#NO ABLEISTS ALLOWED ON THIS POST

[disabeetled]

Actual goddamn cluster B positivity post

since i rarley see Cluster B positivity beyond "ohhh theyre still people! they arent scary!" i decided id make one

hey cluster b folks! among folks i know who have i have observed...

your passion to get help, not just for you but for others suffering

your ability to be creative and make the coolest goddamn things

your ability to bring your heart to any situation

your ability to look at situations obectivley

your ability to ask for help

your fear that you will hurt you or others, and the very real upset that causes

your ability to be compassionate, a quality science says you lack

your ability to laugh, smile, joke around

your ability to make others laugh and smile

take what positive statement applies to you, leave the rest. i wish you all well. im sorry that society as a whole doesnt "get" you. you and your struggles are real. even if youre just doing DIY healing and not seeint a professionial because you are afraid, or due to any other situation, youre valid. please know i love you (the cluster b person reading this) sm

also anyone who comments shit abt Narcissistic Abuse or how people w ASPD are scary or WHATEVER OTHER ABELIST BS will be immediatley blocked. really and truly: the abelist trying to comment's opinons do. not. matter. i dont care if youve been hurt! my goddamn groomer had BPD but *there is good in ppl*

[equalperson]

something that far too few people--including other autistics--acknowledge about higher-support autism is the defenselessness that comes with it, namely when you don't have a high-quality caregiver or support system.

so many people only talk about the impairments that come with low-support autism, the things that you can easily cope with through self-accommodation, sensory aids, and understanding; so little attention goes out to those of us who can't help ourselves, at least not enough to remain physically safe and healthy on our own.

I'm visibly dirty (dermatitis neglecta) because I have anxiety attacks when I try to task-switch and bathe. nearly a quarter of My teeth are decayed because I go months without brushing. at the time of writing, I've lost over 3% of My body weight in the past month due to inertia preventing Me from eating more than once a day.

I can't simply use a schedule or set alarms, because I end up not acknowledging either of them (except to turn the latter off). the "simple fixes" that low-support autistics recommend offer little-to-no improvement for Me.

that's ultimately the difference between low-support autism and medium/high-support autism: someone with LSN can accommodate themself enough to stay afloat, whereas someone with MSN/HSN literally needs another person to do some or all things for them.

because of this, people whose caregivers believe they don't need assistance (My situation), believe their autism can be disciplined away, are too careless or busy to help them, and those who don't have and can't easily access a caregiver at all are left in a totally isolated position.

at best, either our caregivers' attitudes or our autism miraculously improve and we're able to get our needs met. at worst, we continuously suffer until we experience a medical crisis from the neglect or seriously injure (if not kill) ourselves for the same reason.

this isn't to say that autism--even higher-support autism--is all horrible, but I really do wish that more autistic advocacy focused on relieving this helplessness, rather than just the self-advocacy of low-support individuals.

[seaweedstarshine]

Sometimes I think of Amy Pond, who grew up being called mad by those who wielded the word as a tool of exclusion and shame —

Amy Pond, who though forced into the hands of four psychiatrists, still clung to that which they called madness until those systems which elevate psychosocial conformity above humanity stripped it from her —

Amy Pond, whose imaginary friend reappeared for a single hour after twelve years and reignited that faith before disappearing for two more years —

Amy Pond, who spent those those two years under the same implicit threat ingrained in her through psychiatric violence, and thus began to believe the man who stopped the invasion was “just a madman with a box,” only for him to agree, and to also call her “mad, impossible Amy Pond,” reframing madness as non-negative for the first time in her life —

Amy Pond, who ignored the disembodied voice of her imaginary friend even as she ran away with him for real, who still lived each day with the traumatic internalization of deviancy dictated upon her by the psychiatric-industrial complex that shaped her from childhood —

Amy Pond, who wouldn't acknowledge the Doctor's voice, such that it took an Angel in her eye that was literally killing her to ensure she couldn't reality check herself —

Amy Pond, who stood before a room which muttered about “the psychiatrists we brought her to,” and though afraid, escaped their rigid parameters of acceptable existence.

[writterings]

procastinating at work but here's my philosophy for today: it's okay to hate a behavior in someone else but also understand that this behavior does not make them a bad person. like i HATE when i'm venting or talking about a serious problem i have and then the person i'm talking to starts trying to relate by talking about a similar experience they've had. like absolutely hate it. make me feel like the focus is being taken off me and it genuinely is in some ways, regardless of your intent. yeah, i understand that's your way of trying to comfort me -- but that's not the way i need or want to be comforted, and that's what matters in a situation where i'm coming to you to be helped.

and that's okay! like. no one is in the wrong here unless i have explicitly asked you to support me in a different way and you're intentionally refusing, or if i lash out at you when i could just disengage. it just means you're not a person i should go to for help when talking about my problems. we can still be friends, you and i can probably support each other in different ways, but we're just incompatible in this regard. and that's like....okay. it's okay to be incompatible with people.

[lokestar]

new year, same bullshit

y'all really can't keep your ableism out of your fandom analysis, can you? you just have to drag personality disorders into this.

what i'm going to say applies both to the IRL treatment of people with personality disorders and fandom analysis, because the former affects the latter in such a blatant way that it's literally a miracle that people with said disorders are still in fandoms in general considering how hostile and vile the others are towards them.

newsflash, people aren't defined by their disorder(s), because they're PEOPLE and people have FACETS. a personality disorder affects said facets, but that's not all there is to it.

their disorder(s) also don't make them inherently evil, because 1) that's literally not how it works?? and inherent evil is not a thing?? and 2) PEOPLE HAVE FREE WILL. they have a disorder that affects them and can affect other people, but they're still free to choose what they do. they're people, not robots following a code.

personality disorders are not inherently evil either. like all defense mechanisms born of trauma (because they ARE born of trauma most of the time, but y'all will never admit that, cowards that you are), they can spiral out of control and become maladaptive. they can also get better with time, with the right support, in the right environment, however that looks for the person with the disorder. just like with anything related to trauma, it depends on many factors, both internal and external. acting like that is a moral fault, or inherent flaw of some sort that is to be eliminated and shunned is ableist and fascist behaviour (that's literally the concept of degeneracy, have you learned nothing??).

just because you can't comprehend that people can be affected by trauma beyond depression and ptsd doesn't mean you get to demonise them.

it doesn't mean that you get to equate them with being evil, murderous, sadistic, and similar terms.

that includes all personality disorders, by the way. all ten of them. not just the one you sometimes tolerate but are still quick to throw under the bus when it serves you. you know the one.

so do us all a favour and keep our names out of your mouths and your writing.

to those with a personality disorder who engage in this shit as well. do better. the non-disordered won't like you more because you chose to deride us with them. they'll put you against the wall with the rest of us in the end.

[zapsoda]

oh theres people who would send death threats if they knew someone liked a character huh

[reserwrekt]

I do not have to tolerate people's toxicity, how are we back to trying to normalize that?

[jjammy-skies]

I will not live past 40.

(A poem, by me, about accepting being sick.)

I will not live past 40.

I say these words with love

Cause I know you need it.

You need to feel reassured

My mortality isn't a vendetta.

Because I love you,

And I love your attempts

To try to make me feel better.

I hate hurting your feelings when I say

"There is no getting better"

Because you try and try to find

A solution; A goal; Something;

Anything for me to look forward to.

And I say them with grief

Knowing I will spend years

Helping others grieve a body not yet dead,

Because I have already laid it to rest;

In that coffin of a hospital bed,

In the spaces between my books,

And figures and toys,

That all take up space on my shelves;

What I can piece together of my personality,

So I can lay myself bare before you.

I say this with malice

As you try to convince yourself

you played no part in the rot consuming me.

Like there was an attempt to save

This body built of your mistakes.

You refuse to look me in the eye.

It’s enough of an admittance

for me to feel powerful between us for once.

Using my condition as a weapon

Against those who claimed weaponization

When I could not even move.

I say them with understanding

As I understand you don't know yet

What it means to die.

I hate to be the first;

I don't want to be the reason

You must learn about death.

I don't want to feel

Your small hands in mine as I try to explain

What it will mean when I'm gone.

Milestones and birthdays and graduations,

All missed and forgotten.

Anniversaries spent recounting your childhood,

You can't seem to remember a time I wasn't sick.

I say it with acceptance;

As I know who I am,

And all I've loved,

And all I'll leave behind.

In that grief and malice and love;

In those shelves and toys and little hands in mine.

I accept this rotting corpse.

I will show it love.

I will show it grief.

I will show it malice.

I will show it understanding.

I will show it acceptance.

[sophiasrant]

I wish there was an option on tumblr to say “I never want to see this specific post again” or “I don’t wanna see anything in this specific tag from this specific person, anything else they post or if anyone else uses that tag it’s fine”

[autism-swagger]

Tara haters try not be ableist challenge (impossible difficulty)

[forget-me-not-automaton]

Friendly daily reminder that cringe culture can exist without the word itself ever being uttered by the perpetrator 😇

[chisatowo]

I feel so conflicted everytime I see autistic Kanade hcs cause I wanna be like so true bestie but y'all gotta stop just listing her depression symptoms when chosing reasons </3

[autistic-beshelar]

til there's a weird amount of people who hate matt mercer for absolutely zero reason

[gnomewithalaptop]

Respectfully, op, I understand where you're coming from, but I disagree. Reposting with @snailier-than-thou 's tags because they phrased it way better than I could:

"Name a hobby outside of MEDIA CONSUMPTION" is the worst kind of post. It's squarely in that ever-growing genre of post where the point on its face is ideologically meaningless and entirely reliant on an audience's biased negative reaction to a certain popular online buzzword (in this case, "consuming media"). Define "media". Define "consumption". Are reading books, watching movies, and playing video games all inherently inferior hobbies for dumb babies? What about going to an art gallery? What about going to see a play? What makes those "different", if you instinctually answer "Noooo that's not the same!"? Where does creating art, or "media", fall into this equation? Why does your insistence on feeling in some way intellectually and/or morally superior than the peons who use TikTok always fall back on the idea that the only worthwhile, "real" hobbies require a certain level of physical, mental, and/or social ability and reinforce the glorification of manual labor? Why will we never Fucking be free?

[thetragicallynerdy]

Reminder from someone with actual literal brain damage from a brain injury to stop fucking using "brain damage" and "brain injuries" as a means of describing someone whose opinions you don't like or deem as stupid.

It's ableist and offensive as fuck, and for some reason a lot of leftist people think it's okay to use. I've seen posts replying to right wing racists calling them "brain damaged if you believe this" and "do you have a brain injury? do you not understand X?". Just now I saw a beautiful post about fat people throughout history that was absolutely ruined by opening with "How do we break it to boomers with actual brain damage and nostalgic brainrot..." before continuing to say that fat people existed throughout history.

Brain damage does not make you racist. A brain injury doesn't make you ignorant, or fatphobic, or unaware of history and politics. Stop fucking using my disability as a catch all to describe people you think are shitty. Y'all use it like it's a replacement for how people used to use the R-slur, which shows you learned absolutely nothing about why the R-slur was wrong to use and decided to throw in other disabilities instead. Fuck off and stop doing it.

(And don't do it with other disabilities either, because I know y'all do.)

I know a lot of people with brain injuries. They're smart, and funny, and compassionate. They learn about the world and care about social issues and wish they could go to protests if their disability won't allow them to. Are there right wing people with brain injuries? Sure, absolutely. But they are not right wing because they have a brain injury, and using any disability as an insult is still fucking ableist.

Tldr - stop using brain damage and brain injury as an insult. It's ableist and incredibly offensive.

Love, your local brain injured/brain damaged pal

[lesenbyan]

actually deleting a rb from last night bc the more i think about it the more I don't think I agree with OP