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Sorry to hear that.

Hope they have the resources and support they need.

It’s nice to see someone rethink, that seems to be rare on the internet unfortunately.

(yeah no homophobia or conversion therapy in a yuri fic unless it’s an antagonist and no acephobia or what’s roughly equivalent for the ace character, seems fair enough)

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(1) i mean AUs and non-canon material have been a staple in fandom since time immemorial … Spock and Kirk weren’t MLM or intended as such but they’re pretty much the ship that started it all

yaoi fangirls turn ostensibly straight men against their orientation all the time, they don’t get hassled for it.

creative license is creative license

I also ship some canonically gay characters in straight ships. Ship and let ship.

(2) I cannot stress this enough, in the real world, AROACES CAN CHOOSE TO DATE. Being aroace does not necessarily mean you’re romance repulsed. That’s just a particular kind of aroace. And a stereotype, for that matter. (oftentimes applies, but still)

We’ll get plenty of content where he’s aroace and he doesn’t date, plenty of content where he’s aroace and does date, and plenty of content where he’s some other orientation. The only problematic narrative is if the fic, rather than simply saying “he’s gay in this alt universe” says “this one person “fixed” his lack of attraction.” THAT is not cool and the equivalent of, irl or otherwise, a straight man telling a lesbian he can “sort that out” or “turn her back.”

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Right on! Men 👏 and 👏 women 👏 can 👏 be 👏 friends!!

A man and a woman platonically raising a child together and not falling in love has to be the biggest plotwist in the Dungeons & Dragons: Honor Among Thieves movie AND my favorite part

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truly some people have no genre savviness whatsoever. A girl came back from the dead the other day and fresh out of the grave she laughed and laughed and lay down on the grass nearby to watch the sky, dirt still under her nails. I asked her if she’s sad about anything and she asked me why she should be. I asked her if she’s perhaps worried she’s a shadow of who she used to be and she said that if she is a shadow she is a joyous one, and anyway whoever she was she is her, now, and that’s enough. I inquired about revenge, about unfinished business, about what had filled her with the incessant need to claw her way out from beneath but she just said she’s here to live. I told her about ghosts, about zombies, tried to explain to her how her options lie between horror and tragedy but she just said if those are the stories meant for her then she’ll make another one. I said “isn’t it terribly lonely how in your triumph over death nobody was here to greet you?” and she just looked at me funny and said “what do you mean? The whole world was here, waiting”. Some people, I tell you.

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“Grind on” would probably be the first thing to come to mind for me, but that’s probably because I’m a proponent of outercourse XD

ive forgotten the origin of "she blank on my blank til i blank" and i dont even begin to know how to look it up

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I’m both an aphant and asexual so can’t relate XD

I also dunno how the original poster thinks this implies any particular sex act, although splooge is of course the most obvious part of the pun.

To me it implies rubbing, ie a handjob

Aaaanyway, I would like the Know Your Meme people to do a tutorial on how they locate the “earliest mentions of” a meme. I’ve seen people do this for fact-checking too, but it occurs to me that people should learn the actual process.

ive forgotten the origin of "she blank on my blank til i blank" and i dont even begin to know how to look it up

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He didn’t even click or look at it to evaluate the the factual information, immediately went into denial mode. LMFAO.

Go reblog stuff of his with this link if you want, it’s pester a transphobe open season.

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Absolutely, here’s something for you to get angry about, find a million reasons to rant about, rather than choose peacefulness, according to your reblogging history:

“Throughout recorded history and since time immemorial, thriving cultures have recognized, revered, and integrated more than two genders.”

“Even after the end of the modern era and as the colonial period wanes, hundreds of distinct Indigenous societies around the globe still retain their own long-established traditions for third, fourth, fifth, or more genders.”

“It’s not uncommon for third gender people to perform critical spiritual and religious functions in their communities.”

“across our species, this phenomenon of the third gender religious specialist, healer, or spiritual worker has been part of our collective identity and human experience since time immemorial.”

“Likewise, within Jewish culture and law, as many as eight genders have been historically recognized, and in diverse ways.”

“Take a tour with this world map, and learn how many cultures see gender diversity.”

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I think it’s kinda fascinating that boners can happen sans a person to be attracted to

I mean sure I’m aware that some portion of asexual people get “directionless” boners, both clit and dick ones, but seeing it in people who obviously do get sexual boners that co-occur with sexual thoughts so by comparison they experience these as “neutral wtf is happening’ boners is interesting.

*EDIT, excepting the last one, that’s clearly sexual

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and the Darwin Award goes to: any adult who thought this was a good idea.

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a wad of cotton with a string attached is inherently distressing apparently …

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“Be gay do crimes. I mean if they get to, we should too, right?”

Also you as an individual cannot keep a few pets in a filthy, confined space and neglect them such that one dies, without being fined, but a corporation does it to hundreds of thousands and it’s no problem.

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I highly suspect I have PCOS and maybe that’s why, even tho I don’t like the term transmasculine for personal, nitpicky reasons, it’s also a term that enough people know what it is that it’s useful.

PCOS is incredibly common- and if it gained wide recognition as being intersex, it’s possible some corresponding AMABs might gain recognition as intersex as well … MORE people who dis-identify with the binary is always a good thing, it keeps them from being able to shove us into the corner and pretend like we don’t exist.

PCOS is an intersex variation, full stop. The reason that's controversial is that just accepting it as one undermines the gender and sex binaries.

The idea that we're just rare mutants that need to be fixed, or can be ignored for the sake of the majority, would further begin to fall apart. Recognizing people with PCOS as intersex makes it harder for them to treat people with PCOS like broken women.

Doctors treat their intersex traits as a malady that needs to be fixed. Even in the case of a cis women with PCOS and gender dysphoria or health issues, the treatment is so often laced with intersexism and coercion. There is no real choice given, and no affirmation of one's body as worthy of respect regardless of what it looks like.

This isn't unusual in the treatment of intersex people - people do try to hide from us the fact we're intersex (entirely, or by saying we have a disorder instead). But by not even considering people with PCOS under the umbrella, they prevent them from finding community with people like them, and advocating for themselves.

This is all to say, people with PCOS are not less intersex than other intersex people. They are just as intersex, and face all the scrutiny that comes with it. But more than that, they are integral to intersex liberation - and queer liberation overall. Your story as an intersex person with PCOS matters. We need you, and we want you with us.

May you find peace, community, and healing. May you find comfort and home in your body. May you find health and wellness. You are loved, and you belong - just as you are, and have yet to become.

Sincerely, a trans intersex person who doesn't know if it's PCOS or something else.

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Some lovely Lichenomphalia ericetorum fruiting bodies. A bit more clustered than normal.

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