#Conscious Relationships

[mymidwestheart]

[venuskind]

Life’s strangest paradox may be this: love arrives precisely when you no longer bend or break in your quest to find it. It comes not as you plead or strain but in the quiet radiance of self-reclamation. You no longer barter tenderness for loyalty nor compromise your integrity for fleeting passion or devotion. You cease bargaining with your soul and stop paying the toll of self-sacrifice to stay close to another's warmth. Instead, you build a sanctuary within, where self-respect becomes the cornerstone and independence your unwavering fire.

And then, like a sudden spring rain, love appears—not a love born of need, but of a shared strength that no longer seeks to devour or control. In your stillness, your partner is drawn closer, no longer resisting the pull of desperation but softening, opening, and sensing the freedom in your wholeness. It’s not by chance. When we release the chorus of “Stay, or I will fall apart,” we liberate ourselves and our lovers from the grip of emotional debt. True reciprocity, real love, only flowers in the soil of freedom, where no one is bound to another by chains of expectation.

In reclaiming your self-worth, you offer one last invitation to real intimacy. Either love begins to breathe again, flourishing in mutual respect, or the relationship based on clinging and fear must quietly fade. The highest form of love, paradoxically, can only come when you no longer cling to love—when you release it, even as it returns to you like the sweetest echo of all you once dreamed.

~ Katie Kamara

[placeoftheclearlight]

[magdalene-spirit]

The mature & conscious romantic relationship

Not only once, but as if I really needed to see this representation & deceptive dynamic of the masculine around me— & in the world we find ourselves in, more times than I would have liked—

I have encountered the emotionally underdeveloped peur archetype more times in my life than I can count & for too long fell for its spell-binding allure & captivating (patriarchal) charm—

How long are we able to be flattered by superfluous gestures, how long do we go along with being flawed by a fleeting feeling of being desired & seen, but without any substance?

How long are we charmed by a man's intelligence & outer status- spellbound by his mind, enamoured with his knowledge & infatuated with his position- even if that be a spiritual teacher, an executive or something the like?

When do we simply step out of the way of these men, & dodge that particular version of Cupid's deceptive poisoned arrow? And the play of superfluous kama (desires) - & these empty games people play, never growing up-

When do we stop, intertwining our value, with a man's noticing of us? When do we stop basing our feelings of security on who & what a man we are associated with, is & does in his life? If he is a success, then I am by association, of some value?

When do we stop feeding this age-old charade of the play of man & women?

These cat & mouse games keep us distracted from our own maturation & debilitate us from entering our authenticity- our divinely ordained humanity.

When can we sit on our own seat in holy Consciousness, steady & sourced & whole, by ourselves?

When do we stop falling & flailing for the game & delusion that this kind of empty romance holds any promise for a happiness of ever after, of something that can last?

There is a mature Eros & a higher version of all of this, rooted in relation & intimacy & real romance- which we long for- but first, before we can come into proximity of this possibility, we must decisively leave the games we play behind & self-initiate & will & intend our own Soul growth— to walk ourselves, to the other side of us- to our divine human status, our true & whole Self, in the here & now.

We must exit this false dream.

[alchemyofmaya]

A relationship or another person isn’t going to save you. Not if you aren’t aware of all the ways you do still need saving. The right people will be safe spaces where you can let your armour down, make you feel seen and heard, so you feel secure and supported enough to uncover and heal your fears and wounds. But no one can do the healing for you, but they can see you hurting and be there, so you no longer have to fear that your past makes you unworthy, undeserving, of being loved for all of you, during your process of healing.

We all want to know that we mean something even when we feel broken in this world. Find your people that you can authentically express your needs to. Remove yourself from people and places that keep triggering you, without giving you the space to heal.

[intuitive-wanderess]

I Am So Deserving Of A Soft Space

I am so deserving of a soft space. I give myself permission to raise my standards when it comes to the people I allow into my life, that I allow to interact with me. I am deserving of feeling seen, of having people that are soft, gentle and kind with me. I am deserving of having people that are curious about me.

I am deserving of having people in my life that are curious, lovingly curious about me...who want to show up for me in ways that are gentle and soft and kind and understanding. People who are not going to gaslight me, bully me or make me feel like my experience is without value. I deserve to be in a space where I don't have to run through a scenario 5,000 times before expressing it, for fear of being shut down.

I deserve grace. I deserve grace. I deserve grace.

I deserve the grace that I extend to others.

I deserve the grace that I extend to others.

I deserve the grace that I extend to others.

I deserve to feel safe. I deserve to feel heard. I deserve to feel seen. I deserve to not feel stupid or confused or wrong all the time, just because I'm struggling to express myself. Just because I have struggled to be vulnerable doesn't mean I deserve punishment. Just because I don't show up perfectly today doesn't mean I deserve punishment. I deserve energy that is gentle with me, that communicates with me, not the one that goes away for hours leaving me in the dark, nor the one that combats at me. I deserve to be in a space where I can earn money in a way that allows me to create with joy and intention, to be used in a way that people recognize my talents and want to embrace them & expound upon them. I deserve to be in a relationship where I can easily be myself, where I can easily express my feelings and be myself and know that it's not going to be thrown back at me.

I surrender. Universe, make me a reciprocal to my desires.

and so it is.

[tantra-san-diego]

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[providencereiki]

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[bixels]

Learning that fans hated Applejack and called her "boring" is crazyyy to me because I genuinely, unironically believe AJ's the most complex character in the main six.

Backstory-wise, she was born into a family of famers/blue collar workers who helped found the town she lives in. She grew up a habitual liar until she had the bad habit traumatized outta her. She lost both her parents and was orphaned at a young age, having to step up as her baby sister's mother figure. She's the only person in the main gang who's experienced this level of loss and grief (A Royal Problem reveals that AJ dreams about memories of being held by her parents as a baby). She moved to Manhattan to live with her wealthy family members, only to realize she'll never fit in or be accepted, even amongst her own family. The earlier seasons imply she and her family had money problems too (In The Ticket Master, AJ wants to go to the gala to earn money to buy new farm equipment and afford hip surgery for her grandma).

Personality-wise, she's a total people-pleaser/steamroller (with an occasional savior complex) who places her self worth on her independence and usefulness for other people, causing her to become a complete workaholic. In Applebuck Season, AJ stops taking care of herself because of her obsessive responsibilities for others and becomes completely dysfunctional. In Apple Family Reunion, AJ has a tearful breakdown because in she thinks she dishonored her family and tarnished her reputation as a potential leader –– an expectation and anxiety that's directly tied to her deceased parents, as shown in the episode's ending scene. In The Last Roundup, AJ abandons her family and friends out of shame because believes she failed them by not earning 1st place in a rodeo competition. She completely spirals emotionally when she isn't able to fulfill her duties toward others. Her need to be the best manifests in intense pride and competitiveness when others challenge her. And when her pride's broken, she cowers and physically hides herself.

Moreover, it's strongly implied that AJ has a deep-seated anger. The comics explore her ranting outbursts more. EQG also obviously has AJ yelling at and insulting Rarity in a jealous fit just to hurt her feelings (with a line that I could write a whole dissection on). And I'm certain I read in a post somewhere that in a Gameloft event, AJ's negative traits are listed as anger.

Subtextually, a lot of these flaws and anxieties can be (retroactively) linked to her parents' death, forcing her to grow up too quickly to become the adult/caregiver of the family (especially after her big brother becomes semiverbal). Notice how throughout the series, she's constantly acting as the "mom friend" of the group (despite everything, she manages to be the most emotionally mature of the bunch). Notice how AJ'll switch to a quieter, calmer tone when her friends are panicking and use soothing prompts and questions to talk them through their emotions/problems; something she'd definitely pick up while raising a child. Same with her stoicism and reluctance at crying or releasing emotions (something Pinkie explicitly points out). She also had a childhood relationship with Rara (which, if you were to give a queer reading, could easy be interpreted as her first 'aha' crush), who eventually left her life. (Interestingly enough, AJ also has an angry outburst with Rara for the same exact reasons as with EQG Rarity; jealous, upset that someone else is using and changing her). It's not hard to imagine an AJ with separation anxiety stemming from her mother and childhood friend/crush leaving. I'm also not above reading into AJ's relationship with her little sister (Y'all ever think about how AB never got to know her parents, even though she shares her father's colors and her mother's curly hair?).

AJ's stubbornness is a symptom of growing up too quickly as well. Who else to play with your baby sister when your brother goes nonverbal (not to discount Big Mac's role in raising AB)? Who else to wake up in the middle of the night to care for your crying baby sister when your grandma needs her rest? When you need to be 100% all the time for your family, you tend to become hard-stuck with a sense of moral superiority. You know what's best because you have to be your best because if you're aren't your best, then everything'll inevitably fall apart and it'll be your fault. And if you don't know what's best –– if you've been wrong the whole time –– that means you haven't been your best, which means you've failed the people who rely on you, which means you can't fulfill your role in the family/society, which makes you worthless . We've seen time and time again how this compulsive need to be right for the sake of others becomes self-destructive (Apple Family Reunion, Sound of Silence, all competitions against RD). We've seen in The Last Roundup how, when no longer at her best, AJ would rather remove herself from her community than confront them because she no longer feels of use to them.

But I guess it is kinda weird that AJ has "masculine" traits and isn't interested in men at all. It's totally justified that an aggressively straight, misogynistic male fandom would characterize her as a "boring background character." /s

At the time of writing this, it's 4:46AM.

[bluelir]

I just want someone to touch me tenderly not rough from their own trauma but from a clear and conscious soulful way.

[mymidwestheart]

[venuskind]

[placeoftheclearlight]

[magdalene-spirit]

[alchemyofmaya]

When you think you’ve met ‘the one’ and find yourself shapeshifting into everything you think they want, dimming your own light to fit inside a contemporary box. That is the moment you clip your own wings and lock yourself in a cage, that’s the moment you bind yourself in illusionary chains, bound in bondage to the old ways. You may have evolved and said you learnt your lessons. But the lesson was to be yourself, regardless of what doubts and fears you may have of showing up as your rawest most authentic self. Naked. Without all the labels and masks.

Or so you thought you did.

That’s when you begin that cycle again. Go through the motions and the triggers, to understand the message clearer, to dig deeper and break the pattern, so you don’t repeat the same things, and meet the same people in different bodies, again and again. There is No such thing as right person, wrong time. What’s meant for you comes to you, transformed in another form.

The One will be the one who stays, because you showed the real you and didn’t put on a different face. When you are so content with who you are, you don’t need to change yourself to be accepted — The ones who love YOU, will always stay.

[mymidwestheart]

Sooooo YES, aaaaand.

Neurodivergent people have a tendency towards hyperfixating on new loves/crushes too. Love bombing is a word often overhyped and overused. It is technically meant as an abusive term, a bait and switch, for eventual narcissistic and harmful abuse and neglect.

But honeymooning happens in most relationships, healthy ones too. You can enjoy the intensity, if it feels good to you. But what you shouldn’t let it do is cause you to dismiss your intuition or any red flags. That’s what love bombing does in the end, it causes us to look back and wonder how we missed the signs, when they were there all along.

And don’t make major life decisions in the first few months of a relationship. You haven’t even given it time to cycle through the seasons a relationship needs to see if it can even grow.

We know very little about someone in the first 2-6 months of dating.

Slow down and enjoy the ride, and trust your own heart. 🫶

talking to a Scorpio man for 2 months he is non stop calling and texting and am hanging out next week 😫 I'm a Scorpio rising and the chemistry is kinda insane it’s amazing, he wants a relationship

He’s love bombing you🚩it will be lust, not real love. You don’t rush something if it’s real love it, takes time, rushing things or into a relationship is lust, 2 months is early days to be in a relationship. You need to know a person and how do you know if it’s your soulmate. This is a huge red flag.