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katyspersonal · 1 year ago

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I am feeling so ill. My mental pain keeps translating into physical one, like something that keeps poisoning me from within, and it can last from very morning to very evening at times. I wish I stopped being reminded of the backstabbing, of how much that person has been lying to us, and how she threw away her empathy and common sense in an instant, as soon as she got enticed with the prospect to feel like a """victim""". When everything was explained and even forgiven prior.

For a Christian, she sure is a terrible one, and really should pray to her God for forgiveness. Because that's sin of vanity if I've seen one. Her sorry pro-lifer ass that can't even use they/them pronouns because it is "not correct in English" and has been following Mico herself before he deactivated must be satisfied with people around with whom she has to censor her true opinions, I suppose? She had all context, she had explanation and apology, she faked having accepted that apology too, lied about not really caring about the "drama", faked patience and lied about always welcoming me back - only to latch at the first chance to backstab me and my friends she got. And the way she conveniently ignored how I took my words back, too.. I don't know what is WRONG with people who think that when a person that has been stalked and harassed for a year lashes out upon feeling threatened - they've shown their """true face""". Nobody is more alien to normal human emotions and reactions than Americans. I guess for them you are either physically incapable of anger, fear and fucking up OR you are a vile dangerous monster.

But the real question - what did she want to ACCOMPLISH? She didn't really feel like a star and gain sympathy like a victim of the """horrible mistreatment""" that me lashing out when she defended my STALKER was - that I also TOOK BACK. From my knowledge, she kept herself anonymous. And of course instantly blocked me, because like a coward she could not answer for her lies. She also lost other friends too - one HATES liars and hypocrites more than anything, another has similar emotional problems to mine so no longer feels safe, third straight up was harassed by that person as well.. "They are still lovely people" she says. And I am not a "lovely" person, of course. Because "lovely" people just smile and shrug off being stalked, harassed and talked untrue shit about for a year, I suppose? Because "lovely" people don't become clingy for someone defending them so loud and proud?

My only theory is that she just secretly harbored hatred towards me all along but was forcing the facade of patience and understanding, until one day finally came what looked like a good justification to drop it. But then why sending me all that emotional support when I fell for suicidal road back in spring? Why write at least two essays to Alfred-chan about her right to interact with me and about how I deserved kindness and compassion? Why acting flattered when I said I loved her (platonically) when in reality she was creeped out? Why bothering to explain me how she did not blame me and always would welcome me back in the blog? Following me for a decent time and all that interacting. Was feeling like a poor victim that fell under attack of the "monster" for like 5 minutes without even revealing her name to the world and losing more likeminded people worth it? Was it worth it? How? How mad you should be at someone for getting attached more than """acceptable""" and for lashing out before learning why you'd defend someone that harassed us, that you'd resort to backstabbing and break all your prior promises? She even told me stuff like "ratting someone out is very condemned in my culture and I'd never do that". Then what DID she do, when she showed the moment of weakness I had 40 days ago, to a deranged ableist that has been condoning harassment and canceling for hell knows how long and she could tell wished me harm?

I want to ask whether it was worth it, but clearly she didn't lose anything of value. One of those "but internet connections are not REAL uwu" people.

I so badly want to say that this is my fault for trusting someone who is not only American but also a Christian, double combination of hypocrite and all you know. Because I just want to find a reason. I want to know WHY, even if the answer is something as shallow as nationality and religion. But this is just not fair to people who are one or both of these things but have common sense to not lie and not be cut throats. I guess the real reason is that some people are just too easily enticed with the chance to feel like the "good" guys, to mark category of people that do not deserve any empathy, human bonds and understanding because they are "evil and dangerous". It is just easier. You feel justified to mistreat a certain category of people because they are "bad" - all while the criteria for why they're "bad" is growing progressively absurd. But this coming from a person that preached kindness and acceptance. Yet she sided with the people that punish me FOR having shown that kindness and acceptance to someone else, and never intend to stop. Why following Mico yourself, then?

I have no skill of forgiving people that do not feel remorse, I am not that kind of a person. It just hurts until I forget or find another thing to worry about. I don't know where to turn to, what superior power to pray to for faster healing from this, because betrayal like this is the worst thing you can do to me. It is fine to refuse to forgive someone's mental breakdown, but why not tell me off in private? Why run under the skirt of the person with bad faith that only supports neurodivergence in the form of being quirky about one's special interests and not for what problems it really brings? Does she really think it is victim's fault when they develop bad trust and abandonment issues upon a creepy stalker trying to ruin their life? The cunt would've doxxed me if they could only over the fact that I said I was gonna reblog from who I want - again, something she herself kept getting harassed over. So was that okay, then? She never meant her words, then, and only flexed her "I interact with who I want" for weird flex of herself as a hero, and not for our friends group?

Well, yes. It has to be that. Until she saw an opportunity to switch sides and find a more compelling "enemy" to stand against. The final punch in the gut is that she assumes my friends are okay with the betrayal either, just goes around as though nothing happened, as though having betrayed someone and still writing them down as vile and unremorceful even after they apologised to her two times was nothing. Yeah, why? If a person failed to meet her personal mark of forgiving, tolerating and shrugging off harassment - then they deserve to be backstabbing and thrown to those cultish ableists. That's her logic.

And I just want to vent all this in a sorry effort to remind myself: "See, she is so petty and callous that she doesn't deserve crying and hurting over! People like that are below you, Kat, just forget it and move on!" But in the end, I just can't stop asking myself why. She did not feel like that type of a person. My other mutual also said it was not expected, since she had that 'wise', thoughtful exterior all along and acted as though she was trustworthy. At this rate I was right in my accusation of her being brainwashed, I guess... The only thing I was wrong is the TIME when it happens.

#/vent #personal #honestly she is arguably worse than other two #they are just bad people from the get go #but she? she CHOSE to be bad. like. deliberately.#that's worse.

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vizthedatum · 2 years ago

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It is not abusive to characterize a person who has abused you as having narcissistic qualities because the terminology, when used to contextualize the abuse, is helpful and descriptive.

Many people who are in a relationship with a person with these qualities often end up in another one. It’s a result of repeated trauma and an attachment pattern. I have cycled through partners with narcissistic qualities for years and years and years… because my mother was the ultimate narcissist.

Lol, right before I got together with my ex/spouse, I (and a whole friend group) got severely burned by a guy who assaulted someone who didn’t want to be with him. He laughed after he did it. He felt great. He was flushed. How do I know? Because I took care of him right after. I fell asleep cuddled right next to him. Right up until the cops came to take him away. Lucky for him, his father is loaded. He will likely abuse again. He already has. And while I met someone who I consider a very dear friend (unfortunately someone who also has attachment patterns to narcissists) through him, I wish I had never went through that. I told him I loved him when I cut things off. I was in shock even though I had already confessed to my therapist that I thought he was an emotional vampire.

And right after, I fell hard for my ex/spouse. I thought they really got me. I thought I was doing things right for once. And sigh, they were really my most formidable opponent yet…

This is a classic pattern that happens! And when you recognize it, then you can learn how to spot the red flags that drew you toward them in the first place. That almost feverish chemistry that feels so fucking good that gets you hooked on them. It is irresistible, isn’t it?

But it’s possible to heal.

So.

Saying that it’s abusive to openly talk about narcissism and saying that it’s ruining narcissistic people’s lives and reputations (when they literally have done that to you) is… not ableist. It might be part of their pathology. It might be because of trauma (usually is). But if abuse occurs… and it’s a pattern, then that does deserve to be talked about. (That does not mean that the abuser doesn’t deserve help… they do. Just not by us.)

It is not abusive to leave them. To serve them with a PFA. To divorce them. To put up boundaries. To stop falling for your mom’s love bombing. To put up boundaries with yourself (if only you knew how much I pleaded and begged, apologizing for things I did “wrong”). To tell people what happened. To tell people the stuff you said when you were so emotionally reactive as a result of the abuse - that you also did harm (but no, let me validate people reading this: you’re not a monster - hurt people hurt people, but we can learn and try to do better).

Because then you’re healing yourself… and you’re adding to the repertoire of validating resources for all other victims out there. Then we can all work together to figure out how to not be in that kind of situation again (my friends, doctors, and lawyer have literally told me how textbook the abuse was - I couldn’t see it clearly, unfortunately. Yay gaslighting /s).

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unladielike · 2 years ago

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Disclaimer: I'm only posting about this because someone has been block evading and stalking my blog to pick fights instead of talking things out with me, which I've been told by a friend classifies as harassment and a form of cyberbullying, especially when I did not respond to him/interact with him beyond a now deleted vent, so I'm just gonna talk about this and hopefully never have to address it again... because this shit is very tiring and I have been putting up with it for days on end now, especially while it had been my birthday at some point.

I just wanna say that if you ever feel like I had officially wronged you in the past, I don't mind apologizing for it, but to continue slandering me for my past wrongs on a public platform instead of privately venting to a friend or talking to me about it is not the way to go.

Of course, I won't deny that I wasn't always the best partner, but I've been here on this hellsite for at least 8 years or longer now, so it's not like I can recall every instance where I dropped threads, not follow through in interacting with past mutuals, or even hurt someone without personally knowing.

Granted, I get people disliking me happens to be an inevitable part of life, but blocking me should really be the end of it. Seriously, if I have not once bothered you or harassed you first, that does not give you the grounds to repeatedly stalk me, vague about me, or argue/debate with me in the replies of a confession blog (especially when you have me hard-blocked).

It's also very disingenuous to claim I'm still the same person that I was years ago, so if needed, I will defend myself, but I think many of my mutuals who have been here since the inception of this blog can personally vouch for the fact I do practice what I preach and know that I now ship with only two people at best and have moved past the point of caring about giving my OC more romantic ships without the proper substance, development, or build up.

It should also be noted that I constantly bring up I have autism if only because it affects how I communicate with others/how I get my points across and to pretend it doesn't would be a huge disservice on my part, as it does affect my social skills, both online and offline. That, however, does not mean I'm using it as an excuse but as an explanation, because too often, I have experienced neurotypical folks being ableist towards me and holding me up to neurotypical standards (ie: thinking I would be able to get hints if they somehow enforce the silent treatment) and unlike many others, I don't have the luxury of acting like I don't have it, because it's a permanent part of who I am that I can't completely mask no matter how hard I might try to do so.

Of course, that doesn't mean I'll refuse to be held accountable for my actions, but at the same time, I won't hesitate to speak out against ableism, point out how I have a different perspective on things due to me being neurodivergent, or defend myself if I feel like I'm being unfairly treated.

TLDR, though? Just talk to me or vent about me privately. Like, I honestly believe I'm a reasonable enough person, so if you tell me I did something to hurt you, then I will listen and apologize, but continuing to obsess over me/hold a grudge against me/misconstrue my points when I haven't been mutuals with you in years like some creepy, butt-hurt ex is not the behaviour of an adult. It's the behaviour of a child who can't let things go.

And believe me, I get being salty, but vaguing about someone more than twice in a row on tumblr is genuinely not a healthy outlet. Of course, it would be one thing if Tumblr was a site where you can set your blog to private like Twitter, but anything you post can be seen by the general public, so at the end of the day, you're achieving nothing by typing out misinformed clapbacks but make yourself look like an ass.

Also, be careful when using the phrase, 'Don't use your autism as an excuse', because depending on the context, it can come across as mansplaining or an ableist, thought-terminating cliché at best.

#negativity tw #negative tw #║▌ ⧼ ⸢ ʚɞ ⸣︳p̲u̲b̲l̲i̲c̲ ̲s̲e̲r̲v̲i̲c̲e̲ ̲a̲n̲n̲o̲u̲n̲c̲e̲m̲e̲n̲t̲. ⧽ ― THIS SHOULD COME WITH SUBTITLES IN REAL LIFE.#⸾ ❖︎ ⸾ ( OUT OF ) ⤹ •• 𝕗𝕒𝕟𝕗𝕚𝕔𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟.#[ i've already finished reporting this person ]#[ but i'm honestly not sure if tumblr staff will even follow through with terminating his blog ]#[ REGARDLESS this was not something i enjoyed typing up ]#[ but it has to be said because he has been harassing me non-stop ]#[ and i even have screenshots to prove it ]#[ either way i just want to remind you that all that i will listen if you have any grievances against me ]#[ BUT FOR THE LOVE OF GOD... please talk to me like an actual adult ]

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faithfromanewperspective · 8 months ago

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this is really interesting as 1) a nd whose Remembering Of Things really isn’t here right now and 2) a gifted nd kid (and I’m gonna write down what I remember, but I need to preface it with not every nd person is gifted!! and that’s okay)

something that really got me when I was younger and I guess less capable of being able to walk away whenever or create my own supportive circles is the way that well meaning people will be like ‘omg your mind’ when we do something a bit out of the box and creative. where it fits in some box of savant abilities. then assume a kind of privilege that means whatever struggles we have are simply not listened to—our neurodivergence is only valuable when it’s commodifiable and even then, no one wants to be part of sustaining that commodity they’d rather blame us for burning out. blame us for not having self regulation strategies when we’re hyperfocused on something and neglect self care, even though it’s other people who train us from a very young age to never listen to our bodies, keep pushing us when we’re tired etc. And every day I know how lucky I am to be able to keep doing what I love when I’ve seen so many people burn out and make themselves physically sick. I’ve learned to do what I need for self care without any validation, just the satisfaction that I’m not hurting myself out of malicious compliance to someone else anymore. but it’s so hard to do that when all I want to do is self destruct and be like ‘see this is what happens when I try to live up to your rules!! you don’t get this talent anymore, you’re the one who broke it!’

because what else am I supposed to do when I’m told I’m lucky when I’m struggling and then where there is injustice, prevented from shaking the status quo in order to do anything about it? my pda profile demands balance and whatever hurt I see in the world, I will take out on myself. when I’m told working harder and longer hours will help prevent the memory lapses from my adhd, which in fact only make it worse and seem like the failure is on my part, even when I did everything right? when burnout recovery still takes years even after getting off the self destruct train I’ve lived on for nearly a quarter century??

and so often this comes from people who are trying not to be ableist. who will scold me when I say I relate to a high support needs autistic person because we both have a pda profile, who tell me just not to do it when I’m being violent towards myself as if they can simply make me choose not to be like this person they don’t see me as like, they want to hide in the category of ‘other’ and dehumanise just a little. little do they know these are the people I choose to care for myself for. to get better so I can advocate for. and then they wonder why I feel so alone and don’t trust them like. you broke this decades ago by what you did to my nd tribe—and I don’t care that what you did to me personally was minimal in comparison. I’m not going to let the apology that you have now mean you get what you want, me on the side of ‘normal’ when I’d rather not have your expectations and your ableism and watch you exclude others. I’d rather be free

Coming to terms with the fact that society hates autistic people

I just saw some comments that were like "If you're autistic, neurotypical people hate you" and "growing up as autistic in our neurotypical society is almost always inherently traumatizing." And you know what? I absolutely agree. It really resonates with me to hear fellow autistic and generally neurodivergent people talk about the hate, rejection, misunderstanding, and even dehumanization we receive from most neurotypicals.

My entire childhood was spent being the "weird girl" until I got good enough at masking to fit in better. Even now, as an adult, I get negative comments from my own (neurotypical) parents when I display certain neurodivergent behaviors. My family is always like "that's so Katy" and shake their heads when I act "too" autistic and it feels so fucking patronizing. I've had negative experiences and even disciplinary action at jobs I've had for exhibiting neurodivergent behavior (usually related to my ADHD, but sometimes autism too). My entire fucking life I've been told by society to not act too much like myself or else I'll put everyone off.

And then you see people being sympathetic to the parents of autistic children who abuse or even kill them. "It's sad, but it's understandable" neurotypical people say. Videos of autistic children having meltdowns are full of people saying that they should be locked up because they're no better than animals. We're seen as a burden, a drain on society, who are only tolerated if we learn to act "normal" and don't make the neurotypicals uncomfortable. Autistic people are front and center in "cringe" compilations and are ruthlessly bullied.

If I'm being honest, I'm still unlearning a lot of ableist thoughts that were instilled in me growing up. I sometimes catch myself thinking that other autistic people are annoying, and I have to stop myself and think "Do you really find them annoying, or were you programmed to be dismissive of people who don't act neurotypically enough?"

Anyway, idk where I'm going with this text wall. The older I get, the more I become aware of how much I've been harmed by an extremely ableist society, and it breaks my heart that more neurodivergent kids are being taught to suppress their true selves the way I was.

#tw sh #tw ableism #neurodivergence #neurodivergent liberation #had to do an inspiring spin on the end in typical me fashion #personal mental health tag #inspo #thanks for starting this thread!! and the idea to continue it

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laughable-lion-king-art · 2 years ago

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It has been brought to my attention that over the course of the week, someone has gone to great lengths to spread lies and misinformation about me across several platforms. It has come time to apologize once more for things done in the past and explain myself.

So, please, I ask that you hear me out and reserve judgment until you’ve heard my side.

The main thing I would like to address is the ableist claim. I understand tone is hard to read in text format. I realize that what I said might have been read as malicious when that was not the intent.

What happened that led up to that regretful comment was this; Someone continued to deny an artist as the original source of their redraw, and refused to listen. I wasn’t trying to be malicious, but understanding. I wanted a better context of the situation so that I could try and explain to them why it was wrong to redraw someone’s art and claim it as theirs. But it was taken out of tone and out of context. I honestly didn’t mean any malicious intent towards them or anyone else when I asked. It was purely innocent. But I realize I should have worded my question better, and differently. Since then, that mistake, despite my having honestly apologized before, has been frozen in time by people who hate me and brought up time and time again, making me regret and hate having asked in the first place. So I would like to honestly apologize for making that comment.

The second accusation is me being racist. It is a lie. What really happened; another member was complaining about people drawing TLK characters as humans. If I remember correctly, they were very vague with the status post. It was so vague in a sense that I initially agreed with them. Then they showed their true colors by openly telling their followers how to find the artist that set them off in the first place, and thus targeting that artist. That’s when I stepped in to defend the artist they were dogpiling. Because of this, I’m seen as a racist.

Whitewashing and blackwashing is a thing that happens. I won’t deny that. It can and has happened in fandom spaces, I’m sure. But accusing someone of being racist over defending an innocent artist from dogpiling because they didn’t agree with you doesn’t make them racist. Lions have no race. If people are drawing the broadway actors white, then that would be whitewashing. But otherwise, lions do not have a race and have been a symbol of royalty for thousands of years. Even Disney’s Robin Hood, King Richard and Prince John are lions, but their characters are white. They are depicted as lions because they are royalty.

The third accusation is me being lesbophobic. I would like to apologize to the person I commented on their deviation. I still don’t understand shipping Rei Rei and Zira together. But if you’re willing to tell me the story, I’m willing to hear.

Unfortunately, after that was revealed, my stalker accused me of being lesbophobic. And I ship Lumity, and a couple of gay Transformer ships. I also ship Hicretstrid, a polyamorous ship. And have gay OCs.

I understand that I come across as harsh to many at first glance and for that I’m sorry if I sound intimidating through tone. I’m really a chill person once you get to know me.

But this character assassination witch hunt started because I openly admitted to being pro ship. Pro ship originally meant to be supportive of a specific ship or shipping in general. That we wouldn’t maliciously dogpile someone or suicide bait anyone over a specific ship. But far too many people have twisted the term, using the label to describe their feelings towards ships with problematic elements that were not and should not be accepted IRL. And I get that, we’re all allowed NOtps and squicks. I have NOtps and squicks too, but I won’t dogpile or anything malicious over ship preferences. I’m just gonna be chill with what y’all ship.

Everything that was used out of context against me was old. I have never done or said anything like that since, and have done my best to better myself as a person and correct my behavior. I have made mistakes, but I try to apologize for them when I do.

I’m not mad at my stalker. I pity them, and hope that they find peace of mind to move on.

Thank you for taking the time to read this and hear my side.

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wcamino-confessions · 3 years ago

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Hello!! It's sneezecloudd. My friend is allowing me to use their account, so I hope this isn't too confusing but follow up to her last ask — I am unsure why people are talking badly about me and I'd really like an explanation? I've been called xenophobic, transphobic, racist, AND that I've been rude towards disabled people. This is untrue and I'm sorry if I've ever made myself seem that way. Back in 2021, Dragon came into the artist chat claiming, "I hate white Australians, their racist." Due to my family mostly being made up of that, I DID end up getting defensive which was probably bad on my part and I've been wanting to apologize for a while but they have me blocked. I had asked for specification that I didn't need or deserve because I am not oppressed. I am a white person, I will never be oppressed and I never claimed as such. That doesn't clear up my mistake so I understand why people are upset about that. Next, I am not transphobic. I am transgender myself and if I ever seemed transphobic, I was most likely making a joke referencing to my own trauma as a trans person or perhaps I used a gendered term?? Like "girl what" or "bro" perhaps?? I cannot quite remember since I'm not on WA that much but I would never insult someone else, especially since I'm dealing with the same thing. Next, me being ableist? I'm very unsure of where this came from since I have never said anything jokingly or as an insult to someone with a disability that may seem rude. I am not a person who would do that. In fact, I find that very disrespectful since I have a sister with severe autism and I will do ANYTHING in my power to protect her, she is one of the sweetest people on this planet. I'm not really sure what else to say since everyone is accusing me of these things without showing me proof, continuously talking behind my back, and not explaining. I've seen some of the things they say in their GC, like me being annoying — I'm barely on WA. The only time I am is when I have something to sell or when I am holding a contest. Whenever I speak in a GC, it's to show my art and then I simply dip. They tell each other I'm one hell of a character and that I'm this horrible, awful person when I'm barely even on and haven't been since I was like 13. Can someone please text me on my Instagram with an explanation?? @rroyaldrink — again, I'm sorry for any confusion or if I've seemed like a shit person, I understand why you would think that.

But please, dragon, if you're going to talk about me, at least tell it to my face instead of spreading rumors behind my back without giving me supposed proof or power to speak. I have wanted to apologize for our debate in the old chat but you have done so many things and dragged it on so long, I don't know what to do anymore.

#idk who you are but this is not an effective way to apologize #- mod dawn

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marchioness-of-the-flowers · 1 year ago

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Hey, about this post.

This person took my post out of context, I do realize my use of the word "weakness" could came across as insensitive. I don't think of triggers as weaknesses at all. It was meant to be a humorous and private rambling, but I apologize for any offense I may have caused, and I can delete the post if it's that much of a problem.

But what you didn't understand was that I wrote this in reference to a couple of caards I'd read where kids posted where they live, their medical diagnosis's, and all their triggers, and this was just out in the public, accessible to anyone and everyone.

As someone who was taught growing up to never share personal information online. The thought of a predator having access to a minors very private and personal information upset me. I've seen the damage done by groomers online and I wish I hadn't.

Because of this I don't share very much about myself online. So what you didn't know is that I have close family members that struggle with substance addiction, and while it's not the same, I've also battled addiction to self harm on and off for years.

So yeah, I know a lot about this topic. It's very near and dear to my heart. It's the reason I like to acknowledge Roy's struggle. The concept of a character fighting and winning is so empowering to me.

People with past addictions or addictive personalities will always have to fight, it gets easier, but theres a level of vigilance involved.

The concept of Roy brushing off his addiction in like two days and being all better forever and forever is so fucking harmful. This is one of the reasons people don't ask for help when they relapse, because they think they should have gotten over it already.

It's a part of his life, just like it's a part of my families life. It doesn't make his character worse to acknowledge this aspect and while you may not like it, it's important, it's important to me.

So yeah, I have a fucking reason to talk about this. I shouldn't have to disclose my struggles to validate my opinion but it was either this or let people call me an ableist whore.

Also why are calling me a "batstan" and tagging your post "anti-jayroy," I've never once posted or given any inclination towards being either of those things. I've literally only read golden-age Batman.

Even if Roy is sober, he’s still an addict. He might be a recovered addict, but he’s still an addict. It’s such an important part of his character and ignoring his history is inherently harmful. It takes discipline and strength to stay clean and the fact that Roy’s character has been sober for so long is a powerful one.

Right, because him being a recovered addict was definitely a core part of his character for most of his life and not the fact that he became a government agent who later decided to lead the Titans in his best friend's steed (to the point that he became a father figure to at least 4 people). You see, when you actually get read Roy's character OUTSIDE OF OUTLAWS, he's a very different character than y'all think he is. And that's why people love him. That's why we love our vigilante single father who's best friends with the most powerful fighters in the world (one of them being his literal brother) who was brought up unstigmatized in an Indigenous American community who keeps adopting kids because the 80s and 90s was a fucked up place to be a teenager. Plus, him getting characterized as an addict MADE HIS CHARACTER WORSE. Like, why do you think he died? It's because he kept getting reminded by other people of his addiction DESPITE the fact that he'd already recovered from it, resulting in him feeling alienated and voluntarily going to Sanctuary in order to get his closest friends and family to not think lesser of him. Anyway, here's a reading guide for Pre-Flashpoint Roy Harper

#I really don't want to post this #roy harper #tw drugs #tw addiction #tw self harm

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ranboo5 · 4 years ago

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Techno takes I find baffling seem to be based largely on like, the predication that he sees ideals over people, but that’s not... true. That’s literally the opposite of true. That’s literally the source of the conflict with people on the server

What ppl seem to think? is that Techno’s interactions with people are informed by his anarchist ideals, when it’s the other way around. He reacts to government the way he does because he’s seen what it does to people? He’s seen it hurt him, he’s seen it hurt Phil, he’s seen it hurt Ranboo, he’s seen it hurt Tubbo, he’s seen it hurt Tommy, he’s seen it hurt Wilbur, he has evidence for it hurting Niki, and the list goes on

People keep acting like Techno’s ideology starts with “oh nooo my ideals are hurt,” which I think comes from him flipping on L’Manberg after the Manberg-Pogtopia war, but that’s because Techno clearly came in with an anarchist ethos (and pretty traumatized already; “the only universal language is violence” alone raises a lot of red flags that are all screaming “trauma”). How his anarchist ethos develops is clearly reactive and this is obvious from even immediately after this -- he sees blowing up L’Manberg didn’t stop them from starting a government, and retreats to try to take up pacifism and establish an anarchist commune in the north. He sees this fail w/ the Butcher Army and leans harder into reciprocity, and after blowing up New L’Manberg (in perceived self-defense primarily, I would argue) he decides to directly codify aforesaid ethos and develop it. And what does he emphasize when he does so? The lack of any leadership position. The fact that no member will be used or coerced. This is directly from what he’s seen government do -- corrupt its leaders with power and the search for more until they broke like Wilbur or did awful things like Tubbo, and use people like him as weapons, coerce them to take action against others against their will like they did w/ Ranboo and tried to do to Techno. Technoblade’s anarchism is clearly a reaction to his interactions with other people, not the other way around

I think another source for the “Technoblade values ideals over people” misread is the fact that he actually doesn’t value ideals and things that much, which he states, but because a lot of the fandom identifies and sympathizes with characters who do value those ideals, that disregard comes off as personal. Take L’Manberg, or the discs -- those are things that are, for better or for worse (I would argue in most cases for worse, but ofc there is nuance and that’s a different discussion anyway), incredibly sentimentally important ideals to characters like Tubbo and especially Tommy “attachments are actually the thematic core of my character” Innit, which a lot of people sympathize with. Those things aren’t people, but because of the value that characters place on them, they feel to those characters like an attack on them is an attack on an intrinsic part of their identity. This isn’t a paradigm that Techno operates on -- the closest he comes is when they form a government in front of him and he joins in the destruction of L’Manberg, but even then it’s a more consistent read that he did it in some misguided attempt to warn them. It all comes back to Technoblade caring about people, even people who’ve wronged him and whom he disagrees with -- I’d go so far as to call that a primary motivator. The problem arises when those people work on a paradigm where they care deeply about ideals that often harm them, and Techno doesn’t have the emotional finesse nor the understanding necessary to take that into account with his “warnings,” which often only end up causing more trauma in effect. That doesn’t mean he does things because he “doesn’t care” or has a “victim complex”; it just means that he doesn’t understand the sentimental and emotional importance that that kind of attachment to an inanimate ideal has. He sees people do terrible things in the name of some strange idea of a country -- how can a country be more emotionally important to them than the person being hurt? -- and when he reacts in the way he knows how -- which, because of the other trauma he clearly already has, is violence -- he doesn’t take into account the real emotional effect that losing that country has on someone, and because the emotional effect of an attachment like that is in fact really huge, especially if you, like some characters, define yourself by that attachment, those characters and people who sympathize with them can feel like it’s an attack on something that makes them human (and that leads directly into “oh Techno is inhuman!” stuff which is. Incredibly ableist because it’s literally calling someone inhuman because they interact with ideals differently and usually also ties into calling him “emotionless” for. How. The creator. Who has ADHD. Naturally emotes.)

If we want more nails in the coffin, just. Look at how he interacts with Tubbo? There’s a repeated sub-sentiment of the stuff I’ve talked about here that Technoblade only sees Tubbo as a government stand in and fails to see the person, but how Techno talks about/to him says the actual opposite most of the time. He’s gone on record saying that Tubbo is possibly a good guy but has been corrupted by his position during the RaccoonInnit arc, the one time he took a canon life from Tubbo was under coercion, and just today in the Snowchester stream as soon as Tubbo made it clear that, despite his big scary words and nukes, Snowchester was not intending to or probably capable of oppressing its citizens, Technoblade and the Syndicate decided that Tubbo wasn’t going to be a problem and never acted personally slighted, even though 2/4 (arguably 3/4 but no one’s ready for that conversation) of them arguably had reason to committing what Tubbo’s administration actively did to them. Technoblade doesn’t have a problem with Tubbo, the person; he has a problem with the position of a presidential cabinet, which he almost certainly sees (correctly) as something that was in fact harming Tubbo the person (Phil has even said as much explicitly, I’m pretty sure Techno has as well though perhaps in less direct terms, and Ranboo almost certainly has alluded to similar). Honestly all things considered Techno and co. are all being incredibly forgiving toward Tubbo (as they largely should be!!! Honestly I think their takes irt that are mostly correct considering Tubbo’s situation but I am also very very soft and will lie down and apologize about anything so)

Tl;dr: People saying that Technoblade values ideals over people actually have it entirely backwards, because - Techno’s ideals are actively reactive to his interactions with other people rather than the other way around - largely the issue is that Techno doesn’t recognize the value people place on ideals - Techno has seen the damage that those ideals + holding them has done to people which is in fact his main motivator - Techno’s interactions w/ Tubbo all point to Techno not having a problem with Tubbo the person but rather with the government position he occupied, which hurt Tubbo the person too - have we been watching the same streams

#Dream SMP #Technoblade #TommyInnit #Tubbo #Ranboo #Philza #Niki and Wilbur as well technically #obviously this is all abt the characters!!!#thank you sm if you actually read all of this #I rlly hope none of this comes off as negative toward any character I tried to b as neutral as possible #here some pumpky pie bc your epic :]#for the approval of the forum

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thisdancingheart · 4 years ago

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Remember YFIP?

My Year of Grief and Cancellation

What was I trying to accomplish with my anonymous Tumblr?

By Liat Kaplan Feb. 25, 2021, 5:00 a.m. ET https://www.nytimes.com/2021/02/25/style/your-fave-is-problematic-tumblr.html

If you were on Tumblr in the early 2010s, you may remember a blog called Your Fave Is Problematic. If not, its content should still sound familiar to you. The posts contained long lists of celebrities’ regrettable (racist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic, ethnophobic, ableist and so on) statements and actions — the stuff that gets people canceled these days.

That blog was my blog. I spent hours researching each post; as you can probably imagine, my search history was pretty ugly.

Your Fave Is Problematic had around 50,000 followers at its peak, in 2014, when I was a high school senior, but its influence was outsized. I got in a feud with a prominent young adult fiction author over his inclusion. One actor submitted himself, perhaps as a dare (or a plea) to dig up his worst. “Problematic fave” became a well-worn meme; even after I stopped posting, my blog was cited in books, articles, podcasts and think pieces. Through it all, my identity stayed private.

The blog started, as so many anonymous online projects do, as vengeful public shaming masquerading as social criticism. I was fine-tuning my moral compass and coming into my own as a feminist. So when I noticed classmates making sexist jokes on Facebook, including some about me, I started taking screenshots to post on a Tumblr called Calling Out Sexists. My policy was that I would take down a post only if its author publicly apologized.

A group of students brought the blog to the attention of our school’s administrators, who threatened to take legal action if I continued to write about them. Meanwhile, other Tumblr users had begun submitting screenshots featuring statements from minor celebrities. With graduation hanging in the balance, I shifted my focus away from my peers and toward public figures. I rebranded. Money and fame had protected them since time immemorial. What harm could my little blog do?

So I posted photos of Lady Gaga in V magazine with her skin bronzed to an unnatural brown. I pulled out troubling quotes from an essay Lena Dunham had written about a trip to Japan. I noted Taylor Swift’s since-changed homophobic lyric in “Picture to Burn.” My most popular posts tended to be about women — which makes sense, because the celebrity press tends to be more critical of them.

As it turned out, I had bigger things to worry about than dissecting the careers of celebrities I’d never met. On a winter morning, I woke up to the news that my older sister, Tamar, who was studying in Bolivia, had been in a bus crash, and the outlook was not good. I pored over research to escape from what felt like an impossible situation: my sister slowly dying of treatable injuries in a rural area thousands of miles away.

We held a public memorial service for Tamar in our hometown. Some of my classmates showed up, including a few who had written nasty things about me online. I found their shows of kindness insulting now, during what was quickly becoming the worst year of my life.

I tried going back to school after a few weeks, but I found myself picking frequent arguments with classmates and teachers. The school made an arrangement with my parents: I would be placed on “medical leave” for the remainder of the semester. I would graduate on time, but I wouldn’t return to campus.

Stuck at home, I devoted myself to Tumblr. What was I trying to accomplish? Mostly, I was interested in knocking people off their pedestals. I also enjoyed being popular, controversial, discussed. When a comedian I had posted about name-checked my blog on Twitter, I was giddy.

Then I started receiving threats. Someone sent me a screenshot of a house from Google Maps, claiming to have found my IP address. It wasn’t my house, but still. I realized that for every person on Tumblr who looked up to my blog, there were many more, online and offline, who hated it — and me. I started posting less and, eventually, stopped posting at all.

In the years since, I’ve looked back on my blog with shame and regret — about my pettiness, my motivating rage, my hard-and-fast assumptions that people were either good or bad. Who was I to lump together known misogynists with people who got tattoos in languages they didn’t speak? I just wanted to see someone face consequences; no one who’d hurt me ever had.

There’s something almost quaint about it all now: teenage me, teaching myself about social justice on Tumblr while also posturing as an authority on that very subject, thinking I was making a difference while engaging in a bit of schadenfreude. Meanwhile, other movements — local, global, unified in their purposes and rooted in progressive philosophies — were organizing for actual justice. Looking back, I was more of a cop than a social justice warrior, as people on Tumblr had come to think of me.

These days, there’s no shortage of online accountability efforts, the large part of them anonymously run. Some accounts post typically anodyne but occasionally explosive celebrity gossip. Others are explicitly aimed at naming, shaming and punishing people for all kinds of actions and missteps. My own work fell somewhere in the middle, I think; the information I posted was out in the open, but I was cataloging it to make a case against the veneration of the rich and famous.

As many have noted, the coronavirus pandemic has pronounced the distance between celebrities and the rest of us. And their actions have been subject to greater scrutiny — the vacations they’ve gone on, the parties they’ve held, the access they’ve had to testing and care during a health crisis that has taken millions of lives.

But celebrity culture began to crumble long before Covid-19. Mounting accusations of many kinds, whispered between industry professionals, had become too loud to ignore. Social media, which gave celebrities more control over their images and influence over their fans, also opened them up to new kinds of criticism. People have lost jobs and entire careers because of the kinds of errors my blog cited. Others have apologized for work and behavior that, re-examined in a contemporary context, just doesn’t hold up.

For years, I’ve regretted the spotlight I put on other people’s mistakes, as if one day I wouldn’t make plenty of my own. There can be an unsparing purity to growing into one’s social conscience that is often overbroad.

My brain wasn’t ready for nuance. I was angered by hypocrisy and cruelty; what I did about it was apply a level of scrutiny that left no room for error. I’m not saying that I should be canceled for my teenage blog. (Please don't!) I just know what we all should know by now: that no one who has lived publicly, online or off, has a spotless record.

For these reasons, I’ve thought about deleting my Tumblr. But doing that would mean erasing my own errors of judgment. I almost feel like I need to leave it up to punish myself for having made it in the first place. That, and I know someone could (and probably would) just pull it up on Wayback Machine. The internet, after all, never forgets.

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#YFIP #fuck her and her lack of real remorse #25Feb2021 #NYT

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whaleofatjme1920 · 3 years ago

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HOLD ON! Ignore the last matchup if it isn't too much trouble please. I'm indecisive and changed my mind, please forgive me. I still want a matchup, but I want NSFW.

So, I’m 18, and I use she/her pronouns. Not really sure exactly what my sexuality is atm. I lean towards men, but I’m open to being with girls.

My big 3 are Virgo sun, Pisces ascending, and Cancer moon. I’m an INFP and enneagram type 2. Massive introvert because I get drained so quickly in social situations.

Likes/Hobbies: Board and card games have a special place in my heart despite never playing them as a kid. I’d kill to have people willingly play monopoly with me just so I could lose. Passionate about psychology and true crime. Found family is one of my favorite troupes, probably because of all the family issues I had growing up. Enemies to lovers is one that tends to pull me in as well. Daydreaming takes up a good portion of my day and causes my idealistic and fantastical views. I spend time reading and listening to music. I tend to listen to bands that are soft and sweet because love songs melt me in a puddle on the floor. I have a weird thing where I like to buy lots of things that smell nice like candles, soaps, perfumes, lotions, and stuff, but never use it. I have the same attitude with nature. I love the outdoors but leaving the house is just so much effort. I have definitely left the house solely to visit pets though, because animals are like my kryptonite. Oh oh oh! And protective partners melt my heart.

Dislikes: The obvious, homophobes, racists, ableists, etc. Obnoxious people who are so unnecessarily over the top with everything they do. Narcissistic people (I can handle self-centered people if it’s not to the point of narcissism). If someone kicks a person while they’re down, that’s a no-go even if the person they’re kicking needs to be knocked down a peg. Loud noises (this one is super big because trauma). Things that overpower any of my senses. Grown adults who use 3-in-1 WILLINGLY despite knowing that there are entire aisles of options for them and have the AUDACITY to think it works just as good. Arguing (I will give up if it goes on too long if I even bothered to argue to begin with)

Negative: I adapt my personality based on the person. I’m never fake, I just choose what traits of mine I wanna show. I take a while to warm up to people, but they have a tendency to overestimate how close we are. Definitely upset some people when they found out I wouldn’t run into a burning fire to save them. I’m an anxious overthinker, and it can push people away. I don’t get mad easily, but when I do finally lash out it’s hard to get me to stop, and I DO use low blows and remind you of every mistake you ever made. I will not regret or apologize afterward either unless you’re like my best friend or lover because if I get THAT angry with you, you deserve it. Depression hits me really hard sometimes and I can’t bring myself to do anything. I can sometimes freak out over small stuff like a misplaced object, sometimes going so far as having a panic attack over a spoon not being in the right slot in the silverware drawer. Openly voicing my opinion and putting my foot down is something I really struggle with, and I’d much rather a s/o who’s willing to take lead in that aspect.

Positive: When I finally let down my walls, which has only happened a handful of times, I am super snuggly and ramble. Physical touch and talking more than absolutely necessary is my way of saying that I’m comfortable and care about someone a lot. Cuddles are crucial! Not all the time, because I’m still very finicky and a bit jumpy about it, but sometimes. I’m a hopeless romantic who just wants her “I’m cold” “Here, take my hoodie” moment. I jokingly flirt with my friends more than I’d like to admit. Sarcasm and dry humor are my way of coping with the fact that I exist in this universe. I’m a super good listener, and people who aren’t usually open feel more comfortable around me. I tend to put my own qualms with people aside to comfort someone if they’re really feeling down and alone. I don’t care about looks or material things my partner can give me, I literally just want someone who will love me with no strings attached other than maybe spending some time together every once in a while.

Okay, so fun story. I was like 5, maybe 6 at the time. Fishing with my dad (back before he went on a milk run) was a common occurrence, and I would kiss the fish before we threw it back. Well, my dad had just gotten a new fishing pole, first time using it. We were chilling, waiting for the line to catch something. Finally got a bite on my dad’s new rod, and we pulled it up. Now, idk if you’ve ever seen them, but pulling up an alligator gar when you’re barely in Kindergarten is kind of terrifying. So what was my response? To the fish back in the water, pole and all. Needless to say, I don’t think he was very pleased.

Kinks: I am definitely a sub in bed, but I love a power struggle every now and then that ends with me getting absolutely railed into the mattress. I’m into choking, as in please choke me until I can’t breathe. Being edged until I can’t think straight has me a lil...uh...hot. Marking is also really hot, possessiveness in general is. And jealous sex is such a turn on.

Thank you again! <3 Take your time. Excited to see who you match me with!

Your matchup is… Eyeless Jack!

Only a read more because of NSFW

In General:

The first things that brought me to the EJ conclusion was when I first saw “psychology and true crime”. One, I adore those things and two, so too does EJ, at least from how I tend to write him. I also,,,,, admittedly like the whole “found family” and can see that kind of working between you and EJ. Y’know what, ngl the kinks solidified that decision too, but I overall believe the rest of you is just 100% in tune with him.

Things He Likes About You:

EJ totally understands the introvert thing because he’s honestly the same. Having a partner that’s similar to him on that front is really nice for him. He’s also a sucker for you liking animals. EJ doesn’t actually get along with humans that well anymore, so he just kinda fills in the blanks himself. I like to think he actually enjoys birds, like ravens, crows, and even pigeons! He also lowkey likes your physical touch thing AND cuddles. He’s touch starved! Please hold him once he finally gets used to you!! He likes your sarcasm and dry humor because he’s got a similar vein of wit when speaking. You also mentioned being a good listener, which he just finds really, really nice. Is he always going to say anything? No, but it’s nice that you’re open enough to do so. After getting into a relationship with you, yes. Yes he will come to you just to talk. He likes spending time with you. Also, I get the inkling he just really likes your personality. From how you come off here and what you’ve written, it’s just something that would melt his heart RIGHT AWAY (if he had one lol). But seriously, the man just adores you? He’d,,,,, want to hear about your daydreams,,,,,, and your ideas and fantastical views,,,, while he’s ultimately rooted in logic and the real world,,,, please,,,,, show him otherwise and that magick still exists,,,,,,

General Cute Stuff:

The first thing I thought of while actually considering this part was just “omfg this man doesn’t have a hoodie anymore because he’s always giving it to you” which I find ADORABLE. He probably has different hoodies for different occasions so he knows you’ll be prepared for wherever the two of you are going lmfao. He probably wants to hold you a lot (or whenever you’re comfortable) or have a hand on you in some way because highkey the man is jealous and a bit possessive. While your music choice isn’t something he was previously aware about, I think he’d end up really enjoying it just because it makes you so happy. Seeing you smile and hearing you laugh are his favorite things. Furthermore, he’d probably bring in some fun smelling things just because you tend to collect them? Like, if it looks nice, or smells good, he’d just bring it back for you. “I found this bar of soap thought you’d like it - look, it’s in the shape of a cupcake!” Kinda guy. Luckily, this man is protective as ALL HELL so like, you got your wish this man is sometimes wattpad levels of protective. Seriously, he’s just got his sockets on you and he’s not taking them off. He also understands not liking something and having a heavy aversion due to his own experiences with trauma, so he’d keep you away from loud noises and stop them before they even happen if that was possible. He doesn’t really like arguing either? It really depends. With Jeff? Sure. With you? No. Also the board and card game date nights are an absolute must? He likes those too please throw them at him he’d enjoy them SO MUCH. Especially monopoly,,,, but he might,,,, he might let you win,,,,,,

You two as a couple & NSFW:

SO, I can just see you two working out 100%, that is a given. He understands the adapting a personality thing ngl. After his whole “you’re a demon Jack!” he had to relearn what it meant to be human - and he’s still trying to figure that out (at least how I write him.) And he just really gets the whole: yeah. Never fake, just fronting another part of my personality I want to show. He gets it, in short. He also understands not wanting to move too fast in a relationship and build it up until he’s sure of where he stands with you, but he’d also just ask if he was really uncertain. The man has little to no grace sometimes lmfao. EJ won’t ever get you to the point of lashing out. If there’s a problem, he’ll talk it out with you - or he’d find some other way because he’s,,,,, he’s prone to lashing out too,,,, and it’s,,, it’s not nice but thankfully, rarely happens. ALSO, depression slumps? Totally understands that too he will take care of you as best as he can and attempt to motivate you. Be patient with him he’s trying. But he legitimately wants what’s best for you. It might come off as a little overbearing? But once again, he just has your best interest in mind. He’s also really repespectful of making sure that small stuff is the way you like it if that’s what you express to him. He doesn’t fight you about it, just says “oh my bad” or “Sure thing.” He’s just super, super respectful. EJ is also a little,,,,, relieved,,,,, you’re not harsh on his appearance. He’s admittedly still insecure about the whole thing. He’d adore spending time with you. Would probably show you some of his creepy stuff if you’re cool with that and his library full of creepy, occult stuff. Lil dates that are just existing together <3

ALRIGHT here’s what really, really solidified my decision it was the kinks. It was so quickly, the kinks. You have like the perfect man for these things? EJ is a total dom. He just likes being in charge and telling people what to do, having control over them is so hot in his opinion. Did you mention a power struggle? Omfg one of his favorite things is wrangling and then fucking someone back into submission. He’d just bend you back over, pushing you into the mattress growling as he rails you for being so disobedient. The choking thing too?? He’s got you! His large hands would just wrap around your throat and squeeze, bringing you further and further to “omfg I can’t breathe”. But he’s a safe breathplay guy so like. You get it. He will edge you!! He will edge you until you can't think straight! EJ will absolutely ruin you on your way to orgasm and dangle it in front of you like sweet release until you believe it’s nothing but a myth. ONly when you're completely destroyed would he finally praise you and let you have it. He’s also really big on marking. I mean, have you seen his teeth. All over your thighs, your neck, just anywhere he can claim you as his, really. And we’ve established this but he is possessive and jealous! You act a certain way you’re gonna get fucked a certain way. That is the rule. If someone flirts too much with you? He’s gonna be dragging you to the nearest closed off location and fucking your brains out with little bites on your shoulder and neck jsut to be like “mine.”

Closing Thoughts/Other Stuff:

Hi love bug! No worries, I completely understand lmfao. My inbox is entirely empty across all three sites I’m on! Feel free to absolutely spam me lol. Thank you so much for the ask! This is genuinely the first one I’ve been able to look at and have a match in mind like, RIGHT AWAY. That was super fun! I also really like the story because alligator gars happen to be one of my favorite fishes! I think they’re so great. I think you’d tell that story to EJ and he’d just LIGHT UP. LIke, absolutely, 100% omfg I am cherishing that story and it’d become a lil joke between the two of you. He also finds it cute that you,,, would smooch the fish. Wholesome. Again, this was like the first matchup I’ve seen that I had an immediate clear “yeah okay this is who you’re with” and I absolutely adore that so much. You and EJ? It’s just a chef’s kiss. Other than that, I hope you enjoyed this!

#eyeless jack #eyeless jack x reader #eyeless jack headcanon #creepypasta #creepypasta x reader #creepypasta headcanon #nsft #matchup #creepypasta matchup #conversations with a fish woman

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kitkatopinions · 4 years ago

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(sending this ask around to more critic blogs) what do you think of people who blatantly hate-watch RWBY? Like people where they're not just critical like you, but they just flat out despise everything about the series, from its characters to its world to its stories to its animation and beyond, are clear about not even attempting to give it a chance, yet keep coming back and discussing the show at length every week.

You know, the thing you spelled out - someone who never gave RWBY a chance and hates everything about it even to the animation, but still watches it to rag on it - is something I don’t see very often.

I do think that there’s nothing wrong with watching media specifically because you think it’ll be fun and funny and you want to poke at it and bash. Not everyone who watches media to make fun of it does so because it makes them unhappy, a lot of people just have fun with it. As for me, I tend to do that too. I think bashing is fine and has its place. In my opinion, no one is obligated to not make fun of it, so long as they use the proper tags like ‘RWBY bashing’ and ‘RWBY hate.’ Sure, people might personally find it annoying, but I don’t feel like it’s hurting anyone.

Also I feel like not everyone has the energy or feels charitable towards RT enough to spend their time adding qualifiers to their posts that they know not everything in RWBY is bad, or making sure their tone is nice enough to not put people off, especially if they’ve felt personally hurt by things CRWBY has done or put into their show. I think some people tend to see anything that’s more focused on venting to be pointless or unnecessarily mean, but venting is healthy to a certain extent, and people shouldn’t feel obligated to ‘always give RWBY its due’ even if they recognize that it exists.

The last thing I want to point out is that even though a lot of people find it easy to drop media that no longer makes them happy, there are people that have RWBY as a hyper-fixation or a special interest. I’ve never actually gotten this confirmed, but I think I’m ADHD and hyper fixate on things and have since I was a kid. One of the earliest instances of this I can point to is when I watched Star Wars for the first time and for some reason just became fixated on the character of C-3PO to some huge extents. There are some blogs that have been wanting to drop RWBY for seasons, but keep getting pulled back in by their hyper-fixation, and they use their blog to vent about their feelings towards it. It’s actually really frustrating to see people use ‘if you don’t like it, just stop watching’ when there are people who are hyper fixated on RWBY or have it as a special interest.

However, what I don’t think is valid or fine are people who lash out at anyone who does have something good to say about RWBY. Once I made this post about how I didn’t like how people were saying Atlas should fall because they thought everyone in Atlas was a rich racist jerk, since we’re clearly shown Atlas people who aren’t rich, racist jerks, and a different RWDE poster literally got angry at me for giving the writers too much credit. For recognizing that they’d had characters in Atlas that weren’t rich, racist jerks. People that just don’t feel like checking their tone and amending their posts, but do recognize that not everything in RWBY is bad? That’s fine. But people that literally get mad at other posters for recognizing that not everything in the show is bad? I think they’re really problematic and toxic. And people that spend their time making fun of people just for liking something they don’t like? Ugh.

What also isn’t valid are the people that hate RWBY and constantly rag on RWBY... Just because the show didn’t go the way they want. The people that come at it from a point of view of “I can’t believe they’re not going with BlackSun, the show is obviously so stupid” or “I can’t believe they ever left the school, those hack writers!” or “I can’t believe the writers didn’t go with my headcanoned interpretation of Raven!” And stuff like that? I think that’s dumb as hell. Everyone is going to have directions they don’t personally like that the show goes in, it doesn’t mean the writers are hacks or the people that do enjoy the direction are stupid. It’s perfectly valid to vent your frustrations with the directions, but deciding the show is trash just because it doesn’t adhere to your personal desires? I think that’s stupid.

Also, there’s a very big differences between venting your feelings on a Tumblr blog using the appropriate tags where almost no one involved would see it, and directly trying to attack the creators, the people involved in the show, and bloggers who like the show. I’ve blocked RWDE posters before because they were so venomous and unreasonable, and it’s honestly gross to hear things about people sending voice actors death threats. Of course there’s nothing wrong with say, tweeting at the writers to ask them to apologize for their ableist comments, but there’s a line there that I think people need to recognize. If someone is so mad about RWBY that they think they have a right to send threats to voice actors or animators or the like, then maybe they need to back off and get some help.

TL;DR, I don’t think it’s wrong to vent post or watch media to poke at it if you get enjoyment from that. It’s important to remember that not everyone can just drop things whenever they want, and sometimes they might be hyper fixated. And though I think it’s okay to vent, or to laugh at media you think is bad, I think people should remember not to lash out at others for enjoying media they don’t, not to discredit RWBY just because it doesn’t fit what they want specifically, and to understand the difference between calling out the writers and attacking people.

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mellometal · 3 years ago

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Hey, everyone.

If you saw the post from earlier, I had to delete it. There were things I forgot to discuss and things that didn't get saved into my drafts. Sorry if you have to see this again.

I've been WAITING to talk about Glee. Not in the good way either. There's so much wrong with the show, and it's sickening. Yes, I've watched the show last year. Against my will, but that's because of other people refusing to put on anything else besides Glee. I can say that I hate Glee with my entire being. (My initial reason for hating it was because they covered "SING" by My Chemical Romance and turned it into a slow, patriotic song when it's a song about rebellion. NOTHING about "SING" is patriotic. I hated the show since I first heard about it...for that very reason. I was like thirteen or so at the time when I first heard about Glee? Despite it being out since 2009.

Though it's been over for several years now, it's a show that many people have mixed feelings about. From what I've seen, you either love Glee or you absolutely hate it. There's no in-between that I've seen. (If you can't already tell, I hate the show.)

The show is a literal dumpster fire, the characters are all fucking awful people and all of them are poorly written, the script pisses me off, it literally makes me feel disgusting, and don't even get me started on the covers. Most of the covers aren't that good. A lot of them sound like nails on a chalkboard to me. The pacing of the show makes NO sense in certain areas (like when Blaine was initially made to be a grade above Kurt, but was then changed to be like the same grade as him so he'd stay). It just feels like everyone in the show is either a Mary Sue, a Gary Stu, their whole personality is just that they're from a minority group or they're EDGY AND HARDCORE DELINQUENTS BLEEEEHHHHH, creepy as fuck, bigoted as all hell, or they're just background characters who occasionally have the spotlight.

TW: The following post and any other posts that I'll make about this show contains subject matter that may be triggering for some audiences. It will go into subjects like racism, homophobia, ableism, outing of a person in the LGBT community, bigotry in general, statutory r@pe (between teachers and students), teachers being creepy towards students, mentioned past child m0l3stati0n and invalidation of the victim's trauma, making fun of su1c1d3, making fun of overdose, making fun of drug addiction....a lot of fucked up things.

If anything mentioned above is triggering for you, please feel free to scroll and consume safe media instead. I'd rather have you be safe than to be triggered by anything I'm gonna talk about.

Let's start off easy. The characters. It's easy to tear them apart. At least the most problematic ones.

Rachel, the Main Character™️, is textbook definition of a Mary Sue. Instead of calling her Rachel, I'm gonna call her Mary Sue for the whole post. She's almost completely perfect (like too perfect), her flaws are minor if anything, she gets all the special treatment....you get the picture. When Mary Sue does anything fucked up or she says anything fucked up, it either goes unnoticed, people make up excuses for her being a shitty person, or it gets twisted so it looks like Mary Sue is the hero! (I hate her. So much. I cannot stand her.)

Aaawwww, Mary Sue didn't want some OTHER GIRL (Sunshine) to steal HER spotlight, so she SENT THIS GIRL TO A CRACK HOUSE. A FUCKING CRACK HOUSE, OF ALL PLACES. A PLACE WHERE THIS GIRL COULD HAVE BEEN PUT IN SERIOUS DANGER. THIS GIRL COULD HAVE BEEN SERIOUSLY INJURED AT BEST AND KILLED AT WORST. Yes, I'm aware not all drug houses are the same, but still. It doesn't matter what this girl did. What Sunshine did is irrelevant. It's not okay to send people to strange places where they don't know anyone, and are put in danger, even to the point of either getting injured or killed. But it's okay, because at least it's not an "active" crack house you sent Sunshine to, RIGHT, Mary Sue? You still sent some poor girl to a place where she could have been put in serious danger, even to possibly get injured or killed, all because you didn't want her to steal YOUR spotlight. You fucking disgusting, entitled, bratty cunt. You don't need the spotlight all the time anyway. THAT'S HOW THEATRE WORKS. YOU DON'T ALWAYS GET THE LEAD ROLE. YOU DON'T ALWAYS GET THE ROLE YOU WANT. AND THAT'S OKAY. YOU WORK WITH WHAT YOU GOT. Sincerely, a theatre kid.

There are other fucked up things Mary Sue has done, but this is the one thing I could find anyone talking about. If I remember correctly, she hurt her Gay Best Friend™️ Kurt in some way. All I remember is that Kurt was mad at Mary Sue about something. Mary Sue is annoying as fuck. What else can I say about her?

Next, we have Finn, who's textbook definition of a Gary Stu. I'll call him Gary Stu throughout this post. I hate this fucker too. He's the Main Character's Boyfriend™️, the Hot Quarterback™️, and The Good Guy™️. Yet....he's not a good person. He's treated like he's a good person, but he's really not. His flaws are fairly minor and excused (and any major flaws aren't even talked about much), he's almost completely perfect, and every fucked up thing he does is ignored or is justified in some way. Like how he outed Santana as lesbian in the hallway WITHIN EARSHOT OF EVERYONE. HE DIDN'T EVEN APOLOGIZE FOR THIS.

As a woman who has struggled with her sexuality growing up, this really brought back shit I went through. I "dated" boys when I was younger to cover up the fact that I'm only attracted to other women. I wasn't happy with these guys at all. I acted like I did so nobody would suspect anything. I felt nothing for them, except for in a platonic way. I've been outed twice. Once when I thought I was bisexual with a strong preference for other women (by my dad's girlfriend at the time), and when I came out as lesbian (by my brother). It sucks to be outed. The people who outed me in real life could have put me in danger. They could have made it so I had no place to go back to. They could have had me get hurt. It's a scary feeling. Like, it doesn't matter if you're supportive or if you're in the LGBT community. You don't fucking out people without their explicit permission. You especially don't out people to their abusers or to people they don't trust, let alone out them publicly. That's what happened to me. I don't wish this on anyone.

***By the way, for anyone who's closeted, you're valid, I love you, and I know how it feels to be stuck in the closet. You don't have to come out right now. Come out whenever you're ready to. Whenever it's safe for you to do so.***

Or how about the fact that Gary Stu made fun of Kurt's voice because he's gay? Gary Stu apparently has ✨anger issues✨ and that's pretty much the excuse they use to justify him doing fucked up shit to people.

They treat the characters who are from minority groups (i.e., BIPOC, AAPI, LGBT community, disabled people) like absolute garbage, put them through all this horrific shit, or they put them on a pedestal simply for being in a minority group. The teachers and other school staff are either written to be total bigots (Sue), or they're total pr3dators (Mr. Schue, the school nurse, and another teacher who I can't remember her name off the top of my head).

Sue pretty much only exists to be a poorly written villain who's a bigoted bitch just to be a bigoted bitch. Yes, there were some things she WAS right about (like how "Blurred Lines" wasn't an appropriate song choice for the Glee Club™️, but Mr. Schue The Pr3dator™️ downplayed it). Other than that...that's all I can think of. Because everything else that came out of her mouth was bigoted bullshit. Like these right here, for example:

Or how she drugged the principal, date r@ped him, and blackmailed him?

How about them making a tasteless joke about Sue committing su1c1d3 and having her "overdose" on multivitamin gummies?

DO I NEED TO EXPLAIN HOW FUCKED UP ALL OF THIS IS? I do? Well, first of all, she called people racist, homophobic, ableist, and otherwise disgusting names. She boiled them down to their race, sexual orientation, their disability, and their appearance in general. Second, SHE DRUGGED, BLACKMAILED, AND DATE R@PED SOMEBODY. I don't think I need to explain how that's bad. The evidence is right there. Third, she said she was committing "sue-icide" by overdosing on multivitamin gummies. (Yes, you actually can OD on vitamins in supplement form, and it can cause serious symptoms and even death. Specifically with vitamins A, D, E, and K, and Iron. Vitamins A, D, E, and K are fat-soluble. They're a lot harder to remove from the body. The B vitamins and vitamin C aren't as severe if you do OD on them because they're water-soluble, but still be careful. You can't OD on vitamins and minerals you find in food. If you take supplements, vitamins, etc., only take what's on the bottle.) As someone who has su1c1d@l thoughts on and off, this is extremely insulting. Yes, I do use humor and I joke about my own experiences to cope, but this? Nah. Nothing about this is funny or cute in the slightest. Enough said.

Do I need to explain how fucking terrible it is to make light of a serious topic like this? It was never funny to see Britney Spears' mental health be at that low of a point in 2007. It was never funny to see the abuse the paparazzi inflicted on her. How the fuck was this ever okay? You can dislike Britney Spears all you want, but this was never it.

This is all I have for now. I'll probably make a part two because there are way too many things to talk about.

#mello speaks #glee #i hate this show #tw racism mention #tw date r@pe mention #tw suidice #tw homophobia mention #tw ableism mention #tw drug mention #i literally hate everyone in this show so much #tw pr3dator mention (will dive deep into this in part two)#tw od mention #anti glee

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nanigma · 4 years ago

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i dunno, i feel like felixs interactions with dimitri are seriously ableist. I get it, felix is traumatized by dimitris actions but the dehumanization and lackluster apology and A support rubs me the wrong way forever. He says the sort of things people irl say about mentally disabled people like me and its kinda triggering tbh

Hey, that’s a perfectly reasonable response to the writing here. I have been saying Dimitri and Felix desperately needed an A+ support, so we could show them actually mending their relationship on-screen instead of only implied in a handful of lines and their ending card.

You are correct that Felix doesn’t really apologize to Dimitri as he should. The most we see in AM is him finally starting to reconcile the fact, that the “boar” he so despised and the loving Dimitri from his childhood are actually one and the same.

This does not excuse the viscious things he says of course. As someone who suffers from anxiety, I know I need to apologize for the harm I am doing to others.

One thing I feel is important to keep in mind though, is that Fodlán has incredibly shitty awareness of mental health. People are completely unable to deal with Dimitri’s mental illness, because they have no idea as to the cause and effects behind it. They also don’t really have the language to talk about it the way we do. Several characters refer to Dimitri as a “monster” and used terms like “crazed” to describe his behaviour, because they do not have any other concept to describe it. They are scared and/or disgusted, which they feel free to express.

Even the characters, who are more positively inclined towards Dimitri are at a loss as to how to handle him or understand what is happening. Byleth can at one point say “I miss the old Dimitri”, when what she thinks of as the “old Dimitri” was a barely functional facade half the time.

Of course, there is a difference between ingorance and active malicious behaviour towards someone and Felix crosses the line with his comments. It just personally hits me differently than when someone in irl, with all the assorted resources and access to education about mental illness, says the things.

Also another important thing is that the game never condones his language. Sure, they play it as “I told you so” for a bit around the timeskip, but even after that we have characters constantly call him out on it. It is Dimitri who lets him get away with it, due to self-loathing, but the game also lets you know that Dimitri is a kind man, very capable of ruling his kingdom and achieving redemption. VW/SS have his death as a tragedy, not a “fitting end for what he became”.

(CF is the one time I feel it falls really flat, because the narrative tries to paint Dimitri as completely out of his mind, yet from what we can see he is actually pretty reasonable in his actions and shows no sign of the violent behaviour in other routes.)

This is why I can personally stomach Felix’s comments and don’t feel the need to rail against it as much, because the game does the job for me. ... While obviously leaving an important blank spot in the middle that I am very interested in filling out.

Again, I can see why you feel so triggered by this and don’t expect you to change your mind. I just personally still see a great amount of potential in their dynamic, even as toxic as it can be.

#3H #felix #dimitri #Anonymous

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