#Aro-spec

[misfitfashion]

Hey so.... hypothetically, if I made stickers and maybe other stuff of this design (but higher quality and without my big ugly watermarks on 'em, of course) would anyone be into that? Sound off if you like the concept. I could also make variants with different aro-spec flags (and ace-spec, aroace-spec, aplatonic, etc) if there was enough demand, but seeing as I would be selling the stuff as a super-duper small business, there's no guarantee that I could do too many variants, at least not right away...

(Also, I'm going to start putting IDs on my art!)

(Image Description: two digital art pieces of text reading "Love Me Not!" in all caps. Both images have the middle of the O in "Love" depicted as a red love heart, and the entire O in "Not" as a red strike-through or universal "no" symbol. The first image has the main text in the colours of the aromantic flag - two shades of green, and white, grey, and black - and the second image has the text in solid black. The images are signed "Misfit Creates" and have a watermark reading "Misfit!" overlaid on them. End ID.)

[pokimoko]

It's Aro-Spec Awareness Week and I thought I'd celebrate it my favourite way, by making all of you some simple little critters (their ace friends can be found here and here)! ✨Don't forget you're amazing, fellow aros✨

[hydor-graphics]

A-Spec Sparkles Emoji.

★ We take requests.

[amagicalmoonlight]

A-spec flags have such beautiful color palettes, oh aplatonic, aro-spec, ace-spec, aroace, aceflux, aroflux, lithromantic/sexual, and frayromantic/sexual folk, how I adore your flags

[waterberry-strawmelon]

being an aromantic fan of dimension 20 means never being able to listen to brennan tell riz, "the years will go by, and everyone will find someone that matters more to them than you" without crying a little

[the-quiver-of-aros]

Hi! I have a question about Alterous Attraction. Does Alterous Attraction fall under the Aromantic spectrum or is it just its own thing? Thank you and have a happy pride month! ^_^

Hello! I’m sorry it took so long to answer

Since alterous attraction is the desire to have a special emotional connection or relationship with someone. It’s neither completely platonic or romantic.

As a personal opinion, it feels like it would be under the aromantic spectrum!

I haven’t done very much research on this kind of attraction though!

I’d love to hear anyone else’s opinion on it as well!

Happy Pride month!!💚

[hydor-soa]

Writing a fic about (source) me discovering my/his sexuality (gay) and actually discovering my orientation through the process (asexual and cupiogreyromantic) is quite the experience 😅. /lh /pos

[one-song-at-a-time]

#5 || Captain Platonic --- Vinny Marchi

[thatnerdyqueer]

ok so I know that the terms lovequeer, loveloose, and lovepunk all refer less to an 'orientation' as such, but a way of viewing the concept of 'love'.

For example, you could have a romantic partner, but choose to prioritise or at least equate platonic relationships with an equivalent or higher level of commitment.

With that said. I have never seen any alloromantic people using these terms! So, humour me, and vote

[chaotic-carnifex]

I just realized that most ppl who know I'm aromantic... don't know that I used to be alloro. And then greyro.

No, I don't mean I identified that way until I figured out I was aro, I genuinely was alloromantic until like, summer or autumn 2015? Then I noticed that I was getting fewer "casual" crushes (y'know, not those full-blown ones, but the ones that are like a spark of interest that you know could turn into something stronger under the right circumstances?) and that they were generally getting weaker. I found myself fantasizing less and less abt romantic relationships. And y'know those fictional crushes where you'd imagine being romantically involved with a character? Yeah, I started imagining more platonic scenarios instead. The romantic ones just... became less appealing.

Basically, over a span of several months my interest in romance diminished until, sometime in early 2016, it was just. Gone.

And I've been aromantic ever since.

The cool thing about all this is that 1) I knew about the aro-spec before then, so I never thought I was broken or mentally ill or anything, I knew it was okay to be greyro and then later aro and 2) I never had to question whether I was really aro, I never had the "how do you prove a negative?" problem, because I knew what being alloro felt like, I could feel the difference

The weird thing is that to this day I've never heard of anything like this happening to anyone else. But I guess that's why I'm posting this, so if anyone stumbles upon this post who has experienced this as well, they'll know that they're not the only one.

Now, I know a lot of you may be wondering: If my romantic attraction just went away one day, does that mean it might at some point come back?

And, well, it might. I don't know, I didn't know it could go away until it did. I can't see the future, but yeah, maybe one day I'll feel romantic attraction again.

I hope not though.

[hydor-graphics]

aroace agender flag mandala please🙏🙏

Mandala Based on Aroace Agender Flags.

★ We take requests.

Flags used —

[bloomshroomz]

Imagine:

an aro-centric friend-finding/qpr/dating/hookup/etc. app called "Cupid's Aro"

[voidwithtoomanygooglyeyes]

Inclusionists and Radqueers

(quick note, I use the term "queer community" instead of "lgbtq+ community")

I think that many people need to know the difference between inclusionists and radqueers because a surprising amount of people don't.

One of the main differences is that inclusionists know the difference between valid, good-faith terminology and bad-faith, troll terminology, while radqueers do not (or don't care). This means that both inclusionists and radqueers accept communities such as xenogenders, neopronouns, a-specs (asexual spectrum, and aromantic spectrum), m-specs (multigender spectrum), and m-specs (multi-sexual/attraction spectrum) as valid parts of the queer community. However, radqueers take this many leaps further by accepting (harmful) xenogenders, (harmful) neopronouns (usually nounself pronouns based on sensitive topics or offensive words), and just generally harmful terms (e.g. transracial*, z00philes, pokesexual, MAPs), as a part of the queer community.

This again, is one of the largest differences between inclusionists and radqueers. Many inclusionists understand the harm radqueers cause the queer community, and do not associate themselves with them due to this fact.

*since writing this I have learned more about the origins of the term transracial, and when I say transracial I am not referring to transracial adoptees, I am talking about the people most people think of when they hear the word transracial.

[skykrystalai]

For the love of all things holy, if you're aromantic and romance-repulsed, try not to go on holiday with friends who are a couple.

You don't know where you're going 90% of the time because they're too busy talking with each other about where they're going and never actually tell you where to go and how you're getting there.

I'm having fun but also just blindly following the blind who seem to talk only to each other and don't actually know what I'm doing until someone says something 20 mins later.

[borderline-culture-is]

BPD traits + aromantic/aro-spec culture is Love For Love By Love Of Love

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