#Healthy Parent-Child Relationships

[manfredthewarden]

whatever issues i have just couldn't handle that "at your age?" line from emmrich it's just so deliciously slightly condescending and that GAGGED ME? single-handedly the most brutal line uttered by any companion in the game

[mamawasatesttube]

honestly the most "yikes!" thing to me about ~timkon clone baby~ aus isn't even how insanely out of character they all are. it's the way every single post i see about them really just tells on the op so hard about how much they have NOT unpacked re: the nuclear family model and consent in relationships

[mmelolabelle]

Dreamstat referring to Claudia as “our daughter”rather than “sister” doesn’t just reveal that whatever he tells Claudia (and himself), Louis still ultimately thinks of Claudia as his daughter and knows on some level that he’s failing her, but also tells us about the real Lestat’s view of her, because apparently even the most fucked up parts of Louis’ mind cannot conjure up a version of Lestat that doesn’t treat Claudia as his fledgling/child before everything else ->

“It's not as simple as choosing a new family configuration. 'Now I'm your cousin.' 'Now I'm your aunt.' I am your maker!’” (Lestat, 1x06) ->

“Claudia was my dark child, my love, evil of my evil. Claudia broke my heart.” (The Vampire Lestat)

[drbtinglecannon]

The thing driving me so insane about Loid and Yor communicating so openly is that this is how a couple in an actual relationship would address the problems they're having

She's asking him to rely on her, saying that he doesn't need to put up appearances all the time, that she knows he's capable but she's here to help and wants to, that he doesn't need to be perfect.

They're in a fake marriage. Loid has repeatedly told her she doesn't have to do anything but be around for specific events, but Yor still genuinely took up the role of Anya's mom and has been actively working to be a good mother to her fake husband's daughter this entire time, and now she's gently pushing back on Loid about not helping him either.

They aren't in love yet, or at least aren't aware of any developing feelings, but Yor is still reaching out to Loid in a way that someone in a real committed relationship would to their partner. She doesn't need to!! She's completely in her right to not help him, to not care!! He has given her the explicit permission of it multiple times!! But she cares about him, Anya, and Bond, this little family they've created. She wants him to lean on her like she does on him

[hanzajesthanza]

i love how ciri just walked into stygga castle like “🫵😡 YOU BETTER LET MY MOMMY GO!!!!!!!!” and vilgefortz was, predictably, like “😗🤚 that ain’t happenin. to the laboratory !”

[bumblingbabooshka]

I think Sarek and Amanda Grayson both lowkey seeing their children as little experiments in different ways is undeniably bad parenting BUT .... I mean you talk about matching each other's freak .... Like imagine for a second Sarek is like "I am going to show that Humans are just as good as Vulcans by molding this Human child and my half Human son into the perfect Vulcans - This will show that despite what society thinks of as their genetic inferiority, they're just as good as any Vulcan." and Amanda's response to that is to think "Sarek is wrong...Michael's humanity MUST be preserved...so that I can show her all the love and affection I can't show Spock and maybe through their sibling bond all my unspoken and unexpressed love can trickle down to him through her." What are you both DOOOOING!?? You guys are NUTS like PLEASE just TALK to each other and compromise about how you're going to raise your children!! [Love the drama though] So I'm imagining in my head that Sarek is severely pressuring both Spock and Michael to act as perfect Vulcans their entire lives with him or else they're failures not only in his eyes but in all of society's (because he's an ambassador and raising these children is tied irrevocably with his work as such) WHILE Amanda is secretly trying to funnel her humanity and love for Spock through Michael and as such failure to receive, express, or internalize that love is failing not only your mother but also the entire Human race. Damned if you do damned if you don't! Who do you want to disappoint more, kids?

In 'Point of Light' Amanda says that she gave Michael all of the love, joy, and affection which she wasn't "permitted" (we must question the use of the word - what stopped her from directly giving Spock this love? I'm not saying there wasn't pressure for her not to, I'm saying the word 'permitted' absolves her of any personal choice or failing in a way that's interesting to me) to give Spock and though this is on the surface level sweet and probably meant to be interpreted that way, I submit that it must be kind of fucked up to hear that your foster mother was maybe only so kind and caring to you because she felt she wasn't allowed to act that way towards her "real" son. Michael Burnham as a tool for both her parents, however unintentional, is very interesting and I'm not sure it's something canon considers (haven't watched the show, I just like imagining things). The feeling that you have to be grateful to these people for not only being your parents but being YOUR parents. For taking you in and giving you a beautiful life - you have to pay them back, you have to make them especially proud of YOU. Because they didn't HAVE to, did they? Because you're not their "real" child. In the end, it's always Spock - isn't it? The love your mother gives you is Spock's love and if only one child can enter the Vulcan Science Academy then it has to be Spock. You're the appetizer your father serves before the REAL main course and your mother's stuffed doll which represents the thing she REALLY wants to hold and you know they genuinely care about you. That's the worst part. Because you know they care and they didn't mean to hurt you and the voice in the back of your head keeps telling you that any hurt they've dealt you pales in comparison to the debt you owe them and they love you, they love you, they love you, they love you, they love you [repeat as often as need be: remember the debt]

[but-the-library-of-alexandria]

in the end nobody can do it for you. nobody can make you the person you want to be. nobody else knows when you're hungry or what you want to eat, nobody else knows what you feel like doing or not doing, nobody can move your hands for you to create something, and nobody can tell you who you are. nobody can mould the sand of your life into the right shape except you, and nobody else should. that's not for anyone else to do. nobody can even help you unless you ask. if you resent and villainise people for not knowing what you need and bending over backwards to give it to you unprompted, sorry but you're not a poor wet cat who nobody cares about, you just have wildly unreasonable standards for others and anyone who tells you otherwise is probably not in as healthy relationships as they think

[skullinacowboyhat]

‘The only thing you were ever good for, child.’

[the-healing-mindset]

"Not knowing how to be in a healthy relationship because of what you witnessed is traumatic." This post from Nedra Tawwab hits home in so many ways. For some of us, it really hurts to discover that we don't know the first thing about relationship dynamics, how relationships are meant to work, and how to protect ourselves when dealing with other people.

Most of the times, this discovery comes about when we are interested in becoming close to another person but find ourselves deeply insecure about how we should show up to the connection, ultimately causing us to back away, or try too hard for those who are not good for us. This potentially leads us into more distressing situations, if not wholly traumatic.

[philsmeatylegss]

Couples who are considering having kids ask yourself if you’re willing and have the physical, financial, and emotional capacity to care for a profoundly disabled child before getting pregnant challenge

[greymantledlady]

i couldn’t stop thinking about this post i made earlier about Jamie and his ‘dad’s’ mannerisms so i giffed it for comparison 💔 it’s so hard to watch but i love how happy and bouncy he is in the second one with roy compared to how beaten and afraid he looks in the first ❤

[spoonie-on-wheels86]

Remember: if people are offended by your boundaries, they are the ones who need them the most.

[incorrectkhaenriah]

Clothar: When I was your age-  Caribert: When I was your height-  Clothar: Clothar: Listen here you little shit-

[stormcloudzz]

I rarely post my art (not bc I don't want to, I just have an awful memory-) but I've been in an art block for a while but recently finished this drawing of my guy Dar'rasha and wanted to share bc I love him a lot..

I had the idea that this is sometimes during what I've dubbed the Healing Arc for them because after that fight with Hermaeus Mora they get their shit rocked by him and ends up with a near fatal injury and subsequently gets a rlly bad infection in their side with literally getting a chunk taken outta them.

So they're put on strict house rest by their partners until further notice and their father figure Re'virr comes to visit and see how they're doing and Re'virr let's them borrow his coat for comfort <3

I love them very much and they deserved that resting arc sm (also it kick starts their new found relationship with Miraak bc both of them got hurt and towards the end both of them are itching to leave the house so their first "truce" was trying to convince Lucien and Inigo that they feel better now lmao

[spocks-kaathyra]

"ur repressed" okay well have u even considered that emotions r purposeless and only serve to cause harm to those around u and I have achieved a unique transcendent state beyond them. have u considered that