#Basically she's like
Explore tagged Tumblr posts
Text
the tradwife movement is the same as it has always been - back in the kitchen, back to breeding - it just has better branding.
when i was younger, i hated pink. i was not like other girls. this is now something i'm embarrassed of - this was not me being a "girl's girl."
but it was expressing something many of us felt at the time: i literally wasn't what girlhood was supposed to be. this is a hard thing to explain, but you know when you're not performing girlhood correctly. it isn't as easy as "i liked x when girls liked y" - because there were other girls that liked x, too - but i never figured out exactly the correct way to like x, or to be interested in y.
now there is the divine feminine. this is the same rhetoric it has always been: women are biologically driven to like pink and ribbons and submitting to our husbands.
the problem is that the patriarchy found a better PR team. because yes, actually, i want every woman to have the choice to be a homemaker. i also want her taken seriously for her legitimate home-making labor. i want her to be recognized as also having a job, just unpaid. i want men to have this opportunity, too.
but it is no longer "i made this choice and I love it." instead it is a sixteen-paragraph rant about how selfish it is that my generation isn't having kids. instead it's long videos about how if you feed your children processed foods, you're going to kill them. instead it is "this is what womanhood is supposed to be. i feel bad for any other choices you're making."
the shame spiral is just prettier. it is large houses devoid of personality. it is the implication: if you don't have this, you aren't happy. the solid, everlasting assurance: women are actually supposed to be submitting. this is the default. this is the natural state of things. all other attempts inflict suffering.
but you can no longer say i'm not like other girls. you can no longer reject this image completely. you cannot find it revolting, even if you know that the underbelly is toxic and festering. sure, it is the same repackaged patriarchy. but the internet does not have shades of grey. you should support and reward other women! your disgust is actually internalized misogyny. not because you are seeing a vision of yourself the way they're trying to train you to be. not because you feel her ghost pass within an inch of your earlobe. not because your father will eventually ask you - why can't you be like her?
because they figured out how to make it beautiful: women will sell other women on this idea, and we will find the singular loophole in feminism. sure, she's shaming you in most of her videos. sure, she implies that a different life is obscene. but she just wants you to be happy! you'd be happier if you were listening!
and the whole time you're sitting there thinking: i'd actually just be happier if i had that kind of money.
#spilled ink#writeblr#warm up#this is an incredibly difficult idea to express#but i basically keep watching the same timelooped interaction:#someone makes tradwife content where she's like ''i think it's SO sad when ppl don't have kids EW''#and then the response is ''... go fuck yourself? i think ur life is miserable and bad ?"#and instead of being like ''oh we are all under capitalism huh''#the response is like ''you CANT say that. she made a CHOICE. she is ALLOWED to have KIDS and be HAPPY#unlike YOU who is UNHAPPY bc you don't have KIDS.''#like .... these are people who will throw the first stone. and then when you lob one back#they ask why you're so violent. they tell you that you're a bad activist.#and you're like. PARDON????? you implied being a woman meant i need to submit to my husband???#and they're like - well it's just my belief. so what if i'm invalidating your entire identity.
11K notes
·
View notes
Note
Now I wanna more about Dani and her lavender marriage.
-guess
Yeah- so lavender moment because of the time- she probably would've gotten married between the wars, in her 20s. There's no universe where Dani would've accepted a housewife role, so the fact that women were more widely being brought into workplaces to make up for numbers would've been great timing. Because rahhh patriotism, she's doing this to help out her country definitely not because she wants to be financially independent
I think her parents would've had the expectations of the time of oh god it's a girl, too bad ig let's ship her off to a husband asap. To which the logical response is finding someone who isn't going to demand a typical wife role- so how do you do that, oh yeah just nab a guy who isn't attracted. Dani definitely wouldn't have been open about her sexuality, because as much as the thing of oh no lesbians don't exist because women could never get their dainty brains around homosexuality so we shan't persecute the women! went on, obviously there was a lot of prejudice and homegirl does not want to get fired from a position she worked her ass off to get to
Because of this, the guy she got with was probably a very quick oh you're fruity come with me 🤝 situation. Probably literally someone in the local community she saw walking around with one of the little gay codes they had back then. Proposes marriage like a business deal to get both their families, as well as the general prejudices against single middleaged people, off their backs
So marriage, Dani swears on the bible that she'll love this guy she met a couple months ago, all good
The issues obviously coming in with the fact she's expected to have children. Trust, she would love to have children (maybe 1 kid max, I don't think she really likes kids all that much), but obviously there's very little way to go about that. The guy she's with doesn't particularly want a kid, because it's economic crisis after economic crisis, and they're both already having to work, imagine another human to feed, you're practically begging for the mines. So basically the kid is a no go , which gets a lot of side glances from people they know
Eventually, it's just a chill working marriage , with both of them going out with people if, god forbid, they get the chance, come home, how's your day been sweetie, great I shagged a guy
But it gets to a point where despite Dani being in this marriage to avoid the "wifely duties", that stuff still ends up happening. And she is no pussy, she points this out to get sorted right away. Immediately to be continuously met with oh it's your job, that's what the woman does bullshit. Even more, because of the expectation to have kids, she has to make up excuses. But what excuses can you really make? Because most of the time the blame would immediately go straight on her no matter the excuse. And she can't risk that because she needs that job, otherwise she's dependant on the guy who suddenly switched his tune with their marriage
And what do people who are in a position where there's basically no other option do? Get sought out by the commission obviously
#Basically she's like#Oi this guy never told me he was a prick#I'm having none of that bye#And (slightly reluctantly) eventually gets assigned to a queer young man who faced some of the same issues#Except this kid weaponised his identity against his parents out of spite which she finds funny#And she's like fuck commission but a kids a kid let's get this guy top surgery and a hero complex#dani talk
1 note
·
View note
Text
*proceeds to drink the whole bottle*
Yeah Alastor you're gonna be loved and appreciated wether you want it or not :)
#hazbin hotel#hazbin hotel fanart#hazbin alastor#hazbin rosie#radiorose#platonic radiorose#qpr radiorose#even tho they have no idea what label to put on their relationship at this point#hazbin comic#comic#my art#autodesk sketchbook#it probably looks ooc from alastor to react like this but poor man has only learned his whole life that relationships have a hierarchy#“marriage > a simple friendship” in his brain and it's confusing for him that Rosie would put her friendship with him over that#also Rosie was pissed of how terrible her date went and as soon as she comes home Alastor sides with her ex husband#just to explain why she got angry so quickly basically they couldnt really understand each other that's why they got angry#I love cute fluffy radiorose but its good to see them argue sometimes eheh#I needed to get this idea out of my system and made it into a whole comic
8K notes
·
View notes
Text
And then I noticed that jinx’s balloon she flies in on has bunny ears painted on it. And markings on the side to match her little goggles
Pain. Suffering even
#arcane#arcane spoilers#arcane jinx#isha arcane#a lot of people were complaining that isha barely gets a mention in act 3#but like#she's the catalyst for basically everything jinx does in this act#she inspires jinx to become the version of herself that she believed in#and for jinx to make the sacrifice she did in the end#in the same way that isha did#with a smile on her face#like isha is all over this act#without the show shoving it in your face or trying to exploit her death in a cheap way#also jinx not to criticize but when did u have the time for all that#like the end is nigh but also lemme get a fun little accent piece on my war balloon
3K notes
·
View notes
Text
Celebrity Lookalike
#i sound so stupid but in real life she looked way more like inuyasha than even in my art this is so dumb#ah#embarrassing#art#comics#shitpost#basically
17K notes
·
View notes
Text
FNAF movie Vanessa definitely thought Abby died..
#myart#chloesimagination#comic#fnaf#five nights at freddy's#fnaf vanessa#vanessa shelly#vanessa afton#mike schmidt#abby schmidt#fnaf bonnie#fnaf movie#fnaf fanart#MORE VANESSA THOUGHTS 🔥#that one scene where Abby basically explodes is so funny#I’m not even sure why Bonnie’s guitar shocks anyone who touches it#(including Bonnie himself)#but I do wonder if half a second Vanessa straight up thought Abby exploded#like oh she’s for sure dead before seeing she was still breathing#ITS A FAIR assumption too seeing she’s a lil girl#and also in games touching Bonnie’s guitar wrong does end you#maybe Vanessa is being hyper protective too here#but again don’t blame her at all just wants to keep Abby safe! 🩵🩵
4K notes
·
View notes
Text
i think maggie would be the only person in the leverage universe who DOES notice the leverage team members occasionally becoming famous. like she’d tune into the world news and then have to call the team to check if sophie really died in a small european country during a turbulent election. "no but wasn’t my funeral so poignant? they put my face on the $20 note!" okay great glad to know you’re not dead. she watches a game of baseball on TV and just sighs deeply when the camera pans to eliot. next time she sees the team, she compliments his baseball skills. for some reason he mutters something about a sandwich while looking wistfully into the distance.
#leverageposting#leverage#maggie leverage#maggie collin’s#she’s the only person immune to tv logic in a tv show (usually)#i mean as much as i joke abt ‘oh wouldnt ppl notice that sophie looks like a murdered first lady’ the answer is rlly no probably not#but maggie’s eye for detail + picking up on irregularities + awareness of lev team + tendency to run into lev team…#she’s like ‘how are you out there clark kenting it and not getting caught’ it bothers her#and she’s basically cursed with this knowledge. it keeps happening to her.
3K notes
·
View notes
Text
"(Sigh) We'll continue this another ti- mmf?!"
With a guy like Jamil, you really gotta pick up the slack sometimes. No tie to pull on though, so I guess we'll just have to use that hoodie!
(Inspired by this artwork by オレコ on Pixiv!)
Bonus Jamil for the rest of the day:
#my art#twisted wonderland#twst#jamil viper#jamil viper x yuu#oc#twst oc#shiokawa mayu#jamimayu#this was well worth losing sleep for#when i say i locked in#ill probably add more tags later when i wake up but like#the moment i remembered that set of images existed the other day#i was like#wait thats them#i gotta redraw#cue a few days of me drawing basically nothing but this#enjoy their first proper kiss#and kabedon ig#girls who look shy but are actually really forward my beloved#if its not obvious she's pulling him downward in the last pic#gotta compensate for that height diff u see#edit: forgot his eye makeup in the last one literally unviewable#and some other small fixes
2K notes
·
View notes
Text
Learning that fans hated Applejack and called her "boring" is crazyyy to me because I genuinely, unironically believe AJ's the most complex character in the main six.
Backstory-wise, she was born into a family of famers/blue collar workers who helped found the town she lives in. She grew up a habitual liar until she had the bad habit traumatized outta her. She lost both her parents and was orphaned at a young age, having to step up as her baby sister's mother figure. She's the only person in the main gang who's experienced this level of loss and grief (A Royal Problem reveals that AJ dreams about memories of being held by her parents as a baby). She moved to Manhattan to live with her wealthy family members, only to realize she'll never fit in or be accepted, even amongst her own family. The earlier seasons imply she and her family had money problems too (In The Ticket Master, AJ wants to go to the gala to earn money to buy new farm equipment and afford hip surgery for her grandma).
Personality-wise, she's a total people-pleaser/steamroller (with an occasional savior complex) who places her self worth on her independence and usefulness for other people, causing her to become a complete workaholic. In Applebuck Season, AJ stops taking care of herself because of her obsessive responsibilities for others and becomes completely dysfunctional. In Apple Family Reunion, AJ has a tearful breakdown because in she thinks she dishonored her family and tarnished her reputation as a potential leader –– an expectation and anxiety that's directly tied to her deceased parents, as shown in the episode's ending scene. In The Last Roundup, AJ abandons her family and friends out of shame because believes she failed them by not earning 1st place in a rodeo competition. She completely spirals emotionally when she isn't able to fulfill her duties toward others. Her need to be the best manifests in intense pride and competitiveness when others challenge her. And when her pride's broken, she cowers and physically hides herself.
Moreover, it's strongly implied that AJ has a deep-seated anger. The comics explore her ranting outbursts more. EQG also obviously has AJ yelling at and insulting Rarity in a jealous fit just to hurt her feelings (with a line that I could write a whole dissection on). And I'm certain I read in a post somewhere that in a Gameloft event, AJ's negative traits are listed as anger.
Subtextually, a lot of these flaws and anxieties can be (retroactively) linked to her parents' death, forcing her to grow up too quickly to become the adult/caregiver of the family (especially after her big brother becomes semiverbal). Notice how throughout the series, she's constantly acting as the "mom friend" of the group (despite everything, she manages to be the most emotionally mature of the bunch). Notice how AJ'll switch to a quieter, calmer tone when her friends are panicking and use soothing prompts and questions to talk them through their emotions/problems; something she'd definitely pick up while raising a child. Same with her stoicism and reluctance at crying or releasing emotions (something Pinkie explicitly points out). She also had a childhood relationship with Rara (which, if you were to give a queer reading, could easy be interpreted as her first 'aha' crush), who eventually left her life. (Interestingly enough, AJ also has an angry outburst with Rara for the same exact reasons as with EQG Rarity; jealous, upset that someone else is using and changing her). It's not hard to imagine an AJ with separation anxiety stemming from her mother and childhood friend/crush leaving. I'm also not above reading into AJ's relationship with her little sister (Y'all ever think about how AB never got to know her parents, even though she shares her father's colors and her mother's curly hair?).
AJ's stubbornness is a symptom of growing up too quickly as well. Who else to play with your baby sister when your brother goes nonverbal (not to discount Big Mac's role in raising AB)? Who else to wake up in the middle of the night to care for your crying baby sister when your grandma needs her rest? When you need to be 100% all the time for your family, you tend to become hard-stuck with a sense of moral superiority. You know what's best because you have to be your best because if you're aren't your best, then everything'll inevitably fall apart and it'll be your fault. And if you don't know what's best –– if you've been wrong the whole time –– that means you haven't been your best, which means you've failed the people who rely on you, which means you can't fulfill your role in the family/society, which makes you worthless . We've seen time and time again how this compulsive need to be right for the sake of others becomes self-destructive (Apple Family Reunion, Sound of Silence, all competitions against RD). We've seen in The Last Roundup how, when no longer at her best, AJ would rather remove herself from her community than confront them because she no longer feels of use to them.
But I guess it is kinda weird that AJ has "masculine" traits and isn't interested in men at all. It's totally justified that an aggressively straight, misogynistic male fandom would characterize her as a "boring background character." /s
At the time of writing this, it's 4:46AM.
#mlp#yeah i wrote this last night during insomnia.#yeah i know an embarrassing amount of crap about this kids show#but whatever it's my hyperfixation i'll store as much useless information as i want!!!#i'm gay and neurodivergent i have an excuse#in case you needed more proof that aj's my favorite character#personal#delete later#unless you like this analysis stuff#i get why they didn't reveal aj's parent's death until way later and why they didn't do much with it but i wish they did#cuz narratively there could've been so much material with aj's grief. like. i feel like we gloss over the fact that she lost her#mother and father as a teenager#i tried keeping my personal hcs out of this to keep it unbiased#but i'll put some in the tags#involving rarijack –– i think aj can be (but not always) very self-conscious about her relationship with rarity#anxieties that she's not the right fit or that rarity will move away and leave her some day or that another woman will take her attention#(like in rollercoaster of friendship?? nudge nudge??). basic seperation anxiety stuff#long post#regarding applebloom whenever i think about her and her parents i think about that scene in steven universe where steven looks up at#a portrait of his mother and openly wonders what kind of sack lunches she would've made for him. that episode still fucks me up
7K notes
·
View notes
Text
xin mo did not become the demonic op sword of all three realms for this!!! for @kawouwu who asked for binggeyuan sillies! thank you for your donation to svsss' gotcha 4 gaza!
#scum villain#svsss#shen yuan#bingge#bingyuan#binggeyuan#shen qingqiu#mxtx#my art#donations may be closed but many of the listed campaigns are still going!!!#sy's younger sister is a kpop fan and takes full credit for giving lbh the idea to make that sy-themed trinket on xin mo btw#i like to think that lbg and her get along like a house on fire#he brings top tier skin care and misc beauty products from his realm#while she shares embarrassing stories of sy's childhood and baby pictures#i covered lbh's speech#but he's basically saying how sy has a shrine dedicated to him (pidw merch)#and clothes bearing his mark (pidw limited collabs with clothing brands)#so it's only natural that he too should carry a symbol of his devotion to sy#you know#as an sy stan
5K notes
·
View notes
Text
I keep on hearing people go all "The voice of the Smitten is such a creep. All he wants in the princess is someone to control and keep as a pretty object. He'd drop the princess if she wasn't the perfect petite maiden like in the damsel route." and I will not stand for the Smitten slander.
Like- He's been in love with her as a burning corpse ghost lady:
A terrifying ghost woman who wants to bring fear and chaos to the world:
And even a murderous blade monster woman who would kill you and enjoy every second of it:
Like, he ALWAYS loves the princess no matter what she looks like or how she acts, he loves her for being herself no matter what or who she is. That's the point of his character and I'm tired of people slandering my boy.
#dappy's twaddles#slay the princess#he loves the princess quite literally unconditionally#He'd love her even if she were a worm#voice of the smitten#cw burns#cw gore#cw blood#I feel like that's also like- The actual flaw of him ppl look over#It's 'Oh his flaw is that he only loves an idealized version of the princess' which couldn't be farther from the truth#His real flaw is that he loves the princess NO MATTER WHAT even if she was the most evil horrid person he'd still die for her#And while that sounds good initially that leads to a lot of messy things in excess#because yeah- still loving and basically white knighting for someone no matter how awful they are isn't a good thing
3K notes
·
View notes
Text
#★ arin rambles#★ my art#art#honkai star rail#hsr aventurine#hsr#So basically me and my bestie have agreed that aven has a priv twt acc and its terrible#yheres only like 1 follower (and its topaz) shes sick of it cuz he posts at the dead of night and its such drastic changes#Like he’d post ‘Sometimes I think about how I’m older than my older sister now.’#and hes So Sad#and then like 12 minutes later post something like ‘staring at ratio’s cleavage rn not listening to a word hes saying’#Also ratio isnt allowed to know abt it cuz hes gushing about him constantly like a schoolgirl#anyway so this is Not That. this is the trash he posts though#ignore that one normal cat it was genuinely too cute i didnt wanan erase it .
8K notes
·
View notes
Text
You're the best, Moira !
#overwatch#overwatch 2#moira#moira o'deorain#sigma#siebren de kuiper#i like to think she has to hold his hand otherwise he'll float away#you can thank my wife for this because they basically gave me the idea#this is not ship art but i dont really care if you see it that way#CRYPTCOOP ART
4K notes
·
View notes
Text
Birds of a Feather previous / next
#my art#feralnette au#birds of a feather#long tags#sorry I went apeshit in the tags#LETS SAY IT ALL TOGETHER NOW#I - M - A - G - OOOOOOOOO#its fun drawing marinette's back to Alya and having her appear stout and unstoppable and totally logical#and then you see her face and she's like two seconds from completely snapping and is keeping it together by a thread#as a note just because mari feels very certainly abt smth doesnt mean she's right. feelings can be valid and also irrational#in the throes of grief she decided it was better to be alone than to lose someone again so she started pulling away#and lila made pulling away very very very easy to do#shes also vaguely aware she's being unfair in pinning this on alya which is why she started spinning the drain on cockmoth again#legitimately all the shit that's happened to her wouldn't have been so catastrophic if he was never in the picture and she knows it#but the bitterness of her bestie choosing a fantastic liar over her at the worst of times stiiiiiings#alya's personal timing was bad but lila really took advantage of the fact that marinette had been acting off and weird#she basically clocked marinette as being unstable from SOMETHING and made up a lie about her#knowing she wouldn't have the strength to defend herself#between her social life going tachy bc of lila and losing fu in a way that felt like personhood death marinette was really put on the spot#and alya doing her thing of busting in there and assuming her bias is correct was a terrible combo#essentially marinette is highly unstable and alya is just realizing that#busting in and giving her a lecture when she's slightly hysterical and definitely delirious from exhaustion is NOT the way#to show her she's self sabotaging#cuz thats just gonna make her double down on self sabotaging. bc marinette will not accept that she is also a CHIIIIILD
4K notes
·
View notes
Text
Thoughts of a newly resurrected girl
#dungeon meshi#farcille#falin touden#marcille donato#falin x marcille#welcome to my yuri mind palace ^ _ ^#i think falin is going through it basically. i think marcille is putting her through hell#Marcille is like we are GIRL BESTIES <3 let me touch you ever so tenderly I MISSED YOU SO MUCH !!!#but let's not talk about it or anything too deeply haha.#sorry that i think marcille is repressed. sorry. but i believe with the character development she goes through during the manga#that will change#falin can fix her#my art
5K notes
·
View notes
Text
trying to work out how to draw the lesbian from that lesbian game now that I’ve finally played it (Signalis)
#my art#Signalis#She looks so much like one of my own OCs I’m basically just trying not to draw Nine instead#elster
4K notes
·
View notes