#Ftm issues

[st-dionysus]

What is transandrophobia and why is it called that? By the guy who coined it and is kind of tired of seeing it defined in the opposite of what it's meant to describe.

In it's most simple definition. Transandrophobia is the way that the fear of men impacts the material reality and mental/physical health of transgender men.

Transandrophobia, is the way that the fear of men and/or masculinity effects transgender men’s ability to access queer and transgender spaces, sexual assault survivor resources, and reproductive health care.

Transandrophobia, is the way that the fear of men and/or masculinity holds back transgender men from transitioning or from presenting as masculine.

Transandrophobia, is the way the fear of men and/or masculinity results in the disowning of transgender men from previous found families and the isolation of transgender men in general.

Transandrophobia, is the way the fear of men and/or masculinity has resulted in people using their trauma as an excuse for abusing transgender men, physically, sexually, and emotionally.

Transandrophobia, is the way the fear of men has resulted in people refusing admittance to “male identified people” to certain queer events and safe spaces.

Transandrophobia, is the way that the fear of masculinity has led to people assuming that butches across the gender spectrum are inherently violent and hyper-sexual.

Transandrophobia, is the way that the fear of men and/or masculinity results in the forced feminization of transgender men in queer spaces, with the insistence that those who refuse to feminize themselves to make others more comfortable should not be allowed entrance to certain queer spaces.

Transandrophobia, is the way that the fear of men has led people to assuming that butches who were assigned female at birth, are at risk of becoming the enemy (a man) and should not be given the same amount of trust as a feminine presenting cis woman.

Transandrophobia, is when that the fear of men being in women’s spaces prevents trans men and non-binary people who present as male from accessing gynecological care, abortions, and birth control.

Transandrophobia, is when transgender men must make themselves smaller to be seen as “one of the good ones” and it is when a trans man who is loud or sexual or Black or Brown or too masculine is seen as a threat to the safety of other transgender people.

Transandrophobia, is when transgender men who speak up about how the normalized way of speaking ill about men in feminist and queer spaces has made them activity suicidal, de-transition, or prevented them from transitioning, are told to “shut up and sit down” or “good.”

Transandrophobia, is not when trans men face misogyny – that is just a trans man facing misogyny (which all trans men face, because misogyny and sexism effects everyone, not just women). However, transandrophobia is when someone says that trans men don’t face misogyny because they are men, make claims that trans men benefit from misogyny since they are men, or insist that trans men’s experiences with misogyny aren’t as valid or as bad as when a woman or non-male person faces misogyny.

Transandrophobia, is when trans men’s struggles are dismissed as being less important, because men don’t need help or men already have help or men don't face real struggles.

Transandrophobia, is when people refuse to acknowledge that the patriarchy see’s transgender men as failed women and not men, which is why transgender men do bot benefit from the patriarchy but are instead violently and systematically punished by it.

Transandrophobia is that and a whole lot more, I would need a book to describe the entirety of the issue, I have been writing a book on it for over six years and re-writing it over and over because if I say it wrong, or say it with too much emotion, or not enough emotion, or with too many numbers, or not enough numbers, and publish it without using perfect wording, trans men might not get another chance to speak up for a long ass time and we will once again have to find new words to say "Pretty please treat me like a human being and let me have access to the things I need in order to survive." and "Pretty please consider that if a large group of people from a minority are telling you they are being oppressed by these actions and fears, then maybe you should believe them or at least the material statistical evidence of that oppression, since you probably trust journals more than us describing our reality and lived experiences."

[getyourpaybackwithsomepayback]

wish I was more masc so I could get away with pulling that Henry Jekyll fit for formal events 😔 I desperately need to wear a buttoned shirt cravat waistcoat and tailed jacket. It’s a need not a want at this point. I need to pull up to the Function™️ wearing that. Please gods please please please let me have a masculine figure after puberty 🛐🛐🛐

[chronically-jinx]

okay so basically people who get periods regularly are actually champions because I got mine for the first time in a year (transmasc) and like. you would've thought the world was ending the last two weeks.

and then

today

it was just like "oops you got your period" as if I didn't nearly burn everything in my life to the ground because i was unexplainable sick and angry

[transassdemon]

[My art, don't steal, tag if reposting]

[st-dionysus]

In the end, any term coined to discuss trans men's issues, is going to be deemed "poisoned".

If I hadn't coined transandrophobia, and someone else with zero "problematic kinks" that hadn't used "problematic labels" to define themselves. It still would have been called out. That's the nature of transandrophobia.

You can do everything right, dot all your i's and cross all your t's, and you will still be marked as an enemy to the queer community, because you dared to show up, stand up, and speak up - when you should, in their minds, be making yourself as small and as non-threatening as possible.

The androphobia present in the queer community, will always be weaponized against transgender men and so any word we come up with to discuss our issues, will be framed as us becoming violent, when all we want to do is point out the violence we face.

“I hate that the word transandrophobia has been so poisoned by the people using it because we need a word to discuss transmasc issues but now it has a context behind it of blaming transfems for transmasc problems and general transmisogyny.”

Was it transmascs speaking on transandrophobia that did that? Or is it people saying “transandrophobia truthers are all transmisogynists by default” that’s got everyone thinking the word is “poisoned”. Because I’ve seen way more of the latter and only a couple actual instances people can point to of “the truthers” doing that poisoning.

[genderqueerdykes]

now more than ever it's blatantly obvious that people go out of their way to erase trans men from communities and queer history. it's always been happening, but it's way easier to watch it in real time now thanks to the internet and social media. we are watching people basically gloating that they misgender trans men and don't see them as men. we are now watching people kick trans men out of queer spaces because they are often "femme and them" or "nonbinary and woman" support groups, conflating nonbinary identities with womanhood, and denying trans men or transmasc nonbinary people places to go. many of them get told that their presence would "scare" the lesbians, women and enbies because they have trauma.

where do the trans men with trauma go, though? we can't go anywhere. when i was struggling with domestic violence that ended up destroying my right leg, i was denied shelter in queer spaces and even women's spaces even though i have F on license. domestic violence shelters especially will turn trans men away if we pass. even if we partially identify as women, we can't go in because 'our voices are deep and scary and we're loud and aggressive and threatening and might prey on the defenseless scared women'

finding transmasc support groups is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. i've seen numerous organizations across the US have transfemme support groups, nonbinary/genderqueer support groups, and then nothing for transmascs. where the hell do we go when they won't let us go anywhere?

we try to exist online and they try to erase us from here, too. bickering and arguing about how we're not real men, sending trans men death and sexual assault threats, acting like they're saviors for kicking out the "dangerous ugly men" from the queer community, as if we don't belong to it at all.

i refuse to be erased. i refuse to sit in silence while people tell me my problems don't matter because now i "have male privilege". I don't. once people find out what my legal name is they view me as a woman. strangers however view me as a cis man and will deny me help, either through programs, or because i'm a "strong young man, i should be able to pick myself up by my boot straps." i'm not white. i'm not abled.

i'm proud to be a trans man and i will be here to fight for other trans men's rights to have a platform to speak, and spaces to occupy. i will not rest until trans men & mascs have safe places to be and meet other trans men.

trans men are queer. we belong here. we are taking up the space we rightfully deserve and we are not leaving.

[angela-thompsonn]

Reblog and dm if you would let me fuck you❤️🥰

[bullreigns]

Why do like 90% of the tank tops I buy become see-through in the wash? Like I wear them once and then the next time my tits are breasting boobily through the fabric.

[astreakoflavender]

the misandry within the queer community is wild because tell me why i was made to feel bad about being trans (FTM)... by other trans people... sometimes i get the feeling that some queer people would rather FTMs stay in the closet because of their sweeping generalized hatred for men. trans men aren't "betraying" the community by transitioning, or somehow defecting to the "Other, Bad Side". stop vilifying masculinity, i am fucking begging you.

[st-dionysus]

would you feel comfortable giving an overview of what’s in your book? i wasn’t sure if there were rules around what you can and can’t disclose before it’s published. looking forward to reading it!

My original definition of transandrophobia.

How transandrophobia was coined and why I chose transgender+androphobia as the root words and the Etymology of the word.

Why transandrophobia exists (As in the reasoning people have for participating in it and how it has developed over history)

Why transandrophobia occurs in queer and trans spaces, and how it occurs in cisgender spaces.

How transandrophobia affects the material reality of trans men through both a Marxist and Anarchist lens.

How transandrophobia effects the mental and physical health of trans men.

Discussing the way transandrophobia is used by politicians and law-makers to create anti-trans laws, the way that the transmasculine body is demonized by the public

Combating transandrophobia through activism, organization, and medias.

[transnest]

I got mad at the phobes in the notes, so f*ck it, transgender super sourcestorm

Every major health organisation supports trans healthcare

Regret for minors is incredibly rare

Regret in general is incredibly rare

Social support (friends, family) for youth is incredibly important

Gender affirming care is safe

Gender affirming care (including social transition) saves lives

Trans people are 4x more likely to be victims of assault

Deal with it. Trans rights are human rights.

[thund3randrain]

"I respect you and won't stop you from being who you are" and "I'm not ready to call you by a new name and pronouns because it hurts me" can not co-exist when the speaker is your parent who has a huge amount of control over your life.

[gor3sigil]

I really need y'all to understand that answering to transmascs who complain about being invisible "yeah but see, transfems are being actively murdered so you have it easier" is batshit. Because one of the hardest part of being invisible is that transmascs are, too, being actively murdered, but we don't know who the victims are, if we even know it happens at all.

One time I got told that transmascs don't deal with homelessness and involuntary sex work and when I said that every transmascs I know have dealt with both in one way or another, myself included, I got told "that's just your surroundings, in a grander scheme that's false". How fucking cruel can you be ?

You think I don't see trans men and transmasc people scattering newspapers and the web every year during TDOR because the ones we lose are almost never on the fucking lists ? And we should be happy and glad we don't know about them ? It isn't bliss to live knowing that if some of my friends die they'll most likely be misgendered and you can't do shit about it. It's not peaceful to see how trans men and transmascs' deaths are always downplayed, treated like it's not the Real Brutal Deaths that deserve to be adressed (and don't tell me nobody says that, I've been in queer spaces long enough).

We shouldn't be asking for basic fucking decency from our peers. Don't treat us as disposables.

[blehboyspost]

swear to god if i don’t get a flat stomach im going to kms

[genderqueerdykes]

you're not getting revenge on or rebelling against the patriarchy by holding trans men down, belittling us, treating us like we're demons, and not letting us speak. you're being transphobic and harming queer people. youre targeting the wrong kind of men. trans men are not the men who are oppressing you. trans men are also affected negatively by the cisgender patriarchy we live under. remember this.

[uncanny-tranny]

"If men got periods/needed abortion/got ovarian or breast cancer, those resources would be handed out like candy! They'd be more plentiful than ATMs!!"

You mean perisex cis men. You mean perisex cis men. Say what you mean.

I'm a trans man. I avoid all medical care because ninety percent of my doctors have not treated me properly because I am a trans man. I am acutely aware that doctors would be more than happy to not provide me care on the basis of my being trans, even if it costed my life.

Every time I so much as think about the doctors, I'm reminded of men like Robert Eads - of how my care is at the whim of the opinions a doctor has about my life. And because of my own past negative experiences, I hesitate to open my patient portal to schedule an appointment. When I have gotten a good doctor, it's not been the rule, it's the exception. I have a doctor right now who I'm lucky to see, who actually treats me like a human being. I'm celebrating that a doctor finally treats me like a person.

If you want to group all men as being the same, I hope you're willing to have that blood on your hands. Because that care is routinely kept away from men, and it's a real, tangible, systemic issue.

I don't talk about this because I see being trans as this negative thing, but because I want to continue living and I want my trans siblings to live. I understand the frustration that people have who say this - it's another systemic issue that also costs lives. However, I am alarmed at the trend of... forgetting or perhaps erasing that this is still an issue for men, that we literally aren't treated the same as somebody like a cis perisex woman. No doctor has ever treated me like one, and of that I know for a fact. And this is a simple fix - be clear about who you mean when you talk about a group of people or a specific phenomenon. That applies when you are talking about any group of people because, generally, these overgeneralizations will be useless because it can't apply to everyone, and might just hurt a group of people you may not even be intending on hurting.