#Pro almost radqueer

[catgender-neaqueer]

Hello everyone! Come one, come all, to my list of labels and stuff! This will serve as a kinda intro post lol! Anyways, let's get right to it!

Names? Just Derin for now!

Pronouns? He/him, she/her, meow/meows, cat/cats, star/stars, moon/moons, space/spaceself, galaxy/galaxyself, lime/limes, vanilla/vanillas, scent/scents, boba/bobaself

Xenogenders? Catgender, linistornia, bobacatgender, notgender

CisIDs (in-sys)? English, changeling, cathearted, lesbian, bigender, 11 y/o

CisIDs (collectively)? Plural, white, quadrobist, autistic, almost radqueer/neaqueer

TransIDs? ADHD

[almost-radqueer]

Right I might as well coin this

ALMOST RADQUEER

For when someone technically counts as radqueer but because they don't support absolutely EVERYTHING (like in my case, thinking pro-c pedos zoophiles and necrophiles are horrible) or thinks some things can (IN VERY FEW CASES) get a bit iffy and sometimes disrespectful (like I think that way about transrace and transabled) and thus wishes to disconnect themselves from the radqueer community.

Meanings behind the flag: Honestly not much, I just inverted the colours of the radqueer flag, added some green outlines, and removed blue from the flag to represent that we don't support EVERYTHING (why specifically blue? Idk it's my least favorite color I just wanted to remove a colour)

Also! Since this apparently wasn't clear: I am just using myself as an example! Anyone who supports most but not all can use this flag and term!

Also after this post I will stop using the main radqueer tags, just "almost radqueer" and "almost rq"

Tagging this with radqueer tags so it reaches more people

[shitty-proendo-blackout-posts]

we have to many blogs, and i dont get why

[no-more-rqs]

btw, a brief psa to radqueers and anti-radqueers: "dont misgender someone because you dont like them" also includes degendering (using they/them and/or neutral language on someone who doesnt use those pronouns and/or uses certain gendered language). "people you dont like" also includes people you think are the most awful and disgusting people in the entire universe. you dont get an excuse to be transphobic and dehumanizing just because you dont like someone

[gearbox-doll]

I think what most antis don't understand is that I've been like this my whole life. I drew Celestia × Luna kissing during class in elementary school. I had a duplo lego set with a pair of minifigs who I immediately decided were a) siblings and b) dating. Related to that one, there is a post on my mother's Facebook account from once I was old enough to play with regular lego where I had been looking for (and successfully found) one of those red 1×1 tubes and exclaimed "Oh, there it is! There's my other bottle of blood!". I watched Tinkerbell: Secret of the Wings and immediately assumed that them healing Tink's wings was because the sisters loved each other romantically, the intended message of "familial love is just as strong as romantic love" going right over my head. I couldn't have been more than eight. Hell, I shipped Dora and Diego from Dora The Explorer and I was fully aware they were cousins, it just didn't occur to me that that was weird.

And it's not like I was taught about these things by someone, either. Especially the Tinkerbell one, I don't think I had internet access of any kind at that age. Even once I did, all I did until I was like ten was watch silly fnaf meme videos and doll unboxings on YouTube. I didn't even fully understand the lore, I just knew the robots were alive and wanted to be friends with them.

I only read smut once, a Mangle × Springtrap fic on Wattpad that I had zero context for, and was immediately disgusted because my attitude was "ew sex gross". I only read it because I had heard some older kids talking about smut in a fandom context and was super excited that I didn't have to ask my mom anymore (I'd just gotten my first working phone). I didn't go back to smut until I was like 14, because I was experiencing arousal for the first time and all of a sudden all the stuff in that fic that seemed gross to 10yo me seemed really appealing.

No one taught me that incest was okay, or gore, or anything. It was just something my child brain thought up and I never thought it important enough to mention. I learned later to hide the art I drew because my parents might be upset, but they were upset I had gay fanart on my phone, so what did they know about what relationships were acceptable?

I wasn't taught that incest was even a thing that existed for a long time, and certainly no one ever had a conversation with me about it, they just picked up on me knowing what the word meant at some point after I'd figured it out online. I knew what murder was (my mom watched cop shows), but I don't remember where I ever came across the concept of a business that ran machines fueled by blood (which was what the "bottle of blood" thing was about, iirc), it might've just been something I thought up on my own. I wasn't ashamed of these things until I was older, I just never mentioned it because I didn't think it was relevant to anything.

[shota-midnight]

Hi, my name's Midnight, I'm a 19-year-old OCtive from @the-dreamy-horrors-symphony. I'm bigender and bisexual, my pronouns are she/coo/snooze/red/❤️, and I'm permacareridden, transwindowHS, permaclean, and Permascene. I'm a bodily minor, almost radqueer (coined by my headmate, @almost-radqueer), and I'm a reliphile, romotum, firejectum, and a romantic n3cr0.

Here's some userboxes to end this intro post

[xbloodxwaterx]

How to convince antis to stop re-traumatizing everyone who disagrees with them no borax no glue

[almost-radqueer]

How did I join the transID community: Disregarded it as "oh cool that's a thing I don't care about" for a while, started hating it for some reason, then checked out the radqueer hashtag and went "okay I understand" and then just went "wait I think-" and now I'm here lol

What categories do I fall into most: probably transharmful tbh I dunno I'm not checking

Do I have any transID gear: No unfortunately

Am I planning on coming out: not anytime soon lol they'll think I'm mentally ill

Am I out to anybody offline: My best friend knows I'm trisharmful and transcultdeity but that's it

Do I have dysphoria: I don't think so

Have I transitioned to, or am transitioning to, any of my transIDs: No

Which transIDs do I want to transition to the most: Honestly? Transfashion ouji, transtattooed, and trismanipulative and trisviolent lol I know that's a lot but they're all tied.

Which transIDs do I not want to transition to: Transhollowed, transfashion Lolita + fairy kei + decora combo, and nexowhite

Do I have any transIDs that I can't transition to and why not: Aside from the ones that are impossible within this realm, transtattooed is currently something I can't transition to because I'm a minor (bodily and chronologically lol)

What transID flag is the prettiest: IMO, transclairvoyant.

What are my favorite transIDs: transmedicine, transheight, chronoecofuture, and transgodspouse.

Do I think transIDs should be part of the queer community, why or why not: No. TransID is its own thing, it always will be. Someone who's cishet and transID isn't queer (unless they identify as such) they're just transID lol.

Do I have any "weird" transIDs: I mean transevilscientist and transscent are probably the weirdest ones lol

Have I coined any transIDs: Trismanipulative and trisviolent lol

TransID ask game!!

🍰: how did you join the transid community?

🍡: what categories do you fall into most? (ex: trace, transabled, transspecies, transamia/transblood)

🥡: do you have any transid gear? (disability aids, stuff with your flags on it, maybe tattoos!?)

🧋: are you planning on coming out?

🍮: are you out to anybody offline?

🥥: do you have dysphoria?

🍤: have you transitioned to, or are transitioning to, any of your transids?

🍣: which transids do you want to transition to most?

🍕: which transids do you not want to transition to?

🌯: do you have any transids that you can't transition to? Why not?

🍟: what transid flag is the prettiest?

🥞: what are your favorite TransIDs?

🌭: do you think transids should be a part of the lgbtq+ community? why or why not?

🍜: do you have any "weird" transids?

🧆: have you coined any transids?

[autoharmful]

RADQUEERS

CHOOSE

MY

VAPE FLAVOOOR!

(Based on emojis because I'm bored)

[almost-radqueer]

Transmanipulative and trismanipulative flags because I can't find any

TRANSMANIPULATIVE

When someone wishes to be manipulative or feels like they should be for any reason

TRISMANIPULATIVE

When someone is both cis and transmanipulative for any reason

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endos Endos yay

[nqvo]

ㅤ──ㅤANTIPATHY?⠀⠀⠀♡

A term for when someone's love and hatred overlap when developing feelings for someone, almost to the point that they are unable to identify the difference between the two.

Antipathy means a strong dislike for someone. The question mark is intentional and part of the terms name, and is meant to symbolize the difficulty of differentiating between love and hatred.

This term was requested by @arachnwife. There are no limitations nor exclusions to this flag.

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Antipathy?

A term for when someone's love and hatred overlap when developing feelings for someone, almost to the point that they are unable to identify the difference between the two.

Antipathy means a strong dislike for someone. The question mark is intentional and part of the terms name, and is meant to symbolize the difficulty of differentiating between love and hatred.

This term was requested by @arachnwife. There are no limitations nor exclusions to this flag.

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[radinclus-not-radqueer]

Radqueers are a cult.

I am a cult survivor, I have been one far before I was in the radqueer community. As a cult survivor, the radqueer community IS a cult. If you've never been in the community, and have only been an outside observer, it's understandable that you wouldn't realize this, but claiming radqueers are "just assholes" is a slap in the face to people like me who have been permanently traumatized by them.

Here is a commonly used model of how cults work:

If you go through every single point in this, the radqueer community checks almost every one of them. People have already pointed this out many times before, however I will explain it again for people who haven't seen those posts.

(Skipping over ones that don't fully apply or that I haven't personally experienced. Most of these are pretty brief because I don't think anyone will read an entire essay for every point)

Rigid rules - radqueers force you to include everyone and everything, and never question what you're accepting lest you get labeled as "not a real radqueer" and harassed. You must accept any and all predatory relationships, or you'll receive the same treatment as "antis". If that isn't "rigid rules", I don't know what is.

Rewards and punishments - you coin a term people like, or make an "I love pro-cs" post? Everyone likes you, praises you, sends you asks telling you how amazing you are! You dare to question anything about the community? You get cast out, banned from servers, harassed, sent death threats, and doxxed.

Dependence and obedience - radqueers make their victims believe that this is the only community that will accept them. They say that every other community will hate them for their identity, and this is the only "real radinclus" community. This causes people to feel trapped there, or in other words become entirely dependent on the community for validation and support. They convince people that if they leave, or do anything wrong that causes them to be forced out, they'll have nowhere to go. This forces them into obedience for fear of being left all alone and being completely abandoned.

Deception - this one is very, very obvious. There's a reason why radqueers label themselves as "radically inclusive", "pro-consent", "pro-bodily autonomy" - they are not just saying these things because they don't understand what they mean. They're intentionally using uplifting, inclusive language that sounds really great and supportive to deceive people into joining them. This is also why they use emoji codes, so other radqueers will recognize them but people who don't know what radqueers are will be lured into their trap.

Propaganda - pretty similar to the above. They label everything as "radical inclusion" and tell people that they have to support all these things to be "truly inclusive". They make cute flags and emoji codes to make grooming, abuse, racism, ableism, and transphobia seem cool and fun, to further lead people into their trap. By definition, propaganda is "information, especially of a biased or misleading nature, used to promote or publicize a particular political cause or point of view". All these cutesy emojis, symbols, flags, and terms are propaganda.

Discourages access to outside sources of information - radqueers constantly say that all science, psychology, and medical information is "biased" and "bigoted". If you provide them with any information on how what they're doing is wrong, they pull out any number of excuses and then tell their "friends" how bigoted and exclusionist the source is. This makes it seem like radqueers are the only reliable source of information, and anything else is untrustworthy.

Insider/outsider doctrine - this is painfully clear with how they refer to everyone who disagrees with them as "antis". Even if you're just an outside observer, you pick up on this quickly.

All/nothing, good/evil, us/them dogma - once again, they refer to anyone who differs even slightly in opinion as an "anti" or "anti in training", and the second anyone decides to question why they're literally supporting nazis and blackface, they get labeled as an "anti" and "horrible person". They play the victim any time they get told that what they're doing is wrong, while crying and complaining about how much they're harassed and about how "mean" and "rude" anti-radqueers are.

Feeling chosen or special - radqueers very obviously convince themselves that they're so unique and special, which is why terms like transship or transhasapetcat exist. They want to seem really cool and special, and make completely normal things into obscure, "special" identities, like calling yourself translivesintheuk instead of just saying you wanna move to the UK. As someone who's been in their servers, they hoard identities like this because it makes them feel temporarily special and unique, which makes them convinced that what they're doing is right.

Guilt/manipulation - radqueers do this all the time. When someone says they aren't sure if they support something or not, radqueers immediately get all teary-eyed and upset, claiming that the person would be "basically an anti" if they decided not to support it. I've even seem someone cry and complain over being rejected by an anti-transnazi radqueer and claim that it was "ableist" that the person rejected them. Everyone defended and comforted the person who was rejected, immediately siding with them for fear of being "ableist", saying that it was wrong to be against literal nazis. This is very clear manipulation and guilt-tripping.

Phobia indoctrination - phobia indoctrination is where people in the cult make others terrified of leaving for fear of being hurt, killed, etc. As I've explained earlier, radqueers try to scare people into staying by saying that if they leave the community, no one will ever support or love them, and they'll never be accepted outside of it. People who went into the radqueer community after being anti-radqueer know firsthand how awful the harassment, doxxing, and death threats from radqueers are. People in the community who have doubts are very clearly too scared to leave, and people who don't have doubts have been convinced that no one will ever love them except for radqueers.

Anyways, I hope that this clears up how the radqueer community is a cult! Feel free to add on with your own experiences or additions, and please stop invalidating and shaming survivors.

[pluralhottakes]

:33 < (this isnt a hot take! feel furee to delete this if you want but purrlease lmk if you do!) i am an anti endo thats hoping to become purro endo, but im a bit scared on where to start? i know that sounds silly, but almost all of my furiends are anti endo, most of what i know about systems is from anti endo places or medical sites about them (im diagnosed and never did any purrsonal research on my diagnosis), and a lot of the purro endos ive met have been icky at best (tho thats mostly cause theyve mostly been either radqueers, assholes in general, or people who think traumagenics shouldnt have their own spaces). im just a bit nervous for making that final transition. do you have any advice or know any blogs that could give advice?

Being pro-endo is as simple as supporting the ways systems can form besides trauma.

We can't recall any resources off the top of our head that can be helpful, but learning about endogenic systems and other system formations can be a good starting point.

Also talk to some endogenic systems about their experiences, you may find they have more in common with you than you first thought. I invite those following this blog to comment on it with links or things they'd like you to know.

Hey everyone, come help this anon out!

[theinsterminators]

How can you be proship but anti-radqueer? /genq

They seem very similar to me, except proshippers usually claim that they only like problematic (incest, rape, pedophilic) content but claim to not support it (where as radqueers both like it and support it).

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interesting to see someone asking things genuinely so i'll try to explain it the best i can.

proship has to do with fiction. it is about fictional characters and stories. they support things like incest and noncon (using the word noncon instead of rape because we are talking about fiction, mind you) but purely in a fictional manner. they dont care what other people ship or anything of the sorts, as long as the person does not condone those sorts of things irl.

regarding radqueers, please note that as an anti rq i am indeed biased but i'll attempt to give a neutral-ish opinion. radqueers arent limited to fiction. ofc, not all of them are ok with this stuff irl or at all, but as far as im aware of, they condone things like harmful transIDs that can genuinely put someone at risk (transharmed/harmful, transabused/abuser/abusive, aka actual abuse done irl), occasionally pro-contact for a lot of harmful paras, and more generally not okay nonsense.

i believe the main difference here is, of course, fiction. proshippers keep things strictly fictional, while radqueers often do not.

so yes, i can be proship and anti radqueer. and someone could also be radqueer and antiship. few particular stances are exclusively linked to each other (an example of this however would be being radically inclusive and pro mspec lesbians, where the definition of the former encompasses the latter).

also um, disclaimer, i typed this up at like 3 am almost 4 am so im not exactly firing on all gears…,. if anyone wants to add or correct anything feel free to do so because j need to sleep like right now 👍 goodnigh guys hhhhhh

[almost-radqueer]

Dude I would so make a show or game like this but there's problems with me doing it alone

Not enough people to make a show along with me being a minor, and as for the game idea...

I can't code.

So yeah lol I wanna make this real, most of my headmates do too, but like help?? Lol.

what if there was a show or game or whatever about a futuristic near-utopian society where (almost?) everyone is a radqueer ?? like there would be scientists who would research ways to help more and more transbody people transition and there would be communities dedicated to paraphiles finding their objects of attraction (idk the right words sorry) and forums for specific kinds of transharmed and transharmful to meet each other so they can transition together. i said near-utopia because radqueer is a loose label and there are lots of people with different opinions (contact stances, opinion on bodily transrace transition, etc) who use it, which is what would also be the case here, which would lead to fights (if not worse). thoughts ??