#AND I AM SAYING THIS AS A QUEER AUTISTIC
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some people on here make Hating All Social Rules such an obnoxiously large part of their personality that you could say "it is polite to avoid farting in a crowded elevator if you can help it" and they'd call you an oppressive puritan who hates the incontinent
#eliot posts#like sometimes social rules ARE pointless (or DO have a point but ultimately do more harm than good or are just unnecessarily inefficient)#but sometimes they're a useful way to consider the comfort of those around you#of course there are extenuating circumstances where following them is impossible or would put more burden on you than is fair or practical#in such cases it's good to make exceptions#and to automatically give rule breakers the benefit of the doubt instead of assuming they're being rude on purpose#anyway i once saw someone getting PISSED OFF bc a post said it's rude to watch videos without headphones on public transit#or this other time someone said public sex is always okay-#-and that it doesn't matter if ''public'' means a bathroom/back alley or if it neans the middle of the park in broad daylight#but it's not just about those two instances it's about an attitude i see on here in general#AND I AM SAYING THIS AS A QUEER AUTISTIC
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20/10 stars little guy
#me (scrounging undetected autist whose ideal fashion sense is ''if i have to be seen at all: shrouded'') seeing encanto the other month.....#and on top of it all i LOVE slice of life. encanto being so focused on What It's About that there's so much of that + character / dynamic#also part of what i loved abt pixar luca. ppl like ''simple story but not a problem :)'' like YEAH thank god it's Also so slice of lifey#2021 what a year lol. though again i only Just saw encanto....tfw Studio Creative Control backs off a bit more than usual: Joy & Wonders#anyway i knew going in bruno wasn't an antagonist (fine if he was though b/c slay & b/c scapegoats can do whatever they want)#knew i'd love him b/c again Scapegoat shows up & i'm the Amazing Showstopping Totally Unique Never The Same gif on loop#but what a delight even beyond those expectations lol. love again how Focused the movie is on What It's About & Thee Points it makes#the Characters / Dynamics & the Metaphor & the plot stays right with all of that. the focus & importance re: thee scapegoats....#& bruno being disabled like whole layer of Yay Yay Yay spamming. that even when He's Back we're reminded he's not ''normal now'' or w/e#(i.e. presenting that as The Good Ending for the disabled outcast. vs just being embraced as part of the group again & accepted As He Is)#meanwhile was like hmm chat is there queercoding do we think? like is he queer: Yes. but is there coding? hmm#sure isn't cishet coded though. but i was also having the thought like fellas is it gay to [higher tenor tessitura or w/e] lol#made me go ''do i know this voice? ok do i know this name / face / actor? (i have never seen anything ever / bad w/names/faces/voices)''#indeed was like yeah haven't seen this; heard of this; seen it once ages ago no way i remember more than like 0.6 details#then from ''ohh haha I'm A Mammal That Cares....yeah i hear that'' to ''omg CHI-CHI RODRIGUEZ???? ;;0;;'' waaah fantastic revelation lmao#also the way Literal Future Seer ability was externalized to make it more wrangleable for plot is so impressive & fun & excellent#got a lot of [i like this thing i saw a lot] i got to say....guess i can do that w/the sideblog i made for one drawing i made last night#encanto 2021#bruno madrigal#also the way bruno is so Nervous + Hiding / Bold + Big Personality like yes ha ha ha Yes....tamped down as ''too much'' experience#also the [stuttering stumbling muttering mumbling] line: i fr nigh wept upon going back over a moment like what am i hearing here?#& realizing the answer was: it's bruno quietly stuttering a moment during this one line (& then (& then (& then)) i saw you) ;;;mm;;;#hang onnn....the first scapegoat who's driven off being Disabled is so real so ;m; that again they're like so he got Weirder; Okay ;;m;;#that we get jorge thumbs up nobody having an Aside to be like [ugh; this guy] or Anything. augh always have too much to say for 30 tags#fabric drape there sure not accurate but i was like okay if i try to really reference that i'm not getting this done tonight
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I need to kiss a pretty boy while he sits on my lap I’m ngl
#t4t nsft#queer nsft#bi nsft#mlm nsft#fuck I love men#nb nsft#autistic nsft#I am having Feelings#askbox is open ❤️#angel says 🫀
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random people: stop worrying/caring about what people think about you!
me: on the ground screaming at them for help because someone who doesn't like me or thinks bad things about me because i'm autistic/disabled/queer/etc is beating me up
#this is what it feels like when I complain about how people treat me and that's the response people give.....#autistic#neurodivergent#queer#disabled#lgbtq#transgender#and ANYTHING ELSE people treat you horribly for. im sure others get this same shitty useless “advice” when talking about discrimination#right????? other people get this too right?#like you say you cant make friends because youre autistic or disabled or etc and people give that “advice”#or you disowned from family for being trans or gay and they say that to you#brain too tired to think of other things to tag but am sure others can relate right????#please tell me im not the only one that always told this crap
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*runs up to you gasping for breath like I'm running from a saw trap* no like... when you're fucking your pups mouth *deep whale inhale* and then they grab your hips and start humping at the same pace yanno???
#i am a bit#how do you say#feral#spiritual domme#t4t nsft#trans nsft#ftm nsft#queer nsft#autistic nsft#gay nsft#nonbinary nsft#t4t mlnb#t4t nblnb#t4t mlm
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i am always so scared and avoidant of explaining my identity to anybody (even, if not especially, myself) in any more words than the vaguest description possible ("im trans these r my pronouns and im a lesbian") because i cant telepathically transmit my gender into their brain so theyll never understand the complexity of it and will think something is wrong with it because im 100% nothing if not a lesbian but my nonbinaryness does not necessarily exclude manhood but it also does at the same time?? idk. wish ppl would stop trying to get me to explain my nonbinary identity in binary terms (im ppl nobody is asking me to say anything more than what i already do)
that comedian was so right i am a man in the way that kraft singles are cheese. it presents like it would be in the same category, it tastes like an offputting version of the real cheeses, a lot of people would call it cheese and it calls itself cheese too unless legally restricted but when you look at the actual content it is an entirely completely different substance. which doesnt make it any less a cheese persay but certainly also makes it definitely NOT a cheese at the same time. and its way better on grilled cheese than normal cheese is. not sure how that fits into the metaphor but its important to me
the same can be said for the way that im a woman and for both a large majority of the "ingredients" are completely internalizations of external inputs instead of any actual innate part of my being, like being a girl in the weird girl by mommy long legs way or in the impact of growing up a girl in a sexist society way or in the betty grof way or in the autistic female cartoon characters way or in the when choosing which character was OUR character growing up amidst my siblings in any game or show, often ending up w the only girl instead of just anyone that resonated with me way (was always mad at the games/shows for only having one girl, never upset about having to be her instead of someone else unless one of my siblings took the cool genderless-esque one) (maya and zero from borderlands...) or in the im my mother's daughter way or like being a guy in the random stray cat of indeterminate sex way or in the when every new person got confused about my gender as an androgynous kid, laughing super hard with my whole class/whoever was there about how dumb they were but always avoiding answering/correcting them clearly and getting upset if someone else told them i was a girl way or in the feeling very uncomfortable when anyone but my family specifically called out that i was a girl as a kid way (when alex tried to tell me i was the ruler QUEEN not the ruler KING for my collection of rulers..... die) or in the im my brothers brother way or in the drag king way or in the tboy swag of harold tdi way or you know i could go on for literal eons and still feel like i didn't list enough. plus a lot of the items on BOTH lists apply to BOTH options
and besides that im also like totally disconnected from gender?? i definitely still feel agender and genderfluid at the same time all the time not to mention the constant banging at the door in the back of my head for catgender begging to be let out. overall point blank period i know that the reason i feel this way about my gender is because im autistic and when social constructs don't come naturally to me that includes gender. but that's never like. a definitive enough answer for other people or for my own sanity and it makes me mad because NOBODY UNDERSTANDSSS MEEEEEEE [emo crying on knees]
whatever who actually cares (me)
i think the last time i felt properly fully self expressed was when i was 10 and had a scratch account named mr fox and used a persona called mr fox on it and part of what was special about me was that my name was mr fox but i was actually a girl even though i would throw up if someone called me a miss or mrs
#textpost#lgbtq#queer#lesbian#trans#nonbinary#bigender#autistic#autism#autigender#queer community#also ive like almost completely accepted this concept of my identity already and think requiring external validation of if its “ok or not”#directly contradicts my queer outlook/worldview but when i dont think any of the people i care about see it the same way and all the people#i see who DO see it the same way as me are the ones that the people who i care about think are messed up weirdos it makes me scared sorry#vomit mention tw#death mention tw#idk if those are something im supposed to put on here but i see other posts say stuff like that so maybe i am correct
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do NOT reblog this or he WILL appear in your room at 3 am
#! puppy pics !#nsft#queer nsft#trans nsft#autistic nsft#transmasc nsft#lingerie#horns#happy halloween#the long awaited crochet lingerie <3#it does in fact fit me (barely)#my actual costume was a tiefling but i wanna say that this costume is an incubus :3#i am literally so sexy guys like why am i still a virgin
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You know, when they said “you never stop learning things about yourself” I don’t think they meant five consecutive years of having a new identity crisis.
#sophomore year of high school: am I queer/aroace? yes#junior year of high school: am I trans? yes#senior year: am I autistic? almost certainly yes (that’s just me having imposter syndrome it’s definitely a yes)#last year: not questioning anything just coming to terms with being physically disabled#and now my friends are saying I have hpd and I’m like hey just because I maybe (the wording is vague and I’m autistic and I hate it) fit the#diagnostic criteria doesn’t mean I HAVE IT#it’s vague and idk how much I relate to it but I relate to a decent amount of it very strongly#but like I wasn’t even neglected as a child (that sentence really says volumes abt my friend group) I have other family issues but idk how#that would be related to attention seeking like is it really just all bc I was just a really lonely child?#like I was an only child with autism and adhd and I didn’t have a friend group I felt truly secure until fifth grade after which we all went#to different middle schools and then it wasn’t until like sophomore year of high school okay maybe this is worse than I thought saying it#out loud…#I know I have anxious attachment#I know I very much have that#but like.#I’m just a theater kid it’s fi- *sounds of me being hit with a pillow by my friends*#yeah#this is kind of a vent atp#autism#neurodivergent#disability#yeh#the heir speaks
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my very sexy curse of liking the most radioactive ships in a fandom
#i wish there was a way to tell tumblr to automatically block accounts who block one of your sideblogs!#i am glad people are just flat-out blocking me instead of interacting! still sucks though!#its not even a “YOU don't like ME???” kind of thing#like im cool w ppl just not liking me because they just don't like me! whatever! we don't have to be friends!#but it's a constant reminder of just how CONSERVATIVE queer fandom has gotten in the last decade???#20+ year age gaps were just de rigueur and now people are like#“UHMM...A 32 Y/O CAN'T DATE A 25 Y/O WHATS WRONG WITH YOU THAT'S LITERALLY ABUSE???”#vita.txt#i hate it here and i wish BSD wasn't what the idiot autistic goblin who lives in my brain wanted!#is this going to be why i finally learn japanese? maybe#at least they aren't sending death threats over ship drama from what I can tell (:#to have your main interest in life (fandom) suddenly be full of people who aren't shy to say they want you dead is like...super fun!
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Doctor appointment went to go get my shots and.
A. Visual. So you know what I mean by *broadly gesturing to all of me*
^ Immune to disparaging remarks. On account of The Autism.
#sorry this is just funny to me. like oops my bad i was staring!#then i get hit w MY VERY FIRST. ACTUALLY. VERY FIRST. transphobic remark from a stranger at me#and my autistic ass just didn't even process it. already gone.#if i was ever bullied in school i simply did not notice it. this seems to remain true even now.#wait i'm remembering there was another time a woman yelled out her car window @ me but#again. i was in walking to my destination mode. also had my noise cancellers. it SEEMED rude#but i didn't even make out what she was saying. guy who is just walking to his destination.#also realizing the doodle is like. it's a self portrait just for funsies. but literally lowkey#reads like a bad faith alt right meme where it's presenting a caricature of a queer person.#you see what i lack in irl reaction time i make up for by having WAY too much awareness in a deeply online way.#i'm able to see fucked up online shithole shrimp colors and very specific christianity i was raised w shrimp colors.#that's it.#like you could def file the transphobia under either category but i'm talking like reaction time here LMFAOO#put me in a church (please don't.) and i can sniff out the double speak like a cadaver dog.#this does have the natural consequence of never being able to believe that anyone could ever actually like me as i am for who i am though.#sad!#my art
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everyone’s saying how Hades comes across as gay but not autistic? HELLO?
#that’s literally where nico gets it from#that’s an autistic man#honest to god I swear#percy jackson#hades#episode 7#spoilers#i west crazy this episode (and last episode (and last episode (and last episode (and last episode (and last episode ))))))#he is me i am him it’s autism i SWEAR#not saying he’s not gay as well as if any of the gods aren’t queer but i knew exactly what he was moment he came on screen#that WALK? THE SPEED? I WALK LIKE RHAT#autism#the DRAMA with visitors#preparing exactly#Trust me guys trust me
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Thinkin about trailing kisses over someone’s torso, starting at their shoulders and trailing down
Telling them they’re being so good for me and that they’re gorgeous and perfect like this, under me, letting me do this and letting me touch them
Thinkin about giving someone everything softly but giving it to them.
#god i am not your strongest soldier#queer nsft#t4t nsft#bi nsft#autistic nsft#nb nsft#mlm nsft#angel says 🫀#trans nsft#I just want to flirt with someone dear fuckin lord#asks are open just give me something to compliment#<33333
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"normal" meaning "unquestionable" & the embrace of that cropping up anywhere such as an aim to be on the unquestionable side of a Normal / Weird binary, thus surely being a comfortable effortless indelible version of Good that stems from "just be normal"
ppl out here like freud 2.0 where well they had the sufficiently normal Nuclear Household family(tm) experience so they're sufficiently normal for it, versus the weirdos who had the Questionable family times so as to end up with Issues, surely unlike all those who are Family Issue free, i.e. normal, no question. like how also Going To School is Normal, so of course there's that idea that anyone who didn't go to school normal style or did but Did That Wrong are the people made Weirder with Issues. & when what's Normal is what's Good is what's Unquestionable it's like why would i need to question it when it's so normal? why wouldn't some rando asshole nepo man be Meritous & Good at business when he's so Successful at it. speaks for itself, same as Your role of being treated entirely differently does, this can't be questioned, blame it on your own failures; again how the supposedly "questionable" experiences (unlike other ones, which need no Legitimate questioning) are pathologized like. people talking about disabled ppl's lacking "social skills" being this meaningful Driver of ableism just like poor people's lacking "financial literacy" being that darn cause of classism & resource extraction, the already Questioned vulnerable [you're just doing it wrong / failing] people are the cause of their own mistreatment, Normal people who are so socially & financially successful are helpless, this victim blaming (can't question it. Normal) sure totally doesn't speak to abuse being "normal" as well
which, good thing abuse totally isn't Normal i.e. in the territory of unquestionable things (with, obviously, the idea that Abuse (Real abuse, if you like) must be Exceptional in addition to, if not to Really be, "obviously" questionable) since if something can't be questioned then surely it's also How Things Were In The Beginning, Are Now, & Ever Shall Be (catholic prayer paraphasing re: god, for referential context) & there's just nothing to do but invest in & play into it For Success & resent / punish / try to eliminate disruption, like people just existing but doing it Weird, c'mon, be a better person please, obviously....meanwhile people out here approaching queerness in a way that accepts & acts according to the unquestionable normal of abuse of queerness, such that oh the "abnormality" of being queer (that is, "normal" people's abuse in the face of awareness of queerness) is unquestionable, such that Oh No, investment in that abuse now & forever world without end amen, & now punching down on the people who are just Being Weird & Disrupting this embrace of the norm: radfems invested in "all bodies will be classed as men & women & the former abuse the latter" & hate women who already disrupt this premise; pointing out ace exclusionism as terf logic just applied in the different context where queer vs nonqueer binary is neatly detected just as the gender binary is & people who already prove that & the way it's defined is not the case are the real problems, infiltrating Unquestionable (Normal) Queerness & delegitimizing it i.e. being The Cause of e.g. homophobic abuse, which will also unquestionably exist, so if we're gonna blame someone as Needing To Change it'll have to be uhhh already also affected Weird people who are ruining things, they're the Real causes of this abuse, so they're basically men, basically cis, basically straight. boooo to trans ace bi pan aro nonbinary gnc people....hardest to be binary gender "same sex" "romantic" "visible" Truly Queer couple currently holding hands in public or in front of family, & it's You Mfs who make it harder, not, yknow, the people who were already always embracing & perpetuating the abuse bolstering Normal(tm) Cishet Just Being Normal. and of course don't forget going after poly people & others disrupting / not accepting premises about Unquestionable Relationship Structures/Requirements. so not just being normal
also the beloved concept broken out that, of course, Being Normal = Being Good, b/c hello, unquestionable?? where it's like meaningless ideas that abuse is Abnormal like ":( hurt people hurt people" (inherently a framing to counter any response to [person is hurting me] that's not silent secret sympathy forever i guess. nobody's using this catchphrase to argue for Hey Quick let's all intervene to stop someone being hurt, lest they go on to hurt anyone themselves) like & yet everyone is hurt, yet not everyone is doing shit where these arguments are broken out after they're already getting away with nonsense & we're telling others to just stop complaining, while also not everyone isn't getting shit on for being "disruptive" & perchance the real hurtful problems for trying to Stop being shitted on, or just have a little more breathing room to day to day live while it happens. everyone's hurt bitch let's get you some "what's the actual patterns & context of supported power imbalance made emergently evident by whose choices & life are constrained & undermined & made smaller" like. or the expanded idea as that well all abuse comes from Being abused, i.e. the Cycle, never mind that abuse is everywhere as per its being Normal, & nobody's intervening every time it manifests despite its supposed exceptionality thus rareness & supposed indication that someone's Being abused to cause it. just gotta roll with it, wow. & pathologize being victim to it, abuser in the making, Vulnerable People are dangerous, those insulated & given more access to systemically backed power in an oh so Normal way are surely oh so Safe as well. the very rich families are all lovely havens. the abused people are treated so well & embraced & supported by all the more Normal people they encounter, certainly not Also isolated, bullied, victim blamed by these Normal friends family coworkers new partners randos in public randos who are "professionals"
but yknow uh literally just be normal lol. aaand post. and like "lol being Anti Being Normal? just like a weirdo" like yeah of course. and what, i'm gonna try to win the heart & mind of someone like "of course you have blue hair & pronouns" & convert them, as would definitely happen if only all transgenderists were Normal about it? and the perspective of "what Unquestionable Good is ever actually coming from striving to get to point at Others as Weird" involves going like "nooo i wanna see myself & be seen as Just Being Normal" instead of like having ideas / arguments about how to be considerate towards people which can be articulated in any other way & involve effort & said consideration (ft. anything able to be questioned)
#but i think we all agree that ppl pointing & going ''ugh poly shit ruining everything'' or ''aplatonic?? lmfao'' are heroes AND le epic#always feel free to circle around too to bi ppl who are Totally Basically Cishet AND Worse Enemies Really Than. Anyone Cishet#and i'm sure the ace exclusionism never ends for plenty of ppl. keep the logic but go ''oh well it's just still not That big a deal''#the experiences of being more vulnerable & exposed to exploitation of that? are the drivers of Deviation. your weird issues#MY blessed normativity. had enough of Family Friendship Romance that was all surely pleasant enough#popular enough / not bullied enough at school. i am now a good person based on vibes b/c to be Hurting anyone? well i would Know#why not go talk to the rando who was like ''racism is over b/c i have never invoked like Hey. White Person To White Person. give me#preferential treatment >;) & in fact now white people are Dispreferred etc etc'' ohh all the Special Treatment(tm) for Others....#again like the idea Abuse happens in some ''abnormal'' situation & simply being in ''normal'' ones will show victims the light#(already with the logic that ppl are in abusive situations b/c the victims need to Know Better & Take The Correct Actions finally)#(i.e. victim blaming / pathologize the individuals) like yeah the guarantee ppl don't just keep getting shat on is not there lol#the blessed normal ppl who are i guess natural healers i presume? Totally never ostracizing bullying & further treating as ''''weird''''#like the idea ohh autistic ppl are Bad At Interactions. oh shit interactions b/w autistic ppl go great? well uhh#then It's A Two Way Street except also being nt is Normal so autistic ppl need to ''learn social skills'' so Ableism Ends. their fault#same deal like sympathy & support from the supposed Primed To Harm fellow abused ppl?? while others are undermining & ostracizing? nahh#even getting to be ''alone'' i.e. either existing amid others but not there ''with'' anyone; or certainly Left Alone; way more Validating#and just more pleasant too like. even the abstract concept of [do xyz: with a friend group] :((( vs do it by yourself :)#''oh ppl don't want to have the Social Skills & exert the Effort to have a friend group?? that's that on Moral Failure'' Lol. truly.#good people are popular & bad people are ostracized in recognition of their unquestionably Questionable Weirdo Vibe. got their ass#if you can't / won't break something down beyond Normal/Weird. why. i'm questioninnnng....And queer.#like ''sounds just like something a Weird Ruinerrr (Disruptor) would say'' uh yeah i sure hope it does &c
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i was playing around with gender/pronoun headcanons for the sorcerers last night because of a couple pronoun mistranslations in the game-
Arcky- transmasc he/she
Pollux- transman
Vega- trans he/it
Spica- Very Firmly transman
Alpheratz- "i dont care stop bugging me let me go back to sleep" doesnt care what pronouns you use for him, also uses this to mess with Sirius's pronouns by finding the most obscure ones he can.
Sirius- "those are some nice pronouns you got there, I'll be taking them" mirror pronouns. refer to them by your own pronouns only.
#arcana twilight#arcana twilight arcturus#arcana twilight pollux#arcana twilight vega#arcana twilight spica#arcana twilight alpheratz#arcana twilight sirius#arcky pronouns come from one of vegas diary stories where he calls arcky she once but i am a dog with a bone n refuse to let go#vega comes from his profile thing in the dress up room where it says somethin like “it is a special case as a sorcerer” or whatever-#headcanon#as a queer enby who downloaded the game for shits n giggles while i couldn't access my computer i did not expect to care so much about them#oh yea alos theyre a polycule.#you cant change my mind im lookin at the shit that goes on in this game n man theyre all gay for each other#also vega is too autistic to figure out a gender he jus knos hes trans n thats that#my post
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ok but you KNOW Monster High did something SEVERELY right when I spent last year worried about all the changes they’d make to g3 because I love g1 so much but now all I can do is worry about all the changes they’ll make to g4 (because you know it’ll happen eventually) because I love g3 so much
#monster high#obviously g3 isn't perfect but let's be real#g1 wasn't either#I could cherry pick changes from BOTH of them#but what I AM saying is that you'll have to tear the canonical queer content and soft tone away from my FRIGID DEAD HANDS#canon clankie#nb frankie#boys promoting things like therapy and cheerleading#so much diversity!!#AUTISTIC TWYLA#mattel better pray that they can outdo themselves in several years when g4 eventually rears it's head#because if they can't#oh boy#i feel like there'll be even more protectiveness over the g3 charectors than there were over g1#g1 has nostalgia and that's always going to play with people's hearts yes#but g3 is already creating SO MUCH nostalgia for coming generations of queer kids#AND is doing representation /so well/ when oftentimes companies like Mattel just.... don't.....#so you have adults like me who are clinging to it for dear life as well#what I'm saying is they have quite a storm of dedicated fans falling into place and I'd really hate to be the executive who announces#literally anything about g4 years out into the future because Yikes For Them
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I'm not even gonna venture onto DR twitter rn cause I know the Plane hate will piss me off. Like... I completely understand not liking what she said or agreeing with it! But it pisses me off when people call someone racist, misogynistic, homophobic, transphobic (you get the idea) for no reason when whatever they said just doesn't warrant that reaction?? I don't know much about Chappell and I'm sure she's a lovely woman, and PJ deffo (just for her own sake tbh) shouldn't have posted that cause, well... we now know how people react and she probs should have just sat in silence with it for a while longer (also idk if i'm not understanding fully, but did pj say she's heard some drag queens say that chappell is rude or did that not happen? cause i've only seen one screenshot of plane talking about it, but some are saying that PJ said that other drag queens have had been interactions with Chappell) ANYWAY, sorry for this ask - you don't have to answer it cause its so messy and all over the place lmao but it genuinely rubs me the wrong way... I think most of the people getting super angry over what she said are people that don't like pj, haven't from the start, and just kinda followed along with the overall fanbase when they started opening up to her, and they've been waiting for something to set them off (cause i remember people being set off during the lip sync smackdown episode when pj joked about amanda and quite a few people started calling her a bully again on twitter) i think everyone should just take a deep breath like i understand why people are mad or annoyed but it's the people REALLY going in on her that are pissing me all the way off like... fucking relax you're acting like she said something horrific
i 100% agree anon !
at first I was mostly annoyed by the fact that people just blew everything completely out of proportion (imo-- cause I really don't understand how "I don't vibe with this person" becomes "I think this person and everyone similar to this person is not valid"- ???). but then they started calling pj things that she's clearly not (there's multiple videos of her saying she loves women and lesbians, hello?). and I somewhat understand why seeing someone who's a white cis gay man being skeptical of a lesbian artist feeds into the narrative of gay men excluding queer women from queer spaces--- but that's literally not what pj did. and you're right, she did mention that she heard from local queens that had worked with chappell in the past that she wasn't the nicest (not sure how true this is, but if that's what she heard who am i, or anyone, to deny that).
and the worst part is that now they're using this to bring up past FALSE allegations against her. it's pretty obvious atp that these people don't actually care to defend the reason this whole discourse started for, they just want pj cancelled and gone. I've literally seen people just go on and on about how shitty of a person (they think) she is instead of defending lesbians or queer women who do drag. they don't care about queer women.
also, everyone's entitled to an opinion (!). all pj did was give her (albeit uninformed/incorrect) opinion/criticism on chappell. she never talked about lesbians as a whole. and even if she did. WHO CARES. there's more important things in the world and a person's opinion is not going to change anything or have any true impact on anyone's life. this is such stupid discourse imo.
#things that can only happen on twxtter#chronically online queers me thinks#this is so irrelevant in the great scale of things.#or maybe im just too autistic to understand why any of this matters#i like both chappell and plane btw#i must say i am vibing with all the lesbian appreciations this has awakened#especially from drag queens#lesbians ARE the backbone of the queer community#we owe so much to lesbians and trans peoples as a whole in our community#but again#its sad that all this came out at the expense of pj
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