#If they tell me I need more experience or more professional development I won't even be mad!!! I'd be like you know what sir!!!

[artsekey]

Went to apply for a job, midway through I learned that the person hiring is someone I respect very, very much in my field (who I have never spoken to), then saw the application site was closed (How Did I Miss the Deadline for this Really Cool Job!!!!) and then saw that it was the website's fault and that they were taking applications through LinkedIn DM's. So I did the premium trial & sent my reel in, and they told me they're sending it to recruitment/leads and that it's a good reel!!!! And then the person I have respected for years sent me a friend request!

I'm beside myself!!

[meliohy]

My boss read the document before I deleted the "you made me do all the work on my own so don't fucking complain if it's not working properly in the end (((:" paragraph

Fuck

[shiyorin]

The Imperium Shelter

Adoption Poster: Angron

Name: Angron (he refuses to answer to anything else)

Species: Primarch

Breed: World Eater

Age: Approximately 3 weeks (though he's been through a lot, so his physiology has aged faster than average.)

Background: Found this one half-starved and raging in the pits of Nuceria. Covered in scars and barking about some nonsense. Took a lot of tranquilizers just to get him home in one piece, let me tell you! His previous "owners" clearly abused him. Poor boy. Or so I suppose…

Anyway, we rescued Angron and have been rehabilitating him through positive reinforcement techniques (definitely no mood-altering neurotransmitter adjustments used, no sir!). No wonder he developed some, er, behavior issues. But with plenty of tender loving care and training, I'm sure he'll learn to curb those homicidal tendencies. I mean, normal primarch tendencies!

Personality: Angry would be an understatement. This one is pure rage walking! Snarls and lunges at anything that moves, frothing at the mouth like some rabid animals. Absolutely no social skills, nearly took my hand off just for trying to give him a treat! I'd be wary leaving small children unsupervised around him, if you catch my drift. Let's just say he takes "aggressive" to a whole new level.

But give him a chance to warm up to you, earn his trust, and I'm sure he'll calm down! Sure, he may try to bite your face off at first, but I promise once he gets used to you he'll stop seeing every interaction as a threat or challenge. Might take a few… I mean, a lot of training sessions. But he means well deep down, the poor dear just wants to be loved!

Skills: Surprisingly dexterous for one so enraged. Could probably handle advanced weaponry or driving vehicles if provoked, so keep an eye on the car keys for sure. He already knows basic commands like "attack," "kill," "Skull for the Skull Throne!" No, strike that, I have no idea where that came from! He's a quick learner regardless. Also seems preternaturally strong, literally ripped the bars off his cage on the first night! And could wrestle a grown man to the ground, break his spine with a chomp. Of course, he would never do that!

In summary, Angron is one angry boy with a lot of special needs. Strict owner only, with experience handling extreme cases. Lots of patience, training and muzzles required. Adoption not recommended for the faint of heart! But who could resist that underbite… He just needs the right home to reach his true potential as a war machine! I mean, loyal primarch. Who's a good boy?!

Signed,

The Emperor

(Angron tries to bite his hand as he says that last part)

Comments from the employees:

M*******: I wouldn't recommend adopting Angron. He tried to bite my arm off during feeding time.

Big E: Nonsense Malcador, I'm sure you were provoking him. Angron just wants love, you'll do fine!

V*****: With respect sir, Angron is dangerously unstable. He killed three of our security measures. Even with sedatives he's too risky. Perhaps a more seasoned professional handler could manage him, if anyone can.

Big E: Quit scaring people Valdor, he was just playing! Weren't you boy? Angron foams rabidly See, happy as a clam. Next!

O*******: I understand the desire to rehabilitate him sir, but adopting out Angron could endanger lives. For the safety of the public and his own well-being, long term confinement and treatment seem best.

Big E: No Ollanius. Angron just wants someone to show him love. I'm sure with the right owner he'll come around, won't you boy? Angron bites his pants leg Down boy! So what do you say, is he yours?

[theflyindutchwoman]

I'm a little afraid the show will go to the Aaron/psy relationship after his therapy end. It was always a weird choice for me to choose someone this young for a psy and their first meeting didn't help. It wasn't "professional". This and the fact it's danielle (the actress). We talked about this one time and the show don't need another regular. I don't like the idea of aaron and celina in couple, I want them to stay platonic bff but ngl I'd rather have them in couple because it save screentime. Celina isn't going anywhere after her rookie year so we might as well saving screentime rather than having aaron and her girlfriend + celina and someone else. I hope alexi don't bring someone new pls and the next rookie will leave after his year. Watch them keeping the next rookie for celina love interest. 💀

To tell you the truth, I'm a bit unsure of how to read Aaron and Blair's interactions yet. Their first scene had some serious flirty undertones, but I don't know if that was intentional or not. Their latest scene felt more subdued… which could easily be explained by the fact that they were in the middle of a session. In a way, it reminds me of Nolan & Genny : I could feel some sparks between them but it turned out to be nothing. So I'm going to need more scenes between Aaron and Blair before making a judgment. I don't mind her being quite young though - for now! After all, one of the core message of the show is that you shouldn't judge someone on their age or their experience. And I'm also hopeful that Blair is going to play a role in other storylines, not just Aaron's. But yes, a part of me does remain a bit suspicious too… especially after that first scene.

So I get your apprehension. The cast is already at maximum capacity (to put it mildly) so I sincerely hope we won't get more regulars. Not without getting rid of a character or two first. We already barely have storylines for some of the main cast, so let's not add more to the list.

As for Celina and Aaron… I wouldn't be against this pairing, but I agree, I'd rather they stay BFF. This show does a wonderful job when it comes to platonic friendships, so I'd prefer this option. They could even be partnered up once she graduates. Though, I'm still not quite sure what they intend to do with her character after her graduation. I'm not even sure where she is in her training for that matter. As much as I have come to like her character, I kinda wish she would transfer to another station. That way, she could still show up from time to time. But at some point, some of the rookies need to leave. I mean, we have never met any of Angela's or Tim's former rookies. While we're at it, I'm hoping that the next rookie will fail. Not on their first day. But after a couple of months. Or during Plain Clothes Day. We were told that 1 out of 3 rookies washes out, so let's see that instead. And it could give Nolan some much needed character development…

[somekindofsentience]

Omori and its parallels with OCD, or my personal connection to this game

SPOILER WARNING: AS USUAL, MAJOR OMORI SPOILERS FOR MOST ENDINGS AND THINGS.

CONTENT WARNING: MENTIONS OF SELF-HARM, SUICIDE, SEVERE MENTAL ILLNESS, DEATH, LOSS AND OMORI-TYPICAL CONTENT. I will also be referring to my own intrusive thoughts a lot, so please take caution if it might trigger you to spiral.

DISCLAIMER: I AM BY NO MEANS A MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONAL. I am in the process of seeking a diagnosis (we're getting there :) ), but it has been otherwise confirmed by professionals that I experience OCD. This post is about my personal experience with OCD and trauma, and the way I believe these feeling manifest in the game. I don't believe Sunny or Basil experience OCD, but I want to compare my experiences with obsession, compulsions and trauma-related OCD. Other people may have completely different experiences, and those are valid!

You could call this catharsis, some form of healing. Really I'm doing this for myself, which was kind of why I started writing Omori analysis in the first place (???). and im a nerd for this game

Guilt

Guilt has always been one of my biggest hurdles, and it's also a very relevant theme in Omori.

For the longest time, my brain and I have been actively trying to develop compulsions to cope with guilt, and it seems to consistently fail. I've tried singing songs on repeat, extreme self-harm, distraction, avoidance ect, and nothing seems to work. Sure, I've never committed recital day, but even small things can make me feel horrifically guilty, as my intrusive thoughts tell me I'm a horrible person or a liar.

I see this in Sunny, too. For the longest time, his mind has been trying to cope with the guilt, and it chose to delve deep into repression. But no matter how much he represses, the truth is still there, and so that guilt is still there.

The Fear Polaroids in the Omori Route are also a representation of guilt, as is the mirror during the Truth segment, both depicting Sunny has a hideous demon. My intrusive thoughts depict me as a demon, too, doing horrific things to myself and others. The images of mutilated, demonic Sunny capture the... inhumanity that my mind makes me feel.

I get it, Sunny. I don't feel human either.

Mewo's Death as an Intrusive Thought

Cat Dissection is an interesting area of Black Space, in that its immediate relevance to the truth is less obvious. It's also one of the more horrifying ones - on my first playthrough, I was running blind, and I figured you'd have to kill Mewo for the key. You do not. my biggest regret

Mewo is obviously linked to Mari, but at the time, we'd only ever seen this slightly mentioned in the real world photo album. At that point in Black Space, Mewo was closely tied to Sunny and Omori, being an essential part of White Space.

The player can stab themselves to get out, or cut open Mewo and suffer the regret. This room feels very reminiscent of a gruesome intrusive thought that just won't go away, those days where you see yourself murdering all your friends, or violently injuring yourself. Much of Sunny's hallucinations, or creatures like Something, also mimic this kind of thing.

That room has far deeper analysis to dive into, but this is as far as I'll go for this segment.

Compulsive Behaviour - Repetition

Basil is probably the first character that comes to mind when I think of compulsive behaviour. His most iconic line...

This sort of repetitive action is the root of a compulsion - an attempt to relieve anxiety. Whether or not Basil fits the criteria of needing repeat those words otherwise something bad might happen is unknown, but this sort of behaviour is very relatable in my experience.

I have a tendency to not be consciously aware, but others notice that I'll mumble things to myself. Typically this is me trying to talk back to my intrusive thoughts, as far as I know, and trying to confirm to myself that they're wrong. This will often end in asking someone else or doing research to confirm.

By repeating these things, Basil is trying to ward off the reality, which is that everything isn't okay at all, and likely won't be. But the specific framing is future-oriented - he isn't saying that things are okay right now, he's saying that they will be. This could link to my later point about uncertainty.

Avoidance

Not many people talk about avoidance behaviours as a compulsion, which is probably why much of my OCD went unnoticed as a child. You don't really consider mental compulsions, and avoidance can be very easily hidden, especially if you the ability to force yourself through something if you have no other options.

While it's not exactly the same, Sunny's repression of rooms in his house and the shaking head that prevents you from going to particular areas are forms of avoidance. The sliding glass door that leads to the backyard and the piano room are the most notable - it's not repressed, it's there, but Sunny shakes his head every time you interact with it. He can't go in there. He just can't. There's no explanation for the player.

I relate to that. I have strange rules that mean I can't do things. I just can't. There's no real explanation for myself, either, and sometimes I don't even get intrusive thoughts of the consequences, just some insistence that I can't do it. Perhaps this was confusing or frustrating for the player, but I found it incredibly realistic.

Uncertainty and Abandonment Issues

I've heard somewhere that OCD is, ultimately, a fear of uncertainty. As a result of this disorder, combined with trauma, I also have abandonment issues the way Basil does.

Even before the recital day, Basil's abandonment issues are prevalent. He clings to the group with the photo album, preserving his memories. He took photos of the things he didn't want to lose. After the recital day, Basil really did lose everything, and he was broken as a result of that.

I imagine this sort of thing was one of his regular worries, everyone abandoning him, Sunny in particular. And I can relate to that - one of my more common intrusive thoughts is others leaving me after they find out I've done something horrible. It makes you want to shut off from relationships, just to be safe - what if everyone leaves?

I think that 'what if' is what made Basil so attached to Sunny in the present day of the game. He wants to save Sunny, he wants to make things back to the way they were before, but at the same time, there's this uncertainty - Sunny is moving? Sunny is leaving? What will happen? What if everything gets worse?

This wasn't the easiest to write, but thank you for reading.

[traumasurvivorshelpingsurvivors]

TW= child sexual assualt(?)

Looking for advice and validation ig

I'm not sure if this counts as sa, I want to know if it does count. When I was around 7years old, when I would lay in bed, sometimes my mom would take my pants off and touch,kiss and suck my private parts (I'm a girl btw). I thought it was normal so I let her do it. When she do it she would say that she's sad cuz she won't be able to do this anymore when I grow up, and bc of that she should do it alot rn. My family is very physically affectionate so no one thought it was unusual. Also my memory of this happening is blurry and not vivid, but I'm a 100% sure this happened a lot. I don't know if I'm just overreacting. Now she doesn't do that to me anymore but she still touches my butt even when I constantly ask her not to do it. She said she can do whatever she wants cuz she's my mom. She does the same thing she did to younger me to my younger brother rn, and it makes me really uncomfortable. Can u tell me if this is normal or not? It made me really uncomfortable and even now I'm afraid to change in front of people cuz I'm afraid they might do that to me.

Thank you so much if u answer this, yall are amazing 💓

- 💛

Hi 💛,

I'm so sorry about what happened and please know that her behavior is not normal or okay at all. It's one thing to be physically affectionate but this is much more than that. This can count as CSA, and it's understandable that it made you uncomfortable and anxious.

Consent is crucial in any physical interaction, including within family relationships. No one should engage in any form of sexual contact without your consent, and it's concerning that your boundaries are not being respected, even now. Just because she's your mother doesn't entitle her to your body, especially in a sexual way.

I also want to just point out that while it seems that your family may normalize this kind of behavior, that doesn't make it okay. Language creates ways of thinking and perceiving and so it can be hard to notice or name abusive behavior when the people around us don't frame it negatively. But it's important to know that abusers or those that harm others can be surrounded by people who enable said abuse, and so just because people might excuse this behavior, doesn't make it right.

Please know that you have the right to feel safe and respected in your own body. It's not your fault, and you deserve support and understanding. If you can access or afford it, a mental health professional such as a therapist can help you navigate and process your experiences, as well as develop healthy coping strategies.

I hope I could help, and please let us know if you need anything.

-Bun

[beevean]

I remember how a long time ago you made a top 10 list of your favorite characters ever.

Wanna do another one? 'Cause I think there have been a couple of new additions in recent times :P

Oh yeah, I did, a lifetime ago! Yeah, it needs to be updated :P but I won't rank them, I'll put them in chronological order of when I decided "yes they're my blorbo now"

Sonic the Hedgehog

If fictional characters can be considered your childhood friends, Sonic is mine :D

He's a simple, but nuanced character. He's freedom incarnate, he has an attitude and can back it up, he's cocky but kind and friendly. The only principle that binds him is helping people in need, not because he has to, but because he wants to :)

Dr. Eggman

You can't talk about Sonic without talking about Eggman :P much like Sonic, he's a simple character but quirky and compelling enough. Dude just wants to conquer the world because he thinks his genius needs to be appreciated by everyone, and he will prove it to you.

He's one of those villains full of style, bombastic, both lighthearted and cruel without one trait overshadowing the other. Sometimes the games simply show you his personality through the environment, such as CD's wretched Bad Futures or Adventure's colorful Egg Carrier. He's a destructive force of nature with an amusement park as his evil lair. An icon.

Guts

My favorite protagonist of all time. What can I even say about him? A character with 30 years worth of development, the symbol of the eternal, perhaps futile, struggle against fate, the incarnation of determination in the face of the whole world that wants you dead. He's more than one of the most iconic manga characters in history: he's an inspiration.

Bojack Horseman

Another one of my favorite protagonists, and almost the complete opposite of Guts. If Guts is an ideal, even with all his flaws, Bojack is painfully relatable. Bojack throws all of your flaws and bad thoughts and mistakes in your face and you will see yourself in him whether you like it or not. Still, he's charming and sympathetic enough that you always cheer for him to finally find the happiness he so vehemently struggles to reach.

Samus Aran

The her <3 the woman of all time <3

A great example of how you don't need dialogue to showcase personality. With all games combined, you can tell Samus is a serious, professional person, confident enough to explore hostile alien planets all by herself, cold and efficient during missions but still with some empathy. Metroid games have an unique environmental storytelling, and Samus is the emblem of this. Also, you know, she's super cool :P

Ryuunosuke Naruhodou

You'd think Ryuu is nothing more than Phoenix 2.0, and yes, they're similar. But I very much love his own character arc, how he started out as nothing and then ended the first game declaring that he's willing to become the enemy of the whole British Empire if it meant protecting a young reject of society. He also grows out of Asougi's shadow, fights him with everything he learned from him and his experiences, and his relationship with Susato is so cute, and he forms a strong bond with Barok dragging him out of his depression... favorite AA protagonist bar none.

Barok van Zieks

I once used Edgeworth as my favorite AA character. His Dracula version beats him by a landslide for me :P

I mean, obviously he relies a lot on Edgyboy: he's cold, painfully sarcastic, has a similar backstory of the death of a close relative making him jaded... but I prefer Barok both for his own character arc, for how much he suffered in 10 years and shouldered the moniker of the Grim Reaper because he thought it was the best thing for London, blaming the entire Japanese population to flee from the truth he secretly suspected (which, uh, is not good at all, but it makes sense in universe), until Ryuu shows up and turns his whole world upside down, revealing finally what kind person he is - oh, the way he showers Ryuu with praise <3 and also, most importantly, this guy is hilarious, the absolute peak of quirky prosecutors. Legjection, anyone?

Zero

Shadow if I liked him :P

I think I said everything I needed to say not long ago - gorgeous design, effortessly cool attitude, a likeable personality that evolves through the X and Zero games, aloof but honorable to a fault, loyal to the few friends he has. I can't really explain what makes him so charming, but let's just say, no wonder he stole the show :P

Hector

How did this happen? When I finished CoD my thoughts about Hector were "oh he's cool, he's kind of like Guts if he looked like Griffith lol", and now I am drowning in fanfiction and analyses and dying on the most lonely hill that he's the best character in the series D:

Impeccable design - sure, he's yet another Long Haired Pretty Boy in Kojima's arsenal, but his silver hair is iconic and his outfit is super cool and says everything about his seriousness and no-nonsense attitude. Beautiful character arc, of him starting out as jaded and cold and willing to participate in genocide, but slowly reclaiming his own humanity, the nature that rejected him through no fault of his own, and affirming his own agency, and selfishly throwing everything away and that being the best choice he could have made. He said that he wanted power, but in reality he just wanted a place to belong to, and he finally found it in a peaceful cottage. Also his powers are so fucking cool and he can swing all sorts of weapons, from the Dragon Slayer Killer to a Piko Piko Hammer, the range <3

Isaac

He may be doomed to be second favorite. But not in my heart <3

Fucked up babygirl of a war criminal who can wear makeup better than me. He takes you in because hehe funny emo guy voiced by Liam O'Brien going full tiddies out and wearing the most pathetic excuse for pants. Then, oh, he's actually Hector's foil in nearly everything. Oh, he started out from the same place of wanting to exist in peace, but he chose loyalty to an ungrateful Lord over freedom and he dearly paid for that. Oh, the tattoos might symbolize how far he'd go to give himself to Dracula. Oh, he saw himself as a weapon and saw nothing wrong with it. Oh, Hector carelessly destroyed his whole life in one feel swoop and no wonder he hated him so much. Oh, the Curse brought to the surface the darkest parts of him but he didn't use to be this way. Oh, he might have suffered from one hell of an inferiority complex. Oh...

He's cool and he's campy and both a shameless asshole and a tragic victim, I couldn't ask for more <3

[jesterguy]

Lots of lamenting about my body and developing hypochondria under the cut! Feel free to read but im just venting

I heard recently (i don't know where and that bothers me but I'm too scared of the topic to actually hunt down further information) that breasts of my size aren't really possible to self screen for early stage breast cancer in an effective manner, and that even professionals may struggle. This is information that I already knew through personal experience, because when I try to self screen myself I will inevitably start to panic just due to the textures and tissues I'm feeling. Everyone says, "When you have a lump, you know", but ive been concerned for years that I will NOT know and while it's validating to hear that I'm right it's mortifying to have my fears confirmed.

I've gained a fair amount of weight as I age into my adult body and I grapple with this in a visual sense as an ED survivor and trans man. But separate from that is the FEAR I feel with my breasts being where my weight gain is most apparent. More and more fat and muscle tissue being packed on to and area I'm already scared of becoming diseased.

As this growth has been happening my breast tissue aches more often- from sagging, from being laid/leaned on, from just sheer growing pains- its added a whole new layer of anxiety I didn't feel just a couple months ago. Every time I feel a pang of pain in my chest I go to massage it and identify it and sure enough, there's a lump- but my breasts are full of unidentifiable lumps! WHAT am I supposed to dooooooo

The added factor of not having health insurance is the real driving fear here. If I were sick, who would tell me? If I were sick, how would I pay for the aggressive treatment id need? Every time I get a weird body sensation I have to try not to panic. Like a week ago I took my shirt off at the end of the day and there was a visible and really scary looking lump in my right breast. After I calmed down and double checked it was gone, and hasn't reappeared since, so all I can do is assume it was a stress hallucination...

And of course of course I want them off anyways for gender reasons. I won't even go INTO how fucked up it is that this is happening to me at all. I shouldn't even Have these damn things

I dont know where I'm going with this I just had to get the thoughts out

[autimind]

Myths about Autism #4 - Looking autistic

(with a side order of 'I don't hate people with autism.')

A dearly beloved aunt, who regrettably passed several years ago, flat-out refused to believe that I am autistic. Even after a full explanation of my struggles and diagnostic trajectory through the local mental healthcare system. I did not come across as autistic. She wasn't the only one.

Well, I say fair enough.

[long read. I won't discuss the actual myth. We are clear on that it is bunk. However, what should we now do?]

Let's talk about what autism looks like. Allistic people seem to have these amazing insights into what's going on in other people's minds basically on full-auto or at least they claim as much but for all I can discern they seem to judge inner workings of the mind by what the visible body does. They need our outward appearance in order to function.

What is autism? We know, dear reader, that autism is high, wide and broad. That it is called a spectrum does not mean that it behaves like the number line, not even like the complex plane. It is an insanely varied, multivariate affair. "If you have met one autistic, you have met one autistic," as the platitude has it. Yet autism is real. Although it does not exist as a thing, it is a valid label for a more or less well-defined manner of neurodivergent development. All of the divergence inside the brain is invisible, though. Can we fault the allistic people all around us for only looking at the conduct and mannerisms they do notice?

Society moreover has been and is ill-served by tropes mainly in entertainment but also in serious media. For a long time, autism basically equated Rain Man, from the eponymous movie starring Dustin Hoffman. I still find it ironic that the person who inspired the movie, the late Kim Peek, did not have autism at all but rather FG Syndrome. More recent is the example of Sheldon Cooper from The Big Bang Theory, who according to many people has Asperger's. It is interesting that almost no one judges his friend Amy Farrah Fowler in the same way as she shares many of his characteristics.

Again I ask can we fault allistic people their bafflement when we come out, so to say, as autistic? By far most of us aren't Sheldon Coopers and certainly a vanishingly small minority of us are even like Rain Man.

I tend to empty a box of matches onto the desk when speaking as an expert by experience to professionals. I give them three seconds to tell me exactly how many matches are visible and of course they always fail. Given proper experience, an estimation might of course be given but I tell them the exact answer. After everyone has had the time to be amazed at my 'autistic feat', I explain that I personally counted the matches before putting them into the box that very morning.

This is my way of upending their own cultural ideas on autism. Returning to my point, I really don't think we can blame allistics all that much. Cultural inertia on top of normal human cognitive laziness makes it hard to take on new and contra-intuitive notions.

Quite frustratingly, rather a lot of allistic people, once you have told them, still exclude us while saying they don't dislike autistics/autism. A good example would be.. well, almost everyone I come across. Basically everyone commiserated with me when I became open about my diagnosis and vowed to help and understand. They can't but they aren't aware of that particular disability. It is not their fault.

The point here is that they do keep responding negatively to an impressive array of ingrained traits. Stimming in the form of feet tapping of knee bouncing (my own go-to stim), data dumping about my SPINs, correcting vague or incorrect language, taking vocal utterances literally and so on and so forth. Really now, I am not much bothered about specific word choice but it is not okay to just hold on to your preconceived notions when an actual human explains their own mental state or makes a half-way reasonable request.

Those preconceived cultural notions do exist and they do cause harm. All of this creates much frustration and anger among autistics. This is easily visible during even a cursory inspection of #actually autistic and like tags. There is so much pain! People are crying out in sheer endless reblogs, venting and sometimes even ranting about the unfair position we have in society, especially if we are also non-white, female or belong to yet one more disadvantaged or non-privileged group. The amount of anger, sometimes even rage, on this forum is simply staggering. I have run afoul of it myself, mostly for responding to some post without thinking and naively assuming I was really helping. I have hurt other people's feelings.

It would be fairly easy for me to now wax eloquent about how I was misunderstood, that from my own blog it was crystal clear that.. and a dozen other excuses. I simply say this: I am sorry. However, we still have to do something. I strongly feel that venting to eachother is all well and good but if that is all we do, things will not get better. In that case, venting becomes just a way of blowing off steam before going right back to that very same society that can be so hurtful and indifferent.

It would be a grand thing indeed if I had all the answers at this point and I don't. I do have one answer. What I propose will sound cruel to some. I will put yet another responsibility in the autistic camp. Yet more adapting to do when allistics just breeze through their lives. (They don't, but never mind that. I understand the feeling.) Still, on sober reflection we will have to admit that this responsibility is already solidly on our side for the very simple reason that no one will do it for us. We may just not have been aware of it.

I am talking about actively regulating our own emotions in general and making space for negative feelings in particular. If we manage to pull that off, we can just be with frustration or sadness for a while and allow it to process itself. I know first-hand how impossibly vague and wishy-washy new agey that sounds. I also know first-hand the awesome power of such a skill if you can see it from the inside.

At least we will have control. To some extent. We will be responding from strength, not from weakness. We will be secure in ourselves, not beaten this way and that by the breaking waves of the ocean of demands and impulses of this life. We will know deep in our being that we are always welcome in the present moment. We will understand viscerally that emotions are not self, thoughts are not self. They may influence us but they are not us.

Will that make us feel better? Maybe. After a while. Unpleasant emotions and thoughts will not suddenly vanish. But it will help. For details, see my series on Reconnecting to our authentic selves.

[dftea]

[disclosure: I am a bi neurodivergent psychiatrist in Wales]

I'm adding in the Royal College of Psychiatrists statement to this thread because I think it's helpful to see the response from UK psychiatrists.

Let me pull out some bits with my interpretation:

We welcome the final report of The Cass Review and the involvement throughout of those with lived experience, their families and healthcare professionals in its development.

They have to say they "welcome" it. They were involved in the consultation. This is standard Royal College statement territory. The specific mention and ordering of the involvement list looks intentional, though.

It is crucial that in the future development of services [young people] have access to a comprehensive biopsychosocial approach tailored to meet their individual needs, including the development of an individualised care plan that takes account of their wishes and preferences.

I think this is the strongest paragraph, even though it is full of mental health jargon. It is the language that's used for adults. It is the language of gold standard mental health care and it very specifically emphasises individual wishes and preferences.

Clinicians should not allow their own personal views to influence the care they provide in line with the standards set out by the General Medical Council (GMC) in Good Medical Practice.

This is the reminder to psychiatrists that if they're transphobic, the GMC will come for them and the RCPsych won't save them.

We know that many of these young people are at risk of developing mental illness and have neurodevelopmental disorders. It is crucial that these are considered and treated as part of a child-centred approach.

This is worded very carefully. Note the specific "at risk of developing mental illness", which intentionally implies the direction of causation - being trans is a risk factor for mental illness - and contrasted with "have neurodevelopmental disorders", which doesn't attribute any causality.

(yeah, neurodevelopmental disorders is medical model centric, but it's the Royal College - they're echoing ICD-11 language there)

The recognition of the complex interplay of biological, psychological, and social factors in gender identity development is particularly welcomed, as it aligns with the biopsychosocial model central to psychiatric practice.

I think the absence of "disorder" from this paragraph is telling. Yes, the development of everyone's gender identity is complex, including cis people.

An additional factor needs to be acknowledged and addressed. This is the toxicity of the debate, often with individual clinicians being subject to abuse and criticism. If we are to address this and build the capacity needed, everyone from government level down need to approach this area in a respectful and considered way so that people feel comfortable working in this area.

I have included the whole paragraph here but "everyone from government level down" is the notable part here. IMO, this is a lampshade on the known transphobia of the Westminster government and the way they continue to conduct themselves.

This next part is long but I wanted to highlight it in full:

It is also important to recognise that trans members of the College and the wider trans community have raised concerns about the negative impact of the report. This includes how the review's conclusions on the evidence base of different interventions and the need to wait for further research, in combination with the knowledge that existing services are unable to meet demand, will leave gender questioning children and young people feeling unsupported and unseen.

There is a strong view that the report makes assumptions in areas such as social transition and possible explanations for the increase in the numbers of people who have a trans or gender diverse identity, which contrasts with the more decisive statements about treatment approaches. During implementation, these views should be taken into account to ensure every child, young person and their families feel supported by all. This will require individuals with lived experience being directly and comprehensively involved in the ongoing process. 

This is the acknowledgement that a lot of us are furious and that the report is actually full of weasels and BS. I think it also emphasises that this isn't an "us and them" issue - there are trans psychiatrists in the College.

And it returns to the person-centred, lived experience narrative that runs through the whole statement.

I'm not saying this is hopeful - psychiatry has too much baggage in this arena to ever be that - but it is important to know that the official voice of UK psychiatrists is not wild about this.

(Except for maybe the research part, but it's an easy thing to agree that more research is needed - it's basically the universal conclusion of every scientific paper ever written.)

Insane to me that the UK government is slowly trying to legislate trans people out of existence and I have not seen a single person talk about it

[themomsandthecity]

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[solufyerp]

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[study-diaries]

I need your opinion if you don't mind... I'm in my last year of highschool and in four days, there is going to be the responses to all the uni I applied to (if they accepted me or not...). And I don't really have a subject or a job that I really like. Don't get me wrong, I'm a very curious person and I'm interested in many things. But my main goal for a job is not my passion or the things that I like. My main goal is financial. So I'll chose my studies upon the salary that it will get me in the future. The thing is, everyone around me is telling me that I'm thinking wrong and that I'll hate my job if I chose my studies that way....idk what to do and I need your help on that. Thanks and I love your blog btw :) sorry if that was too long....

Heyy! :)

Okay so... First of all, congratulations on passing out highschool alive cause I'm serious, it's a huge milestone! Second of all, that is believe it or not, something that I can very well understand and related to.

And it's okay. Like, definitely okay to have a whole different approach for selecting your majors and jobs. Now, I'm assuming you've already have a vague idea about what major you want to choose since you've applied already.

Generally, if you've taken professional majors (medicine/law etc) then the general pay is good and higher than usual but you need to atleast have an element of interest in it since the majors itself are difficult.

If you've gotten into something that pays alittle lesser etc etc then i can suggest you to take up some part time jobs or even gain experience or develop some skills that could be helpful.

Basically, you can take up something with the idea of getting a high salary but try your best to find some amount of interest in it, make sure you won't get bored with it. (And there's absolutely nothing wrong with your pov about choosing based on the salary or pay!)

I personally think that you can experiment with your subjects and the career options cause I know many people that studied one thing and took a completely different career field. And just because you have the idea of only gaining financial security and stability from your major/job doesn't mean you'll end up hating it.

It's not about with what idea you're choosing your major, it's about how you can steer your major according to what you need and like you said, you're a curious person, you're interested in many things so i believe that you'll do good :)

And the fact that most of the time, we come to love something that we're constantly doing. Passion or interest just doesn't arise out of nowhere, sometimes force is important too and not to mention, hardwork.

Whatever you're choosing, with whatever belief, whether passion or with the idea of financial belief, it doesn't really matter because if you have a really good determination to achieve the end goal, you'll find a way to enjoy the process.

For now, I'll stress on the fact that you focus on choosing the major (if you can check what papers you're having in each semester it's better) and then after you choose your major, experiment more, like research about job opportunities in and around the field, develop skills, gain experience, explore because it's all an experiment, isn't it?

I hope you'll be content and happy with whatever you choose and don't really mind what everyone says, if you want something badly, there's no shame in working towards it. I hope i didn't confuse you even more. And I'm glad you like my blogs, i really appreciate it :)

Take care 🎭✨

[jameslawrencegonzales]

WHY I WILL PURSUE MY COLLEGE

i pursue my college because i believe that education is an important part of life and that being educated has many advantages. i pursue this high education because i want to become a professional so i can use all my skills to achieve all my dreams, i want to continue this journey towards college i am driven by a multitude of reasons that intertwine my aspirations, values, and ambitions. i elucidate why i am committed to pursuing my college education, education is the key to be opened to opportunities. i pursuing a college degree i am equip myself with the knowledge skills. college provides a platform for intellectual exploration and personal growth. It offers an environment where I can engage in critical thinking, challenge conventional wisdom, and broaden my perspectives. Through interactions with peers and other people i anticipate enriching discussions that will expand my horizons and foster a lifelong love for learning.

So it’s very important to be ahead in life and for me to be focus of my career goals and what i want to accomplish. College also gives me great experience in the fields and real life training, college can also enhance skills. it’s important for me to get the education i need, and also can provide me the things that i want. Being a first generation college student, my parents always tell me to study hard because this is what they want me to finish school, they also always remind me that even if life is hard to keep going i am also in my college studies, and my parents and relatives and gf are still there to support me, i also want to pursue college so that when i finish my college education, i can immediately find a job and help also to my parents, no matter how i can repay the days and time they spent taking care of me and i can also give them a good life that i myself will give them money. I am the first among three siblings to go college, so i want to take responsibility to be an example to my two younger siblings, and show them that it is important to have goals in life to improve oneself as a person through education, so i really want to pursue college so that when i finish school, i can help my two brothers with their studies and inspire them to pursue their dreams.

College offers invaluable personal and social experiences, It is a time for self-discovery, where i can explore my interests, passions, and values, college provides a myriad of avenues for personal development and self-expression. i am motivated by my dreams, being more success and also living a better life. college educations have challenges at that time, but the elders say that if you can't finish your studies, you won't be able to achieve your dreams in life, and it will be difficult to find a job so, as a senior high student, i want to pursue my college education so that i can learn more and be successful in life, fulfill all my dreams for myself, my parents, my two brothers and my loved ones, my relatives. after college graduate i want to be a seaman because i want to, while I'm working, i've also been able to travel to different countries, like USA, Germany, Korea and so on. i also want to travel or feel the snow, so i really want to be a seaman. so now as senior high student i pursuit that going to college is one of the best decisions you can make in my life and finishing college is an even grateful feeling, in my spare time i talk and advice my friends, siblings to go school and get a better education because it can help you in the long run, so i won’t be a dummy ill stay in school and now i’m following my own advice.

[greython2b]

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[loekas]

I couldn't find the fic on Ao3. So I wrote my own.

Enjoy having a Salamence, Rodney.

-----

He'd always wanted a Salamence. The desire faded as he grew older, and specifically, developed a fear of dragon types. A mild fear, nothing big. But it was there. And Salamence is very much a dragon type.

He still wanted one.

But over the years, he resigned himself to the impossibility of that. Bagon were stubborn little bastards who rarely deigned a trainer useful in their quest to grow wings, and Sheldon were even less interested in them. And a Salamence? Left their beloved sky only for as short a time as they could get away with. There's little they find more horrifying than the idea of spending time on the ground, never mind inside a pokéball.

That's without getting into the cost of keeping one. Salamence were big, and their appetite was even bigger. Flying burns up a lot of calories. He wouldn't be able to afford keeping one fed. And as he always tells adopting trainers; don't get a pokémon that your wallet can't hold. It won't end well for anybody.

So Rodney resigned himself to never having one. And that was fine. Really, it was. He had Bart, and honestly, he'd give up a hundred Salamence if it meant keeping this lazy ball of goo.

Still. When their latest case was brought in, his heart skipped a beat.

"That's a Salamence," he says, professionally instead of dumbly.

"No shit, Smearglock," says Beth, unprofessionally and curious. "Big one, too."

"But thin," he says, mind spotting all the irregularities on habit. Professional habit. Because he's a professional. Not a little kid wanting to squeal at the sight of an actual, real life Salamence.

He wants to touch it.

"Wings especially." This observation does make him snap out of his shock. Yes, this Salamence has thin wings. Not quite sickly so, they look like they can hold its weight. But they're not as muscled by far as a Salamence's wings should be.

The answer for why this is so arrives in a coughing fit that sounds like thunder, bedazzled by flashes of fire. Not a lot, thank Arceus. But enough to make him grateful to work in a fire proofed building, and also to be standing a healthy distance away.

The gratitude pales compared to his dread.

"Please tell me it doesn't have asthma." He asks it while looking for the documents given by the pokécenter. They don't often have the luck of their cases having gone through a full check-up before coming here, but they did now.

Beth has already beaten him to it. She's reading the results.

"She doesn't have asthma," Beth says in her I'm lying to make you feel better voice.

"That's horrible." It is. Even at best, it would limit the time she, because it's apparently a she, can spend in the air. In more severe cases, it would keep the poor girl trapped on the ground more often than not.

Judging from how thin the wings are, she's on the ground far more often than any Salamence should ever be. It's honestly heartbreaking. And yes, the reaction is stronger than usual because it involves a Salamence, but he would have felt like this no matter what.

No one should have their dreams torn down like this.

As if hearing his thoughts, the Salamence opens some truly gorgeous eyes. She looks him over.

She lets out an unimpressed snort. And no, that's not him projecting. His job depends on him being able to read pokémon, and by now he has a lot of experience at it. That was an unimpressed snort.

For some reason he's not surprised. He is a little disappointed, though.

He wants her to like him.

But that's the child in him talking. The professional needs to consider how to keep this very big, very dangerous pokémon, content enough to keep from going on a rampage.

A Salamence going on a rampage. Yeah, that's enough to get his mind back in the game.

With a sigh, he turns more fully towards Beth, careful to keep the Salamence within the corner of his vision.

His attention is abruptly drawn to Bart. Bart had just been chilling on the counter, being a happy pile of onze as usual. And he's still on the counter.

He's no longer chilling. Instead he's looking at the Salamence with sparkling eyes. Some might say Gulpin aren't capable of that, but those people have never met Bart.

"No."

The word is out before he even realizes it. Then his mind catches up to what his subconscious had already understood, and he repeats himself more firmly.

"Bart, no." They are not adopting this Salamence. They're not. It doesn't matter that without her constantly flying, his wallet can actually hold her. She's still far too big. And she doesn't even like him. See, the derisive snort.

Bart gives him a look that a Growlithe would be proud of. Luckily, Rodney has grown immune to that. No really, he has. It doesn't move him at all.

...Look, it just wouldn't work. Even if he can keep her fed, and even if she does grow to like him and Bart both, she's still too big. His home can't fit her. She'd need to be in a pokéball more often than not. She wouldn't like that.

She might like it more than being stuck on the ground.

No. That's the Impidimp in him talking. He needs to stay realistic. And not be swayed by Bart's sad drooping.

He's not adopting this Salamence.

Not to alarm you, but you have a tag on Archive Of Our Unknown now. And the only story under said tag (for now) is about what adventures you'd have with a Salamance.

if this is true i need this linked to me FUCKING STAT.