#Queer stereotypes

[the-bar-sinister]

I wasn't going to say anything, because I don't want to upset anyone, and I believe that everyone has the right to their own opinions and headcanons, queer or otherwise. 

But at this point it's unavoidable.

The sheer prevalence of the "trans Apollo Justice" headcanon trend, and the way in which some of the fandom treat the idea and interact it with it is uncomfortable.

Speaking as a trans man, the way I see Apollo Justice presented in fandom as trans is deeply uncomfortable.

It's uncomfortable because the "evidence" people use for this headcanon is all deeply emasculating stereotypes about trans men, and reflective of the insecurities that trans men have. 

Saying that "Apollo could be trans" because he's short, small, unconfident, and has to work hard to be loud and be heard is reflective of negative stereotypes of trans men that many trans men feel uncomfortable, ashamed and like they'll never be seen as men.

Likewise, a lot of the way that people talk casually about trans Apollo Justice is anything but affirming of his masculinity. It's again emasculating– it's humiliating. It's all uwu soft bean, tboy swag, twink, so small so precious. It's not affirming of his gender.

There are 355 works on AO3 tagged with "trans apollo justice". Out of those works, 155– fully half of them– are tagged as explicit. They're about, or contain, explicit sex. This is not a bad thing. 

However, a quick glance at the last 2 pages or so "trans apollo justice" fics? They're all "vaginal sex" "breeding", "breast fucking", "cunnilingus".

I'm not one to cry "fetishization" but this feels like fetishization. 

Do you think I could find a fic where Apollo uses a strap on someone else if I tried? 

This doesn't feel gender affirming. 

This feels uncomfortable.

And I raise this point not to yuck anyone's yum. 

But it's becoming unavoidable. I have the tag "trans apollo justice" blocked on tumblr, and I still see uncomfortable posts about it because people don't tag it.

I'm not saying anyone has to stop headcanoning Apollo as trans.

But I hope you'll take another look at why you feel that way, how you're talking about Apollo and his masculinity, and why all of that might make some trans men uncomfortable.

[mrcarmenile]

i’m constantly afraid that i’m exactly what people think queer people like me are. i’m worried that people think my only personality trait is that i’m part of the alphabet mafia or something and that im shoving it down everyone’s throats

i’m not. i’m really not, but sometimes if i so much as mention that i’m gay or have “they” as a part of my pronoun set around cishet people, i feel like i’m fucking indoctrinating the children or whatever the fuck

it’s fucking awful how ashamed people make me feel for being queer sometimes. ME. i’m so proud of and comfortable in my identity and yet, all that confidence can be stripped away in a matter of seconds

people underestimate homophobia and queer stereotypes, and how much they affect people. so many people think that it’s really not much of an issue anymore but it is. because if i’m being affected by it? me who lives in liberal washington with my progressive parents and my easy ass privileged ass life?? me who loves being gay and queerness and all that good shit??? then clearly the problem is not even close to being solved

[beeesworld]

I'm a gay woman. Everything means something to us. There's no comment (that) you can't overanalyze. There's no gesture (that) you can't dissect. There's no glance (that) you can't read too much into.

Britt

[oldtvandcomics]

Random thought, but do you know how "villain because queerness" is a prevalent trope with every letter of the LGBTQ+ umbrella? Has anyone ever tried to put them together, and see what the difference would be?

So, like, a villainous gay, a transgender mass murderer and an aroace criminal mastermind all have their queerness linked to them being evil, but they are still very different character archetypes. Has anyone ever really tried to explore that?

[therealarrogantbastard]

Is it a stereotype than when drinking out of a mug, queer people will hold the mug by the non-handle side of the mug?

Because if it’s not, i feel it should be😅

[im-fruity-and-bored]

Hi! I have a goofy little request :]

Can y'all give me some of your favorite silly queer stereotypes for different sexualities? Or just queer people in general? (not harmful stereotypes, just stuff like “gay people like frogs,” or “bi people do finger guns,” WHICH HAS PROOF- I have a picture of my sister when she was like 3, inadvertently doing finger guns. She came out as bi like 3 years later I think- lmao, or “ace people like garlic bread and cake and are secretly dragons that crave world domination-” which is… obviously false- me? A dragon in disguise? Whatever made you think that? [nervously munches garlic bread])

But yeah goofy stuff like that. It's for a little craft for my close friends/some members of my chosen family. When I finish said craft, I will probably show pictures and see if y'all want digital versions 🙃

WARNING FOR A WHOLE ESSAY TO THOSE THAT SENT ART REQUESTS

TLDR;I'm working on the art requests. Please have a little patience, and blame my friend for being a kind, considerate, caring person, and a good friend, for me not working on requests sooner.

(Also- speaking of requests, please trust that I AM working on yall’s art requests. Don't give up on me please- and if I haven't responded to your ask, it's because I plan to respond with the art itself 😅 I know it may seem like ‘oh she's working on other projects- what about my ask?’ And that is a reasonable concern, because I am a MASTER procrastinator. I will get to drawing your stuff though! I know I’m personally very impatient so I'll try not to keep y'all waiting too long. I was stressing about it the other day- “oh I have so many things to draw for people- oh god-” and my friend was trying to reassure me not to stress myself out about it- all “they can be patient.” So instead of pushing myself to do things, I ended up scrolling through my feed, spending almost a whole day in my bed reading fanfiction, starting a silly little fic (which I won't share the plot of in case I don't finish it, but I might post here later-) and watching the new Hazbin Hotel episodes, and watching Darly Boxman for the first time. So yeah blame my friend for being a sweet, caring, and reassuring person lmfao-)

[no1totell]

shout out to leverage and especially leverage redemption for unfailingly hyping up these brilliant incredible gorgeous middle aged & older women 🔥

[curioushabitforarivergod]

honestly more shows need to adopt the torchwood "everyone is awful and problematic and everyone is bisexual" route. life would be infinitely better

[the-bar-sinister]

I get what you're saying but could it be that the reason it's mostly explicit fics tagged as trans Apollo is because that's when it's "relevant"

Like, a general fic of Apollo going out to get ice cream could feature either cis or trans Apollo but the fic is just about the guy living his life. So it wouldn't necessarily need to be tagged as trans Apollo Justice hes just existing

That is absolutely true, anon, but it's also true that of the explicit fics which are tagged with trans apollo justice 94% of them have him bottoming and 68% involve and feminine language for his genitals, and a full 15% are explicitly breeding kink.

Kink is not bad! Smut is not bad! Kink about trans people is not bad!

An overwhelming majority of trans Apollo sex fanfiction leaning into uncomfortable stereotypes and tropes is something that we should examine why it's happening.

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[rjalker]

if you can't deal with or acknowledge the exorsexist stereotypes that go into your favorite nonbinary characters then IDK what to tell you. That's a personal problem. But it absolutely does not give you the right to pretend those exorsexist stereotypes aren't there, or turn around and say the people pointing out the exorsexism are the real bigots.

That's no longer just you liking a character, you're now actively upholding the exorsexism that's already in place, by not just refusing to talk about it, not just ignoring the people pointing it out, you're now actively demonizing the people who are calling out the exorsexism.

And that's fucking exorsexist. Yes, even if you are also nonbinary. You do not get to weaponize your nonbinary identity to demonize and silence nonbinary people who actually put the work in to recognize and criticize exorsexism.

You either need to learn to recognize the bigotry in your favorite characters, or at least do everyone a favor and keep your bigotry to yourself.

Stop making it everyone else's problem that you think exorsexism shouldn't be criticized if you personally enjoy it. No, the people putting in the hard work to talk about it are not "the real exorsexists". You are.

[clfixationstation]

Seeing people pull the "they're like sisters" or "they're like brothers" card to shut down gay ships makes me so upset. If the creator doesn't do it, the distributor or side material does as a means of censorship. And even if it's completely absent from the text, members of the fandom still plaster them with that label.

Then they'll try to paint you as problematic for shipping "sibling coded" (??) characters, or feign upset at "erasure of friendship" when they don't have the same energy for friendships between a woman and a man.

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[lgbtqtext]

[hajshy]

It’s funny how the transfem stereotype seems so unlikely, and yet it’s literally me. Shy, can’t handle compliments, programmer, Linux and communist are all common stereotypical things attributed to transfems, and I am all of them. That’s right, I am the ultimate transfem.

[deancasforcutie]

Reminder that Castiel is ＡＵＴＩＳＴＩＣ

Gay Pride AND Disability Pride icon let's gooo 🏳️‍🌈♾️

[son-of-avraham]

"We need more diverse queer representation!"

You cannot even handle queer jews.

[catsushinyakajima]

Ykw? Fuck popular headcanons I’m making Keith bi and Lance gay. You can’t stop me