#End of Life

[coffinup]

I know I’m a bit late, but I wanted to say HAPPY PRIDE!

The deathcare profession is becoming a lot more diverse as more and more young people come into it, and it’a great to see. I personally work with several fellow lgbtqia+ people at my funeral home and it’s such a nice feeling of solidarity in an industry that is historically white, male and cisgendered.

Along with the progress though, I also think it’s very important to talk about what everyone can do to help protect themselves and their identities when their time comes.

I think of a case years back of a trans woman whose hair was cut and who was put in a suit by her family’s request for her visitation, because she’d passed away in an accident, and her parents were her next of kin, they completely disregarded and disrespected her identity after she died.

If you are a queer person, especially someone who identifies with a different gender than you were assigned at birth, and don’t feel comfortable with the idea of your family being in charge of your end of life care or funeral arrangements, there are a couple of things you can do:

-Fill out an Advance Directive. This is sometimes called a Durable Power of Attorney or a Living Will. This dictates that, should you be incapable of making your own medical decisions due to coma, illness, injury, etc, the person you ASSIGN is in charge of those decisions.

-Sign a Designee form. This is crucial if you want to designate a specific person to make decisions about your body disposition and funeral care. POWER OF ATTORNEY ENDS AT DEATH. Your power of attorney will NOT be able to make post-death decisions on your behalf. You need a Designee form for that!

Both of these forms can assign any willing person that you chose to be in charge of these decisions. This person does not have to be related to you, they could be a friend, roommate, non-married partner, metamore, in-law, whoever you feel the most comfortable with, and who is willing to sign the form.

You are NEVER too young to have these forms. If you are a young person, re-visit them every couple years and make sure the other person on them is still willing to be your POA/Designee. You can re-do these forms as many times as you need. In most states they should also be FREE and require only a notary public and witnesses!

Forms should be available on your state’s .gov websites!

I wish all of you a peaceful and happy pride season, and as always,

Memento Mori

[sweetsweetperil]

Like a ghost walking through

Every stage of my life,

Seeing all the memories;

The pleasure and the pain,

As the flash before my eyes

I could beg to stay,

But leaving feels just right,

It’s time to say goodbye,

But my dear, I’ll leave you with

One last weet lullaby

[glittergroovy]

end of life - death spells

[344x-azucar]

Commission of a scene from the fic Perfectly Imperfect by JustSomeStranger !

[final-fantasy-xiii-fan]

Amo mucho a Link... Amo Zelda y todo lo que tiene que ofrecer... Me a mantenido viva durante un tiempo pero... Quiero rendirme, de verdad ya quiero desaparecer, mi vida no vale nada...

[sarahgrows]

So pretty! My first Syngonium. I've been eyeing them for a while, specifically for the Pink one, but this one called out to me at Home Depot. Also got a little succulent for my smaller crochet hanger upstairs and my co-parent joined us and picked up a cactus. It's been a great weekend.

I also ordered a Chinese Evergreen for my grandmother. She used to have plants when my mom was growing up so I'm told. I figured it's a fairly easy and rewarding plant. I love her very much. I know she isn't at the end of life phase, but her kidneys are worsening and she has had a history of heart issues. That being said I will continue to keep our strong bond, especially since I don't live close.

[schwarze-cat]

'When man was finally able to stop and stand up in front of the mirror of himself, he realized his condition was time. We can laugh or cry, love or suffer, but the one thing that's not negotiable is death. " - Walter mehrer

Art: Gustav klimt ( Death and life)

[abrandnewshadow]

[r0yalqueen]

[lauraellencreative-blog]

[mynah-bird-death]

What the heck is a death doula? And why, for the love of marketing, are you a business page on *Tumblr*?!

Excellent questions love.

A death doula is a non-medical professional providing end of life comfort and support to the dying and their families. I help plan vigils, memorials, set up bucket list plans, and advocate for the dying once they are no longer cognisant enough to do it themselves. I sit by the bedside and hold vigil when someone is in their final moments. I do this for both humans and pets.

As for why Tumblr: yes I know. This is where businesses do Not succeed. This is not the social media site for that. But it fits my blogging and tagging needs and really, it's not like being on here is going to hurt my business any.

So here we are, join me as I ramble about death, dying, and death preparedness.

[livinggrungegrl]

[books-4-life9]

She screamed, searching for him. Gunshots echoed all around, rocks fell from the sky, but she barely heard it all. She saw a figure standing, and with a gasp, ran to him.

They joined in a tangle of limbs, tears streaming down their faces. They clasped each other, knowing this was the end. The last time the they’d ever hold each other.

He started whispering.

“You are my sunshine… my only sunshine. You make me happy, when sky’s are grey”

She joined in “you’ll never know, dear, how much I love you. Please don’t take my sunshine away.”

A gunshot echoed, and he clutched his side, sticky red staining his fingers, but he started singing again.

“You are my star shine… my only star shine. I’ll miss you so much, when I’m away.” He fell to his knees, blood staining the ground around him. She hugged him tighter.

“You’ll never know dear, how much I love you. Please don’t take my sunshine away.” She watched as the life drained out of his eyes, her tears coating his face.

“You are my moonshine… my only moonshine. I miss you so much, now you’re away.”

She lay down next to him, and waited for her fate.

“You’ll never know, dear, how much I love you. Why’d you take my sunshine away. Why’d you take… my sunshine… away.”

[lairesta]

Still round the corner there may wait

A new road or a secret gate

And though I oft have passed them by

A day will come at last when I

Shall take the hidden paths that run

West of the Moon and East of the Sun

-- J.R.R. Tolkien, The Return of the King, as Frodo journeys to the Grey Haven --

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