#Stereotyping hurts everyone

[trekkitkat]

Not stereotyping people includes men too

In a world where stereotyping people because of their colour/race/religion/gender is rightly frowned upon, the "all men" bullshit needs to end.

It is plain stereotyping, passing judgment on a whole section of society because of the category they were born in. If you would not judge someone by their sexuality, by their nationality, if you would not judge a woman just because she's a woman, you should not be against men just for being male.

And notice how when women comment that's it's not all men, and talk about their positive experiences with men, the radfems shoot them down with vengeance. Why? Because their challenging the spew that all "men are monsters" and pointing out that the world is not so black and white. Like every social category in the world, some people will be good and just and kind and some people will be cruel and hateful. But it has nothing to do with their social categories and everything to do with the individual and the choices in life they make.

Now, from my personal experience, I have experienced some bad ones. I've had the creepy guy sneaking into the girls shower at high school, the perves in the bar, the guy who broke all professional protocol to get my phone number and made me feel unsafe. There's a list. But I also know my step-father, who I trust with my life, the men in my extended family, my male friends, classmates, coworkers. I remember being 18 and traveling alone with my male supervisor to work on isolated sites in the hills and later going into the scrubland with four male colleagues, and they behaved with complete respect and professionalism, they treated me with complete equality, as a fellow colleague.

So no, I will never let the "all men" argument slide, because lumping the good people in the world in the same pot with the bad ones is always harmful. It fosters hate and division. We are supposed to be becoming an enlightened, rational, equal society.

[here-comes-the-moose]

*in the Rebellion inside Echo’s minivan ship*

Rebel, showing Echo some photos: Yeah these are my kids. A boy and a girl. I do this all for them. How many do you have?

Echo: I have five.

Rebel: Aw you must have your hands full! How old are they?

Echo: Four are 312 months and the youngest is 156 months.

Rebel: …

Echo: …

Rebel, trying to do the math: How old did you say you were again?

[slyandthefamilybook]

I've been seeing Fran Drescher get a lot of (well-deserved) love for The Nanny lately, as the show has been having a bit of a fan resurgence on tumblr. So I decided to read up a bit on it and found something that didn't shock me so much as disgust me

Fran Drescher is, obviously, extrenely Jewish, and so is the character Fran Fine. It's one of the things I love about her; her unapologetic nature and her pride in her Jewish identity. But apparently not everyone felt the same way

[myokk]

1) this might be the MOST embarrassing thing I post here ever…I was TRYING to escanciar bien but 😳…I SWEAR I DID A GOOD JOB UNTIL MY BF FILMED ME😭😭 pouring cider like this is a lot of fun and traditional to where I live🥰 (also you can hear the traditional bagpipes in the background😆)

traditional asturian cider (sidra asturiana) is VERY dry…not sweet at all, and it’s poured like this to aerate it. You have to pour in very small amounts and then drink it super fast before the carbonation leaves. There are special lids etx that you can put on the bottle though so that it pours a lot more easily and you don’t end up spilling all of it like I did😭😆

ANYWAYS every year my city does the cider festival…and we try to break the world record for the most people pouring cider at the same time. We didn’t get it this year😔🙏 but two years ago we did!! It started raining a little bit an hour before we were supposed to do it & lots of people bailed🙄 it rains every day here…what did they expect…

2) the sunrises lately have been so beautiful!!!💓

3) the gremlins👹

4) some of my “normal” art…I don’t really post it here but I like how this one turned out a lot💓

[acourtofquestions]

Point Dorian Havilliard for breaking the YA stereotype “male claim” and ACTUALLY letting her go LITERALLY this line: “He would move on. Because he would not be like the ancient kings in the song and keep her for himself. She deserved a loyal, brave knight who saw her for what she was and did not fear her. And he deserved someone who would look at him like that, even if the love wouldn't be the same, even if the girl wouldn't be her. So Dorian closed his eyes, and took another long breath. And when he opened his eyes, he let her go.”

[ilianitta]

oliver stark saying biphobic shit wasn't on my bingo card. what the hell

[cinnamolore]

my hill to die on and rock to throw is truly the mischaracterization in shipfic for haikaveh and ratiorine, SPECIFICALLY for between kaveh and aventurine

[curiouschaosstarlight]

Oh boy it sure is nice not being alloromantic/allosexual enough to be "normal" but also not aromantic/asexual enough to be a good aromantic/aspec person (:

Sure is nice to finally have a community I totally fit into, everyone is SO welcoming

[heylinfanclub]

Every time I see fictional enactments of people having mental breakdowns I’m like. ‘Is it not normal to do that like three times a week’. I’m going to have. Such major heart problems. My whole life. I just know it.

The swinging between hysterical, sad and mad? The eyes wide rolling around in my damn skull? The struggle to breathe and not choke on your own spit? The sensation that you might just lash out at anyone or anything that gets too close? The existential hysteria questioning YOUR VERY EXISTENCE AND THE EXISTENCE OF CAUSALITY AND WHY THINGS ARE THE WAY THEY ARE AND COULD THEY NOT BE AND COULD SOMEONE JUST TAKE ME AWAY TAKE ME AWAY.

It’s that last part especially. When you start getting. So. In your god damn feels. YOURE BEGGING THE UNIVERSE FOR REPRIEVE ON REPEAT AS YOU SWAY BACK N FORTH LIKE YOURE HAVING THE WORST TRIP IMAGINABLE TRYING TO CONTACT GOD. HELP ME. HELP ME. HELP ME. HELP ME. KILL ME. RUN OVER MY HEAD. NEVER WAKE ME. SEND ME TO HELL ILL PAY FOR MY SINS NOW PLEASE PLEEAASSE ANYTHING BUT A MOMENTS MORE OF TORMENT. that kinda. Shit.

Every day people look at me and tell me I’m fine. I’m smart I’m practical I’m insightful I’m hanging on I’m resourceful I seem GREAT. Hell. My problems aren’t even that bad from their perspective (and maybe they’re right!)

I want to kill them every time and maybe one day I’ll smack someone across the face. Maybe break my knuckles smashing their nose into their brain. I think. I deserve it.

ANYWAY. had another lapse of mental angst because I cannot prioritize without a helper and that means I’m drowning in an infinitely vast array priorities, and should I spare one even a second of my attention, my anxiety comes running at me with a machete to ritually slaughter me for thinking for a second THAT was my highest priority.

I just want. To live. But I cannot. Because my brain doesn’t know what’s important. Except for. Being In a Domestic Cow Like State of UNTHINKING. and it makes me wanna explode my surroundings with my mind.

I’m getting a headache from being stuck in executive dysfunction too long and I donttt liikkeee iittttt.

LIKE. I WAS SUPPOSED TO BE HAVIN A GOOD ONE. I was supposed to be feelin a GOOD EMOTION SPARKED. INSPIRATION. INSPIRATION FOR MY DESIRE TO WRITE A STORY. But instead. I was smacked with that reminder that. I don’t choose what’s important and what needs to be done and if I do it. I don’t get to choose. So why both having dreams? Why bother having wants? Wishes? Why bother? (It would matter more if I had a community that HELPS ME and maybe I have a community that PROTECTS me but that’s. Not the same. I feel so fuckin brainless. My thoughts bounce in every direction but go Nowhere. They loop back on themselves and fight each other like rabid animals. I don’t know how I’m supposed to live with a brain like this. Forever. Happily. Not without reliable support. Which doesn’t exist. There is no such thing as reliable. Everything is temporary. So it’s always fINE THEN you have to FIND A WAY TO COPE. ALONE? FOREVER? It’s bullshit. I hate this shit. Ahhhhh.

I wanted to think Ooo Ahh inspiration for a story I want to write so bad.

But it just went ‘when. When will you write. How. Will you be afloat. Will it distract you. Distract you from friends from life from stability? You can’t even take care of yourself you don’t deserve to do anything until you can take care of yourself and function with others and *you have so many other higher priorities that will kill you if you do not attend to them first*’

Weeps

THERAPIST SAID I DIDNT HAVE OCD. NOT EVEN PURE O. AND MAYBE SHE RIGHT. I CAN STOP THINKING ABOUT IT. IF PUSHED IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION. WHICH IM NEVER. BECAUSE IM ALONE. AND THAT MEANS I END UP RUMINATING TIL I HAVE HEART AND STOMACH PAINS. AHHHHHHH.

Awoooo

Awoooo

I hate it

[tyrannuspitch]

barbie discourse is sooo silly gerwig made barbieland a matriarchy and everyone was like "girlboss time! power fantasy with no consequences please!" and then the actual film came out and it was like "okay well maybe matriarchy wouldn't fix everything actually" (bare basic understanding of humanity) and people are calling that "anti-feminist" for "focusing too much on the kens" when it was actually pretty well balanced and, again, the kens were literally the original marginalised gender in barbieland. and people are saying we shouldn't care, Because They're Men. "umm what do you MEAN just flipping the genders in m/patriarchy isn't the answer... what do you MEAN i have to care about other people..." YOU ARE KEN. You Are Ken

[3amclothesmonster]

Vent(?) TW: Mentions of WW||

How someone I knew expected me to react to them calling me a Nazi after only saying I'm German:

[elliesbelle]

belle this is so sad :(

WHO MADE YOU FEEL LIKE THAT NOW-

oh we already know, c’mon now

[rain-after-thunder]

Just watched the Barbie Movie,

10/10 The Most Movie Of All Time

No notes (but she did, in fact have a lot of notes-> tags)

[justsayinghey-o]

Remembered I drew this sometime last year. I have very little patience for casual misandry. I will forever unapologetically love and appreciate men.

[skaluli]

skaluli throws up the artwork

[idk-my-aesthetic]

Been trying to do this with like the YouTube videos I’m making. It’s absolutely terrifying and absolutely worth it. I’m very much someone who would be considered cringe in basically every way so making YouTube vids where I get excited about things i like or play Minecraft is scary as all hell but it’s also fun. I’m developing lore for my little Minecraft guy. Sincerity is terrifying something something the horrifying ideal of being known, but even with the terror and the mean people it’s worth it. Sometimes you just have to let yourself be publicly mocked to be yourself and be happy

i'm founding a new school of media criticism which i've decided to call Bitism. the Bitist school of literary analysis asks a simple question: is this work committed to the bit?

you see, any work of fiction is either committed to the bit or it's not. the worst thing a piece of media can be is ashamed of its own premise, of the genre it in habits, of the tropes and aesthetics we expect from it. to be committed to the bit does not inherently make it good, but it makes it more worthy of respect than those which are not.

also, that's not to say that a story cannot parody or criticize the genre it inhabits or mimics. we can discuss the bit, we can deconstruct the bit, we can ask ourselves whether or not it's a good bit, but to commit to it first will strengthen these discussions, not detract from them. commitment to the bit is, after all, the first step to genuine sincerity. and sincerity will exalt and elevate parody such that it can stand on its own feet.

commitment to the bit turns melodrama into camp, elevates parody to biting commentary, and allows cringe to open up into a resonant, if unpolished, expression of true emotion.

fully expect bitism to take the literary world by storm sometime in the next few years.