#How a Mental Health Counselor Can Change Your Life

[taurusvenusian]

✶ how do you approach travel, philosophy, and your belief systems? ✶

PLANETS IN THE NINTH HOUSE

the house of belief systems, higher education, travel, philosophy

if you have planets in the ninth house, your life is noticeably influenced by the pursuit of knowledge, wisdom, and exploration.

Sun in the 9th House

You feel a sense of purpose when exploring or expanding your horizons. You love diving into philosophy, traveling, or pursuing higher education, and may view life as a journey of discovery, focusing on personal growth.

Moon in the 9th House

Exploring ideas, places, and cultures makes you feel emotionally fulfilled. You feel a sense of comfort when traveling and learning the unknown, which causes your restless spirit to seek meaning through adventure.

Mercury in the 9th House

You are mentally adaptable and quick to establish connections with other people. You enjoy learning, sharing ideas, and teaching, and are curious about philosophy and culture. You may have traveled a lot for health or work reasons.

Venus in the 9th House

You find beauty in new experiences, intellectual pursuits, and diversity. You find joy and fulfillment in travel, art, or learning. You fall in love with people or places from different cultures and are particularly drawn to relationships that involve growth and adventure.

Mars in the 9th House

You feel driven to pursue your beliefs and advocate for them passionately. You seek challenges through travel or study as you thrive on adventure, whether physical or intellectual. You may come off as forceful in promoting your opinions but stay open to change.

Jupiter in the 9th House

You are an optimistic and principled person who naturally inspires others through your wisdom. You are gifted with opportunities in education, travel, and personal growth. You express yourself well and may be skilled in speaking multiple languages.

Saturn in the 9th House

You may find yourself often thinking and contemplating about the unknown. You learn to be disciplined and patient in learning and developing your belief systems. Later in life, you can build a solid and practical philosophy that makes you a respected authority.

Uranus in the 9th House

You are rebellious and independent in terms of your beliefs which may cause you to rebel against traditional views. Unconventional ideas, philosophies, and forms of education appeal to you; you may have always felt the desire to pursue different or unusual branches of study.

Neptune in the 9th House

You seek a deeper connection to the universe and are drawn to spiritual, philosophical, or mystical pursuits. You have great imagination and insight which can make you a good teacher or counselor. You may have unrealistic expectations in terms of travel, belief systems, or cultures.

Pluto in the 9th House

You have a powerful desire to change the world with your ideas or teachings. You have philosophical views that may affect you or others intensely, and you seek deep and hidden truths in life. Traveling and people you meet in foreign countries may affect you deeply.

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[katetorias]

Hi :D

Sorry for the anon ask, I'm too shy to ask on your Instagram story whenever you do a qna. I've been wondering what it feels like to be (part of) a system. I can't quite imagine what that must be like and I'm just super curious about it

One of my most burning questions has been: how does it feel to just come into existence as a new alter? You said that Prom is still a fairly new addition and I honestly can't imagine what that must feel like and how someone wouldn't know they were a system after that.

Also how does it feel to be an alter that isn't the host? Does it feel shitty to not be out as much and to be considered "somebody's alter" instead of their own person?

Feel free to ignore this if you're uncomfortable with it. Also love your art of you and your fiancé, so cute!!

since systems are formed due to the unique trauma the specific system went through, we can only really talk on our experiences. since people react to trauma differently, systems (an extreme trauma response), all form differently and have different ways they fit into the diagnostic criteria for these disorders.

im going to answer your question in a long format below^^

• for context: we are bodily 22, and we've been receiving psych care since we were around 11/12. our therapeutic progress has always been stagnant because after we left the situation we were in, we had almost completely blocked out everything that happened. so we had nothing to tell our therapists and we didn't feel comfortable talking with them. we were often dissociated and would just answer questions shortly while staring at the ground instead of engaging.

because of our lack of progress/seeming lack of effort, our mom stopped taking us to therapy and psychiatrist appointments. she thought it was a waste of time and probably saw our mental illness as misbehaving/not caring enough to try to be happy. this kept us from having proper psych care for years. we would occasionally get called to the counselor's office in school and at some point we had to start missing school for therapy again. college had us losing that support and flunking out because of the dissociation/suicidality. we only finally got access to meds after i had to go outpatient, and we've been with our therapist since.

• how we didn’t notice: due to this we had no knowledge that our experiences weren't normal. our mental health has been neglected for years and we had no way of knowing what was happening with us because we had no basis as to understand. we have a gap in our memory from a little after we left our situation to early high school. our friend always says we knew each other in middle school and talked, but we don't remember enough of those years. amnesia can show up in a lot of different ways. we've only experienced two noticeable black outs, the rest is gradual. not remembering things soon after they happened, being told we said things we didn't remember saying, being unable to describe important events in our lives, vaguely knowing what happened but not remembering the experience.

• on forming: When I (Prompto) formed, we had just flunked out of college and were forced to start working. Me and my fiancé were just starting our relationship and were playing my source. My source was a fat child who experienced bullying and parental neglect, being left alone and friendless for years, feeling like he has to change his weight to be liked. We really couldn't handle having a job. we were clinging and desperately coping by consuming my source. Eventually I started feeling like I was confusing things that happened in game with things that happened to me, and my real life memories from years, or even just months before didn't feel familiar. This was frightening, I would cry to Noctis about how I was feeling, how I couldn't remember anything before our road trip (event in source). But we didn't have any resources to explain, I thought I was being weird and childish.

Because of the stress of this job we had, I would spend most of our time in a heightened state, anxious or dreading the next days. Jack (who formed in our childhood to take care of us and our little brother when we’d be left alone) started resurfacing again after being gone for years. Our brain was trying to protect us, but I didn’t understand why I suddenly felt different. Sometimes it felt like I would just leave. I started being told that I was saying things I didn’t agree with again. Jack felt miserable trying to force himself to be me. This conflict and pain was the reason we ended up outpatient, and a few months after came to terms with the fact that we were a system.

• on what it’s like to not be the host: for us we don’t really refer to ourselves as “someone’s” alters since we don’t really have a collective identity (discounting the body we act like). I’ve been making an effort to accommodate everyone, and make sure we get the time we want in the body or just have things that are our own. (Making space for their things/interests. Setting times for specific people to have a chance to front)

This is Nathan’s perspective since he’s been fronting more often lately:

- I actually used to hate being an alter. i felt frustrated that I got torn away from my shitty life to just be part of someone else’s. I didn’t want to exist in the system at all. our body isn’t mine. im skinny and im covered in healing SH scars, and im not hairy and i have short hair, im cis. i used to hate fronting. I would actively wish i could just disappear. it didn’t seem like me being around was helping anyone. dissociation sucked and I would pick fights with our fiancé. im pretty much the only one of us who gets full flashbacks, and i fucking hate looking at stuff for my source online because everyone hates me. or ignores the story to justify hating me instead of just. hating me for what’s actually in source.

we talked with our therapist and eventually i started coming to therapy and she treated me like my own person. she made sure to create a distinction between my feelings about something and Prompto’s. she told me to create a thing i could do instead of be angry which is why i would usually front. Prompto put a lot of effort into making me feel comfortable. it’s like pri could tell how sensitive I actually am. pri designated a corner of our apartment to me and got me decorations pri thought i would like. i got to make my own instagram. It felt good to be myself. when i wasnt forcing myself to be prompto i felt more content. the more i could express myself as a person the easier it was to communicate with the system, i struggled less with memory and i think were less dissociated now than ever because prompto made such an effort to acknoledge us as our own selves.

sorry for the long answer but you asked so not sorry I guess lol. prompto probably had a better closing statement but I don’t really give a fuck. thx for the question

[candywife333]

One of the guys

pairing: OT7? alphas X chubby wingwoman HYBE employee Y/N (omega in hiding)

NEW MINISERIES (almost resembles a series of just dribbles)

Summary: She's the man. No literally. She totally is. At least in the perception of everyone at HYBE. She hangs out with the guys like a pro , strategizes with them to get them any girl of their choice, gets rid of their one night stands with ease, convinces their FWBs to leave them alone, provides constructive criticism about their sexual techniques, and even counsels them when they are having mental breakdowns. In essence, she makes MEN out of boys. Is that her job description? Not exactly. But she does it anyway. Because Y/N just happens to be one of the guys.

Warning: cursing, crude language, eventual smut

PART 1

"Y/N, does this outfit look good for the date tonight?!!!", Taehyung paced around in a panicked fashion, worried about being late for his date.

Y/N turned around slowly in her revolving chair nursing a freshly baked croissant in her hand, quizzical expression on her face, right eyebrow propped up in a strong arch. She calmly advised, "Lose the ugly plaid shirt and replace it with a plain black turtle neck. Get rid of that thirsty look on your face and wipe the sweat on the nape of your neck. You don't want to look like you just ran a marathon. As much as old spice commercials try to convince guys that women like sweaty men, we don't like guys looking like drowning rats on first dates".

Taehyung opened his mouth open in shock and disbelief at her cutting words. Y/N questioned nonchalantly as she propped her sweat pant clad right leg on the coffee table, munching on her crispy treat, " Have I ever mislead you boi? Till now, have you not bagged a chick under my guidance"? Taehyung winced, because he very well knew that not only him, but all the other members never lost when Y/N advised them with regards to the workings of women. Especially in regards to the mindset of omegas.

They were all alphas and any girl, or omega for that matter that they chose to pursue, they got. Mainly because of Y/N. You could call her a lifestyle manager or a counselor. The words were not apt enough to describe her position completely. She was all encompassing in her role. Nobody would be able to replace her.

Y/N was originally one of their junior managers, till they slowly realized that she was worth more than just that job role. Taehyung remembered the day they had met her. When Jungkook had been bemoaning his lack of p***y at the time, Y/n had remained in her usual uniform of black sweatpants and baggy black shirt with a smirking expression on her quiet face. Side note: None of them knew how y/N even looked like under those baggy clothes, she never changed her clothes, ever. Under any circumstances.

She had taken one look at Jungkook's pitiful, pathetic little face propped up like Orphan Annie on a blue loveseat, and remarked in her usual quietly cutting manner, "You need to wash that BO off your armpits boy. Brush your teeth. Use some salicylic acid on that face. And learn what weights are. Girls don't like oily spaghetti. We like it in our mouth when we eat it, but we don't like f**king it". They had all been startled at the time.

But she had resolutely continued her tirade, "You can take the advice or leave it. But I guarantee that if you fix what I said, you will have girls falling all over themselves for you, like flies over lasagna". After her curt statement, she walked away, a baggy legend , without even a glance backwards.

Over the years, since their debut, she remained in the background, mostly staying in HYBE's main building, acting as a mix between manager, mental health counselor, life coach and sex therapist. If anyone had questions that they couldn't get figured out anywhere else, they came to Y/N. Cause she was just that good. New idols swore by her, even giving up time off some times, just to have appointments with her biweekly.

She was too good, to the point that even the jade rock statue that was Yoongi, would consult her when he was struggling. And he never even consulted his parents, so that was saying a lot. It was even more hilarious that their head of PR and sometimes even Bang PD were found creeping into her office. She was a magician and a queen and she knew it.

Taehyung nodded at her suggestions, not questioning her and got ready to head out the door as Y/N made her way out of his dressing room. She rarely did much strenuous activity, so she had this habit where she calculated her steps daily and would be found randomly pacing around the HYBE building with her tablet in hand.

As Y/N left his room, Jungkook walked in, smiling at y/n in glee, making grabby hands to try to hug her. She swatted him away with a smirk and walked away as he entered the room. He grunted, " Looking good Tae. Off to bag Ashley I see. You are pulling all the stops for this one". Taehyung shrugged , "No choice dude. She is super selective about who she dates. Which is why Y/N told me to go for a basic but chic look. And she told me to keep some gum on me, in case my breath stank. Because apparently classy girls hate garlic".

Jungkook nodded absently, clearly not interested in girls like Ashley, the daughter of a makeup corporation's CEO. He motioned for Taehyung to come closer, as if what he were about to say were a top secret, "Do you ever wonder what Y/n ACTUALLY looks like"? Taehyung, bopped him on his coconut head with his right hand. "The hell do you mean, what she actually looks like. Not like she is lying to us. The girl doesn't even wear makeup". Jungkook shook his head frantically, "That isn't what I mean. I mean, we don't even know her shape, she dresses so baggy she looks like a blob. And her face is obscured by her thick black specs that honestly look more like sunglasses because of the tinting. And her hair is always pulled up into a bun, so we don't even know the texture of her hair".

Taehyung pondered these sentiments. For sure, Y/N was very bland when it came to appearance. The only distinctive thing about her was her ocean breeze fragrance. Otherwise she blended into the background. "Why are you suddenly so curious Jungkook? She's worked for so long at HYBE. Why does it matter"? Jungkook looked uneasy as he proclaimed after a pregnant pause and gathered Taehyung even closer as if to divulge some national security threat, "I have a suspicion that she has a........please don't tell anyone my conjectures........big ........ASS".

Dumbfounded at his outlandish statement, Taehyung exclaimed in disbelief, "You mean a BADUNKADUNK, A G WAGON, A DUMP TRUCK? OUR Y/N"?!! He nervously tittered, "no way man, no way". Jungkook winced as he continued, "Well I am sort of curious, because you see...", he twiddled his thumbs with trepidation, "I sort of was looking when she bent over to pick up a pen...and her shirt sort of slid up and I saw something that looked massive. You know, of global proportions". He paused as if in deep concentration, finger on his head, "Worldwide, if I had to put it in the simplest terms. And the stranger thing, is that her scent smelled like strawberry cheesecake for all of 2 seconds till it switched back to her usual fragrance".

Both of them stood there, puzzled in a quandary. This may not seem like a big deal. But it definitely was. Because if Y/N was pretending to be someone else entirely, their world view and perception of life, may have just shifted drastically.

[ingek73]

Meghan: I’m airing my struggle with suicidal thoughts to help others

Duke and Duchess of Sussex appear on US television to publicise project to tackle child safety online

Caroline Davies

Sun 4 Aug 2024 18.41 CEST

The Duchess of Sussex has spoken about her struggles with mental health and suicidal thoughts as she and her husband launched an initiative to tackle child safety online.

Meghan, who revealed in an interview with Oprah Winfrey three years ago that she thought of taking her own life while a working royal, said she hoped by speaking out she could help others.

“When you’ve been through any level of pain or trauma, I believe part of our healing journey – certainly part of mine – is being able to be really open about it,” she said on Sunday in a joint interview with Prince Harry on the US network CBS.

“And you know, I haven’t really scraped the surface on my experience. But I do think that I would never want someone else to feel that way. And I would never want someone else to be making those sort of plans. And I would never want someone else to not be believed.

“So, if me voicing what I have overcome will save someone, or encourage someone in their life to really genuinely check in on them and not assume that the appearance is good, so everything’s OK, then that’s worth it. I’ll take a hit for that.”

The duchess, 43, was speaking as the couple, parents to Prince Archie, five, and Princess Lilibet, three, launched the Parents’ Network, in association with their Archewell Foundation, to provide an online community and resources to help combat social media harm. The No Child Lost to Social Media campaign was set up after a two-year pilot programme with families whose children had felt the harmful effects of social media.

Prince Harry said the grief these families had suffered could happen to anyone. “We always talk about in the olden days if your kids were under your roof, you knew what they were up to. At least they were safe, right? And now, they could be in the next-door room on a tablet or on a phone and can be going down these rabbit holes. And before you know it, within 24 hours, they could be taking their life.”

In the couple’s 2021 interview with Winfrey, Meghan told the chatshow host: “Look, I was really ashamed to say it at the time, and ashamed to have to admit it to Harry especially, because I know how much loss he suffered. But I knew that if I didn’t say it, that I would do it … and I just didn’t want to be alive any more. That was a clear, real, frightening and constant thought.”

Speaking of the Parents’ Network, she told CBS on Sunday: “I think you have to start somewhere, to look at it through the lens of, ‘What if it was my daughter? What if it was my son? My son, or my daughter who comes home, who are joyful, who I love, and one day, right under my roof, our entire lives change because of something that was completely out of our control?’” She said that, for a parent, the only way to look at the problem was to try to find a solution.

In the UK and Ireland, Samaritans can be contacted on freephone 116 123, or email jo@samaritans.org or jo@samaritans.ie. In the US, you can call or text the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline on 988, chat on 988lifeline.org, or text HOME to 741741 to connect with a crisis counselor. In Australia, the crisis support service Lifeline is 13 11 14. Other international helplines can be found at befrienders.org

interview:

[dreamgrlarchive]

How do you deal with burnout?

Rest and Recovery 🎀

when feeling worn out and deflated it’s so crucial to prioritize revitalization. burnout is real and is critical to mental health.

recovering from burnout is different depending on what exactly you’re burnt out on (ex. work, school, family, friends, hobbies, relationship)

for example: tumblr is one thing i feel burnout from often. from anons, to writers block i often get drained from the platform. i remedy this by putting the app down and only returning when i have an idea. constantly scrolling and looking for inspiration doesn’t work. i have to see inspo in real life.

so i say that to say you cure burnout from optional activities by simply taking a break.

now for things that aren’t so optional like school or work, i recommend seeking help. talking to someone (employer, counselor, teacher/professor) for assistance.

in high school i was EXTREMELY drained from my algebra 2 class. before allowing myself to slip i emailed my teacher telling her that i was simply lacking the energy it took to retain the info she was teaching and she and i laid out a comprehensive plan for my success. i was given small extensions for homework assignments, we met once a week for a few weeks, and on the time i took away from that class i honed in on my other classes. i had to ease my way back into productivity. i got an A in the class.

my point is you can’t skip out on things that are crucial to your well being so you have to seek help. closed mouths don’t get fed and when you’re showing concern, people are more apt to help you.

now for people and relationships, i’m still learning my way around this. when i’m feeling overwhelmed by the maintenance it takes, i try to speak up.

“hey i’m just a little drained and overwhelmed with life right now so i won’t be around as much but i’m okay and i’ll be coming back. don’t worry nothing has changed. i love you 💗”

is something i’ve said in the past. taking breaks in relationships (with tangible expectations and parameters) can be good (platonic, familial, or romantic). if you tell your bestie you need about a week to focus on other things and recoup, and you disappear for three weeks with no word, she now has reason to worry (about your well-being, about the friendship and your reliability). so set standards and stick to them but if you attempt this and are met with harsh backlash, maybe this person isn’t mature enough or respectful enough or is too self centered (none of which make them a bad person) to be around you right now. and that isn’t your issue.

and finally, if you’re feeling burnout from yourself (self maintenance, hobbies, etc.) TAKE A BREAK. i’ve gone through phases where i can’t do my makeup and hair because i’m so mentally tired. it’s normal and it doesn’t make you less than. focus on necessities during times like this. essentials are all we really need so make sure you’re not skimping on hygiene and nutrition and you’ll eventually fall back into a routine that works for you. it’s about not forcing it when you know you can’t mentally handle it.

in conclusion please just be kind to yourself. give yourself the grace you need to get back to normal living. you deserve it

xoxo,

-Dreamgrl

[missmilliegojo]

Ai No Saikyou

Prologue

A Jujutsu Kaisen Fanfiction (Gojo X OC)

Warnings -> SPOILERS for Jujutsu Kaisen 0

TOKYO, NOVEMBER 2016

The short heels of Millie's combat boots echo down the hallway as she makes her way to the first-year classroom. It's been years since her enrollment at Jujutsu High as a student, but the dim, depressing hallways haven't changed. They still sent shivers down her spine as if something lurked in the shadows, as if death was waiting around the next corner to swallow her whole. Though, really, that's not too different from her everyday life. Or what used to be her everyday life, anyway.

Coming to a stop outside the classroom, Millie takes in a deep breath before knocking on the door. The pamphlets in her hands suddenly feel heavy, anxiety squeezing her heart like a stress ball.

'This is so silly.' She thought to herself, tugging on the hem of her blouse. Was she dressed professionally enough? 'I used to exorcise curses for a living, and I'm nervous about addressing a classroom full of teenagers?'

The door slides open, and although she expected the man on the other side, the sight of him still made her breath hitch. Tall and handsome, dressed in black, fluffy white hair on his head and eyes hidden behind a blindfold made of white bandages, Satoru Gojo holds the crown for the most attractive man she's ever seen. Her heart leaps, but that's as far as it gets before she beats the emotion down.

Professional. For the sake of her job, she has to remain professional.

Satoru's lips curl into a massive grin, flashing his pearly white, perfectly aligned teeth. "It's my lovely wife!"

A chorus of groans spills from inside the classroom.

"Satoru." Millie scolds, narrowing her gaze. "We talked about this."

His grin drops, lower lip pushing into a pout. "But, honeyyyyy..."

Pushing past him, Millie flashes her kindest smile at the single row of students that made up the first-year class. Given how rare jujutsu sorcerers are, classes are, normally, rather small.

"Good morning, everyone. Pardon the interruption." Setting the pamphlets down on the corner of her husband's desk, Millie sets her undivided attention on the students: a platinum blond boy, a green haired girl, and a panda. "For the sake of formalities, allow me to re-introduce myself. I'm Millie Gojo, and as of today, I will be Jujutsu High's official guidance counselor."

So far, it seems to be going well. Maki Zen’in appears disinterested, Toge Inumaki is a more difficult character to read, given that only the top half of his face is visible, and Panda was leaning forward in his seat with a smile. In character for all three teenagers.

Seeing them this way shot a boost of confidence into Millie's system. "It's no secret that jujutsu sorcerers experience a lot of trauma in their line of work, and there aren't many resources available to help sorcerers process and work through their trauma. I want to change that. Speaking from my own experience, our mental health can only be put on the back burner for so long before it starts to catch up to us. Treating it sooner rather than later could mean all the difference in your survival."

Her words aren't as sugary as another counselors may have been, but Millie isn't just any counselor. She's a counselor for jujutsu sorcerers, children and adults who put their lives on the line to exorcise curses in hopes of a safer future. These people witness gruesome scenes, have watched friends and partners die, have lost parts of themselves to the job. It's terrifying work, and that's why she doesn't believe in sugarcoating. These kids already know what they've signed themselves up for, so why hide it behind pretty words? They know the truth of this world, and they'll be more trusting if she respects that.

"My office is located in the same hallway as the teacher's longue, the last room on the end. I'll be here Monday through Friday, from nine to five. I will also be working electronically with our sister school in Kyoto. If you would like to speak with me, you're welcome to swing by, or you can submit an appointment request through the mailbox outside my office. There is also a whiteboard that will display my availability throughout the week should you wish to book an appointment in advance. Everything we discuss will be confidential, however, safety is also my responsibility. Should a student show signs of being a danger to themselves or others, it is my duty to report it to Principal Yaga and your teacher. Any questions?"

Panda raises a paw. "Do you accept cursed corpses?"

Millie's smile brightens. "Every kind of sorcerer is welcome in my office, Panda."

Inumaki also raises a hand. "Mustard leaf?"

"I'm sure we can find an effective communication method that will work for you, Inumkai."

"I have a question!" Satoru exclaims from where he had been leaning against the wall, watching his wife give her speech. "Are you by chance open to faculty?"

Millie knows her husband too well to miss the playful notes dancing in his tone. She straightens and offers him an I'm-going-to-withhold-your-dessert-if-you-don't-knock-it-off smile. "Staff members are welcome to visit me, so long as they take our session seriously, Gojo."

The man gasps, sputtering as his hand flies over his wounded heart. "G-G-G-Gojo?!"

Ignoring his antics, Millie turns back to the students. "Thank you for your time and attention this morning, everyone. I'm looking forward to assisting you."

Millie slips out of the classroom and pats herself on the back. One class down, two more in-person and three more virtual speeches to go.

Hues of gold and orange shine into the cozy office through the open window, bringing with it a gentle breeze that makes the curtains sway. Millie soaks in the feel of her office again, wondering for the thousandth time if it was a calming enough environment for anyone who came by to speak with her. She repainted the depressing walls to a light beige that brought some brightness to the room. Potted plants filled each corner, a long comfy couch placed in the middle of the room with a matching chair across from it, a low set glass coffee table and a floral rug placed between the two. Her desk and a small bookshelf were set close to the far wall, a clock mounted above them to help her keep track of time The last thing she wants to do is rush anyone who came to see her, but she also has to make sure to be on time for others who request her help.

The end of her first day is almost upon her, and every meeting she had went better than she thought it would. Introducing mental health to jujutsu sorcerers, teenagers at that, was going to take time. No one has made an appointment with her yet, but Millie knows that these things can't be forced. When they're ready, they'll come to her, and she'll welcome them warmly.

A knock on the door catches Millie by surprise. Her day would be over in about thirty minutes, but if someone has come to talk to her, then she would stay late without question.

A sense of urgency has her rising from her desk and rushing to the door. She calmly slides it open, and the person on the other side both surprises her and doesn't. "Satoru?"

He's slouched over, that same pout from earlier still stuck on his face. "I don't think my wife loves me anymore."

Resisting the urge to sigh, Millie steps aside to let him in. She watches her husband flop down onto the couch before taking a seat across from him, crossing one leg over the other. "What makes you feel that way, Satoru?"

The man sniffles. "She hasn't kissed me since this morning, and she called me Gojo. Can you believe that? It's like I'm a stranger to her all of a sudden!"

Usually, this teasing behavior struck a cord of laughter in her. However, she's on the clock, and even if her husband is fooling around, she'd go about this as if he were anyone else. "Satoru, have you considered that maybe your wife loves you so much, she has to act professionally during school hours to spare herself from getting into trouble?"

His sniffles stop. "Do you really think so?"

"I do."

Suddenly, Satoru is kneeling before her with his head in her lap, his long arms wrapped around her waist in an embrace. "Oh, my love! I'll never doubt you again!"

This time, Millie can't help but sigh. Still, she smiles and rans a hand through his soft hair. "I love you, Satoru."

"I know." He looks up at her with a cocky grin. "I just wanted to hear you say it."

Playfully, she shakes her head. "You are so- mmm."

Satoru's sudden kiss swallows the rest of her words. Giggling against his lips, Millie cups his head between her hands and returns the loving gesture. The aquamarine stone on her left ring finger, held in place by a silver band, catches the golden light beautifully.

Millie suddenly remembers that they're in her office and tilts her chin up, laughing at the needy whine her husband lets out. "You can have more kisses at home. We promised Yaga he wouldn't catch us making out on campus again."

Despite the bandages covering his brows, Millie could tell he was wiggling them. "There are some spots he never found out about. We can go back to one of those."

"Yeah, no." She gently pushes his forehead. "I'm not trying to get fired my first day on the job."

Her husband grins, but this one is different from the one he showed her before. It's not as carefree, and the air around them suddenly gets a little heavier. "Speaking of your first day on the job, there's someone who could really use your help, sweets."

An invisible hand squeezes her heart like a stress ball. For as long as she's known him, Satoru Gojo has shouldered the burdens of their world on his own two shoulders. Despite being together for nine years, six of which as a married couple, it's still a rare occurrence for him to request aid on anything related to jujutsu. Satoru Gojo, after all, is the strongest.

Millie took his large hand in both of hers, giving it a squeeze. "What can I do?"

Millie Gojo retired from combat three years ago, but for her husband and the students she's come to love as her own, she'd go to war.

Masterlist

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[seraphasia]

i'm really happy for you! can i ask what kind of therapy you had? it's never seemed to help me much so i'm curious!

Thank you!!♥︎ My therapist used a blend of different counseling theories with me, but primarily cognitive behavioral therapy and dialectical behavioral therapy techniques, as well as hypnosis for some very specific issues. The behavioral therapies are fairly common, so I wouldn't be surprised if you have tried those and they weren't helpful - they tend to be best for very specific concrete behavioral changes, but aren't always the best for exploring deeply rooted issues. Obviously, I don't know your specific situation, but there are a whole range of other therapeutic theories and techniques that are somewhat less common but may be more helpful if CBT and/or DBT haven't worked for you. Psychodynamic therapy tends to explore your past, early attachments, and current relationships to unpack how your subconscious experience is impacting your conscious experience. Existential therapy techniques are helpful for handling things like existential crises, grief, and death (edit: I originally wrote Gestalt where I meant existential). If you're struggling with dealing with stressors related to being a woman, a minority, or otherwise oppressed group, then you might benefit more from a therapist who has a focus in feminist therapy. Acceptance and commitment therapy can be very helpful if your issues tend to be treatment resistant - it focuses on being able to engage in positive behaviors even when your moods and thoughts are extremely negative. There's a range of options, and each can help you differently.

I also specifically sought out counselors who focused more on accountability than validation. Your therapist shouldn't tear you down, but they also shouldn't constantly validate your behaviors and emotions either. I was a relatively uncooperative patient, so having a therapist who would hold me to my word was an important factor for me. If you're having a hard time opening up to a counselor, it may be an issue of personal compatibility. It's not always the techniques but the counselor themself - sometimes because they're not good at what they do, sometimes because their personality is one that you have a hard time opening up to. Don't be afraid to window shop when it comes to therapists. I always recommend going to 3 sessions before deciding to stick with them or try someone new. The first session is almost always entirely intake, so you won't get a good idea there, but if you can't stand, don't like, or simply don't want to work with the therapist by the end of the 3rd session, leave. You are not obligated to them, and counselors are rarely cheap.

One big caveat to all this is that if you know the coping mechanisms and the strategies for dealing with mental health issues you have, but none of it is effective, you should at least explore the idea of medication. It was a problem for me where I knew the coping mechanisms that I needed to use, knew how to use them, but my emotions were so off the charts strong that I didn't have the capacity to use them properly. Most people have a threshold of emotion at which most healthy coping mechanisms are ineffective, but if you're in that state most or all of the time, it's worth looking into psychiatric medication. Psychiatrists can be a major pain in the ass in terms of finding a good one, but once you have a good one, they can change your life.

[my-castles-crumbling]

Hi there, mind if I bother you for a advice when you're free?

I'm a Brazilian girl with 14(read all your boundaries for minors and I'm trying to follow reach of them) and basically my life turned upside down for me a bit after the start of 2023(I think?)

My mom fell in a trap on the internet and lost a lot of money from our family, from both close and not so close relatives. Sometime later my dad got fired and we had to cut many things out of our lives because we didn't had the money to keep these things anymore, and my grandparents from my mom's side are not so well (grandpa's has breathing problems and is going blind while grandma's starting to forget things)

And we just discovered that I am autistic (and already knew I had ADHD since 2022) so everyone's trying to adjust to somethings I simply can't deal with, along with trying to deal with the fact my older sister ran away after many arguments about her mental health struggles and abusive relationship and that if my parents try and reach out by me and my little sister she going to cut contact completely (we know where she is and that she's currently ok btw)

My mom already has a lot of problems with her mental and physical health, my little sister has anxiety and still doesn't goes to therapy, my dad has quite harsh anger issues although he mostly keeps them at bay.

And then we have me, the autistic ADHD teenager struggling with school who's about to go to college (I think? Don't know about American/British system works) and really, really, really wants to go to her graduation trip that costs a lot while not knowing how to deal with her emotions and is in the constant shadow of her older sister, all of that while knowing one of her old friends who she had considered a sibling once has been spreading lies and saying their much better without her and apparently is trying to break her friendship with her current best friend (if it is true it's working).

And now I don't know what do I do to put my life back on the tracks.

Feel free to not answer or just ignore this if you want, but thanks for the opportunity of letting me vent. And I'm sorry if there are any mistakes on my English

Hi hon <3

No worries about English at all <3

Honestly, I think you need to focus on the things YOU can change. Unfortunately, you might not be able to change things with your parents, or your sister, or your financial situation. Those are things for adults to worry about. I don't mean that it a way to make you seem like a 'stupid kid' I mean, let them worry about it. You still have time to be a kid- I know it's hard, but try to take advantage of it.

As far as school and friends, these are things we can focus on. Talk with your teachers about what work on in school and what THEY can do to help you. Talk with your best friend about your worries. I know life is scary right now, but focus on those things that you can make changes about. Also maybe if your school has a counselor, talk to them as well? Especially since you have autism, your school should be giving you resources to succeed.

I know this is alll difficult, but take some deep breaths and know that it will be okay and I'm here for you to vent <3

Naming you yarn anon

[theambitiouswoman]

Hi 😅 um any tips on how to avoid relapsing into self destructive behaviours (like self harm, eating disorders, alcoholism, etc etc)

I'm really sorry to hear that you're struggling with these type of issues. It takes a lot of strength and courage to reach out for help <3 While I'm not a mental health professional, I can offer some general tips that might be helpful. However, it's important to remember that seeking guidance from a qualified therapist or counselor is crucial for addressing these specific issues. They can provide personalized strategies and support for your unique circumstances.

Don't hesitate to share your feelings and concerns with trusted friends, family members, or professionals who can offer a listening ear and assistance. You don't have to face this alone.

To establish your commitment to these changes, you need to have a "why" in your mind that you want to commit to. You need to feel inside that the purpose for you to quit these negative behaviors is important to you and will benefit your life.

Surround yourself with positive influences who understand and support your efforts to overcome these challenges. Connecting with others who have experienced similar struggles can also provide a sense of empathy and solidarity.

Invest your time in activities that bring you happiness, peace, and fulfillment. These could include hobbies, exercise, meditation, journaling, or creative outlets. Finding healthy ways to manage stress can help prevent relapses.

Simultaneously, find healthy alternatives to those issues. For example if the issue is alcohol, instead purchase non alcoholic, alcoholic beverages.

Establishing a daily routine can provide a sense of stability and purpose. Include self-care activities, such as proper sleep, balanced meals, and regular exercise, to nurture your physical and emotional well-being.

Identify your triggers and make note of situations, emotions, or thoughts that tend to precede self-destructive behaviors. By recognizing these triggers, you can proactively develop alternative strategies to cope with them effectively.

Be kind and patient with yourself throughout this process. Recovery is not linear, and setbacks can happen. Treat yourself with the same understanding and empathy that you would extend to a loved one facing similar challenges.

[papyrus-in-practice]

Hey, y’all! I wanted to give an update on Papyrus in Practice and other related stuff.

“It’s been about a year, where’s the next page!?”

Wow, when I saw it’s actually been a year, I kind of blanched a bit. I didn’t mean for the hiatus to last that long. Next page is actually done. In fact, a couple of pages are either done or close to done. I’m trying to build up a big buffer so that, hopefully, there will be a smaller gap between updates in the future. My plan is to have eight pages completed, line art for four pages done, have the script for the next scene done, and have a couple of pages worth of sketches ready. As I’m typing this, six of the eight next pages are done with the remaining ones in various stages of completion and two of the four next pages have finished line art. I’ve been working and reworking and re-reworking the script for the final scene for the past twenty months and honestly frustrated in how to wrap up the chapter in a satisfying way that won’t make me stuck on chapter 4 for another two years because the climax and conclusion is so long. So, that’s where I’m at now.

“I wrote something in the ask blog and didn’t get a response.”

I read every comment and every ask sent to me and, most likely, have at least attempted to write a script to answer it. But, I gotta weigh my options. Do I answer it at risk of delaying Papyrus in Practice for another month or focus on the comic? Depending on how elaborate the answer is, it might take a while to make a response. There are also things I just don’t know how to answer to and, believe me, I’ve tried coming up with a good answer, but I’m also still learning about life myself and I’ve found that, sometimes, my answer to a question has changed a lot over time. Sometimes, I’m afraid of saying something that’s ultimately harmful. It’s a tricky balance. At the end of the day, I've never guaranteed a response to any ask and never will guarantee a response. There are still some asks that I'd like to get around to, maybe if chapter 4 finishes or I get burnt out while making it and need a change of pace.

“Are you actually a therapist?”

Yup. I just graduated this past May with a masters in art therapy counseling. My title right now is a qualified mental health professional or QMHP. I’m waiting to take the National Counselor’s Exam to obtain my LPC but government paperwork is a looooong process(seriously, some of my colleagues have been waiting in the queue for over a year to get their LCPC). In the meantime, I can still practice as a therapist as long as I check in with a supervisor and have been practicing and slowly building my caseload for the past couple of months.

“Can you be my therapist/give therapy to this person?”

The short answer is no. The long answer is that there are a lot of ethical concerns when it comes to providing mental healthcare and breaching ethical guidelines could impede therapy progress, bring potential harm to the client, myself, or I could get in big legal trouble. I can also only practice if the client is located in my home state and goes through the company I work for since I need supervision to practice. However, I’d be happy to provide resources like websites that help you find a therapist, even for a reduced price, or self-help sites that can help you learn skills and develop tools to use that can boost your mental well-being. I cannot, however, provide mental health services.

“Will (insert character’s name) meet with Papyrus?”

Maybe. I’ve got ideas for characters in mind, but it’s more a question of how much longer I want to be doing this for. I’ll be honest with y’all, I’m getting burnt out. I want to do different projects or even revisit older projects, but I tell myself I can’t do that until I finish Papyrus in Practice or, at the very least, finish chapter 4. I didn’t think this chapter would go on for as long as it has, but it also makes sense. We’ve already hit page 25 which is almost as long as the entirety of chapter 3 and I don’t even know if we’re halfway done with the chapter yet. The way it’s looking, chapter 4 may easily hit at least 50 pages.

“So, when will you be posting again?”

Soon! Hopefully, before the end of the year. When I start updating again, I’ll be posting one page every other week which gives at least a few months of content for y’all.

That being said, I’ll see you soon!

-Meemie

[saintdiamonds01]

Understanding Anticipatory Grief: Coping with Loss Before it Happens

Grief is a natural response to loss, often experienced after a loved one passes away. However, grief can also occur before the actual loss happens, a phenomenon known as anticipatory grief. This type of grief is common among individuals who are facing the impending loss of a loved one due to terminal illness, age, or other circumstances. Understanding anticipatory grief and learning how to cope with it can help individuals navigate this challenging emotional journey.

What is Anticipatory Grief?

Anticipatory grief is the emotional pain and sorrow experienced in anticipation of a future loss. It occurs when someone is aware that a significant loss is inevitable, often due to a loved one’s declining health or a terminal diagnosis. Unlike traditional grief, which happens after the loss, anticipatory grief allows individuals to process their emotions and begin mourning while the loved one is still alive.

Symptoms of Anticipatory Grief

The symptoms of anticipatory grief can be similar to those experienced after a loss, but they may manifest differently for each person. Common symptoms include:

Emotional Distress: Feelings of sadness, anger, fear, and anxiety are common. Individuals may also experience guilt for grieving while the loved one is still alive.

Physical Symptoms: Fatigue, changes in appetite, sleep disturbances, and physical aches or pains can occur as part of the body’s response to stress.

Cognitive Changes: Difficulty concentrating, forgetfulness, and constant worry about the impending loss are typical cognitive symptoms.

Social Withdrawal: Individuals may withdraw from social activities and isolate themselves, finding it difficult to engage with others.

Preoccupation with the Loved One: Constantly thinking about the loved one’s condition, potential death, and how life will change after the loss.

Coping with Anticipatory Grief

While anticipatory grief can be challenging, there are several strategies that can help individuals cope with their emotions and find some peace during this difficult time.

Acknowledge Your Feelings

Recognize that anticipatory grief is a natural response to an impending loss. Allow yourself to feel and express your emotions without judgment. Bottling up feelings can intensify the grief and make it harder to cope.

Seek Support

Talking to friends, family, or a therapist can provide much-needed support and validation. Support groups for individuals experiencing similar situations can also offer comfort and a sense of community.

Focus on the Present

While it’s natural to worry about the future, try to focus on the present moments with your loved one. Cherish the time you have together and create meaningful memories. Engaging in activities that bring joy and connection can be therapeutic for both you and your loved one.

Practice Self-Care

Taking care of your physical and mental health is crucial. Ensure you get enough rest, eat well, and engage in activities that help you relax and recharge. Self-care is not selfish; it’s necessary to sustain your well-being during this stressful period.

Prepare for the Future

Preparing for the inevitable loss can help alleviate some anxiety. This may involve practical steps like discussing end-of-life wishes, organizing legal and financial matters, and planning for funeral arrangements. Being prepared can provide a sense of control and reduce uncertainty.

Utilize Professional Help

Counselors and therapists specializing in grief can offer valuable guidance and coping strategies. They can help you navigate complex emotions and provide tools to manage your grief effectively.

Conclusion

Anticipatory grief is a challenging yet natural response to the impending loss of a loved one. By acknowledging your feelings, seeking support, focusing on the present, practicing self-care, preparing for the future, and utilizing professional help, you can better cope with this difficult time. Understanding and addressing anticipatory grief can provide a sense of peace and resilience, helping you navigate the emotional journey before and after the loss.

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[wildernessuntothemselves]

hiiii ! how i have missed you 😭. i had to tell you about my interaction with my non-kpop friends i had the other day. i was explaining a summary of your masterpiece we call YAMQN. prior to telling them the storyline i had to emphasize that if i had to read Hamlet and Romeo and Juliet as part of the curriculum in American education we must also read YAMQN because the story has moved me in more ways than one and it has personally changed the way i interact with life.

anyways i was telling them the story chapter by chapter and they just looked at me as if i grew another fucking head. i swore i lost them my friend was like sounds like a fun time send the link so i did and my friend texted me earlier being woah the plot thickens and thickens.

i reread the reunion of oc and beomgyu at least once a week to keep me sane. as a mental health counselor in my daily job i stray away from actual therapy and this story my form of therapy. so thank you for being my form of happiness and coping mechanism. i was going to wait for you to finish the sequel to reread both in one sitting but looks like i am just going to have to reread it twice 😬

anyways how have you been ? i hope you are doing well and enjoying life as much as you can 😊!

I'm alright! Things are looking up for me over here so I am happy. How about you?

Sjdukedhdurkyxyc stopp that is so funny 😂 🙈 i get so scared when people tell their friends about my fics because it takes a specific type of person to get into the messed up dynamics i explore in the fics and I always worry people would freak out. It doesn't surprise me that you're in the mental health field actually. The mental health worker to messed up fic reader pipeline is real 😂 i almost went into psychiatry myself and I lament all the lost material I could've gotten 😂

[vanteguccir]

I need some advice pls

so me and one of my “friends” cut contact. She unfollowed me on every social media without an explanation. So I unfollowed her and blocked her number. The problem is that I’m gonna have to see her every day next school year and sit next to her in a few classes. I’m also on the same volleyball team as her. last summer she was my best friend but I wasn’t hers. I always texted first she never did. I told her all my problems and struggles and she always said “yea I know how you feel I was there too” if doesn’t matter what I struggle with, she’s always “worse”

every fucking time she gets blamed (cause it’s her fault most of the times because of how she acts) she brings up her mental illnesses and how she was in mental hospital. That was literally February last year. Like- you can’t blame every mistake you do on your illness. she also put herself over anyone else, what isn’t really a problem but it becomes one if you ONLY do it (my opinion). She only checked up on me when I was at such a low point that even my parents noticed. i don’t feel comfortable in our so called “friendship” anymore. I haven’t since quite a few months but I was too scared to admit that cause I thought I’d hurt her feelings with that.

now my problem: as I said, I have to sit next to her in a few classes next school year and play volleyball with her. I don’t know how to not make it awkward. I don’t know what she feels about me after all. I don’t know if we ended our friendship on bad terms cause on my side that isn’t the case. I don’t know if I should talk to her, ignore her or act like nothing ever happened. maybe you know what to do? If not that’s fine.

have a great day and stay safe and hydrated <3

hi honey baby!!!

it sounds like you're in a really hard situation, and it's understandable to feel conflicted about how to handle it! ending a friendship, especially one that has become uncomfortable or toxic, is never easy... I'm so sorry you've been through all that ;(

what I can help you with is, before deciding how to act around her, it's important to acknowledge your own emotions. if you're comfortable with the idea that the friendship is REALLY over, then there's no need to force yourself to rekindle it

now, about approaching her, you could choose to be polite without going out of your way to engage with her. it could be the least "awkward" way to go through classes and volleyball without reopening old wounds

but, if you feel there are unresolved issues, you could consider having a calm conversation with her, it could be an opportunity to clear the air, express your feelings, and find a way of leaving it all behind, even if the friendship doesn't continue

OR, you can simply act as though nothing has happened, focusing on your own life and letting her take the lead if she wishes to discuss anything, it can help you avoid unnecessary stress! BUT it might leave some things unresolved ;(

regardless of how you choose to do that, it’s important to establish boundaries... if you've decided that you no longer want to invest in the friendship, make sure that you maintain those boundaries, especially if she tries to re-enter your life in a way that makes you uncomfortable (it can happen)

also, PLS prioritize your own mental health and well-being!!!!! surround yourself with people who uplift you and make you feel valued. if the situation with her becomes too stressful, consider talking to a school counselor or another trusted adult about how to handle it, maybe even ask to change your sit (in my vision, the classes together can be more tough than the games)

bringing the classes and games to the table, ik you'll have to interact with her regularly in both, so try to mentally prepare yourself for those encounters. focus on your tasks, like learning in class and playing volleyball, rather than on your personal issues with her! if you can compartmentalize, it might help you stay focused and less anxious (I used to do it many times)

now, if she initiates a conversation, you can decide on how to respond based on how you're feeling in the moment... it's totally okay to prioritize your own needs and peace of mind!!!!

I don't know if I could be of much help, but if you need any more advice, I'm always here for you 🩷

also, let me know how it goes (if you're comfortable telling me)

[investmentassistant]

How to support a loved one

In our rapidly changing society, where stress and challenges can become an integral part of life, supporting loved ones becomes a crucial element of our well-being. Skills in supporting those close to us can help build strong family and friendship bonds. In this article, we will explore several ways you can support your loved ones during difficult times.

Listen actively. One of the most powerful ways to offer support is through active listening. When a loved one is going through a tough time, take the time to listen without judgment. Allow them to express their thoughts and feelings openly, providing a safe space for them to share.

Show empathy. Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. Put yourself in your loved one's shoes and try to grasp the emotions they are experiencing. Validate their feelings, letting them know that their emotions are acknowledged and accepted.

Offer practical help. Sometimes, practical assistance can make a significant difference. Whether it's helping with daily chores, running errands, or providing childcare, offering tangible support can alleviate some of the burdens your loved one may be facing.

Stay present. During challenging times, the presence of a supportive friend or family member can be incredibly comforting. Spend quality time together, engage in activities they enjoy, or simply be there without the need for words.

Respect boundaries. It's important to respect the boundaries of your loved ones. Some individuals may prefer solitude during difficult times, while others may seek companionship. Be attuned to their needs and offer support in a way that aligns with their preferences.

Encourage professional help. If the challenges your loved one is facing go beyond your capacity to help, encourage them to seek professional assistance. Mental health professionals, counselors, or support groups can provide valuable resources and guidance.

Celebrate achievements. Acknowledge and celebrate small victories and achievements. Recognizing progress, no matter how minor, can contribute to a positive mindset and reinforce the idea that they are capable of overcoming challenges.

Supporting a loved one requires a combination of understanding, compassion, and active engagement. By employing these strategies, you can contribute to building stronger connections, fostering resilience, and creating a supportive environment for those you care about during both good and challenging times.

[infosanjay]

How to cope up with pornography addiction?

As it is said excess of everything is bad. When something becomes an addiction it only results in harm. These days more and more people are getting addicted towards porn and surprisingly most of them are teenagers. As of now porn material is easily available online. The first source is YouTube.On youtube, porn material is free to watch. 70% of the people are used to it.  But now the platform is getting strict and that is why they made some policies and pornography laws on youtube to make it more user-friendly and safe. It also includes horse pornography laws and dog pornography laws. These laws are very necessary to maintain the increasing amount of pornography viewership. 

Coping with pornography addiction can be a bit challenging but it is definitely possible with determination and the right strategies. I am sharing some tips that can help in coping up with porn addiction. 

Recognize the  Addiction – 

Acknowledge that you have a pornography addiction. This self-awareness is crucial for making changes. 

Ask Help from professionals –

 Consider talking to a therapist or counselor who specializes in addiction or sexual health. They can provide you with personalized strategies and support in the matter.

Identify what triggers you  –

 Understand what triggers your urge to watch pornography. Some common triggers include stress, boredom, loneliness, or certain environments.

Develop Healthy Habits –

 Replace the habit of watching pornography with healthier activities such as exercise, hobbies, or spending time with loved ones.

Set Boundaries –

 Limit your access to pornography by using website blockers or filters. Avoid situations or websites that may tempt you.

Build a Support Network – 

Surround yourself with supportive people who understand your challenges and can encourage you on your journey to recovery.

Practice Self-Care – 

Take care of your physical and emotional well-being. Engage in activities that promote relaxation and reduce stress.

Educate Yourself – 

Learn about the effects of pornography addiction and how it can impact relationships, mental health, and self-esteem. This knowledge can strengthen your resolve to overcome it.

Stay Persistent – 

Recovery from addiction is a gradual process. Be patient with yourself and celebrate small victories along the way.

Consider Support Groups – 

Joining a support group for individuals dealing with pornography addiction can provide you with a sense of community and additional resources.

Remember, overcoming pornography addiction takes time and effort, but with determination and support, you can regain control over your life and build healthier habits.

[starfruitgirlie]

anti-depression/anxiety/adhd

what's up gamers, I've made a post before about combatting executive dysfunction and I was inspired to make an addition to it.

I am NOT a mental health professional, I am 17, the definition of stupid. However, I have been diagnosed with depression, anxiety, and ADHD and I have been 13-14 before so I have been there and done that. If I can make anyone's life a bit easier I want to. I also feel like at that age I didn't like hearing mental health advice from adults. I felt like they didn't really understand me and they didn't fully realize what I was going through. Before I age out of understanding how sucky being a teenager is, I want to pass on this information. I am also still learning and improving so this is also for me.

DISCLAIMER!!!! I am prescribed medication to help with my mental illness, tips gotten from strangers online cannot replace the help of a mental health professional. I believe this information would be useful only to those who want tips along with the professional help they receive. Ik this is long, I just don't want anybody to think that mental illness is something that you can turn on and off and that simply establishing a routine will fix it. reach out to your school counselor or a trusted adult first and not the internet.

do things out of spite/a challenge. I grew up a pretty competitive kid so if anybody said "psh wanna bet?" all prior apathy evaporated from my body and I was determined to prove them wrong. When I put this into use it's usually like "I bet you can't put away all that laundry in 30 minutes" or "of course I can clean this bathroom I'll do it super awesome and it'll be the best cleanest bathroom ever". I advise though, DON'T MAKE IT A DIG AT YOURSELF OR BULLY YOURSELF INTO DOING THINGS IT DOESN'T WORK!! Ex: don't say "you can't even brush your teeth I bet you won't get up to do it" that just makes you feel bad. Instead you can trade this for a reward system. I keep smarties in my room as a sort of dog treat system for myself. I did something good, I can have it. What stops me from eating it without any prior circumstances is the fact I am challenging myself and I would see it as a reward I didn't earn. This appeals to my executive dysfunction and ADHD

this one is more ADHD specific but a lot of the times there will be small chores around the house I need to get done like oh I need to take that laundry down to my room or oh I need to bring that cup to the kitchen. 99% of the time I am kidding myself when I say "i'll remember to do it later". no you won't. Instead, the second I see it, I just do it. It's not the most efficient way to get things done, but I find once I'm in the zone and I've done a task I can do more tasks. No matter what I'm doing if I see a bottle, I just get up and take it to the kitchen. Doesn't matter if I was doing homework, I thought about the task so I am going to do it before I can forget about it and then consequentially feel bad about not doing it later.

routine. my mom told me so many times to establish a routine because it would make me feel better and because she told me to do it I didn't want to. It felt stupid like that's not going to make me feel better. unfortunately, it does help. humans are a lot more dumb than we think and we thrive off of routine and when our brains associate something with time of day, it can remarkably change your productivity and your health. What got me to do it was stupid but, acting like I was a youtuber doing a nightly routine. youtubers don't show themselves scrolling on the couch or falling asleep without brushing their teeth, they have a system and they do all the steps. I get out my phone and record myself for an imaginary audience, the whole "what's up guys welcome back here is my nightly routine". It's easier to do it now without my phone because It's becoming habit, but having an imaginary audience helped motivate me to start. It also just makes me feel more prepared to sleep. When I do the tasks my brain associates that are right before I sleep, I will be able to fall asleep easier.

4. so as a younger teen my parents put a restriction on my phone so I couldn't be on any app besides call or text past 10pm (which I still have but mostly because I never asked them to take it off and bc I have no sense of time). initially, this was annoying but this was a lifesaver for my sleep schedule (but I can never admit that to them because they can't think that they are right). The only time it was inconvenient for me was when I was working late shifts at work and I couldn't google or see the weather. If your parents/guardians don't do this for your phone, do it yourself! AND PUT IN A SCREENTIME PASSWORD! Make it a random set of numbers that aren't connected to any passwords or series of numbers you use regularly. make it random and then write it down and put it in a drawer under a notebook. When the time comes you will want to keep scrolling but then you won't remember the password. if you're anything like me you'll be too lazy to go get it and you might as well just get ready for bed. As a 13 year old I despised the stupid restrictions and I thought I could manage it on my own. I had the power to yeah, but with recovering and managing mental illness it would be tough, so having an outside force helped

5. This might be a personal thing, but I can never remember to manage my tasks when I record them digitally. I always have to write out a physical copy in my notebook or on a sticky note. The act of writing it out for some reason helps me retain the information more and its not on my phone where there are a million other shapes and colors to distract me

6. talk to yourself. here me out okay, being in your head can make you feel insane and your thoughts are all over the place. I find that talking outloud to myself (when I'm alone of course) helps a lot. Even if it's just a sentence it can help. Chatting to yourself like you're your own friend is awesome for self image. I realized a lot of the pressures I was putting on myself I would not put on my friends. Why do I have to be this level of acceptable when I love my friend regardless if she got a good grade on that test? I know it sounds cringe but to be cringe is to be free and the sooner you realize this the less awful highschool will be.

this was already super long but I feel like It's hard to condense this without properly conveying my message also I am lazy and I don't edit my posts

I hope someone found this useful! being a teenager with mental illness can suck so hard and I want to make it better. I was 13 in 2020, I have been through it.