#I don’t miss the abuse

[afluria]

Saw a post that reminded me of you Dex. It’s convention season. I miss being able to send you things about a convention or about the new twister movie. I don’t miss the abuse you put me through…but I miss the friend I used to have. I hope you’re becoming a better person and I pray for you everyday.

[snowberry-pie]

something very interesting to me. about people who see a guy whose arc centers around the question of whether or not cruelty inflicted upon you gives you the right to inflict cruelty on others. and go “i can’t believe people think this guy is in the wrong for inflicting cruelty on others when he was in fact, the victim of cruelty in the past”

[lesbianfakir]

Talking about fakir with fakir fans: while fakir is a fun and genuinely likeable character the show dropped the ball on recognizing and holding him accountable for how he behaved towards mytho in season 1. The show has an element of fairytale violence to it—not meant to be taken too seriously—but fakir has been downright abusive towards mytho for YEARS and that leads to some genuinely uncomfortable scenes that are not treated with the gravity they deserve. The show could have benefited from either toning down the extremity of how fakir’s actions or taking the time to create a proper resolution to his and mytho’s relationship. As it stands, the nonchalance with with the show treats mytho’s abuse is, in my opinion, one of its biggest flaws

Talking about fakir with the mytho heathens: YOUR HONOR IN HIS DEFENSE FAKIR WAS JUST GETTING A LITTLE SILLAY WITH IT

[whatsjulietslastname]

if i see any more Chloe hate i’m going to fucking explode. i’m not even kidding this makes me physically ill i’m going to create a fucking uQuiz about Chloe Price’s character and if you get a bad score you officially do not understand her character and has no right to talk about her whatsoever because you cannot just……say shit like « yeah duh of course i chose Arcadia Bay over her she was so dramatic and annoying and so mean omg 🙄🙄🙄 » i’m coming for you. like you can chose Arcadia Bay it’s a choice based game but if you did it because ‘Chloe was such a meanie 😓’ OH MY GOD. i’m. aidiaoisoz. can someone plz stop me i’m going to jump off a roof /j

[bunisher]

yeah i do think it’s interesting how the guy who plays a character who kills abusers had one on his podcast and then was like hehehe frankcastlecore Bro The Character You Play Would Shoot You Too

[jamandjazz]

Sodapop would’ve been the type of kid to make himself puke just to get out of school instead of faking a fever or cold like everyone else.

[angelnumber27]

It’s so embarrassing and heartbreaking being in so much pain over losing someone while knowing they don’t give a fuck if you live or die. Your favorite person becoming a stranger is a special kind of hell.

[selunesfavouriteprincess]

i really don’t have words to phrase this properly but what I don’t see people discussing enough is how Shadowheart is actively still being abused and indoctrinated through the journey of the game.

Shar is in her head the WHOLE time. her thoughts aren’t even private to herself. every time she does or even approves of a good action her magic shock collar activates, and Shadowheart herself (who has endured this pain for years and, as a Sharran, has experienced extreme pain from other means as part of training and/or worship) says it hurts a LOT. Shads is happy about a little tiefling girl being saved from death? Shar literally tortures her for it right in front of you. and apart from saying that it hurts, all she does is move on because this happens all the time for her. and “pain is sacred to followers of Lady Shar”.

pain was a regular punishment too it seems, if you play her origin she has a flashback to being beaten with a rod by the Mother Superior as a child. and now she’s an adult it’s graduated to a direct painful punishment from Shar herself. and IT’S ACTIVELY HAPPENING. she isn’t only remembering the abuse, she’s living it right now.

and yet? she still approves of saving children and animals, or freeing the enslaved gnomes, or convincing Lae’zel to get out of the zaith’isk even after all their fighting.

in the Shadowfell Shar is whispering in Shads’ ear about how she’s going to be her chosen, her perfect little follower, her voice made flesh, everything Shadowheart has been told she should want, that was drummed into her since childhood. and it makes Shadowheart afraid. she should be strong and confident, not acting like a cornered terrier whenever Aylin speaks to her. you ask her if she really wants to do this, and even after Shar pouring these thoughts into her ear, the promises that were made to her, all Shadowheart can say is that she thinks so. telling her not to do it makes her snap and lash out, and she’ll even fight you if she’s pushed into that corner she got backed into, but even after she says she’ll fight you if you try to stop her, she can still choose the good path if you take a step back and let her handle it by herself. she’s confused and scared and has so many thoughts in her head that aren’t hers, and she doesn’t need yours adding to it. she needs to be given space to think by herself. and most of the time, if you allow her that space, she makes the decision herself to throw away the spear.

because Shar has been trying to eliminate the good from Shadowheart for forty years. she’s tried erasing it from her mind, tried beating it out of her, tried brainwashing her so all she knew was Shar’s embrace. but all it takes is having someone she can trust and she’ll defy the only thing she can remember in order to do the right thing. i’m eating drywall thinking about her right now

[dimsilver]

cannot recommend adding the word “my” to your surroundings enough.

my house, my sunset spot, my little field, my tree, my daffodil patch. my creek. my hilltop. my tiny little thai place. my library. my old stone ruin. my love.

the woods full of bluebells a stranger let me go into one time after I drove past, was immediately captivated, and sent them a letter begging to be allowed? sorry that’s my bluebell woods now

yes those things might just be a basement apartment and a roadside and five feet of ground behind a building and a bookshelf and a place you drive past every day but!! there’s something about claiming and loving the things around you that makes life so sweet

[bumblebree1903]

Edit: Please checkout my reblog, I didn’t articulate myself very well in this and come across as a massive dick. Sorry about that, seriously. I am legitimately curious as to the reasons behind the positive Ascended Astarion interpretations/what in the text makes people feel that way.

Okay I read something about this over the weekend and it’s been bothering me since because I feel like people are missing the point.

People were upset it felt like BG3 was forcing you into the role of a victim if you ascended Astarion during your romance. They were insistent they and their character HAPPILY and WILLINGLY ascended him and would be more than happy with him and his behaviour after. Which, don’t get me wrong, can be true.

You can very happily ascend Astarion and give him the power he wanted and support him throughout. It doesn’t stop the fact he’s going to abuse your character and that your character is going to become a victim. Because that’s the point. That’s what the whole deal with the characters are, finding freedom from unhealthy relationships of some kind. Astarion’s specifically touches on the cycle of abuse. Cazador abused Astarion and the other vampire spawn, and maybe Astarion isn’t making you eat rats and locking you in coffins, but he’s still abusing you. He will always have power over you if he ascends and he will never treat you as or respect you as an equal. He will isolate you and ignore your wishes and treat you as an object, because ascending him continues that cycle. He doesn’t respect you if you ascend him.

I’m not faulting anyone that ascends him, it’s not something I would do but that doesn’t mean you’ve done a bad or are “playing wrong.” There’s no wrong way to play the game, especially if they give you the option. I am saying, however, that regardless of how happily someone ascends Astarion and how much they support it they’re still going to become a victim. Even if it’s not right away, it will happen because ascending Astarion continues the cycle of abuse, just in a different form.

[ohdorothea]

this is so petty but it’s the era’s shows in Edinburgh next weekend and I am going to be sooooooooooo bitter about it

[dykedvonte]

benny was also like incredibly abusive to yes man and kept him trapped in that shitty side room. it’s no wonder yes man genuinely loves the courier regardless of if they make decisions he likes or not after being liberated from benny. courier must be an angel to him

I think incredibly abusive is a bit much.

Like Benny was not kind to Yes-Man but he was not particularly cruel. If Yea-Man was let out of the room then anyone could’ve asked him anything and outed the plan, leading to him and Benny being exiled at best or killed (permanently in Yes-Mans case) at worse. Yeah, it was Benny’s fault he was like this but it was probably the only fail safe to keep House’s systems from tapping into Yes-Man, by giving him no code to reject commands the only way to influence him would be in person. House can’t do that.

Also liberated makes it sound like you are treating Yes-Man like an equal when you’re just treating him slightly better than most would treat a personalized Mr. Handy bot. Benny isn’t nice to him, didn’t give him a real name, but he definitely loved Yes-Man, more like a science project but that was his thing y’know? Robots with personalities like him that aren’t common in the Mojave and are considered odd. Benny already did a lot more than someone who’d just mistreat his creation by allowing him to be passive-aggressive in the first place. He let Yes-Man think which a big step from most AI programs in the Mojave.

I think the issue is Yes-Man genuinely appreciates the Courier for getting the plan in motion but that wasn’t a lack of Benny. He had completely different circumstances than the Courier that didn’t allow him to be as bold. Yes-Man learns to love the Courier because they come to rule Vegas and he sees them as competent and the next logical leader now that Benny is no longer his primary overseer.

Honestly the Courier and Yes-Man are closer to a exclusive business partnership by the end of the independent route if we go by the general answers. The Courier can be as nice or as mean to Yes-Man as they want and Yes-Man does not see the Courier as flawless or an angel just the next logical step in a plan. Of course, depending on what you do or headcanon, their relationship can be much more complex than that but on a even ground between all of the options, Yes-Man and the Courier are means to an end to each other.

A popular theory before New Vegas had the current fandom it did and developer commentary was that Yes-Man was going to betray you at the end of the independent route. Lying that he’d just upgrade himself to only listen to you so you wouldn’t stop him. Some people still follow it despite it being debunked while other love the idea he genuinely only wants to listen to you.

It’s all up to interpretation my dear. I personally don’t think Benny was cruel to Yes-Man not more than he is to another Chairman. He’s a robot, of course, to Benny and that has its own connotations on how he was treated but I digress. The Courier is far from an angel or saint to anyone but I do like the idea that there’s a fondness from Yes-Man. Lee so how they can be so illogically efficient rather than what they’ve done fore him.

[mako-ink]

Farrah’s event spoilers//

Okay, so I finished her event yesterday and while I keep finding these events that don’t progress the overall story to have become bland/old, especially the events with poorer pacing and writing that feels like it treats the viewer almost like a child (basically telling everything not like an actual narrative with natural dialogue) I VERY VERY VERY much like how in the perceived good ending, Farrah finds out what her mother did and never forgives her.

As a person who grew up abused by their own mother, always hearing people say “well she’s your mother, you should forgive her” it always feels like a breath of fresh air when I see fictional characters denounce the parents that were meant to protect them, even if Farrah’s mother had good intentions she must have known eventually what was going on. There’s no excuse really otherwise. I’m glad there was the choice to look further, deeper into Farrah and her mother and find out hey, maybe this person failed terribly as a parent but didn’t really show any true effort to apologize or make up for the possible years of torture Farrah went through. There really isn’t any kind of apology that can be forgiven in that instance, and Farrah doesn’t owe a relationship or forgiveness to her mom.

I don’t know, stories that criticize bad parents has always hit very close to home, forgiving your abuser in my opinion is never a good route to go not only in a writing sense but also for my own mental health, I would never submit myself to forgiveness to make my abusers feel better about what they did to me. In short Farrah event has a decent moral perspective.

[cnihachu]

i need everyone to stop weaponizing abuse victims to make your specific subgroup of content creators look better it’s so fucking distasteful

[teardropsonsmyguitar]

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[p1x1x]

this was the start of… messed up nika for me,