#I’m personally demigender

[jowasfounddead]

I know I already made a “happy pride month” post but this one is for the trans and genderqueer people out there <3

I HOPE YOU STAY SAFE AND PROTECTED FROM TRANSPHOBIC ASSHOLES AND ACTUALLY ENJOY GAY MONTH!! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ BE WHO YOU AREEE FOR YOUR PRIDEEEE 😘🥳

[enlightened-aloevera]

>> Making a blog for my unfiltered thoughts cause honestly phok society. I’m tired of getting pissed on by the entire internet that’s being assaulting for no reason.

Awesome and Based Intro:

I’m Aloe. I’m 19 yrs old as of now.

I don’t usually use social media anymore, as US dictators and politics disgust me as much as they fascinate me. However, I will make an exception for Tumblr, as it tickles the folds in my brain.

I use gender neutral pronouns and would prefer to be referred to as such (they/them/Mx.). If this is too woke for you, you can go kiss the fungus between Elon’s toes, with your “erm- actually there are two genders-“ bs - kindly shove a lava lamp up the nerve holes in your spine bones. I am not a child. I reject being evaluated on my behavior and potential based off of my biological parts; they are not necessary here.

My favorite color is orange.

I like video games and punk culture (though I don’t think many would consider me punk), psychology and environmental science, US politics when they don’t disgust me, legalized marijuana, artichokes aesthetically, napping, and indie/rock/unconventional music (hence why no one ever gives me the aux).

The best part is no one I know irl knows my identity. The role I was assigned since birth has been a lifetime facade that I am electric-collar-and leashed to. I value my existence (temporarily) and stay of my own volition for food and shelter, giving off a demure approach for scholarships and job offers. They will never see what a creature I yearn to expose to the world, underneath their delicate stitchings of what I must appeal to others.

If I could I would run to the hills for Europe. But the chasm of poverty is so large that I worry if I life truly as I am in the real world I would die. Not dramatically “ooohh I’m gonna kill myself”, but I would starve or get robbed or beaten or both, most likely shot or hit with a car.

But anyways, hello. I’m Aloe. Nice to make your acquaintance. I want to live as myself.

Ps: I like possums, penguins, hyenas, cats, snakes, rats, birds, and many more creatures.

[beautyofaphrodite]

Aphrodite worshippers/devotees I am genuinely curious. I personally mostly notice trans worshippers of Her on here and so I’m curious

[proseka-headcanons]

figured i’d make one for my fave

nothing paranoia-inducing, no pressure to respond any one way. all answers are valid! i’m just super curious to see what everyone else hcs them as

personally i hc kanade as gnc/nonbinary (they/them, maybe she/her as well) but i love hearing others’ opinions!!

[rainbowmafia-moodboards]

could you do demigenders please?

Sure!

DEMIGENDERS

A demigender is a gender which is only partially there. Typically a person might only experience half a gender or a full gender that they are only partially connected to. However a person may identify this way for a variety of reasons. A person may also experience two demigenders in combination, where they might be half girl and half boy as an example.

Demigender/Deminonbinary

Deminonbinary is an identity to describe when a person experiences either only half or a partial detachment to their non-binary gender. (It uses the same flag as the umbrella term.)

Demiboy

Demiboy is an identity to describe when a person experiences either only half or a partial detachment to their male gender.

Demigirl

Demigirl is an identity to describe when a person experiences either only half or a partial detachment to their female gender.

Demiagender

Demiagender is an identity to describe when a person experiences either only half or a partial detachment from their agender. This is often used in combination with another demigender identity, but can be used as an identity by itself.

Demixenogender

Demixenogender is an identity to describe when a person experiences either only or half or a partial detachment to their xenogender. (I found two flags and I wasn’t sure which one was used more so I did both.)

Demifluid

Demifluid is an identity to describe when a person experiences either only half or a partial detachment to their fluid gender and/or multiple genders. This can mean they only experience demigenders or that half of their gender is static while the other half is fluid.

Demiflux

Demiflux is an identity to describe when a person experiences either only half, a detachment to, or a noticeable fluctuation of intensity of their gender. This could mean half of their gender is static while the other is fluctuating or that the amount of their gender that they experience is noticeably fluctuating.

I believe I got all of the main ones, and I’m pretty sure all other demigenders fall somewhere underneath one of these, but if there’s any I forgot, please let me know.

[ijustreallylikepirates]

Guys, I just had my third gender identity crisis 😭😭😭 I hate having them so bad!!! The first time I had one i was questioning my femininity and identified as demigender and started using she/they

After a while I started to feel more masculine and had lots of thoughts about being trans (and embarrassingly I had a “persona” of what I think I would be like if I was trans 😳🫡)

I used to stay up crying at night because these thoughts would burden me and I just hated the person I was

I still hate my gender now. My case now is that I would want to be trans because I would much rather have a man’s body than a woman’s body.

What I mean by this is that I just hate being stuck inside a woman’s body. I just hate having to menstruate every month for one week until I’m in my 40s 😵‍💫 and also the thought of pregnancy terrifies me

See, I’m a huge emetophobic and I would hate to have to throw up. I have a panic attack every time my stomach hurts. And also I don’t want to painfully carry a baby around in my uterus for 9 months just to painfully push it out of my woman hole

I also really hate when I lay on my chest and then my boobs start hurting so I cant comfortably lay on my stomach

So I’d kill to have a man’s body

But in my heart and my soul I feel both male and female. So as of rn, I’m bigender and use he/she/they

Does this make any sense or am I just spitballing here??? 😭

[my-castles-crumbling]

Hey Cas, I’m looking for some advice (if you’re okay to give it, feel free not to)

So for reference, I’m an afab teen but lately I swear I’ve been questioning literally everything.

I know this is normal etc. but I really would just like to figure something out for once instead of questioning for years. I’m somehow questioning my gender and sexuality and I just want to stop stressing about it

My dilemma is mostly about my sexuality. Because I could totally see myself with a girl, I don’t think I would have any qualms about that. I mean, sure, I’d be confused but still. And I think I could like a boy? But I can only ever envision myself with a boy as a boy as well? I think I could also see myself as a boy with a girl. But I don’t know if the reason is because I really hate the representation of straight relationships in media etc where the guy has so much more power and influence etc. over the girl and all that (I’ve also had a couple of bad experiences with boys (mostly in primary and middle school, thankfully) not taking no for an answer when the asked me out and keep pursuing for literal years), so I don’t know if that’s influencing my perception.

There’s also a trans boy at my school, who just looks so… cool? And happy, free? And idk, I was just kind of envious of him for a minute before I sort of caught myself and now I’m so confused. I’ve always hated the way I look, but I always thought that would be more to do with not conforming to beauty standards, but thinking back it might’ve been gender dysphoria (to this day, I genuinely will cry when I have to try clothes on for too long and it often just feels… wrong? But I also hate the feeling of clothes so ???).

I’ve thought that maybe I’m non-binary, but there’s not much point in trying to identify with that as while my parents would definitely support me, I don’t think they really get the whole ‘gender is a spectrum’ thing or much else, and behind my back might be a bit like ‘they’re pushing the gay agenda on you’. And idk, maybe it is cos I can’t seem to see myself as… not gay???

I’m sorry for the sort of rant and if this doesn’t make coherent sense. I think I sort of needed to write things out. But if you have any advice it would be much appreciated. I’m sure you have so many people telling you this but scrolling through your advice is genuinely so helpful (and your microfics are awesome too!)

I also saw you were naming your anons, and I might come back with another question, so you can call me dictionary anon if you want, as my favourite thing to read is the dictionary.

Hi! <3 it sounds like you have a LOT going on in your brain right now, so let's try to piece some of it out, okay? I'm gonna give you some sexualities, genders, stuff like that, and I want you to think about how they feel for you.

So for sexualities, I think you should look at both bisexual and pansexual. Bisexual means that you are attracted to two or more genders, but gender is a factor. Pansexual means that you are attracted to people regardless of gender. You focus more on personality (and, of course, looks, to a certain extent).

For genders, think about bigender, genderfluid, demigender, and genderqueer. Bigender means you identify with two or more genders; genderfluid means your gender fluctuates depending on the day or certain situations, demigender means you have a loose connection to one gender, and genderqueer is a vaguer term meaning you just...don't have a traditional relationship with gender. When you say there's not much point in trying to figure out your gender, I don't necessarily think that's true.

Obviously, it's your decision and I respect it, but I think there's a lot of help in knowing more about who you are, even if you aren't in a space to share it. Whether or not you have a label (you absolutely don't need one), maybe deciding on things you like/dislike when you come to gender? Because you shouldn't...force yourself to think of yourself a certain way just to appease others.

I think it could be helpful for you to kind of...look at these terms and decide if they fit for you. But ALSO, it's okay if you don't know right now. It's okay to just say, "I feel like a girl right now." or "I like THAT boy." That's completely valid.

The last thing I'd encourage you to think about is something called 'gender envy,' which it sounds like you might be feeling for the trans boy at school. Gender envy is where you see someone and they're just so...gender. Like either their expression or their identity or just their confidence in their gender makes you want that. Conan Gray gives me BIG gender envy. So if you are feeling gender envy, ask yourself why? Is it because you want to also be more masculine? Is it because you want to be confident in your identity like he is? Either way, gender envy can help you understand your own gender.

If you need help talking through any of this, I'm always here- I know it can be a lot. Remember that the most important part is that you (safely) figure out who you are. Even if you can't label it, exploring your identity is awesome, and I'm proud of you for doing that!

<3 <3 <3

[eldorr]

Charoitean

A juvelic orientation where one is primarily a xenic non-binary man, primarily attracted to xenic non-binary men. However one may sometimes be other genders and also be attracted to other genders.

This includes: (Examples of being other genders, where one never identifies as a woman)

A genderfluid individual who is primarily fluid between xenine, masculine, and neutral genders. However one is also fluid between other kinds of genders. (Such as Genderfluvi)

A demigender individual who is partly a masculine+neutral+xenine gender, and partly genderfluid.

A multigender individual who is more masculine, neutral, and xenine genders versus other types of genders.

This includes: (Examples of being attracted to other genders, not attracted to individuals who primarily ID as women)

An individual who prioritizes their attraction to masculine, neutral, and xenine gendered individuals. This could include someone who is attracted primarily to Xenoboys/Xenboys, or otherwise xenic non-binary men. However one is also attracted to other genders.

Being abro-oriented but however primarily being attracted to masculine, neutral, and xenine genders. This could include an abro individual who prioritizes relationships with those with these kinds of genders.

Being attracted to masculine, neutral, and xenine genders; however entering relationships without caring much about your partner(s)’s gender(s). This can include Cupiospec or Pan individuals.

Chaoritean can be described as being primarily MLM, MLN, MLX, NLM, NLN, NLX, XLM, XLN, XLX.

However Chaoritean can include any sort of combination of Gender-Loving-Gender terms, such as MLK, NLAG, XLGF, AGLN, GFLN, KLM, etc. (AG = Agender, K = Kenochoric, GF = Genderfluid)

This term can be comparable to Violaen / Violae Veldian, as the focus is queer love between men and anyone who doesn't primarily identify as a woman. However Charoitean has the added aspect of it being queer love between xenic/xenine/xenogender (nonbinary) men. Chaoritean individuals may identify as women or be attracted to women VERY rarely, or under super specific conditions.

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This term was originally posted September 22nd, 2022.

Anyways I coined this to explain my orientation as a polyfluid (multigender genderfluid) abro-oriented person. I’m usually attracted to men so I prioritize that, however I’m T4T/N4N, so add the spicyness of being non-binary onto that, plus being able to talk about xenogenders with potential partners? Yes please. :)

Like the term I coined earlier (Xenaeli), this is to explain my own experience. I primarily ID as an abro plypan veldian (flexible-like with Violaen/Uranic) due to how my orientation works, but kinda wanted a catch-all term for something like that, therefore this term was born.

Generally I’d describe my gender as being M,N,X + K,GF + Weird Fem genders, and my orientation being M + N,X + K,GF,W. Basically I’m a Xenaeli individual attracted primarily to non-binary (xenic) men, however if they’re also kenochoric, genderfluid, a woman, etc. along with those genders then yeah I’m attracted to them. However I’m also aspec and pan/omni-oriented at times, so I pretty much enter relationships without really caring much about gender, but in concept only rlly attracted to men + those who primarily ID as men.

The name and flag are based off the gemstone Charoite.

EDIT: The feminine equivalent is Zoisitean.

[dearfriendsinhigherplaces]

⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆ 𝙞𝙣𝙩𝙧𝙤 ⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆

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𝚊𝚋𝚘𝚞𝚝 𝚖𝚎 ‧₊˚ ⋅* ‧

•i’m alexis

•i’m 21 years old

•i use she/her and they/them as my pronouns, you don’t need to use them interchangeably in the same sentence, just use whatever honestly gender is hard

•i’m bisexual and i’m demigender (i usually just refer to myself queer and genderqueer)

•my shifting journey started in 2021

•i had my first shift in october 2023 (minishift)

•i want shifting friends

•send me asks i love them

•the main theme in most of my drs is friendship and found family

•i’m a subliminal creator and i’ve been listening to subliminals for over 7 years

•i sketch portraits (traditionally and digitally), sew, do tarot, play the ukulele and the guitar, and play video games

•i’m a northwestern wolf and crested honey buzzard therian, and im otherhearted with barn owls

•i’m in the mythical and nonhuman community

•i’m in an endogenic system and i have 3 headmates

•i have dyslexia

•i’m learning danish, jeg snakker og forstår lidt dansk men meget dårligt. and i’m also learning spanish

•i’m a very nervous person

•infp

•vampire lover

•my proudest accomplishment in life was beating the game getting over it with bennett foddy

•was there for unus annus

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𝚖𝚢 𝚕𝚒𝚔𝚎𝚜 ‧₊˚ ⋅* ‧

•music: the beatles, will wood, idk how but they found me, the smiths, james and the shame, the mountain goats, bo burnham, tim minchin, chappell roan, mother mother, the crane wives, aeseaes, lord huron

•movies: crimson peak, another round, a ghost story, nope, httyd, thor ragnarok, into/across the spiderverse, titanic

•tv shows: hannibal, barry, bbc’s ghosts, supernatural, good omens, ofmd, bridgerton, the great, all of us are dead, atla, hazbin hotel, love death and robots, the end of the fucking world, sex education, breaking bad, rita, the handmaid’s tale

•video games: bg3, rdr and rdr2, detroit become human, shelter 2, the sims 3 and 4, animal crossing, stardew valley, the isle, resident evil 7 and 8, minecraft

•books: the little prince, the handmaid’s tale, war of the worlds, high-rise, wings of fire, warrior cats, anything edgar allan poe

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𝚖𝚢 𝚖𝚊𝚒𝚗 𝚍𝚛𝚜 ‧₊˚ ⋅* ‧

•bg3 (my main MAIN dr)

•bg3 isekai

•wizarding world

•dhampir (iwtv vibes)

•camp half-blood

•bbc’s ghosts

•marvel

•detroit become human

•beastars

•waiting room

𝚖𝚢 𝚘𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚛/𝚞𝚗𝚜𝚌𝚛𝚒𝚙𝚝𝚎𝚍 𝚍𝚛𝚜 ‧₊˚ ⋅* ‧

•beatles

•wings of fire

•botw

•adventure time

•steven universe

•sky: children of the light

i’ve got some other random/smaller/one-off drs that i won’t include in the list. i’ve also got an entire made up realm that i’ve been making and doing world building for for years that i’m shifting to, it’s called Aurora.

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𝚊𝚋𝚘𝚞𝚝 𝚖𝚢 𝚋𝚕𝚘𝚐 ‧₊˚ ⋅* ‧

•i mainly post about reality shifting, but i also post about therianthropy and subliminals from time to time

•i post about my bg3 dr A LOT as it is my main one

•the drs that i’ve been trying to shift to the longest are bg3, wizarding world, and my beatles dr

•my wizarding world dr is a university, but i’ll always just refer to it as my wizarding world dr

•i deal with intrusive and obsessive thoughts (i have ocd tendencies but i’ve never gotten a diagnosis for ocd so i’m not sure if i have it), so if i make a post talking about those I’ll put a trigger warning

•i have undiagnosed social anxiety

•dni: if you are an anti shifter, transphobic, homophobic, biphobic, arophobic, acephobic, terf, transmed, racist, just a bigot in general, anti-Palestine, anti-Ukraine, against therians/otherkins, sysmed, anti endo

•while i don’t talk about being in an endogenic system (much), my account is still very pro endo. i’ve been in an endo system (more specifically a tulpa system) for over 5 years. i do not have DID and i would never claim to. my system was formed completely by choice and without trauma. endo neutrals can interact

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feel free to ask me any questions about my drs/about my interests, i’m happy to share. you can ask about literally anything in this introduction, doesn’t have to be about shifting. happy shifting :-)

profile picrew by makowka.

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[drawing-dinos82]

I don’t know how much sense this poll makes. Personally I’m genderqueer but my sex feels correct and like it matches my gender for the most part. Basically this is asking if you feel that your gender and sex match. For example if your gender is genderfluid and your sex matches your genderfluidness. This does include if you’ve taken any hormones or had any surgeries. This also includes if you’re intersex. Non binary includes identities like genderqueer, demigenders, and others.

please reblog for a bigger sample size

[maerenee930]

Hiiii I'm also non-binary and they/she, and I'm demigendered and I wondered if you could tell me more about demibisexual and what your thoughts are about it? 😊

Sorry if that's direct and personal, I'm just curious about new labels 👍👍

Hii ☺️ ahh! that’s so awesome!! 🖤

i absolutely can tell you more about being demibisexual and my thoughts about it! it not at all and i really appreciate you asking! it’s great that you want to learn more about new labels! 💙

so the term demisexual falls under the asexual umbrella. ☂️🖤🩶🤍💜

like a lot of terms, the definition can vary from person to person 😊

being demisexual (to me) means not feeling sexual attraction to someone without an emotional bond or connection.

like just because i see someone and think they’re attractive, it doesn’t mean i could date them or would even want a physical or romantic relationship with them solely based off of that. you know?

my attraction to someone is who they are. their personality, their heart, their soul. feeling a connection with them. 🖤

i mean i for sure find people attractive physically, but that’s not what makes them attractive to me. how they look just adds to my attraction 😅💙

like i have celeb crushes! but typically i form those crushes after watching that person in interviews or seeing them on social media, getting to see them be who are they and that’s what pulls me in 🥰 (like robert sheehan lol. he’s not a perfect person by any means, by he’s just so funny and sweet and smart and so goofy and stupid and that’s what makes me attracted to him. him being the handsome human he is just adds to that attraction lol. 😍🥰)

but people typically experience physical attraction first and emotional second.

i’ve been asked “but doesn’t everyone experience attraction that way?” or “well how is that any different from anyone else?” or i have been told “that’s normal. it’s not its own thing. you’re just making it something bigger than it actually is.”

(or i’ve been told i’m just being picky or it’s an excuse to be picky. which i’m not and it’s not! 😑)

and my answers to those questions or my response to statements like that are

- no, that’s not how everyone experiences attraction. not like that anyway.

- it’s different because people usually see someone, think they’re cute (and you know are attracted to them physically), wanna get to know them and then date them.

-it absolutely is a thing and i’m not just making this bigger than it actually is.

and being demibisexual is someone who is (or identifies as) both bisexual and demisexual. (although i really identify as bi/pan/queer. all three labels are accurate for me and apply to me. but yeah lol.)

like for me, i like people for who they. not what’s in their pants. that’s just bonus 😏😉😅🙈

i made the post below a few years ago. if you’d like to take a look, there are a few more definitions/explanations that i feel are accurate for me and being demibisexual 🖤

also i know for myself personally, i can’t or couldn’t just have a causal relationship with someone. i can’t do one night stands. not with someone i hardly know, anyway.

it’s just not how i work, you know? plus i think it would be hard for me to have a causal relationship with someone because when i’m attracted to someone and have that emotional connection and bond with them, being casual and not letting my emotions ply apart in things would be too tough. but that is just me, of course! (i mean that in a very nonjudgmental way! 💙)

i honestly could keep going on and on about what being demibisexual means to be but we would probably be here for a very long time and it would just be me rambling a lot and i don’t wanna do that to you or anyone who happens to see this lol.

but yeah, i hope all of this makes sense for the most part. if you have any other questions or would like to talk more about this, please feel free to send more asks or if you feel comfortable with it, you can always dm me! ☺️ thank you so much for asking/sending me this! i really really appreciate it and hope it helps a little 😅🖤

[rotteneldritchhorror]

bab mang fox chi nard gold

Lin I hate you /j

By ‘bab’ I’m assuming you mean Baby, to which I have literally no solid headcanons— maybe Demigirl ace lesbian? But idk- she’s too plot relevant for me to get silly with her lol (also too humanoid- not fun enough /hj)

Mang I assume = Mangle

To which I say: transneufemme polygender genderfluid xenogender xenogenderfluid girlboything :) ya know- the vibes! Also uses She/he/they/it/xe/lobe/brain/🧠 pronouns :) also pan, also has the Autism, ADHD, BPD, psychosis/schizophrenia and PTSD (also is partially blind and has balance issues because of the… ya know… also probably has grip issues and maybe hypermobility) also his endo head is a separate person who can think for themselves and has its own consciousness (though probably shares the gender and disorders and shit with mangle)

(Also- in my lil monster au in my brain- they’re a shapeshifter with the restriction of keeping her color scheme, the endo head and the fact that they’re a fox- but the arrangement of it’s body, organs, skeleton, fur, etc can be shifted and changed at will, the endoskeleton looks like striped metallic tentacles/tendrils wrapped around silvery bones and the endo head is a metallic grey skull with a few red veins and an eye still attached)

Assuming you mean regular foxy when you say ‘fox’

Pirategender cis man lol, uses he/it and maybe she? Either poly(sexual/romantic) or bi, probably prefers masculinity and androgyny over femininity, has Autism, ADHD, psychosis, BPD and is a triple amputee (both legs below the knee and left hand). His eyepatch is fully for aesthetics- there’s nothing wrong with its eye lol

(For my monster au thing he’s just an anthro fox covered in badly healed scarring— idk what to tell you- that’s an anthropomorphic pirate fox??)

Again- assuming you just mean basic chica (and not the other more fun chicas >_>)

Classic chica is absolutely transfemme Demigirl (or maybe demigender girlthing (gender neutral)) and demisexual lesbian- also AuDHD and PICA

Also I feel the need to show you the ‘extras’ part of my notes app hcs lol

She round <3 Floof feathers :)

Also:

Assuming by nard you mean fucking ennard lol

I’m gonna be honest— I never got that attached to sister location— so idk- ennard is genderqueer and genderfluid (and probably fluidflux) and either aroace repulsed or pan lol, idk- autistic and full of rage.

Idk if you mean gold as in golden Bonnie or golden Freddy but I’ll assume Freddy

Uuuhhhh again idk… yeah I’ve got literally nothing… idk why I never thought of golden Freddy headcanons???? I think it’s the same situation as Baby where they’re too plot relevant for me to be silly and have fun lol

[silverpen-and-paper]

i’m a genderfluid person who’s been various genders. here are some things i see, from inside and outside the queer community:

nonbinary being perceived as worse and more ridiculous than binary trans, even if the person views binary trans badly too. people assuming nonbinary means “trans-lite” and “basically cis with extra steps,” instead of learning if the person experiences their gender differently.

genderfluid people only being represented in media when they flow smoothly and strictly between the genders of man or woman, or occasionally, perfectly neutral. they are hardly ever shown experiencing gender combos or demigenders or something completely outside the binary or days where they don’t know what their gender is.

genderfluid shapeshifters being written in a way where it’s shown/implied that their gender only changes when they change their sex, and that changing their sex is always the cause for a shift in gender, without any other genderfluid characters with different experiences to balance it out. nonbinary characters who aren’t human are always immediately assumed to be salmacian, even if the species’ reproductive biology is never talked about, and even if the species otherwise seems to fit human gender norms. people can’t seem to let go of the idea that everybody’s gender is linked with & relies on what your body looks like.

the belief that xenogenders and other microlabels are somehow harming the trans community at large. yes, a lot of people having a well-known label they can unite under is nice, but people aren’t “splitting the community apart” because they enjoy having more specific words to explain their experiences. people with xenogenders are often pressured to pick and stick by an umbrella label they might not even feel fits.

related, when people make fun of folks who headcanon characters as having various xenogenders and/or similar labels. it’s seen as more unrealistic, because having obscure microlabels is seen as something that only a “certain type” of people do. (ie, young people who don’t have a lot of responsibility or anything to be serious about.) if a character/person is an adult with important jobs and serious problems, who isn’t bubbly or over-the-top extroverted, then the idea of them having more specific labels for their gender (or even just *having* a more specific gender) is seen as absurd. anything that strays too far from the binary is “unprofessional” and “childish” and “cringe.”

when people say to folks who are confused about their gender that they can’t be nonbinary, because “see, you’re confused about it!” there’s no room for people to maybe just have a gender that’s inherently confusing.

when gender charts/explanations are shared, and the sharer says that everybody’s gender can be mapped onto it (or something to that effect), it leaves no room for those who don’t understand their gender in the same way. when people internalize certain charts/explanations as the authority on all gender for all people, they start to see other people who don’t fit with them as wrong about their experiences instead of admitting that some explanations simply don’t work for everyone.

the english language not having good, well-known, gender-ambiguous titles. “mx” sounds too similar to “miss” when spoken aloud for me to be fully comfortable using it in speech. even then, most people don’t know about it and don’t use it on strangers. “mage” is nice, but that’s even more unknown.

the rare places that allow you to choose your pronouns never account for fluid pronouns. they can have a drop-down box full of different sets, but the best i can hope for is that there’s an “other” option at the bottom. even when there is a section to write them in, sometimes it’s formatted so that the slashes are already there, so you can’t just write “my pronouns change.” when pronoun pins are sold on etsy, the only ones you can buy without spending extra on customization are either the most common pronoun sets, sometimes a few neos, and occasionally an “any pronouns” pin. even queer surveys are horrible about this; i can only remember seeing fluid pronouns as a checkable choice once.

people saying “well, what do you expect?” and doing nothing to help when you complain about the gender binary being everywhere. they expect you to just accept the culture as it is and either be okay with it or suffer in silence. they act like progress will be achieved eventually but quietly, without anyone being angry at the current situation as it happens.

❗️❗️ This is asked entirely in good faith. This post is intended to open dialogue and help with solidarity and understanding. ❗️❗️

I would like to hear specifically from nonbinary people how the system of exorsexism/enbyphobia uniquely targets and affects you. Things that you feel other demographics do not experience. Reblogs and replies are very encouraged! If you would prefer, you could dm or send an ask to be added anonymously by me.

This is in the spirit of wanting to understand. I am listening. I encourage all binary trans people to not speak on this topic and let nonbinary people do the talking here. Reblog the post to spread it, but please say nothing.

Any and all people who identify as nonbinary are encouraged to participate. This is not agab-locked. If you are agender, trans neutral/neutrois, genderfluid, bigender, trigender, multigender, xenogender, genderqueer, third gender, two spirit, or any other gender not wholey contained within the strict binary of "man" or "woman", this post is for you. Even if you have already posted on the trans fem or trans masc versions, if you are nonbinary, you are welcome here.

This is not bait to start a fight. I will block without hesitation anyone who is actively being a shithead on this post. I want to hear and uplift your voices by getting it directly from you.

Click this to access the trans fem and trans women version of this post.

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wait whaaaat okay im so intrigued by your tmnt iteration what do you meeean they lost venus 😭😭

❓What happened to Venus? Is she still alive?

❓Why is your iteration called Revolution?

❓What's the age order of the turtles?

Since you mentioned Splinter let them chose their own pronouns: 🏳️‍⚧️ What are the turtles' genders?

❓️What is Karai's relationship like with the turtles?

❓️How often does Renet show up? Do you have any time travel adventures planned yet?

❓️What happened to Hamato Yoshi after he broke Splinter and the turtles out of the testing facility?

feel free to skip any of these if they're like spoilers or something <3 im just so curious now lmao

hi tumblr never showed me this ask? sorry it’s been like *checks date* two weeks 😭

what happened to Venus? is she still alive?

worry not, Venus is alive and well! they actually got separated from the others when they were little kids, and they showed back up around the time Raph turned 14. she went through some shit

why is your iteration called Revolution?

to be honest i just looked up words that were synonymous with change. i chose revolution since it could be interpreted as “revolt” or “revolve”. will you break the cycle or continue it?

under the cut since it’s a bit long

what’s the age order of the turtles?

using Raph as a baseline, since he’s the youngest. ages for when the story would start

Raph is 14 years old, Donnie 14 years and 10 months, Venus is 15 years and 8 months, Leo and Mikey are 16 years and 4 months. guess which twin is older

what are the turtles’ genders?

Raph is bigender, he/she. Donnie is demigender, it/they/he. Venus is agender, she/they. Mikey is genderfluid, he/she/they/it alternating

Leo is going to be a trans girl, but it’s going to be a later realization. Leo does identify with being a boy for the majority of her life, so if i’m talking about Leo prior to the egg-cracking it will be with he/him. after the egg-cracking Leo will be using exclusively she/her

+ bonus others! Splinter is pretty pronoun apathetic but since everyone at the lab would use he/him or it/its those are the ones it’s most used to and therefore most comfortable with. Casey is a turigirl, static gender but changing pronouns (he/him some days, she/her others, sometimes both). April does not care whatsoever, so she/her is the default except for when it’s funny or convenient. Renet is genderqueer probably, uses zi/zir and ae/aer. Irma is a cis girl, she/her. Timothy is a trans boy, he/him

what is karais relationship like with the turtles?

this is the one i had the most trouble putting into words. at the start, karai acted pretty antagonistic towards them. it was kinda her job. i want her to be like 03 karai before she gets mutated, where she’s flip-flopping back and forth between her sense of honor and her loyalty to her father. in revolution, it’s venus that insists on giving karai another chance instead of leo. they know what it’s like to be torn between morality and loyalty. after getting mutated, karai and the turtles eventually start getting along for more than a few hours. i want them to be friends by the end of the story. they still don’t quite see eye to eye on a lot of stuff, but they trust each other. if the turtles need to do anything shadier than they’re used to, they go to karai for help. if karai, for any reason, has to part with with her snake skin, the only people she trusts to look after it are the turtles

how often does renet show up? do you have any time travel adventures planned yet?

Renet shows up a lot, since ae kinda sorta get stuck in the turtles’ time for around half a year. i’ve been thinking of having a short time loop arc, where the turtles + friends are each stuck in individual time loops that take place during influential moments in their lives. to get out of their loops, each person has to get a piece of something (crystal? mechanism?) for them to put back together to break the loops. the time scepter is also a catalyst for a pretty devastating event ;)

what happened to Hamato Yoshi after he broke Splinter and the turtles out of the testing facility?

he lays low, for a while. he hides Splinter and the turtles, teaches them what he can about the outside world, how to read and write and speak (in english and japanese), and he starts teaching them how to defend themselves. given the reason Splinter and the turtles were mutated… it’s no wonder they get a grasp on it all so quickly. especially the fighting. Yoshi isn’t as young and strong as he used to be, and he’s a bit paranoid (for good reason), so he makes sure there’s escape plans if anyone finds them, safe spots to hide in, books and videos about martial arts and parenting and survival for Splinter

i’m still not sure how long he manages to hide them, but eventually he gets found out. Splinter and the turtles manage to escape, but… Yoshi doesn’t. it’s a fairly quick death, at least. that’s also when Venus gets separated from the others. the turtles consider him a grandfather of sorts

[a-mosaic-of-stars]

Introduction.post

Greetings, dearest mortals. Tis us, the mosaic, here to exist on tumblr for a while. As a whole, we refer to the group as the mosaic, just as a kind of shorthand.

Basic info:

~{🪦🧿}~

Ulysses. They/them, she/her, hy/hymn. Socialiser/social protector. Kind of the host??? Please don’t refer to me as any kind of host. Genderfluid/rosymothic/gummysharkic lesbian, werewolfkin, arctic wolfkin, OCkin. Will be using the ‘Ulysses screams into the void’ tag, and ‘the void screams back at Ulysses’ for reblogs.

~{⚔️🌬️}~

Arcturus [internal sobriquet, not in any way indicative of real-life name]. They/them, she/her, hy/hymn. Swordsperson/syllogist. Genderfluid lesbian, werewolfkin, arctic wolfkin, OCkin. Will be using the ‘inevitable amalgamations of verbose contradictions’ tag, and ‘reblogging for further inspection by a scientist’ for reblogs.

~{🌕⛓️‍💥}~

[refer to them as The Werewolf] . Bit of a misanthrope. They/them, she/her. Heraic Kinform. Genderfluid lesbian, werewolf. Will be using the ‘werewolf howls’ tag, and the ‘lycanthropic pondering’ for reblogs.

~[🐺🌲}~

[refer to them as The Wolf]. They/them, she/her, he/him. Kinform. Genderfluid lesbian, arctic wolf. Will be using the ‘barking back’ tag for reblogs, probably won’t be blogging much.

~{🔪🎠}~

Lunacy. She/her, it/it’s, they/them, neos with permission. Janusian Emotional Guardian. Artemian vulturehoarder (Spiralbodiment, laughgender, insanecoric, demonmonstergirlic, insanelexic), ceterosexual, as far as they’re aware. Will be using the ‘madness unfurls lying truths’ tag and the ‘staring into an internet hellscape <3’ tag for reblogs.

~{🦌🥩}~

Alastor. He/him. Introjected fictive from Hazbin Hotel. Male, aromantic asexual. Will be using the ‘another radio broadcast from yours truly’ tag and the ‘Alastor reblogs’ tag for reblogs.

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Ethan. He/him, rxt/rxts, !!/!!s. Demiboy/demigender. Some sort of computer program otherkin? Idrk. Catch me using the ‘byte the hand that feeds’ as a tag for my posts, as well as ‘Ethan’s cool shit reblogs’ when I reblog shit (obviously).

~{🪻📓}~

They/them, he/him. Non-binary. New here, please be patient. I think I’ll be posting with the ‘cool breeze over endless fields’ tag, and reblogging with ‘stolen from the void’.

So, what are we?

The easiest way to think of us is as a die with a few different sides. Each side is its own face, a whole personality, a whole worldview, but is still connected to the whole. We function pretty well as a single person, despite what any arguing might lead outsiders to believe. Since there’s only one real train of consciousness, it’s less of a black-out-and-wake-up-months-later-having-been-a-different-person-for-a-while thing, and more of a hmm-where-did-that-thought-come-from-oh-dear-I’m-not-who-I-thought-I-was kind of gig.

We don’t want to formally label ourselves with any topical words like ‘DID’ or ‘—genic’ so please just use plural. We are multiple different beings stuck in one body, and if that’s discourse to you, please leave.

Now: the fun bits.

Favourite artists include: STOMACH BOOK, Ghost and Pals, Vane Lily, Will Wood, The Scary Jokes, Tally Hall, Lovejoy, Penelope Scott, The Crane Wives, Riproducer, Marina and The Diamonds, and I, Monster.

Will read: fantasy, xenofiction, psychological thrillers, supernatural/psychological horror, urban fantasy, some sci-fi.

Will watch: anything with religious horror (specifically Catholic), fantasy, thrillers, mind-benders, supernatural/psychological horror.

Aesthetics: Whimsigoth, Starrflesh, Werewolfcore.

Identities: most of us are genderfluid lesbians.

Specific things most of us like: My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic, The X-Files, The Magnus Archives, Marble Hornets

Specific things most of us don’t like: the Catholic Church. Also Twilight (the vampire book series. Fuck team Edward /hj.)

Turn back to that place from which ye came if:

You think hating others to the point of violence with little justification is ever okay. Bigotry can stay the FUCK off this blog.

You don’t like anything about me. The time you spend on earth is precious, and you should be spending it doing something you love.

You just want to hate on me/troll me/think negative stuff about me. Get a life. Better yet, get a volunteer position and find fulfilment in giving back to the community rather than letting vitriol live in places where love could take up roost instead.

You know who I am in real life. No, you don’t.

And now for some obligatory stamps. You read this far, this one’s on you >:3

Thanks for reading this far! Multiplicity is not an aspect of myself/ourselves that we’ve ever really talked about in any capacity before, so if we end up using any outdated/not so great terminology, just shoot us a polite message/ask, and we’ll try to make things right.

Yours, the Mosaic.

[motorclit]

I find my situation as a demiwoman (I like using woman and not girl because I feel like the latter is a bit.. weird since I’m in my 30s) very weird right now.

While I’m out to my close friends, I’m not exactly out to my parents. I did come out to my mom last year and even explained it to her and she seemed chill about it, but at the same time she talks about LGBTQ+ issues as if I’ve never told her.

Definitely not out to my dad since he lost most of his touch with reality shortly after 9/11, and my dad can be hard to read because there are times where he’s hostile regarding LGBTQ+ issues and times where he’s simply on a “respectfully disagree” level sort of tone.

What kills me is that if I did come out (and again to my mom I guess), QUITE LITERALLY NOTHING ABOUT THEIR HABITS IN INTERACTING WITH ME PERSONALLY WOULD REALLY CHANGE.

Back in middle school, I chose a different nickname (there’s my real name, then my nickname I had throughout the 90s that my parents gave me, but I chose a different nickname because it made more sense in correlation with my real name PLUS I was still coping with my baba passing away and her name is what I picked as my nickname and changed the spelling). My entire life I was never girly, never felt very feminine, yet “tomboy” implied I would either grow out of it or “put on a skirt when appropriate like certain occasions” when I VERY RARELY feel comfortable in a skirt. 

My pronouns? I’ve always went by she/her, but could not handle being called he/him. HOWEVER, in the few moments I’ve interacted with strangers (largely in a retail or some customer service setting) and someone was trying to help me get a question answered or something, when they couldn’t tell my gender, they ended up going neutral and using they/them and it never bothered me.

It was in VERY RECENT YEARS that I stumbled upon the concept of demigirl, demiboy, and demigender. The descriptor of demigirl described how I’ve always been throughout my life.

LITERALLY NO HABITS OF MY PARENTS IN HOW THEY INTERACT WITH ME WOULD BE NECESSARY TO CHANGE IN HOW THEY ADDRESS ME. I JUST FINALLY HAVE A WORD TO DESCRIBE IT.

And yet, I have this morbid curiosity wondering what if I came out to my dad, explained all of that, and include, “You’ve been giving me gender-affirming care this whole time and none of us realized it,” just to see if his brain finally breaks or something. (Of course, I won’t be doing this. My husband and I can’t afford our own place and I’d like to avoid getting kicked out until by some fucking miracle we can finally afford our own place.)

My situation is just.. really weird. I have, so often, wanted to bitch them out whenever they express queerphobic and transphobic views that their own daughter is one of them, always has been, that we’re not some horrible boogeymen out to destroy families, etc. And every time I experience ACTUAL PAIN from having to stay quiet whenever I hear them spout their bigoted bullshit.