#PCOS More Likely to Have Boy or Girl

[deesseshesca]

PAC :How will your future lover explore your body ? (18+)

I found a little name for all of y'all ... Bébé d'Amour. Vous etes maintenant mes bébé d'amour (Y'all are now my Bébé d'Amour).

Good morning pretty souls, I'm not a lovey dovey human but for y'all I am ready to do almost anything.

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PILE 1 

Page pentacles, 2 swords (reverse), magician (reverse), page wands (reverse)

Their touch is going to make u reminisce about all the time u let someone else touch your body in ways u settle for. Like u never really wanted them to touch but you were to fucking lonely to refuse the act knowing damm well they were using u. Also they were not treating you correctly. They touch is going to make all the monster go away. All the time you were touch with little cares all forgiven to make place with memories of they’re caring touch. Some of y’all have self harm scars, suicide attempt scaring, they will caress it with so much love and thank u everytime for the fact that u stay even thought it was hard. They are grateful upon every stars that u’re self sabotaging behavior never got the best of u otherwise they would have never met u. Some of u don’t think you have a pretty pussy. Maybe u feel like u’re lips of too big or that they are not the same color as the rest of your cooch. Hey, they will to touch your pussy. Always munching with happiness. Others u are not circumcised, don’t matter they bumping their month on your dick with happiness in their eyes. Some of y’all have religious trauma, like your ex-environment made you think that sex is forbidden. Y’all don’t even like touching yourself. Even though u left a long time ago, u can’t seem to shake those fears off. They are going to take their time with u and respect which one  of your boundaries. At the end, you might still not like getting head but u are not going to feel as uncomfortable with the concept of it after their healing touch. Some of y’all have some vaginismus, I see them learning about it. So they can help u heal and respect the boundaries set by your body. I see them introducing the first toys before even going in themself. Until they are not sure u are ok, there’s no jumping the big boy. If you have endometriosis/PCOS, they will stop penetration sex and alter to fingering to make sure not to disturb the peace of the uterus before the big week. For all my pillow prince/princess today is your big day, they love leading. They don’t care if you spend the whole relationship on a pink/blue pillow. They love it for you. Their touch will still be playful. They will love to tickle u. Also they will love placing a hand on your stomach, even slepping on it. Especially my masculine energy, your pump stomach is literally their safe place. They will love giving you a good handjob while staring into your eyes (y’all probably have deep brown eyes) and caressing your stomach. 

💌 : Honestly Pile one, they are not going to be able to let go of you. Might be clingy, also they love language is physical touch. Will love updating you throughout the day. If you want to know more about that future love, you can always purchase my SOUL TRIBE membership unlocking all the extra content and extended PAC reading + the audio one.

PILE 2 

4 wands (reverse), King cups (reverse), Hanged man, 6 swords 

They love to have their hands on your private parts on all times, not in a creepy way. They would be driving and suddenly here u go, being a finger fucked passager princess. If you are an owner of a dick, u better drive with both hands on the wheel because at any moment, they may start giving u a blowjob . If you have boobs, they will have they hand on them all the time. Not even in a sexual way but because it becomes their habit. Y’all might not give a fuck at some point, until somebody stare at u in public. U end up apologizing while glaring at u’re partner making sure to get they hands the fuck out your top. They are very sensitive to your reaction. Let’s say they wanna give u a hug and u move slightly away … here comes the overthinking. If they try a new move on u in bed but u don’t moan as good as usual. They don’t reproduce it. If u give an excellent reactions, they will put that move on rotation. Also if you have painful period cramps, they will message you stomach. If you have to go regularly to the doc, they will always try their best to be there and hold your hand. Touch = love regarding your future lover. They will caress your face when u speak. Tie your hair when your hand is busy. To my burn out babe that are trying their best or my type B babe who is always so damn clumsy, they will always be behind u giving u a hand. Even when u give them head, they still worry about your well being. I’m hearing : ‘’ Baby I don’t care, if u care or not. I love when (moan) u are giving (whimper) head and are comfortable’’ before attempting to tie your hair. After a week of bad depressive episodes they will run you a bath. When they sense that u are starting to distance yourself, they will always have an hand on your waist, on your leg, shoulder any fucking where. Just to keep u from leaving with your bad thoughts. All this stand for my man in the audience, your next babe don’t play about you. Their touch heal making u realize how much you DO matter. 

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PILE 3 

King wands (reverse), page wands (reverse), page cups, ace pentacles 

Straight from the beginning I’m getting a bad girl/boy from your person. They push everyone away but you. Actually they only see you. They don’t see any other women/men. They don’t even care about their own parents, the way they care about you. Your future person may have experienced deep trauma from age 8 - 10 years old, every night. Since is not the reading for and I did not ask for permission, I will not dive deeper into their lore. They touch = fire, when they lay their fingerprints on u, it is like your whole body is in heat. They enjoy mixing pain and pleasure. A fan of breathing plays because they get to squeeze your neck safely to give you pleasure. Loves squeezing you in general. If you have boobs, will love to squeeze them until it hurts. If you are a man, love to pinch your nipple until they see a little bit of blood even. They will also enjoy putting pressure on your balls while giving you a handjob. They are very experience lover. Probably have 15+ body. They love to play game with y’all. I’m hearing: ‘’ Let’s see how many times I can make u cum in a minute, princess…’’. If you are a man, they will love to eat your ass. If they lose you, they lose everything. They will probably haunt until they find you back again. They will NEVER raise their hand on u and  NEVER yell at you.  I see a vision of a text conversation. 

U : jhabwdbcaw

Them : hey babe, is everything ok …

U: auijdxja party hbduiAHBNDIL

Them: Can u give the phone (one of your friend).

U: But I wannnnnna takcfjawo to u 

Them: I know but I wanna see you. Can you please give the phone ? 

U: abxda yes hnqcfu

Them: Give the phone, love. 

Their touch is very gentle but very practical. Gently take your makeup off when u come back drunk. Gently draw into your tattoo if you are a man. Will casually lift up bridal style when they see dozing off while studying. If you are a guy, will softly wake you up and guide u to the bedroom. 

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PILE 4

Knight wands (reverse), Lovers (reverse), Emperor (reverse), Strength (reverse)

Touch = understanding, will give u a tap on the shoulder to encourage you. Will caress your arm while y’all are arguing. There’s a use of: ‘’ Good girl/boy’’ in y’all relationships. When they see you grabbing the sheet, while they are down to town, that’s when they know you are on cloud 9. The only time they will stop munching even if you have already orgasm. They will love to caress your inner thighs. Pass a sneaky hand on your tits. Loves making you want more, like I see y’all making out and they are barely touching your tits while you are caressing their body. Have a very brat energy. Love to get on your last nerve because they know you will punish them. That’s what gets them going.  Has a high sex drive can go round and round in the same day but it will always start with some kind of teasing.

💌 : Y'all are going to have an amazing communication. I sense that both of y'all are yappers. Y'all are messy, you love to call each other at the end of the day and share the tea on what's going on. They will never let you go to sleep angry. I see a vision of you mad even at them but y'all still cuddling. You guy are in silence, they know they mess up but they refuse to leave on your own. Better they let you gather your thoughts with them. They may have a trauma about somebody that die on them in a middle on text con versation. That's why they can't let u go when u are mad. Don't get them wrong, they won't force u to hug them or talk. If you can't handle looking at them, they will tare at the wall, while u are in the bed thinking. If you want to know more about that future love, you can always purchase my SOUL TRIBE membership unlocking all the extra content and extended PAC reading + the audio one.

[formulaonecrumbs]

hi everyone!! i’m junie, she/her, 18 years old, ♊️, and a big formula one enthusiast. though, i might expand to writing other fandoms at some point. i love Lando Norris, Oscar Piastri and Alex Albon (my big three if u will) but i don’t think there’s a driver i hate. anyways, i love writing so i’m here. if u have any requests; any driver, any reader, any scenario basically whatever u want. pls feel free to ask, i will deliver (or will try to)

so far ive written for; LN4, OP81, CL16, DR3, AA23 & MV33/1

if u want to read any of what it, here:

𝐌𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐥𝐢𝐬𝐭 :>

୨ৎ ୨ৎ ୨ৎ ୨ৎ

Lando Norris:

can’t have his kids (texts)

making space for you 🧡

you was there before the fancy cars 🏎️

you make me feel steady 🌊

i blame love ❤️

looked at me the right way 💋

alexa play ‘marry me’ by bruno mars 💍

one bed and your cold feet 🛌

you’re not alone, bug boy 🕷️❤️

nah, i’m proud 🏳️‍🌈

almost (never) yours

part two: what a bland goodbye.

spending my 20’s on you

unexpected laps 🏁

we miss you 😕

thirteen days and my thirteenth reason ✍️

not used to this 🥂

don’t be sorry🩸

his first time (smut)

always hated the quiet

just wish i was older

we’re meant to be just friends

older sister au:-

little bean 👩‍🍼

what’s he supposed to be? an alien.

first day of school 🏫

you’re not allowed to fall again

is it working?

just another one of the gazillion ♾️

heartbroken but never alone 🧑‍🧑‍🧒‍🧒

how not to tie a shoe 👟

you’re too cool for them

Oscar Piastri:

pcos!reader:-

don’t shut me out 🫂

he sees you 🫀

certified uterus whisperer 🌬️

i’ll be back in ten, okay?

hold it together ✊

ALL hands on deck 🫡

totally cockblocked 🚫

you’re okay, i’ve got you.

my very cute werewolf

the win after the win 🏆

ovaries out of office 👅

made of comfort 🧸

even especially at 2am.

stay right there 🌸

i like your big feelings 🫶

give me a minute to hold my girl

we only keep going if you’re okay.

little blood never hurt nobody🩸

you don’t have to hide 🫣

particularly bad

let’s get colour back in your face 🤍

don’t have to move

in every small way

aisles and attitude 🛒

right here when you wake up

one breath at a time

six kisses and counting 👄

i just need you

togetherness 🤝

build a life we love 🩷

others for osc:-

sunday night, monday reality 🤰

how fucking dare you?

little big moments

my big brother best friend 👫

Charles Leclerc:

no time to rest 🤒

stay a little longer 🕯️

Daniel Ricciardo:

this body is still yours

you’re more than enough

Alex Albon:

Max Verstappen:

Other Drivers:

pending… ↺

[captain-huggy-bear]

Quinn or Clay with a girl with a lot of body hair because I'm so insecure about it and there's like no rep for girls having body hair everywhere

Quinn + PCOS vibes because as someone with PCOS I get this. In recent years with my hormones out of whack my body hair has grown darker and more and in places that people don't usually show on women because we're indoctrinated to believe we should all be hairless cats. I get it cause it makes me feel insecure when you're being told it shouldn't be there, so I got you, babes because I genuinely think we think and notice it more than any one else but I know my boy Quinn would notice you feeling insecure and try to make you feel better. TW: Insecurities, body image issues surrounding body hair, reader is not gender neutral, very much written from a cis woman's perspective Big requests/full fic/big idea requests are closed at the moment but drabble and prompt requests are still open. Writing Masterlist

Quinn is so in tune with you, so aware of you that he always notices when you start to pull away, when something is heavy on your mind, when you're not quite feeling yourself. You're a master at hiding it from most people; a false smile here, a slightly bigger jacket there, a change of clothing that doesn't seem suspicious to anyone else, but to him is a red flag.

He knows you. He knows you get self conscious about many parts of your body but he knows in particular when you're feeling self conscious about your body hair. It's natural. He often tries to remind you that you're a human being, a fully grown woman, with hormones and body hair and a pulse. Tries to remind you that you're supposed to have it, that you're not a child. But, it doesn't stop that niggling feeling of self consciousness, the feeling like you're too masculine, too out of the realm of standard beauty practices.

Since puberty you've always had darker more obvious body hair and over the years its grown fast, longer, thicker and in places people said were for men. People constantly reminding you that women weren't supposed to have that, women were supposed to be smooth, hairless, an impossible and ridiculous standard that is simply a lie. But, whenever you forget that, whenever you start to judge your body, the hair on your stomach, arms, chest, the way it looks, you start to change your habits.

Like now. Quinn's watching you get dressed. The way you put layer after layer on despite the spring warmth outside...because you feel like hiding. To anyone else your comment that you felt chilly might be accepted, but not by Quinn. He knows you're going to be too hot all day, he knows the real reason you're piling the layers on and he can't accept it.

"Baby, take it off." Quinn's tugging at the giant hoodie, thick material, that you'd thrown on top of everything else you were wearing. You were already sweating, red in the face, too warm to be wearing it.

"I'm cold." You tug away from him, but he just tugs you back until you're facing him. Quinn's hands tug at the neck of the hoodie, before slipping inside to cup the back of your neck and round of your shoulder. Even that feels wrong, like you're not good enough for him to touch right now, insecurity bubbling in your chest.

"No...you're not."

"Quinn, I don't want to do this right now." You feel ugly, self-conscious, uncomfortable. You don't want to have this fight with him, you know he means well, but you're just not feeling it today.

"Baby, there's nothing wrong with how you look today, take it off, you're going to be boiling."

There's a pause before you answer, taking in the earnest way he looks at you, all soft puppy dog eyes like you wearing all these layers hurts him too. You really are too warm.

This time when Quinn tugs at the hoodie you let him pull it over your head until you're stood in front of him, arms crossed over your chest because you feel wrong. It's magnified for you, your perception of your body, of the things you deem flaws. Each hair on your arm seems too dark, too long. Each hair on your chest too masculine, that one hair on your neck you have to pluck, feeling like it's about to scream that it's there for all to see.

But, Quinn's eyes just soften further, smile starting to creep up. A look of love, adoration, admiration.

"You're so pretty, baby..." Your eyes fall to your shoes, biting your lip harshly because his words while sincere just feel like lies, because you don't feel pretty right now.

"I don't feel pretty...I feel manly."

The sigh he lets out is hurt on your behalf, almost a groan because how can you not see how pretty you are every day? How can you not feel like the most gorgeous person on earth when you are? It has Quinn taking your face in his hands, thumbs pressing into the underside of your jaw, fingers easing into the hair on the side of your head.

"You're super pretty, prettiest girl in the world," His thumb brushes that one hair on your neck and it makes you want to curl up and die, eyes squeezing shut, but it's purposeful on Quinn's end. He needs you to understand that he doesn't care, that it doesn't make him find you any less beautiful or look down you. That you don't need to worry.

"But...."

"You're worrying about your body hair again, aren't you?"

You just nod your head because Quinn knows. He knows all your insecurities, each thought that runs through your head...because you've told him, because the one thing you never do is hide those feelings and thoughts from each other. Each mental storm is one to be weathered together.

"I love you. I think you're the most beautiful person I have ever met." Your eyes drift open, rising to meet his, genuine, earnest, determined to make you believe him in a way no one ever has before. How many times have you heard 'you're being silly'? How many times has someone disregarded your feelings? Made you feel emotional, hysterical? How many people have really taken them time to try to get you to think differently, feel differently without invalidating you.

"But..."

"No. No ands. No ifs. No buts. I think you're beautiful, I think you're beautiful when you don't pluck that hair on your neck you hate. I think you're beautiful when you don't wax the hair on your stomach. I don't care about it, I don't think it makes a difference to how pretty you are to me."

"You mean that?" Your voice is still small but there's that hint of hope there, that subtle change that tells Quinn you're starting believe him, that maybe he's getting through to you.

"Yeah, baby, I mean it. I just wish you felt as pretty as you are because you're so pretty. You need to stop being so mean to my girlfriend, baby..." His fingers brush your cheeks, gentle, soft, like he's afraid if he presses too hard you'll bruise like a ripe peach.

"Okay...I can try."

"Good, I'm here to remind you anytime." He presses a kiss to your forehead, soft and sweet. Unspoken meaning transferred from him to you.

Yeah, maybe you don't always feel good. Maybe you have your doubts, your insecurities, but Quinn? Oh, Quinn is going to do his damnedest to make you see what he sees when he looks at you.

Beauty.

[genderisareligion]

The elusive "TERF" is actually just a mirror

All its devotees know is projection. When I started this blog in late 2020 I more frequently used the tag #DARVO in action to start keeping track of the blatant lies TRAs spew that are really just a tell about their crowd (DARVO = Deny Attack Reverse Victim Offend, a strategy used often by DV abusers) and I just have to start making this cumulative post because:

They're now saying John Money was a radical feminist. Lmfao 💀 The male cracker extraordinaire (we don't even think males can be feminists let alone human most of the time) most responsible for the word gender's mistranslation as something that describes human behavior rather than the behavior of languages (most of which aren't even English), the idiot torturer who's a major reason the intersex community has to guard itself so fiercely against "normative" surgeries, who once claimed that anyone skeptical of his "girl = pink, boy = blue, I must fix anyone else" theories actually just believed that "masculinity and femininity are baked into the genes and women should get back to the kitchen" (sound familiar? What are "TERFs" always being accused of?) Like bro that's you

"TERFs are fascists who need everyone to fit into the male or the female box" actually gender abolition would mean no more boxes besides the purely categorical chromosomal ones we can't help from birth, and actually trying to force everyone to fall somewhere on a scale of femininity and masculinity and positing intersex conditions as the "middle" creates an unnecessary dichotomy amongst particularly females, where a woman born with PCOS is considered "less female" than one without regardless of how she "identifies," and the more "masculine" you are (whatever that even means) the more your body requires meds and surgery.

"TERFs align with fascists" but y'all are the ones with the Big Pharma billions paving your way so lol sorry not sorry but as a Negro it's giving the way they used to experiment on us for profit, refine their methods for research and leave us for dead or permanently disabled. And y'all think it's empowering? You think they actually care that you're personally fulfilled? You think they won't pull another Henrietta Lacks? You think all these detrans people are just flukes? They'll take your thousands of dollars until you're in debt and pump you full of more dubious "treatment" as long as it means they get to keep quietly going home to their white picket fences where all their loved ones are fine pretending they're heroes rather than profiting off others' pain. What is fascism if not allowing the medical establishment to "correct undesirables"?

"TERFs are Nazis" but the "first ever transgender surgery" on "trans woman" Lillie Ebe was performed by literal fucking Nazi Erwin Gohrbrandt who believed "mentally ill people were considered 'feeble-minded' (this was an actual, formal term) and homosexuals were considered to also be 'feeble-minded' and have inferior genes." Fun fact, Lillie was also a fucking Nazi.

"TERFs are all white supremacists" but everyone I just mentioned up there is a fucking white supremacist and not even Google agrees with you there, searches for the word TERF are done almost entirely in Western nations like the US and UK, whereas searches for radfem are balanced worldwide and in fact an African country is #1 on one of those lists, and you can't argue that those searches are by TERFs themselves because "try Googling TERF right now and seeing how many if any positive references show up"

I have more after 4 years lol but lemme cook

[charafansmile]

Pride month almost over so here's some headcanons

Chara: aroace, nonbinary in the agender way. It/they. Ocd

Frisk: pan, nonbinary in the 'I get to be whatever I want' way, they/them. Intersex via down syndrome.

Flowey: strictly aroace, nonbinary transfem but hasn't put it together yet. That's a 20 years in the future revelation. He/it...for now ... they/it in future. Bpd

Toriel: demi + bi also poly but more on the monsters don't really do monogamy angle in undertale. In deltarune her and asgore were swinger's with the holidays. PCOS. Her/she so she can make a joke. Also bpd.

Asgore: bi + poly. Was gifted a bear pride flag by rudy and has no idea what it means. Cannot do casual relationships. Same as above, used to swing with the holidays in deltarune. You guessed it bpd.

Alphys: bisexual. Himejoshi and fujoshi and yumejoshi all at once. Transfem. Can and will make DIY hrt for you for free. Definitely autistic along with everything else.

Undyne: lesbian. Butch in spirit, she's working on it. Audhd

Mettaton: transman, bisexual, drag-queen when he wants to be. He/him but doesnt mind and even enjoys the whole 'yaas slay queen' thing. Aroace in a way to me.

Mad Mew Mew: transgirl, also bisexual. Does mind actually. She/Mew. Can monsters be theirans? If so then she is one.

Sans: trans the skeleton. Beautiful stone 'bone' butch ❤️ bi and ace and not quite aro but on that spectrum. Probably autistic.

Papyrus: bi and aro and allo. Npd swag

Gerson: Beautiful bisexual butch. He/him. Would have been a dyke on a bike if monsters never got trapped underground, in deltarune was too much of a NERD!

Grillby: gendafluid (fire). Demi and also autistic.

Gaster: probably nonbinary but he's got a job rn. Also bi. And autistic. Surprisingly not aroace and in fact just very married to his work. Him.

Kris: Nonbinary and therian, also aromantic, and also: lesbian. Strictly they/them. Prefers and seeks out androgyny. Klinefleter syndrome. Autism and also probably ocd.

Ralsei: transfem she/they once she figures it out. Bi. Also some flavor of ace. I give her the beautiful and wonderful gift of ocd.

Susie: baby butch lesbian. Demi. Pcos. She knows none of this about herself. most definitely audhd. She especially has RSD. She/her, maybe she/he in the future.

Noelle: transfem and lesbian, knows both about herself very well. Anxiety the girl. She/her. Femme. Wants susie to be her lesbian boyfriend.

Berdly: bi, you ask him his pronouns and he smugly starts to list all of the pronouns assuming your stupid and don't know what they are. Then says he/him with the air of realizing this is something he has a choice in. Then he dramatically stalks off to 'think'. Also autistic and probably aromantic but knowing he's aro would make him worse.

Carol: bisexual, used to swing with the dreemurrs, only one to really catch feelings. She/her. Type of woman to have had multiple lesbian experiences and processed NONE of them. Also probably ace. OCD.

Rudy: bisexual. He/him. Reformed frat boy. Same as above.

Queen: who made my computer pan and trans. She/it. You guessed it autism and ocd. Everyone's ex wife.

King: transmasc & bi with a male preference. He/him

Seam: nonbinary wizard. They/them. Gay and ace. Too hung up on jevil tbh.

Rouxls: polaymourus and bisexual and making it everyone's problem. No seriously he is. He/she.

Jevil: gay as well, and slightly aro but not ace. He/they/it

Spamton: Bi and making it everyone's problem. 1000 divorces and no marriages. He/him.

Tenna: bi and thinks himself the dreemurrs third.(they don't know he exist). He/they. All the dreemurrs get bpd and he's no exception.

Ramb: old butch lesbian like I believed her to be. She/he.

Dess: serving trans realness. They/it. Most definitely into women. Chunnibo...

[velvetvexations]

i think my experience as a transmasc enby runs counter to a lot of trans people's perceptions of people like me. yeah, i was a "tomboy" growing up, but i faced corrective csa because of that. i didn't like my name, but i thought it was normal because i grew up alongside a cis bi girl who also hated her name. sometimes when i would push back against the enforced gendering of me as a kid, and adults would try to insult me by saying, "what, are you a BOY named [deadname]?" and it made me feel strange, like that's wrong but it doesn't upset me for the reason they think it should. im a system who has a pattern of the closer to a female identity an alter is, the more miserable they are. i wasn't bullied by popular girls in school, but i was bullied by popular boys, but in ways that are more typical of bullying done by girls. im more of the heavy metal/goth/punk/emo aesthetic kind of guy, which goes against the stereotype that it's trans fem thing to like those subcultural elements. im a femboy, but forcefem makes me uncomfortable when applied as a blanket concept to femboys. i pass to fellow trans people and allies, and seemingly not to everyone else. i was diagnosed with pcos before i went on hrt, but that was more than a decade ago so it functionally doesn't affect me after hrt anymore, and i dont think that ive really had enough of an intersex life experience to claim that label. the life i had led me transition fairly early as a teen, but honestly i feel that perhaps i could have sacrificed that early start for a better living situation and level of functioning that would have happened had i run away. i grew up eastern orthodox christian, and that church is not kind to women at all really. idk what you'll even make of my experience, really. i just feel like this isn't a common one, and certainly one that would break a trf's brain.

your uniqueness is a good and lovely thing

[yourfaveisintersex]

Hi! Not a headcanon... I wanted your opinion, since I think you have trustworthy takes on intersex issues. I hope it's alright to ask you for advice...

When I was 14, I was told by my gynecologist that I had "more testosterone than a female should." So, this entire time I believed that I had hyperandrogenism, likely PCOS or NCAH because my symptoms matched up. I have thick, dark body hair, and I grow hair on my chest. I also have the other symptoms like irregular periods, acne, oily skin, and unfortunately ovarian cysts... A partial fused labia & well I accidentally tore my hymen.... while engaging in activities I won't detail. 🫠 I also had a very early puberty. I developed body hair before everyone else at around 6-7 years old and started suffering from premenstrual pelvic pain at 9, and had my first official bleeding menstruation at 10.

I was bullied a lot, called the h slur, the t slur and excluded a lot from things with girls because I was seen either as a freak, or a boy pretending to be a girl. I faced a lot of issues through my life for having androgynous features. When I was told that I had "more testosterone than a female should" by my gyno at 14, I was put on estrogen based birth control.

I've been active in intersex spaces and even said I was intersex myself. I was so sure that I was intersex because of my personal experiences and symptoms.

But now I'm confused. Apparently my PCP did a testosterone test on me without my knowledge when I was 18. I was not informed about this test, nor prepared to get any labs done. It was late in the day, and I had not fasted that day... which you're supposed to do before you get labs. I was also on estrogen based birth control. I just recently saw the results from these labs when checking my chart, and did some research. Based on the numbers recorded, I would have hypoandrogenism, not hyperandrogenism... and that doesn't... sound right??? I would not be this hairy if I had low androgens, right??? Right???

I plan on getting this retested because this doesn't sound accurate. Is it possible that my PCP deliberately fucked with my test results by not instructing me to fast and having me on estrogen? Even if I somehow turned out to have hypoandrogenism as a "female" (which I doubt) am I still intersex? Also, side note, is it possible to have normal testosterone levels while having symptoms of hyperandrogenism?

Thank you in advance for your response... <3 /p

Okay, this is long so let's break this down + yeah you're fine to ask for advice I practically solicit it in my FAQpost

So uh. Hey you just happened to ask for advice by someone who had hypoandrogenic total T levels while having symptoms of (mild) hyperandrogenism lol lmao. Get your SHBG (Sex-hormone binding globulin), albumin, free & bioavailable testosterone tested ASAP.

Hypoandrogenism CAN be an intersex trait, but you also have like... hyperandrogenic symptoms still. And faced direct intersexism as a result of that. If you're doubting you can contribute your voice, of course you can??? I'm so sorry your Dr.s seem to be Weird. I don't know much about estrogen messing with T levels much (if anyone can contribute info it'd ve appreciated), but I know a Bit about T converting into estrogens because. Happens to me. Nonbinary estrogen levels moment. Obviously get a proper retest of total T when you can, and yes estrogen Miiight fuck with your hormonal test results but just like. By default if you're on hormonal medications your test results are prone to being altered. Can't rely on my FSH and LH because I have the birth control implant lol

I think the most important think to point out is that you very much still have the intersex experience. You can't suddenly like. Not be intersex. Same way perisex ppl can't "become/transition to intersex", and the thought intersex people can become perisex is like. The goal of society to erase intersexuality.

[intersexbookclub]

A lot of thoughts on Just Ash (contains spoilers)

Our book pick for November 2024 was the 2021 YA coming-of-age novel Just Ash by intersex author Sol Santana. We met on 2024-11-29, and it gave us a lot to talk about in terms of intersex representation!

The book features a main character, Ash, who has CAH and has been raised as a boy, and identifies as a boy. When Ash hits puberty and starts to physically become androgynous, he starts getting bullied at school. His mother, who always wanted a daughter, forcibly transitions Ash to live as a girl. Cue tons of gender dysphoria. 😭 Ash winds up in hospital due to all the stress, and runs away to live with his older sister. The sister affirms Ash’s masculinity and lets him retrotransition back to being a boy. 🥳 A custody battle ensues.

Upfront PSA: Santana’s definition of intersex (which she provides in the author notes) is exclusionist. 🚨 She does not include hormonal variations in her definition of intersex. It is effectively a dogwhistle that Santana does not accept PCOS hyperandrogenism as intersex. This goes against every major intersex organization’s understanding of what intersex is, and against the consensus of the community as a whole. While we thought the book has plenty of strengths, anybody picking it up should know that Santana’s definition of intersex is not representative of the intersex community. 👎️

Overall impressions

Michelle (@scifimagpie): This book was like really speedrunning the emotional processing of really intricate intersex issues. It was a rougher read but I couldn't put it down. It felt very authentic for a very young prickly teenage boy. Also, the adults sucked in this book and I was here for it. 👍️👍️

Elizabeth: Mixed feelings! This book needed so many CWs at the front, but I think it also handled the violence with care - it didn’t feel gratuitous, just unflinchingly realistic. Rough, but done on purpose, and it helped a lot that Ash was given so many other things to do than suffer. I felt like it did a good job of illustrating how gender is very complicated for many intersex people. But it also had an intermedicalist vibe that I didn’t appreciate. 🤨

Bnuuy: Overall positive impression! 👍️ Liked how Ash was a Ash as an example of positive masculinity. More cis guys should read this book. The book highlights a lot of intersections between queer & intersex issues. I only read half but agree that many things need CWs.

Rylee (@goingrampant): it was kind of intense, it was a thriller. I really want people on Tumblr to read this book. 🙌  "AFAB trans woman" has become a hot button phrase where perisex trans women have decided that it's not a valid term, and have gotten very intersexist dying on that hill. This book does a good job showing what it looks like to be an (intersex) AMAB trans man. 👍️

Feral: I’ve found a lot of perisex trans people don’t really get that we intersex folks can be assigned a gender at birth & still be denied actual access to that gender & can end up with both masculine and feminine gender expectations…. while also being denied genuinely being either gender. 🙃 So I think this would potentially be a good book for helping people understand some ways that this can happen without real people’s trauma having to be turned into a Teaching Moment™. 👍️

Remy: I cant believe they managed to misdirect me so that I didn’t predict that twist at the end! 👍️

The intersex representation: initial thoughts

Things that felt very real to us: the part where the intersex group were told they couldn’t participate in a parade. 😭 How Ash’s parents reacted to Ash’s intersexness. 😬

Remy praised how it acknowledges intersex kids oppression without being in conflict with (perisex) trans kids’ oppression! 🩷

Rylee thinks that this book should be read by perisex folks (both trans and cis) who are confused or resistant to the idea that intersex people can be both cisgender and transgender at the same time  should read this book. It’s good for building empathy with cistrans folks, and it illustrates how Ash is M-to-F-to-M. A lot of times when trans people run across that kind of language, they they think that it's some kind of abusive right wing distortion of trans identity (e.g. weaponizing detransitioning). The book shows how Ash was assigned male at birth and identified with that, and then being reassigned as female, and then pushing against that, and how it made him both cisgender and transgender.

Elizabeth agreed that this would be helpful for perisex allies to read, because too often the only times they talk about intersex is to demonstrate sex is socially constructed. This book illustrates how we have so many gender issues that are relevant to trans discussions that tend to be underappreciated by perisex trans folks, like mistransitioning and retransitioning, and how AGAB should not be confused for socially imposed gender.

However, Elizabeth also felt that anybody picking up the book should also know that the book is exclusionist about who is intersex, and that the intersex community is actually quite unanimous that hormonal variations belong in the community. Santana is unusual for being resistant to this inclusion, and it was a common gripe with the book. 👎️

We liked how matter-of-fact the discussion of genital difference was, but there were times it seemed to undercut the message about masculinity and gender.

The book had a happy ending. While it was outright wish fulfillment in many regards, it was hard to be mad about it, because we just need more queer joy in our lives.

The Forced Gender Transition

We all agreed it was painful watching Ash's gender be repeatedly denied. Bnuuy pointed out that even though physicians keep claiming to be The Ultimate Authority on how gender works, they actually can’t agree on which gender some people (like Ash) are.

We all agreed it also made for an effective illustration of how intersex gender issues are just different than perisex, trans issues. Intersex is messy, and oftentimes our genders don’t really fit with what perisex trans people are used to. Too many trans people expect trans people to be clearly either transmasculine or transfeminine (and maybe transneutral), and it’s important to have representation of people (intersex or perisex) who do not fit into these neat boxes. 🏳️‍⚧️

Even when the book highlights how intersex gender issues are different from perisex trans issues, it still also speaks to common ground experienced by both groups. Both groups are frequently forced to undergo a puberty that they don’t want, to have to live under a socially imposed gender they don’t want. The reasons or mechanisms may vary, but being forcefully kept in a gender you don’t want to be in is such an important common ground.

Bnuuy pointed out that often when intersex gender issues are contrasted with perisex trans issues, what actually happens is perisex transness is understood only as binary perisex transness.

Feral praised how the school requiring Ash to use the staff bathroom was presented as a bad thing. It also liked when Ash points out that state law would require the school to let him use the boy’s bathroom if he was a trans boy, and the principal dismisses that by saying that Ash isn’t trans. It was a good way to highlight that while intersex people pretty much always get harmed by anti-trans laws & policies whether we’re explicitly targeted or not, we don’t necessarily get protections just because of the experience overlap if we aren’t explicitly named in the laws protecting trans people.

Rylee felt more conflicted about this, pointing out that Ash seemed angry/bitter about the (perisex) trans community, and while that’s relatable to many intersex people, it could have been handled more deftly.

Salt Wasting for Plot Reasons

So, Ash winds up in the hospital after having to live as a girl for an extended period of time. The hospitalization is clearly a plot device to get Ash out of the forced gender situation. And what Santana does is give Ash a very rare version of salt-wasting CAH that has incredibly gone undetected until he is in high school. For us this felt improbable, and it also felt unnecessary, because…

Giving Ash an eating disorder would have been far more realistic, and would have accomplished the same plot device. 🫤

Eating disorders are unfortunately very common among intersex & trans folks and it would have been productive to see that representation (especially for a masculine character!). It felt extra frustrating that Santana chose one of the very few intersex variations that gives people health problems. Feelings about that were mixed: we don’t want intersex to be pathologized, but it is also useful for people to know that some intersex variations like salt-wasting CAH do come with health concerns to be aware of.

One of the reasons that a few of us expected an eating disorder plot was how Ash was fatphobic to one of his friends, and ED hospitalization would set up a discussion of that. Instead, the fatphobia was left unaddressed.

The Clinician Interactions

A few of us felt that the way the physicians in the book were presented came off more as intersex fantasy than intersex reality. Too many of the physicians knew too much about intersex for it to feel realistic to us. In general, physicians in the book were also very respecting of informed consent in a way that also did not line up with own experiences of intersex-related health care. Positioning clinicians as advocates/allies just didn’t really feel realistic to us. 🙃

The fact that the clinicians in the book used the word intersex, rather than the extremely pathologizing and reactionary term “DSD” was appreciated. 💜 But it also contributed to the sense the book was writing a fantasy of how the author wants intersex patients to be treated, rather than how we actually are.

But on the other side of things, there is value in fantasy. More physicians should know more about intersex, and treat their intersex patients better! Intersex folks should expect better of our physicians than abject abuse and violent gender policing (even if that expectation is earned).

Bnuuy pointed out that this book had so many other common forms of trauma (sexual violence, abusive parents, bullying) that maybe it’s good to not also add medical trauma on top of it all? 

To a few of us, the medical accuracy felt superficial. Bnuuy described it as “like reading Wikipedia” - like the author had only really read medical texts about this extremely specific variant of CAH, rather than talking to people with this variation.

There were a couple of experiential things that Santana nailed! Like the scene where Ash is in the hospital and the physician is talking to Ash’s parents as though Ash isn’t there. This felt real to us. 💜

There is a point in the book where Ash’s family doctor retires and he gets a new one, and the discontinuity in care is a tension for him. This also felt realistic. Feral in particular related to how to this doctor immediately going into talking about puberty & assuming that pregnancy is something that he’d want & that he’d want his penis removed.

The Intermedicalist Vibes 

We were kind of unimpressed by how the physicians were lionized both in the book and the acknowledgments. Again, we think there’s value in role modeling better care for clinician readers. But it was just a little too ego-fawning for our tastes. 🧐

A bunch of us felt the book had intermedicalist vibes not just because of how the clinicians were presented, but how the intersex community was represented. 🧐 The book has several intersex characters, that Ash meets through a local intersex support group. Rather than highlight the wide variety of intersex variations, Santana is extremely consistent about only ever representing intersex as involving genital differences. 🫤

Santana explicitly defines intersex as the following: ““Intersex” encompasses a broad spectrum of genital and chromosomal conditions that fall outside the accepted sex binary.” - it is important for readers to know this is an exclusionist definition of intersex. Santana is very tellingly omitting hormonal variations from her definition of intersex. This goes against how every major intersex organization defines intersex, and it goes against the norms of the intersex community. 😡

Variations like PCOS-hyperandrogenism are intersex, and Santana is undermining the intersex community by instead deferring to how physicians define intersex. We were unimpressed, and it is a reason some of us are hesitant to recommend the book.

This said, Feral felt that the twist at the end of the book helped reduced the intermedicalist vibe: it showed how when intersex people hold intermedicalist views, it can hurt them.

The Parental Abuse

The parental abuse in this book felt very real to us, and many of us related to one or more aspects of it. Ash’s father was physically abusive. Ash’s mother was emotionally immature and abusive. As one participant put it: “it was a a fork twist in my stomach because it was familiar.” 😭

Feral praised the parts about Ash’s father seeing Ash being intersex as a personal failing, and a reflection on him as a man & father. It was very relatable and Feral has noticed a lot of perisex people assume that parents are (more) accepting of intersex since it can’t be seen as a choice, and so “I liked seeing the portrayal of how toxic masculinity ties into how some fathers treat their intersex children.”

While Ash very quickly wrote off his father for being physically abusive, it took him longer to realize his mother was also abusive, and this felt realistic. Feral brought up: “There’s a part where [Ash’s sister] is talking about the difference between their parents & she says ‘I thought mom was the good parent’ because her abuse was more subtle & based in manipulation rather than physical & screaming like their father is, and I really enjoyed it showing how sometimes abuse that seems lesser on a surface level can end up doing just as much or more damage psychologically.” 

We appreciated how Ash coming to terms with what he experienced was abused was not drawn out. As Remy put it: “I've read a lot of books on trauma and convincing the reader that what they experienced was abuse, so just kind of gotten what I needed from those plots.”

We liked the parallel between Ash’s mother refusing to believe that Ash’s sister is a lesbian, and her refusing to believe that Ash knows his gender.

Rylee mused that if Ash hadn’t been abused at home, he might have stood up for himself more. 🤔

The Custody Fight

Given how much effort Santana appeared to put into trying to make the health stuff accurate, it was surprising to us how implausible the custody fight felt. Ash never meets with a lawyer. His sister’s lawyer never sits him down to talk about his options or to prepare him for court. 🧐

Emancipation is never even mentioned as an option. This felt like a lost opportunity: for any intersex teenager reading this book who is in a similar situation, they should know this is a path that exists. It may not be an easy or viable path, but it’s one they should talk to a lawyer about. Again, including a conversation with Ash’s sister’s lawyer - e.g. “I recommend we try for [sister] to have custody since emancipation has these hurdles….” would have both bolstered the plausibility of the custody fight and spread useful information.

Once again, the book’s acknowledgements were discussed: Santana sought advice from physicians on the medical accuracy, but no lawyers are acknowledged as such. 🙃

Remy brought up how this book illustrates how children’s rights are vital to intersex rights, highlighting this passage: "It doesn’t matter,” Miss Marbury said, “because we still live by a system that considers the convenience of the parents before the well-being of the child. Until that changes, kids in your position have to deal with a lot of hardships.” I appreciated this spelling out of the issue. 🩷

The fact that the custody battle is resolved by Ash extorting his mother got mixed reactions. Elizabeth felt it was not a great moral. In contrast, Remy cheered: Ash got himself out of an unsafe situation, and dirty tactics are sometimes needed for this. Feral and Rylee pointed out that Ash gave his mother a choice.

Miscellaneous thoughts

The repeated references to the Salem witch trials got mixed reactions. There’s an apoliticized history of the witch trials that conveniently leaves out how these were intentionally antifeminist, pro-capitalist, and anti-Indigenous, that this book definitely is steeped in this apoliticized history of them.

Michelle liked how the character Ariel wasn’t a “palatable” character, as xe feels like they know that person.

Rylee pointed out that the name Ash Bishop is probably an allusion to the Alien franchise.

Who should read this book?

We spent a bunch of time talking about what circumstances we would and would not recommend this book. Elizabeth said ze’d only recommend it to folks who already know Intersex 101 and would understand this book is exclusionist. Elizabeth wants intermedicalists to read this book, because intersex people who are very insistent that sex != gethinnder can be very invalidating to those of us who are intergender, and ze thinks the book meets these people where they are.

We generally agreed that Power to Yield and Cattywampus make for better “first” intersex books for people to read. Remy argued this book was more nuanced than Across the Green Grass Fields, and would put it roughly in that tier of book that help move the needle but maybe don’t do everything right.

Feral shared: “This is the first intersex focused fiction I’ve read so I can’t compare it, but while I definitely wouldn’t want this to be someone’s entire idea of intersex experience, I do think this would be good for giving people an idea of what intersexism can look like, especially for perisex trans people who don’t quite get the complicated issues with gender & identity that can happen when you’re intersex & that gender assignment & expectations aren’t clear cut.”

We talked about the pressure on intersex books to “do it all” - if a reader only reads one intersex book, to ensure that all of the important points are made and no mixed messages are sent. 😵‍💫 It also puts a pressure on authors to talk more about trauma, to ensure that people know the issues we face, but people always aren’t up for doing the literary equivalent of eating their vegetables. We want and deserve more fun intersex books. (This was definitely a “eat your vegetables” book.)

We talked about trauma porn, and how literary awards tend to reward the textual equivalent of Oscar Bait, and how too much intersex literature (especially by perisex authors) is just trauma porn.

Even though this book had a ton of trauma in it, this book didn’t feel like trauma porn to us. Ash was given so much stuff to do other than suffer. The plot was well paced, didn’t dwell any longer than needed on traumatic events. As Michelle put it: “it focuses on the trauma and not the sensationalization.” Bnuuy pointed out that unlike trauma porn, which isolates people from community and resources, this book illustrated how finding and going to intersex organizations can be a hugely positive impact on one’s life as an intersex person. 💜

The character Thomas is presented as a foil to Ash – he’s also intersex, yet has parents who are accepting and affirming. Feral pointed out that Thomas’ inclusion was another thing that kept the book from feeling like trauma porn. 💜

We all agreed this book makes for a very good example of how to cover a lot of trauma yet still be very caring of the reader! 👍️

Final thoughts

We noticed that the acknowledgments section only acknowledged intersex people that Santana seems to consume the content of (i.e. para-social relationships), rather than any bi-directional acknowledgements (i.e. thank you for your feedback on the draft). This is always a bit of a red flag for us, and we hope that Santana has since gotten more connected to the intersex community! Being an intersex author does not mean you should skip on having other intersex people read your drafts 💜

We all hoped that Santana gets/has gotten quality feedback about the exclusionist, intermedicalist vibes; and that this isn’t the last book she writes on intersex!

[theposhsworld]

Sperm can travel to a woman's brain and remain there throughout her life:

Brain autopsy study

A study of brain tissue from 59 women found that 63% of them had male DNA in their brains. Th DNA was found in multiple brair regions, and in some cases, the women were over 90 years old.

I have written about this and why women act the way they do over a man.

Nature made it this way to ensure the survival of the male species.

A male is codependent by nature.

he can never survive or do without a woman.

he needs to be born by a woman, supported h a woman, nutured by a woman, etc.

look at most successful men, there's ALWAYS a woman behind his story,

could be his mom, his daughter, an ex who didn't believe in him, his wife, a lady who Invested and built him up, some Mistress etc.. there's always a female behind it!

without women, men are NOTHING

men need women to bear kids, cook and clean, take care of them , help their image.

when you realize that men need you more than you do need them..

you will stop being pick me ..

men benefit more from marriage and relationships than women while women loose more!

but they deceived you that you are incomplete without a man or there should be some chemistry or vibes 😂😂 so you give away your power cheaply.

something that a man is supposed to pay even with his life if need be.

in the past..men use to fight to DEATH to win a woman!

that's why married men live longer

baby boys secrete a hormone in the womb that goes to the mom's brain so she can protect him as the womb is a foreign environment to him.

that hormone is present in sperm.

so when we say a woman is dickmatized, no

her nerves are in disarray. she can't see what everyone is seeing about this asshole..

she thinks they are lying or misunderstanding him😂😂.

baby boys are more likely to dye at infant hood or as miscarriage as compared to baby girls because this fuxking Earth is feminine!

As the temperature is rising, it's harder to conceive boys naturally so we have more of girls being born because of natural selection.

most Ivfs are males because it was SELECTED.

I remember a woman trying to teach me special diets and sex styles so I can conceived a boy😂😂

it's easier to conceived female babies but they deceived you that something is wrong with you as a woman or your vg is too acidic that's why the y bearing spermatozoa dies off so he goes out to pregnant another woman..she gives birth to a boy and is celebrated as a strong woman.

girl !!the vg is supposed to be slightly acidic naturally!.

the pussy ain't supposed to alkaline, that's why you keep having yeast and bv!

this also means that sperm is TOXIC and foreign to the woman's body because it has a way of changing her whole chemistry.

y'all are having hormonal imbalances issues/PCOS so much these days because you keep taking in foreign matter in large doses, your immune system is messed up!

it takes only one out of millions released to pregnant a woman .. where does the rest go???

to her Brain! to her nervous system!

studies have also shown that mama boys are more likely to develop autoimmune issues or nervous system disorders like a woman in a very horrible abusive relationship.

yes you can be single and still develop toxic relationship issues especially if you have a son.

his DNA is your brain!

that's why a woman will see her son r@pe, k!l steal and still stand by him. she's a pick me for her son..a strange relationship.

so she automatically develops issues that comes with being in a toxuc relationship even though she may be married.to.a great spouse or single.

dear woman, your baby boys are killing you too.

either through your nerves or outrightly. yeah matricide will be on the increase as dating standards keep getting high and women not longer want to build a bear..

so he has no option than to be co dependent on mommy.

the y chromosome is disappearing slowly ( do your research about this)

Everything is going back to the original..the feminine.

there's a lot to loose with sexual indiscipline as a woman.

men benefits from your sexual cheapness more, that's why they sell you a fairytale of falling in love with chemistry and power couple shit.

men also know their sperm is toxic so they insult women who keep taking it worth words like "cum dumpster" or they see as a dustbin.

they also hate when you get pregnant for them so easily.

because that's a toxic stuff they just wanted to get out of their system and you took that garbage easily and made a whole baby.

.that baby reminds them of the garbage, so they walk away and abandon that child.

the truth is men fall In love when vasopressin is released and through stress . so if a woman stresses them out maybe he had to invest something in her first like marriage or got her job or set her up financially or committed some deep emotions to her..

even if athe relationship ends..he is less likely to abandon the kids because he sees them as his reward 😂😂.

tis is why we have the terms legitimate and illegitimate kids! even if it's from the same father..

men will treat kids from their wives or ex wives better than the maid that just cheaply off her pants in the corner of the dark.

because he invested in that wife at least he walked down the altar except if the wife /ex wife was a pick me who built him up or supported him and he never had to do much.in the relationship to EARN her.

he will abandon those kids or worst still use them to fight her.

lol this is male nature.

how a man treats you after break up is an indication that your marriage or relationship was very toxic or good and you were a pick me at some point.

men always punish pick me women sometimes for life because you emasculated him even if it was in ignorance.

they will keep haunting that woman wve after years of break up.

I mean see maria Carrey situation.

nick still disrespecting their memories together.

NOW there's a solution..

this is where the alchemist comes in.

you can transmute anything.

this is where the energy healer comes in

you can completely rewire your nervous system, erase the past, severe the cords totally and embody the aura of a virgin. yeap. you can start all over again on a CLEAN slate.

this is where the witch comes.

you can spell/ control that man with his residual DNA in your system.. especially if he becomes rich and successful after you guys broke up and you want your own share of the pie.

as long as he has slept with you before, you can always re attract him back or even punish him.

or you control your current man ...yes sis, men Sabi embarrass person.. put that man on a leash so he stops causing chaos in people's lives..no body forced you to marry or be in a committed relationship, so deal with your choices..

the way a man treats you is actually a reflection of your inner energy.

I know this is hard to accept but this explains why a man will treat one woman better than the other.

if your husband is constantly embarrassing you, it tells more about you than him, because you are tolerating such .

and for you to keep tolerating such means you have poor self concept and scarcity mindset.

there's another woman he will be with, he won't try it because he knows she will leave immediately.

So nah married men dey do more atrocities more, because of the stability of the feminine In their lives!

...the same hold a mom has over her son..you too have it due that same hormone in your brain

.yours is even more powerful because you are more self aware and it is legal/morally accepted to be in a sexual relationship with him than his mom.

that's why MIL and DIL are always at loggerheads.

but this still proofs that women have ALL the power!

but prevention is better than cure .

stop letting men traumatized you ..

don't be cheap or too easy.

if you can't control your libido, get sax toys! or cucumber. watch corn and masturbate and be safe than doing it with a random dude.

you have so much to loose by casual sax.

imagine having the DNA of a rupist or broke bad luck addict scum of the earth dude on you for life! jeeez!

you see why a lot of women get more bitter or very sick with age..all these long suffering sicknesses..

there's a whole lot going on inside of her.

women get bitter or better with age.

Your choice.

and the sad thing is men always punish women they were codependent on on any capacity.

if it's a romantic partner, he will either leave or cheat on her.

if it's a mom, he will continue to stress her nerves, they used for everything even to manage their careers without a pay or breaks.

.I mean you have 40 years olds still living with their moms..so Men may outrightly unalive or abandon her for a pick me to take care of

#thearchitect

Credit Pearl notes

[starstruckpurple]

What the heck... Last night I learned PCOS is an intersex variation. Tbh, this was not a new info for me, first time I just brushed it off to "meh, I am not intersex, I am a woman (with some nonbinary spice on top)" (I know, I know. It was bad to say). This was me in the beginning of this year. Fast forward to now, I am having second thoughts about myself.

The only way to make sense of this, for me, is being completely honest. I have been diagnosed with PCOS for about a decade now. I have bad memory issues stemming from a childhood filled with dissociation (and I think I am plural but more on that later), so I don't really recall how growing up was like for me, apart from a few core memories. I was your typical "I am not like other girls, they are so interested in makeup and clothes and boys" (mind you this was back in...2010s). I took pride in the fact that I was different from them, which gradually turned to shame due to not being like them. When my PCOS symptoms appeared (especially excessive hair and lack of periods), I, already being a fat and not conventionally attractive, neurodivergent child, started feeling alienated from everyone around me (which were mostly girls). My family pressured me into conforming to their versions of femininity (shaving, wearing certain clothes, wanting me to lose weight, stick to gender roles, etc). Not to mention the bullying I got from my older brother for years. That really affected my self-esteem and body image. I started to feel like a failed woman. So I thought, why not embrace this? I was already in-between a man and a woman. Not woman enough, not man enough. I had a transmasc phase, and I love transmasc people, but their experiences, although quite familiar to me, didn't really capture what I felt and went through. I don't want to disrespect anyone's experiences in any way. In the end I settled for the term nonbinary. I still feel a connection to it, on the basis that if I was born as opposite sex (these terms might be offensive, I apologise, I am still learning about all this), I would still feel some sort of gender dysphoria.

For the last six months especially, but also for a while before that, I have been slowly embracing femininity. All this time, I felt like going through a PCOS puberty stole a certain, queer femininity from me. This might not make sense to some people... But I know that some people here on this tag might relate to it... Because I did relate when I read all of your experiences. I saw how some people didn't think "AFAB"s can be transfem, I was AFAB. I thought I was. I didn't know why I felt closer to transfems, though. I didn't want to admit it because I felt like I didn't deserve to "invade" their space... Even now, I am still hesistant. Just because some doctor assigned me as xyz, doesn't really mean my individual experience with xyz will mirror that, right?

I have been realizing, all too suddenly, I have so many contradictionary labels. This apparently pisses some people off, because words have meanings yada yada, but my experience is real and valid. It stole so much from me, so many experiences that I have never had. It left me with bunch of other stuff that I learned to use for some sort of survival... I don't know what I am talking about really... This will take a while to process. Kinda scary and I feel alone, sometimes.

[crowfem]

•*Current Beliefs and Stances*•

hello and welcome to my blog! i am new to radfem but I am not new to feminism. i have been reading more and more and just want to put my beliefs and stances at the top of the blog. this will be updated as I learn and grow more.

note: if you wish to talk in comments, asks, etc. i will be willing to answer and listen as long as everything comes from a place of mutual respect and desire to learn/grow

‧𓍢ִ໋☕ ׂ 𓈒 ⋆ ۪

there is a fundamental difference between female and male socialization (especially in fundamental religious spaces!)

i am anti-porn, anti-sex work, and kink critical as i know that these spaces can be used to victimize women and children

i include men somewhat in my feminism as i know that the patriarchy harms and grooms young boys. however, i will always prioritize women and their voices, writing, etc.

gender stereotypes need to abolished. women and girls need to know they can do and enjoy traditionally masculine things without being a man. vice versa for men and boys

i have a complicated view on trans discussions. while i may not agree with everything, i sympathize with those that have body dysphoria as i know how crippling that feeling can be and i do not wish for them to suffer.

i advocate for mental health care and services. i advocate for services for the homeless population. i see the inherent value of all human life especially when we are in community with one another

anti-capitalism and anti-war - this includes genocide and the fascists that attempt to take over our world and bodies

i center myself in a “eco” worldview instead of “ego” - this planet is our home and we all need to do our part to keep it safe. AI and the like can rot ‼️

i work in the education field and i aim to get my Phd one day. i believe that education is one of the aspects of true liberation

i am always willing to learn - i know i may be wrong on some things based on personal experiences and am open to respectful conversations

feminism MUST be intersectional. i have learned a lot of from the woc in my life about misogynoir and the differences we go through. all women must be free or none of us are

i have learned through my own life that medical professionals do not focus on women with any sort of medical issues - including but not limited to pregnancy, pcos, mental health issues, and much much more

extra:

i love to learn - i have lots of special interests besides feminism/social issues

media of all kinds (books, movies, tv shows, theater, etc)

writing! i hope to be an author one day and am greatly inspired by the women authors who have come before me

fantasy, dnd, and video games

animals!

aesthetics and art

lesbian history (proud wlw and love my gf 🥰)

that’s about it! i will be working on making a resource post to link to this in the future •*

[edgessunflower]

Hi, cutie pie. Can I request PCOS comfort with poly! Judgement Day? Because of this syndrome of mine, I'm basically growing a beard under my chin and my mom said I look like a man if I don't shave, maybe you could do something like the boys and Rhea helping reader to shave?

Support system

Pairing: Judgement day x Fem reader

Description: Your partners help you deal with your PCOS especially with your unwanted facial hair

Embarrassment floods through you looking in the mirror only to notice the small patch of little hairs under your chin making tears form in your eyes as Dom walks in. You lean against him as he wraps his arms around you with his chin on your shoulder "What's wrong pretty girl?" the pet name makes your heart swell and crack as you sigh slowly lifting your face up where he sees "Oh baby it's okay this can be taken care of" all your partners knew of your condition with PCOS and knew that it made you self conscious with what it did to you from the chin hair, bad acne, to oily skin, and your period being chaotic as all hell but your partners always helped you in anyway they could and never judged you for your condition and when it affected you badly like right now as dom holds you "What's going on loves?" you smile seeing Rhea as she brushes her hair watching dom grab a razor "Starting to get stubble?" she laughs at his offended look before you show her your chin making her run her hands along your cheek "We could wax this" your eyes widen remembering the last time Finn waxed your chin when the two of you were at home while the others were on the road turning when you hear Damian chuckle before pressing a kiss on your forehead. After talking for a bit rhea came back in the bathroom with an eyebrow razor sitting you on the sink counter slowly gliding it along your chin while damian made breakfast downstairs with finn cracking jokes and dom gently teaching you how to use a normal razor if you needed to use it and rhea doing the same with the eyebrow razor since you didn't use them opting to just pluck the hairs with tweezers and letting finn wax it one time and once only after the waxing made your chin bleed a little smiling as you look at your now smooth chin before heading downstairs and having breakfast together leading to now as you lay on damian wrapped in his arms watching tv who noticed that you were in a bit of pain and more tired but that didn't bother him giving you Tylenol and snuggling you "Go to sleep Mariposa we'll be here" the other three smile seeing you asleep on damian before waking up an hour later grabbing and putting on dom's hoodie feeling more tired than you had before dozing off until you feel yourself be lifted off the couch opening your eyes slightly to see finn carrying you to bed tucking you in as rhea wrapped you in her arms rubbing her hand on your side under the hoodie and loose shirt. The next day all of them each told and taught you how to shave in case you needed to while all of them were on the road and couldn't do it for you or help you melting at how caring they were smiling as you are tucked between damian and rhea in bed watching tv after dinner smothered in cuddles, love, and kisses until you fell asleep to dom rubbing your arm and molded against damian listening to his heartbeat after each of you shared a soft kiss and an I love you to each other.

[bardic-tales]

I'm back now. It didn't take too long. About 10 minutes at the lab. I'm extremely lucky that the lab my doctor uses is right next to my doctor's office. I should have the results either later today or tomorrow.

The doctor is worried about my Vt. D levels, still. I am still so tired. But I am also prediabetic, as I have PCOS. Hopefully, the results will be better than last year.

The phlebotomist was the same girl, but it was quick this time. Only thing that really went wrong was the tape to hold the gauze to the syringe mark wouldn't stick. About 10 minutes from the check-in to walking out.

I hate getting poked, but nothing beats the time my best friend went with me to get blood work. We were 15 and 16 at the time, and my doctor then was trying to figure out why my heart skipped a beat. Well, my friend ended up passing out. We still joke about that when I go home from time to time.

I did imagine Sephiroth was with me, holding my hand. This is part of my self-shipping and the comfort this character gave me for 28 years. You see, MY Sephiroth, the one I ship myself with, is different from the FWC's one. My one is like a combo of both the 1st Class SOLDIER and the One-Winged Angel. He's more tempered? I guess.

I should introduce my S/I that I created a few weeks ago to place me there. While I sometimes use Bia as a stand-in for myself, but she is more of an OC. And I sure couldn't handle the full One-Winged Angel like she could. lol. My S/I is named Colette. She is a failed novelist who writes fan fiction of the boys. She also is a shop keeper who loves knicknacks and items like that? They met on patrol. She literally walked into him on accident.

The diner we tend to go to is a little hole in the wall. That was quick too. There were few people at both places.

Thanks for all the well wishes and everything. Now, I want to write a fic where Bianca takes both Vincent, Lucrecia, and Baby!Seph to a pocket dimension so those three could be a family.

[transfemme-shelterdog]

(forcemasc anon, huge vent) this is such a stupid thing. but. my period started unexpectedly (should have expected it, i have pcos) and im in so much pain and also so tired of the dysphoria and mental hurt and even more pain. and also i had to go get a (womens) kurta tailored today for an event im going to (not out to anyone in my family) and my mom had them cinch in the waist a little to "give it shape" and because i loved the lack of defined waist i died inside but went with it because. i already have a masc closet and hair that gets me gendered correctly even though im not on T yet and my voice is high pitched, because everyone is so conservative theyd sooner consider a faggy short boy with tits than a girl with an army cut (idek how those mental gymnastics work but theyre not wrong about me specifically) and i just. i cant take those privileges for granted because my parents would kill me if they knew i was trans, even though they make fun of me for being "a boy" and being called sir because of it etc etc and i caNNOT go back to long hair and girly hairstyles. im so glad ive always hated dresses and threw tantrums when my mom started putting me in dresses past the age where i could object to my own wardrobe. i dont know why im telling you this. im just so tired and so hurt and i wish i wasnt born this way sometimes. i dont know how to alleviate the dysphoria i dont know how to stop the pain and hurt and im so, so tired. im just so tired. i hate having my period and i should be allowed to kill doctors with hammers for daring to suggest that "women" cant have facial hair and should shave and go on oestrogen to "fix" their bodies. even though it doesnt apply to me and i like having extra androgens, i know that it could be an insecurity in cis women/girls. but like. fuck everything and everyone and fuck my stupid baka life. im sorry. you can delete this. i just need to get it out of my system tbh. i wish somebody would validate my pain and like, hug me or something idk. i dont like my parents touching me at all and theyre the only contact i have regularly becuase all my friends live at minimum an hour away and since im "a girl" and from an extremely conservative family i cant hang out with the guys who live ten minutes away from me or take a cab to any place ever. fuck. fuck.

Anon, I'm so terribly sorry to hear that you're going through this. I really am. I wish I could be there to just give you a big hug, and tell you that everything will be ok. I wish I could help you get to a better place where you can be your most authentic self.

You're a man, and nothing will ever change that. Always have, and always will be.

Your pain is valid, and I truly hope that you can get the help that you need as soon as possible.

I'll always be here for you, and always here to offer the love and support that you crave <3

[edai-crplpnk]

Some Team 7 + Team 10 chara sheets!

I did more chara sheets for my modern AU. (I did Team 8 + Sand Sibs here!) They don't appear much in the fics I already wrote, I don't know if they will in the future (maybe some plan for Naruto & Jiraiya fic one day?) but I have headcanons for them!

1 - The Girlfriends

Additional facts!

Sakura:

She's been best friend with Naruto since childhood and was quite scared to come out to him as a teen, not so much because she thought he'd reject her entirely but more because she was scared it would change their dynamics if they weren't boy friends anymore. Naruto was very excited about the whole thing, and supported her plenty in her transition.

She's training to be a surgeon and met Ino in med school.

In Seeing Stars, she is roommate with Lee and Tenten, but she'll move in with Ino later, and Gaara will take her place (well, more like he'll take Lee's bed room and there is one free now but-)

This is my "everyone is gay, everyone is disabled" AU and she is the token abled chara for now, but that might change if I get inspired. Not fully set on that.

Ino:

She's known she was a lesbian (although maybe not in this word) since very young. Also, at the time, Shikamaru and Chouji were perceived as such too, so that made them a trio.

She graduates to be a physical therapist around the year of Seeing Stars. She trained a lot on Sakura (lovingly) and Lee (more brutally).

Her endometriosis is somewhat managed by progesterone but she still has some flare-ups from time to time.

2 - The Boyfriends

Chouji:

They are Brazilian through their mother and Japanese through Chouza.

They struggled a bit figuring out their gender and tried presenting more masculine earlier in their transition, cutting their hair short and all that, but really didn't like it and, after some distress and talking it through with Ino and Shikamaru, let themself own that they were, really, a femboy. He is cool with masculine words (like being Shikamaru's boyfriend).

They considered stopping T after a while but liked how it felt for the most part, and it also helped manage PCOS symptoms.

He is rather sensory-seeking and loves being able to play around with textures, colours and sparkles.

He manages chronic pain with compressive clothes, knee braces and crutches.

Shikamaru:

Identified as a boy for about forever, and was very uncomfortable with being perceived as a lesbian with Chouji as a teen (which Chouji didn't really mind on his end), in a good part because of dysphoria, but also because he's never been into girls? (Dating Chouji has been a lot of confusion until they both figured themselves out, but it did feel right, somehow. Now he knows why.)

It might not have happened yet by the time of Seeing Stars because this shit takes time, but he is eventually getting phalloplasty and a cool tattoo sleeve on his left arm afterwards to hide the graft site.

Between his fatigue and Chouij's pain, they are a very cuddly pair and spending a lot of time in each other's presence at home. It's not always easy to go out and do things whatever they may be, but they make sure that the time they spend home together feels significant and not just routine.

3 - The Not Boyfriends

Naruto:

After some chaotic and pretty traumatic time in the foster care system as a baby and young child, he was taken in by Jiraiya, a relative of Kushina. He still lives with him as an adult, though they have a more roommate-y relationship than father/son.

He has struggled a lot with school the whole time, and it got worse after being separated from Sasuke (see below) and Sakura (because he failed and had to repeat some years along the way). He didn't graduate from high school in the end.

He does restaurant delivery by bike for a living, which provides him with both a lot of time spent working the hyperactivity out, and social contact with all the cooks in the neighbourhood (who all love him and have adopted him like a stray cat.)

He is very good friend with Kiba. They met in group therapy but Kiba is not great at that so they mostly meet to smoke together.

He is bi but probably too obsessed with Sasuke and the faith he have they'll be together again to really put himself out there for anyone.

Sasuke:

He and Naruto were close (and eventually sort of dating) as children and teens, but they got into a fireworks accident together where they both lost an arm (and Sasuke some hearing). Fugaku moved him to private schooling after the events, and they haven't reconnected since then.

He has sort of convinced himself he is straight, not even out of complicated feelings for his sexuality, but really just to be able to think he isn't and has never been into Naruto, because he resents him a lot for the accident and doesn't want to come to term with forgiveness or even just admitting he is still important to him.

He's tried using a prosthetic arm for years after his injury, but never quite found one he managed to work with. He also has important phantom pain that plays into that.

For now, he's joined the police like Fugaku. Let's all hope he'll get himself together eventually.

[defilerwyrm]

I feel so stupid to say this but I'm a trans man, but I have a lot of learning disabilities so I'm trying to understand things better. I was born AFAB but I'm trying to understand how "bio sex" works and if it is even real. I've heard a lot of people say it isn't but that makes me feel sorta as if my transness isn't valid then. I do not agree w trans meds at all, they're terf lites and their "male/female brain" stuff is so wrong. But I'm curious since the brain isn't gendered, what makes us the bio sex we are? I get gender is different and it is WHO we are and how we think and present etc but can you explain bio sex please? :) I also really want phallo and top surgery and it makes me curious how gender which is a social construct has an urge to match up with biology somehow? Like how come my dysphoria feels so bad that I lack a dick..how does my gender want that?

Hoo boy. Biological sex is actually really complex. It’s made up of your sex chromosomes, sex hormones, primary sex characteristics developed as a fetus, secondary sex characteristics developed in puberty, and I think a few other factors I’m forgetting. All of these elements are not binary (meaning there are only two options), but instead bimodal (meaning there are two options that are the most common, but there are others).

So using myself as an example, my chromosomes are unknown because I’ve never been karyotyped (tested for sex chromosomes); my endocrine system is almost completely testosterone-based; I have zero “female” reproductive organs and most of the “male” ones (minus testes); and I have a few “female” sex characteristics (undeveloped hyoid (Adam’s apple), wide hips, narrow shoulders, smallish hands & feet) and many “male” ones (deep voice, broad jaw, flat chest, vascular hands, body hair, facial hair, male pattern alopecia, male fat distribution, lower body temperature, high sex drive). So without knowing what my chromosomes are, by all accounts I’m male.

The whole male brain/female brain thing has been pretty well debunked. There are only subtle differences between the brains of cis men and cis women at the population level, and those physical differences that do exist are most likely caused by differences in socialization for certain skillsets. In other words, if you teach boys and girls that they’re supposed to be good at different things as they’re growing up, their brains will develop to be better at those things that they practice from an early age—be that fine motor skills, or telling colors apart, or interpreting other people’s tone and moods, or being empathetic, etc. Obviously there are disabilities that can stand in the way or complicate matters, but there’s something called the Pygmalion effect where if you consistently tell a child that they’re good at a certain thing, they will BECOME good at it—and if you consistently tell a child they’re bad at a thing, they will do poorly at it.

Something I find really interesting, talking about the link between biological sex and gender identity, is the prevalence of PCOS (poly-cystic ovarian syndrome) in trans men. The rates shown by studies varies a lot, but taking average rates, about 5% (1 in 20) AFAB people have PCOS, but about 60% (3 in 5) trans men have it. PCOS is an endocrine condition (and, arguably, an intersex condition) that has a slew of effects, and one of those is relatively high levels of androgens like testosterone. The REALLY interesting part is that PCOS medications that decrease testosterone and increase estrogen result in MORE gender dysphoria for trans men and LESS in cis women! I remember before I even figure out I’m trans, my mom told me I needed to get on metformin to decrease testosterone and boost estrogen, and the very thought of it made me nauseous and angry!

A possible interpretation of that is that there is an intrinsic link between our gender identity and our physical sex that opposes our primary sex characteristics. In other words, we’re MEANT to be men and our bodies know it.

(Now, things like this on the trans woman side, I will admit I don’t know offhand; you’d have to ask a trans woman who follows medical science. I would point you to my sister because she fits the bill, but we have an unspoken agreement to keep our online lives separate for privacy. That is to say, I don’t remember her blog name lmao sorry sis)

But yeah. The thing about top and bottom dysphoria is that it isn’t like social dysphoria where it depends on how you’re seen by others. It’s an internal knowledge—a gnosis, if you will—that something is WRONG regardless of what others think, say, or do. Speaking for myself again, sure you can be a man without a dick, fine, whatever, but I, personally, was supposed to have one. It wasn’t the social construction of what masculinity is supposed to entail that made me hate my tits and cooch, it was the fact that they felt horrible and wrong and I knew I was meant to have a flat chest, dick, and balls instead. And that feeling of wrongness started at a very young age, if I’m honest; I just didn’t have the vocabulary and knowledge to identify it until my mid-20s.

How does this relate to my PCOS? We don’t actually know. But don’t you think it’s interesting that the signs that I was trans were there long before my first puberty awakened the PCOS in the first place?

Gender roles are a fluid social construct. What’s considered masculine and feminine change with culture and time. But gender identity is, as far as medical science can figure, hardwired in the brain. For most people, by happy coincidence of sex and gender being bimodal, their physical sex (as complex as it is!) and gender identity more or less align, and they never really have to think about it. For others, there is a natural misalignment between the two—and it can take quite some time to figure it all out, because our cultures try very to force a bimodal spectrum into a binary box.

I think I’ve rambled enough, hey? Let’s see if my dogshit wifi will let me post this without losing everything.