

When you say “from the river to the sea, Palestine will be free,” this is a call to ethnic cleansing of Jews from their homeland, from the only state in the entire Middle East that would look remotely familiar to you in terms of basic rights and freedoms and a democratic system if you were to visit the region. When Hamas supporters – like those who led you all in a rally on my home campus today – talk about Jews as “occupiers,” they don’t mean Gaza. They mean the whole state of Israel. They want Jews eradicated from the entire land. Hamas actually wants us gone from the whole world, as they have stated many times. Who are the Nazis now?

But here I am, teaching again. I can’t help myself. I wish that you cared what I had to say. I wish that some knowledge, some context, some understanding, could reach beyond the slogans and chants for my death that you are repeating mindlessly and endlessly as you march to the beat of hatred across the tattered remains of my broken soul.”

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I've been trying harder lately to not be paranoid and assume bad faith in others, so I have chosen to believe that people who post "eww, humans" might not consider how their sentiment impacts people who are already hurting. Frequently, I think they are posting it because of their own bad feelings and struggles, and don't think about how that would make their friends and community feel.

In fact, a lot of the "human bodies are bad" sentiment revolves around how human bodies are impractical (disabled bodies are negative), sex is nasty and genitals are weird (transitioned bodies are negative)...

So, if I may, here are things I think we need more of:

Human positivity, or at least tolerance, especially of the gross and yucky and boring parts

Furries/aliens/robots/etc who love their human partners (and the focus is NOT on how cute or sexy the nonhuman is for doing so). Relationships that are mutual and not a Connecticut Clark joke.

Humans from an alien but not negative perspective

Nonhumanity as not a better but simply alternative experience

and I guess probably this far in you're already thinking "most media is human-positive" but MCU dudes and anime boys are like pugs to me, they can't live.

Characters that live without prosthetics, or get feasible or life-impacting ones, rather than Cool Robot Parts; aesthetics (or sex factor.) should not justify or make up for a disability; a character that makes you think "gee, I wish they would cut my arm off!" is not disability representation. I have experienced people listing Junkrat as proof they could be attracted to me as a mobility aid user.

Humans will not destroy machinery, no robot uprising, but rather they maintain the mutual relationship they've always had (and less of using robots as a stand-in for autism representation. My God.)

Many human women were computers before machines were computers. I just think this is cool and not really explored :(

Top surgery scars that are not like cool perfectly-symmetrical explosions or jagged teeth. Get a tattoo if you want, but a lot of the time scars are raised and shiny, which I rarely see either.

I doubt anyone in the world enjoys their period, but they're frequently pointed to as "proof" that humans aren't worth being. If your periods make you lay down on the floor and want to kill yourself for a week, you seriously should see a doctor if you can. I didn't know until it was way too late that I had other options, because periods are too yucky to candidly discuss and no one told me it wasn't normal.

Testosterone gives you acne. Spironolactone makes you need to pee more. There's a lot of unexpected things like that, and they are not objectively gross or sexy; they're just things that happen, that deserve to be discussed.

Fursuit poodling (having uncovered skin in a partial fursuit). It's not gross, it doesn't 'break the magic'. Fursuiting is sweltering exhausting work, and real humans are inside them, and they deserve to be appreciated.

It can be really hurtful to blithely say that human genitals are disgusting, especially in front of people who may want to one day pursue affirmative surgery. If someone personally doesn't like dongs, I wish they would just say that. Jeez.

Nobody is "better" for having an aversion to human bodies for whatever reason. I understand personally that it can be isolating, especially if those reasons are trauma-related. But turning your sexual attractions into a matter of you being "better", or a clubhouse, is not really coping with it. Disgust is not a judgment of morals or quality. It's an emotion, and one that can be very hurtful to people who are already getting hurt.

Because nothing is Good or Bad. It just is what it is. Judging people's right to exist and be depicted, based on sex appeal or morality (or god forbid, purity, which I've seen more of recently, somehow completely ignoring the religious abuse connotations) is... messed up.

And to make this post not just me complaining, you can share your creations or ideas that you feel like apply, if you want :)

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Crossroads of Creed: Navigating Belief, Intuition, and the Collective Journey

I don’t know about you but I engage with various religious practices, both Western and Eastern, yet I recognize that my current beliefs have evolved significantly from the labels and identities of my youth. My guiding creed, rooted in archiac forms of Europe, are "Harm none, do as ye please," which, in beknown even to the youthful me, I've come to live out covertly and behavior wise? Definitely embraced fully after years of introspection.

This creed, that stills lives within me, represents a departure from the modernist Western influences of secular principles that co-govern my present, which can be characterized by a more prescriptive, perhaps medieval approach to morality focused on repentance and strict convictions. Principles that the much of laws were founded on here, here in the new world, such as: neutrality, scientific method, objectivity, universalism, and reason etc.

Now, as an adult, I seek to understand and account for any negative impact I may have on the world, with the aim of rectifying it through moderation and other considered principles.

Turning to America, I question what the prevailing creed and principles are apart of the great consciousness of the American people today, those that are in contemporary society. When I speak these words. Truthfully, my own values resonate with ancient European ideologies and those shaped by the powerful influences of the New World. Yet, I believe that physical geographic proximity often translates to a perceived closeness in values. Therefore, in my view, the principles that bind a community are most effectively examined through the lens of regionalism, first.

However, in my mind, there is an intuitive nature to the process of understanding a society's principles that actually begins can begin at the level of regionalism, recognizing the collective values that tie a community or a region together. From there, one can apply a reductionist approach, distilling these values down through layers of society until reaching the level of the individual. At this juncture, personal beliefs and values become distinct and one can then perceive how they align with or diverge from the broader regional or national principles. This method allows for a nuanced understanding that acknowledges the influence of both collective and personal creeds.

What are your creeds? Do you have principles too? Can you define them precisely enough for other humans to get the “gest”? Although, the world it’s harsh on those that feel truth intuitively, which isn’t in itself wrong but never can say to match the all the temporal realities, and temperament of crowds. However, hard that is, we neeeed the masses. I adhere to certain creeds and principles, which I have refined over time through personal introspection and experience. Truth in this context means guiding tenets can be articulated clearly to provide a general sense of my ethos. Which this finds relational factors, as a fact to others. Maybe, it’s not the time for it. But eventually we all relate.

However, I recognize that the world often a group who judges those who operate on intuition, as individual truths do not always align with the collective consciousness or the prevailing mood of the masses. Despite this challenge, I understand the necessity of engaging with and considering the broader community, as our social fabric is interwoven with the threads of shared human experience.

I have reached a point, in decades of being too, where I feel more established and certain in my beliefs. These beliefs, which have solidified over time, are deeply felt and are a product of both thought and emotion. I can articulate these creeds and principles with clarity, aiming for others to grasp the essence of my convictions. This solidification of belief does not come without its challenges, as the collective judgments of the world can be unforgiving to those who rely on intuition and personal truth. Yet, despite the potential for discordance with societal expectations or the collective temperament, I recognize the importance of the masses in shaping and reflecting the broader truths of our time. My beliefs, though individual, exist within the complex tapestry of communal values and the ever-evolving narrative of human society.

Maybe my self awareness is teaming up with my old age, what ever the said on my IQ, and I’m just “feeling” wrecked right now !

Maybe, but at the core of my current beliefs and the depth of my feelings lies an awareness that perhaps signifies maturity or what one might call being 'old.' This realization isn't merely about chronological age but rather about a sense of having reached a stage in life where my principles have crystallized and my understanding of myself and the world around me is more profound. This introspection brings with it a recognition of time's passage and its role in shaping my identity and convictions.

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Shincheonji's Miracle: Signing MOU with Overseas Churches After 40 Years, Reaching 1.1 Million People

Shincheonji Church of Jesus, the Temple of the Tabernacle of the Testimony, has attracted attention from both Korean and international religious communities by achieving 1.1 million members and signing MOUs (Memorandums of Understanding) with churches worldwide after 40 years since its founding.

Shincheonji announced on the 13th that they had signed MOUs with a total of 13,448 churches across 88 countries, both domestically and internationally.

By changing the church name from established Christian churches to Shincheonji Church of Jesus, the number of overseas churches alone has reached 1,535 in 44 countries.

On the 11th, in Cheongju, Chungbuk, 700 pastors attended the 'Shincheonji Bible Seminar, Testimony on the Fulfilled Realities of Revelation' for Christian ministers, which has caused a significant impact within the Christian community.

Some pastors have expressed astonishment, wondering why not only ordinary people but also Christian pastors are joining Shincheonji.

In fact, pastors who attended the Bible seminar held nationwide last year expressed that, "The revealed word that we heard here was what we couldn't hear in existing denominations, and I will recommend my fellow pastors to attend as well."

Chairman Lee Man-hee said, "I have studied the Book of Revelation more earnestly than any other scripture. And I have seen the physical fulfillment of those prophecies. One should not hastily make judgments without knowing the physical reality. What matters is whether I am in God and the Bible," he said.

He continued, addressing the pastors: "Today is the time when prophecies are being fulfilled, and the physical realities are appearing, so the Bible tells us to believe by seeing the physical realities that have appeared. Jesus said, 'Teach while doing.' Do not hastily condemn, but check and understand each verse of the Bible properly. Pastors should reflect on themselves before the Book of Revelation to avoid delivering the message incorrectly."

One pastor who attended the bible seminar that day commented, "Whenever I come to this bible seminar, there is so much to learn, and I feel ashamed as a pastor who has given shallow sermons all this while. When I listen to the word of Chairman Lee, there is a spiritual resonance, and I feel that I need to learn the basics again to renew myself and become a true pastor."

On the same day, several dozen pastors from Busan also headed to Cheongju to attend the bible seminar.

A pastor from an established church in Busan said, "This is the third time I’ve heard the word of Chairman Lee, and I am starting to understand it more. The way he continues his lecture by asking and answering questions himself is impressive, and I feel that this is a unique feature that can’t be found elsewhere."

According to the data released by Shincheonji headquarters, there are currently 779 churches in South Korea that have signed MOUs with Shincheonji Church of Jesus, and 83 churches have changed their signboards.

A more active trend is observed overseas. A total of 13,448 churches in 88 countries have signed MOUs, with around 1.1 million members.

1,535 overseas churches in 44 countries have changed their signboards to Shincheonji Church of Jesus.

For more information, please visit: https://www.youtube.com/@ShincheonjiChurch_en

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Strengthening Bonds: Effective Relationship Counselling Therapy

In today’s fast-paced world, maintaining healthy relationships can be a challenging endeavor. Relationship counselling therapy provides a safe space for couples and individuals to address conflicts, improve communication, and develop stronger emotional bonds. This type of therapy helps identify underlying issues, offers constructive solutions, and fosters understanding between partners. By creating a supportive environment, it empowers people to navigate complex emotions and situations effectively.

The Role of Cultural Sensitivity in Therapy

Cultural and religious backgrounds can significantly influence relationship dynamics. For individuals seeking therapy, finding a professional who understands these cultural nuances can make a substantial difference. For example, a muslim therapist toronto can provide tailored guidance to couples or individuals from the Muslim community. By aligning therapeutic approaches with cultural and spiritual values, therapists help their clients feel respected and understood, creating a pathway to meaningful progress.

The Impact of Behavioral Therapy on Relationships

Unhealthy behaviors and communication patterns often lie at the root of relationship challenges. behavioral therapy Calgary is designed to address these issues by helping individuals recognize and change negative behaviors. This approach focuses on understanding triggers, emotions, and thought patterns that contribute to conflicts. Therapists work collaboratively with their clients to establish healthier habits, fostering a stronger foundation for relationships.

Behavioral therapy is particularly effective for couples struggling with recurring arguments, trust issues, or emotional disconnect. It equips them with tools to navigate differences constructively and deepen their connection.

Exploring Couples Behavioral Therapy

Couples experiencing difficulties often turn to couples behavioral therapy as a way to rebuild their bond. This therapy is designed to address the unique dynamics of romantic relationships by identifying harmful patterns and fostering positive interactions. Through guided sessions, couples learn to communicate openly, resolve conflicts amicably, and express their needs without fear or judgment.

Therapists help couples develop mutual empathy and understanding, which can significantly enhance their relationship. Whether dealing with infidelity, financial stress, or emotional distance, couples behavioral therapy provides a structured approach to healing and growth.

Why Professional Guidance Matters

Seeking therapy is a courageous step toward improving one’s relationship. Professionals who specialize in relationship counselling and behavioral therapy bring valuable expertise and objectivity to the process. They offer evidence-based strategies and personalized support, ensuring that clients can achieve their goals.

Additionally, therapists who understand cultural or religious contexts, such as a Muslim therapist in Toronto, provide an inclusive and non-judgmental space. Their insights can be particularly beneficial for individuals or couples who wish to reconcile their personal values with therapeutic practices.

The Benefits of Relationship Therapy

The positive outcomes of relationship counselling therapy are manifold. Clients often report improved communication skills, better conflict resolution abilities, and a renewed sense of intimacy with their partners. For those undergoing behavioral therapy in Calgary, the benefits extend to personal growth and a deeper understanding of their own emotions.

For couples, these therapies can be transformative, helping them build a relationship rooted in trust, respect, and love. By addressing issues early and seeking professional help, individuals and couples can strengthen their bonds and create a harmonious life together.

Conclusion

Relationships are an integral part of life, but they require effort, patience, and understanding to thrive. Whether it’s through relationship counselling therapy, working with a Muslim therapist in Toronto, or engaging in couples behavioral therapy, professional guidance can pave the way to healthier connections. Therapy not only resolves conflicts but also equips individuals and couples with the tools to nurture and sustain fulfilling relationships.

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Navigating Family Dynamics and Conflicts During Funeral Planning

Planning a funeral is a deeply emotional process, often made more challenging by differing opinions and expectations within the family. Balancing the wishes of the deceased with the needs of family members can lead to tensions. This article offers practical advice to help families navigate these dynamics and plan a respectful and meaningful ceremony.

For clients seeking professional guidance in crafting personalised ceremonies, engaging a funeral celebrant Perth can ensure the service reflects the deceased’s life and values.

Common Sources of Conflict During Funeral Planning

Understanding the root causes of disputes can help families address them constructively. Below are key sources of conflict, along with expanded explanations and strategies for addressing each:

1. Differing Cultural or Religious Beliefs

Family members may hold differing views on rituals, traditions, or spiritual practices, especially in multicultural or interfaith families. For example:

One side of the family may wish to include a specific religious ceremony, while another prefers a secular approach.

Disputes can arise over burial versus cremation, or the inclusion of particular rites or prayers.

How to Address:

Identify the deceased’s preferences, if documented, and use them as a guide.

Consider blending elements of different traditions into the service to accommodate varying beliefs. For instance, a celebrant can incorporate a prayer or symbolic ritual alongside a secular reading.

Maintain open communication, allowing all family members to express their views respectfully.

2. Budgetary Concerns

Funeral costs can vary widely, and disagreements about how much to spend—or who should contribute—can create tension. This is particularly challenging when financial resources are limited, or when some family members feel excluded from decision-making.

How to Address:

Discuss the budget early in the planning process and agree on a spending limit.

Prioritise key elements of the ceremony, such as the location, celebrant, and basic services, while exploring cost-saving options (e.g., digital invitations or modest floral arrangements).

Divide costs fairly among those willing and able to contribute. Transparency about expenses can prevent misunderstandings.

3. Conflicting Memories of the Deceased’s Wishes

Family members may have different recollections of what the deceased wanted for their funeral. This can include disagreements over music, readings, the type of service, or even the location.

How to Address:

Refer to any written instructions, such as a will, funeral plan, or notes left by the deceased. If no formal plan exists, focus on shared memories and values.

Prioritise elements that most closely align with the deceased’s known personality or beliefs, even if exact preferences are unclear.

Consider allowing individual contributions, such as personalised eulogies or tributes, so everyone feels they have honoured their loved one in their own way.

4. Emotional Strain

Grief impacts individuals differently, and heightened emotions during the planning process can lead to arguments. Some family members may withdraw, while others may become overly controlling or defensive.

How to Address:

Acknowledge the emotional toll of funeral planning and encourage family members to take breaks when needed.

Create a safe space for discussions, where emotions can be expressed without judgment. A family meeting, facilitated by a neutral party, can help.

Remind everyone that grief is a shared experience and that the focus should remain on honouring the deceased, rather than personal disagreements.

5. Unclear Roles or Responsibilities

Confusion over who is responsible for making decisions or handling specific tasks can lead to frustration. Family members may feel overwhelmed if responsibilities are unevenly distributed.

How to Address:

Clearly define roles early on. For example, assign one person to coordinate with the celebrant, another to manage logistics, and someone else to handle financial arrangements.

Rotate responsibilities for smaller tasks, such as gathering photos or writing tributes, to ensure everyone contributes.

Encourage open communication, so individuals feel supported rather than burdened.

6. Disputes Over Guest Lists

Disagreements may arise over who should attend the funeral, especially in cases where the deceased had estranged relationships or large social circles.

How to Address:

Focus on including those who were closest to the deceased, prioritising immediate family and close friends.

If space or budget is limited, consider offering a livestream option for extended family or distant acquaintances.

Address estrangement issues delicately, recognising that some family members may feel strongly about certain guests being present or absent.

By recognising these common sources of conflict and addressing them proactively, families can navigate the planning process more harmoniously. Clear communication, compromise, and a focus on the deceased’s wishes can help ensure that the funeral honours their life while respecting the needs of those left behind.

Suggestions for Mediating Disputes

While a celebrant's role focuses on officiating and facilitating the ceremony, the following tips can assist families in managing conflicts during the planning process:

1. Prioritise the Deceased’s Wishes

If the deceased left instructions—such as a will or notes outlining their preferences—these should guide the decision-making process. Reminding everyone of the loved one’s wishes can help align priorities and reduce disagreements.

2. Hold Open and Respectful Discussions

Organise a family meeting to discuss arrangements calmly. Encourage each person to voice their opinions, but keep the conversation focused on honouring the deceased. Having a neutral party, such as a close family friend, to facilitate discussions can be helpful.

3. Find Creative Compromises

Incorporating diverse preferences into the ceremony is possible with flexibility. For example:

Blend cultural traditions if family members come from different backgrounds.

Allow personal tributes during the ceremony to ensure everyone feels included.

4. Focus on the Ceremony’s Purpose

Remind everyone that the primary goal is to celebrate the life of the deceased. Shifting the focus from personal differences to shared love for the departed can foster cooperation.

5. Seek Professional Support When Necessary

If conflicts escalate, consider engaging a grief counsellor or mediator who specialises in family disputes. These professionals can provide strategies for effective resolution and ensure the planning process remains constructive.

The Role of a Funeral Celebrant

While a funeral celebrant Perth does not mediate disputes, they play a vital role in helping families create a meaningful and inclusive ceremony. Their responsibilities include:

Facilitating the Ceremony: Delivering a personalised service that honours the deceased’s life and values.

Respecting Cultural and Personal Preferences: Incorporating elements that reflect the family’s wishes and traditions.

Providing Ceremony Guidance: Offering structure and ensuring all aspects of the service run smoothly.

By focusing on the ceremony itself, a celebrant allows families to come together and celebrate their loved one’s life in a way that feels authentic and respectful.

Conclusion

Funeral planning is a complex process that often brings family dynamics to the forefront. By prioritising the deceased’s wishes, maintaining open communication, and seeking creative solutions, families can minimise conflict and create a meaningful farewell.

While a funeral celebrant Perth focuses on officiating the ceremony, their expertise ensures the service reflects the values and traditions important to both the deceased and the family. With the right approach, families can navigate this emotional journey with unity and respect.

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Men’s Mental Health in African and Afro-Caribbean Communities: Breaking the Silence

Introduction

Mental health is a universal concern, yet it affects different communities in unique ways. Among African and Afro-Caribbean men, mental health challenges often go unnoticed, unaddressed, or misunderstood. Deeply rooted cultural norms, historical trauma, systemic racism, and economic disparities contribute to a mental health crisis that remains underrepresented in mainstream discussions. This article explores the complexities surrounding men’s mental health in African and Afro-Caribbean communities and highlights pathways to healing.

Understanding the Stigma

Mental health stigma in African and Afro-Caribbean communities is deeply ingrained, often tied to notions of masculinity, resilience, and cultural pride. From a young age, boys are taught to "man up," suppress emotions, and avoid vulnerability. This cultural narrative equates emotional expression with weakness, leaving many men unable or unwilling to seek help when they need it most.

Religious and spiritual beliefs also play a significant role. Mental health struggles are sometimes viewed through the lens of spiritual shortcomings or moral failings, leading individuals to seek solace in prayer rather than professional help. While faith can be a source of strength, it can also become a barrier to accessing necessary mental health resources.

The Impact of Historical and Systemic Factors

Historical injustices such as slavery, colonization, and systemic racism have left lasting scars on African and Afro-Caribbean communities. These experiences have contributed to generational trauma, which manifests as anxiety, depression, and other mental health challenges. For men, the pressure to provide for their families and shield them from discrimination adds another layer of stress.

Systemic barriers such as inadequate access to healthcare, racial bias in medical settings, and economic inequality further exacerbate the mental health crisis. African and Afro-Caribbean men are less likely to receive proper mental health diagnoses and treatments, perpetuating a cycle of untreated illness and suffering.

Mental Health Statistics

Understanding the scope of the issue requires examining key statistics:

Suicide Rates: According to studies, men are significantly more likely than women to die by suicide, and the rates are particularly high among Black men.

Depression and Anxiety: African and Afro-Caribbean men are disproportionately affected by depression and anxiety but are less likely to seek professional help.

PTSD and Trauma: Many men in these communities experience post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) due to exposure to violence, racism, or adverse childhood experiences.

These figures paint a sobering picture and underline the urgent need for culturally sensitive mental health interventions.

Cultural Barriers to Seeking Help

Several cultural factors hinder African and Afro-Caribbean men from seeking mental health support:

Fear of Judgment: Opening up about mental health struggles can lead to ostracization or ridicule within tight-knit communities.

Distrust of Institutions: Historical mistreatment and ongoing discrimination in healthcare systems breed mistrust, discouraging men from seeking professional help.

Economic Constraints: Financial barriers often make therapy and counseling inaccessible for many men in these communities.

The Role of Family and Community

Family and community play a dual role in men’s mental health. On one hand, they provide a support system that can offer comfort and understanding. On the other hand, traditional family dynamics often perpetuate harmful stereotypes about masculinity.

Community-based initiatives can bridge this gap by creating safe spaces for open dialogue. Grassroots organizations, faith leaders, and local advocates are instrumental in shifting perceptions and promoting mental health awareness.

Strategies for Breaking the Silence

Addressing men’s mental health in African and Afro-Caribbean communities requires a multi-faceted approach. Here are some strategies:

Education and Awareness:

Organize community workshops to debunk myths about mental health.

Use social media to share relatable stories and resources.

Culturally Competent Care:

Train mental health professionals to understand the cultural nuances of African and Afro-Caribbean communities.

Develop therapy models that incorporate cultural and spiritual practices.

Peer Support Groups:

Establish peer-led support groups where men can share their experiences in a judgment-free environment.

Encourage intergenerational dialogue to address generational trauma.

Mental Health Advocacy:

Advocate for policies that increase access to affordable mental health services.

Partner with employers to implement workplace mental health programs.

Role Models and Influencers:

Highlight prominent African and Afro-Caribbean men who have openly discussed their mental health journeys.

Encourage community leaders to champion mental health initiatives.

Success Stories and Progress

There are positive examples of progress in tackling the stigma surrounding mental health in African and Afro-Caribbean communities. Initiatives like Black Men Heal, Therapy for Black Men, and Afro-Caribbean Mental Health organizations are making significant strides. These programs offer free or low-cost therapy, create safe spaces, and promote mental health literacy.

Additionally, high-profile figures such as actors, athletes, and musicians have begun speaking openly about their struggles with mental health, inspiring others to seek help. This cultural shift is slowly eroding the stigma and normalizing conversations about mental health.

The Importance of Intersectionality

Addressing men’s mental health requires an intersectional approach that considers factors such as age, sexual orientation, and socioeconomic status. For example:

Young Men: Schools and youth programs must include mental health education to equip young men with coping skills.

LGBTQ+ Men: LGBTQ+ individuals in African and Afro-Caribbean communities face unique challenges, including rejection and discrimination.

Low-Income Men: Economic hardships exacerbate mental health struggles, necessitating affordable and accessible resources.

Moving Forward

Breaking the silence around men’s mental health in African and Afro-Caribbean communities is a collective responsibility. By fostering open conversations, challenging harmful stereotypes, and advocating for systemic change, we can create a future where mental health is prioritized and accessible to all.

Conclusion

The journey toward mental health equity for African and Afro-Caribbean men is long but necessary. By addressing stigma, increasing access to culturally sensitive care, and building supportive communities, we can empower men to take control of their mental well-being. It’s time to break the silence, challenge the norms, and create a culture where seeking help is seen as a strength, not a weakness.

Works Cited: “Men's Mental Health and Africa” prompt, ChatGPT, 20 July version, Open AI, 20 July 2023, http://chat.openai.com/chat

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CJ court watch - 1st Amendment freedom of association

2d Circuit Court of Appeals ruled in favor of in CompassCare v. Hochul, No. 22-951-cv on 2jan25. CompasCare is overtly Christian,

“a pregnancy care center” that “provides clinical pregnancy testing to confirm the existence of pregnancy; ultrasound exams; gestational age determinations; complete pregnancy, abortion, and adoption options consultations; STD testing and treatment; abortion pill reversal services; and medical, insurance, and community support referrals.”

New York passed a statute taking direct aim a religious organizations, N.Y. Lab. Law §203-e. The law forbids employers from considering an employee's "reproductive health decision making." The Christian organizations sued alleging violation of their 1st Amendment freedom of association. The District Court granted judgment against the Christians, but the appellate court held

The Supreme Court has made clear that the right to engage in activities protected by the First Amendment includes an implicit “right to associate with others in pursuit of a wide variety of political, social, economic, educational, religious, and cultural ends.” Roberts v. U.S. Jaycees, 468 U.S. 609, 622 (1984). This implied freedom of association “plainly presupposes a freedom not to associate.” Id. at 623. The Supreme Court has held that this “freedom not to associate” permits a voluntary association, in some circumstances, to exclude or expel a member it does not desire, even when doing so runs afoul of a law prohibiting discrimination based on a protected characteristic. See Boy Scouts of Am. v. Dale, 530 U.S. 640, 648, 653 (2000).***

For an employer to make the showing required ***, it must show that the Act threatens its very mission not only in a vague and generalized sense, but in the context of a specific employment decision. See Dale, 530 U.S. at 653. This would presumably require assessment of (1) the responsibilities of the position at issue, including whether it is client-facing and whether it involves expressly or implicitly speaking for the organization, and (2) the particular conduct or attribute of the employee that renders the employment of that person, in that position, a threat to the employer’s mission.8 In short, an employer must plausibly allege that the Act’s impact on the specific employment decision “will impede the organization’s ability to engage in . . . protected activities or to disseminate its preferred views.” Jaycees, 468 U.S. at 627.***

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Rebuilding Self-Confidence and Healing Religious Trauma with Professional Therapy

In today’s fast-paced world, mental health challenges can often feel overwhelming. Issues such as low self-confidence and the emotional scars of religious trauma are not uncommon, and they require compassionate, tailored care to address. For residents of Texas and California, seeking therapy to overcome these hurdles can be life-changing. Working with a Therapist For Self-Confidence Texas or a religious trauma therapist in California offers an opportunity to rebuild trust, regain inner strength, and move forward toward a fulfilling life.

Understanding Self-Confidence Challenges

Self-confidence impacts every facet of our lives. Whether it’s excelling in a career, building personal relationships, or simply feeling good about oneself, confidence is a critical foundation. However, life events, societal pressures, or chronic self-doubt can chip away at this vital trait. A therapist specializing in self-confidence helps clients explore the underlying causes of their insecurities, from childhood experiences to ongoing stressors. By addressing these root issues, therapy provides a pathway to lasting change.

In Texas, where diverse communities and cultures converge, individuals may face unique societal pressures. These can include career competition, familial expectations, or navigating a constantly evolving social landscape. A dedicated therapist for self-confidence in Texas can offer personalized strategies to overcome these challenges, fostering resilience and a renewed sense of self-worth.

Addressing Religious Trauma

Religious trauma is a deeply personal and often complex issue. It arises from negative experiences within a religious or spiritual framework, such as judgment, fear, or manipulation. These experiences can leave lasting scars, impacting mental health and one’s sense of identity. A religious trauma therapist in California provides a safe space for clients to process these experiences and develop a healthier relationship with their spirituality—or find peace in moving away from it altogether.

California’s rich diversity in faith and spiritual practices can sometimes intensify feelings of exclusion or misunderstanding for those dealing with religious trauma. The role of a therapist is to validate these experiences, help clients uncover their personal truths, and develop coping mechanisms for a more balanced and empowered life. This process often involves redefining boundaries, reclaiming personal agency, and fostering self-compassion.

The Healing Journey with Oubaitori Psychotherapy

Therapeutic success often hinges on finding the right support. At Oubaitori Psychotherapy, clients in Texas and California have access to highly skilled therapists specializing in these areas of mental health. Whether working with a therapist for self-confidence in Texas or a Religious Trauma Therapist California, individuals receive personalized care designed to address their unique challenges and goals.

The approach is holistic and client-centered. Therapists prioritize creating a non-judgmental, empathetic environment where individuals feel heard and understood. Techniques may include cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), mindfulness practices, and other evidence-based interventions tailored to each client’s needs.

Steps to Take Toward Wellness

Embarking on a therapeutic journey can feel daunting, but it’s also a profound act of self-care. Here are some initial steps to begin:

Acknowledge Your Needs: Recognizing that you’re struggling with self-confidence or religious trauma is the first step. Give yourself permission to seek help.

Find the Right Therapist: Search for a specialist in your area who resonates with your specific concerns. Oubaitori Psychotherapy offers expert care for individuals in Texas and California.

Commit to the Process: Therapy is a journey, not a quick fix. Consistency and openness will yield the best results.

Build a Support System: Surround yourself with understanding friends and family who can support your growth.