#tfmr

[secularprolifeconspectus]

Unpopular opinion: people with anencephaly ought to be born & loved for as long as possible. They deserve palliative care, not murder in the womb. Abortion is not euthanasia.

This little girl is not in agony. She coos and smiles at her mother's touch. She is loved. She wouldn't have known any of that love had she been violently stabbed with a lethal injection and born dead. According to her mom on YouTube she lived for 3 weeks and her family cherished her.

When I say later abortion is not euthanasia, I mean: the children are killed without general anesthesia. We wouldn't even kill a horse or someone on death row this way. Later abortion, even for medical reasons, is horrific violence. The babies are stabbed with an overdose of digoxin or lidocaine. They may be exsanguinated or dismembered alive.

If you want your disabled child to live with dignity and die humanely, with the least suffering possible, then do not abort them. Love them. You will suffer less in the long run knowing you protected them, that you did not pay for their brutal murder.

And for the record, you still have to go through labor when you get a later abortion for fetal anomaly. Unless, of course, you get your child ripped out piece by piece in mangled shreds. The chances of uterine perforation and sepsis from this are extreme.

Disabled children are not "choices". Perinatal hospice is ethical. Murder is not.

Learn more about anencephaly.

For anyone feeling pressured to terminate for medical reasons, I highly recommend

carryingtoterm.org

perinatalhospice.org

benotafraid.net

stringofpearlsonline.org

nowilaymedowntosleep.org

[dragonflylady77]

Happy 18th birthday baby girl. ❤️

I'm getting a tattoo with her name and her month birth flowers (already have the date and the Leo birth flower).

The build-up to that day is always worse than the actual day.

Big hugs to all the mamas who have lost a baby. You are not alone. ❤

[virgoanmaenad]

Just a reminder you can mourn your loss even if you chose to terminate for any reason. You have permission to be sad and mourn.

[ironwilledf-up]

I block pro lifers and this is why.

[transformersmr-hq]

I forgot how to draw

[merit-amm]

Losing a child is the most painful and transforming experience I ever had to go through.

Tomorrow, You would be 24 weeks. It has been six days, since we parted and God knows I am trying to be strong, but oh, these mornings…

And the evenings… when my grief covers me from head to toe like a weighted blanket. When I feel suffocated by the pain.

You know how strong your Mother is. You know how I can handle pain.

But I cannot even fathom, how much pain You would have to live in. And I am really grateful for the option to take Your pain on me.

I am really grateful and proud to even become a Mother to child as powerful as You are. What you accomplished during those five short months You spent down here in our lives is incomprehensible, even for me. You unknowingly gave me strenght which I didn’t even know I had.

Thank You, my deeply beloved son. I hope we will meet again. 🤍

[sineadshinelight]

If I can’t live with you, then I have to live for you, and I will keep your memory alive in the most positive way I know how. Kindness creates a ripple effect, touching lives you don’t even know about. Kindness is good for the mental health of not only the one who receives the kindness, but the giver of kindness also benefits from positive mental health Lets spread kindness 🥰 Repost from @moreandbest10 • I will say your name and tell your story to all who will hear it. I will do good because of you. I will let the world know that you were here. Lives will change for the better because of you. I will not sit quietly. I will not let them forget. You were here. You were mine. Your life has purpose and you matter. My final act of love is keeping your memory alive. #grief #griefjourney #griefsupport #griefawareness #normalizegrief #childloss #infantloss #miscarriage #stillbirth #tfmr #neonatalloss #parentingafterloss #lifeafterloss #grievingmother #babyloss #babylosscommunity #lossmama #heylossmama #bereavedmother #bereavedparents (at Kindness Inspires Kindness) https://www.instagram.com/p/CpvUu4aM2r0/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[lepetitrock]

Make no mistake, end of life care for neonates will be next because they want to punish women for the tragedy of TFMR. They think it's our fault babies aren't always healthy. That's why they want to prolong the suffering and they care not for the pain the neonate is in before they die.

[justanotherbipolarmum]

Here I am in the Day Stay Unit, gowned up, compression socks on and disposable underwear.

This is the hardest day of my life. I hate this.

1 in 600 chance of having one condition and 1 in 3000 of having another but my boy has both conditions and a heart that hasn't developed.

[seaglassparenting]

Available as a sticker, journal, or greeting card ❤️

[dragonflylady77]

Here in New Zealand, it's nearly 1am on Thursday 17 August.

On Thursday 17 August 2006, at nearly 1am, I had a baby. She was born silent, at 24 weeks. I named her Chloé Isobel Rébecca.

It happened in France, so 12h behind NZ this time of the year, not until nearly 1pm here...

I'll be getting a massage then.

Might bake a cake in the morning.

[panapanapana]

It's people like this who need to look me and my healthy surviving twins in the eyes and say with a straight face and all of their conviction we all should have died instead of just their triplet sister with the lethal brain damage. Because that's what would have happened if not for being able to abort their sister. I love and will always miss my Hannelore, but saving three healthy people while preventing the suffering of one that would die anyway was a fucking no-brainer -- just like my Hannelore was due to the extensive brain damage. Badumtssh.

https://prenatalpartnersforlife.org/

[ironwilledf-up]

Taylor swift 30 day song challenge - Day 3 - A song that makes you sad

I'm tied for two here. Bigger than the whole sky and Ronan.

I had a tfmr at 21 weeks via labour and delivery, sometimes it feels like a cross between a miscarriage and a still birth. BTTWS fits entirely but Ronan feels like how I'd feel had I made the other choice. I play them both when I am having a grief day.

[transformersmr-hq]

Quick question. What alt mode is the fastest in ur continuation?

Short answer: Space shuttles.

Long answer: It depends on circumstances. Details provided under readmore.

To be honest, any altmode can achieve the "fastest" title if they were a speedster-type outlier. However, since that's obviously not the point of the question here, so let's state what's obvious first:

In order to be considered the "fastest altmode," They must have control over their speed and direction (e.g. launching them with orbital railgun doesn't count)

Now then, let's get started.

On land - Hovering type Racers

As I mentioned earlier, Hoverbikes or hovering vehicles are part of the groundframe family. In fact, it's actually considered as a type of beneficial mutation, which means any altmode with wheels has a slim chance of being hatched with thrusters instead.

Naturally, hovercrafts can generate greater speed than their wheeled counterparts as they are relatively free from road condition issues. Adding that with sleek, aerodynamic structure of a racer frame, and you have an ultimate speed demon.

One downside is that, the faster they get, the more unstable they get as they do not have any wheels to keep them firmly on ground when they are trying to make a turn. Sometimes they spin out of control as soon as they hit the curve when they are at their top speed.

On Atmosphere - Seekers

Basically, they are F1s of the sky. The entire species evolved to have maximum SPD, maximum AGI, and minimum of anything else, so there is no way a plain Cessna or Helicopter can ever take them over at Sky race. It's pretty obvious just by how their alt mode looks, honestly.

'But hey, wait a sec! Didn't you mentioned it was the Shuttles that were the fastest? What happened to that?'

Well......

On anywhere else - Space Shuttles

The Seekers may be the fastest on atmosphere, but the space is a vast place with no air friction no gravitational pull and plenty of space to accelerate. Given enough time, Shuttle can and will hurl themselves through the void with almost godzillion times the speed of an average Seeker. That alone would be enough to grant them the title of "fastest altmode."

Besides, the terminal velocity needed to escape Earth's atmosphere is 11.9km/s(~42840km/h). No Seeker would ever dare to challange THAT. This would have made the Shuttles the fastest on atmosphere too, but as I mentioned they can only produce such speed when they are going to Space. Their atmospheric cruising speed is obviously a lot less impressive than those of Seekers.

[panapanapana]

This is why, despite really wanting to put it behind me, I will never stop telling the story of my abortion. Originally pregnant with quadruplets, I lost one early on and was left with triplets. Things looked good for the remaining babies though I wasn't doing particularly well because of having had a severely malabsorptive weight loss surgery prior to conceiving. It's hard to take in and keep in enough to grow three people and sustain yourself! By the time of the anatomy scan I was regularly passing out from low blood sugar. I had rising blood pressure and proteinuria, which are Bad Signs for anyone, but most especially for people like me who had eclampsia in a previous pregnancy. At the anatomy scan though, we found out that babies A and B (a fraternal twin set) were healthy but had severe intrauterine growth restriction from lack of nutrition. Baby C had a larger placenta with a bifurcated umbilical cord that had previously gone to the long lost baby D as well. The shared umbilical cord and blood supply meant that when baby D had reabsorbed after the miscarriage, baby C sustained brain damage. She had severe hydrocephalus that had obliterated most of her brain, the few remaining areas of her brain were being destroyed by hemorrhagic strokes, and she was having seizures. But because of the larger placenta that was originally for two babies, baby C was the only one growing appropriately. It was only after terminating (I think of it as euthanasia, which should also be legal for those already born but let's not get into that) baby C that babies A and B began growing and I stopped having health issues. Ending the life of a single fetus that wouldn't have likely survived to birth anyway saved the lives of two fetuses and a living, breathing woman.

Even the godbaggiest of people don't argue with the fucking trolley problem that was my 22 week abortion.

You're against abortion but you'll make an exception if the pregnant person's life is in danger?

Okay, so how much of a probability of death does there have to be? 100%? 50%? 10%? 1%? Who decides that?

Let me guess. You never thought about that, because you don't care. Your goal is to control. But you say that you'll make the exception just so you don't look like a total asshole.

[duggardata]

So Jessa had an abortion then. She terminated an existing pregnancy because the pregnancy wasn't viable. Not a miscarriage. Of course, she'll never admit to that, but that's what this was. She was given the choice between medication abortion and surgical and she chose surgical.

CW: Pregnancy Loss

Look, I don’t really want to get into this. It’s true that a D&C, which Jessa acknowledged having, can be used for multiple reasons—including for the termination of a pregnancy, viable or no. It’s also routinely used in miscarriage care when the woman’s body doesn’t pass the fetus naturally, and after birth if part of the placenta is retained.

I’ve heard a lot of speculation that Jessa’s baby “still had a heartbeat,” and therefore she had an abortion. First of all, Jessa has explicitly denied this—

Secondly… Even if the fetus did have heartbeat, Jessa made it abundantly clear in her video that the fetus wasn’t viable. To me, it feels incredibly icky and cruel to force the term “abortion” onto the act of termination for medical reasons (TFMR).

I get it. The Duggars are awful. They’ve lobbied hard against abortion. Their views have made it difficult for many, many women to access D&C procedures—even in situations where the fetus isn’t viable. They’ve advocated to take away the right to choose termination for medical reasons. They’re awful. Their views are disgusting. We’re living in a scary, post–Dobbs world, and it sucks.

All that said… Jessa denied TFMR. She said the baby’s heart stopped long before her D&C. And, even if she’s lying, TFMR is a horrible loss and it feels incredibly, incredibly cruel to me to more–or–less rub Jessa’s loss in her face by using the word ‘abortion,’ and thereby insinuate that this was her choice somehow. It wasn’t. Her baby was unwell, such that it couldn’t survive outside the womb. She didn’t choose that. She never would have chosen that. It’s a tragic loss that is entirely out of her control. Smugly saying: “Ha! You had an abortion!” is both untrue, based on what she has shared, and pointless. And I’m not too keen on pointless cruelty towards those who’ve gone through personal tragedy and loss. Even when I vehemently disagree with their politics.

ETA: The fact that she was offered medication or a D&C is irrelevant, and proves nothing as to the fetus’s viability. Both options will empty the womb whether there’s a viable fetus in there with a heartbeat, or one that has already died.