#Badly treated women sure. But that's a whole other problem

[ghostywind]

Trying to do some daily scribbles. I've decided I like this "Valvanas".

[fuzziemutt]

On the views of Rio in relation to Miguel within fandom

There's something I'm commonly seeing that has been worrying me which is the depictions of Rio "latina mom-ing" Miguel.

This includes Rio:

- slapping him

- coming at him with "the chancla"

- "dressing him down" verbally or yelling

- humiliating him

- straight up just... Beating him up

And I'm bringing this up because guys... This shit be low-key racist. I know racism towards latines has already been a problem (Yes. I am gesturing to the everything that is how Miguel is treated within the fandom), but I personally wanted to bring up this issue as well as I'm unsure if others have talked about it- and we all know how suck ass searching anything on this site is.

Anyways, I won't lie. I don't know how many latines are making these jokes, but it being so prevalent being her "main" interactions makes me feel even if it started as a latine joke, it sure as hell didn't stay that way.

But the depiction of Latina women as fierce, aggressive and (yes it is) straight up physically abusive (in general words) is a major fucking Problem. Latinas are often depicted in media as these "feisty exotic women" who takes no shit. Perpetuating that with Rio does not feel as #girl power as you guys might think. It feels like a step back in treating latinas not as these power houses but as... Y'know... People who aren't depicted as aggressors 24/7....

But also I really hate this cutesy look at what is a serious issue within latine communities. It's always "ha ha funny" seeing a Latina mom beating someone's ass but guys. That is still physical abuse. That is a serious issue and discussion that is held within the latine community. And seeing it so casually assigned to Rio kind of makes me feel sick.

And this isn't even tacking on that you're having a Latina beating/acting aggressive towards a canonical child abuse survivor (yes. Miguel is a child abuse survivor.) Which adds a whole new layer of how shitty this actually is.

Because I hate how people are boiling Rio down to just being an aggressor towards Miguel to "put him in his place". That's discrediting her character so badly.

Yes, latinas can be strong. Yes, latinas can be angry. Yes, latinas can get aggressive.

These are things people are and do because people are complex.

But I really need the fandom to stop for a second and really think about how they saw Rio, witnessed her give her heart on the screen, - a mom who's trying so hard to break these cycles of yelling and humiliation with kindness and understanding (even being a foil to Jeff's strong headed approach on purpose) -

took her and said "she would perpetuate a real cycle of abuse towards a fellow latino because he's the 'bad one'" and laughed.

I know you guys are depicting her like this as a means to defend Miles, but maybe not like this. Her character doesn't deserve being so bastardized like this for your stolen joke.

(which this whole "need" to defend him in the first place points right back to the racism towards Miguel if we're honest. I have complex thoughts on Miguel's interactions with Miles especially involving the end train scene but boiling a traumatized Latino man down to just being an "aggressive threat" that needs to be "put in place" as I've mentioned above is racist as hell too.)

You guys can reblog this, but don't fucking guilt trip people into reblogging this okay? I'm not giving you brownie points for that shit.

[deathmetalunicorn1]

Ello! It's me again I want to thank you again for doing my Hantengu request, I wanted to come by again to request the ror x akaza reader

Where Akaza reader is fighting against an god and they give off a good fight so it makes reader get excited for this fight giving everything that she's got, ending it in an tie since they have big wounds and they end up getting romantical with each other possibly leading to something

You can choose the pairing :>

Akaza Reader

-When offered, you took the chance to enter Ragnarok, hearing that you could fight some strong opponents. That’s all you wanted, you wanted a fight- a real one.

-You enjoyed watching the fights, seeing all of the strong opponents in both gods and humans that came before you, a grin on your face as your eyes seemed to sparkle, hoping your fight was going to be just as intense!

-You nearly sprinted to the field when you were told it was your turn, you felt almost like a kid again, antsy and vibrating with anticipated excitement!

-Your opponent looked strong, but you had faced so many in your past that looked strong and you beat them within moments, so you held back in your excitement for a fight, just until he was able to prove himself.

-He was able to take your punches and kicks with no real problems, blocking them pretty easily and when you blocked his first return blow, one that had you skidding back in the field, a bright grin appeared on your face, “So you are strong! Let’s have the best fight ever!!”

-Your opponent seemed amused by your enthusiasm and you both treated the crowds to one of the most exciting fights of the tournament, trading blows back and forth, you had gotten pretty badly injured, and so did he, but a little bit of pain did little to deter your joy.

-Your opponent had never seen someone so excited to fight before, especially a woman, but he didn’t see you as a woman in that moment, he saw you as a warrior.

-You awoke in the infirmary, not really remembering what had happened, confused as you mumbled out, “Did I lose?” a chuckle to the bed next to you had you looking over, seeing (Love) there, “It was a tie, we knocked each other out with that last attack.”

-You pouted lightly, your gaze returning to the roof before you sighed softly before turning to him with a grin, “Wanna have a rematch?”

-Raiden- He boomed with laughter, finding your enthusiasm to fight refreshing, flexing the one arm you didn’t break, “Sure thing! But let’s get healed up first and get some food first. My treat!” you were surprised before grinning yourself, “Is that how you ask all women out, fighting them then asking them to dinner?” he laughed again, giving you a boyish grin, “Only the ones who can kick my ass, which so far is only you.” You then flirted back, chuckling, “Good, then I’ll keep you all to myself then! I’m not losing the one person that I can go all out on.” The two of you went back and forth and by the time you were both discharged you were already holding hands and discussing battle techniques.

-Buddha- He grinned warmly, removing the lollipop from his mouth, “Never met someone so hungry for a fight before.” You sent him a grin, your eyes sparkling, “It’s hard to find people that I can go all out on and they can face me with equal strength.” Buddha smiled over at you, tossing you a lollipop of your own which surprised you, but you didn’t eat it, instead asking him about his prayer wheel weapon, curious about how it worked, because the way he made it seem was that it was almost sentient, and you wanted to know more so you have an even better battle. Buddha smirked over at you, “So is this how you flirt with men, by talking about fighting?” you froze and he couldn’t help but grin, watching your whole face flush red, as you hadn’t meant it in a flirting way, but he was quickly laughing, telling you that he was teasing you. Your cheeks puffed up in a pout which made you look even cuter before he grinned, sending you a wink, “Don’t stop now, Y/N, you’re making me fall for you.” He laughed even harder when you whole head seemed to be bright red, but you were opposed to the idea.

-Hajun- He immediately agreed, “Once we’re both out of here we can go and have as many rematches as you want, little demon.” You pouted at the nickname, but he saw your elation at his agreement to fighting again, “Maybe I’ll win this time, big demon.” He flinched lightly at your sass before snorting softly with laughter, realizing what you had done, “Careful now, beautiful one, I might have to discipline you.” You stuck your tongue out at him, giving him a playful wink, “Is that a threat or a promise~” he was stunned at your flirting, you were so bold and confident, but he couldn’t help but like it, chuckling as his voice seemed to drop, eyes piercing into your own, “I can assure you- it’s a promise.” Brunnhilde whacked you both on the head, leaving steaming lumps, telling you to stop flirting and there was to be no fighting until you were both completely healed.

[divorceblogger]

spoilers for ep7 below the cut, beware that I discuss power balances, abuse and assault with book spoilers. I mostly discuss siuan, moiraine, rand, lan and elaida.

sooo much discourse about siuan and it’s personally very disturbing that people think it’s alright for the show to radically deviate from her established characterisation* (1. which is specifically, purposefully IN CONTRAST to elaida in the books 2. violates its own canon about siuan trusting Dreams, foretellings and prophecies wrt to the dragon more fervently than moiraine herself) or that she was reaping the consequences of her actions when she was deposed in tsr, ignoring how siuan isn’t unique in keeping secrets as an aes sedai or how gawyn and galad are intentionally treated like spoiled, privileged children who think they’re cleverer than they really are when they act without considering the consequences of their actions or how the books frame the whole sequence as a tragedy of errors on all sides. I’m pretty sure @/amemoryofwot made the breakdown on the black ajah to non black ajah sisters in the hall and it was very revelatory about the exact significance of the stakes set up against siuan. I also think it’s important to not ignore the gender dimension involved in the way people approach rand and mat as opposed to moiraine or egwene or siuan - male characters are always better tolerated when they make morally questionable choices while women are systemically taken apart and derided for being foolish.

that said. it’s very telling that the show is solely interested in moiraine almost to a fault; we’ve had 5 different expositions with significant screentime about moiraine pushing people away from alanna, anvaere and verin - and at some point it just becomes very bad writing. viewers are not juvenile. they don’t need to be rapped over the head over a concept that the show catches and chooses to explore.

this analysis segues into another conversation that we should be having - I do understand that framing lan and siuan in context of their relationships to moiraine as the protagonist of the series is inevitable, smart writing. but after laying the foundation for their characters in s1 and establishing their motivations there was absolutely no need to continue to frame them in context of their relationship to moiraine almost to the exclusion of all other facets of their characterisations. liandrin was clearly afforded a lot more generous writing and screentime and it’s a Problem and also very bad writing when an antagonist is afforded more screentime than your ACTUAL PROTAGONISTS. some of these writing choices are really racist, period.

with regards to discussions about assault and abuse in this episode I will say this once, and only once:

moiraine transferring lan’s bond to myrelle in the books was an act of desperation undertaken only because lan’s life was at stake. moiraine ACTUALLY asking alanna to forcibly take lan’s bond is akin to threatening him with assault. it’s bad writing meant to make her seem a lot more colder to justify the intervention that we see later on. lan offering an apology to moiraine at the end of the episode without any apology in turn displays the writers’ sheer lack of sensitivity in handling the whole conversation.

the show using the oath rod flippantly is another angle that really boils my blood because it clearly would’ve enabled worser amyrlins to exercise power with impunity. ELAIDA was famously the amyrlin who wanted to extract oaths of allegiance from her sisters.

ELAIDA was also famously the amyrlin who gave orders to have rand transported to the tower so that she could use him as a weapon and deny him any agency. the tower *has* no rules for dealing with the dragon in the books and the show chose to manufacture it to no real benefit except awkward, badly executed conflict. siuan and moiraine may have often attempted to control rand in the books - and they were at least partly right sometimes because they had more worldly knowledge and experience than he did - but it’s important to the story that they choose not to deny him his agency and give him plenty of leeway and that elaida specifically thinks of him only as a tool. rand also being physically restrained by the shielding weave and possibly sleeping in that position uncomfortably reminds me of the box sequence in lord of chaos.

siuan compelling moiraine to follow her orders, as a partner she’s been intimate with, is akin to assault. rosamund pike made very specific acting choices that are jarring and difficult to ignore. moiraine gave that oath to siuan in 1x06 implicitly trusting her with her bodily and psychological wellbeing and siuan specifically chooses to violate it. it’s a step away from using the weave for compulsion (which is explicitly also stated as being forbidden btw!)

rand’s scenes when he’s shielded by siuan being juxtaposed against egwene’s scenes with renna was a very bad choice and the editing was so fucking awkward. if the choice was intentionally meant to generate conversations about autonomy it was a very bad one to make.

you know what the kicker is? lan’s exposition to nynaeve about the damane deserving to be free in WH (or was it CoT or KoD? I don’t remember very well) because it was every human’s right despite the harm that they might be capable of causing explicitly positions ELAIDA as a bad person. what does it say about siuan after this episode? any person able to wilfully participate in taking away another person’s autonomy is not a good person, full stop.

theories about siuan being under compulsion (by liandrin) are. fine. it doesn’t explain the showrunners basically speaking from moiraine’s perspective of the tragic turn that the romance took or ignorantly comparing it to the kind of assault ishamael performed on moiraine without any selfawareness or the disconnect in liandrin apparently trying to get rand back in the tower because lanfear and ishamael clearly want him in falme but whatever (unless speculation that another forsaken is free is true). I won’t dismiss it right now, but I don’t think they’re correct. there’s enough clues in the show to make it a plausible theory, but not necessarily a probable one - and it doesn’t explain siuan’s faith in her judgement about treating rand like weapon earlier in the episode.

I’m just…. lol. exasperated. I’m indifferent to her but there’s a very obvious sense of people condemning tuon for being a horrible person in the fandom - and like yeah she IS a horrible person but that’s still textually acknowledged. what is also textually acknowledged is the difficult process involved in deprograming people. when your show can’t understand the textbook definition of assault I’m a lot more unlikely to trust the showrunners actually!

*characters like ishamael, lanfear and min obviously needed overhauling because they were very badly done but their fundamental, core characterisations and motives still remain intact so they work. siuan and lan aren’t even afforded the grace of well-considered changes to their characterisations.

[velvetvexations]

if were talking tv shows and movies, i find that while most portrayals of trans men arent as outright obviously violent, the narrative clearly dislikes what theyre doing and thinks theyre making a bad decision. take max from the l word, a show that clearly cares more about how transitioning will ""hurt"" other people and the beauty of being ""female"" than caring about a trans man getting to be happy.

i mean, "disgusting predator" isnt the only way to be treated badly, and famously trans men arent really depicted in mainstream media, and a lack of representation isnt suddenly good because its trans men. i guess its a grass is always greener on the other side situation.

I don't even think it's that! We're in a new age of maximum casual queer representation across all media, and sure, at this point it's kinna still somewhere between "oh, hey, television is starting to have Black characters appear on-screen" and the ideal you see more of in smaller works, but regardless it's almost always either non-binary people (I imagine because they're easier to signal) and trans women. I've talked about this a few times before but it's always blown me away by how many transmasc people I've been surrounded by relative to how often they appear in media - even the smaller works.

I'm also like, not entirely sure what media everyone is watching. Did people start accidentally subscribing to The Daily Caller or what? It's hard to think of "mainstream media" that's still full-on Buffalo Bill (and even Silence of the Lambs was more a problem for it's misunderstood impact than it's actual content.)

Even like, The L Word with trans men, I'm not denying that was a major landmark in queer media, but between that and the examples I see people give for negative portrayals of trans women, it feels like people are focusing way too hard on the past and not stuff that's come out in like...the last decade and a half. Which makes this whole thing about pitting representation against each other crazy to me.

Like, maybe I'm wrong? But literally I saw this post about how bad transfems had it in media and every single thing either came out in the 20th century, was a television show (Family Guy, South Park) that began in the 20th century and is mainly watched by middle aged people who think they're still counter-culture, or one movie that was released in the past decade but was a hyper obscure box-office bomb.

So right now it's like, okay, even if we accept trans women did previously have it worse, if we did grant that, it feels like that's much less of an issue now and that trans men being underrepresented is more of a problem that needs addressing instead of obsessing over boomer shit?

Except like, no one was even really saying "we need to prioritize transmascs in media" in the first place, right? Like that anon just came in and was like, transmascs have it so easy because their media representation is so good and ours is so bad, and it's like, okay, well, let's examine that if you're going to bring it to the table completely unprompted.

IDK if I'm out of line here but it sincerely puzzles me.

[dorkass-nerd]

Fuck it, maybe I'll just make this post, see if I can find anyone in the same boat or maybe I'm just screaming this into the void. I hope to everything that this doesn't end up in the wrong places so maybe I'll try and be somewhat vague but I might also just end up rambling an absolute tonne.

I've recently been really sick, pretty standard for someone with a chronic illness but this is a whole new problem that I'm just having to deal with now, I've been on antibiotics and other meds about six ish times and I've treated something like 6 or 7 infections of various types in just this year alone. Not looking for advice, this is just important background.

And around about the second time I came away with a prescription for antibiotics from my doctor I just so badly wanted to cry. I wanted to scream. I wanted nothing more than to just scream until my voice was raw. But it felt like, no matter how loud I screamed, that no one on this earth would actually hear me or feel me. No power on this earth would be able to actually give me comfort. In that moment, all I wanted, was the comfort of some kind of God.

Now I grew up raised as a Christian, going to church most weeks, got confirmed and everything. But a series of unfortunate events just made me completely lose my faith. I couldn't be a part of a community where I, a queer, did not feel welcome.

I considered going to one of the churches that was local to me, but 1) the door wasn't open and I wasn't sure enough to seek out the key and 2) part of me felt like a Christian church just wasn't enough. It felt like the Christian God just wasn't..... enough?

I simply just, went home and pondered. Thinking. Wondering what I could do to seek the comfort I so badly craved.

And I just

Kept thinking about it

I started wondering about other Gods, other religions. And landed on Judaism. My fiancee is Jewish and I see how she celebrates, I see how close her and her community are, I see how welcoming everything seems to be. And it feels.... more like home than I've ever felt with my Christian circles when I was in those.

Another thing I was coming to realise was how natural it felt covering my head. I started wearing just some cheap ass snoods because my hair is in a funny growth period and I was using the snood to encourage my hair to grow up and into the rest of my longer hair. But it started to feel so natural. I definitely don't need to be wearing it now because my hair is at a point where it doesn't need the encouragement to grow where I want it to grow but something about it feels so....

natural?

I don't leave the house without it, it's the first thing I put on in the morning when I wake up. I know Jewish women typically only cover their hair when they get married. But I am neither Jewish, nor a woman. So something about it still feels a little..... cultural appropriation-ish. That's not my aim in any way but wearing something that covers my head just feels so natural now. I don't know if I would feel as confident as I do going out without my head covered as I do with my head covered.

And recently I thought, just for me myself an I in the comfort of my own room, I'd find a nice scarf and try to style that in some way. the one I picked was a little thin but knowing how much I overheat in the summer months it was ok. But there's still just that part of me that feels like it's appropriating a culture. I don't want to go outside like this and get looks from people because I'm just Generic White Dude No.3 wearing a headscarf that they think I shouldn't be wearing. So i just left it sat on some stuff in my room, conflicted in my emotions. Until eventually one day i felt ok enough to just try it out. And I felt. A mix of emotions. I felt more confident. I felt pretty. And it all felt so natural. I wore it out for a walk to the shops with my mom, low stakes environment, people we too busy in my village with the event happening that day anyway so everyone is either too drunk to notice or too looking up at the sky at cool planes to notice. I worried about seeing people I knew. But no one said anything, I didn't get any dirty looks, and I was safe back in my room once again, wearing the normal snood I always wear.

And again, I dwelled on these thoughts and feelings. Why did that feel so natural, why did that feel so ok, why did I feel so confident in myself like that. Swimming with thoughts of trying to figure out what I was feeling.

I felt like it was a place that I didn't belong. I felt like I would be intruding on a space that I had no place being in. I can make this choice which is what me feel invalid. I could choose not to be discriminated against. I could choose not to have abuse thrown at me. This isn't like being queer, that isn't a choice, but this IS a choice. I didn't choose the discrimination I face because I'm queer but I can choose not to face discrimination for being in a minority religion like this.

I finally felt confident enough to tell my fiancee about this. And she was nothing but supportive, provided me with some helpful information, sharing in my feelings, validating my thoughts and understanding where I was coming from. She suggested I talk to a Rabbi if this is something I wanted to pursue for some more guidance. It felt like the first hurdle, finally spilling everything that had been on my mind. And it felt good.

I told myself I would light a candle for Shabbat this week, and all the time leading up to Friday I went back and forth over it, is it right for me to just do that? Am I allowed to just do that? Is there a right and wrong way to do it? Would people be mad at me for doing that?

But just in the safety of my own room with no one around it felt safe enough to do. I realised after the fact that I was a little late but that context comes later. But lighting the candle felt nice. It felt like a small comfort in the darkness of the evening. Seeing it out of the corner of my eye all evening felt nice, like something was there.

The following morning, I told my fiancee that I did that the previous night, and I could just see her smile beaming back at me. It was nice. And I ended up with her learning something new because she told me to light two candles next time and I asked why and she went down a little rabbit hole reading about why you should light two candles. So. Positive experience all round. Talking with her about all of this made me feel so sure that talking about this was the right thing, made me feel more sure of my path and if this is something I DO want to pursue.

She told me about some resources that she uses for Shabbat times, apps, the website chabad dot org. Which I proceeded to puruse when she'd gone to bed. I downloaded the Shabbat times app too. Reading through some of the resources on the chabad website made me start feeling a little emotional. Made my emotions feel valid. "People actually do feel this way too, it isn't just me!" I just kept opening different tabs, reading different articles, learning new words.

Then last night I somehow got to thinking about my last ex fiancee. And something, a voice, a feeling in the back of my head told me it's ok to let her go. It's been well over a year since we broke up and I still think about her with pain in my heart, wishing it had all gone differently. And then suddenly that pain was just. Not there anymore. It was ok to let her go. It was ok to let go of the grief, the grudge, the pain, the longing, the wishing things had gone differently. And it was suddenly just gone.

Which, again, made me feel many other, far more complex emotions. Trying desperately to explain where that came from. I like to have answers and explanations to things but I just couldn't find one. Telling my fiancee about it this morning and she's just beaming back at me again as I tried desperately to find the words to explain what happened but mostly failing. She got the important parts I think.

Now I'm just stuck thinking to myself

Was that God Himself? This came right after I embraced a Jewish tradition of lighting a candle for Shabbat. It has to just be a coincidence right? But it can't be, I've never gotten over something like that so suddenly like that. I still grieve relatives who've been dead 6 years, hell even 20+ years. This came from somewhere that wasn't me, that's the only reasonable answer right?

I'm sure this will just get lost in the tide of tumblr, I know I don't have many followers and I don't expect any of you to actually read this all the way through, this is more just me writing this down somewhere, document it. But if you have made it this far, thank you for reading all of this. Be gentle, but comments and opinions are welcome as long as you're not mean and asshole-y

[cheryxshug]

i see the sentiment a lot that nightheart is somehow inherently misogynistic in her writing and such and im verry curious your thoughts on it because. if im being honest i dont see it. like the most common arguments i see are that she has issues with a lot of women in her life and that she was inserted into pov character status purely because the writers "needed a boy"

idk that first statement is kinda ridiculous to me because she has general teenage boy problems and issues with most authority in her life. the people she had problems with in her life specifically were her mom, her mentor, her clans deputy, and her sister. all have some sort of "power" over her, spark squirrel and lily for being authority figures and finch for being a sort of competition for her mothers love and her clans impression of her. Id say its more of a coincidence that the people in power in her life are all girls than a pattern that she damns all women in her life. And i wouldnt say she loves bramble either. bramble gives her one task which gets her excited but after that she doesnt pay much mind to him, even disliking him when he named her flameheart

and the second argument seems kinda ignorant of how publishing works in kids series. Like i think its fair to criticize how its seen as a necessity to have men in important positions but appealing to different genders in kids media is kinda just a part of how publishing goes if you want to appeal to kids (and anyways id say that having a male character not necessarily fit super stock male roles and be an emotional and sort of gnc if you wanna go that far is a good thing) im rambling but i need to see the perspective of people who think nightheart badly written

sorry i didnt get to this ask sooner, i struggle with properly articulating my thoughts into words so i wanted to make sure my response holds up to how i actually feel about this topic

i will preface by clarifying that when people call nighthearts character misogynistic in any way, they are not referring to nightheart as a person within the world that is warrior cats, but rather his role in the story as a character, a Tool used by the authors to guide and drive the plot forward. same goes for the female characters and literally every character in the series. so for this post when i refer to nighthearts misogyny, i am referring to him as a character in a story, not a real person within a real world. below ive attached some bits of other posts that i think communicate this efficiently (first screenshot from a post by skinwrech) (2nd from exocynraku)

with this in mind, we dont think that nightheart "damns all women in their life". it isnt about His views on women or anything like that, its about how the authors choose to treat female characters in relevance to the male characters.

the first argument you bring up, that he's misogynistic because of his problems with the women in his life— im not sure if you saw that word for word somewhere or if thats just what you've gathered from what you've seen, because that isnt necessarily the case. the issue isnt that he has problems with women, the issue is that the female characters in his life are sculpted into whatever the writers need them to be (in nighthearts case, many of them are written as antagonists that create a problem for him in order to gain sympathy points from the readers) in order to drive a favored plot forward. they are used in service to a male character without regards to how this may effect their own plot or pre-established character. ever wonder why sparkpelt, squirrelflight, and finchlight are such out-of-character dicks to him in the beginning of his arc? because the writers Made them like that to serve nighthearts "sad troubled kid" trope. remember sunbeams plot with blazefire and lightleap? the writers seemingly scrapped that as soon as the nightsun fluff arc started. while obviously that plot wasnt going to last the whole arc, it Is something that was taken away from sunbeam and never touched on again purely because she is used in service of nighthearts plot. sunbeam joining thunderclan to be with nightheart isnt the issue, but rather the fact that in order to make this plotline happen the erins erased most of her own arc at the time in favor for nighthearts. i feel like i keep saying the same thing over and over again but they keep Doing it over and over again. the women in nighthearts life are intentionally written to be of service to him. thats the simplest most watered down explanation.

the screenshot below and this post linked here both address this very well

as for the 2nd argument, im probably gonna repeat myself again but the issue isnt necessarily having a male pov. its a Given that publishers want to appeal to different genders in order to sell more efficiently. but when you /favor/ a male character over the female characters to the point of changing said female characters for the male characters benefit, thats when it becomes a problem.

im not sure what more i can really say on the subject without, again, repeating myself but i hope this made sense and helped your understanding of this perspective

[theconstitutionisgayculture]

I'm starting to think Trans people say they're experiencing a genocide cause they're not allowed access to indoctrinate kids in some states. They see being prevented as "killing" potential trans kids. I'm not sure if I'm conveying this right. It's the only way I could see their claims making sense in their eyes. But that's like saying there's a Christian genocide because they're not allowed to convert kids in school.

You're right, but it's slightly more involved than that. Here's how the "Trans genocide" thing evolved, at least according to my understanding.

Originally, "trans genocide" was referencing two things: The trans suicide rate and a few scattered murders of people who were trans. The suicide rate was called a "genocide" because trans people and their enablers claimed that the suicides were caused by discrimination and not having access to "trans healthcare", which usually meant "free sex change surgery and hormones". The murders were used to shore up the obvious gaps in the suicide definition, namely, you can't genocide yourself. But the problem with these murders was that, in almost all cases, investigations showed that the victims weren't killed because they were trans. And there was never very many of them in the first place.

So that's how the "trans genocide" started. People who wanted so badly to be oppressed even beyond the already stretched (or made up) definitions of oppression claimed by the other letters of the alphabet soup they took their fantasies one step further.

And then someone, somewhere, looked up the definition of genocide, saw the part about trying to keep members of a race from reproducing, and went full mask off. Suddenly, stopping children from going on hormones or puberty blockers or getting surgery was now "genocide" because it kept new trans people from becoming trans. So in one stroke these people essentially said:

Trans activists are going after children

Being trans is something that happens to someone, instead of being inherent, since it's possible to both cause someone to be trans and stop them from being trans

It's not possible to be trans unless you transition, since stopping someone from transitioning is keeping "new" trans people from existing as part of the group

Trans activists see themselves as trans and not as the gender they want to present as, since nowhere does this "trans genocide" ever get called a "women genocide" or a "man genocide" even though, with the way they twist the definition of genocide, that claim would make just as much sense as saying there's a "trans genocide".

By their own definition, they're also committing a "cis genocide" because they're actively trying to keep children from growing up to be cis instead of trans.

The whole thing is nonsense. Genocide has a very specific definition and nothing that's happening to trans people in the west even remotely qualifies. But it's very easy to get mentally ill people, especially ones who aren't being properly treated or diagnosed, to overreact to things. And that's the real goal of this genocide nonsense. The activists want power. The gender clinics want money. The actual people who are being taken advantage of are irrelevant. They'll be dropped and ignored the moment they're no longer convenient and trendy. But by that point millions of children will be irrevocably ruined and no one will ever be held accountable.

[livvyofthelake]

re: divine vision of an edit. i might. be making moves. and by this i mean i’m thinking about the concept of making moves. which is of course the first move. i think i’m going to attempt a new approach where before getting scenes i want to take the song and map out where i want the cuts to be and then plan each clip and then from there get the scenes. idk could be a terrible way to go about this but it’s worth a shot. because of course making edits is the most difficult thing in the whole entire universe because getting the scenes is SUCH. a tedious and boring and yet entirely necessary task and i hate it so so so much it’s the worst thing ever i hate doing it. you know the reason i made a million edits of the babysitter killer queen back when i did that? because i just already had the scenes and it was therefore the easiest thing in the world. i could probably bang out a whole new one right this second if the mood struck me because i know i won’t have to cross the impossible first hurdle of getting the scenes…. alas the mood is not going to strike me again i fear. i kinda stopped giving a shit about that movie due to a) there’s never gonna be another sequel like i wanted so what’s the point. because b) jenna ortega got too popular to the point she lowkey became unappealing to me. not in a hater way i don’t have a problem with her i just don’t like popular things. and no i don’t understand either how i’m a swiftie under those circumstances. you’ve all seen in real time with sabrina how i can go from Huge Fan to Hater Bitch about anything once it crosses a threshold of popularity… i’m literally so averse to popular things and it’s terrible because i always want stuff i do like to be more popular. this is my curse. actually you know what was perfect in terms of toeing that line? bbc merlin… that show cannot be considered truly popular anymore but it was never lacking in people who liked it either, just such an excellent mix there. AND because it was also SO BAD i was allowed to be a hater bitch about anything i wanted… when a show hates women that much you’re automatically allowed to bitch about literally anything to do with it that you could possibly think of btw. that’s like the rules of feminism. i can’t hate on shit i like anymore it sucks. because i decided to only like stuff that was good ugh lowkey that sucks… sure lost has her moments but lost was HARDLY even in the top ten most misogynistic and bad tv shows of it’s time i mean it was literally airing at the same time as friday night lights. so. yeah. speaking of tv shows that don’t have this insane vitriolic hate for women you know the craziest thing about band of brothers is that it pulls off the feminist move of the century by completely successfully executing the concept of not treating women horrifically by simply just. not having women… that show has one woman. and she died in a bombing of a hospital. and then her kindness talent and love lived on through the narrative because the hope and light she imparted was not wasted… but i can’t talk about it i never finished processing episode 6 properly. but yeah like there’s women. and sometimes even terrible things happen to women. because it’s world war 2 famous for being one of the all time bummers. but you have to acknowledge there’s a huge difference between bad things happening to women in the narrative, and the narrative itself treating women badly. it literally never really felt like the latter the entire show btw which was CRAZY to me i lowkey felt like i was waiting for the other shoe to drop the whole time. it’s worst offense was probably when luz kinda badgers this random woman trying to flirt with her and then i’m pretty sure she slapped him in the face and the other guys made fun of him. weak as hell compared to the shit bbc merlin could pull in just one episode’s b plot to be honest. the j’s hated women soooo bad huh. that shit was crazy. and remember ariadne? god let’s not even think about that. my point is. obviously it’s not perfect but but imperfect wins every time over actively malicious.

and if i may bring us back to the original point. i think i’m gonna make some crazy moves tonight. and by making moves i mean. planning moves. cool

[vivianbernadetteaurora]

Nancy Spudgen

Absolutely love this woman and I’ve just done a podcast on my Spotify and cherry info dump, please feel free to listen about how strong women are often degraded and major feel not good and Nancy features in his episode along with Courtney Love Margot Robbie and many of us, to get it right otherwise it’s not right and I’d put a video recently as well on my TikTok about how much people hated Nancy and describing it and I honestly feel and I’m not just rubbing this in that if people got which is just describe me and many people would hate me also, I have just been by my neighbours selling math which is a drug. We don’t even get over here., I literally leave my house twice a week to go to the pharmacy with my mother and my my mother is the one who helps me. I support dogs also., in fact I told my landlord I was assaulted here at the time I said can I have a new property? Can I go somewhere else? He didn’t help me and maybe, but the other neighbours haven’t been here as long as he’s never had a problem with me at all I’ve never given him anything to be annoyed about. It’s just my paranoid neighbour, hasn’t been here for months and then not my face but I have always had this thing thing where I can tell when people don’t like me and it is quite often which is, and this is how I feel. Nancy must’ve felt a lot of her life maybe Nancy didn’t care but I guess deep down that she probably did I mean she was a deep Pisces a double Pisces at that Pisces rising and Pisces with a Gemini moon, this woman suffered whole life and she only lives till 20 she said she even predicted the fact that she wouldn’t live past the 21st birthday🌑 and her mother even knew that she wasn’t, she was born into this world where the mother couldn’t hold her for days born with the umbilical cord wrapped round her neck and which caused brain damage, and then these men from the UK who are working class have the right to this woman some skank who comes from middle-class Jewish background not that I’m saying classes to do with it but it’s just the irony of it,

Her family in fact especially her mum because I’ve read her book were disgusted by wishes they didn’t think he was talented at all and I tend to agree with him. He is not a very talented musician in fact Courtney Love and being a talented version of silly Nancy Nancy is talented in the way of spotting things and realising things are going to be a success so she would’ve made a good manager and like business woman if she’s gone down a different path or even in the music industry it doesn’t have to be she had it where her mind was behind her body so she got talk guitar and she found it really frustrating because she couldn’t because her mind was behind her body. Her body was growing fast as a child scream murder literally every day and when her youngest sibling came along which was another girl she absolutely hated it and treated the younger sibling really bad! then she had a younger brother so she actually didn’t treat that badly. Maybe it was because he was a boy. I’m not too sure but the household get her away because it was just easier than having to go through her mood swings anyway once she moved to the UK, they barely saw her. They spoke to her on the phone every day and she was very close to her mother.

But from the ages of about 19 she was just gone that was it they did see her back-and-forth and when they said at night she moved to New York Nancy being from Philadelphia they did see them from time to time but said what a bad way they were she said talks about one time how they met met them on the train platform and how everybody was staring at them and they looked really out of place. They both like translucent and really white and they just didn’t look very well and everyone was staring at them and they weren’t even aware of it at the time. She said that Nancy said we’re just like any other couple and that said try to act like her son and called her mother., himself didn’t have a very good mother, his mother was a drug addict and his drug dealer. A lot of the time gets blamed for her addiction but one he’s older and his mother was already an addict so people will get your stress and read. I can’t live like this anymore by Deborah Spudgen

[sirdust]

THOUGHTS ON THE FINALE?? bc it was a lot for suuree

| any thoughts on the last 2 episodes??? i sure do have mine i was like wth throughout the whole thing😭 |

apologies for the radio silence 🫡 i've been busy and also not very enthusiastic about discussing this show, lol. been in the process of packing up my autism and moving it over to transformers.

anyways sure i'll give my thoughts.

as my friend who i was watching the eps with said during ep7, "this version of hazbin hotel where women exist is a lot more interesting"

ep7 was probably the most tolerable character-wise even though it suffered from the same general pacing problems that we saw throughout the rest of the season. charlie felt like an actual character who experienced inner turmoil, and while i didn't like "out for love" very much as a song, the sequence itself was solid. carmilla badly needed more presence in the story for how much they treated her as an important character, though.

i'll also say that i think rosie is the most likable character in the show period. she has a cute design and a charismatic personality, and i wish she had shown up earlier. it was weird that she and alastor acted as if they had just reunited when they saw each other in ep3, though.

the final battle was disappointing all around for both obvious and non-obvious reasons. vaggie badly needed a big heroic moment, but she was fighting lute (who simply does not feel like a real threat) for so much of it that her actions during that part of the episode had very little impact. especially since she was the one to figure out how angels can be killed in ep7 (which was admittedly a plot point that did not need to exist, aside from it facilitating charlie and alastor's deal, but i digress).

i also am pretty miffed that charlie only got one or two good hits in on adam before needing to be saved by lucifer. it was like they couldn't decide whether they wanted to do a team-up or to give lucifer a moment showing off how powerful he is to be able to fight adam one-on-one.

i don't know if there's anything for me to say about what they did to pent that hasn't already been said. i doubt he's going to be relevant in s2, but even if he is, i really don't care. it's baffling incompetent to treat a character death as a comedy beat one moment and then dramatic the next. it winds up not making me feel anything at all. (and on a pettier note, i hate his redesign.)

i've never been huge on adam. his character had potential but was continually wasted in favor of being another shallow commentary on toxic masculinity (which is much too prevalent in spindlehorse shows, i'd argue. the issue isn't with the thematic choice but how vapid the execution is). i'm also hung up on the fact that he's clearly meant to look like alex brightman, but the writers have lucifer make a fat joke about his appearance. fatphobia in these shows has always been an elephant in the room but i feel that this crosses some sort of line.

i don't think i have much else to say? i could go more in-depth of course but i'd have to refresh my memory and i don't have the time or desire to rewatch any part of the season right now. i've gotten pretty much all of my gripes with the show as it stands out of my system.

this blog will likely continue to get some use in the future, but i'll probably be increasingly inactive on here. the silver lining of all this is that hazbin's success may, if nothing else, help pave the way for execs greenlighting more queer animation, but we'll have to wait and see. here's to better shows being made in the future though 🥂

ETA: oh and i've been calling twist villain lilith since 2019 but i have nothing else to say about that.

[amcolombe]

Emotional motion sickness

I hate you for what you did

I faked it every time, but that's alright

I can hardly feel anything, I hardly feel anything at all

As a child, I spent most of my days making sure everyone around me was okay. If everyone was okay, then everything would be okay. I spent hours obsessing over how I could fix people or situations. If someone was upset with me, it would eat at me. I would physically feel pain at the thought of someone I loved being upset at me, even if was out of my control. I was 5 with full-blown anxiety in a world that wasn’t quite talking about that yet. So, I was quiet, made sure I was good, and started to learn how to bottle up my feelings to make sure everyone around me was comfortable.

As I got older, I found other ways to ease this anxiety. Music, alcohol, cigarettes, friends, and always more alcohol. As I exited high school I started a relationship that lasted almost 5 years. I’ve blacked out most of that relationship, but what I do remember was awful. I was put down everyday, told I was stupid and would amount to nothing. I accepted the love I thought I deserved. One day, it clicked, I was so incredibly unhappy but I felt stuck. I broke it off and moved to sacramento. Fast forward 3 months, he called me and told me he cheated on me throughout whole relationship.. what a joke. I told myself, never again- you won’t catch me putting up with anyone’s bullshit.

I deserved better.

A year or so later I (re)found someone. Someone I thought was safe, kind, and would treat me as I felt I should be treated. He spoke words of how he was a feminist, would March for the rights of women and protect them at all costs. He wrote me stories about love and about us. How everything I ever wanted would happen and it started with “us”. I fell in love with these words and promises. I wanted to feel secure. I wanted so badly to be loved.

So, I took the leap. We moved in together, eventually got engaged and then married.

But, from the jump there was something deeply wrong that I continued to ignore and look past. Because, well, I was manipulated to.

I don’t think I’ll ever forget the first time it happened. We were in our new apartment, I had started my new job and was so tired when I got home from work. I sat down to relax and he started to initiate sex. I told him I wasn’t feeling up to it and he walked away upset. That feeling inside me to fix everything came to the surface. I stood up and asked if everything was ok. He looked at me and said it had been a week and he felt like I wasn’t attracted to him anymore. I remember feeling frozen, unsure of how to fix it. Of course I was attracted to him, I was just tired. I tried to explain that, but I was emotional and it came out angry. He got angry too and just went to the bedroom. He didn’t look at me much for the next day or so. I felt like I was walking on eggshells. This was the first time my future husband pressured me into saying yes next time, even if I didn’t want to.

As the years went by, this would morph into worse fights, sometimes lasting weeks. After he proposed to me, he expected to have sex that night. We has so many friends over, we stayed up late, we were drinking. I was simply just not feeling up to it. I remember laying next to him thinking, I can’t say no to my fiancé or he’ll get so upset he won’t even touch me.

He started having these rules, we had to have sex at least 3 times a week. That’s what he needed. But the problem with that was what he “needed” was at the cost of my body. I didn’t feel safe in it anymore. As I got older, I started to develop what I now know is IBS and leaky gut. My stomach can get in so much pain that I almost pass out. This can be triggered by so many things but at the time, I has no clue what was happening to me. Sometimes my stomach

would be fine one second and in pain the next. He would ask for sex, I’d say yes even though my stomach hurt because it was easier (and after I would see the person I fell in love with). During sex it would feel like knives were being shoved in my stomach. But I couldn’t say stop, because he would get far to upset. I didn’t feel like I could.

After a big fight, if I said no, he would come home with gifts. Flowers, bath bombs, crazy expensive stuff. And then would come on to me and I felt like I had to say yes.

All of this, I believe was somewhat intentional and somewhat unintentional. It was a perfect storm. I am a people pleaser, or at least I used to be. And I would do anything for anyone that asked, if it made them happy. He was struggling internally with so many different issues that caused him to only feel love through sexual encounters. Overtime it developed into this procedural process.

When I knew it was “sex nights” I was prolong coming home. I’d try to stay at work, the gym, out with friends because I didn’t want to. Towards the end of our relationship, I would want to gag anytime he touched me.

I remember thinking, what is wrong with you? Your husband wants you and you don’t want him back. But here’s the thing, after years of coercion, you stop wanting to be with that person. You resent them completely.

I didn’t know what coercion was at the time, I thought, this is just what it’s like to be married.

Sexual coercion can involve verbal pressure or manipulation and can include:

* Repeated requests or feeling badgered into having sex.

* Using guilt or shame to pressure someone—you would do it if you loved me.

* Threatening the loss of the relationship or infidelity if one does not engage in sex.

* Other forms of emotional blackmail

I remember crying for hours when I found what happened to me had a name. I felt so validated. Like I was not alone, I was not crazy. I was being hurt by someone I loved and it was not okay.

I’m glad to say, one day I worked up the courage to leave my ex husband. 6 months before we had the worst fight. I started saying no more and that led to many fights. This one was bad, we were in the car and I remember getting out and just running. I didn’t stop. I ran down our street full speed, crying the entire time. I remember wishing someone would stop me, ask me if I was okay so I could tell them what was happening. No one stopped me. I fell to the ground, turned around and punched the light pole. I walked back home out of breath and a bloody, swollen hand.

I told him when I got home that he had 6 months to fix himself. I was done. I loved him but that was not enough.

6 months passed, and I remember it went really well for about 5 months and 3 weeks. He was the person I fell for 7 years ago. And then we had another fight over me saying no sex. He was upset because it had been so long and we didn’t have it on Valentine’s Day. He went into the room and wouldn’t talk or look at me. I said I needed space and time to think.

Space and time made me realize I was happier alone. So I left. I left my entire life I built. But not without being thrown down, ran over and lit on fire. Hypothetically of course. He called everyone and told them before I could, he gave them his narrative, his side. He told my family I left him before I even had a second to process what happened. He was the victim. After years of being manipulated, coerced, yelled at, in pain, and more.. I was the bad person. And he was a saint. Most people in our lives viewed him as a loving, kind and caring person. While this was true, there was other parts that they never saw.

I protected him. I told him I wouldn’t tell people why I was leaving because that was personal. And honestly, I was embarrassed.

I ended up telling very few people that I felt

needed to know because rumors of me cheating were flying around.

Everyone else turned their back on me. Which at the time felt like my world was ending, but now I know it was just the universe showing me who was really in my circle.

Four years have passed and sometimes it feels like this all happened yesterday. But the reason I am writing it now is because for the past 3 months I have started trauma therapy. I found myself having panic attacks anytime I would tell my current partner that I wasn’t feeling up to having sex. Or sometimes he would joke about something but it would trigger something from my past that would send me into tears. I didn’t want to live like that anymore.

Today I am working on working through the uncomfortable parts of my past to push through to the future. It sucks, I spend so much time rethinking my actions. Looking back at what felt like weak person who couldn’t stand up for herself so she had sex with someone when she didn’t want to. But I’m learning to forgive that version of myself and start to heal. One day I’ll be able to close this chapter, it will always be apart of me but it no longer control me.

You're throwin' rocks around your room

I'm on the outside lookin' through

And while you're bleeding on your back in the glass

I'll be glad that I made it out

And sorry that it all went down like it did

[cosmic-muses]

The stigmatization around the field of psychology is something that still breaks my heart and gets me heated now. From the fact that some people still think getting Therapy is something to be ashamed of, or that things like BPD are viewed as the "two-faced unstable liar disorder". I want to be a Psychologist. I want to be a Therapist. I took AP Psychology in high-school as an Easy-Credit, and I fell in love with the science. More than that though, I saw it as a way I could help! I've always wanted to put some good into the world, but I wasn't sure how. I had always been a good mediator/mom-friend for helping others emotionally, so therapy as a career felt like... the right choice.

It was only as I got deeper into my studies that I realized how f*cked some parts of the field actually are. There's so many misunderstandings from the lack of humanistic approaches, of remembering that these are actual f*cking people and not some diagnosis and symptom list in a damn book.

Even in the past, some psychologists/psychiatrists had warned that the use of labels for diagnoses could create stigmatization and stereotypes on a sociological level. Even today, it's not hard to find articles of people talking about this. It's such a huge problem. From depression being romanticized to people thinking OCD is "oh quirky neatfreak" disorder. Not even just the stigmatization, there's other problems too. From the whole issue with psychiatry and how pharmaceuticals are regulated to how we treat people with these very-real and very-okay conditions. There's nothing wrong with having some kind of neurodivergency (using that term to refer to literally anything) and yet...

Look, they talk about f'd up asylums as a thing of the past. That "Oh we used to treat this so badly!!" when talking about how women used to be sent to asylums bevause they were doing creative-writing and that was a sign of "hysteria". Just because it has a prettier packaging these days doesn't mean it's gone. Not just Autism Speaks, plenty of institutions mistreat their patients because all it takes is a simple little label to move you from an in-group to an out-group. To something dehumanized. I'm not denying that psychology as an institution has gotten better, but "better" isn't good enough.

Psychology isn't even considered a "real science" still by a majority of people, and that's a part of the problem. People also have a huge tendency to view it as "common sense' and oversimplify it in their heads, which makes it so easy for the average person to boil a human being down to "shitty b*tch disease" when they don't even have a clue what it is: a person. Not to mention pop-psychology and...

Look, I'm going to stop myself. I'm getting heated. It's a topic I'm passionate about, but I know psychology is severely flawed.

I think people would armchair diagnose bad people with cluster B disorders much less if psychiatric disorders hadn't all been given names by ableists who of course picked the traits most unberarable to "sane" people to name them rather than, you know, the ways it affects the people that have them. It's like, when doctors are all "this disorder gives you extremely low self esteem. and it's called the Selfish Fucking Asshole Disorder" or "this disorder makes you want to die so bad. and it's called the Hysteric Bitch Disorder" or "this disorder disconnects you from your peers. and it's called the Insane Evil Cunt Disorder" and so on and so forth, so of course you have people going "oh, this person is a selfish fucking asshole, they MUST have Selfish Fucking Asshole Disorder! this further proves that all people with this disorder are like that in the first place!" Do You See It

[weepingseraphstranger]

Finally saw what the whole 'Mouth -washing' stuff was about. I loathe Jimmy. Like, I can find myself liking Akainu and All For One (for the sole purpose of thirst tbh), but I cannot with Jimmy. That's how much I hate him. He's a narcissist, a "victim", pathetic, an asshole, and a coward. He takes what he wants and gets rid of what he doesn't, all the while convincing himself he's not the bad guy. He looks down on not only his peers, but those above him, even the ones he's envious of. He's so self-absorbed and can't take responsibility for his actions, that he fails at what he wants: to be a hero, the good guy, the one who gets the attention and good rep— to be something and to be in control. Because you need to have some sense of self-awareness, reflection, and responsibility to get that.

Even before he went totes delusional, it was still there. He was never really a good person. I mean, what good person sexually assaults anyone? Then only thinks of the consequences when their victim might "ruin his life" (let's be real, he did it to himself) before, then, trying to ditch all of that? And, no, I don't think he was off the deep end like you can argue he was near the end. He made a conscious decision to crash the ship because if he was going to do anything, he was going to rope everyone else into it. It couldn't just be him. Why would it? He wouldn't be the hero if he did. He wouldn't be "fixing it all" if he only "fixed" his situation. Because he's just a coward.

Not only that, but you can tell he has no respect for women. Again, what man who actually respects women would sexually assault one of them? None. We can also see that by the way he treats Anya and the way the other three got to have a moment before their death. She didn't really get to. She was glimpsed over. And the men showed up someway as he was going about the end. She showed up as the womb, the line of "babies"/ponies. He saw her as nothing but that. As nothing but what he got them into the situation—the "problem".

Also, the way he treated her vs the others was really telling. He saw a chance to control, be it because she was a woman or because she seems naturally soft-hearteded and sensitive. If it was just because of her sensitive nature, then why was the way he treated her and Daisuke different? That boy was naive and easily manipulated himself. He probably would've defended himself instead of completely take it, but if Jimmy was only a little meaner, he would've probably shrugged it off. Who knows? I just find it odd that even before the crash, he clearly treated Anya and the rest of the crew so differently. Treating her as nothing and a pain when she was also important. (—And more important than Daisuke who was merely an intern and not the nurse. She had way more responsibility on her shoulders than he did.)

And in the end, I don't think he truly felt guilt. That "sorry" at the end (the only time we see him somewhat taking responsibility which even then...no) wasn't truthful to his own friend. He was still thinking of himself. He wasn't sorry for what he did, he was sorry that it ended up going so badly. You can still tell that he doesn't want to admit it was all his fault. (Not taking some blame off of Curly who should have been the captain, not the friend, and taken action when Anya spoke about what happened and shouldn't have let Jimmy go where ever after they interacted when the whole pregnancy thing was happening despite knowing why Anya was scared) And despite not feeling as if it was completely on him, he continues to believe it was him who had fixed it in the end. By what? Freezing Curly and killing himself? (Not even making sure the pod was working before he offed himself.) So Curly can be found, have to deal with the consequences while he can die his delusional part of "hero"? Mf Curly should've been put out of his misery and Jimmy should've done himself next. Either that or freeze himself, be found with murked workers and face the legal repercussions because it would be quite obvious what happened.

And on the topic of him and Curly, I don't think he truly liked him. They were friends, yes, but he couldn't see him as anything but what he wanted. All of Curly's wins in life, he couldn't truly feel happy for. He couldn't be helped to be an open ear for him because why would Curly ever have a problem with anything when he didn't have his life and he wanted his life? Why does Curly get to be ungrateful for the life he wants? He must be looking down on them, he must think he's above them for that, right? Its all a competition in his mind. There's no equal. If he's not on top, he's the poor old underdog who deserves better. If he's not on top, that means everyone else is against him.

Honestly, I see their dynamic as toxic. Curly is Jimmy's doormat. I don't know much psychology but I am more attuned to the roles of abusive families, (mainly because there was my father who is...such a bastard) but you can say it's like he's both the golden child and scapegoat combined into one. He's his enabler because he's just so naive and in a way so blind and ignorant. Like, wow, he's your friend and you don't want to see bad in your friend but...dumbass. He's already spoken down on you so many times. But it's hard to see that, especially when Curly is the softer one in their dynamic. Imagining being the friend— spanning how many years back— of a narcissist like Jimmy. And yes, even enablers can be a victim of a narcissist. Guilt tripping, gaslighting, all that juicy stuff. It's not an equal, balanced friendship. Jimmy would never be capable of having a good, balanced, equal relationship.

Uuuuh, I've exhausted my smooth brain. So, yeah, I hate Jimmy. Love how the creators wrote him. Very nice. Very good. Great. Phenomenal. His character? Skin him and put him in salt and lemon. Someone said he was evil Flynn Rider and that was accurate but still giving him too much credit.

[the-firebird69]

There's a lot of stupid things going on in the Mac proper said that Trump is not going to get in office and they're probably going to shove him in there and card him around and he doesn't like it but they keep doing it and Camilla and Biden heard it and they're not really happy but they're being assholes all the time anyways they can't help it is going to problem and we will defend our son regardless of your bloodline because it usually is worse than people you don't know. We are going to express it to you since we have the excuse we're also going to take your stuff and get it to him because he died and you don't want to fix it cuz you're stupid and you say you got somewhere you got rid of your clan by accident cuz you're dumb you ruin their lives you got hit by a car because you're stupid you trusted garage essay but she wanted to have hope in someone and it was wrong and you almost died a lot is it filthy murder and you're a loser his name is Charles Manson. Normal. Because you're gone you're going after your assets and it's good we're going to heat you up and light you up along with Joe and he needs it he's a dick you guys died a while ago and you don't care Ken is still cruising along no it kind of died but wants to get back to these idiots he sees that our son has a plan as one person and it works and they really are really stupid and they really are. We've been working together for a long time thousands of years with a son and daughter and my wife we have a crew too but we're always on and you guys don't have a clue. Right now we are preparing to go after more assets of yours in order to try and get our son some things and we see that you are just a pile of s*** is what he's been trying to explain until we flush this s*** he's not going to get anything nobody can get anything in here back Daddy said it it's just a big pile of s*** and we keep on saying we can do stuff and you can't do anything cuz they're all s*** means I smoked and burns and cooked and they need to leave and it's happening finally the radiation is killing me they don't do anything about it cuz they're stupid so we are going to go ahead and start ruining these already ruined people and make sure they're out this is disgusting the scene in the mall is what he was hoping for and the guys helped out and that's what they are selfish disgusting pigs and if they're on all fours they look like pigs. And they should be slaughtered cuz they treat our son very badly and they're mean bullies.

---there's a few other things going on you're saying is GMAC mortgage is a lot of money the rest of it is like $700 and they keep up with that asinine number and really I don't even think you're going to get to attack the wall this time you're so stupid. You blame your women and it's why you have gas in your truck and saw your truck is still there say make sure the pain is paid and you don't believe in that so you go off you lose a whole bunch of stuff and you try and blame them they're the ones who keep it together but you won't have enough to get approach the wall you ain't going to do it. Thankfully and there's a bunch of money mortgage is the GMAC it's not for his truck although it's the same company and that was odd but he was paying a mortgage to a second mortgage company and they really screwed him up because he was double paying it at one point and he wrote them letters and called them they finally stopped billing him they stopped paying but he paid like three or four months and it was like $1,500 or something it's a lot of money and they owe him a lot more than that but it's really at least $5,000 sunset 6500 and it could be getting that money and he needs it to pay off his credit card that's what it's going to do and John remillard protests so we are going after him they were going to take things from him and stick him in the concrete room and we believe that's him tossing Jason around in the video tool and sings so we are going to take it out on you losers and really you need it bad. Be here they want to put sewer in it costs a lot of money but they're going to be out of here before that happens it takes some years to do anything and they're trying to do it to our son is what it's why they're doing it they're a bunch of losers so going to flush and boy you look stupid John remillard people take your money you don't mean and stupid to our son so they take your stuff and we needed that but boy you over the top you're a little s*** aren't you just keep in mind that that's what's getting rid of you and boy do you look dumb.

-there's a couple other things going on we have movement on a few line items here one of them is our son's money people are noticing that some people are trying to get him some money and idiots are in the way and they're noticing that most of the idiots are in the way things are in the way of them getting their money and they're going after them this time it's probably going to hold because they're losing their threat and their power it's a lot of money and it is everywhere it is all kinds of money that you can think of and all forms of assets included in that group people like Camilla she is special and Trump is riding on his own kind all the time that guy's a fool and he doesn't realize what he's doing because he's acting like the person that he's acting like I mean come on what a stupid a****** nobody even believes the ACT he just keeps doing it and people are shooting him down it's gross but yeah she's special and Mom can't do what she wants and she's an idiot couple other things we do have a system in place you don't need to know about it and you don't need to try and advertise it when you do you kind of killing yourself so you suggest you stop doing it

I am of course going to take your insults out on you and you are going to pay your people here if we can call you people not really he says this is proof right here and they're just really going to die and that's all they want to do you have several things to report

Thor Freya

Olympus

[unapologeticallytheworst]

What's the difference between a bi lesbian someone who is bi or is a lesbian? Aren't they mutually exclusive terms? (Genuine ignorance but willing to learn.)

(Just in case my tone comes across badly, I am just happily sharing. If any good can come out of me being back on Tumblr it will be sharing my experiences of sex and gender so that maybe somebody understands themselves better.)

I want to start with the fact that I am not myself someone who uses the label. I usually identify as bi or pan. So I can explain coming from my perspective as someone who has talked to bi lesbians and even identified with their explanations, but I am not one. I love dudes too much.

Like any label it's super personal to the individual but from what I have heard over the years, some women use it because they functionally are a lesbian. Their relationship and presentation are such that society thinks of them that way. That may even be how they label themselves in less queer spaces. They face that discrimination and participate in those spaces.

For some others I've talked to, it's more about where they lie on the kinsey scale. Their relative attraction to women compared to men, making them feel the need for the distinction. Sometimes this is even more of a bisexual - homoromantic situation, where sex with dudes is fun but one loves women.

Since I believe this was in response to a support post, I just wanna say label policing is not good for anybody. This isn't aimed at you, nonie, just everyone, be kind and willing to listen. We're really not all that different and we're not free until we're all free.

(also vaguely related rant about being bisexual under the cut)

Being bi is really fucking weird. Nobody believes you no matter who you date. Unless you're poly and are dating multiple people of different genders at the same time, then you're just a slut. Like seriously I'm pretty sure the new Green Day song Bobby Sox exists solely to remind everyone they're bi as fuck. Because that happens when your romantic partner is the opposite gender. And then you feel like an asshole at pride because nobody is going to discriminate against you and your boyfriend in public. Everyone is going to treat you like you're straight and any gay stuff they remember was just “experimenting” or youth. But when dating the same gender there's a whole different set of problems. Society at large is now going to treat you as gay or lesbian and any attempts to say bi will be chalked up to internalized homophobia or an attempt to avoid backlash. And like you get that, because the hate you get calls you dykes or faggots, you don't get hate for you, because you don't even exist. This is to say nothing of the exclusionary pockets within your own community telling you you're confused. Or acting like you are icky and wrong and don't belong in queer spaces.