#I feel so isolated in the fandom bc of it
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can someone explain to me why I hate Player theory in Undertale?!?!
like... I see it being interesting, it's logical, it has solid evidence, but... i just hate it...
i don't know why, but i can't but feel repulsed and miserable at the idea of it being true, and noone seems to get it the way I do...
#I feel so isolated in the fandom bc of it#and it's almost everywhere so it taints my experiences#player#undertale#frisk#chara#theory#undertale theory#sans#toriel#paparus#asgore#alphys#undyne#mettaton#artists on tumblr#game theory#<-lolš#undertale au#player theory
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being overwhelmingly white isnāt unique to gw2blr in fact iād say most fandoms on tumblr are like that. but sometimes when ppl are like āwhy are there so few poc in this space?ā itās not because none of us are interested in gw2. itās because, unintentionally or not, you guys have curated a space that is so unwelcoming and uncomfortable to poc that it dissuades us from engaging at all and, on occasion, has driven us out.
#and before u ask#no there have never been racist mobs making a concetrated effort to drive a single poc out#its just that the way the fandom acts sometimes makes it Very clear that hurt white feelings are prioritized above all#over our voices and that shit is isolating and i know a lot of poc who have quietly stopped engaging bc of it#and it especially hurts bc i see so many ocs of color its like#im glad ur having so much fun playing dolls. wish u would stick up for us irl when it counts#antalks
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I have a genuine question being Aroace but I'm afraid to ask and my headcanon will go to waste.
But KMKY's Ford always seemed to be at least in some way the aroace look (being demi or gray that is), did you do it out of want, in the idea of looking, or is it just part of the character and you never thought of yourself in a sexuality for him?
I can definitely see Ford being ace!
I myself am demisexual so I definitely think some of that perspective leeched into how I write Ford. Because my own experience informed how I wrote him, little things like being kind of oblivious/frustrated when strangers flirt with him (the hand witch or the girl from college who worked in the aquarium with the legwarmers lmao) because they don't know him!!! So how dare they!!! Lmao, falling for Bill's mind first since it didn't really matter that he was a shape or a muse or whatever, the rest would work itself out, feeling seen and only crushing initially because it seemed like his mind was being appreciated first and foremost, and treating their sex life like an experiment/engaging with the kinks/power plays inherent rather than just going through the motions (because kink makes more sense sometimes than just some undefined biological urge that you're supposed to have but no one can explain it to you, yet it's perfectly understandable to go 'oh they like feeling powerless as a powerful being I understand that perfectly, now how can I get creative with it'.)
I definitely think he wanted romantic attention from Bill, and wanted to be valued romantically (hence going on a date with Susan and Cathy Crenshaw) but the idea of getting romantic attention from a stranger is unappealing (hence why he was so reluctant to go on the date with Susan) and wanted the sort of holistic acceptance that comes with ideas of romance (because then his polydactylism will be accepted along with his unique mind) but the traditional trappings of romantic relationships aren't that appealing (was worried that he would have to engage in gay culture/grow a moustache and have a makeover to be in this relationship ECT). Bill was great for him BC he accepted and actively sought out all of Ford's weirdness and the dark bits you're ashamed to show, and then got freaky with them lmao. And there's no way to cement a bond quicker than to show someone your most vulnerable parts and have them accept those things unconditionally. Turning shame into dependence right there. That truly is the no one knows you like I do trap, and that shit feels inescapable.
Because of my own experience I know that you can be demisexual and still have a preference for gender or looks, hence why he built the "flattering vessel" for Bill to not only be flattering by beauty standards in general but also subconsciously to be exactly what Ford found attractive. The kicker is that personality means more than good looks, so when Bill inhabited the body in a different way than Stanford expected but he still found his personality all the more fascinating because of it, that was probably what cinched his feelings BC he got to know more about Bill's weirdness and see how it matched his own.
I am giving you a big virtual hug anon BC no head canon is ever wasted, how you engage with a story you like is important and you deserve to feel seen and heard when you engage in content you like. If I can go some way towards making the fandom of this fic a safe welcoming place it's my privilege to do so as a writer!
#all headcanons are good in my books!#fandom is for everyone#cringe is dead#and all the good things#i had my own journey as an ace person and coming to terms with how fluid it felt as my circumstances changed#when i was in a lonely isolating ldr being ace meant i didnt have to acknowledge a need for closeness which was probably not healthy#when i was in a loving relationship where i felt seen and known embracing the demisexual side was scary but liberating#and recognising when sex helps with intimacy and figuring out how i can engage with sex in a way that makes me feel good was wonderful#i had other things muddying the waters too#like a stint as an ace sex worker which i only got into bc of my ex#and the shift from sex feeling performative and transactional to being something i could enjoy without pretence#kink helped a lot and feeling in control thats why i feel ford should be a dom too#bc it is so cerebral and engaging to be the one dictating how things go down#and playing mind games is ten times better than doing none of that and just focusing on a physical reaction#anyway i rambled in the tags#sorry for oversharing#i hope this is a good answer to your ask bud
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getting real tired of people who are shitting on āfound familyā more generally as a narrative concept and specifically named familial dynamics in fan interpretation of characters in particular because it all seems to be getting painted with a really wide and really homogenous brush. āwe need to take found family away from people because they think it all has to be In Nuclear Family Terms and do you know friendship exists and you donāt have to call these characters siblings to legitimize their relationship while making it clear you Donāt Ship Them Ew Gross and THEN you sneer at people who Do ship themā cool cool that is a lot of really intense characterization and assigning of motive to other people en bloc!
like sure thereās some meaningful critique to be found in a broad trend to label every single relationship directly and specifically with terms that have very specific contexts and roles but im waiting to be told when anyone IS by the standards of people making and reblogging these very sweepingly generalized posts allowed to call a relationship parental or whatever. is that Ever allowed. who is handing out the permits. sometimes a specific term for a relationship isnāt actually about wanting an excuse to sneer about your ship (and frankly thereās a lot of projection going on there imo from people who are actively sneering about other peopleās interpretation of a relationship!) and itās because there are very specific contexts and details about a dynamic that makes exploring it from the lens of siblings or whatever very rich and compelling and interesting because words mean things and assuming everyone is just being reductive and demanding conformity to a nuclear family is, ironically, really reductive.
so like. cool it. stop being really fucking mean about people having an interpretation of a dynamic you personally donāt like or makes you feel a little weird or uncomfy because you ship them.
#gav gab#im so tired of seeing people do this lmao#is someone actually being reductive and trying to get your ship labeled ābasically incestā#or did they just express on their own blog that they donāt ship something bc they see those characters as siblings#so it feels weird to them#you know#the exact personal preference and interpretation youāre expressing in the opposite#itās all āUGH not every relationship NEEDS A SPECIFIC LABELā as soon as the label isnāt romantic lmao#like amazing of you to start caring about how friendship matters as is legitimate without anything else#as soon as itās not about your fucking ship anymore :)#be real you do not care about friendship lmao you can just dismiss it more easily and comfortably#when people arenāt using terms that are more loaded to your ship#are the big meanie found family enjoyers actually harassing you for shipping fake incest#or are you just uncomfortable when it is not about you#and chronically unwilling to curate your experience the way you demand other people to#because fandom has always catered to shipping and why should it ever Not be expected to do that#bc I sure see a lot of shit talking of familial dynamic labels based on people who use those labels being weird to other people#and not a lot if any of those people actually being weird to shippers#and one or two isolated incidents is not indicative of a widespread problem#do what everyone who doesnāt like a popular ship does and unfollow and block lmfao grow up
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Maybe the fogās here because I want it here.
Is that why I opened the windows?
Maybe I asked the fog to comeā¦
-MAG170: Recollection
#furry art#anthro art#fursona#ink markings#vent art#avoiding tagging the show the lines are from bc the art has nothing to do with the podcast lmao#the rest of these tags are rambling you can stop reading now no worries !#itās just getting gross outta my head and onto paper#Iām so bad at conversations and I know itās my own fault but it feels isolating#I gotta get better at talking but Iām just afraid to reach out to people#no idea how to talk that isnāt infodumping#I just wanna talk about my OCs or my fandoms or justā¦. anything but feel like no one wants to hear that shit lmao#sometimes I feel like the people in my life would rather interact with anyone other than me lmao#I feel way better after drawing this out tho#bless the arts#i know i know i need to be the one to reach out more#and i know my anxiety stems from my parents hardcore ridiculing me whenever i talked to much#and my exes ignoring me at the drop of a hat for whatever new thing piqued them#but its hard to know that logically and get my brain to cooperate#and not think that I'm automatically annoying every person i speak to#although maybe it's also better because anyone who gets stuck in a room irl with me knows i don't shut up lmao#maybe its for the best i can never manage to do it in text
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(I keep telling myself that I won't post it and then I don't and then I feel annoyed with myself but I tell myself that I shouldn't post it and then I don't and-)
#thinking about the times I used to stay inside for so long as a kid that I forgot how to act in public#what do you mean I can't play with the football in the store to test it out?#how does a crosswalk work again? do i have to wait until a car shows up?#weird times#or the first few weeks in school after summer break when you suddenly can't simply stand up and walk out when you're bored?#i don't know why I got this way#maybe lack of human interaction#no siblings few friends and parents who knew they could leave me alone and I wouldn't do anything stupid#just stare out the window stare at my wall play video games play with my dolls#always just there but also not quite#anyway#point is:#i haven't posted on this blog for so long and it feels like those times when I was younger and stayed inside my home for weeks at a time#i've been meaning to make a post that's been weighing on my heart for quite a while but idk how to word it without it sounding blame-y#not towards you guys#but-#i'm probably not making any sense#there's an odd feeling i've had towards bc and the fandom (generally and at shows not on here y'alls are sweethearts) since the end of last-#-year#and it only intensified in march when i went to the shows#I can't put it into words but alongside my hospital stay in july it has been very isolating and alienating#and it feels even weirder pretending like i don't have this feeling nagging me every time I reblog something and-#-go on with business as usual#....#the weather has been very grey in Germany and my end of year depression has been hitting hard#maybe I should sleep it off#but I've been trying to do that for almost a year now
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I don't know how to word so I just. Send hug gif
I hope you don't mind me sending these kfdngskdfn
š« thanks
Sorry if I bummed anyone out
It just kinda sucks
I was so excited to have a place that felt!!! So accepting!!! And it felt like everyone was just toying with the characters in their own creative way, whether that be ships, blogs, rps, etc.
A place where a weirdo like me could thrive.
But
Idk lately this place is starting to feel as draining as any other aspect of my life. Idk what changed... in reality it's probably only me that's changed.
Like I'm constantly scared of something,,,
Maybe I'll just disappear until the next ep drops again fjdksndkdnns
#another thing that kinda bothers meā#I've talked to a friend before about this in private so I'll keep it short but likeā#kinda feels like parts of this place aren't ready for mature conversations???#that's why im so slow on updating my fic like.#generally i have a pretty fluffy depiction of FieryFaith. but with my fic i wanna delve into more nuanced problems andā#ugh. idk. if you look at my ao3 you could see i write some PRETTY HEAVY angst.#i have like a 20 chapter smth fic with themes of dissociation. isolation. s***cdal ideation. etc.#and many more of the like. bc in those fandoms it at least feels like there's a large enough audience for that kinda thing#i thought the same was the case for here... but lately this place is giving kinda toxic positivity vibes almost...#its probably just me projecting how i feel onto my environment but it feels like 'only post fluff or light angst or u finna get stomped out'#ya feel?#again. probably just me projecting my feelings and insecurities on my environment. thats my problem#but either way it's not condusive to my brand of creativity#ough....#rambling
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being an oc/canon creator in fandom feels a lot like having your own corner in the playroom where, while everyone else is participating in a big game of tag, you're playing a game of house with dolls. sometimes you'll get people coming over to check out what you're doing between turns, but most of the time you're alone.
until one day, a fellow oc/canon lover or creator finds you and spends all of playtime in your corner listening to you explain the background lore of the house and what's happening in the story.
they're the best thing to happen to your little corner.
#idk i'm feeling things rn#oc#oc/canon#original caracter#in this case it is diff from /reader#bc /reader can be for /reader and /oc crowds while /oc usually only gets /oc attention#it's more isolating i mean#so the few /oc friends who've shared interest#or just fandom friends who've listened and loved my ocs#ššš hugs forever#like i said im feeling a lot tonight
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weāre almost three months into the year and I havenāt uploaded a full fic yet ā¹ļøā¹ļøā¹ļøā¹ļøā¹ļøā¹ļøā¹ļø
#I know itās bc Iām about to come on my period#but this legit is making me tear up#Iāve always posted consistently#even if itās just one fic a month#it just feels so wired and I feel so disconnected from fandom lately#and idk it just feels very isolating#like if Iām not contributing then Iāll just fade away#IM SORRY I donāt mean to be a complainer Iāve just been so in my head recently#and genuinely struggling to write and much less finish anything#idk it just makes me very sad#Iāve started two different fics and have an idea for another two#plus the other like eight Iāve already had in the list#and I just feel. blegh. I donāt know :/#sorry to complain I just feel very unsettled#āin store chit chat! š«#WEIRD not wired FUCK
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this is a post scribbled angrily in glitter pen in my diary pls ignore <3
#this is so insecure and bullshit but like#sometimes writing fics is. no fun#bc you feel like you can't keep up with other writers just churning out fics and they're all so good and nuanced and better than yours#or bc you can't keep up with your own brain and all the ideas and you don't have the time to do them all justice#or bc you just can't get a spark of a conversation with other fans to catch fire the way you want to so you're just.#spinning wheels in your own head wishing you were better faster friendlier less alone#and let's not forget the fucking commodification of fandom#getting messages in your inbox only to find it's people harping for more content for a fandom on the back burner or a fic you've left behin#i love that you love my work like that but. it makes me feel like i'm at a family reunion and my aunt is asking me about the job i had#two jobs ago#and somehow you keep getting those messages even tho your current work is sparse on comments and reblogs#so you spend your slivers of free time writing something you hope is good for these characters you love only to feel like you're standing#alone in the street hawking a mediocre finished product and everyone is walking past you disinterested#it's fucking isolating. it's draining#you can only write āfor yourselfā so much before it's not worth the time and effort#obviously i will keep writing. but like. it's fucking frustrating. and i feel like a petulant child about it but i just can't shake it#anyway. here's wonderwall or whatever
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Is it just me or is it becoming harder and harder to curate your online experience due to every social media platform using algorithms to throw content at you
#fandom really isn't fun for me anymore and i'm like#really tempted to just stop using social media#bc it's starting to impact my mental health#tumblr used to be the only good website but if the leon fandom has shown me anything is that it fuckin sucks here now too#like i'm starting to get really anxious bc i feel like there's no online 'safe space' to enjoy content anymore#no matter what i'm always being bombarded with stuff i don't want to see#and what made fandom fun isn't really what's prevalently discussed or circulated anymore#so it also feels very isolating and socially ostracizing
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the urge to bring back 2000s fandom creation memes and games is so strong
#idk fandom feels so isolating and sad these days#it might be bc i ship primarily rarepairs but even still#i feel like fandoms as a collective have become very isolated and there's no appreciation for the friendships that can be created#it just makes me sad#fandom#fandom crit#anyways if u see me going thru blogs from 2013 yknow why
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ppl really b acting as if there's only one specific ship that has weird shippers that will complain about ppl not shipping their otp. it's literally always the case you either get fucked over for liking a gay ship or for liking a straight ship or for liking a toxic ship or people just start going "oh there's nothing wrong with the ship but the shippersš" and you don't fucking know what they're talking about. like can we all just chill. the weird shippers r everywhere it's called some ppl are assholes sometimes. it's not fandom specific
#it's like with the āx ship sent death threats to the author!ā#first of all : proof?#second of all: I've heard this for multiple diff ships that is not new that is not exclusive to one fandom or one ship.#sometimes ppl in fandom r too invested and do stupid shit#god#I'm sorry I doomscrolled another Instagram reel comment section#it's just. I'm so tired of ppl talking about mha's fandom as if it's the worst thing of all time?#first of all no its not? fucking chill?#second of all. if the fandom is ruining the show for you then genuienly get off the internet#third. so sorry but half of the time when ppl say the mha fandom is awful they're either calling it cringe (fandom is always cringe get over#it it's ok) they're complaining about everything being gay (so you're a homophobe ok. literally what is wrong with making character queer#ON OUR OWN INTERPRETATIONS OF THE STORY. DUDE.#)#or theyre just.... picking up random shit thats been rumored to have happened or that's just an isolated thing that happens all the time in#every fandom (refer to my earlier points)#genuienly. if the fandom pisses you off that much. get off the internet . block the tags. like for your health.#it's so annoying to try and look at mha stuff or even TALK IRL#WITH PEOPLE WHO LIKE MHA#(i am not fucking with you this has happened)#and being told or reading that oh mha is fun but the fandom sucks :///#sorry you don't experience whimsy and are incapable of curating your own experience?#Jesus#(there's also the ppl who r like ugh mha is mid mha sucks in like comments of mha fan but like fuck these guys#you're entitled to your opinion I if you don't like mha that's fine I'm not going to throw eggs at you but like...#why do u feel the need 2 go into a comment section of stuff that is about mha to say that mha sucks actually and the author is bad and the#characters r badly written and blah blah blah. LEAVE ME ALONEEEE)#Anyway maybe one day I will finally leave Instagram but for now I can't bc fukcing. ppl r on there#mumblings//#rant
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Watching gaming dudebros have full-on heart attacks and stroking out over tasm2 not winning or any of their basic ass shooting games and running around talking about how ānobody played Alan Wake 2 or BG3ā when in fact a shitload of people did play both games and yall refuse to branch out and play other games and yall live in a bubble of just Fortnite, Cod, and other games just like it, and now youāre going out of your way to be unhinged individuals online about it instead of showing good sportsmanship and congratulating the amazing games and teams behind them that did win an award.
#also Iām like the biggest spiderman fan out there but ofc bg3 sweep had to come through but even im not sitting here screaming over tasm2#i feel like dudebros crying about their games not winning when they single handedly refuse to interact in fandom spaces and support content#is the main reason why ur games didnāt win bc yāall donāt interact with anything outside of the game#it was the dedicated fanbases and the ppl who loved these companies and the actors/writers/producers/etc tht got their deserved awards#bc they actually care !!!#yall donāt gaf about anything outside of just gameplay yall sit in isolated bubbles and act like every other game is āmidā and non existent#bc u refuse to interact and yalls weird thing with specific genre games tht I wonāt get into rn bc tht will go into weird masculinity play#in gaming spaces but#stop being weird ass adults online bc your game didnāt win#just saw a shit load of comments admitting they āwerenāt votingā for anything while pissing bc bg3 got goty like make it make sense????#donāt call something mid or bash the va who rightfully got an award when u showed no support for ur game#like looking at half of these tweets and corny ass dramatic reaction videos by grown ass men is embarrassing#Iām so glad that Iām an actually a well adjusted adult bc I couldnāt be acting like some of yall fr#bg3#alan wake 2#goty 2023
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Hey uh
anyone here on Art Fight this year or-
Cuz I'm on there, same name and everything. I'm on Team Vampires.
You can like, add me or whatever...I mean, if you want...
I haven't interacted with anyone on here or even really drawn in a couple months, sweet pulsating spider-christ ...
#I KNOW I KNOW I CAN JUST. DO THE THING. BUT I ALSO CAN'T. YKNOW????#I DON'T KNOW WHERE MY MIND HAS BEEN I DON'T#I'M STILL STRUGGLING WITH HEALTH Y'ALL#and sometimes instead of bouncing back and forth from feeling stable enough to do things and absolute dog shit i just-#-'welp i guess I'll just not do anything! that'll solve all of my problems! I'll get better if i don't do things and just rest and space out#-'WOW I CAN JUST BE ISOLATED AND PATHETIC IN MY ROOM ALL DAY COOL'#like...I EVEN GOT MY PAIN MEDS BACK! AND I QUALIFIED FOR A HIGHER DOSE WHICH IS A MIRACLE BC THIS IS FLORIDA!!#but like. idk.#and it's not like i don't care at all!!! I've missed you guys like fuck!!!! i just feel like I'm so far behind and everyone is on another-#-plane of existence at this point! and the longer it goes the more guilty i feel coming back bc i feel ashamed and lazy...#but i know you guys don't give a shit about at all. and I'm sorry for assuming and being so hard on myself#but also my fandoms are all over the place rn so uh. I'm so sorry LOL#but seriously anyone on art fight?? i really need to get back drawing but it's daunting...#especially since my guess 2 or 3 years were kickass by the last 2 literally no one but my wife interacted with me#one friendly fire from my partner. in two fights. after putting HOURS OF EFFORT THRU CHRONIC PAIN AND ILLNESS into all of those pieces...#i know I didn't draw a fuckton but i just got so discouraged and sad after awhile. and some never even got any attackee comments.#it all felt so damn pointless#but I'm nothing if not a survivor#as Zapp Brannigan once said; 'the spirit is willing but the flesh is spongy and bruised'#I'm a hot fuckin mess but even if i barely get any interaction at all again i can at least say i didn't give up-#and put in effort and love like always. no half-assing with art fight unless it's just me and my wife or a friend doin stupid friendly fires#BUT ANYWAY I STILL WANNA FUCK SLASHERS. IF ANYTHING THERE'S STILL THAT. IT'S STILL ME.
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is this thing still on......
#wow long time no see#popping on out of nostalgia š„²#ive just started studying for my second medical licensing exam#and i was just reminiscing about studying for the first one last year#bc it was at the same time as you are home and as it was release and all the album stuff in general#and i seriously wouldn't have survived that period without harry and everything he was up to#it's so much isolation and weeks upon weeks of just studying from sunrise to sunset and it's mentally draining#so ofc im not excited to do that again š#and feeling stressed that i don't have anything to really look forward to day to day like i did the first time#so i was like aw i should see what people are up to#i still keep up with harry a little like he still comes up on my socials and i see his concert videos and stuff#still rooting for him and still love him to bits tbh but his fandom is unbearable#i gave it an honest try but i didn't even make it 3 years lmao it was hell#maybe it's better now! but better not to risk it lol#i'll find some other way to not off myself these next few weeks#i hope everyone is well!!!!!!
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