#SelfCentered

[in-tenebris-et-in-solitudine]

Toxic people can be toxic without even realizing it. Bad energy stay far away..

[cinderpresss]

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery | How To Recover From Narcissistic Abuse: Guide and Workbook with Exercises and Reflections 

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: How to Recover from Narcissistic Abuse Guide and Workbook with Exercises and Reflections

Are you ready to break free from the cycle of narcissistic abuse and rediscover your sense of self? This transformative guide and workbook is your step-by-step companion on the path to healing, growth, and empowerment.

Whether you’ve endured gaslighting, manipulation, or the emotional toll of a toxic relationship, this book offers the tools, insights, and practical exercises you need to reclaim your life.

Inside, you’ll find:

Clear Explanations of Narcissistic Abuse: Learn to recognize the signs, understand its impact, and validate your experience.

Healing Exercises: Engage with thoughtfully designed activities to help you rebuild trust, set boundaries, and regain confidence.

Guided Reflections: Journaling prompts and reflections encourage self-awareness and emotional processing.

Self-Care Strategies: Explore self-compassion practices and self-care routines to nurture your mind, body, and spirit.

Path to Healthy Relationships: Gain insights into building stronger, healthier connections moving forward.

This comprehensive guide not only helps you understand the psychological effects of narcissistic abuse but also empowers you with actionable steps to regain control of your life. Each chapter combines knowledge with exercises that guide you through processing your emotions, rebuilding your identity, and embracing a future filled with clarity and confidence.

If you’re ready to move from chaos to clarity and take the first step toward long-term healing, this book will support you every step of the way.

Take back your power. Start your journey of recovery today.

Perfect for anyone seeking personal growth, healing, or professional guidance on narcissistic abuse recovery.

[carloselrojo]

Gafas de espejo especiales para narcisistas.

[unfoldingmoments]

Jonah 4: When Your Emotions Are Out of Control

Context: After Jonah reluctantly preached to the people of Nineveh and they repented, God chose to show mercy and did not destroy the city. Jonah became angry because he wanted to see Nineveh punished for their wickedness. In his frustration, Jonah left the city and sat outside, hoping to witness its destruction.

The Plant (Jonah 4:6-8): God, in His compassion, provided a plant (sometimes referred to as a gourd or vine) to grow over Jonah, offering him shade from the sun, which gave Jonah comfort. However, the next day, God sent a worm to attack the plant, causing it to wither and die. Following that, a scorching east wind and intense heat made Jonah feel faint, and he became even more upset, wishing for death.

Why Did the Plant Die? The plant’s death served as an object lesson from God. Jonah was deeply grieved over the death of the plant, which had provided him temporary comfort, but he showed no compassion for the people of Nineveh, a large city with many people and animals. God used the plant to illustrate Jonah’s misplaced priorities:

1. Jonah’s Attachment to the Plant: Jonah cared more about a plant that he didn’t work for or cultivate than the lives of thousands of people in Nineveh. This showed Jonah’s self-centeredness and lack of concern for others.

2. God’s Compassion for Nineveh: God was demonstrating that if Jonah could care so much for something as insignificant as a plant, how much more should God care for the people of Nineveh, who were created in His image. God’s mercy extended to them because they repented, even though Jonah felt they deserved punishment.

3. Teaching Jonah a Lesson: The death of the plant emphasized Jonah’s narrow perspective. He was angry when his personal comfort was taken away, yet indifferent to the spiritual well-being and fate of an entire city. God’s message to Jonah was that His compassion is far greater and more comprehensive than Jonah’s limited, human viewpoint.

Key Takeaway: The death of the plant in Jonah 4 highlights the contrast between Jonah’s anger and selfishness and God’s boundless mercy and compassion. God used the plant as a tool to reveal Jonah’s heart and to teach him about the importance of caring for others, especially those who repent and seek God’s mercy. ------ Further Reading/ Podcast to listen: Life.Church with Craig Groeschel: When Your Emotions Are Out of Control | Jonah | Part 4, 29 Sep 2024

If you're gonna let these evil people off, I don't even want to live. Jonah, the prophet of God.

He did the will of God, but he wasn't happy about it. And what did he preach? 40 days from now, you better turn / God will destroy you.

He shows us it's possible to do the will of God without the heart of God. It's possible to do what God wants, but to do it with the wrong attitude / with the wrong motives. & sometimes we'll do that.

We're gonna see God provide 3 more things. The Lord, God, provided a leafy plant & made it grow over Jonah to give him shade, for his head to ease his comfort. We serve a gracious God.And Jonah was what? He was very happy about the plant. So first, God provided a fish to save Jonah, then God provided a plant to cover him, and he was very happy. He was very happy, again. The Hebrew word is weyismah, and it means rejoice greatly, or it means exceedingly overjoyed.

Jonah loved receiving the provisions and blessings from God, but you know what God was about to do?

God was about to teach him a lesson.

Jesus is the good teacher. God wants to promote us by sometimes allowing us to pass some tests. And he's about to give Jonah a little object lesson.

And Jonah didn't like lessons. He's like some of us. Jonah wanted to skip God's lessons & go straight to God's blessings.

God provided a plant, and Jonah started to get comfortable in the shade. Here's what I've noticed. About the time you start to get comfortable is when God has a way of stretching your faith.

The moment we start to get comfortable, God tends to teach us that we still need him. And we're gonna see God provide two more things. Verse 7 tells us this.

But at dawn the next day, God provided a worm. He provided a fish, a plant, and a worm which chewed up the plant so that it withered. And God provided a worm which chewed the plant so that it withered. When the sun rose, watch this, God provided a what? A squirching, uh-oh, there it is again, east wind.He had erratic mood swings, ranging from courageous obedience to extreme dissatisfaction and anger, suggesting underlying frustration and the need to control. Check for me. But only one. The next one says this. He had entitlement tendencies, focusing on his own views of justice and expecting God and others to operate within his parameters. Check. The third one. He had depressive symptoms manifesting true feelings of burnout, sadness, anger, and hopelessness. I don't know about you, the good news is, for me, that was not true today, but it has been true before. Check. It's so easy to criticize this guy's emotional tantrums, all the drama. But I get it. And I want to talk to those of you who are real enough to admit it. You might sometimes, as well, because I can like obey God with great faith one moment, and then ignore God and do my own thing the next. I can be in the presence of God like worshiping him with this passionate, authentic, heartfelt adoration. And then the next day, I can be apathetic, and even act like he doesn't even exist. I can be completely obedient to the promptings of the Holy Spirit. God prompts me to say something, and the next day, God prompts me, I'm like, eh, that's not God.That must be the devil. And just walk on. I hate the lessons, but oh, I love God's blessings. But God said to Jonah, is it right for you to be angry about the plant? Jonah's like, it is! I'm so angry, I wish I was dead!But the Lord said, you've been concerned about this plant, though you didn't tend it or make it grow. It sprang up overnight and died overnight. I'm the Lord of the plant, God says.

Why are you so freaked out about it? And shouldn't I not have concern for the great city of Nineveh, in which there are more than 120,000 people, people who need the grace of God, all these people who cannot tell their right hand from their left, and also many animals? There it is. And also many animals. Like, come on, God, you're the author & finisher of our faith, & that's how you end the story. I mean, I need something better than that.

I want more, right? Come on, God. Did you change Jonah's heart? I want to know. Did he submit to the things of God and say, I was wrong, I just want to live for you? Did he die?

And if he did, how? Did he get mercury poisoning from the fish? Did the worm eat him?You know, I don't, I want to know. And also many animals.

So God says to him, Jonah, you're gonna throw a fit over a plant and cry over a plant, but you won't cry over those people who don't know me, God says. Chapter 4 is tough. No, no, God, I want my will, but I really don't want your will, if your will involves me sacrificing.There is a main character in the book of Jonah. Hint, it's not Jonah. The main character is God, the Lord God.Jonah had issues just like you, just like every single one of you. He had issues, and so do I. But I want you to notice this. Jonah's attitude never changed God's character. The way he acted, no matter what he did, no matter how he acted, no matter how he complained, no matter how he rebelled, God was still God. God didn't change. Why? Because our God is always a gracious, compassionate God who is slow to anger and abounding in love. Who is our God? Our God is always gracious and a compassionate God. He's slow to get angry when we disobey him. Why? Because he is abounding, overflowing in love.

In other words, love isn't just something he does, it's who he is. It's his nature. It's who he is.

[theempiricist]

[bunnieswithknives]

How much can you fit under your skin?

For @warning-heckboop's AU :3

[stochastique-blog]

Im Human

Thinking highly of myself #selfie #selfcentered #selfcenteredpeople #selfcenteredpeoplesuck #selfcenter https://www.instagram.com/p/B_uJMyrH4Do/?igshid=1ag7xbyec2sie

[saltysaltdog]

It's hard to get a grasp on Heket's personality and character voice, largely because she cannot use it. But when she can, what we gather at first glance is...

She's so obnoxiously self centered it is honestly hilarious. If you open Anura before defeating Leshy, she will say this line.

"The Bishops… my family. Have they not suffered enough? Have I not suffered enough? We fought, pathetic vessel. We bled. We grieved. And yet the Red Crown wants more. No more."

Like, genuinely, I can not imagine unironically saying this. Complaining about your struggles, your family suffering... to the last lamb left in the land?!?! You sacrificed them! Girl, time, place, and proper audience, please. Oh, and she can't help but insult you during her pity party. Absolutely top-notch. No notes.

But yes I do have notes. The fact that she's saying this to the lamb implies something more than just simple irony.

She feels she has no-one else she can share this with.

When Leshy has died and after you have your first encounter with Heket in her domain, Shamura comes this sequence of dialogue happens:

Heket: "Shamura! We did not wish to bother you, but-" Kallamar: "Shamura, the Red Crown grows stronger by the day. Already it has succeeded where he has failed before. Leshy has been slain!" Shamura: "Five becomes four becomes three becomes two becomes one becomes nothing." Heket: "...Shamura, rest. We will deal with this. Won't we, Kallamar?"

She is apologetic, a bit surprised, but clearly ready to seek advice before being interrupted.

Perhaps Kallamar thought she was going to be too slow to say it, but in any case, Shamura is in no state to deal with it.

Heket's reaction is not to show her frustration in front of Shamura, but can't help letting a little of it creep in towards Kallamar demanding he agree instead of taking it as a given.

She then turns her anger towards you, an acceptable target.

You there, vessel of the Red Crown! Bow to me, or you will regret it!" [Refuse] Heket: "You will bow, or I will make you!" [Bow] Heket: "Ha! Cowardly vermin. You disgust me."

She demands you bow. Leshy and Kallamar never do the same, so this is something she's doing mainly to copy Shamura and how they behave. She isn't happy no matter what you pick, but instead of inflicting more famine upon you, she changes all the rooms to combat rooms, something closer in line with Shamura's element than her own.

Heket is more or less trapped in the position of needing to be the pillar of support for her siblings. She cannot express her doubts or fears, as when she is less sure of herself, Kallamar cuts her off. Shamura is not in their proper mind. And Leshy...

"We are far older and more powerful than dear brother Leshy was."

Leshy is her baby brother.

And you can tell Heket is the main pillar for the bishops because if you kill her no two bishops are ever seen in the same room again.

Thus, before she has a true reason to hate you, the lamb is the only person she feels safe enough to talk to.

She needs to be strong for her siblings and followers, but you? You're already a heretic. It doesn't matter what she tells you. Her followers know not to listen to heretics. It's safe.

And thus, how you get the line about her family having suffered enough.

In fact, this one moment is the only time outside of threatening you that she uses "I" terms instead of "We".

"Before us stands the last of its kind. All others we have hunted down and put to the blade."

"We need not bother Shamura with this. Deal with it, brother"

[..]"You have felled the youngest of us. We are the Bishops of the Old Faith. We protect against heresies such as yours. We are the guardians of the true word, and we will not tolerate such blasphemy."

"[..]we cast out the Red Crown."

"The one you serve, that monster we have put in chains, will not be satisfied until you have killed all four of us."

Vs

"I will not suffer the same fate as Leshy... Find me in my temple. You will join your kin in slaughter!"

"Finally. I have been looking forward to this. Make your peace, creature. You will not be leaving this temple."

"If you insist I suffer, so shall you."

So at the very least she recognises why you might be trying to kill her, since she mentions your kin.

But it's obvious Heket hasn't really had time to be herself and that her duties, aside from gratuitous violence, don't really allow her to express herself. That makes finding her character so much harder, since until the update all we had was that one melancholic line to define her by.

Before we go on to her quest line, we do have one more bit of dialogue to go over.

"It was not so long ago that we cast out the Red Crown. A mere thousand or so years. The heresy it preached could not be tolerated.

Such noxious ideals... it could not be allowed."

That pause after noxious ideals, that is Heket burying her emotions. She does it once before when she realises Shamura can't help her.

So why the pause here? Does she think that the ideals honestly weren't worth the sacrifice, could have been worked with? That everything was for nothing and now she has to live with it? Or does she truly feel such deep rage and disgust she has to force herself to calm down.

Perhaps she simply misses her brother in that moment, and hates that this is what had to be done.

Again, she redirects her anger onto you, but this time as herself.

For this most damning of sins, the retribution must be slow and painful. I cast a famine upon your Cult!

--

Onto her post relic quest, Heket still has difficulty speaking, but what she does say shows us some of her character growth.

"...we were happy... once. Surprised, Lamb? Monsters like us..."

Instead of referring to Narinder alone as a monster ("The one you serve, that monster we have put in chains,") She can now see how the bishops looked to you and everyone not in the old faith.

You might see our misery as justice... fool. There is no justice in this world. No matter how... how loudly you demand... urge... beg..."

"...Let us leave... Anura... is no longer mine."

This is also not about you. She's not thinking of you when she says this.

You have just made the choice to free her from suffering. You had the choice to not give her throat back, and yet you did.

If you don't

... my punishment... continues. Wounds to externally... fester.

"Fate is for God's to dictate... I would have done the same."

She admits that she wouldn't have shown you the same mercy. But now that she's mortal, she can't see things the same way anymore. She's had time to live outside her doctrine and power. Consider a different perspective. She knows she's been unfair.

She's speaking of herself and her rule.

"No matter how... how(..)"

This is the first time she's ever doubled up her words. The concept of justice is very important to her as the previous arbiter of it. And now she's empathising with the mortals who were under her care. Under her sibling's care.

She's never had to reckon with the idea that her choice to follow the old faith doctrine was wrong. Or with the idea that she herself is no longer a god and that basic rights to her own body can be denied to her. (Assuming you've been a gentle cult leader, as the return of the relic implies.) The kindness she overlooked is becoming very clear to her, and she can't help faltering.

She's still too prideful and self absorbed to thank you, or give any indication she understands this, as she's still processing it as she's talking. But this mid sentence realisation makes her... embarrassed? Ashamed? Regretful? At the very least, a lot more conflicted than when you first gave it back.

To only visit where I once ruled... to only borrow powers I once commanded." [...] "There is no justice in this world."

Vs

"...Let us leave... Anura... is no longer mine."

She speaks haltingly when emotional, and while you can say she's just having difficulty speaking for so long, two things can be true.

And the truth is Heket is a very melancholic character under all the hotheaded violence and power. This is perhaps because she's based so much of herself upon it that without it she's lost.

-

She's usually the most grandiose speaker, discounting Shamura's poetic leanings. So it's probably from her and not Shamura that Leshy has been copying all his ambitious words and turns of phrase from. Yet, when she speaks of things outside the old faith and its teachings, her dogmatic and not-quite use of the Royal "We" disappears into much more casual speech.

And in spite of only speaking about herself in terms of her relationship to her family, she still feels like she can't connect or open up to them.

Technically in your cult if you spy on her thoughts she IS getting better at using I statements and expressing her personal desires, alcohol, food, missing anura, etc.

So here's hoping for more of the frog in the future so I can understand what her deal is.

[003soy]

i want to murasakipost but what is there to say! what am i supposed to say anymore!

[things-methinks]

I've just finished the first 11 chapters of the Kite Runner, and I am so curious to find out if Amir ever becomes likeable to the reader

[destielgaysex]

> be me > struggle with guilt (surely not related to my catholic upbringing) > blame self for every negative interaction i have > blame self for every negative interaction others have > blame self for housing crisis > blame self for thinking i could solve the housing crisis > blame self for believing i am important enough to be to blame > suffer

someone help, my neurons cant help but do this every day

[cinderpresss]

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery | How To Recover From Narcissistic Abuse: Guide and Workbook with Exercises and Reflections

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: How to Recover from Narcissistic Abuse Guide and Workbook with Exercises and Reflections

Are you ready to break free from the cycle of narcissistic abuse and rediscover your sense of self? This transformative guide and workbook is your step-by-step companion on the path to healing, growth, and empowerment.

Whether you’ve endured gaslighting, manipulation, or the emotional toll of a toxic relationship, this book offers the tools, insights, and practical exercises you need to reclaim your life.

Inside, you’ll find:

Clear Explanations of Narcissistic Abuse: Learn to recognize the signs, understand its impact, and validate your experience.

Healing Exercises: Engage with thoughtfully designed activities to help you rebuild trust, set boundaries, and regain confidence.

Guided Reflections: Journaling prompts and reflections encourage self-awareness and emotional processing.

Self-Care Strategies: Explore self-compassion practices and self-care routines to nurture your mind, body, and spirit.

Path to Healthy Relationships: Gain insights into building stronger, healthier connections moving forward.

This comprehensive guide not only helps you understand the psychological effects of narcissistic abuse but also empowers you with actionable steps to regain control of your life. Each chapter combines knowledge with exercises that guide you through processing your emotions, rebuilding your identity, and embracing a future filled with clarity and confidence.

If you’re ready to move from chaos to clarity and take the first step toward long-term healing, this book will support you every step of the way.

Take back your power. Start your journey of recovery today.

Perfect for anyone seeking personal growth, healing, or professional guidance on narcissistic abuse recovery.

Link: https://mybook.to/narcissisticabuse

[kutyaharapas]

why do other people get to feel human and i dont. what am i doing wrong

[famouslysleepy]

my sister unsurprising a chronic self-centered bitch remains wholly and completely unconvinced that more than one person (herself) can be utterly miserable in a situation (the inherent misery of sharing a car ride with her insufferable ass)

not that i should be surprised i already know shes a hate-able prickly bitch!

[nothasanabi]

Why is ethan getting one guyed by HASANS chat

[chipjrwibignaturals]

cannot understate how important it is to me that joel is kind of a prude actually