#lgbtq families

[mombian]

Minnie Bruce Pratt, an acclaimed poet, essayist, and activist who wrote, among other things, about losing custody of her children when she came out as a lesbian, died on July 4 of an aggressive brain tumor at age 76. Read on for more about her life and her experience of lesbian motherhood.

[robynochs]

The Massachusetts Parentage Act, which further protects families with same-gender parents -- passed the Massachusetts House of Representatives UNANIMOUSLY. I am so proud to live here. Onward to the Senate!

--- massparentage BREAKING: The House just passed the Massachusetts Parentage Act to ensure all families are recognized, respected, and protected, regardless of how they are formed!

Thank you to representative_day, Speaker Mariano, skpeake, Representative Kane, repkaykhan, repkatehogan, and members of the LGBTQ Caucus.

[nerdygaymormon]

A new study finds that children with a queer couple for parents turn out just as well or even better as children with a heterosexual couple for parents.

The researchers looked at studies from 34 countries where same-sex marriage is legal and compared the development of children raised by couples that identify as heterosexual with those raised by couples who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, queer or transgender. 

Both groups of children were similar when looking at relationship satisfaction, parental mental health, family & parenting stress. The physical health outcomes of children in both types of households were also similar.

The analysis finds that children who have LGBTQ parents, especially children who are preschool aged, may have better psychological adjustments and better relationships with their parents compared to children who have heterosexual parents. 

The study identified several factors that negatively impact sexual minority families, such as stigma, discrimination, insufficient social support, and marital status. 

The researchers recommend influencing policy and laws for better services to individuals, families, communities and schools to reduce these adverse effects on family outcomes.

[mythweaverarts]

I love seeing queer families out in the world. I was just at this ice rink and I saw two men and a little girl, maybe 6 or 7 years old. She was yelling, "Dads, dads! Look!" And showing them her moves on the ice. Then later one of the men was showing off to her and slipped over and his partner skated over, laughing, to help him up. It was just so sweet and exactly the kind of future I want for myself.

[confusedlamp]

Okay, weird thing that I have been curious about. If a trans guy decides to give birth to a child, do does he have to label himself as the mother on the birth certificate? Like is he allowed to put himself as the father, or does the person who gave birth automatically get labelled as the mother, regardless of gender? What if his partner is a trans woman and biologically also the kid's parent? Does she have to put herself as the father?

Come to think of it, how does it work with cis lesbians who use a sperm donor? Does only the birthing mom get to go on the birth certificate? Is there a spot for "mom 2" or does the nonbirthing mom have to go through a process to "adopt" the kid? Can she put herself as the father if she wants?

Do any places just use "parent #1" and "parent #2"?

[ivygorgon]

Ensure your legal protections by securing Power of Attorney, Healthcare Power of Attorney, Living Will, and Last Will and Testament. Be specific about the powers granted to your spouse or children to avoid unintended consequences, like unauthorized property sales. These documents provide an added layer of security for your family in case your marriage is legally challenged or invalidated. Careful planning ensures your rights and intentions are upheld.

Before January 2025:

If you are a USAmerican in a relationship that might be affected by legislation that dissolves same-sex marriages, who may no longer be recognized as next-of-kin, especially if you have children, get your rights in writing!

Your marriage certificate may not be enough to prove you have rights to make medical decisions for non-biological children or for a same-sex spouse or partner.

Go to a lawyer, get it spelled out as clearly as possible that you have a voice in emergency medical and legal situations.

[serana666]

[typhlonectes]

[mombian]

As we close out LGBTQ History Month, I want to highlight some documentaries that look at the history of LGBTQ parents and our children and are available for streaming—several for free! Watch trailers (and in some cases, whole films), and find streaming info:

[deathbylag2]

I don’t have much to add but I agree with these people. Adoption should be more common

[xiaq]

Your first pride story was touching and all but you still married a man.

Yeah, bisexuals do that sometimes.

[savagegood]

"No matter what we do, we can't change the way people see us." "You changed the way you see me... didn't you?"

found family and some of the allegory in NIMONA (2023)

[devinsturk]

16 Trans Agendas for the Modern Queer

Live to old age.

Enjoy a nice snack.

Cuddle up with my cat.

Demand good healthcare.

Create a chosen family.

Soak in queer community.

Reject any need for cis approval.

Respect pronouns.

Breathe deep breaths.

Admire surgical scars.

Be kind.

Tell my friends that I love them.

Be endlessly creative.

T4T.

Watch the sunrise.

Persist.

[imakatperson22]

Eddie: Kicks the 3rd woman he’s dated out of his house because of repressed catholic guilt after avoiding having sex with her.

Buck: absolutely flailing as a baby disaster bisexual and sending his date running for the hills before they even finish their meal.

Chris, “out of town” somewhere, sitting on a curb and smoking a cigarette: Jesus Christ, these two fucking idiots…

[disiella]

Re-upload, because my obsession with them is coming back

[agentmilocade]

This was on the radio today.

The decision was to remove it from the RSE (relationship and sex education) from under-13s.

I'm genuinely devastated.

My son is 10, and he has 2 dads.

I am a teacher, and I'm gay.

This is feeling a little bit like section 28 all over again.

For the last 3 years I have taught year 7 (11-12 year olds) PSHE, which includes a topic on families and relationships. We discussed all the different types of families that we know about. At least one pupil, each year, has a family member who might be in a same-sex relationship.

I guess we have to, what, ignore that now?

My son LIVES in a family that has two dads, but he's too young to learn that it's acceptable?

Why shouldn't his classmates learn about it? Is he not more likely to be confused when he sees his family not represented?

And don't even get me started on the gender side of things...

I am going to be watching this debate so anxiously and do you know why queer education is so important? It creates acceptance early on so there will be less homophobic people in our next generation (exactly what the homophobes fear).

Let me tell you a story: when I was 10 or so, we did a unit on Diversity. This included learning about being LGBTQ+, and it was what got me to realise my own sexuality and some gender things that I’m still working out. The people who weren’t queer learned to be accepting too. The next year, it was removed, and I noticed a huge difference in attitudes between people who didn’t get to do the unit, and the people who learnt acceptance.