#Empowering Men

[tabney2023]

Spread Good Vibes.

[sankofaspirit]

[ffcrazy15]

There's this way of doing female-ness in Christianity that I call "pastel flower journal Christianity." I've got nothing against pastel flower journals per se, but for some reason people believe it's the end all and be all of female spirituality, and I think it's a real disservice towards young Christian women.

One of these days I'd like to start a prayer-and-reading group or something for young women, but there would be no floral themes or over-focus on how "God thinks you're beautiful even if the world doesn't" (a true statement, but it's wayyyyy too often the focus in women's spiritual reading). Instead we would be reading:

Seneca's Letters from a Stoic

Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning

Sheed's A Map of Life

Portions of Pieper's book on leisure

Kreeft's Three Philosophies of Life

Guardini's The Lord (or something similar)

Therese's Story of a Soul

and some select portions of the Nicomachean Ethics.

(Also they're all getting the porn talk. I don't know why we give the porn talk to young men but not young women. There's this idea that women don't use porn and they only need the talk about "guarding their heart." Bullshit. There's porn on the YA shelves of Barnes and Nobles and before that there were bodice rippers. Young women need the porn talk too.)

Every young woman needs to be getting a basic grounding in virtue ethics, logic, natural law, scholastic philosophy and Biblical hermeneutics if they're going to get by in today's spiritual landscape. Enough faffery and emotionalism in young women's spiritual education! Give them real food to chew on, not pasty sentimentalism!

[feministfang]

"Educate the men!" Education is a requirement for those who are stupid, unaware or illiterate, and not for those who are evil. Men can receive knowledge about everything and they will still commit all these heinous crimes that they already do. The most successful, richest and powerful men are highly educated from the prestigious universities, and yet the most corrupt and evil people on this planet. When you feed a monster’s brain with knowledge, you unlock his potential to cause more destruction. He becomes more powerful and prosperous but he remains a monster. Education is a blessing that these men do not deserve. Instead, educate the women. Because a lot of women are stupid as a collectivist. It’s women who are unaware. It’s women who lose all their common sense whenever they hang out with men. Therefore, educate women about their rights. Educate women on why they should stop caring about men. Educate women about separatism. Educate women on how to be rich and successful. Educate women about how patriarchy works. Educate women about freedom. Education is empowering. So empower women. Yes, men naturally lack intelligence, they lack wisdom, and they are the most dumbest species on this planet. But you’re forgetting that they are all sadists as well; the trait that you cannot erase by feeding their minds. Knowledge brings out the smartness in a woman, but it brings out the most cunning nature of a man. So don’t waste your energy teaching men about everything. You teach a man how to cook and he will still murder his wife for overcooking his meal. You teach a man about female bodily anatomy and he will jerk off to every single detail he hears about it. You teach a man he’s allowed to cry and he will use his tears as a tool to play victim. You teach a man about technology and he will use his skills to send threats to women. You teach a man why the world is dangerous for women and he will use that information to control women in his family in the name of "protection" just to flex his masculinity. You teach a man about feminism and all he will think about is how he can reap out his own benefits from it. If you seriously think educating men will liberate women then you actually need to educate yourself and continue doing that until you learn and realise that men do not care about women.

[burningtheroots]

IDK who made this but it couldn’t be more true.

[hadesoftheladies]

it's bleak how most of the things people think will assuage and temper men are the things that embolden them. "prostitutes exist so men don't rape us" the human trafficking industry that is prostitution is an ever-growing industry that produces propaganda that enables men in society to rape MORE not less. by objectifying women and children, it puts all our heads on the chopping block. "he just needs to settle down and get married" most femicide, rape and domestic violence are committed by husbands/boyfriends. "if men just had daughters/sisters they'd see women as human" as a daughter and sister, i can confirm that we're extra caretakers of said men, and that our kindness is taken as proof that "good women" are subservient and domestic helpers.

if you want to de-radicalize men, you have to actually just stop tolerating misogyny in any form no matter what woman it's done against. stop trying to dialogue with men and start socioeconomically punishing them. people want to act like "separatism doesn't solve anything" when governments and companies only started paying attention when they saw birth and marriage rates drop. it is not women's job to save men from themselves and some feminists still don't get that. pandering to men always results in LESS rights for us. we have to become radically INTOLERANT.

[wicked-women-mother-in-law]

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[rhymingwithpurple]

People are so fucking stupid about feminism. You point out something a woman does and they swoop in to go "oh but she CHOSE to do that!" and you go "okay cool so she made that choice in a total vacuum? In a completely genderless society free from all patriarchal influence past and present?" And they don't understand. But she CHOSE.

[yourhighness6]

It's funny to me when people insist that "ATLA was really feminist" as if there wasn't really only one feminist message which was the very generic "girls can fight too" spiel that every 2000s show had going on whenever they briefly tried to jump on the feminism bandwagon or whatever

[pokemon-radical-red]

I hate it when I headcanon a character who’s canonically a girl as a trans man and make ships of him and a character who’s canonically a guy and I refer to it as a gay/mlm/guyxguy/whatever ship and someone gets mad. Like omg let trans people have FUNNNNN. Why are queer headcanons and genderbends cool until they’re saying that the character is trans???

“OMGGG you’re so misogynistic I can’t believe you would erase FEMALE representation!!!”

and like half of the characters in the franchise are women, and a total of… NONE of the characters are trans men. Also, my headcanon doesn’t change the source material. If my stuff upsets you, you can block me and go engage with the source or maybe every single other fanwork, since mine is the only trans man hc for this character that I’ve ever seen.

or when people are like “WTF??? this is so transphobic!!! how dare you imply that a character who looks like that could be a trans man?!?! do you think that trans men are women or something??? she uses she/her, and you’re misgendering her!”

No, I don’t think that being a trans man makes you a woman or vice versa. That’s why it’s a headcanon, and the headcanon is that this character is actually a trans man and not a woman at all! You’ll never guess what pronouns most trans men had to use at some point in their lives, and you really won’t like it when you find out about pre-(or no-)transition trans men… or trans men who are in the closet… or trans men who don’t know that they’re trans yet.

“But the character is a kid!!! Saying they’re trans is sexualizing them.”

I’ve seen this one from other queer people. Like did you miss when all of the homophobes said this about your identity, or do you think that bigotry is only bad when it’s directed at you?

“Why would you say ‘testosterone could fix her’??? Are you trying to call her a delusional woman?”

Why would your brain even go to that first? This literally has to be a bad faith reading, because there’s no way that someone could see what I said and get this unless they were specifically looking for something to be mad at me for.

(Note for anyone unaware: “Estrogen would’ve fixed him!” was a meme going around at the time I said this. I’m not sure if it’s still super big, but this was a joke to the effect of that.)

“So girls can’t be tomboys anymore? You just wanna trans everyone?”

This is like actual real life transphobic rhetoric. This isn’t even just shitting on my headcanon, but in fact, sending transphobic hate to a trans man. Thanks 👍. Maybe you should go send JK Rowling another message about how much you loved her essay instead of bothering me.

[honeyblockm]

generalizing statements like 'all men are evil' are for sure wrong but also i think its important not to cut discussions of gender out of the picture esp bc they are extremely relevant in this case as misogyny is a big part of wilbur's abusive actions and the wider discussion of the. social environment of cc spaces that enables things like this. so.

[sankofaspirit]

[shadamypositivity]

what tickles me as a personal hc abt shadow reacting to Sabrina's concert is just the idea that he was "born" in the 50's-ish so just seeing sabrina in lingerie and pretending to felate her mic while Amy and a thousand other ppl scream probably would have him clutching his pearls lol

[mazojo]

Are they,,?? flirting or???? Is this like?,???, a bro thing??,

[mishkakagehishka]

I think "whatever a woman chooses to do is feminist on account of the fact that she's a woman" did awful things for the movement. I really do.

[mechatronophilia]

I wasn't introduced to it much before but I think tech related kink goes perfectly with forcemasc. I've wanted to write some but I don't think I'd do it as well as you, so thank you for the food.

hehe thank you :) i'm glad you enjoy

yeah i think the type of masculinity that's associated with the trades and the sciences is underrated as a subgenre of forcemasc, and as a transition goal. there's also a kind of sexual relationship between a mechanic and a car, just like there's a kind of sexual relationship between a transmasc and the person he's becoming. additionally i am sexually attracted to certain devices and machines