#I put the trouble in gender troubles

[ezratheunready]

Being a confusing looking gender freak trans person has resulted in me being called both a dyke and a fag by random people on the street

Gotta keep ‘em on their toes I guess

[raiiny-bay]

consider: a monster boyz movie, but it's... a romance?

[crayonverse]

late pride month art i drew my fav canon bisexual and the two implied bis i remember :3

[baalzebufo]

and btw what if I made more dnd characters

so ah. this guy started as a joke character because I thought it'd be fun to have a silly little bard who is basically fantasy weird al but then I got attached to him because I am galactically incapable of making a joke character so now i unfortunately take him fairly seriously

hes a satyr from theros who was in the middle of a week-long bender and accidentally tripped into a planar portal. he got rocketed thru the far realm before faceplanting into kaladesh filled with a divine spark of inspiration and basically rampaged into some inventors studios looking for an instrument, pilfered a magic accordion, and proceeded to become a musical menace to the multiverse

the giant space hamster was just because I remembered those exist in canon and i cant think of anything more fitting for a mount and best friend than that for him

bonus lil wayne in the jacuzzi

[pied-piper-pluto]

freiren sounds so up my alley and the one thing that's holding me back from watching it is that I hate the costume designs.... this is not a freiren-exclusive problem i feel that way about most fantasy anime these days it just bothers me with freiren because otherwise i Want to watch it

[jsdimensions]

i can't believe it. i might be a pokemon. shinji chair pose

[arsonists-oatmeal]

started playing tf2 again, drew my main

[incense-and-iron]

I didn’t realize we were also doing propaganda for our WoL’s!! Um, so I’ll just post some picks of Vastha [I almost typed Vorsta bc that’s what two of their friends call them for fun/jokes lmao. It’s okay, he’s got funny names for them both too!] Some of these pics are older-- you can tell by the haircut. Also I’m putting it under a cut, not very conducive to helping as propaganda I knowwww, because the pictures are massive and tumblr won’t reformat them to be next to one another.

Anyway, Vastha isn’t up yet, but he will be in the future! Vote on @woltourney ​ for my handsome, transmasc [he/they] gay, blueberry cat <3 He’s super friendly and nice and will cheer you up and cook you a nice meal :D Oh man, I wish I could use some scenery pictures as propaganda-- if only because his major hobby is scenery photography.

More under cut, please please please look I promise it’s worth it; I’m just saving your dash from clutter!

Memes and funny faces after this point bc why not!

[windwardstar]

Anyway the amount of hostility I get from cis guys who feel threatened by my mere existence as a trans tenor would be hilarious if it weren't so isolating and terrifying. Like please I'm not stealing anything from you and it's not making you any less of a guy just because I can reach lower notes than you and look like a girl. I'm just here having fun and vibing with my new voice.

[dilfsuzanneyk]

every few months i go into a little crisis about my gender. anyway considering changing my name currently idk i'm very attached to vex but it just doesn't feel right

[bataddictedloony]

Define a woman!

I’m gonna rant this here cus this argument keeps returning on the clock app and one day, I’m gonna be stupid and leave a comment in the wrong thread or smthn so I’m just gonna get it out of my system:

“How do you define a ‘woman’?”

Answer for idiots: you can’t.

You cannot possibly make a definition for the term ‘woman’ without excluding someone from the group when they clearly ARE part of the group (even if you’re a piece of shit transphobe and don’t want to include trans women). A woman is someone who has the potential to give birth? You just excluded every child before puberty, every infertile woman and every woman on menopause, next. A woman is someone who has a uterus? You just excluded a bunch of intersex women and all women who had a hysterectomy, next. A woman has a period? Excluded the millions of women who never get their period for various reasons AND all the women who take continuous birth control AND women who are pregnant AND again, little girls and women on menopause. A woman has to have XY chromosomes? Are you gonna check that for every feminine-looking person you’re gonna meet? How? Do you not think women with down syndrome are women?

Decades of feminism working so hard to make sure women are more than their genitals and potential to give birth, all flushed down the drain because you refuse to believe trans women are more than men in wigs? You’re weak as shit.

So answer for people who actually want to use their brain:

Woman is defined through experiences. Which experiences? Entirely up to whoever defines themselves as a woman.

The ‘female experience’ is so broad. You cannot possibly define it in one sentence and stick it on everyone who calls the word ‘woman’ their own.

You feel feminine and empowered by doing your nails? Congrats, that’s the female experience and makes you, therefore, a woman.

You feel feminine and empowered by wearing plaid and splitting wood in two with a giant axe? Congrats! Female Experience. Woman.

You feel feminine in a dress? Woman. You feel feminine in a tux and suit? Woman.

You feel empowered as a mother and love being pregnant? Woman! You despise the idea of being pregnant but find empowerment in your career? Woman! You feel like your period makes you more in tune with your femininity? Woman. You feel like your period makes you less than human and getting a hysterectomy makes you feel more comfortable in your body? Woman.

you love long hair? Woman. You love short hair? Woman.

You love loving men? Woman. You love loving women? Woman. You love both? Woman. You love everyone? Woman. You don’t feel like love is your thing? Woman!

Sitting at home with a good movie and a bottle of wine? That’s a woman. Getting bloody in a game of soccer? That’s very woman! Taking a walk with your dog? How very woman! Going to the gym? Such woman! Eating out with friends? Friend woman. Shooting a gun in the yard from the patio you built yourself? All woman!

Whatever the fuck makes you feel in sync with your femininity is your female experience, and if you have female experience and you like it, you are a W O M A N ✨

Same goes for men and the male experience btw! Since the question “what defines a man” is never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever EVER asked for SOME 👀 reason. (We all know the reason….) Also same goes for my fellow enbies and the non-binary experience. If painting your nails bring you closer to your enbie side, you’re non-binary.

Gender is such a deeply personal experience, it’s just dumb to define it for someone else, let alone the entire human species. It’s like asking to define a chair, like, you KNOW what it is but you can’t possibly define it without excluding some chairs (“has at least 4 legs”, that’s a horse also swivel chairs exist).

Sidenote: If some idiot tiktokker shoves a microphone and a camera in your face and goes “WHAT IS A WOMAN” or “HOW MANY GENDERS ARE THERE” just go along with whatever dumbass scenarios they come up with. “How many genders are there?” “My dude, as many as you want!” “Oh so like 40??” “Yep!” “Can I identify as a helicopter lol?” “Sure, who cares, do it!” “Should I demand everyone at my job calls me a helicopter” “You can go to your local townhouse, request to change your name to ‘helicopter’ and they’ll most likely let you. You’re an adult, you can do whatever you want as long as it’s not hurting others.” “You don’t think it would be dumb of me to do that?” “Why would I care, I don’t know you?”

[the-official-account]

One thread of the infinite network of coexistant and conflicting head cannons that exist in my brain says Spar's a cis dude (gasp I know) who's gnc as fuck, but you wouldn't know, because masc fashion is genuinely more practical, and so dresses and skirts and stuff end up being exclusively for when he's chillin' and relaxin'....which is almost never.

[catcrazies-midnight]

gabbo

[the-obnoxious-sibling]

Shanks and Buggy really are lovers forced into shonen. Why Oda didn’t choose to write romance

what a question!

sadly, i don’t think oda writing romance would give you the story you’re imagining. the thing oda thinks of as “romance” is, imo, something he doesn’t enjoy writing. he writes these deeply compelling, complex connections and relationships because he hasn’t restricted himself to his own perception of what “romance” is. if he meant for shanks and buggy to be romantic, i think their dynamic would be less interesting!

like. some of his male characters have a very sexual interest in women, and some of his female characters have a very romantic interest in men, but all of these interests are presented as so shallow next to bonds of genuine connection and friendship.

this isn’t uncommon in shonen manga—it’s written for younger boys, the expectation is the readers don’t care about romance (and may still be in an “ew, cooties!” phase) so it’s wasteful to put it on the page, the Power of Friendship is the relationship you focus on instead—but you still see a lot of female characters who are interested in romance, even though the story isn’t going to go there in a meaningful way. (one of the ways shonen is bad to female characters is in giving them dreams and goals that the genre doesn’t respect.)

one piece is not like that! we’ve got, like, one?? romance-obsessed woman? (i did skip a few arcs in my last re-read so i may be forgetting people besides hancock) and in the main cast only sanji (and brook? i guess??) is obsessed with love. op is bad to its female characters in other, different ways! 🙃

so… yeah, probably not the response you expected to get, but i’m actually glad oda isn’t writing romance intentionally. the romance he wrote accidentally is far more compelling to me.

[canichangemyblogname]

For allies and other genderqueer people...

If you're curious about someone's pronouns and are unsure of their gender, ask personally. If you want to know where someone's landed in a gender journey because where they are has changed from where you knew them- and they've largely yet to tell people- ask personally.

Don't corner someone. Don't confront someone. Just ask casually and privately if you feel you must. Please.

Because otherwise, you're making someone choose between the discomfort of being untrue to themselves or the discomfort of outing themselves in public where that might not be safe.

Don't, for example, ask a "hypothetical" someone in front of a large group- some of whom are complete strangers and some of whom are old friends this person has not seen in literally years- if pronouns have changed. Even if everyone at the table is queer. Don't ask someone this in the middle of a restaurant in ear-shot of other patrons and all the employees. Don't then proceed to yell across the table asking about this person's gender journey and if this person bought a binder and if this person binds, and where this person's transition might go from here. Even if you are genderqueer and at one time explored your gender expression in a similar way.

When this totally "hypothetical" person hedges around the questions with a shrug and an "I don't know," don't press this person. Drop it. Certainly, don't insist on using a different set of pronouns than the ones you were previously familiar with. "How about they/them? I'll use they/them." Because now this person has to choose between being misgendered or coming out in the middle of a fucking restaurant miles away from home and in front of strangers. And even if this person chooses to stay in the closet at that moment by asking you to use old pronouns, you have still made this person choose between being misgendered or coming out in public in front of literal strangers.

And also! Don't tell a totally "hypothetical" dude that he needs to discover the wonders of being involved with women romantically and sexually immediately after he tells you he's a dude and, yes, he likes guys. And don't insist that one day he'll have a sexuality crisis and realize he's "gay" because he probably, truly likes women. And when he corrects you and tells you, "If I'm a dude and I'm exclusively into chicks, that'd make me het," don't double down. Because that tells him that you essentially see him as "girl lite" or a different font of girl. You see him as a chick who's just so quirky that she uses he/him pronouns and goes by an edgy name as a "fuck you" to the patriarchal gender binary, but that's not who HE is.

[homophyte]

mmhhgm 2 AM thinking about HRT…………..perhaps my urgency is influenced by the belief that my transness only becomes acceptable after certain parameters are met and that it is in some way inappropriate to present myself as a trans person while being pretransition . something radical about the exposure of the whole process instead of being one of those instagram transes who pop into existence 7 years on T and post top surgery