#Ftm educational blog

[answersfromzestual]

This site will remain,

This was not a decision I took lightly at all, I did some heavy listing of pros and cons and the stress. But with the amount of anti-transition propaganda, I decided my community was more important than myself.

Due to lack of outside resources for people transitioning and lack of support for transsexuals and transmasculine people.

I thought there were other reliable blogs for information, sadly I was wrong.

I am a very strong advocate for the transsexual and trans masculine community, and people wanting to identify as male. Of course anyone supportive is welcome.

Recently I have seen an uptake in posts spreading fear mongering, spreading detransition/transition propaganda. I did not think again, that with all the talk of inclusivity I would still need to continue this blog.

This blog may not be as active, but you are welcome to ask questions still and ask for information you want or need to make a correct and informed decision on which direction your transition will go.

I refuse to allow my people continuing to be pushed around and pushed towards not transitioning if that is your goal.

Anyone who spreads fear, or tells you any form of detransition propaganda, block them, they are not your ally.

We need to be strong as a community and if we need to break off, we will try to make that happen.

Thank you for your time

Zestual.

[answersfromzestual]

Leaving this here because sometimes we need to hear nice things.

trans people i’m happy you’re alive!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i’m so glad you’re here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! keep doing your best!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i love you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[horny-mushroom]

Let’s not pretend doms don’t need after care too.

Ask them if they are satisfied, whether they came or not. Do they want to cum?

If they need anything to drink.

Perhaps they might be cramping from putting a lot of effort.

Tell them they did well and which parts you enjoyed the most.

Compliment them for their work.

Cuddle up to them.

Offer help for the clean up afterwards.

Order food together.

Sex can be something casual, but might be intense too. Either physical or mentally. Take care of each other and regularly communicate with each other. No question should be taboo. It’s better to be safe than sorry.

[s0lren]

Sexual information post!

(This is not a post to make anyone feel bad or to scare anyone this is just to inform people on how to have safe sex since I feel like it's not talked about enough and it needs to be normalised)

Safewords are always important, especially when doing cnc and even during 'vanilla' sex

The stop light system is a great method

Green means keep going

Orange means slow down

Red means stop

If you aren't a fan of the stoplight system try using words that you would never use during sex but are also easy to remember, names of fruit are very common

Remember, ignoring someone's safe word is never okay, sometimes people can just not hear it but if it continues to happen it's not okay.

Aftercare is also extremely important.

Some people need aftercare all the time. Some people only need it sometimes. Other people don't need it at all. But it's always good to ask.

Aftercare is for both subs and doms. I've seen way too many people claim its just for subs which isn't true, aftercare is for everyone.

People can also need aftercare in different ways. Some people need something to eat and drink. Some people need some reassuring. Some people need to be left alone for a bit. No matter what kind of aftercare you need, it's valid.

It's okay not to cum.

For some people, especially AFAB people or people on medication, it can be hard to cum but that doesn't mean that they can't enjoy themselves. Just because your partner hasn't cum doesn't mean they haven't enjoyed themselves. You can get off without needing an orgasm and don't be disheartened if you or your partner doesn't have one.

Always be safe.

If you have multiple sexual partners always use condoms to avoid contracting anything, even if they claim to be clean don't go without one unless they have proof of being clean. This also applies to sex toys, if you are sharing them with someone else then use a condom and be sure to sterilise it after using just to be on the safe side.

STIs aren't always curable and can lead to health complications down the line so if you ever suspect you have one then go to the doctor before having sex with anyone, especially if it's unprotected.

Don't do the pull out method. There is a chance that sperm can leak with precum or you could pull out just a little too late. If you are worried about pregnancy just use birth control or a condom.

Reminder

Giving your consent shouldn't be a turn off

If you aren't sure that someone is consenting then ask, never do something with someone unless you are 100% sure they want to do it

It is not consent if they persuade you to do something

It is not consent if you are too drunk to say no

It is not consent if you are asleep

It is not consent if you are being blackmailed

It is not consent if you say no

It is not consent if you don't say yes

If you didn't want to give your consent then you didn't give your consent.

Even if you aren't sure that something wasn't consensual you still need to reach out to someone. Don't suffer in silence.

[frameacloud]

Zinnia Jones (May 31, 2021). "Early use of masculinizing steroid oxandrolone in trans boys can add 2 more inches of height compared to testosterone." Gender Analysis. Live link. Archive.

The above blog post is about a study about looking for more suitable sorts of puberty blocking and hormone therapy for transmasculine youth. It found a treatment that is more effective for letting them grow up to be a couple inches taller, if they start it early, at age thirteen or fourteen. It's about this study:

Grimstad, F. W., Knoll, M. M., & Jacobson, J. D. (2021). "Oxandrolone Use in Trans-Masculine Youth Appears to Increase Adult Height: Preliminary Evidence." LGBT health, 8(4), 300–306. https://doi.org/10.1089/lgbt.2020.0355

[answersfromzestual]

Also remember to try on things and not assume the size is right.

Also, you will need to know your leg length when buying things like jeans, (in inches).

You can get jeans from one place in one size then need two sizes bigger in another store.

Don't be afraid to dress in the style you want to.

Watch out for certain patterns of shirts and pants it can make you look bigger/smaller in problem areas.

Even cis men have love handles.

And depending on where you shop also matters.

I find clothes made by Asian clothing companies are good for smaller frames, this is really good for dress clothes.

You can always have pants hemmed if they are awesome, but too long.

I have a post about formal wear here if you'd like to see it. It lists companies for shoes and clothing specifically made for trans and non binary people.

FOR ANYONE WHO MIGHT NEED TO KNOW (cause I've told like 3 trans friends this week)

Your pants size in women's is the waist measurement of your men's pants size minus 20. 38x30 in men's becomes 18 in women's. some variation for cut and style but this is the baseline

Your shirt size in women's is one size up from your shirt size in men's. If you wear a men's small, you'll wear a women's medium

Your shoe size in women's is roughly two sizes up from your shoe size in men's. However, many men's shoes are slightly wider than women's shoes so you may have to get wide shoes in women's when you wear standard width in men's

hope this helps, and happy shape-shifting

[z1pek515]

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[answersfromzestual]

Hi! Thank you for being a great resource and advocate.

Question: How did you bring up bottom surgery to your doctor? How did they respond, and do you have any tips for people who might be anxious about bringing it up?

I have been wanting to bring it up to a doctor, but I've been too afraid. I'm worried they'll say no, or act like I shouldn't want it for whatever reason (ex. the unfortunately common misperception that transmascs don't get/need bottom surgery). I don't know anyone else irl getting phalloplasty, and I still struggle with feeling ashamed about how bad I want/need it.

Thank you, and no pressure to answer this if you don't feel up to it, for any reason.

Hello and thank you :),

When talking to your doctor bring it up less as a question. Say "I have been researching this and looking into studies and I have been doing the work and I am serious, this is something I have been thinking about for awhile and need to be happy with myself in my skin". Ask them what steps they can help you with to get you going in the right path. This helps the doctor feel you are a lot more serious, they know at this point you need it, it's less a conversation of persuasion and more of a conversation of information.

I was very straight forward with my doctor, I came at him like an information tornado, and also I remember trying to explain my disconnect between my brain and body. I actually had to teach my family doctor about it. (With that don't be surprised if your family doctor does not know much, they are general practitioners, so they may know it in a very general term).

Pro Tip: email a clinic about generic information on the procedures and bring that information with you, it's proof you have put thought into it, and that you are serious about pursuing your transformation.

This is big and brave and I am proud of you. Just take some deep breaths, maybe try to talk to a trusted person and work out the kinks in your speech prior to the appointment.

It's better to be fully prepared, sound confident, and show you have knowledge about things like how you know it will be painful, mentally taxing, and it's a huge procedure. Be realistic with your expectations.

So it's less of your asking them if you can have the procedures, and more "I need them, to be okay in my skin".

Thank you for your ask, and the appreciation 😊.

You got this! I have faith in you.

Love,

-Zestual 💙 🩷

P.s if you have any more questions or concerns please feel free to contact me (or if my wording is confusing). I do not mind answering questions one bit.

[answersfromzestual]

So is the whole "phallo is EXTREMELY dangerous and riskier than heart surgery" shit untrue too..I really hope it is...

Oh yeah, it’s absolutely a crock of shit.

Listen, any time you go under general anesthesia is risky, and the longer you’re under, the more risks there are. So a surgery that takes 6-8 hours, no matter what it is, is going to be potentially dangerous.

But it’s important to know that a risk being present doesn’t make it LIKELY. You take at least as much risk driving to the grocery store as you would having phalloplasty—and if lightning strikes and something life-threatening DOES happen to you on the road, you’re not going to have an entire team of highly-trained, well-equipped medical personnel literally standing over you seeing to your wellbeing when it happens.

The single most important thing that gets considered when deciding if a patient needs surgery is whether the potential risks are outweighed by the benefits. I think the fact a 2020 study found that 59% of trans men were under the impression that bottom surgery is “too risky” but 97% of those who’ve had radial arm flap phalloplasty report full satisfaction with the results says a lot, don’t you? (Source)

[horny-mushroom]

Things I’ve learned on my sexual/intimacy journey.

You don’t always have to cum at the end, the goal of sex doesn’t have to be an orgasm

An emotional bond with the person is for me a very important aspect

Always use protection and brush up on sex education once in a while. Especially regarding STD/STI’s

Communication before the intimate meetings also significantly increases pleasure and creates less awkward moments.

Not everyone likes the same thing or does foreplay the same way. For example, I don’t see kissing as part of foreplay and doesn’t turn me necessarily on.

Be gentle with first timers and have fun exploring each other. You don’t have to be a sex god or take over things from porn. Enjoy each others company and make time for the encounter. Some people can take up to an hour to cum.

The older I get, the queerer I become. Additionally, I find myself having more healthy sexual encounters and a better outlook on kink and sexuality. My younger self wouldn’t know what I meant by this, but I’m so proud of the progress I’ve made last year. What I used to look back on as “strange underground behaviour”, I now celebrate as a part of life and all of the curiosity and playfulness of our humanity. It’s not flaunting deviancy, but a pride and celebration of the human body and it’s intricacies. ❤️

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[genderqueerdykes]

I rlly love ur blog and the content you've made partially because of the educating parts of it and also all the support and just great stuff on here.

Especially some of ur stuff about men/masc ppl because before this I felt rlly guilty to transition (even tho I'm nb and not a FTM) because it felt like in some way I was giving up femininity and instead joining the side of the more 'evil' gender bc I'd kinda be raised to see a lot of more masc ppl as being more harmful and I never wanted to be that but I feel like ur posts have rlly made me feel less guilt about my own identity and masculinity in general so thank you for that :)

isn't that so sad, like, nobody should ever make you feel that way

i can't stop stressing to people that that's literal rad fem behavior that people are displaying when they respond to trans men and mascs like this. it's affecting people in real time and we need to care. like if so many people are saying this, it's a huge issue and we can't ignore it any longer. i will continue to publish every ask i possibly can on this topic because i feel like there's literally no better way to show how this is fucking people up in REAL TIME and how we need to care

i'm glad you feel better, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being masculine at all. masculinity isn't what hurt people. it's toxic masculinity. it's patriarchy. masculinity is fine. femininity isn't inherently safe. feminine people can abuse. feminine people can be dangerous. everyone is parroting rad fem beliefs. it's sad. people need to stop

good luck, if you need any help, feel free to come by again at any point, you deserve to live your best life

[answersfromzestual]

Always keep moving forward.

Take it day by day, and you will get where you need to go.

Thank you for your video ticktoks-for-tired-tots

[myfandomrealitea]

Was your Safe Spaces post discord-(or any closed forum I guess) specific, or do you think the same should go for fandom-themed blogs on tumblr? Like, if I follow someone for Doctor Who content, I'd rather they didn't put real world issues on my dash, but otoh, it's their blog and they get to decide what they post on it (preferably tagged so I can curate). I've observed that people that run themed blogs that become popular often seem to feel an obligation to use their platform for activism (or, in the case of crypto-radfems, deliberately built their platform to recruit), and it stresses tf out of me for the reasons you mentioned, but it's not like the maintags are much safer because there will be spam relating to real-world issues, or antis trying to relate fiction to real world issues.

Realistically; the same outlook can and could be applied to any social setting. Be it online, private, public, face to face, ect.

Your point about obligation in terms of platform scale is something I've also noticed and have been dabbling about raising. Mostly because you see it a lot with celebrities or public content creators who receive a large following. Its often less that they feel obligated and more than they're usually bullied into it.

For example; I follow a trans (FTM) vlogger on Instagram. His entire online presence is based around being trans and helping to educate people and support people in regards to learning about being transgender, transgender health, his personal transitional journey, ect.

He's got a modest following, nothing ridiculous but I think right now he's sitting at around 75,000 followers.

And as of late, there are random people who don't follow him and aren't at all interested in what he has to say flooding his comment section with things like:

Why didn't you mention anything about Gaza?

All these followers and no shout outs for smaller creators?

What are you doing to raise awareness for X?

All these views could've been used to raise awareness for X.

And its fucking ridiculous. People are pressuring a middle class trans man with 75,000 followers to accept responsibility for counter-responding to a literal war when there are actual celebrities and billionaires with both the actual reach and money to make a difference who simply refuse to because they won't personally benefit from it.

I used to run a really popular fandom blog here on Tumblr. For an actual fandom, not just what I do here and now. It started off small, but I eventually grew it to the point where my follow count was creeping toward 10,000. Which for Tumblr and for a fandom-specific blog was not at all insignificant.

And the moment my notes count started going up, the demands started flooding in. People expecting me to reblog their donation links, demanding I share their friend's aid post, asking why I wasn't reblogging awareness posts or donation drives, ect.

Its largely because its easier to harass accessible people over it than it is to harass someone like Kim Kardashian, but its also because again: we have such a skewed understanding of what is actually effective in terms of activism and circulation of information.

Most of it comes down to shaming people and trying to assert that they're a bad person for having the privilege and benefits of a large following but not doing anything for other people or to 'deserve' that following. They're 'a bad person' for having 75,000 people's attention and not using it to force them to be aware of X.

A good example of proper audience targeting and activism is the page We Rate Dogs.

We Rate Dogs will share awareness posts and donation drives.

About dogs.

Because their followers are there for the dogs. Their followers like dogs. They want to enjoy dog content and help dogs.

If they started sharing posts about war and death and rape, the people who are following them to see cute dog videos will simply unfollow them.

They're using their targeted platform properly.

[answersfromzestual]

This is another header I have been working on,

I thought the quote was great.

"the more I hold myself close, and fully embrace who I am. The more I thrive." -Elliot Page.

[answersfromzestual]

Hello there!

I run a ftm transition blog that mainly focuses on phalloplasty, but I do have several articles on other types of surgeries and procedures as well.

Please check out my blog directory, I also take questions, comments, and concerns.

i wish ppl didnt shit so hard on (transmasc) bottom surgery man. i feel like i wouldve looked into a metoidioplasty a lot sooner if i hadnt seen all of the negativity and stigma surrounding phallo and metoidioplasties. but as soon as i actually looked into it i realized it was something i want! extremely bad! and i feel like a lot of other transmascs would want bottom surgery if they actually knew more about different types and results