#Negative Or Neutral

[aro-bird]

Here's me begging people again to learn the difference because I've been seeing more and more people confuse these terms when discussing some things in the ace community:

Sex-Favorable - A descriptor that refers to a person's personal feelings about engaging in the act of sex that specifically refers to them being fine and even enthusiastic in engaging in sex and other sexual acts. Often confused by some as Sex-Positivity.

Sex-Positive - A moral or political position that refers to a positive outlook on sex as something positive and something that should not be shamed for any consenting persons regardless of their own personal feelings towards sexual acts on themselves.

Sex-Indifferent - A descriptor that refers to a person's personal feelings about engaging in the act of sex that specifically refers to them being indifferent in engaging in sex and other sexual acts.

Sex-Neutral - A moral or political position that refers to an indifferent outlook on sex. They may not have strong feelings about it one way or another.

Sex-Averse - A descriptor that refers to a person's personal feelings about engaging in the act of sex that specifically refers to them being averse in engaging in sex and other sexual acts. Often confused by some as sex-repulsion.

Sex-Repulsed - A descriptor that refers to a person's personal feelings about engaging in the act of sex that specifically refers to them being repulsed or disgusted by thoughts or material related to sex. This has no bearing on their own political/moral position on sex. Often confused by some as Sex-Aversion or even Sex-Negativity.

Sex-Negative - A moral or political position that refers to a negative view on sex as something negative and something that should be forbidden and only be a means of procreation. Some people who are sex-negative may only view it as a way to procreate so people who engage in the activity without any plans of procreation (and especially members of the queer community) may be deemed as immoral or even evil.

If we're going to have proper discussions of these things, please please please can we use the proper terms. I need to stop feeling fight or flight whenever I see someone trying to vent about "some rude sex-positive aces" or see someone proclaim that they're "sex-negative" like I'm serious. I keep on having to double-take whenever I have to read posts and discussions because of this.

[everyones-favorite-butchboy]

just had the realization that when people say “i want you carnally” its not a fucked up pseudo-meme like ive been using it. there are people that actually mean it and actually have other people in their sexual fantasies. shocked and upset.

[inthebestcasescenario]

Anyone else feeling déjà vu

(If you're negative about S14-15 on this post I will probably block you, sorry)

[brainbleach6]

shout out to all the ace peeps who fluctuate between sex ok or positive to sex negative randomly and are tired of hearing "But you were okay with it yesterday!"

Also, shout out to my fellow autistics who fluctuate between touch-starved and touch-aversion and have to hear the same thing if we say something.

[fiona-fififi]

No, Buck. You should not call your shitty ex-boyfriend and apologize for being mean to him after he chose to undermine your relationship with your best friend, actually.

Like, that shit was uncalled for. After he clocked Buck living in Eddie's house and clearly struggling with losing him, he's going to say some shit painting Eddie as competition instead of offering literally any form of comfort, like, I don't know, not implying that Buck's best friend being out of the way is somehow a win for him??

[menlove]

there is drama and discourse in the beatles fandom the average tumblr user couldn't even fathom or comprehend

[kiwisandpearls]

if you were to tell the younger version of me that I’d hyperfixate on Batman and other dc characters I would probably look at you like you grew two heads

[ilynpilled]

cannibalism metaphor for love googoo gaga whatever is a good microcosm of this recent tendency of the corniest ppl alive to be obsessed with dark themes in the most psuedo-intellectual and defanged way imaginable and purely bc they think it makes them more #punk like i wouldnt find u ppl annoying or weird at all if u were just into and find catharsis in very dark shit my annoyance is with this whole performance of trying to appear very cool fringe and into taboo and treating it like the core tenet of ur identity lol it comes off as so inauthentic and lame

[cotardspringtrap]

This is how some of y'all draw William x Henry

[adhdo5]

I was prompted to post these a bit ago bc of my madness posting abt the Xiyao laundry audioextra upload someone posted like last week and I think there is really a lot there in the Xiyao laundry thing in general (hashtag release the Yunping tapes) and not all of it is smth I see ~talked abt as much as I think it deserves SO . Collected thoughts on Xiyao laundry

OK so like Yeah they're cute. I absolutely get why people's primary reaction to this is that it's cute and I think this is not even wrong. The politics of uselessness r complicated and I Will be returning to this but a legitimate angle of this is that LXC, who has spent his life largely defined by the fact that he pretty much excels at everything expected of him, has nothing expected of him and gets to be incompetent at something he ~feels obligated to do and have that not actually be a fail state, still get offered the same kindness regardless of his ability to be exceedingly capable/responsible etc.; meanwhile MY, who historically has had pretty much no one ever gaf about whether he's struggling or overworked or generally about him as a person (and the audiodrama extra version even has a bit where MY's coworkers are shit talking him including talking abt how he's probably not even actually doing any work), has someone earnestly caring about that, if ineffectually, and materially recognizing his workload as important and effortful and trying to help him with it. That is I think legitimately kind of sweet! Especially if one interprets the "he didn't even know who I was" line as true and as in the audiodrama extra this is set b4 MY figures it out! They appreciate each other in ways they don't usually get to be appreciated and it's nontransactional in this way and ;x;

HOWEVER. #Nuance. There's Other Angles.

I've talked abt this before inc on my blog but I do kind of never get tired of thinking abt it: there's a reason LXC is incapable of doing laundry and it's not just inexperience it's that he is physically incapable of the task bc of his cultivator strength!!!!! And the disparity of cultivation level is explicitly a class thing w/ JGY wrt 3zun especially!!! No matter his intention Zewu-jun CANNOT SULLY HIS HANDS WITH THE TASK bangs my head against a wall. It's such an innocuous detail yet it captures how from even this early on in their relationship and in this context it's not ignorable how much LXC is in fact a nobleman where JGY is not and this is a literal physical difference and it's in his very flesh and it has explicitly destructive results. See again vampire AU posting

And going off that it's notable how this does in fact also end up creating more work and while MY doesn't begrudge that in the moment and it's pettier here and arguably inextricable with the first point (LXC is not only incapable here he's actively bad at something, he actively makes smth worse and he's forgiven for it and that's genuinely kind of nice) it's it's also worth noting more grimly given how their relationship ends. It's not just destructive it's destructive to MY specifically

And on the notes of "inextricable from first point but also tragic" – it's sweet tht LXC gets no external consequences for this (yet lol) but is that really something he can Accept. It is an arguably underexamined element of Sunshot Xiyao how fucking miserable LXC is; he might be in an environment where this isn't fucking him up but he did bring his complexes here and you don't suddenly know how to accept that kind of grace yknow – and, and this is tangentially related to the stuff I was posting earlier today, this is one of the first of several kinds of vulnerability that LXC's almost only able to experience with MY/JGY. Considering how much that's arguably a running theme for them and considering where that leads that's also quite Foreshadowing Dismal!!

This is an audio drama exclusive but the way in the audiodrama extra ver that MY realizes who LXC is here and then ~lies about it is also crunchy as helllllll

AND between the coworkers thing in the audiodrama extra and the added scenes in the donghua and this and the notion in general (which comes from MXTX's post) that it's important they do the laundry themselves bc the robes would give LXC away it's a highlight of how genuinely precarious this is for MY which is another thing that both makes it more sweet and more. Despair.

It's just so lovely how it is both indicative of how genuinely good they are to and for each other, the ways in which they're meaningfully and significantly compassionate and helpful to one another, and also of the ways in which their situation here is precarious and high-stress and dangerous as fuck, AND also the ways in which they hurt each other so so bad, and how all of those things are largely different facets of the same qualities and the same significances. And That's My Post. Stream Apple Pie by the Scary Jokes

[skunkes]

The Sims ass conversation between me and best friend

[mydaylight]

I feel I'm the only person in the GeorgeBertha fandom who is not panicking about the possibility of divorce. I don't know guys I'm not convinced yet

[cinematicillness]

[cinnabar-circus]

2023 | 99

[ballsbalb]

reminder to myself: don’t look at what lando fans say about oscar, it’s not worth it

[drakyions]

finally got around to redrawing at least my cloud-through-other-people's-eyes comparisons i mentioned here

these perceptions can fluctuate which is particularly common with aerith's and occasionally with tifa. aerith gets flashes that are a mix of multiple perceptions, differing colors and particularly hair length due to how in-tune with everything she is but despite that she's more susceptible to the 'hunter's draw' per se of jenova due to being half cetra. she does over time start seeing something closer to the 'real cloud', but that itself is being used as a lure by jenova. tifa occasionally sees aspects that people with negative perceptions to SOLDIERs will see - brighter eyes, scars that should be healed over, generally just a little bit freakier at times, but its usually very brief. also bonus.