#Poly discourse
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Funnist part of anon hate is that everyone sending it seems to have assumed I'm a neglected woman. I can only assume it comes from me talking about emotional needs being met and the underlying assumption men have no needs except sex
#Poly discourse#Again I've gotten VERY LITTLE anon hate but 100% of the stuff I've gotten has been terf-y#No one needs to worry about me either this stuff doesn't fuck me up I know who I am and whatever
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I've shittalked the people who keep falling for scapegoating exclusionary tumblr unpopularity cycle crap, but it's worth thanking the people who've been on our sides the whole time. For every blogger who posts hate about the target du jour, there's at least one blog with less followers who's been with us from the start and I just think that's awesome. So yeah, shoutout xxx
#transandrophobia#ace discourse#pan discourse#poly discourse#thank you you helped push the needle and make tumblr so much more hospitable#anyway i was jut hit by a wave of thankfulness so powerful i started glowing and firing off beams ok goodnight it's 1am
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the same people that love to talk shit about polyamory and open relationships are the same bitches tuning in to every season of the bachelor and the bachelorette, make it make sense.
#a lot of yall are gonna be mad about this one#the structures here are not THAT different#talking my shit again 😭#polyamory#poly discourse#the bachelor#open relationships
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Got my first knee-jerk brainless “uuuggghhh this is polyphobic” rotten take response, that was quick
Internet displaying lack of critical thinking skills or any nuance whatsoever once again …
Lines of thought that seem Normal but are actually rooted in extreme puritanism:
-Seeing the nude human body is inherently traumatic -Sex scenes in art are pointless -Wearing kink-related clothing in public is the similar to performing a sex scene in front of unwilling participants -Depicting female characters expressing sexuality is always degrading -People's sexual fantasies are always an endorsement of the behavior they want to see in real life -Sex work is more traumatic and coercive than other types of work The goal is to treat sex as just another thing people do. That is a much healthier attitude than hiding it! It's not uniquely traumatic, it's not weird to talk about it or include it in society.
#hope that person is like 12#but probably not#anything that even sticks a toe out of the party line is VERBOTEN#hivemind#poly discourse
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Gordon/Barney/Alyx is really really funny to me conceptually bc it's like, two hot geniuses in their 20s who look at the 40-something smartass who hangs around and go 'yeah that guy. we both want him carnally'
#and they're SO right#half life#half life 2#gordon freeman#alyx vance#barney calhoun#freemance#valhoun#freehounce#idk what the hell their poly ship name is sorry lol#(me. posting about a ship with an age gap on the 'can't be normal about age gap ships' website:#SURE HOPE THERE ISN'T ANY AGE GAP DISCOURSE IN HERE)#this was the first time I've drawn any of these characters in LITERAL YEARS and. wow........#feels so crazy that this was the fandom that got me to join tumblr in the first place (in 2011!!!!) and I used to draw them ALL THE TIME#interests change I guess#but I think I'll always come back to hl and portal occasionally. they're too much a part of my dna at this point LOL#my art#description in alt text#oh my god I just went back through my half life tag and the last time I drew these three was when I drew that freehounce meme LMAOOO#how serendipitious
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While I'm out here running my mouth tonight:
I also believe that a significant amount of the attraction to Lucanis is that he presents a "safe" fantasy for a threesome without the player worrying about latent guilt over cheating or 'having to share'.
And wow what a mindfuck that must have been to hear that not only was Lucanis demi, but Spite supposedly isn't interested in your shenanigans.
Anyway.
#just a feel I get from the fanfic#and experiencing how the discourse went with poly around Astarion and Halsin#dragon age#lucanis dellamorte#datv
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”mspec lesbians and lesboys DNI” BOOOOO!! 🍅 BOOOO!!!! 🍅 🍅 🍅
#sorry for contradictorylabelposting on main but I saw some exclusionist nonsense and got mad about it so now you guys have to deal with it#Lesboy#mspec lesbian#bi lesbian#Pan lesbian#poly lesbian#Omni lesbian#pro bi lesbian#pro mspec lesbian#pro lesboy#Queer#Queer discourse#<- for filtering#Contradictorylabelposting
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oh isn't it interesting how well this sentiment intersects with bisexual erasure when you're in a relationship. And when I say interesting I mean infuriating, maddening, typical and common of course.
the fun of being a married gnc bisexual polyamorous person and always and forever doubted you actually are any of what you fucking say you are.
Gods the poly erasure I just saw is baffling
Someone saying they wanna romance Halsin but don’t jive with polyamory so they won’t (valid, respect that, very same reason me as a person irl could never date Halsin no matter how much I love him, I can’t do open polyamory)
But then all the comments were “you can still date him monogamously!!!! There’s an epilogue that suggests he’s being serious and monogamous with Tav!!! You don’t have to date multiple people!!!”
Just because Halsin and Tav are not seeing anyone other than each other does not change the agreement.
It’s doesn’t change Halsin’s nature when it comes to relationships and partners.
Romancing Halsin is an agreement to be in an open polyamorous relationship. It does not matter if Tav never finds someone else they love at the same time. It does not matter if Halsin never finds someone else he loves at the same time.
Halsin is forever and always poly, and he never settles into being monogamous for Tav. He will not change his nature for you, nor does he want you to change your nature for him.
There is no “monogamous path” with Halsin.
#poly representation#poly discourse#polyamory#bisexuality#halsin silverbough#halsin is poly and nothing changes that
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Morning crew discourse in fandom is so fucking funny .
"Morning crew are a family!! Fathers and their son!" (They constantly make dirty jokes towards each other/ make sexual innuendos about eachother, are generally very inappropriate and weird about eachother)
"Morning crew are a relationship! They're all in love!" (They have called each other family on countless occasions, Fit called himself an older cousin/uncle figure towards Tubbo, says Tubbo reminds him of Ramón and acted like he was a stand-in Ramón while he was missing, Ramón calls Tubbo his brother)
remind me to introduce yall to this crazy concept called a friendship
#qsmp#morning crew#discourse#not trying to say people aren't allowed to have their own interpretations of a media; do what you want -#it's just really funny when either side makes fun of the other like they're SO unreasonable but not us no no no we're the correct ones#the beauty of the world is that you're all allowed to be as delusional as you want#i think the world would be a better place if family MC truthers and poly MC truthers could stop making fun of eachother and get off their#high horses and just accept they're both as wrong as each other
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“But you ship ______, how can you also ship ______?”
Wait until I tell you about poly relationships
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You know what got me so fucking excited? I had both Halsin and Astarion in my party and when I kissed Halsin, Astarion said this:
It's one line. One. One line to acknowledge my ongoing poly triangle, and pretty much the only line I ever got about that aside from the first "let's smooch if your bf is okay with it? uwu" and "it's fine" that establish it in the first place.
And I was so ecstatic to even get that. That's how fucking starved I am for any kind of healthy poly representation in media.
It's like seeing a gay character on tv for the first time all over again. The representation might not be very well done, it got problems, it's barely there, but at least it's there? Right? It's technically there? Even if you might miss it if you glanced away at the wrong moment.
Yeah, it's not enough.
I don't blame people for having a negative gut reaction to the entire idea if that's how they were raised, growing up. For a lot of us, there was ever only pretty much one right kind of "love" and "relationship", and to learn out of that thinking requires the same kind of work it takes to unlearn homophobic or transphobic assumptions. It's hard. It takes time. And at least for the western world, it's not yet demanded in the same way as LBTQ+ rights are. But... hopefully it will be, at some point.
Because love isn't some kind of a finite resource like a loaf of bread or some very nice fabric. You don't run out of it by loving more people. You don't go, "Ah, sorry. My heart's full. I just can't care about you." You can think that, you can say that, but will it actually mean you won't care about someone if you genuinely enjoy their company and wish them well? Or do you actually... care? Despite not really wanting to, or feeling like you have the emotional capacity to?
Of course falling in love is a really intense thing to happen, and I'm not sure if one human being can handle multiple simultaneous falls at the same time. But there are so many ways to fall in love, and so many kinds of love.
In my experience, the fireworks-y, obsessive, all-encompassing, draining kind of fairytale love is on the rarer side, and for a good reason: it's insane. It takes all of you and leaves you wrecked. It's not sustainable. There's a reason why we talk of falling and crushes, because, hell, what else could describe that devastation so well? It is crushing. And eventually, something's got to give, and that insane fairytale romance either mellows out to something more stable, or it withers out.
And I'd argue that every single human (with emotions) can handle more than one deeper connection to another human being. And... it truly is as simple as that. Sex or no sex, it all gets down to caring about each other.
I am very rambly, sorry. And the people who most need to hear this shit aren't probably seeing this in the first place. But I just. There's not many people to talk to about being poly, is there?
Ok little rant here because I keep seeing this kind of comments pop up.
Let’s talk Halsin and polyamory.
Because apparently making ace characters allo and gay characters straight is a crime against god, but nobody seems to care when poly identities are erased. I hate starting drama but it's honestly heartbreaking seeing how many people are happy to disregard Halsin’s polyamory entirely.
Does Halsin need better writing? Yes, he’s been done dirty by a rush job and Larian leaning a bit too heavily on the horny. But I think it's very telling that what some of you consider bad writing is the fact that you can't have a monogamous relationship with him.
I see people very hung up on this line:
Like this is some proof that Halsin secretly longs for monogamy but he’s too traumatized to admit it. Which is. Very insulting. He’s traumatized. He’s poly. The two things need not be related. If the only way you can conceive Halsin being poly is out of trauma, I don’t think I need to tell you just how yikes that sounds.
I’m personally not a big fan of this line. I always found it a little fetishy, like the game is giving you the go ahead to build a harem. But I’d also like to point out that the line doesn’t preclude the possibility he doesn’t want other partners right this moment, but might in the future.
People seem to conveniently forget the other instances where Halsin states his position on polyamory.
But all of this keeps getting brushed off in favour of that one line, because for some of you it’s inconceivable that a person would be capable of romantic attraction towards multiple partners. Like love from a polyamorous person is somehow lacking, weaker, less meaningful, inferior.
And it’s not just him, I’ve seen people pull this shit with Astarion and Shadowheart too, claiming that they’re lying when they say they’re ok with Halsin joining your bed. “He’s insecure!” “She’s lonely!” “They’re scared of being abandoned!” The implication here being that polyamorous people are broken, because nobody in their right mind would be ok having multiple partners, right?
Polyamory rarely if ever gets any decent representation, but god forbid you don’t take away the only scrap we get just because it makes you uncomfy.
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Noticing some very interesting parallels between Georgia's Insta caption yesterday/Michael's tweet tonight vs. both of their respective social media posts from the night of the NTAs (when Michael presented David with an award) in 2021...
2021:
2023:
...Comments? Thoughts?
#michael sheen#welsh seduction machine#david tennant#soft scottish hipster gigolo#georgia tennant#seems like a strange caption when your husband has just won an award#i love how Michael manages to convey 'he's mine' without saying a word#yet GT actually has to write it#saying a lot by saying very little#there are different kinds of love in different poly relationships#but i'm not so sure Georgia knows who she is messing with#lowkey fighting over David as if Michael isn't the most competitive man on Earth#bless#popcorn.gif#there's something slutty in the State of Denmark#living the polyamorous dream#and it's David Tennant#ineffable lovers#discourse
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RATING RCP SHIPS (RESCUE TEAMS)
for my first relevant post, i’ll be rating robocar poli ships that i see (either here, twitter, ao3, anywhere), anyways remember, this is only my opinions!
POLROY (Poli x Roy)
you all know this ship, i’d say its the most popular ship on the fandom! personally, i’m inclined to say i like it! a classic in the entire fandom… their dynamic is literally the most focused on in the show…
solid 8/10
ROYBER (Roy x Amber)
now i see this one everywhere on tumblr, and i have to say its pretty cute! roy and amber definitely had their moments (especially in that one family episode) and their dynamic is arguably better than polroy
9/10 luv it
Helly x Droney
this ship exists? they’re confirmed to be children (atleast in helly’s case, droney is similar to him) so i don’t feel really good to be putting them in overly romantic situations (kissing and stuff) but you do you i guess… this is still cute though, liked their interactions in the desert rescue special
5/10 i dont know where
Roy x Helly
i saw this one a couple of times on wattpad and i was like “what”, anyways…
-1/10 personal bias
Roy x Mark
i can say this is a fun rarepair! their interactions are pretty limited, but its a rarepair for a reason, i could imagine them together though
6/10
Poli x Bucky
this one at first i was like “i don’t understand” then i rewatched the episode and i was like “ohhh”, not gonna lie, like mark and roy, i could see this..
6.5/10
SANDBER (Sandy x Amber)
they NEVER interacted before, so we can only imagine what they would be like, personally, they would be all shy around each other…
6/10
Jin x Stacy
another rarepair huh, this is very cute! their interactions are short and sweet, not my cup of tea though
6/10
extra notes: for some reason i never see poli x amber, i thought it would be common around here…
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the self proclaimed "gay transgender freak website" when people actually do things outside of sex and relationship norms 😰😰😰
#seriously why is there poly discourse happeninggg#its 2024 and you're still having issues with the idea of polyamory??#like...cringe
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"Polyamory is just people who want to be able to cheat on each other without getting in trouble!"
You realize that cheating requires you to break the person's trust, right? There's not such as "consensual" cheating. It's not cheating on someone if you've agreed that something is okay in your relationship.
#obviously not to say people CAN'T cheat in a poly relationship#but addressing the people who say polyamory is inherently cheating#poly#polyamory#polyamorous#queer#social discourse#discourse#brett does discourse
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the thing that sucks most about polyamory discourse is that i can (and do) block most phrases related to things that upset/annoy me. but i can't, like...... i can't. i can't blacklist the entire word or tag "polyamory." because that would block Nearly All Of The Fandom Shit I Interact With,
#imagine if i didnt have to roll the dice 50/50 on whether a post is a dariraeda comic or a screenshot of someone saying#'if my partner was poly i'd kill them and then myself' like. come on#can we simply stop discoursing about it and admit that these takes don't need to be amplified or responded to. pwease? for me? 👉👈
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