#AND IM TIRED OF IT

[sleepy-crypt1d]

The belief of "if you like [insert ship] then you dont understand the characters" is baffling to me.

Because that's not what shipping is about.

I don't want to see these characters making out on screen, I don't want them to be made canon, I have no interest in the main story being changed just for a relationship to work. What I DO want to see is the what-if scenarios of how these people would end up together.

That's what shipping is, the what-ifs, the possibilities, the understanding that of course this is never gonna happen but what would it take for them to cross the line? What needs to happen to make him say that, y'know?

You can understand a character perfectly, can know them more than you're own brain and have never once strayed from their canon and still find the possible dynamic of them and a character interesting.

You can still imagine scenarios of 'what if he said this instead?' 'what if this went differently?' 'what would it take for them to mesh just right?' and you can do it ENTIRELY in character.

People explore ships and enjoy ships because they are a way to mess with different dynamics and ideas, not because it's what they want to see on screen, and not because they think it makes complete or perfect sense. They simply find the dynamic and 'what if they kissed' ideas enticing. That's all it is.

Fandom is for having fun, it's for relaxing and playing with digital dolls and writing fanfiction about if the dolls had trauma, and this weird elitism of 'well you don't get them like I do so therefore YOUR interpretation is wrong' is just. . . mean?

Trust me, I get not liking certain ships or HCs, I do that all the time but I also know that I don't live in that person's head. I don't know the dynamic they see, doesn't matter if they're 'in-character' or not. There are plenty of ships I have seen and haven't liked at first but then after seeing a person's AU or fic, I change my mind based on that interpretation.

Making the claim that 'you don't really understand these characters or the story' based on someone having fun with the source material is so strange to me. Not everything has to be serious 100% of the time. People will see things differently than you, and saying that they're 'fake fans' or 'don't get it' because of that feels so silly to me.

No one is lesser of a fan because they ship something.

I am so sorry for such a long post, I am just very passionate about this subject.

TLDR; people are still on their 'real fans vs fake fans' trip and I'm tired of it.

[backfliips]

I'm frustrating myself because I know the only way I am going to meet new people and open myself up to romantic possibilities is by getting out of my comfort zone and going to new public spaces and interacting with new people, but I'm so entrenched in my own routine that the idea of going out and doing those things is so incredibly stressful and I sort of shut down

And it's particularly frustrating because I know the only reason I'm so averse to it is because I haven't done it before, and new experiences are really scary, and I will put them off for years just to do it eventually and realize its NOT a big deal in the SLIGHTEST, and that it's fine, actually, and that I LIKE doing the thing, and there was no reason for me to be so stressed in the first place etc. etc. etc.

So I just need to go on my first real date, and I need to suck it up, but it's really daunting and frustrating and I can't seem to figure out how to get out of my doom spiral about it.

[gulposh]

adulting is just asking yourself the question of what do i eat for today everyday

[confetti-critter]

Probably if I go and take a walk I'll feel better but.......

[sailorshadzter]

decided I'm moving into 2024 by speaking my mind even if I stir the already boiling pot.

I'm tired of my nephews asshole of a father saying and doing as he pleases.

I'm tired of remaining quiet out of fear he'll take the boys from me entirely.

he wants to cause chaos? well chaos he's about to get 🫶🏻

[daughterofsarenrae]

Why is atla trending lol did something happen (<- is pretending to live in a world where live action atla adaptations dont exist)

[ginwhitlock]

men suck so bad and i do not think they know that. like i dont think they have a clue how much like four little things are actually huge big things and it causes girls (me) to have to blog on tumblr.com on their dying eighth grade laptop bc she (me) said something so cringe and pathetic to try to smuggle out even a hint of affection or care that she cannot physically use her (me) phone because she (me) is terrified of what he will respond, or better yet! not respond to at all. i am twenty years old and in a matter of hours i am reduced to my fifteen year old self who just wanted the hot guy to call her pretty and endured three years of torture for it

[likeanarrowinthedark]

I know that love is not for the weak and for the cowards. But fuck, am i tired to always fight just to be loved.

[mrfreezebug]

porn anthologies have too much pnv. in every book i read visually half of the sex appears heteronormative too often. (not saying it actually is that but visuals are important to me.)

I want dolls smooching dolls. i want tgirls being eaten out by a masculine person.

I want trans mascs macking on trans mascs. I simply want a trans masc to top someone who isnt a femme.

I want queers of any kind playing dominant and having penetration-less sex.

I want s/d dynamics with a gay trans couple without using a dick.

give me straight doll. give me a cishet man with a trans gf.

I want a hetero trans couple.

cmon be more creative.

[zillaphoneswag]

My sister might be away for the summer and I’ve never been happier

[sesamestreep]

perhaps nothing better represents the feelings of isolation I’ve been experiencing lately while trying to stay connected or make new connections with people online than logging onto tumblr to find a notification for a new message, feeling approximately 3 seconds of joy and excitement before I open the message and it turns out to be from a pornbot

[fittoniapearcei]

IMMEDIATELY pissed off at work

[vamptits]

I can't keep having the same conversations about love languages, mbti, iq, bmi, "brain fully formed at 25" and shit over and over again...

[sillyguy-supreme]

white americans when you tell them that the idea of climate change as an impending disaster is a reductive first world perspective because it’s a tangible reality for many in the global south already:

[bookpdf]

there should be more hours between 6 and 10pm. like even just two more hours. for my assorted hobbies & activities

[whaledocboi]

ai generated images make me increasingly sad and tired the more i see them in more and more casual contexts. i dont know how to explain, but it just fills the world with a bunch of nothing. no matter how visually stunning the pictures might be, there's nothing behind it for me. no dedication, no emotions, no feelings, no hard work or creativity, nothing i can truly think about, admire or enjoy. i dont think thats how art is supposed to be