#Empowering Men

[tabney2023]

Spread Good Vibes.

[ffcrazy15]

There's this way of doing female-ness in Christianity that I call "pastel flower journal Christianity." I've got nothing against pastel flower journals per se, but for some reason people believe it's the end all and be all of female spirituality, and I think it's a real disservice towards young Christian women.

One of these days I'd like to start a prayer-and-reading group or something for young women, but there would be no floral themes or over-focus on how "God thinks you're beautiful even if the world doesn't" (a true statement, but it's wayyyyy too often the focus in women's spiritual reading). Instead we would be reading:

Seneca's Letters from a Stoic

Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning

Sheed's A Map of Life

Portions of Pieper's book on leisure

Kreeft's Three Philosophies of Life

Guardini's The Lord (or something similar)

Therese's Story of a Soul

and some select portions of the Nicomachean Ethics.

(Also they're all getting the porn talk. I don't know why we give the porn talk to young men but not young women. There's this idea that women don't use porn and they only need the talk about "guarding their heart." Bullshit. There's porn on the YA shelves of Barnes and Nobles and before that there were bodice rippers. Young women need the porn talk too.)

Every young woman needs to be getting a basic grounding in virtue ethics, logic, natural law, scholastic philosophy and Biblical hermeneutics if they're going to get by in today's spiritual landscape. Enough faffery and emotionalism in young women's spiritual education! Give them real food to chew on, not pasty sentimentalism!

[sendsunshine]

resolve

i am joy, i am strength, i am courage, i am all

[burningtheroots]

IDK who made this but it couldn’t be more true.

[hadesoftheladies]

it's bleak how most of the things people think will assuage and temper men are the things that embolden them. "prostitutes exist so men don't rape us" the human trafficking industry that is prostitution is an ever-growing industry that produces propaganda that enables men in society to rape MORE not less. by objectifying women and children, it puts all our heads on the chopping block. "he just needs to settle down and get married" most femicide, rape and domestic violence are committed by husbands/boyfriends. "if men just had daughters/sisters they'd see women as human" as a daughter and sister, i can confirm that we're extra caretakers of said men, and that our kindness is taken as proof that "good women" are subservient and domestic helpers.

if you want to de-radicalize men, you have to actually just stop tolerating misogyny in any form no matter what woman it's done against. stop trying to dialogue with men and start socioeconomically punishing them. people want to act like "separatism doesn't solve anything" when governments and companies only started paying attention when they saw birth and marriage rates drop. it is not women's job to save men from themselves and some feminists still don't get that. pandering to men always results in LESS rights for us. we have to become radically INTOLERANT.

[rhymingwithpurple]

People are so fucking stupid about feminism. You point out something a woman does and they swoop in to go "oh but she CHOSE to do that!" and you go "okay cool so she made that choice in a total vacuum? In a completely genderless society free from all patriarchal influence past and present?" And they don't understand. But she CHOSE.

[yourhighness6]

It's funny to me when people insist that "ATLA was really feminist" as if there wasn't really only one feminist message which was the very generic "girls can fight too" spiel that every 2000s show had going on whenever they briefly tried to jump on the feminism bandwagon or whatever

[sapphic-baby-girl]

Something so magnificently beautiful and feminine about a woman in a backless dress. It's the sultry confidence in their stride, just knowing everyone is watching them.

[honeyblockm]

generalizing statements like 'all men are evil' are for sure wrong but also i think its important not to cut discussions of gender out of the picture esp bc they are extremely relevant in this case as misogyny is a big part of wilbur's abusive actions and the wider discussion of the. social environment of cc spaces that enables things like this. so.

[hella1975]

it's been pointed out on here before that a lot of terf arguments are actually rooted in sexist idealology that feminists fought and died to unnormalise decades ago and that's its own kettle of fish but one thing i also find very frustrating about this so called 'radical' feminism is that it's so... defeatist? like the moment you categorically label an entire section of society as Bad and Inherently Evil then there's also the implication that nothing can be done about it, and it completely takes all accountability away. saying all men are evil is just another way of saying boys will be boys. he raped her because he's a man. he hit her because he's a man. he didn't listen because he's a man - it's almost offensively oversimplified. there's no point trying to fix this issue in society because men are just Like That, okay! so now what? it's not like they're going anywhere, so you just accept that 50% of the population are evil and will forever treat you terribly and there's nothing to be done about it bc they're biologically predisposed to it? like is that fr the argument here? you're soooo radical for that

[mazojo]

Are they,,?? flirting or???? Is this like?,???, a bro thing??,

[pisshandkerchief]

the obvious double standard with which we as a society treat amab nonbinary people and trans women who don't fit the level of feminity that they're expected to is actually disgusting.

[hauntingofhouses]

guys cmon. be ffr please. akemi did Not love taigen. the only reason why she was desperate to search for him to the point of putting herself in danger is because she didn't want to get married to an abusive man (which she believed at the time that takayoshi was). when seki tried to dissuade her from running off, her reason was not "but i love taigen and wanna be with him 🥺" it was because she refused to be controlled and have her autonomy taken from her; she literally says "i won't be locked away in edo married to a stranger." and when seki still tries to argue that getting married to the heir of the shogun would be better than getting caught by brigands, she then says "that kind of man"—referring to takayoshi—"treats women like animals. they say he's a tyrant." and when seki chuckles and says "what man isn't?" her response is "you." she doesn't even talk about taigen. she is using him as much as he was using her. they both see—or, well, saw—each other as means to an end. for taigen he saw that marrying into the tokunobu clan would elevate his status and wealth. for akemi she wanted the right to choose who she married, and she wanted that person to be someone kind. that's it! neither of them loved each other. but since they were courting of course they acted sweet to each other, and they do still care for one another, especially due to their romantic history. but let's be real! akemi is a boss bitch who dropped taigen and forgot all about his ass as soon as she saw takayoshi was a nice guy. because duh? not only is takayoshi a better lover (it's implied their lovemaking lasted a long time) but he's also kinder towards her and presents her with an opportunity to claim power and freedom, which she would not have if she had married taigen, as she would have still been stuck under her father's thumb. so literally why should she settle for taigen's stupid ass! she may be a little naive at times but she's still incredibly intelligent. she would not do something stupid for the sake of "love." you know who would though? taigen.

[muffingnf]

something that’s really frustrating about this topic in particular is that it is very complex and requires both nuance and critical thinking however because it’s currently taking place in the content creation world, the only people talking about it are content creators who love the sound of their own voice rather than being an impactful part of the conversation

[aquilacalvitium]

Being a man is good actually

Being a trans man is good actually

Being a demi-boy is good actually

Being a masculine-aligned person is good actually

Being masculine in any way shape or form is good actually

Loving masculine people is good actually

Loving men is good actually

Men are good actually

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This post is for my fellow mascs and men who are made to feel lesser because of toxic masculinity or the "joke" of "hurr durr I like men because I make bad choices"

Please do not clown on or derail this post

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[mishkakagehishka]

I think "whatever a woman chooses to do is feminist on account of the fact that she's a woman" did awful things for the movement. I really do.