#Can Someone Stop A Divorce
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#poorly drawn mdzs#mdzs#wei wuxian#lan wangji#madam jin#jin zixuan#jiang yanli#'Hey what is WWX trying to do here?' some kind of grab-and-twist maneuver that would be very upsetting to watch.#I know LWJ technically assists WWX in this scene in terms of blocking someone's blow on his behalf -#- but let's be honest. Real friends stop you from doing the truly stupid things.#Or maybe it was envy. Penis envy. The non-freudian kind.#Regardless...man this whole scene was just full of “and then someone else walks in”.#I swear to god every cultivator who is supposed to be hunting ends up wandering into this part of the woods.#a bonus for me because it gives me several good joke opportunities.#Madam Jin gets top prize for best entrance and exit. I wish her all the best. And a divorce…madam please leave him…#And can we please address the horses? I love horses. But why...why do they ride in on horses when they HAVE FLYING SWORDS?#I can only imagine it is for the dramatic flair? It just feels so jarring hearing someone clip clop in#and then another person swoop in on a sword.#The rules of mdzs's world can get fuzzy and I have to nod in an impressed manner at how much MXTX gets away not explaining.#Maybe the sword gets tired after a while and they need to give it a break? Maybe there is a sword union that dictates working hour limits?#…Would that make Chenqing a scab? Oh god it would… unions *hate* this flute!
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“ aziraphale chose heaven over cr — “ shut UPPPP shut the fuck up aziraphale chose heaven over his own happiness THATS how selfless he is and if i have to read that one more time i’m throwing a tantrum
#someone’s head is going through a wall if i hear that again#i don’t care which wall you can pick the wall but it’s gonna be a wall#little gilmore girls reference there for ya ;)#oh my god aziraphale would LOVE gilmore girls i just know it#anyways#stop reducing his character to be soley based around crowley .#STOP IT .#azicrow#aziracrow#ineffable husbands#ineffable spouses#ineffable idiots#ineffable wives#ineffable divorce#good ineffable omens#ineffable lovers#ineffable bureaucracy#ineffable fandom#ineffable partners#good omens#good omens 2#aziraphale x crowley#crowley x arizaphale#aziraphale#crowley#michael sheen#david tennant#neil gaiman#lgbt#lgbtq
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the thing that gets me abt religious ppl is they'll demand u respect their religion & that religion hating your existence but they won't respect ur right to be like yea my belief says god isn't real so thats a dumb reason for hating other people or ye ok then ur god is homophobic thats kinda shitty they go APESHIT like. it goes both ways? like they can say i hate gay ppl bc of my religion but when a gay person says well i dont respect that religion bc it doesnt respect me its ww3. I'm not walking on eggshells for people who are too quick to condemn me to hell
#likeeee. ppl have been homophobic to me bc 'their religion condemns it' but i cant be like ok well then fuck ur religion?#but they can say okay fuck you and be hateful and intolerant like that?#why do i tolerate u if u wont tolerate me? im just#like to me as an atheist/agnostic im like. hearing that something i dont even think is real is why u hate me as a person is so insane#like 'its unnatural and wrong bc my religion says so' like ok. why does that have to affect me as someone who doesnt follow said religion#jusr wish more religious ppl were as understanding and non judgemental as they claim they are??#like ur gna say that shit to me? u think god likes that ur speaking for him rn? u rly see urself on the same level as god?#u think YOU can judge others? embarrassing#*smacks own ass* this baby can fit so much religious trauma#i love religion sm for some ppl but then other aspects of it im like why cant yall just modify this as society progresses#them books old as hell them writers didn't even know electricity but ur talking their word abt an entire group of ppl being wrong & evil?#i like when religious ppl apply the teachings to modern society & take into account how shit has changed#when ppl take the good parts of religion and focus on them and bring that religious warmth w them where they go is so nice#(my friends<333)#like they live by them teachings and are good ppl but dc abt divorce or abortion or gays bc society has changed & ppl ultimately deserve#control of their own bodies and shouldnt have to be trapped in bad partnerships#& girls who love other women and dont agree w the typical 'woman serve men' that a lot of religious old folk got goin on#if u can modify some stuff in the religious books whats stopping u extending that grace to literal people just being who they are
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I haven't seen this take a WHOLE lot, but I have seen it enough to get. Frustrated. About it.
So for anyone who doesn't get it: no, symptoms of mental illness are not, in every case, majorly or solely the result of Dealing With Capitalism. Sometimes, they can be! Sometimes the symptoms are situational, and those situations are heavily related to how much capitalism sucks! But many times they are not. I am sorry, but mental illness and trauma and neurodivergence are still going to exist even if capitalism completely goes away. We still have a responsibility to treat the people affected by and experiencing these things with compassion and understanding. We still have to. You know. Acknowledge that their life experience is going to be a lot different than many other's is.
#I promise that when my ocd onset happened at 10 years old I was not thinking about capitalism#germs are still going to exist post-capitalism. the concept of a good person vs a bad person is still going to exist post-capitalism#which means. if those are your OCD Themes™. then. you're still going to have OCD post-capitalism.#and this is true for. you know. EVERY INSTANCE OF THIS.#you take things that are rooted in trauma like did or ptsd. I hate to tell you this but mistreatment and the trauma that results from it#are still going to exist in a post-capitalist world. bad people who do bad things WILL ALWAYS EXIST. so those illnesses are likewise still#going to exist. plenty of anxiety-based symptoms are related to fears that. have nothing to do with capitalism or financial security.#they are DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS. THAT IS THE POINT.#if someone has anxiety that isn't completely situational. or if someone has paranoia. that disproportionate fear does not have to#have capitalism to exist. meaning. you know. those will ALSO still exist.#adhd and autism have nothing to fucking do with capitalism lmao.#the existence of. for example. schizophrenia and psychosis HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH CAPITALISM????????#like. we can talk about how much easier it would be for people to get care/accommodations under a non-capitalist system. we can talk about#how divorcing personal worth from the concept of 'productivity' would help the people who experience the things I've mentioned.#I'm not disputing that. but I've seen...a not-insignificant number of people downplay or outright DENY the existence of these#illnesses/experiences outside of 'languishing under the pressure of capitalism/tying your worth to productivity/worrying about financial#security' and that is simply not how it works my friends!#tw: suicidal ideation#like. sorry. I did not seriously consider killing myself at age 10 to escape The Disorder™ for you to tell me that all my issues with this#illness would go away forever if capitalism stopped existing LOL!! LMAO EVEN!!!!!#In the Vents#the real horror was the ableism we found along the way
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I just learned something so incredibly fucked up
#i am trembling#i cannot let this enable my issues with paranoia further! haha! oh my fucking god#im not joking btw im literally physically trembling. how did this happen oh god oh GOD nononono dont let it get to you#i just need to know. was someone like. double dealing? was someone telling him about it#i wouldnt give a shit if they were stalking me online occasionally (well id care a little bit but honestly itd just be kinda fucked)#but if someone was telling him about me and my personal stuff?#stop. i dont want to think about it. i dont want to think it happened. i have to get this out of my head#but still. absolutely fucking deranged.#ESPECIALLY bc apparently he's been saying i “made him think he was abusive'' and that doing that was shitty of me bc he actually#just has bpd??????#sol if you're reading this listen closely: one of my best friends has bpd. diagnosed and everything. so shut the fuck up#much like you've been saying i blamed my adhd for being neglectful (read: not meeting your sky-high standards for Truly Loving You 24/7)#you cannot blame your bpd for what a shit person you've been#repeatedly asking you to work on a flaw that's been hurting me is not telling you you're abusive you fucking prick#get a life‚ learn to care about other people away from what they can do for YOU‚#and LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE.#p.s. imagine being mad that people who were friends with both you and your partner didnt suddenly cut the other one off after you broke up#like actually angry at these people. what the actual fuck. you're like a divorced parent upset that their child still talks to their ex-wife#my posts
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I was talking to my husband about Catholicism last night and how fucked it is that mainstream Catholic institutions are still not on board with divorce of all things. Like, of all the regressive, institutionally backwards ideals held by mainstream religious bodies it really blows my mind that the Catholic church is one of the few clinging to the idea of divorce as an innately irreligious behavior
#It's such a low bar and it blows my mind that they refuse to stop tripping over it#Yeah you can 'separate' but you can't in the eyes of the church have another marriage - and to remarry (civically) is to leave you...#...in a permanent stand of bad standing within the church#It's crazy like you can't even do the bare minimum on this one issue#There are so many spiritually centered people who would be happy to remain in the church if they could divorce#It's like a horrible spiritual blackmail - sure you can remarry and have kids with someone you love (an act of which we approve 90%) but...#...you have to exist outside the reach of grace :/ sorry bout that babes enjoy purgatory
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To everyone making movies (and other kinds of stories too really): sometimes divorce would be the happy ending, just saying
#I wish someone out there acknowledged that sometimes your parents staying together is NOT a happy ending#that it can scar you just as much as a divorce can#but alas it always goes 'and so the wife decided to stay with the questionable husband and the kids were happy about it'#like I'm not saying there can't be movies/stories were the stuff changes for the better and it ends like that#but in my experience... it didn't go like that#and so I wish sometimes divorce would be framed as the happy ending because that's what it would have been for me#anyway I'm just thinking aloud and I should stop before I start oversharing#shine is random#(that last one tag is for organization purposes lol don't mind it)
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#don't think that i take for granted the fact that i was born into the happiest marriage/family in our entire extended clan#this family (on both sides) is rife with divorce and rebellious children and couples that have lost their spark and always seem sad#and sure my parents bicker on occasion and have teir frustrations like any couple#but they're in love! still! after 28 years!!! they're each other's best friends#and the three of us get along so wonderfully and we're always laughing together there is LOVE in this household#but that's just so vanishingly rare it feels like#none of my friends are this close to their parents#and idk i feel like most of the couples we know (not all but most) don't have the kind of happiness my parents have#so i'm in between having a huge appreciation for where i am in life#and fear that i'll never find something like that myself#like sometimes i just think too deeply about it and it feels so difficult so impossible#“this happens once every few lifetimes”#but then i think i'm just being paranoid and actually we DO know lots of very happy enduring couples#that CAN be me#but in a way it's just all a game of chance isn't it#no doubt someone out there would be a good fit for me but what if i never meet him#what if we just. miss each other#there's such a fine line between finding true love and eternal solitude#it can be anything a messed up coffee order a dinner you get invited to a job offer you accept#but you never know what it'll be!!!! and that's so scary!!!!!!!!!#okay i think i'm just making myself feel worse so i'll stop here and go to bed#but just. yea. food for thought on this night of my parents' anniversary#elly's posts
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Can stick-sonas come to life?
I launched a thread off of one of Tulip's posts a little while ago, but I don't want to continue to derail them so I'm making this its own post.
I asked what happens if a stick that's meant to be an avatar of their animator comes to life? But I'm realizing that I may not have been clear about my definition of "avatar" here, so I apologize for that.
When I say "avatar," what I really mean is more along the lines of "stick-sona." Not a self-insert, since it's not really used to tell stories (and I think if the creator did start telling a story with it then it would stop really being a stick-sona, because at that point it starts to become its own character separate from the creator), and honestly not really a mascot either, because it's representing one creator instead of an entire group of them.
So, AvA fandom, I have a challenge for you.
Think of your stick-sona. The stick you draw when it's supposed to be you, whether you're interacting with the characters or with your audience. The stick you draw almost like a signature; more to show the hand you had in the creation of an art piece, than as an actual part of the art. The stick you use to make announcements. The stick you use when you share life updates. The stick you answer ooc asks with. The stick you use when you want to preserve your privacy online but still give your followers some visual means of identifying you.
And ask yourself:
What would it mean, for your 'sona to come to life?
#animator vs animation#animation vs minecraft#avm shorts#ava shorts#sticksona#rhg#hyun's dojo#and just to clarify again#I don't mean a stick 'based on' or 'inspired by' an irl person#I mean a stick that for all intents and purposes is supposed to BE an irl person#no joke though#someone talk to me sometime about#having to divorce yourself slightly from your 'sona the MOMENT you start playing them AS A CHARACTER in a narrative#it takes some feats of mental gymnastics lemme tell 'ya#they really do stop being purely a representation of YOU and start to become their own concept#this is what roleplaying as yourself with your own characters does to a person I guess#in a way they're still more YOU than the 'sona ever was but#at the same time they're not really?#I guess what I'm saying is that once 'sonas BECOME self-inserts then they stop being 'sonas#and it's easier to understand how a self-insert can be you-but-not-you#because that's still a CHARACTER#it's just YOU...AS a character#a 'sona is different#ava enthusiasts#<- discovering never-before-seen layers of meta between creator and creation
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#hello i just found out my dad might be getting another divorce and he's not telling me :))))#he might be already separated from his wife living back in my hometown with who knows who :))))))))#so he left a woman who he has cheated with on my mom and basically destroyed whole family :))))))))))))))#i don't have any reliable sources for this ans I can't ask him but it is eating me inside#and I had my suspicions since Christmas but I just thought they are having some tough period#so whenever I called him I tried to check of everything is okay and everything seemed okay#and I just hope they're still maybe just going through something but they will end up back together again#and i won't know because we don't talk about our problems in my family you need to be always happy#and god forbid you bother someone with your problems#i am sorry of this is too personal but it's making me freak out a little bit#i just can't stop thinking about it#and is it bad that I actually feel sad that I won't ever see his cats again if his wife keeps them?#ugh how the fuck can you divorce twice in your life?????#and does this mean that I also have some fucked up genes in me????#i was kinda hoping he would come to visit me for my birthday because I don't want to be alone but I doubt it will happen now#i just miss him and i want that he's hapy#okay that's enough i just needed to get this out of me#have a wonderful day everyone I'm going to take a shower because I ran 5km today so at least that's something positive
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you know that scene in nocturnal animals when jake gyllenhaal’s character says to amy adams “when you love someone, you work it out. you don't just throw it away. you have to be careful with it, you might never get it again” I feel it very close to my heart
#you have to work constantly on your relationship even if you think it’s established and good you#especially IF it's established#you can’t treat them for granted#I lost someone dear to me because of this#I could’ve lose another person because of this#and my friend is getting a divorce because for her it was death by a thousand cuts with her husband#oh this is all so sad. please cherish people that you love#and you can work everything out if you both want it#thank you tom ford thank you jake for delivering it#Amy’s face at the end of the movie says it all. he was right and got his revenge on her at the end#I’ve watched that movie in 2016 and started reflecting on it like.. just NOW#I wasn’t scared of losing my loved once then I guess#and now I have and it terrifies me#i also always wondered did she really have a daughter? with army hammer’s character or that was like a dream sequence?#oh that scene when Edward founds out about her abortion#oh the sadness#okay it’s time to stop
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Whatever else you wanna say about Izzy’s death I find it so heinous to say shit like, “He didn’t blame him because it was his fault, he provoked him” girl Ed is not a wild dog. He’s a human being. If I provoked my roommate by telling him he’s a shit roommate who I hate and wish was dead, he’s not allowed to even hit me, let alone chop off 3 of my toes and shoot me in the leg and whatever else is implied by All That (which for my own sanity I have to ignore or else it gets worse 😩)
#like the implications to me#as someone with a basic amount of knowledge when it comes to abuse#is that this is the final escalation of their relationship#like this is that final horrific lead up to when an abused partner gets murdered#and he very much does attempt to murder him and does basically do some weird family annhilation shit#and like that shot was dark as hell#but because we know we’re Supposed to be in silly pirate land#we give some leeway to the gratuitousness of the violence#that is heavily coded as domestic violence which was already a bold choice for the main romantic lead#until we can no longer give leeway because what the fuck did he just APOLOGIZE#for Making Him Abuse Him?!?!?#there is a difference between setting up a character#as a man who does violence to random others because he’s in the violence job and it’s a genre show#and making him a man who does violence (mutilates) his wife coded subordinate for… speaking out of turn and saying the equivalent#of fuck you I want a divorce#anyways sorry one day I’ll stop getting mad#pirate bitching
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A nonorientable shape is a shape that can be illustrated but cannot actually be created in real life. I have discovered a new nonorientable shape I call it "two people living in the same house and working to love each other unconditionally without it eventually falling apart"
#for gods sake do NOT reblog i'm just having a 'my parents divorced when i was an adult' moment#and also a 'suddenly friend divorced by like 3 roommates' moment#i am so afraid that no one can love unconditionally. someone will always give up!!!! they will always stop trying#also found out that actually infidelity WAS a factor in my parent's divorce. not the main reason but like. It Was There.#i should be given a license to kill#i hate being pessimistic and bitter. stop doing this to me#i am such a love prevails bitch at heart........if it's a delusion then just let me live in it!!!#not soc#delete later#but maybe not just bc the shape thing is funny#dont reblog
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i figured it out i cracked the code
#ive always related romantic relationships = emotional stability#even though im literally a divorced parents kid#so i kept going into relationships thinking ''this will fix me his will make me feel better im sure im sure nothing will go wrong with this#bc its always sold as his happy ever after#so i always thought that for me to have someone i can always rely on and count on and love i had to be in a relationship#so now that im realizing wait shit i dont like this kind of relationship#im also realizing wait shit! i need to learn how to get emotionally fulfilled in a way im comfortable with!#and thats like a whole ride#god man i . am not excited to overshare this i think im gonna hidr it deep within my soul#tumblr doesnt count none of you even know what i look like#thats why i got so sad i ended the relationship bc i thought oh my god im losing one of my bestest friends#and i couldnt handle that i got sad that i made him sad by accidentally leading him on and then finding out im aromantic#which is like not my fault but also technically it is so i have tot ake responsability for it and get over my sad ass#and move on ! and give importance to what i care about ! to the people i love and cherish! to my friends!!!#i need to learn to love them i guess#i am way too melodramatic for this i need to leave. i need t stop.
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"This study says...", sorry mate but your bias is so on your sleeve that I'm not gonna be trusting any studies you cite because the thing is it's very easy to do a "study" that says anything you want, and it's just not worth my time to read tripe that just coincidentally supports exactly your position
(This is about "articles" that have "evidence" that just so happens to align with what the writer would want, and it's for some site that's gonna have massive bias. To make something up as an example, if Atheism.com has an article talking about how this study proves god doesn't exist... maybe you can see why I think they probably have their finger on the scale a bit and it's not really worth my time reading either the article or the study)
(Bonus summary of thoughts in the tags, realized why this most bothers me is it kinda stops being able to have an earnest conversation about important topics cause... yeah; this stuff is worth discussing but we can't when you're presenting evidence that's from one of the most biased sources on the subject you could possible have managed)
#like I just saw an article linked on here that immediately I could sniff out massive bias in#and despite how they were 'just asking questions' I already knew what they were going to say#and it's like... I'm not even gonna bother fucking engaging with some 27 note post with some smart people treating it like it's interesting#I'm not changing their mind; this isn't about rational ideas; it's about them believing something and wanting to back it up#and like... I get it; I probably do it even if I don't want to and then tell myself I'm being rational and it all lines up#so I'm not gonna talk about it#but the bias in just the article title alone became obvious#the site looks like a insular circlejerk that has the answer for everything already laid out and is gonna work backwards#it's just a bit ass; you know?#and like sorry mate; you can't present this as evidence#if I let you do this then I'll have to let the tankies come in with an article about how imperialism needs boats#and it'll just open up the floodgates of stupid opinions#but most of all... I ain't reading all that when someone's so obviously wrong#oh and I really wish I could tell you what this was about but... you know me... I don't like arguing#just kinda fucking stupid#and mhh... just goes back to people thinking that there's one correct way to do things#man that's stupid; everyone requires their own path through life#and I may not think that much of it is a wise idea; like crypto; if you're investing stop it; get some help#but I'm not just magically gonna change anyone's mind saying that#...we gotta work with the world as it is#not... mhh... ok; we're deep enough in the tags and the person who posted it is busy enough I don't think they'll read this#so I'll just come out and say that it was saying no fault divorce is bad for kids#As much as our society with its affinity for sentimentality and utilitarianism may try to deny it#a loveless marriage causes less damage to a child than does divorce#those last two tags are a word for word quote only missing the commas cause tumblr tags#and I don't really care what 'study' you cite... you're fucking stupid#as a kid where my parents divorced when I was like 4; you're fucking stupid#I promise the shit that's fucked up about me has more to do with the parents than the divorce#and basically you can just blow your stupid trad bullshit out your ass#oh; the trad christian website just happens to find evidence that divorce shouldn't be allowed; well good thing there's no bias here
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on a more serious note....Stephen, why are you letting your husband propose to someone else while you are away....please come and get him and set him straight.
#im sorry you are a monogmous man in a relationship with someone who is not#but you need to set him straight#so he can stop acting a fool#i know he refuses to finalize his part of the divorce but that doesn't mean you can abandon him and let him make a fool of himself!!!
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