#I appreciate Buddy so much

[salamiimommy]

FINAL FTFO CHAPTER.

IN MERE DAYS

HOW ARE WE FEELING. ☹️☹️☹️☹️☹️

[whineandcheese24]

i feel like what some of y'all don't understand is that by making Buck's bi arc, specifically his coming out to Eddie, all about Buddie, you're not just taking away the significance for Buck, you're also taking away the significance for RYAN. Ryan, and even Oliver, have talked about how part of the reason this story is so important to him (Ryan) is because of what Ryan went through with his friend coming out to him. That the reason he loves this story is because he wants to show that two masculine men can have a close intimate friendship, and even when one of them is attracted to men, it doesn't make the straight one uncomfortable. He wants to show that even though coming out to your straight friend can be scary, it doesn't and shouldn't have to be, and a good friend won't care, and will still be comfortable being friends, talking about their love lives, and even hugging. This arc does so much, not just for bi or bi men rep, but also for close male friendships rep, and by making it all about buddie, you take away a lot of that.

[devilsrecreation]

So we all lost and now have nothin to eat

Your bosses say you’re all oh so hopeless

You go home beaten even when there’s easy meat

Can’t face your friends all starved and joyless

You feel stupid, that zebra’s said “so long”

Well lemme just say you’re not wrong! :D

“Wait, what?”

You’re a furbrain, buddy

A furbrain, my croc buddy

You’re as helpful as a tiny itch (Hey!)

You’re a furbrain just like me! (Well, that’s mean!)

You’re a derp-faced moron

all your ideas are long gone

You’re two gluttons who always butt in

We’ve all been there, buddy!

[gangseyboi]

Murtagh is still my little meow meow but good god is he a SNOB.

[pineapplefulfillseveryneed]

I'm so grateful For the love that we share I'll never take it for granted That you're always there And when I think about the world And what is going on It makes me even more thankful That you're still around And I've been waiting all my life For someone I could stand And you're the only one so far Who could understand And what I'm feelin' in my heart Feelin' in my soul I couldn't ever hope to tell you I'm sure you must know

- Sparks // Let's Make Love

[monstermoviedean]

if you have a good vibe/kind thought to spare and could send it my way. i'd really appreciate it.

[brutal-nemesis]

after all these years i have a fucking Rock Job im so so hyped oh my fucking god i will have money

[boos-gh0st]

My feelings buddy (and best friend) and I had hit a rough patch recently, and tonight we finally got to talk things out a bit and have proper communication, as feelings buddies do, and STARS man it was so fucking great getting to just talk with him again. Speaking as we did so many months ago, staying up too late and saying we’ll sleep soon, talking about nonsense and telling stories, doodling and making each other laugh…I really missed it.

I am so glad to have him back

Guys go tell your friends you love them

Also we made so many ISAT references as we spoke. Oddly enough it just slipped into conversation, it was funny. At one point he made an analogy and the only way I understood it was by comparing it to the loops lmao

Edit a few mins later:

Loop really liked that we were chill again too btw

(Guys I’m so happy rn)

[daffi-990]

Tease Tidbit Tuesday 📝

More from the Buddie Slow Dance Fic. This fic is gonna be soft and sappy 🥰💖. The first song these boys danced to (before this lil snippet starts) is Paper Rings by Taylor Swift cos it’s such a fun song and Buck is a Swiftie and would totally drag Eddie to dance to one of her songs.

“Where’d you learn to dance like that?” Buck is finally able to ask as the song begins to come to a close. He’s been told a few times by Karen and even Eddie himself that the man could dance, but he didn’t think he’d be that good.

“My Abuelo and Abuela loved to dance. Swing, samba, waltz, they just loved dance and taught all of us kids. Every Sunday after church we’d go back to their house and have lunch as a family and then dance. After Abuelo died, Sophia and Adrianna stopped dancing, but I kept it up so I could dance with Abuela.” Eddie begins swaying them gently as a new song begins to play. “Dancing always made her so happy, and even though he was gone, I wanted her to have something of him still. Keep the memory of him alive, you know?”

Buck didn’t think it was possible to fall even more in love with someone, but here he is, sinking deeper into the sea of love he has for one Eddie Diaz.

No pressure tagging: @exhuastedpigeon @lover-of-mine @forthewolves @fortheloveofbuddie @callmenewbie @thewolvesof1998 @wikiangela @hippolotamus @wildlife4life @eddiebabygirldiaz @eddiediaztho @rainbow-nerdss @try-set-me-on-fire @spotsandsocks @devirnis @disasterbuckdiaz @giddyupbuck @hoodie-buck @jesuisici33 @loserdiaz @callaplums @captain-hen @monsterrae1 @messyhairdiaz and whoever else wants to share something 😊.

[welcometogrouchland]

[ID in alt text] my magnum opus

[waitmyturtles]

Your post about your upcoming Bad Buddy meta got me thinking about Bad Buddy (again), and I remembered one particular thing that had an impact. Apologies if this is long and rather incoherent, I wrote this past midnight.

In the final episode, the part where we see Ming and Dissaya turn a blind eye to Pat Pran's shenanigans really struck a chord with me.

[I'm an Indian, born and raised, and queer, but it's well worth mentioning that my experiences are not universal- in fact, they may be the exception rather than the rule; I'm not quite sure.]

What it reminded me of was, that asian parents tend to come around eventually- in particular mothers. We've seen time and time again in series' that deal with difficult/not accepting family members; Bad Buddy, GAP, Wedding Plan, maybe even Double Savage (haven't watched this one but I believe the dad feels bad in the end?), that even if the parental figure(s) doesn't agree with their children's choices, they learn to compromise. Because the difference in opinions isn't worth losing their children over. Obviously, for every parental figure that comes around there's one that the children cut ties with (Wedding Plan remains a good example), but I think it's something worth seeing.

It made me think of how I was never scared of coming out to my mother, because I knew that, despite the difference in views, and her prejudice, she'd accept me, no matter whether she thought it was a phase or not.

Do I know what the point of this ask is? Not really, I was rather nervous sending this ask, especially not on anon, but I'd love to know what you think of this, since I've come to really enjoy reading the thoughts you have on these shows.

Ohhhh, wow. @starryalpacasstuff, come 'ere for a big mom hug! HUGE HUGS!

I'm gonna unwind a little randomly; I hope this is coherent. A ton of what I write about on my blog vis à vis Asian dramas are the unique characteristics of Asian families and an Asian upbringing. Parental conditional love, competitiveness, our unique experiences with intergenerational trauma. I write a lot about how Asians, in our cultural expectations of life, accept pain and suffering as an assumed part of our existences. The reason why I watch Asian dramas exclusively is that, as I'm Asian-American, I just connect far more easily to the Asian cultural experience of growing from a child into an Asian adult, than I do the experience of white Western folks growing into their adulthood. I grew up intimately with Asian cultural practices and expectations; but I also grew up with racism in my external American world, and came to my adulthood in a society that still values white Americans above all other demographics.

But one thing I'm cognizant of, that I don't think I write about enough, is that many of these characteristics of the Asian cultural scopes of life are indeed similar to those that a fully American person (for example) might experience. It's not like intergenerational trauma doesn't exist in the West. It's not like homophobia in families against a child doesn't exist in the West.

However. As an Asian-American, one thing I note about many (not all, of course) Western families and family systems is that very often: Western adults will give up their agency to be loyal to what I might call a "higher power" -- a philosophy, a political preference, a religion. If a queer person wants to come out in a conservative American family, that queer person may very well be risking cutting permanent ties with their family.

That, of course, also happens in our Asian family systems. But I think you're onto something, @starryalpacasstuff. While divorce rates are sky-high in the West -- there is also a paradigm of family systems being and looking different in the West than they do in Asia. Asian family systems still don't accommodate for divorce and blended or chosen families as they do in the West.

The Asian family systems and paradigms that you and I grew up with as Indians absolutely still value a heterosexual two-parent household -- and I'd posit that our past generations, our grandparents and great-grandparents, put HUGE, HUGE pressure on our parents to keep the two-parent family systems together and whole. And to keep the children close. It's a huge value in our Asian cultures to have whole and complete families. The West has become far more accommodating, culturally, on this issue.

And, so. I totally agree with you, @starryalpacasstuff. I think we do see the beginning of a coming-around on the parts of Ming and Dissaya. And that coming-around is certainly something we can relate to. Our parents will likely accept us for our differences. I fucked a lot of shit up with my folks when I decided to live independently of their desires -- and I don't think things really healed (and I still carry tremendous traumatic baggage) until after I had my own kids, and expanded all of our families. Because in the end, the value in our Asian cultures is that keeping the family complete and close still matters more than any one's individual biases or desires.

Ming and Dissaya are remarkably traumatized people. Ming was traumatized by the expectations of his father. He screwed Dissaya over, and literally handed his trauma to Pat on a silver platter, for Pat to embody for most of his life. And Pat flipped that platter over in his father's face and ran away. Ming, at the end of the series, is passive-aggressive with Pat, despite Pat's efforts to try to work with him. And yet -- Ming still sips Pran's scotch.

To your point -- does time heal everything? I'm not so sure in the West, with the Western predilection for Christian/Puritanical/conservative values to supersede reasonable family resolutions. But I think, because of the value that Asian systems put on having complete families, that you are right -- that there may be more room in Asian family systems for eventual acceptance of a child's "differences," despite us living in collectivist societies. This is definitely not an absolute. There are environments in which it's still dangerous to come out. But the value that Asians put on family does indeed give us a tiny bit of comfort that our cultures can move the needle on acceptance in different ways over time.

[dribs-and-drabbles]

The Thai Communal Wardrobe item #37

Still 2Gether ep 1:

Bad Buddy ep 8:

for @telomeke 💙

[tetsuskei]

the more i think about it, the more i realize how pathetic ayato would be as a lover

[flippyspoon]

No really though I have to talk about 9-1-1.

I see people talking about this show all the time because of Buddie as if it's a normal show- like probably not a great show, but fine. It is NOT fine. This show is insane. Not just because it has crazy disaster events happen multiple times a season- that's the best part about it and not just because it's just wall to wall saccharine heart to heart talks whenever they're not saving children from wayward hot air balloons or whatever but because the heart to heart dialogue is so god awful terrible- just flat as a fucking pancake. Stilted as hell. It always sounds like it's borrowed from a commercial for heart medication.

Nevermind that you have stories like Peter Krause feeling completely responsible for the grisly deaths of his entire family and then suddenly being fine about it.

Am I just not used to this kind of network stuff anymore???

I can't even believe Angela Bassett and Peter Krause have to say this stuff with straight faces.

[panevanbuckley]

having a silly little oneshot that's less than 5k words about to hit 10k kudos is crazy. wattpad era me could never have even dreamed of such a thing, i love you all so much

[lover-of-mine]

Lady Whistledown. Sorry to keep bothering you today, but everything is moving fast, and it's hilarious. They are trying to finalize a ship name so it sticks in SM posts. Because they love to refer to us as BOBs even though that title doesn't appear anywhere or is recognizable. They feel like they put a negative spot light on it enough to choose a light positive name for themselves. Even if it's something like fireflies because it matches the bee energy. They just need Oliver to acknowledge it.

It will be a wild few days!!! The delusions and hate is coming in hard.

Baby, never apologize, please keep going back. I guess we need to strap in for some crazy then.