#GriefAwareness

[alive-with-grief]

[echoarts03]

Losing My Cat

February 25th I lost my 9-10 year old male Tuxedo cat to natural means.

This post is mostly just a way for me to vent, so if you guys don't care or just don't wanna read it, that's fine. It's kinda lengthy, and I understand.

Trigger Warnings:

Anger towards God

Death of a Pet

Detailed emotional descriptions

My cat passed away on the 25th and I don't know if I can keep doing college. I mean I have to, but it feels so much less rewarding when I know one of my cats isn't gonna be there when I go home on the occasional weekend or during breaks.

This cat was pretty much an emotional support pet but without the papers, y'know? I even considered getting him legally documented so I could take him places because I'm just such an emotional wreck in public, but I guess I can't do that now, lol.

He was completely healthy and only 9 or 10 years old. It was the suddenness of it all that hurts the most. He just went to sleep and didn't wake up. I'm grateful it was peaceful since we have always had to put our pets down, but it was an awful feeling to walk into the house and find out he was gone.

That Morning

My mom called me at 8 am on Saturday and told me I had to come home. She was sending my ex to come pick me up since we're still really good friends, and he said he would happily help us if we needed it.

She didn't tell me what was wrong because she didn't want me to be hysterical on the drive back, but she said I needed to come home ASAP.

I arrived home at around 8:45 - 9 am.

The moment I stepped into the house, my mom told me to take off my shoes, jacket, backpack, hat, and ETC and get comfortable. I knew something was wrong at that point.

The moment she told me was probably the most heartwrenching feeling I have felt in a long time. My knees buckled, and I couldn't breathe. My mom had to hold onto me because I was hysterical.

I got to sit with him for an hour or two, just praying over him and giving my final goodbyes before we took him to the local Animal Hospital.

Anger towards God

It felt like God was betraying me now that he knew I was getting somewhere in therapy. I was finally, slowly becoming happier with my life, and accepting my sexuality and my place in my family.

It was moments like those that really make me question what the fuck have I done wrong to make God do this to me.

Conclusion

I don't wish this upon even my worst enemy, I don't wish this upon anyone. That drive to the Animal Hospital was probably the longest yet fastest drive I have ever had to sit through, and the rest of the day was just plain exhausting. Even after 13 hours of sleep, I was exhausted all day Sunday.

I never thought that the last time I said bye to him would really have been the last time.

Hold your pets close, guys. You never know when goodbye may be your last one.

I'm sorry, my baby boy. I'm so sorry.

Mommy loves you. ❤️

[jc-martin-og]

Yesterday’s Talk

Paint the sky full of clouds, and I’ll miss you,

If only it was so easy to fly.

I was long gone, and you pulled me out of the cold,

Streaming the dreams that had run dry.

You saw beyond opportunities in my hopelessness,

Carrying the dying spark of faith that grew stronger.

Looking back for some strength in your words of care,

Completely deluded that I won't cry.

But I'd like to think you wouldn't want it,

For me to stay awake till the break of night.

Thinking back on yesterday's talk,

That I’ll find my way, or at least I will try.

Am I too late again? Getting comfort in someone else's cold arms.

For nothing but mornings lost on my own haze,

Holding those feelings with nowhere left to run.

Fueled by a helplessness, a mind clouded by alarms,

Playing a life full of lectures and foolish refrains.

Distant from the rest, as I believe they won't understand,

Yet the answer wasn't in silence, but in those who still remain.

As I try to let go the pain that my heart bears,

Since you showed me there's no wrong on feeling down.

In the marks you left, made of pure cheer and welfare,

Though I know you're no longer around.

But I know yesterday’s talk is over,

And we'll never repeat it again.

In a coincidence that granted us an opportunity,

Even when we knew it would push us away.

I hear your calling, but I know no one will answer,

And every reminder drives me out of my mind.

Wondering in futures that could never be,

Soothing the anger that suddenly crashes, unwind.

I keep the memories in the heart you mended; you know?

And I hold them strongly, as I face another day.

Perhaps we’re lost in time, but not in the warmth we knew,

As I deck its surface with tomorrow's sparks.

Though I wish you could see how much I've achieved since,

I gaze the sky, knowing you believed in me.

It was in your image I learned to cherish today,

Now I know I can look forward, and I’ll be okay.

If you've reached this point and you're currently experiencing the lost of someone loved, I deeply wish you the best of healings. And may this small act on my part help you see that, you are stronger than you realise and you can get through this.

[thecpdiary]

What does grief feel like?

Like many children lose a family member, I remember losing my grandfather as a child. Although my parents didn't go into detail, being told felt heavy, huge in fact. I think the fact they didn't talk about his death made it worse. But grief can lead to a range of emotions. It can feel heavy, it can feel numbing, it's easy to feel lost, panicked in fact.

Listen without judgment

We all want to be listened to. To listen without judgment and allow us to express our emotions. Around death, it is important to maintain a routine and provide a sense of stability.

For me it was the silence, the void that followed my grandfather's passing. It feels rather poignant now having lost my parents and losing my twin. If you struggle with grief and your emotions begin to impact your daily life, reaching out for professional support through a therapist or counsellor who specialises in grief and loss would be the right way to go.

Grief is a process which takes time for us to fully understand and to navigate our emotions. Others providing support, and understanding can help us feel safe and supported during our loss.

Using Art to cope with Grief

When it comes to children having to deal with grief, parents can provide opportunities for their children to express their emotions in safe and healthy ways. This can be through talking, drawing, writing, or engaging in activities that they enjoy. Encourage children to share memories and stories about the person who died, and help them find ways to honour their memory.

Rituals and ceremonies related to the death, if they are comfortable with it, can give children a sense of closure and an opportunity to say goodbye.

Children can have challenges around grief

Young children can have a more magical or concrete understanding of death. They may believe that the person who died can come back or that they are simply asleep. This can make it even more challenging for them to comprehend and process their grief. It is important for adults to give explanations and reassurances, according to their age, while also acknowledging and validating their emotions.

Supporting children through grief

There are several ways to support children in navigating their grief. It is important to be honest about what has happened, using simple and clear language. Encourage them to ask questions about their loved one. Reassure them that their feelings are normal and that it is okay to feel sad, angry, or confused.

It is also important to understand that children may express their emotions differently than adults. They may act out, throw tantrums, withdraw, or even regress in their behaviour. They may also have difficulty concentrating. It is important for children to have their feelings validated, to provide a safe environment for them to express themselves.

Modelling healthy coping strategies

When it comes to grief we should all be allowed to grieve in our own way and be encouraged to express our feelings. By modelling healthy coping strategies, we can learn to manage our emotions and navigate our emotions through grief.

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[teengriefsucks]

Happy holidays, to everyone who celebrates. For stories and advice on how to cope with grief during this season, check out our "Holidays" category here.

[sineadshinelight]

The scars that society say are too ugly to show That only look the way they do because they weren’t given the care and attention needed as healing Perhaps if those scars were treated with more kindness, they would look more like love than pain Repost from @marklemonofficial • Grief. #grief #griefquotes #bereavement #grief #griefandloss #griefawareness #griefjourney #griefrecovery #griefsupport #grieving #grievingprocess #healing #healingjourney #hope #suicideloss #grievingmother #grievingmom #scar https://www.instagram.com/p/CnQ90mEszB0/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[cinderpresss]

Grief Recovery Book: Handbook and Workbook | Tools and Techniques for Healing the Heart 

Grief Recovery Handbook and Workbook: Tools and Techniques for Healing the Heart is a compassionate and practical guide for anyone navigating the complex journey of grief. This simplified yet powerful resource offers clear insights, thoughtful exercises, and meaningful support to help you heal.

In this book, you'll find:

An Understanding of Grief: Explore what grief truly is, the different types of grief, and common myths that often complicate the healing process.

The Stages of Grief: Learn how to move through the stages of grief at your own pace and find your unique path to recovery.

Coping Strategies: Gain practical tools for managing overwhelming emotions and practicing self-care during difficult times.

Expressive Outlets: Discover the healing power of sharing your story, creative activities like art and writing, and guided journaling prompts.

Building Support: Learn how to ask for help, find support from friends, family, or professionals, and build a strong network for ongoing healing.

Techniques for Healing: Explore mindfulness practices, breathing exercises, and other techniques to support your emotional well-being and calm your mind.

Personal Rituals and Legacy: Create personal rituals to honor your loved one and help you find peace in their memory.

Moving Forward: Develop strategies for embracing a new normal, setting achievable goals, and finding meaning after loss.

With a blend of thoughtful guidance and hands-on exercises, Grief Recovery Handbook and Workbook provides a safe space for reflection, growth, and emotional healing. Each chapter offers gentle support and encouragement to help you process your grief, regain your sense of self, and move forward with hope and resilience.

This book is designed to meet you where you are, offering practical steps and heartfelt understanding as you heal. Buy your copy today!

[jamieladisoulclay]

Understanding Widowhood: What Is The Difference Between Men And Women In Widowhood

[talktoangel2]

stages of grief

The stages of grief, as originally proposed by psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, are a framework that describes the emotional and psychological process people often go through when faced with a significant loss or bereavement. While it's important to note that not everyone experiences grief in the same way or follows a linear progression through these stages, they can provide a general understanding of the common reactions individuals may have. The stages of grieving are listed as follows:

Denial: This initial stage involves shock and disbelief, where the individual may struggle to accept the reality of the loss. They could experience emotional numbness or detachment.

Anger: As the denial fades, feelings of anger and frustration may emerge. The person may direct their anger toward themselves, others, or even the situation itself. It's a normal response to the loss and can be a way of expressing pain.

Bargaining: In this stage, individuals may attempt to negotiate or make deals in an attempt to reverse or mitigate the loss. They may find themselves making promises or seeking a different outcome, often in a religious or spiritual context.

Depression: Feelings of sadness, helplessness, and despair are common during the depression stage. The individual may withdraw from others, experience difficulty concentrating, and have a loss of interest in activities they once enjoyed.

Acceptance: This last stage entails accepting the loss and incorporating it into one's life. It does not mean that the person has completely "gotten over" the loss, but rather that they have found a way to move forward and adjust to a new reality.

TalkToAngel is an “Online counselling” platform that provides professional support and guidance to individuals facing various challenges, including grief and loss.

Working with an “Online counsellor” can provide support and assistance throughout the grieving process. They can help individuals explore their emotions, work through the stages of grief, and develop healthy coping mechanisms. 

TO READ MORE:- https://www.talktoangel.com/area-of-expertise/grief-and-loss

[znelrc]

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[alive-with-grief]

[angelrondon]

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[nourishinglovebites]

Every Now & Then We Go Through Cycles Where We Outgrow Our Environment — Work, Lifestyle, Partners, Friends, & even Family! These Major Life Changes Signify Your Growth but Don’t Discount the Ways in which They Contributed to It! Change is Like Death but You Must Honor the Stages — Acknowledge & Grieve, Reflect & Accept, Appreciate & Celebrate, & See How It Has Served You in Your Life’s Evolution! The Times When You “Feel Out of Sorts” are typically Signaling Where You’re Mourning a Loss because of a Change in Your Life — Simple as Change in Habits, Routines & Schedule or as Profound as the Loss of a Loved One, Close Pet or Human! And the Holidays often bring up the Melancholy for those who have made several trips through them. Be Gentle with YourSelf! 🤍💛🤍 #stagesofgrief #griefjourney #griefsupport #griefawareness #changeyourthoughts #honoryourself #feelitall #humanbeing #yourfeelingsarevalid #youareworthy #lifecycle #changemaker #inspirationquotes #whenyoufeelalone #yourenotalone (at Clearwater, Florida) https://www.instagram.com/p/CmNWwpRMDr_/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[thecpdiary]

Remembering those we have lost

When it comes to death, it’s a difficult concept for many. It’s the finality, it’s the empty space, the silence that accompanies the energy that once resided.

Talking about loss

Talking about loss allows for us to honour the memories we have with that person and to come to a place of acceptance and peace in our hearts. It is not easy, but it is necessary in order to move forward. It is okay to grieve, to cry, to feel angry, to feel lost. But it is also important to find ways to remember and celebrate the life of the person that has passed on.

It is important to reconcile the life you've lived

It is important to reconcile the life you've lived with that person in a way that allows for your own personal growth. Emotions are raw and they can stay raw for many weeks, weeks that can roll into months and months that can roll into years. But like a beating heart, those we have lost are fused into our soul, through our memories and our experiences.

It is important to heal wounds

We may be different, but that doesn't mean we can't move forward. We must learn to accept the pain, to let it wash over us until we can come to terms with the loss.

It's okay to cry, it's okay to be angry and it's okay to feel lost. But it's important to remember that healing is a process, and there is no right or wrong way to go through it. Take your time, talk to others who understand about loss. Remember that the love and connection you shared with your loved one will always remain.

In time, the pain lessens

In time, the pain lessens and you should be able to move forward. It's not easy, but it is possible. It's important for your own wellbeing and happiness.

Talking about loss can help us come to terms with the finality of losing a loved one. By doing so, we can find ways to honour those we have lost, to grow and to find peace in our hearts. How have you managed to work through loss? It will be interesting to hear your thoughts and how you came through your loss.

For Sheila.

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[teengriefsucks]

Read "From Happy Holidays to Sad Holidays" on Teenage Grief Sucks.

[sineadshinelight]

If I can’t live with you, then I have to live for you, and I will keep your memory alive in the most positive way I know how. Kindness creates a ripple effect, touching lives you don’t even know about. Kindness is good for the mental health of not only the one who receives the kindness, but the giver of kindness also benefits from positive mental health Lets spread kindness 🥰 Repost from @moreandbest10 • I will say your name and tell your story to all who will hear it. I will do good because of you. I will let the world know that you were here. Lives will change for the better because of you. I will not sit quietly. I will not let them forget. You were here. You were mine. Your life has purpose and you matter. My final act of love is keeping your memory alive. #grief #griefjourney #griefsupport #griefawareness #normalizegrief #childloss #infantloss #miscarriage #stillbirth #tfmr #neonatalloss #parentingafterloss #lifeafterloss #grievingmother #babyloss #babylosscommunity #lossmama #heylossmama #bereavedmother #bereavedparents (at Kindness Inspires Kindness) https://www.instagram.com/p/CpvUu4aM2r0/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=