#BUT I WILL SETTLE FOR BEING ABUSED!

[trashgoblin11]

Shout out to the people who know they're so easily manipulatible (don't know if that's a word) and who would be smitten with anyone who would give them the slightest bit of praise

And they're annoyed that NO ONE IS EVEN FREAKING TRYING!

[serpentface]

Scenes from The Baby Wars Part One: The First One

[Hibrides never wanted to be a mother (though the concept of childbearing has always occurred to her as 'inevitable and necessary'), underwent very severe post-partum depression, never really bonded with the infant, and was extremely uncomfortable with nursing her (they had a wet nurse who covered most of it).

Brakul ended up being the Designated Housewife throughout Erubi's infancy and was effectively the only member of the household providing parental care, was Extremely bitter with Hibrides for not really wanting anything to do with her daughter (among other things), and was raised in a context where fathers allowing their infants to comfort nurse on them is a standard practice (which is not widely conceptualized as a Thing men can do in the Wardi cultural sphere and comes off as bizarre to the rest of his household).

These combined factors lead to tense standoffs where he looms behind Hibrides trying to guilt her into Feeding The GodDamn Baby while looking, from her perspective, like he's trying his absolute hardest to breastfeed.]

[the-mpreg-guy]

Anyway saw a post about how Sam was only into hunting to look after Dean in the same way that children feel obligated to look after their elderly parents and I blacked out. Did anyone on the site actually watch the show?

The first three seasons are like. Peak Sam and Dean Winchester studies. The first episode(s) sets up who you think these characters are and then the show goes "here's how we completely deconstruct everything you thought about them" for the next forty something episodes.

Dean is the good faithful son, following in his dad's footsteps. You're led to believe that he's a john parallel but then guess what!! he's NOT!! he's Mary Winchester actually and for all that he says he hates the apple pie life. Well guess what Dean's favorite food is ever.

Sam is the normal one, the guy who wants the normal life and hates hunting and is nothing like John, but then guess what!! He and John narratively parallel each other!! THEY ARE THE SAME PERSON!!

And then you get s4-s5 which just continues over and over again to reinforce the idea that Sam and Dean want two completely opposite lives and the only reason Dean is still there is bc the other option is to not care about ppl dying which is something that goes against Dean winchester's hardware.

I think the only time we see Sam post s1 every touting the "I want out" line is during his suicidal era in s8-9 and the weird shit with Amelia that half of us have blocked out bc it was so goddamn boring. And the show even goes out of its way after these arcs to have Sam repeatedly tell ppl that he loves hunting and only wants to hunt if Dean is there so like?? Tell me again how Sam is this poor child being pressured into hunting bc his older brother/parent apparently won't let go.

LET SAM BE A BADASS HUNTER WHO LIKES HUNTING.

[nina-ya]

I’m gonna go work on some more of the ficmas things to hopefully get rid of my stress 💃💃💃I’ll see yall on the other side

[jacquiarno]

It’s Bisexuality Visibility Month (also Suicide Awareness Month), and the biphobia has been constant and intense, even in our own bi spaces, mostly from fellow LGBTQIA+ people.

Bi women have been told they are tainted for being with men, that we are dirty and dick obsessed. We’ve been told we are perverted fetishists by both cis and trans lesbians, with even gay men joining in on the insults, with one even threatening violence towards bi women if they come near lesbians. We even got told we deserve to be abused, raped, and murdered by our male partners because that’s what we deserve for dating men.

Bi men are being accused again for being HIV carriers, with gay men saying they are only good for sex because they will end up leaving them for women. One trans man said he would kill himself if a man started dating a woman after him, not leave him for one but just start dating again and that person being a woman.

I haven’t seen insults directly about non-binary bisexuals, but I’m sure there would be and a lot of hate lumps us all together. All this hates stings me but I can’t imagine the pain of all this for non-binary, trans women, and trans men dealing with it all, and it makes me so disappointed and angry that fellow trans people in this community are hurting them.

Pride Month a lesbian wrote “I wish god would eradicate all the bisexuals” while another wrote “For Pride Month let all the bi people disappear” with both having thousands of likes and comments agreeing. Now during Bi Visibility Month, a non-binary lesbian with feminist in their profile posted “Happy bi visibility month, I hope they find a cure soon 💖”. While continuing to mock us after.

Our allies and so-called LGBTQIA+ advocates have been silent and have even participated in bierasure, laughing at us when we point it out, saying “It’s not that serious.” “Lol the bis are getting upset over nothing again”. Only the bisexual advocates and pages have spoken out against the hate.

The B in LGBTQIA+ is suppose to be for bisexual but this community says and treats us as awfully as the bigots do to all of us. Bisexual is the sexuality that is attracted to two or more genders, that we have the ability to love anyone regardless of their gender. But we’re treated as greedy, perverted, hyper sexual, unfaithful, which from bigots you understand and usually brush off, but from those within the community who go through similar prejudice and should understand, sharing the same ignorant mindset.

These spaces are suppose to be our safe havens as well, but are just as dangerous. We try making our own spaces and even that is invaded by these people, we are beyond exhausted. We need the other members of the community that aren’t biphobic to speak out more and shut these people and this hate down. Because the lack of empathy from this community is frightening and all this in-fighting will allow the bigots to pick us a part more easily.

[whimsicmimic]

yea everything legato did was a lil fucked up but consider: it was enrichment for him

[roobylavender]

had talia not been character assassinated do you think she and bruce should have gotten back together?

no. i hate to use the word "phase" bc that would seem to diminish the importance of what's between them, which is something that will always persist esp as their continued dedication to the same causes and their respect for each other remains. but i do think realistically bruce should be a phase in talia's life. at least in terms of consummated romances specifically. i do love the idea of them remaining allies, close friends, and co-parents, but i think allowing talia to walk away from ra's and bruce in the first place has to stand for something in the long term. before talia went her own way i think it was easier to imagine a potential future where she ended up with bruce bc it felt like the desirable option. she was in this very debilitating position where she had little to no freedom to act on her own desires and goals, the embodiment of which was none other than bruce. so when you frame her situation pre-tower of babel, obv wanting to be with bruce was appealing. he was as much the love of her life as he was a means of escape and freedom and talia having the scope to then act on her own desires. i think that's what subsequently makes dc #750 (or is it #570. i never get the numbers straight and i'm too lazy to check) a really clever issue, actually, bc it acknowledges that and the fact that bruce once again setting her free bc of his love for her actually gives her the courage to step out on her own where she never has before. the fact that she has the option to go back to gotham with bruce and presumably have everything she's ever wanted with him, but she leaves it anyway, is a really huge deal. it's a statement. she loves him, but not more than she loves herself. and sure, what talia puts herself through during lex corp era certainly begs the question of whether her version of loving herself is really viable or in any way healthy, and i would love to see bruce help her recognize that she's not alone and that she doesn't have to do it alone to prove that she's capable. all of this i agree with. but i don't think that really means she and bruce have to fall back on their once-imagined dream of playing house. even if talia did find methods of going about her work that were mentally healthier i don't really know what'd be in it for her to play house with bruce in gotham. bc that is what it would have to be, for their relationship to work in any way. bruce will never leave gotham and son of the demon didn't need to explore that issue bc it was never going to get there but trust that corny as the line about naming the baby thomas or martha was it was reflective of a reality: gotham is bruce's entire life. no matter where he goes, no matter what he does, no matter who he works with, in the end he will always belong to gotham. and i simply do not think that would ever work for talia bc there is so much more she is capable of. while her vision is aligned with bruce's her scope of access and ability is entirely distinct of his own and there is so much more that she can do aside from relegate herself to gotham (hence why lex corp as an arc makes so much sense, bc it capitalizes on that scope). and yeah every superhero couple is kinda crazy and they have teleportation and shit but idk i don't think it's really a relationship for each party to go on long missions with ill-defined parameters that give them the worst sleep schedules known to man and occasionally they share a bed. it really isn't. and that's something that bruce and talia have to live with. their duty is always going to come first even though they both have a passion for civilian life. for talia to be in a relationship again she would have to stop having the liberty of being able to go wherever the work carries her and for bruce to be in a relationship again he would have to have the equivalent of a robin-wife. neither of these things is ever going to happen. so

[ciderjacks]

Interested to see where they take Jack, because while she is definitely a parallel of Rupert, I don’t think she’s going to be toxic. I think the parallel is to show how two people with similar tendencies diverge; with Rupert being abusive and Jack not, but both of them showing similar typically toxic traits. I think this because

After Keeley’s conversation w Rebecca, she actually takes her advice and confronts Jack

Jack acknowledges it, apologizes + explains, Keeley gives the ring back (which parallels Rebecca taking the car) and then Keeley buys her dinner

the things Jack is love bombing Keeley with are personal. Ex. She decorates her office with daisies after hearing that Keeley loves daisies. This opposed to Rupert buying the most expensive cars for both Rebecca and Nate seems to symbolize that while Jack is doing the same thing as Rupert, her intentions are not the same.

[lil-oreo-crumbles]

You know back when the AU was a comic, I was able to gloss over so much of the politics of Mewni Creek I was not well equipped to handle and focus instead on the relationships and bonds that were important to the story going forward and explain the new governmental system of this combined world after it had been established and the masses calmed long down.

But now? Now that it’s a fic? Now that I have to essentially re-start the Ovelia establishment and better flesh out her blossoming friendships and connections to the main cast?

I’ve really gotta buckle down and write the politics and post-Cleaved chaos don’t I.

Man…

[pa-pa-plasma]

fucking hate fighting with people's who's main strategy is straight up lying & screaming & crying until you give up trying to even attempt communicating. just coming up with the most batshit, insane lies they can think of to slander you & they literally just don't fucking stop, like persistence predator shit except they're just doing it to avoid having to take responsibility. what the fuck is going on in that kind of person's brain

[memecatwings]

i feel like i have electrochemistry from disco elysium in my brain telling me i need to abuse sedatives

[whimsycore]

It’s actually crazy when you can tell your own mother doesn’t want you to do better because she doesn’t want better FOR herself and will try to force you to settle with her

[petrenocka]

The thing about critique of Christianity is that there is this prevasive idea that The Bible is fine, it's the corrupt leaders that make everything the religion touches a nightmare.

And sure, that book has some pretty good ideads in it, like that whole camel needle thing. But it's core premise is so fucked up!

Divested of all the flavor and elaborate lore the sotry is as follows: All humans are inherently born cursed by the original sin commited by the first of our kind, and to remedy this God sends his son to earth as a human and lets him die in torment so through his suffering hummanity is redeemed.

So, in the text of The Bible, by default, from before we are born, humans have something fundamentally wrong with them, that makes us unworthy of God's love, but He loves us anyway, because he is so great, and through Jesus' sacrifice we are allowed to join Him in Heaven. But Jesus is also God, due to the whole Holy Trinity thing.

So The Bible explicitly frames God's love for humans as a self-sacrifice on God's part. To The Almighty, loving humanity in spite of it's inherent foul nature is letting a part of Himself be tortured to death by our hand.

Is is just me or does that sound like "Abuser's How To 101" to anyone else? Literally, "you are inherently unlovable and I am sacrificing myself by caring for you anyuway". Especially if we see The Bible as authored by God Himself.

That not to mention the insistance that Jesus was eqally and fully as human as He is God, which very unsubtly implies that human suffering is also a condition for God's unconditional love. Adding "I'm hurting you becasue I love you" to the list.

I dunno, I think it's at least a little bit fucked up.

[devotioncrater]

i think about a love that is warm and safe and i collapse inside because i want it too much

[jamiesfootball]

I wrote about 2500 words tonight, half for the post-season thing and half for the sleepy jamie Pavlov thing

Only problem is I hate everything I wrote today.

But at least I wrote something and there will be a better tomorrow where I can look at it with fresh eyes and go, ‘Oh, there’s the problem. Now let’s take a crack at it.’

[ptsd-tiger]

isn't it amazing how every single attempt to try and fix myself comes immediately crashing down on me because tiger always resurfaces. really funny joke, it is.