#I don’t need to justify myself to them…

[katt1281]

got my first negative comment on my timeloop fic…not to be dramatic but I never want to write again rn :] They said everything in the latest chapter was ooc and it’s a huge blow to my confidence as a writer honestly! Why the hell do people feel the need to give ‘constructive’ criticism when I didn’t ask for it…just leave me alone god I’m doing this for free and for fun, not to meet your expectations. If you don’t like how a fic is going then tap the fuck out, don’t stick around and tell me that an essential aspect of the plot sucks. Literally criticizing the main thing I can’t change. If I were to change it to their liking, 1. It would be a different fic entirely 2. It would also be a blank document, because I don’t want to/know how to write that fic. Anyways. Good morning

[portrait-of-a-moron]

There doesn’t have to be an audience for your art your art is for yourself!!!! Be self indulgent!!! Draw the character no one likes!!!!! Write fanfiction of a show no one watched!!!!

Allow yourself to just make stuff for you!!!!!!!!!!

[cephy-the-squid]

Aroace Barbie is an amazing headcannon and Lesbian Barbie is an amazing headcannon and also simultaneously I personally really love the idea of Barbie being attracted to men but not Ken. There is something really great bout her not ending up with Ken for no other reason than her not being into him specifically.

[glittertimes]

I shouldn’t have to actively fight to not get addicted to things! Like why are things that are addictive so easily accessible to me!

[vroomian]

Dehumanizing people to express disgust at the idea of sex is extremely vile and why people cal aces sex negative

Someone’s mad that they’re made of meat I see.

[yurissweettooth]

I would like to go back to the days of just liking characters who have done shitty thinhs without needing to justify why we like them.

No one don't needs to come out with a PowerPoint presentation with all the reasons it's actually okay for you to like them, how they've changed now, why their backstory justifies it, or all of the things they have done wrong with a list of reasons why you don't agree with what they did. You are already allowed to like them.

This has been prominent among villain likers (hi) since the beginning of time but this happens a lot with morally grey characters, reformed characters, etc.

Anyone who would take you in bad faith and make wild assumptions about your character just because you posted fanart of a villain or something is not someone you need to bend over backwards to please.

Also this rarely ever works anyone because some people just wanna take everyone in bad faith.

Of course I am one such people who often feels the need to do this often to justify posting fanart or fanfic. Need someone to come swat me with an electronic flyswatter every time I try do that

[ringwraithmd]

had a convo with someone about fandom and writing and moralization and purity culture and they were against it and yet when we started talking about problematic media and authors the arguments they used were literally the same as moralizing arguments

still trying to understand their logic

won’t go into too much more bc they’re on tumblr too but I’m still thinking about it

think I came off as a dick bc I didn’t just nod my head and agree

but mostly I’m just real fucking tired

[irrolyphant]

Oh, whoops, I’ve accidentally started rewatching Justified

[gandreida]

hheeeuuurrgghppbbtttt

[strohller27]

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[dancedance-resolution]

guys do you want to know something absolutely insane. i was thinking about a catholic related world news event that happened a while ago and thought to myself man, i can only imagine how crazy it must’ve been for the kids going to my old catholic school the day after that happened. so i googled when it happened to see if my best friends little brother was there when it happened and um. I was there when it happened???? lololol i’ve been thinking about it for 20 mins and i think that now i maybe do remember the teeniest tiniest bit going to school after it happened…. anyways as if i needed any more evidence that my time in catholic high school was deeply deeply traumatic to me, it turns out my brain did the trauma response thing of completely erasing my memory of those last two years lol

[lilgynt]

i’m limping bc i kicked my moms door yesterday which yippie yappo gonna pretend im spider man and got injured on idk patrol or some shit not that kicked my moms door bc i was angry that she got legitimately upset wit me for needing to use the restroom and couldn’t wait till i was done to do her hair dye stuff but my coworker noticed and now i gotta kill myself

[digitaldiseas3]

fighting demons today

[fierykitten2]

Pokémon fans don’t understand that “event-exclusive” means that Wake and Leaves can’t (and shouldn’t be at least until the next time they appear in a game that isn’t SV) be found in the game outside events part 8000000000000000

[lucielovekj]

I loathe how much people struggling w hygiene is such a sticking point in these conversations, how it’s like one of the most known and common symptoms of basically every mental illness and yet it stalls literally every conversation asking people to not actively abuse us for being mentally ill.

I’m lucky, during those times I’ve always been able to shower and dress myself when I’ve needed to, I’ve never been forced to actually go anywhere like that…but people act like someone being so miserable and so detached from themselves that they can’t even bring themselves to perform basic self care is 1. A personal attack on them which they’re justified in retaliating for, 2. A personal choice they’re intentionally making and 3. Something which makes someone less of a human being and less deserving of compassion and respect.

Like yeah standing behind someone in line at Walmart who smells funky isn’t fun, but I promise you whatever they’re going through that’s caused it is a million times worse and harder than the 30 seconds of mild, escapable discomfort you felt. I promise you they know they’re not doing great, they’re absolutely sorry, they definitely feel bad about it, you don’t need to make it worse. They don’t wanna be that in that place any more than you do. It costs nothing to just have some compassion for them.

[sizzlingsandwichperfection-blog]

john green quit tumblr because of the cock monologue

No, he didn’t.

This all happened a long time ago, and my memory is imperfect, but here’s my memory: The cock monologue certainly hurt my feelings! But when people are trying to force someone out of a virtual space, they sometimes resort to behavior that is similar to bullying except it’s not completely identical to bullying because the person they’re making fun of has a lot of power. (As someone who got bullied a lot in school, the feeling was similar in 2014 but it wasn’t identical--because I was aware of the fact that I was okay, that what was in danger was certain aspects of my identity/self-value that I treasured but not my entire personhood itself.)

Anyway, it hurt my feelings, and still hurts my feelings when I see it shared (it feels to me like a joke about my sexuality, although I understand other people don’t see it that way; but yeah, you don’t know much about my sexuality and I don’t really want you to but it feels like a joke about that to me, which just bums me out). 

But all of that stuff is a side effect of my job and having been successful at it, and I like my job. It is a great job. All jobs have aspects that suck. My job has fewer such aspects than other jobs I’ve had.

So yeah, I did not quit tumblr because of the cock monologue. (I also did not ask tumblr to make reblogs un-editable.) .

I quit tumblr because a few people started to make extremely specific threats. One might, for instance, send me an ask that featured a google streetview screenshot of my home alongside a plan for breaking into it.

I was super scared of these people (or possible person pretending to be a few people?) because they seemed to have a lot of knowledge about me and my family. We lived in a normal middle-class neighborhood in Indianapolis and I felt very exposed and nervous all the time in my real life, and eventually the freaked-out feeling just got too big and that’s why I quit tumblr.

(Edited to add: I am aware that prominent people sometimes use death threats against them to portray themselves as victims and protect themselves against justified criticism for their bigotry or abusive behavior or whatever. I don’t want to do that; it’s important to note that I have a lot of resources and power and so was able to, for instance, move to decrease the threat, which a lot of people can’t do. But I also feel like not talking about the experience honestly has not really helped me or anyone.)

I SHOULD’VE quit tumblr much earlier--I needed to realize that people weren’t comfortable with me in their virtual spaces and that to them I came across as cringey or even creepy, but at the time, I wasn’t nearly self-aware enough to leave for any of those reasons, and plus there was a lot of pressure from movie studios etc to stay on the social Internet so I could continue to promote my books and the stuff around them. So I didn’t quit when I should’ve, and as a result had and caused quite a few negative experiences for people. I’m sorry about the role I had in causing those negative experiences. I should’ve had a better understanding of not just how I experienced myself but also how other people might experience me. That’s something i’ve worked on over the years but still come up short on sometimes.

At any rate, I might delete this later because it makes me feel a bit like all my nerves are exposed to the air but I did just want to clarify that the, like, Tumblr Legend of this whole thing is at minimum a bit over simplified.