#Emotional distance

[girl4music]

The emotions that run through me when watching this scene. It’s so beautiful but at the same time so heart-aching because even with Waverly being as close as she is, you can tell that Nicole still feels like they’re so distant because she just doesn’t understand what happened: what she’s been through without Waverly there with her and specifically because of not being there with her. There’s just no way to communicate or express it. So there’s no way for her to understand it.

What’s more is Melanie Scrofano directed this episode. So she’s panning close up to them slowly as they kiss but all the while you feel this eeriness in the environment. This emotional disharmony and distress. And it’s not a monster, as Nicole worries it might be. It’s the erratic energy coming directly from Nicole. And I don’t know how Kat plays this so nuanced and nonchalantly even though it’s not at all. And that’s exactly what depression looks like from an observer’s point of view. Or from the outside-looking-in perspective. It looks as if there’s nothing wrong at all. But if you can read energy, you can tell there’s so much more going on because the energy is not still even when it looks like it is. Even when it’s directed to be. I’d love to be able to ask Kat at some point about how she portrayed this scene in Nicole’s Season 4 arc and in her character. Did it come naturally? Was there a particular influence? Did she do any research? How and why did she decide she wanted to play it like this?

Like she is everywhere else but in Waverly’s arms when that’s where she desperately wants to be. And there’s not a thing Waverly can do to help her be there. To help her feel like she’s no longer stuck in the Garden because she just doesn’t understand what’s going on with Nicole. And I don’t think there is a point when she does come to because they sort of just move on from it once it is revealed how she got out of the Garden. That Nicole made a deal with Mama Clanton. Promised a selfish trade. Doc for Waverly.

Sure that was a big deal in Nicole’s arc but it wasn’t the emotional underpinnings of it. Kat did that alone by portraying Nicole being in a state of depression. Showing that even when she’s in Waverly’s arms, she’s not. And that even when kissing Waverly, she’s not. She’s somewhere else. Everywhere else but with her. And it’s so interesting to me because obviously, the whole reason why she’s going through this PTSD experience and response is because she wanted to be. She desperately wanted to be all along. Now she is…

But at the same time… she’s not. She’s not at all.

How do you portray something like that and make it look as convincing as Kat makes it look all on her own?

I really want to know. I’ll have to ask her at some point.

[in-tenebris-et-in-solitudine]

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The only way I knew how to get people to leave was to give them things that meant something to me. I could afford to give up anything tangible. But I was scared to death to give my time or my heart.

Lisa Taddeo, from Animal

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Giving People Space: Know When to Leave People Alone

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If you want to increase your emotional distance from an awful past event, instead of labeling it as an event happened to you in this current life, it may be useful to tell yourself that this event happened in a past life. This method works because we tend to associate ourselves less with events from past lives, and associate ourselves more with things from this life. The less association we feel and the less we identify ourselves to an event, the less effect it has on us.

If you find it bizarre to label a past event in this life as an event in past life, consider this: according to spiritual teacher Seth who was channeled by Jane Roberts in the 1960s-80s, for humans, when we sleep, we return to the spiritual realm - just like what we do when we pass on - temporarily, then we come back to the physical world when we wake up. Therefore, we go through a mini cycle of death and rebirth on a daily basis. From this perspective, past events from this life are similar to events from past lives, as every day is a new life and a new beginning for us.

Our powers lie in the present, which also means that we have the powers to choose how we deal with the past. This trick is not intended to encourage you to simply shove away your past and not face it, but to allow you to handle it more effectively. For example, when we are too strongly identified with the past, we can’t easily free ourselves from its energy. By increasing our emotional distance from it, the healing process can be more efficient.

The above is a mini trick that hopefully can help you find more peace with your past. May you be blessed!

[elasgottoomuchfreetime]

My parents: *being rather (emotionally) distant especially during my childhood*

Me: *turns out to be rather emotionally distant especially towards them & other family members*

My parents: How dare you

[bluebellebarrett]

Screaming into the Void, part 2

In January, I made up my mind to speak to my father. I mean really speak to him. For the first time in decades, maybe even in forever, I reached out to him, human to human.

In my family history, my father plays the betrayer, Judas together with the serpent. (We all have roles to play; I do not know when they were assigned, but even now, I cannot escape mine. I am trapped on this stage.) He is distant; he is cold; he is cruel and unpredictable and unreliable (and I am just like him). My mother warned me not to trust a word from his mouth. 

But I was tired. I was tired of this distance, this wall between us built up of a lifetime of not saying what we really meant, of not knowing what to say or not having the bravery to say the words we could find (The back of my throat is become  a graveyard, burial place of all that died before it was spoken aloud). I was tired of being silent. I was tired of biting my tongue to keep the peace. 

I wrote a letter. Three pages long, handwritten, full of anger and resentment and an ashamed kind of understanding. I didn’t expect a response, not really. I just needed to say my piece, to get the words out of my mouth so maybe I could let them go. I had never told my father what I feel, what he makes me feel, and I was not sure this wouldn’t be the end of our relationship, half-hearted de facto estrangement that it was. 

It was not the end. He responded. Not just that, but somewhere behind that brick wall between us, I think I could see him reaching back. 

The moral becomes: Say It. Say the words; speak the truth; some things must be spoken about. 

[desertcryptid25]

Emotion Dump

I(17F) left my home-state of NV about 6 months ago to move across the US. We did not settle until the beginning of December, and by then I had already been feeling the emotional pull of not having my friends around. It got worse when we tried applying me for the local school, and they said "We could take her, but we can't graduate her since she is missing this one credit. Oh and she can't take another year of HS or summer school." So I have been, for 6 months, a reclusive hermit who stays inside her room. My emotional state has struck me down since the new year as I've watching from instagram stories about all my friends working their way to their next show.

What's worse is I don't know anyone in this small town, nor do I have a job or car to drive myself anywhere to make friends. I rely on my mom to take me out on the weekends, but even then sometimes it feels like too much of a hassle to try to make myself feel and look nice. How can I make new friends if I don't even know where to look? I want to try and make it out here, but everyday I feel the call to just try and escape back to my hometown.

Maybe I'm not made for the small town life, I just want to know how I can make this feel better.

[wickedzeevyln]

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One day you will wonder where all the days went,years wasted and moments misspent,my apologies for speaking out of turn,chained to your phone, for the stars, hearts, you need to earn. I ponder what the color of your eyes are,your head bowed when my curiosity hungers for the secrets of the stars.Why is it that when you’re at home is when I feel most alone?Having conversations with the television…

[cultural-derealization]

Fear consumes me..therefore I’ll let you slip away after pushing me away.. Self sabotage on both sides so I rather go away.. I rather not fight harder for what isn’t fighting for me to stay.. Fear consumes me.. I rather not face the oncoming days.. As bad as I want love.. I won’t do anything to make it stay.. It’s in your hands now and therefore we will go our separate ways..

The outcome we both desire, we’re too afraid to pursue.. Endings & Beginnings.. I tried for us.. Now is up to You.

But if I leave it up to you, what’s meant to be will never be.. because you will do nothing regarding you and me.. You will remain lazy, busy and cowardly.. so it is really up to me..and if it’s up to me..We would be..but now fear consumes me..so instead I’ll set you free..

-k.c.

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