#ESPECIALLY as a trans man

[calicostorms]

Does anyone have advice for someone (me) looking to get back into horseback riding?

It's been about 10 years since I had serious lessons, but I've done trail rides between then and now. I'm nervous about getting back in the saddle honestly

[vamptastic]

its like so fucked to me that PCOS is almost always diagnosed in middle aged women bc of fertility issues unless the person in question has a very obvious and severe case or lobbies their doctor at length about it. this would not be so upsetting to me if PCOS didn't massively increase your risk of developing type 2 diabetes in a way that is largely preventable! or if PCOS didn't make it damn near impossible to lose weight, meaning many people have their symptoms dismissed be it for other health problems or PCOS symptoms themselves over something they have next to no control over.

[knifegremliin]

@ last reblogs. i really don't mind some comments about being short, but the vast majority of the jokes are just frustrating and not funny. i genuinely really do like being short. i would NEVER want to be any taller than i am. but really it often feels like i have to be in order to be taken seriously. in order to be seen as anything other than "aww cute little tiny boy uwu" or "haha short little baby man lmaoo". like go fuck yourself tbh.

[icannotgetoverbirds]

throwback to the inappropriate comments my mom made about my body those two times

the first time was when i wanted to wear somethig sleeveless but still "modest" and she was like "but that makes your shoulders look Broad (and therefore Manly) so it won't be flattering on you" and then i proceeded to wear nothing but sleeveless shirts and dresses or clothing with the shortest sleeves possible because i was a transmasc egg having a totally cishet (sarcasm) moment about looking gnc

then after i came out as genderqueer and i wanted to go shopping for more masculine clothing and she wouldn't let me buy polos from the men's section because, and i quote, it wouldn't "flatter [my] feminine curves" like lmao girl what??? i was not a legal adult at the time of that comment btw.

[oscarwilderobbieross]

girl help they’re too far gone to escape toxic beauty standards and trying to force them upon me

[trans-androgyne]

Thinking about “trans women/fems never pass while trans men/mascs pass fine, they just get carded all the time” sentiments and just. It’s so weird to acknowledge that we frequently look way younger than we are but act like that doesn’t have anything to do with how hard it is for us to pass. Lou Sullivan’s chapter about passing is called “How to Look 30 When You’re 30.” I’ve noticed myself getting misgendered more instead of less now that I dress in professional men’s clothes instead of more androgynous casual clothes — I’m more believable as a very butch woman than a guy who in work clothes who looks 14. Yeah I’ve gotten perceived as a slightly fem teenage boy. But I also get perceived as a very gnc woman. It just depends on context; if any of it indicates I’m an adult it’s really, really hard for me to pass as a 5’0 trans guy with an androgynous voice and asian/baby face.

[bludraws094]

reblog if you think trans people crossdressing (trans men being drag queens and stuff like that) doesnt make them any less trans

or dont, im not gonna guilt trip you into reblogging this

[uncanny-tranny]

The absolute biggest thing I've learned as a trans guy: there is nothing more masculine and manly than not caring about looking or acting masculine or manly. Growing your masculinity or manhood takes time and care - you have no obligation to let the world water your garden when you can do that just fine (and you can, even if it doesn't feel like you can!)

[deoidesign]

A frustrating development with the growing lack of reading comprehension I've personally noticed is an emerging fervor of insisting things aren't canon unless they are explicitly stated beyond all reasonable doubt.

I can not emphasize enough how harmful a mindset this is to have. Yes, it's wonderful to have characters outright say "I'm trans," but to deny a character's identity for not saying that is dangerous.

Plenty of real people prefer not to use specific labels. Historically, people didn't have our modern terms or modes of expression. Many modern cultures don't use these terms, either, and plenty of people within those that do can't safely openly identify.

If the only representation you accept as canon is within modern (and let's be honest, wealthy white able-bodied American) standards, then you are denying yourself and others a huge amount of representation and seriously limiting the media around you.

[loveless-arobee]

"We need more weird queer people!"

and they can't handle gay trans men, especially not nonbinary gay trans men, and ESPECIALLY not aromantic gay trans man; and even less so when he's not a bottom and a femmy little twink (though they also can't accept trans femmy little twink bottoms, they'll make fun of them, too).

And their heads would explode if they only imagined a twink topping a bear (because big muscly man always top and dainty little fem always bottom), and just percieving a bear4bear/masc4masc or twink4twink/fem4fem relationship, where neither is "more masc" or "more fem" so they can't just decide who tops and who bottoms (absolutely not based in standards set by heteronormativity /s), would kill them instantly.

Be normal about gay men, especially gay trans men of all kinds.

[solradguy]

The "I thought that was a butch lesbian but it's just Sol Badguy" meme has me convinced that a significant portion of GG fans don't know that Guilty Gear even has women in it

[the-real-aurora-borealis]

thank you trans men

[freakqueer]

coming out and being told "cant you just identify as gender queer or nonbinary, why do you have to 'Go All The Way' and be A Whole Other Scary Gender" is a pretty widespread experience, regardless of whether you're a trans woman or a trans man.

off the top of my head i can think of at least several friends who were told by their parents "cant you just be nonbinary/genderqueer" when they came out as trans men, including one who was told this by a therapist. the only reason elliot ever got used as a name for me initially was because my mom pitched "El" as "it can be a girls name too, its gender neutral". to this day i have a brother who pointedly only uses they/them for me when he's mad at me because it's a way for him to degender me and he knows my mom will get angry at him if he calls me she/her.

[so-i-did-this-thing]

It was a little intimidating, but I asked my new barber to also do my beard today.

I feel like so many shaving tutorials for trans guys only cover the basics of using a razor and it's frustrating not knowing how best to shape your facial hair to suit your face.

It was nice to have someone who knows what they are doing set my beard line (hard to do when most guides assume you have a prominent adam's apple as a guiding point).

The barber also walked me through what guard settings he used on the clippers (you blend your beard instead of going all one length) and how I should continue to grow out my beard to get it more in the shape I'm looking for.

Highly recommend, worth the price. I feel better equipped now to maintain it on my own. His razor cut was also far gentler on my sensitive skin than anything I could manage on my own.

[littlenaughtygarden]

I love you bi/pan men. I love you transmasculine and masc nonbinary folks who aren't perceived as "visibly queer." You belong in queer spaces. You deserve safety and love. You are not a nuisance. You are not a threat to the community. I love you I love you I love you I love you I lov-

[uncanny-tranny]

Men, it's fucking normal to have stretch marks and even cellulite. It's normal to not have a flat stomach, to have body acne (especially because of hormones/puberty), to have unbalanced hair distribution along all parts of your body. It's normal to have deep hair lines, to have thin hair, for hair to regrow odd.

Very, very few of us will live in this world unscathed. You owe nobody the conformity of man. So many problems that are seen as "womens-only" occur in men, too, because it is a part of the human condition to have weird bodies.