#Selfdiscovery

[moonshadowmystique]

The Right Person at the Wrong Time - A Reflection on Timing and Connection

All our lives, we have heard stories that involve the right person turning up at the wrong time. This concept is jarringly alarming because it layer-peels the facade of finding the right individual in regard to love, connection, or relationship. This indicates, if explained better, that two people fitting for each other might fail to emerge when the various elements of life are against their coming together.

What does it even mean to meet the right person at the wrong time?

The Complexity in Timing

Timing is an invisible force that shapes the connections we make, often in ways of which we are barely aware. You might meet your dream person, that person who checks all the boxes or sees the world through a filter instituted by your soul. But with you not being emotionally available, probably still recovering from injuries of the past, or perhaps in the middle of some personal crisis, such connection might just not blossom. On the other hand, it could be them who is dealing with troubles at this stage, which means they cannot also be fully present.

This is extra challenging because, by nature of things, there is tension between what we feel and what reality presents. There is almost something tragic in the beauty of having found someone incredible but at the wrong time. You're forced, then, to think that love and connection are about more than logical matches, but two lives crossing at a certain point where access and readiness are aligned.

The 'What If' Paradox

That is the question that will haunt when the right person shows up at the wrong time: What if things were different? It's such a haunting thought, and then you are left to wonder how, in some other world, maybe it would have worked between the two of you. You have a vision of how this might have been the case with another chapter of your life. You could run yourself into sleepless nights with 'what ifs' and yearn for something that may never be resolved.

But harboring such questions in one's mind forever would render living in the present light of day an impossibility. It is very human to reflect on the paths not taken, but living in the country of 'what ifs' blinds you to the new opportunities staring you in the face.

Growth, Timing, and Readiness

It might be that meeting the right person at the wrong time sometimes serves a great purpose. Sometimes such experiences will teach us more about ourselves, or perhaps are a reflection of where we need to grow or what we need to let go of to be truly ready for a meaningful connection in the future. Other times, the person you meet is but a mirror reflecting the work yet to be done on yourself.

That person may remind you that deep love is deserved by you, even if at the time that is not fated to be with them. They may provide a catalyzing agent that impels you to align your life through means that serve to better prepare you in the future for a relationship be it with them or someone else.

Embracing Imperfection

One of the most painful things we may learn is that imperfection meets us around every corner in life, and love is no different. Yes, even when we think we have found that person who fits every category on our ostensibly perfect list, it's not as if the universe necessarily plays a role in ensuring that all that lines up. That's just part of the mystery—and frustration—of being human.

But perhaps, other than cruel fate, that is the profound message: love is not about everything working out perfectly. It means the understanding that connections, no matter the depth, sometimes do not come out with fairy tales. It is about embracing the will-o'-the-wisps, beautiful moments for what they are and not necessarily needing them to last.

Moving Forward with Ease

So, what happens when you are in this situation? There isn't some simple answer to this proposition, nor is a one-size-fits-all solution for anything. Some can hold onto the hope that one day, in the future, the timing shall be right and the stars align. While others let go, realizing that even while a connection was powerful, yet it simply wasn't meant to be a permanent fixture in our lives.

Both are correct. The key is to move with elegance. Life, with all the moments of its unpredictability, is a journey that's really full of twists and turns. That person at the wrong time could have been one chapter in your story, but it need not define the whole narrative. Every experience in life adds to your growth, even the bittersweet ones.

Ultimately, the concept of meeting the right person at the wrong time invites us to consider what love, timing, and self-awareness are all about. It reminds us that not everything is about chemistry but about being prepared—about two people meeting at the crossroads of their journeys in life, ready to take that step together. And sometimes, such journeys are meant to meet only briefly, leaving an indelible mark but no permanent union. In those moments, we can only respectfully acknowledge the bond for what it was and know that each interaction—every human contact—is a part of our development and continues to shape us into who we are and who we will become.

[little-tiffany]

Maybe the journey isn't so much about becoming anything. Maybe it's about un-becoming everything that isn't really you.

-Paul Coelho

[caesarandthecity]

The Date Game: Olympic Sport or Minefield?

Dating, darling, is it an art or a game? And if it's a game, shouldn't it be an Olympic sport? Just picture it: all the guys I've dated, competing for the gold medal in... well, we'll get to that. But first, let's talk about the rules (or lack thereof).

Every game has rules, right? They make things more fun, more challenging, and help you understand the goal. But dating, my sweet summer children, has ZERO rules. It's like being dropped in the middle of the ocean with a blindfold and a paddleboard.

I have yet to receive a rulebook for the GAME, the game of love. (Is that even what we're playing?)

I don't know about you, but I don't think people go on dates to find love. In my experience, it's more about finding someone who isn't a total nutjob, a psycho, or a cheater (that last one is harder to spot than a fake Rolex).

Gay dating, in particular, is two guys trying to out-impress each other with the same, tired lies. During the date, everyone's Mr. Perfect: zero baggage, amazing exes, no drug problems, mental health? Aced it! Workaholic, but with a heart of gold. It all sounds too good to be true... and honey, it usually is.

Social media is partly to blame. We're all curating our "perfect" lives online, and some people are taking that facade offline. I've met guys who are living their Instagram fantasy IRL, and let me tell you, it's exhausting.

But that's not even the worst part. The thing that really gets me is that dating feels like a never-ending job interview. Think about it:

I apply for the job: Based on my carefully curated profile pics and witty bio.

I'm randomly selected for an interview: If my pics are cute enough and my bio doesn't sound like a serial killer's manifesto.

I go to the interview: AKA the date, where I put on my best performance and hope they don't notice I'm wearing Spanx.

Now, here's where it gets different: If I don't get the job, I'm still open to a little "consolation prize" (if you catch my drift). In the real world, you don't sleep with your HR manager after a failed interview. But in the dating game? Anything goes.

So yes, I downloaded Tinder, took some flattering selfies, and crafted a bio that would make Shakespeare jealous. And you know what? It's been... interesting. Expect a full report in my next post, including tales of awkward Grindr encounters, unexpected hookups, and maybe even a happy ending (or two).

Ps. We're in 2024—can we normalize sex on the first date (or soon after)? Why is this still taboo? Sex is important in any relationship, romantic or otherwise, and it's weird that we don't talk about it more openly. Let's be real, we need to talk about sex, learn about it, and teach it without shame or judgment. This starts with looking inward and seeing our lives (and desires) with fresh eyes. Sex isn't dirty or ugly; it's a natural form of energy and connection. I want to know if the person I'm dating matches my energy in all ways, including sexually. 

Stay tuned, my loves! And remember, always swipe right for yourself first.

Cheers,

Caesar

[girltalkcollectives]

Solo Dating: Why Taking Myself Out Changed Everything

Remember that restaurant you've been dying to try? The one with the cute fairy lights and the pasta that looks amazing? Yeah, I finally went there last week. By myself. On purpose.

Listen, I know what you're thinking – because I used to think it too. "That's kind of sad." "People will stare." "Only lonely people eat alone." But can we talk about how weird it is that we've been conditioned to think we need someone else to do the things we want to do?

It started with a cancelled brunch plan. My friend had a last-minute emergency, and there I was, all dressed up with nowhere to go. I stood in my room, staring at my outfit that I'd spent way too long picking out, and thought: Why can't I just go anyway?

So I did.

I walked into that restaurant, asked for a table for one, and ordered exactly what I wanted (yes, including both the french toast AND the eggs benedict – no sharing required!). At first, I felt like everyone was watching me (spoiler alert: they weren't). I awkwardly played with my phone, pretending to look busy. But then something magical happened – I actually started enjoying myself.

There was something incredibly liberating about sitting there, taking up space, not having to make conversation or worry about anyone else's preferences. I could eat at my own pace, think my own thoughts, and just... be.

Since then, I've been on quite a few solo dates with myself. Some highlights:

A morning at the art gallery where I spent 30 minutes staring at one painting because I felt like it

A sunset picnic in the park with my favorite book

A spontaneous movie showing (and yes, I got the popcorn all to myself)

Window shopping without feeling rushed

A fancy coffee shop where I journaled for hours

Here's what I've learned about dating myself:

1. It's helped me get comfortable with my own company

2. I've discovered what I actually like, not what I pretend to like for others

3. My self-confidence has skyrocketed

4. I've become more spontaneous

5. The voice in my head has become a much better friend

And can we talk about how empowering it is to take yourself out? There's something about saying "Table for one, please" without flinching that makes you feel like you can conquer the world.

Of course, some people still don't get it. My mom thinks I'm "giving up on finding someone" (Mom, that's not how this works), and I still get the occasional pitying look from servers. But honestly? Their discomfort is not my problem.

The plot twist? Dating myself has actually made me better company for others. When you're comfortable being alone, you stop depending on other people for your happiness. You start choosing to spend time with people because you want to, not because you're afraid of being by yourself.

To anyone thinking about trying it:

Start small (coffee shops are great for solo dates)

Bring a book or journal if you want a security blanket

Choose off-peak times if you're nervous

Dress in whatever makes you feel confident

Remember: you're not alone, you're taking yourself out

The truth is, learning to enjoy your own company is a superpower. It's not about being antisocial or giving up on relationships – it's about building the most important relationship you'll ever have: the one with yourself.

So here's my challenge to you: Take yourself on a date this week. Go somewhere you've always wanted to go. Order what you actually want. Stay as long as you like. You might just fall in love – with your own company.

[zibethrose]

It's time to remove the

splinters of past hurts.

Let go so healing can begin,

No waiting for better days.

Live fully in the here and now,

Strong in contentment,

No thought of envy nor arrogance,

No regrets.

Do this to stay in sync with the

sacred

and bloom into fullness.

Be authentic. Do not mask yourself to become acceptable to others. Be expansive, do not shrink yourself to fit into another's expectations. Be you, your uniquely wonderful self. Recognize that Love begins where judgement ends. Be there for others but never leave yourself behind… learn to embrace and know yourself through your heart. Your heart knows that Everything begins and ends with love. Love is the whole, the all that is. Know that love is our essence. 

You can either activate thoughts that produce stress within you or activate thoughts that make stress impossible. It’s your choice. Change your mindset.

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[sappy-witch]

🗓️ Organizing Your Witchy Rituals 🌙✨

Hello darlings 🥰

It is easy to feel overwhelmed by all the witchy things you’d like to do, so creating a schedule for your witchy rituals can bring structure and balance to your practice. Here's a suggested weekly timetable to inspire you:

🌕 Monday: Moon Magic On Mondays, align your practice with the energy of the moon. Perform rituals for manifestation, divination, or connecting with your intuition. Charge and cleanse your crystals under the moonlight.

🌿 Tuesday: Herb and Plant Magic Dedicate Tuesdays to working with herbs and plants. This can involve creating herbal remedies, growing your magical herb garden, or connecting with the spirit of plants through meditation and nature walks.

🔥 Wednesday: Elemental Magic Explore the power of the elements on Wednesdays. Work with fire for transformation, air for communication and clarity, water for emotions and intuition, and earth for grounding and stability. Incorporate rituals that honor and connect with each element.

🔮 Thursday: Divination and Spellcasting On Thursdays, focus on divination and spellcasting. Use tarot cards, oracle decks, or other divination tools to gain insight and guidance. Perform spellwork to manifest your desires and bring positive change into your life.

✨ Friday: Self-Care and Enchantment Fridays are dedicated to self-care and enchantment. Take time to pamper yourself with magical baths, create sacred spaces, or explore beauty rituals that enhance your inner and outer radiance. Practice self-love and self-empowerment spells.

🌟 Saturday: Spirituality and Connection Saturdays are perfect for deepening your spiritual practice and connecting with the divine. Engage in meditation, explore different spiritual traditions, work on your energy healing techniques, or perform rituals to connect with your spirit guides or ancestors.

📚 Sunday: Study and Reflection Use Sundays for studying and reflecting on your magical path. Dive into books, online resources, or courses that expand your knowledge of witchcraft, spirituality, or esoteric subjects. Journal about your experiences, insights, and personal growth.

A healthy and effective schedule will always be unique to you, but I hope this guideline will inspire you to take more control of your time as a practicing witch 🥰✨ 

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Blessed be. 🕊✨

[yourdreamsaredreamingyouback]

𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆, 𝑰 𝒓𝒆𝒕𝒖𝒓𝒏 𝒉𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒚 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒕

𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆, 𝑰 𝒓𝒆𝒕𝒖𝒓𝒏 𝒉𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒚 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒕

𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆, 𝑰 𝒓𝒆𝒕𝒖𝒓𝒏 𝒉𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒚 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒕

𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆, 𝑰 𝒓𝒆𝒕𝒖𝒓𝒏 𝒉𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒚 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒕

𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆, 𝑰 𝒓𝒆𝒕𝒖𝒓𝒏 𝒉𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒚 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒕

𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆, 𝑰 𝒓𝒆𝒕𝒖𝒓𝒏 𝒉𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒚 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒕

[elysianwing]

Midnight Resolutions

I'll whisper this vow into the breeze, making certain it carries on in the safekeeping of the wind's arm, until it strikes your ears. I'm being drained... more surely than slow. I am using up what emotions I have. Meager as they are, they have kept me alive up to now. Yet, this black hole is ripping from me the energy to repair. So I shall leap in after it in deliberate delirium, and make certain that I take back what I hold as my own. In this resolve I now stand atop a hill gazing at the sky. At twilight's side with pen of fire writing my message in the stars... so everyone can look upon the midnight hour of my heart.

Posted 7/14/2003 at 1:35 AM by Alexander Learmont https://www.patreon.com/Elysianwing

[queka-store]

The power of being a HUMAN

Hello my friends 🙏☺️❤️

Sometimes the world seems deeply unfair. People often focus on punishment, guilt, and justice, not realizing they cause even more misery. In psychology, there's a famous triangle: attacker-victim-and the savior. People who save might become the victim of the victim and the attacker of the attacker.

We all are mobile, shifting between these roles throughout our lives.Between black and white, we have all the colors of the rainbow. We're all complicated beings, having both light and shadows of our own. We move along various scales in life - between being a victim, savior, or aggressor; between shadow and light; between justice and compassion; between self-acceptance and self-hate.The solution is being compassionate, firstly inwards to yourself. You might feel anger, jealousy, fear and disgust - congratulations, YOU ARE A HUMAN.

It's so hard to accept the pain that our reality and world is full of... And the temptation to divide into right and wrong, those who should suffer and those who shouldn't... But the truth is that no one should be punished or suffer.As the beautiful African proverb says: "The child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth". 🔥

No child, no animal, no group, no patient, no member, no friend should be left alone... The healing of the individual is the healing of society. The healing of a nation is the healing of the world.

It's true, this path isn't easy. It's unknown. But from 300,000 years of human existence, if we choose to believe the theory of science - for more than 99% of humankind's life span we lived in harmony with life and nature. Only in the last 1% of time have we developed so much that we forgot our roots... But the roots of harmony and compassion are always there, therefore we can remember them whenever we're ready to look beyond the known.

Let's explore new paths of life, as individuals full of mutual solidarity - and as groups and humankind. We all are one, this life is short, let's make it the best lives possible for as many people as possible.

Thank you for reading ❤️❤️

[in-tenebris-et-in-solitudine]

[amorelestrange]

Why have the gods made me this way? or maybe it's not the gods.

maybe it's the people.

discovering myself is hard, and the worst part is that people I love might not understand. Why couldn't I be just a normal girl who likes boys? Why did I have to be this person who can't feel attraction? Why did I have to like to be presented other than my assigned gender at birth? Why did I like being so gender-different? So...not like what people expect of me?

-Me, a young questioning queer

[non-conventionnel]

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[caesarandthecity]

The First Photo After a Year and Seven Months in Prison

The first photo after a year and seven months in prison feels different. The world after a year and seven months in prison feels different. Even though I kept up with the outside world through TV and newspapers, the world outside isn’t the same. After a year and seven months, when I was released from prison, I didn’t know who had arrived, who had left. I didn’t know what was new, what was old, what was trending. Honestly, I still don’t know, even after eight months of freedom.

It feels like I was frozen in time while the whole world kept turning. People, of course, continued with their lives, while I was stuck there, in prison. The feeling of being smaller, of being lesser than everyone else, gnawed at me and left deep scars until I had to fight and confront myself. I had to rethink everything I knew about prison. Not everyone sees it the same way, but I needed to find some kind of beauty in that experience, because I lived it so intensely that it had to mean something.

In the early days, I thought I was going to lose my mind, that I was going to lose everything. So, I had to start working on myself. I began developing myself personally. I read every book on personal growth I could find. I took every online course I could. I re-learned high school material. I understood that the most important thing about being in prison was what I was going to do with it, and I decided that I was going to make the best of it.

I did yoga naked in a cell. I danced naked in a cell. I made friends, told jokes until late at night, laughed until my stomach hurt. I cried many times. I slept hungry, woke up thirsty. My privacy was ripped away, exposed, shattered. I was diminished, dehumanized. I fought for rights and realized, most of the time, it wasn’t worth it. I translated documents in Portuguese, English, Spanish, and French. I worked on immigration cases. I wrote every day. I taught classes. I exercised. I did and lived the best I could in that situation.

I think that’s why I don’t feel ashamed to say I was in prison, that I was incarcerated. Because sometimes people don’t see it the same way, and that’s okay. As I tell everyone, prison was the worst and the best lesson of my life.

[jaithra]

Quote of The Day

" Embrace the journey, for it’s the path to self-discovery. "

This quote encapsulates the idea of personal growth and the importance of the process over the destination. It’s a reminder that every step taken is a part of learning and understanding oneself better.

[zibethrose]

Happy Saturday you wonderful you.

Don't dim your light to fit in.

Share your voice to inspire and uplift others. Self-love is something that starts within. It's not something that you buy. It's not something that you earn. It's ACCEPTANCE. Acceptance of who you are. You matter💞

Time to restore yourself.Know that

Your blossoming will encourage and

liberate others to follow suit.

You never know who notices your blossoming.

It may be someone that just needed a nudge,

a confirmation,

a sign.

Time to shine

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[sappy-witch]

Journaling for Spiritual Growth 📝✨

Hello darlings 🥰

Writing down your thoughts and experiences is a powerful tool for spiritual growth! Keeping a journal can help you to track your progress, clarify your goals, and connect with your inner self. 

Here are some tips to get started:

🔮 Set aside some dedicated time each day to journal. Find a quiet, comfortable space where you can focus without distractions.

🔮 Start by writing down your goals and intentions for your spiritual practice. What do you hope to achieve? What areas do you want to focus on?

🔮 Reflect on your experiences and emotions. Write down any insights or realisations that come up. Don't worry about being perfect or having all the answers - the point is to explore and grow.

🔮 Use prompts to inspire your writing. Some examples include: "What am I grateful for today?", "What is causing me stress and how can I address it?", or "What lesson did I learn from a recent challenge?".

🔮 Experiment with different styles of journaling. You can try writing in a free-flowing, stream-of-consciousness style, or use structured prompts and exercises.

🔮 Consider incorporating other tools into your journaling practice, such as tarot or oracle cards, affirmations, or visualisations.

Remember, there is no right or wrong way to journal. The most important thing is to show up for yourself and be open to the process. Happy writing! 🥰✍🏽

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Blessed be. 🕊✨