#I’m not moderating myself

[gothra]

Unsurprisingly, ideological polarization is bad for healthy conversation about nuanced issues. As it turns out, telling people that “if you believe in Concept A, you’re always and 100% X, and if you are X, you want me and people in my community to die” tends to make it difficult for people to speak up if they believe something, valid, yet hopelessly adjacent to “Concept A” and then, when they don’t speak up, no one ever solves anything. All that’s successfully happened is sending everyone on either side of that issue back into their hidey-holes, rightfully convinced that the other side is their enemy.

Literally, the only thing we can do to escape this level of reactionary behavior is to listen to what other people say, even if we disagree with them and even if we know they’re totally 100% wrong and stupid and evil, and come from a place not borne of moral righteousness, but of genuine curiosity and the hope that a conversation can scratch an itch or draw in some perspective. You should want to see in color, not just your black and white.

[theres-whump-in-that-nebula]

Interesting. Don’t necessarily think I’m autistic but I have more going on than just ADHD and I’m not sure what that is.

[maramahan]

my bg3 experience so far is just. i wanna be friends with everyone but Astarion Does Not Like Me Very Much

[binders-and-beanies]

I hate rich people and no I’m not just talking about billionaires

[goldensunset]

living vicariously through the description of your hike cause I miss like, serious rigorous exercise so bad... the downside of liking physical activity as much as I do is that you might get a permanent spine injury. anyway did you see any cool plants or animals while you were out there? the trail by the house I grew up in had so many adorable snakes!! and lemonadeberries, which you can literally just grab off the branch and snack on while walking lol

lemonade…berries??? i have never heard of such things… that sounds utterly whimsical… woagh… i’ve like never really encountered wild berries that i trusted enough to eat. i mean i probably could eat like the raspberries blackberries and blueberries i find (i think those are the ones) but i’d never do it probably… i didn’t really see any plants or animals that i remember! other than this cool bird that i must’ve forgotten to take a photo of. got some amazing views but i think my photos all contain people in them

[letstrywritingmaybe]

I’m requesting yet again for yall not to leave me comments, I don’t need them and I don’t even necessarily want them. Especially if you’re going to question me and I don’t know you. I don’t care to defend myself. I hate conversing through comments, yeah I know it’s a thing but I don’t like it. I prefer messaging on tumblr or even an ask.

My reputation as a Shinichi hater is alive and well. Good, cause it’s true and I won’t deny it. I’ve been trying to escape this ship for years now and I still haven’t. I’ve said a million times I’m just here for Shiho, give me a better option and I’ll jump ships in a heartbeat! I just can’t get over how cruel he was to her, and how he tried to get into her good graces by pretending to be nice. Plus the canon ship propaganda is so tiring. Sure recently we’ve gotten some stellar moments and I try to focus on that, but I just think my queen deserves better. She deserves someone who can and will love her loudly without making her feel like they settled. Yes his actions speak louder than his words and it’s clear he cares about her, but then I get stupid shit about the canon ship and I’m just like really? This again? Give me a reason to root for them! Or at the very least let my queen live and let her move on. I could care less about him. Everyone fucking loves him already, where’s the love for my queen? I swear most fics go on about how perfect he is and how she’s the problem and how much she needs him, miss me with that bs. I get that in canon, and I’m so over it.

Now excuse me while I continue to write CoAi fics that end happily

Update: while I’m here ranting on my blog. I truly don’t understand why we continue to romanticize the idea of him being an idiot and expecting them to be closer when he didn’t fucking ask or make things clear. The amount of times I’ve heard my irl peeps complain about not knowing where they stand with someone cause it was never clarified is annoying. I don’t want that in fiction too even if I do prefer things to be realistic! Either let my queen make a move and be like this is what I want with you or have him say the actual words to get them together! What’s with all this not knowing and not being on the same page even though you’re supposed to know each other best??? Idk man. I just find it ooc for her to be open with her feelings so I think he has to be the one to spell it out. But then I read this fic and I’m like it’s well written sure but why is it my queen’s fault that she thinks they would be better off apart? That’s very in character to me. And yes him having a problem with it also makes sense, but then to have him go around and play the victim and be like why don’t you understand me???? Like what???? Boy you fucking didn’t say shit! And okay sure you can say she avoided him cause she would, but then why wouldn’t he be clear when they have the actual convo like why make her guess? She’s going to second guess cause of course she would! And that just makes it a whole mess again! Cause now he’s upset with her and she doesn’t get it and he still isn’t being straightforward. It’s 2024, is it really that hard to get a real confession out of him? Must it be coerced like whatever bs happened with the canon ship? Does he really have to lose her to finally go after her?? Cause at that point I low key fucking wish he would. I just really freaking hate that it’s always her fault. Why the fuck is it always her fault for not catering to him? I’m so annoyed cause I like the writing style but it’s exhausting reading this bs. I want out of this fandom. I really want to be done. I care way too fucking much and it’s not healthy at all for me.

[mars-ipan]

it is so nuts trying to have a healthy relationship with food when your sibling is trying to be a gym bro

[sapphicscholar]

Oh boy. In an attempt to really focus on the dissertation and the academic job application process, I logged out of all my fandom accounts on desktop for over a month. I still check in on twitter and tumblr now and then on mobile, but I let my fandom email sit unopened for idk maybe a month or two? And phew, do I have some reading to do!

[0what-a-guy0]

Me looking at the Fic I started as self indulgent then got to serious about and ruined the fun but I want it finished and still good

[nekohooch]

People aren’t even gonna see this part why are you like thisssssssssssss

[kayzero]

If you've been writing Junpei with those plans at mind at the core of it for the entire fic and he's been hitting That hard through all his scenes in the fic then like I would think you can be pretty confident it's gonna work, looking from the outside. Cause if you've got one endgoal in mind with how you're writing him then how he is everywhere else is gonna end up being connected to that endpoint pretty naturally just through knowing that's where you want him to end up, I'd say, so I think if he was gonna feel wrong after some reveal he Already would feel off. and he absolutely does not i fucking love him

I do get a scenario if it's like You've reasoned why he would do something maybe out of the ordinary really convincingly to yourself but being nervous about whether that's gonna come through believably to other people reading it without your mental context on the decision i just had that exact thing happen w the fic i just posted lol

(also the aoi/carlos Cold fragment made me fucking like. bluescreen in real life by the way.)

<3

[vampiremourning]

ngl. unconsciously disengaging from this website has been hdjfkg kinda good for my mental health overall? like yes im still dhdjfjf left out of a lot of stuff BUT i see it less so that means my feelings don’t get as hurt lmao. functionally that’s more or less the same thing probably?

going recluse isn’t what i ever want to do (& I didn’t even do it on purpose, just got busy and had a low social battery because of it) but aside from me being overall comfortable by myself, it just kind of seems like it’s where people are content to leave me. doesn’t feel great but it is what it is.

[lightspren]

so the problem with relying on self report symptom tracking is that you have to

you know

self report

which involves *accurately* assessing and rating your symptoms, such as pain

which can be, hm. difficult for someone who is consistently doubting themself and their experiences and the severity of their conditions

just some observations. lol.

[halloithmeagain]

:)

[the-trans-dragon]

Honestly heartbroken that I’m not allowed to walk around or lift stuff at work, because the constant physical exertion was so healthy that I was only getting injured once a month or so instead of every other day, and for the first time ever the cold didn’t hurt

I got scolded constantly for going outside without a jacket or hat but I couldn’t help it. It was cold, and the cold was so unpleasant, but it didn’t hurt and I couldn’t stop standing in the below-freezing southbound wind letting the air feel numbing and icy and sharp but not like my skin was about to explode

And now I can’t get enough physical exercise because I really need hours of it, and I don’t have time for that on top of a job I’m not allowed to move at, and it’s 68 degrees in the house and it’s so cold it feels like I have the flu

God it was so amazing to experience winter without debilitating pain. I would have stood outside even longer if I’d known I might not experience it again.

Maybe next winter.

[goodlookingforagirl]

Not to vague post but getting word that your ex is doing terribly while you’re doing pretty well…literally there is no high quite like it