#I love my mom :)

[twistedsweethearts]

My biggest hope is that in another universe my mom is living the life she’s always wished for.

And I know that life doesn’t involve me, but I don’t care…

She deserves to be happy too.

[newpathwrites]

Oh my gosh this is so real. When I left my marriage and moved myself and my kids into an apartment, I got the cheapest bare bones furnishings I could find from the discount furniture store. This included a twin size bed for myself. Why should I have something bigger or better than my kids have in this situation? Also, needed to save money and space. And I had no intention of inviting anybody into it any time soon, anyway.

Well, my parents thought this was nuts. What if I met a nice man??!! I wasn’t going to tell them ‘surprise! in addition to turning my life upside down, I’m also asexual and pretty lesbian!’ and will definitely not need a bigger bed for this purpose.

Sigh… they bought me one as a birthday present… because this twin bed situation just couldn’t stand… what if there’s a man to sex with and I just don’t have enough room? 🤦‍♀️

Ace culture is not having a king size bed because why would you waste precious room space that way.

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[audarcy]

[dare-to-dm]

As I said before, I grew up watching the Olympics with my mother.

And there was one year when I was pretty young that we had a conversation while watching that has always stuck with me (I think it was the '96 games in Atlanta, during which I was 7).

We were also following along with the medal counts in school and celebrating all of America's wins as a class, which felt very fun and patriotic. So I noticed in contrast that my mom would often cheer for other teams and get excited when people from different countries won. And I asked her why.

She said something along the lines of "Of course it's exciting when your own team wins. But the American athletes have a lot of advantages. And I like to cheer for the underdog too."

It was clear that I didn't understand what she meant by advantages, so she asked me why I thought the Americans won so many medals. I answered something like "Because they are the best? Or maybe because they work the hardest?"

She replied "It's important for you to understand that everyone who makes it to the Olympics is very talented and works very hard. They deserve to be celebrated. But most of the athletes from America have more time and money to spend on things like the best equipment and the best training. Many of the other countries that get a lot of medals are like this too. They do the best they can to make the games fair, but that doesn't mean everyone has the same opportunities. So it's even more impressive in some ways when someone who doesn't have those advantages wins."

Looking back on this, I take away 2 major things. One is that my mom did a great job teaching me about privilege before we developed the current language we have for those ideas. And the other is that I really appreciate all the situations she used as learning opportunities for me and never talked down to me even when I was very young. The fact that it stuck just proves the value of those conversations. You're never too young to learn!

[startheskelaton]

What’s Sparkplug’s dynamic with Elita-One? I love how you designed them both >_<

Oh she absolutely adores her

This was one of the first TikToks I made about them. Elita is always dying to give Optimus development… why can’t it happen the other way this time. Sparkplug has always been Elita’s baby, and Elita has always been Sparkplug’s mom.

I love my own mom, so it’s hard for me to not include a good mom that reminds me of my own

[cata-intheflesh]

My mom, watching deadpool and wolverine: wait, why did he say Scott first? Really... fondly...

My mom: ...that's kinda gay

Me: I KNOW RIGHT?

Me when I tell my daughter abt my dead boyfriend.

[al8estos]

Comic based on the headcanon that scout is actually really good at drawing (kinda based on expiration date) mixed with my experience being the only artist in the family

[livelaughlaney]

for all the mama girls ꨄ

[dinoswallowedsoap]

Miguel O'Hara but my mom called him a musician so now he is. I love my mom

[deariedove]

i love my mom

Jacksonville Skyline by Ryan Adams // Joy from Everything Everywhere All At Once (2022) // Letter to My Rage: An Evolution, by Lidia Yuknavitch // unsure // Dean Winchester from Supernatural // Suzanne Buffam, “Enough” // Evelyn from Everything Everywhere All At Once // tweet by yoongienthusias // unsure

[lizakukoldxx0]

okay guys 10 likes and I'm going into the woods to look for the real Alan

[idkwh0y0uare-haha]

thinking about the time when my mom sent me this with zero context cuz she knows i love gerard way

[scary-friend]

My mom has NPD, and I have NPD.

When my mom was a kid her mother was incredibly distant and didn’t want her to get attached to her.

Why?

Because she had breast cancer, any day she could be gone and she never got close to my mom as a result.

She insisted my mom always had to look perfect, never allowed to leave without makeup, she never comforted my mom when she was sick/very hurt, and you wanna know something? None of this was told to me by my mom. This is all coming from things my dad has told me.

When my mom brings up stories of her mother she’s always smiling and reminiscing about the women who raised her. She laughs about times she was hurt and her mom brushes it off because it’s just how it was. It made her tough and she loved her mom so much.

Her mom passed when she was 21. And after that she had a rather complicated life with relationships.

I don’t believe anything my dad told me about my grandma I never met. He never met her. And frankly, I don’t think he has the best intentions when he tells me those things.

Often when people talk about being raised by narcissists, they always talk about their trauma with abusive parents. But often it’s unlikely that the parents are even narcissist to begin with. They just use it as a label for bad people.

My mom’s not perfect, growing up she ignored me a lot because she’s just following with her mom would do. She just focused on herself. And it did hurt because I wanted my mom to love me as much as I loved her. Growing up now, I think my mom just doesn’t know how to take care of kids. Her household wasn’t perfect either growing up. It was very messy. Over time as I grew older It’s like she finally learned to let me in. As though before she was afraid that I would get too attached and then she wouldn’t be here anymore.

I love my Mom so much, she has problems managing her anger, but she always lets go. She apologizes without words. She buys me my favorite snacks or gets me trinkets I love. And for the first time in years, she started saying “I love you” back when I would say it.

Stuff like that is just hard for her because it’s not something she grew up with. My mom is the way she is because of how her parents raised her. she was distant when I was young because that’s what was normal. But now that I’m an adult, my mom hugs me, she checks on me to make sure I’m okay, she wants me to be comfortable in my skin, she makes it clear that she just wants me to be happy.

I’m just so tired of people using NPD as a scapegoat to call people terrible. Because my mom has made mistakes, but those mistakes don’t make her a bad person.

There’s a reason I chose my mom over my dad, and that’s because my mom loves me, would choose my happiness in a heartbeat.

My dad made it clear who he cares about more, but he still acts like my mom is the problem. She’s not manipulating me, she just knows how I am and that I can’t handle being alone. My mom knew for a long time that I probably wouldn’t be able to be independent, and that I’d need to be with her for most of my life. And she didn’t care. She’s made her life the way it is to care for me.

My dad just wants me to be a copy of my sister, and gets frustrated when I’m not.

My mom isn’t some monster manipulating me into being helpless dad.

I have chronic fatigue and pain that makes it so I can’t function well without help. Mom is taking care of me because she wants what’s best for me.

Stop saying she’s “broken.”

Because if her NPD makes her “broken,” then so am I.

Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m gonna go give my mom a hug.

[lordlycan]

Me giving flowers to my mom because of all the things she has done for me that make her my mommy and truly shows how much she loves me and I love love love my mommy :)

[milogoestogreendale]

my mom, unprompted: i was looking at your community wall and thinking. you know those, like, bad ads from autism speaks? i was just imagining one of those, but it pans over to your wall and it’s like *ominous voice* this… is autism.