#LGBTQ elders

[wildfeather5002]

Transphobic conservatives: Transgenderism exists because some mentally ill millenials from big modern cities invented it!!! D:<

An 87- year old trans man who lives in rural Finland: Well I guess I don't exist then... *fades away*

[robynochs]

I'm keynoting this conference next week. I am learning so much in the process of researching this presentation and I'm super-excited about this topic.

[itgetsbetterproject]

Generation vs Generation! ⚡️ For LGBTQ+ History Month, we asked It Gets Better Youth Voices and Outwords Archive storytellers the same questions, so we could see how their answers change (or remain the same) as our LGBTQ+ history evolves!

We matched up Youth Voice Fabi, LGBTQ+ mental health advocate, Venezuelan immigrant, and psychology major with Alex, a Mexico City native, YA author, and Lambda Literary award-winner.

🟣 What do you think is the most pivotal moment in LGBTQ+ history?

Fabi: "I can think of so many, but every act of loving feels as revolutionary as each protest and brick thrown. A kiss in the corner, holding hands in the Uber; it all comes to take pride in us."

Alex: "The Stonewall Uprising, since that became the best known instance of the many times when queer people stood up and spoke out against oppression."

🟣 What LGBTQ+ landmark would you most like to visit and why?

Fabi: "Visiting the vestiges of queer figures is so meaningful to me. Whether it be their work, a hometown, a handwritten letter; it is all a testament that we have all loved and been loved in some way."

Alex: "Provincetown, MA! I haven’t visited for a few years and it’s always a historic reminder of what a queer-accepting world can be like."

🟣 What quote from a queer icon speaks to you and why?

Fabi: "'Our hands empty except for our hands,' from On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous by Ocean Vuong. We hold power in our essence, what we learn and what we are —power arises from us."

Alex: "'Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.' This quote from James Baldwin puts into words the need for both individual and social responsibility in order to effect change."

Stay tuned for more throughout October!

[stonebutchooze]

TODAY I went on a really long walk with my trauma free bestie and we stopped halfway at a café and there was an older woman in this tiny village at the same cafe as us who was trans!!! And it was one of those moments where I was just so glad to see an older trans person out in the wild. we chatted a tiny bit as I was about to leave, bantering about how we were still replenishing our suncream even though the sun has gone in and she said "well, if you're fair..." as like a gentle nod to how pale I am. honestly a 15 second interaction but she made my day

[constance-mcentee]

Wednesday, 1 May 2024

I'm currently reading "A Tale of Two Florists" by Brenna Bailey. It's book one in the Juniper Creek Golden Years series, and this one is about a pair of queer women in their 70s.

At one point, they're talking about relationships. Minnie mentions she'd dated men and women in the past, noting men were better in public. Less harassment that way.

Eleanor counters with, "I can assure you, women are better in private."

[mombian]

To celebrate Grandparents Day, here are 15 books featuring LGBTQ grandparents---plus another 15 showing grandparents supporting their LGBTQ grandchildren! (You'll have to click through to see the latter.) They make grand reading today or any time of year.

[sigmadecay]

Fuck it making this my pinned

Do some outreach! Talk to some elderly LGBTQ+ adults! Learn a thing or two & make a new friend!

[bethelctpride]

Intermittent homelessness from an early age is one of a complex cluster of obstacles to reaching old age faced by the queer community that many other demographic categories never have to contend with. Others include elevated exposure to HIV/AIDS and diseases like hepatitis; chronic financial instability; inadequate, inaccessible, or discriminatory health care; and physical and mental abuse from family, friends, and society at large. Yet as the U.S. population ages rapidly, so, too, will LGBTQ community members. Studies project that the current population of three million LGBTQ elders over the age of fifty will more than double over the next seven years, reaching an estimated seven million by 2030. (Tellingly, as with prison and homeless populations, members of the queer community are often tracked as elders starting at fifty because of advanced aging characteristics.) According to AARP, nearly 40 percent of LGBTQ elders are disabled or chronically ill. More than half report that they are lonely and socially isolated from their family and community: a recognized indicator of mental and physical health. Marie King’s experience is not unique. All across the country, LGBTQ elders are grappling with an industry unraveling amid a politics of discrimination, one that has found it more expedient to punish minorities than to fix an intractable long-term care problem. In January of 2021, President Biden issued an executive order intended to prevent discrimination on the basis of gender identity and sexual orientation in employment, housing, education, and health care. The next month, the Department of Housing and Urban Development finally added sexual orientation and gender identity as categories protected under the Fair Housing Act, which was originally passed by Congress in 1968. The federal Nursing Home Reform Act also includes protections for LGBTQ elders. Yet studies have shown that these elders disproportionately suffer discrimination when entering long-term care. And statewide protections can be weak: there are nineteen states with no prohibitions at all against discrimination by gender or orientation. -

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One alternative to the prejudice that many LGBTQ elders receive in nursing homes and long-term care facilities is to provide housing and residential services that serve the queer community specifically. On Myrtle Avenue in Fort Greene, Brooklyn, across from the park, stands a new seventeen-story residential building with 145 units reserved for those sixty-two and older who are living at or beneath 50 percent of the area’s median income. It is the largest of its kind in the country. About half of its units are intended for LGBTQ residents. Stonewall House, which opened in 2019, was built by the city in partnership with SAGE, the nation’s oldest LGBTQ elder-focused organization. The development is geared toward the “aging in place” approach: residents can receive health care services on location. On the first floor of Stonewall House is a nearly seven-thousand-square-foot community center operated by SAGE, one of the organization’s six senior centers in New York City (Midtown, the Bronx, Staten Island, and Harlem are the other locations, in addition to another center in Brooklyn). Their tagline is, “We refuse to be invisible.” In addition to their facilities, SAGE offers a range of services across the country. SAGECare provides LGBTQ-affirming staff training and credentialing courses to organizations in all fifty states, in person or online. And SAGEServes supports elders and their caregivers with a buddy program, counseling, and caregiving respites. Yet housing discrimination against LGBTQ elders remains common.

[genderqueerdykes]

just talked to a 65 year old genderfluid person on an internet forum whose topic was completely unrelated to queerness. people love to tell young genderfluid people that we're "confused" or that it's "just a phase" but that just ain't the truth. we're out here, and we make it to old age, just the same as we were all those years ago, unchanging in knowing who we are on the inside. my heart is full, my skin is clear, and my crops are flourishing

[stormysapphic]

lesbians over 60, photographs by elana freedom, published in common lives/lesbian lives no. 15/16, june 1985

[shapelytimber]

Hello stranger and welcome, to my lesbian art master post

Tumblr gifted me a blaze, and I had no idea what to do with it for the longest time. But then it hit me... I could just repost every sapphic art I did in 2023. So enjoy !

Sith Milfs

Ikkons magazine cover illustration

My 50yo comic teacher doesn't know what lesbians are

Y2K Star wars with mean lesbian Maul

A taste of faith

Pussy adventure

A visit from the moth lady

Third animation of the vampire ladies

Girls night out !!

Wine wives

Bull cowgirl and magical cowboy

Butch Colombo having a divorce with a typewriter

Stand high lesbians

[PRINTS] - [COMMISSIONS]

Hey thank you for taking the time to scroll to the end ! It means a lot to me <3

[itgetsbetterproject]

Oop started laughin' ended cryin'

[spookyspeks]

Sorry to mention this again but I CANNOT STRESS ENOUGH how important it is to have intergenerational friendships in the queer community please PLEASE go make friends with elder queers I am holding your face gently in my hands you won't regret it I promise

[delusionalwritingsofagay]

Hi 👋 can I get headcanons for omega Aegon targaryen and younger targaryen brother alpha married/mated possible Mpreg Aegon???

omega Aegon Targaryen and younger Targaryen brother

Tags : Mpreg , Omega verse , Targcest

Aegon embraces his role as an omega wholeheartedly, taking pride in the traditional aspects of his position. He much prefers being an omega unlike the rest of his family.

Their bond is deeply intuitive. Aegon can sense when his younger brother is feeling overwhelmed or stressed, and he often has a calming effect on him. He uses soothing scents and gentle touches to comfort him, reinforcing their deep emotional connection.

Aegon’s younger brother is fiercely protective of him. He constantly checks in on Aegon, ready to shield him from the pressures of royal duties or the wrath of those who might oppose their family. This often leads to possessive but caring gestures that make Aegon feel cherished.

After their mating, Aegon discovers he’s pregnant, which initially takes them both by surprise. Aegon dreams of raising a family with his brother

Aegon loves being with child, he doesn't have to do anything, he gets to lay around and have Y/N bend to his every whim

With the possibility of pregnancy, Aegon becomes more attuned to his nesting instincts. He begins to prepare their chambers with various comforts, filling their space with soft textiles creating a warm environment infused with love and care.

Aegon’s brother becomes obsessed with ensuring Aegon's well-being during his pregnancy. He frequently brings him meals at odd hours, massages his feet, and insists on attending every visit to the maesters , all while displaying a protective, almost possessive, demeanour.

[queen-anarchy-666]

Okay so apparently kids these days don't know how to be safe online because their parents are fucking stupid and don't know anything about the internet!!!

So I'm gonna tell you teenagers how to be safe and not get abused because there is no shortage of predators on the internet. I'm gonna go from super basic things you can do to keep yourself safe to more specific instances where a predator may be trying to groom you that you can recognize. Remember though; if you are abused or have been abused it is not your fault. You deserve protection and you deserve respect as a minor, regardless of how you spend your time on the internet. Victim blaming helps nobody but predators, but there are ways you can protect yourself, even though you shouldn't always have to.

Basic tips:

DO NOT SHARE YOUR REAL NAME

DO NOT SHARE YOUR AGE

DO NOT SHARE WHERE YOU LIVE

DO NOT SHARE PHOTOS OR VIDEOS OF YOURSELF

DO NOT SHARE PHOTOS OF YOUR HOUSE

IT IS OKAY TO BLOCK WHOEVER YOU WANT, WHENEVER YOU WANT, REGARDLESS OF THE REASON.

Don't sacrifice your safety, comfort, or peace of mind just for someone else's feelings! Especially a stranger! Also, if you think something is off, it probably is. You need to trust your gut. SPEAK UP! Tell a trusted friend, sibling, or adult! I'm sure you've heard the phrase "silence is violence" -- this phrase goes for abuse as well! Unsafe people want you to stay quiet so they can continue to harm you or others. It is not inherently problematic to have friends who are adults, in fact it is healthy and helpful to have friends who are older than you, however we live in a world where you cannot trust many adults, so you need to be cautious of adults you encounter at all times, including ones you know well or are well known by others. It is also not inherently problematic to be asked many of the questions above, but it is important to ask yourself whether or not you want to give that information to the person asking. If not, simply tell them that you do not give out that information and redirect the conversation, or block if you feel uncomfortable.

MOST IMPORTANTLY, DO NOT INSERT YOURSELF INTO ADULT SPACES.

I know it is tempting, especially with the way hormones effect judgement and your emotions, and we all want to be included, but inserting yourself into spaces you know you should not be by lying about your age is incredibly unsafe and leads to horrible situations that aren't always easy to get out of. This includes adult fandom spaces, websites, searching adult topics, NSFW blogs or accounts, and even group chats. Even if your friends invite you to these spaces, it does not mean you should neglect your safety to be accepted. It's okay and encouraged to say no. You will thank yourself when you get older!

More Specific Tips:

YOU SHOULDN'T PUT YOUR MENTAL ILLNESSES OR DEVELOPMENTAL DISABILITIES IN YOUR BIOS ON YOUR ACCOUNTS.

Awareness and solidarity for mental illness and disabilities is very important, however predators are more likely to go after people who may have a more difficult time discerning what is normal and what is not in social situations, especially when speaking to an authority figure like an adult. Do not make yourself a target by listing the ways you struggle with social cues, understanding rules and safety, or communication. It is okay to seek solidarity, but there are predators seeking out disabled and mentally ill youths to abuse.

DO NOT OFFER INFORMATION ABOUT YOUR SCHOOL ON THE INTERNET.

It is dangerous to release information about your whereabouts in any capacity on the internet, especially your school where you are doubly putting your peers and classmates in danger as well. If you come into contact or into the orbit of a predator that is bent on finding you or meeting you, your school is a public place where one may feel brazen enough to pretend they know you. Even if other kids are doing it by posting fight videos or even innocent videos, doesn't mean you should.

JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE INSISTS THEY'RE A SAFE PERSON DOES NOT MEAN THAT THEY ARE.

People lie on the internet all the time, including in some really bizarre and meaningless ways, but there will always be people who lie to get closer to someone to make them a victim. Just because someone tells you they are against abuse or even if they advocate against it does not mean that they themselves are a safe person. Predators will do anything they can to get you to trust them, and while predators are usually very pushy and want things to go quickly, some will take their time to groom you.

!!!!BIG RED FLAGS!!!!

IF YOU SEE ANY OF THIS BEHAVIOR, RUN! BLOCK AND REPORT PEOPLE WHO DO THESE THINGS FOR YOUR SAFETY! IT'S NEVER WORTH STICKING AROUND THESE KINDS OF PEOPLE!

THEY CONTINUALLY SEND YOU SEXUALLY EXPLICIT MATERIAL, INCLUDING FANART, FANFIC, AND VIDEOS.

THEY TELL YOU AGE IS JUST A NUMBER, OR LOVE HAS NO AGE.

THEY EXPRESS THE OPINION THAT MINORS CAN CONSENT TO SEXUAL ACTIVITY.

THEY CONSTANTLY MAKE "JOKES" ABOUT MINORS IN A SEXUAL WAY OR ABOUT BEING ATTRACTED TO MINORS.

THEY EMPHASIZE THE IMPORTANCE OF BEING "LEGAL" AT THE AGE OF 18 OR FIXATE ON AGE OF CONSENT LAWS.

THEY GET ANGRY AT YOU FOR SETTING A BOUNDARY OR IF YOU MENTION TELLING YOUR PARENTS.

THEY ENJOY "LOLI" OR "SHOTA" MATERIAL OR ENTHUSE ABOUT THOSE TYPES OF CHARACTERS.

THEY CALL YOU PET NAMES THAT YOU AREN'T COMFORTABLE WITH, EVEN WHEN YOU TELL THEM NOT TO.

THEY ASK YOU HIGHLY PERSONAL QUESTIONS ABOUT SEXUAL ACTIVITY, YOUR PERIODS, OR MASTURBATION.

THEY TELL YOU THAT YOU'RE MATURE FOR YOUR AGE, OR THAT YOU'RE NOT LIKE OTHER KIDS BECAUSE YOU'RE MORE ADULT THAN THEY ARE.

THEY ASK YOU TO SEND PHOTOS OR VIDEOS OF YOURSELF DOING SEXUALLY CHARGED THINGS, WHICH INCLUDES DANCING OR STRIPPING, OR SPECIFIC PARTS OF YOUR BODY.

THEY KEEP STEERING THE CONVERSATION IN A SEXUAL DIRECTION. THIS INCLUDES ROLEPLAY!

NONE OF THIS BEHAVIOR IS NORMAL. IT IS NOT NORMAL FOR AN ADULT TO ASK HIGHLY PERVASIVE QUESTIONS OR TO BECOME PUSHY OR ANGRY IF YOU EXPRESS DISCOMFORT. BLOCK AND REPORT THESE TYPE OF PEOPLE, THEY EXHIBIT BEHAVIOR CONSISTENT WITH SEXUAL ABUSE PATTERNS.

Adults and Minors alike please feel free to reblog. It is imperative that young people who don't know these things learn them, because the only thing a predator hates more than a jail cell is a minor who cannot be abused.

[she-is-ovarit]

Identifying as.

This is Rachel Dolezal, who legally changed her name to Nkechi Amare Diallo. Dolezal is a white woman who identifies as black and insists that she is transracial. Growing up, her religious white parents adopted four black babies, claiming that they "saved them from being aborted", and routinely delivered strict punishments to their kids including Dolezal. Dolezal does not seem to have a good relationship with her parents and, based on interviews, wanted to distance herself from them and distance herself from rural white culture.

"I've never questioned being a girl or woman, for example, but whiteness has always felt foreign to me, for as long as I can remember. I didn't choose to feel this way or be this way, I just am. What other choice is there than to be exactly who we are?"

She apparently "passed as black" for several years before her parents came out and said that she was white and is identifying as a black woman, and she was asked in a TV interview if she was African American and responded with "I don't understand the question". She taught Africana Studies at Eastern Washington University. She crafted a fake story in growing up as black and has argued that she experiences race-based related hate crimes. She darkens her skin and gets perms and started using hair products she observed her adopted black sibling to use. She lied about her father being black and lied that her black adopted brother was her son.

I hope that as details of Dolezal's story are read about, we are able to understand that tanning white skin does not make someone a black person, that blackface is wrong and racist. I hope we recognize that what makes someone black isn't a collection of racial stereotypes, isn't based on feeling a kinship with black people more than with white people, and that being black isn't based on not feeling a connection with white culture. I hope we understand that a black person cannot identify out of racial oppression, and that a white person cannot identify out of white privilege.

Jewel Shuping, age 38 now, was born healthy but dreamed of being blind since age 13. She stated her mother would tell stories about finding her walking down dark hallways at age 3, and mentioned that by age 6 the thought of being blind comforted her. When she was a teenager, Shuping bought a white cane and learned to read braille, becoming fluent in it by age 20.

She claims to have asked a psychologist to pour bleach in her eyes so she could fulfill her lifelong dream of being blind, and that the psychologist "understood her" and agreed to do so after giving her numbing eye drops to help with the pain (which was not ultimately helpful). She deliberately waited to seek medical attention so doctors were unable to save her eyesight. Gradually, over the course of six months, she became blind.

What Shuping has is considered a real mental health condition called Body Integrity Identity Disorder (BIID), a rare condition in which people who are born without disabilities believe with conviction that the should be disabled. There is another name for this in political activist circles, termed "transableism".

"I went blind on purpose, but I don't feel it was a choice."

Several other people with BIID are pretending to be paralyzed to use wheelchairs, with many not being driven to the point of causing harm to themselves to become disabled but instead living full lives faking being disabled.

I hope that as details of the stories of people pretending to be disabled are read about, we are able to understand that feeling like oneself should be disabled is an incredibly serious mental health condition and does not really mean that a person is "disabled inside". I hope we recognize that identifying as disabled does not make someone disabled, and that feeling a kinship with disabled people or a comfort in the thought of being disabled does not mean a person truly is or should become disabled. I hope we understand how people with mental health disorders claiming to be disabled can place further strain on resources and accommodations provided to disabled people. I hope we understand that inflicting pain, disfigurement, or physical altercations on healthy people to "help them physically match how they feel" is an inhumane way to treat a mental health condition.

Paul Wolscht, who changed his name to Stefonknee Wolscht, was married to a woman for over 20 years and fathered 7 children before deciding to live life identifying as a six year old little girl. Living as a six year old little girl allows Wolscht to escape depression and suicidal thoughts because Wolscht gets to now play - even when in jail in solitary confinement for nine days for an undisclosed reason.

“If I’m six-years-old, I don’t have to think about adult stuff.”

Wolscht still drives and drinks coffee, but does so feeling and identifying as a six year old.

Emile Ratelband, age 69, petitioned the courts to allow him to change his age to 20 years younger because he "does not feel" 69 years old. Ratelband has argued that he did not feel comfortable with his date of birth, that age 69 did not accurately reflect his mental state, and that at age 69 he experiences limits.

“When I’m 69, I am limited. If I’m 49, then I can buy a new house, drive a different car,” he said. “I can take up more work. When I’m on Tinder and it says I’m 69, I don’t get an answer. When I’m 49, with the face I have, I will be in a luxurious position.”

Ratelband even asserted that doctors have told him he has the body of a man 20 years younger, and he said that he was willing to renounce his right to a pension. He argues that if people are able to legally change their sex on documents, there is no reason why he should not be able to change his age.

I hope that as we read these stories of people identifying as a different age, we are able to understand that feeling like you are 20 years younger or 40 years younger does not really make you that age. I hope that we understand that even though identifying as a different age might help avoid suicidal thoughts, being discriminated against on dating apps, or denied resources, it does not really change biologically what is. I hope we understand that there are also broader societal and legal consequences to being able to legally change one's age. That an adult might identify as a certain age to trick kids into trusting them so they can sexually abuse them, and/or that allowing an adult to legally consider themselves a different age would make it easier for adult predators to gain legal access to kids in environments in which they would normally be socially and legally discouraged from being in.