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It is easier to tell if someone with bad intentions is PRETENDING to be good to hurt you if you have experience with normal, genuinely good people. Also, we should probably talk more about what is acceptable behavior and what are red flags to look out for.
I always see things where people complain about dangers, but nobody talks about how to recognize or avoid them, or how to get out of a dangerous situation. We always talk about how the internet is a dangerous place for kids, but apparently (according to my younger family members and friends with younger siblings still in middle school) internet safety isn't being taught in school or talked about at all really. And there's little to no discussion for what ages children should be allowed to go online and what places they should be allowed to explore at different ages.
Kids shouldn't have to try to intuitively recognize and defend themselves against dangerous people. Speaking from experience, it fucks you up severely. it took YEARS for me to trust people to both a; not try to hurt me all the time, and b; have my back and come to my defense if I need it.
We cannot leave our youth without vital knowledge. It's why I hate the sentiment, "don't teach your daughters how to avoid rapists, teach your sons to not rape" because it is a double-edged sword that slices everyone. 1) People (children might be the main focus of this post but this sentiment is for EVERYONE of all ages and genders) shouldn't be blamed for being groomed and/or sexually assaulted, 2) teaching a new generation to not endorse rape culture doesn't erase all the other rapists and groomers that already exist in the world, and finally 3) It leaves them (all children regardless of gender) defenseless to grooming and attacks.
If we do not have the combination of genuinely good adults doing their part to provide safe places for kids and just be a control group for them to compare the bad adults to AND teaching them safety techniques/ ways to recognize dangerous people, then we fail our youth. Just talking about bad adults doesn't do anything if you don't foster good positive connections, besides make them either; suspicious of everyone (bad) or think it's bullshit and fall for groomers anyways because groomers are smart, show "positive" attention to their victims, which if that is your only "good" experience with an adult, you're gonna lap that shit up like water. Both cases are bad and a result from a lack of good experiences with adults
Saw a tiktok of a guy saying he doesnāt feel comfortable talking to minors because heās 19. And itās just. Iām so fucking tired of this.
And like to be clear, Iām speaking as a victim of pedophilia when I say: We need to get over this collective fear of endangering children. Because holy shit, this stuff is getting out of hand.
The average person is not a threat to a child.
And also!!! It is actually really really good for kids to have friendships with adults that arenāt their family.
Having friendships with adults when youāre younger prepares you for adult life in a better way then only interacting with adults that are family members or teacher as well.
And also if thereās any sort of weird behavior happening with adults or teachers, itās very helpful to have unrelated adults, you can go to, and also have a model for what normal adults are supposed to look like.
And also! Youāre just making it way easier for pedophiles to prey on children when you completely avoid interacting with them as an adult. Because kids are naturally inquisitive and curious. They are going to want to interact with adults and they are going to want to ask questions. And if the only adult adults that are willing to interact and speak with them or adults who have ulterior motivations. Guess whatās gonna happen.
Also on a more general note. Having a model for what a normal healthy adult is supposed to look like makes it way easier for kids to be able to recognize and identify when adults in their personal life are being weird.
#good post#sorry for the rant#Im always passionate about active discussions regarding safety that isn't just dancing around nuanced topics because of possible controvers
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I just read the drunk 14th member drabble you did and it got me thinking š¤
Can I pretty please request also drunk 14th member but sheās at home and being super honest (bc sheās drunk) so the members take advantage of the situation and ask her questions
Just a funny and fluffy drabble š«¶
Late-Night Secrets | Seventeen x 14thMember | fluff



Seventeen rarely had a free day where they could just chill together without schedules or obligations. So, when such a day finally came, they made the most of itālounging in their dorm, playing games, ordering way too much food, and watching old variety show episodes of themselves.
As the night rolled in, Jeonghan clapped his hands together. "Alright, since we're all free tomorrow, how about a little soju party?"
The members cheered in agreement. Even Y/N, the 14th member and the only girl in Seventeen, excitedly nodded along. She had been with them for years and considered them family.
"Are you sure, Y/N?" Joshua teased. "You don't drink that often."
She rolled her eyes. "Please, I can handle my alcohol. Iām not a lightweight."
At first, everything was fine. The soju flowed, laughter filled the dorm, and the conversations became louder and more chaotic. They played drinking games, from 'Never Have I Ever' to 'Truth or Dare,' and Y/N was holding up surprisingly wellāuntil she wasnāt.
It happened so gradually that no one noticed at first. But soon, Y/N started giggling at nothing, leaning heavily onto whoever was next to her (which happened to be Vernon), and blinking as if trying to remember how her eyes worked.
"Y/N... are you drunk?" DK asked, biting back a grin.
"Nooo," she slurred, dramatically flipping her hair. "I'm perfectly fine. You, on the other hand, are blurry."
Seungkwan burst out laughing. "Oh, this is going to be good."
Drunk Y/N was a menace. She poked at Wooziās cheeks, calling them 'mochi-soft,' ruffled Mingyuās hair until it stuck up in every direction, and stole Hoshiās phone, only to take 50 blurry selfies before tossing it back at him.
"I feel so powerful," she whispered to Dino, who just stared at her in pure amusement. "No one can stop me."
"I donāt think anyone wants to," Dino replied, laughing.
Then, things took a turn.
"You know what?" Y/N announced, standing up (wobbling dangerously). "I have secrets."
The room went silent.
Hoshiās eyes sparkled. "Oh, this just got interesting."
Seungcheol leaned forward. "Go on. Weāre listening."
She pointed dramatically at them. "You guys always complain that I donāt like cuddling, but deep downāI love it. I love when you guys want to cuddle, but I have to act all cool about it."
Gasps filled the room.
"I KNEW IT!" Woozi exclaimed, pointing at her like he solved a murder case. "She always pretends to hate it, but she never actually moves away!"
"EXPOSED!" Seungkwan yelled, laughing so hard he almost fell off the couch.
Y/N pouted. "I feel attacked."
"Too late, you already exposed yourself," Wonwoo said, smirking. "What else do you have?"
Y/N tapped her chin, as if thinking. "Hmmā¦ Oh! I kind ofā¦ borrow your clothes."
"Borrow?" Minghao repeated, raising an eyebrow. "Or steal?"
"Pshh, borrow. Borrow!" she defended. "Like, you know, sometimes your hoodies, or caps, or skincare products... but I always give them back!"
"That explains why I kept running out of toner," Joshua muttered.
"I KNEW my hoodies were disappearing!" Woozi groaned. "I blamed DK!"
"Oh!" she suddenly gasped dramatically. "Mingyu."
Mingyu, who had been innocently sipping his drink, choked. "What about me?!"
Y/N covered her mouth, giggling. "I may or may not have scratched your car."
Silence.
"Excuse me?" Mingyu's eyes widened.
"It was an accident! I was driving, and I miscalculated, andā" she waved her hands wildly. "But you never noticed! You thought it was your fault!"
Mingyu stood up, mouth open in betrayal. "I blamed myself for WEEKS. I thought I was losing my mind!"
"Well, mystery solved!" DK laughed.
By now, the members were having way too much fun with Y/Nās drunken confessions. But then, she dropped the biggest bomb of all.
"Alsoā¦ I might be talking to an idol," she mumbled, swaying slightly.
Instant silence.
"Iām sorry, WHAT?" Jeonghan nearly shrieked.
"WHO?!" Hoshi demanded, eyes wide.
"Is he from a big group?" Joshua asked, suddenly intrigued.
"Is he older or younger?" Woozi probed.
Y/N groaned, rubbing her eyes. "Ugh, heās so hot. Like, ridiculously good-looking."
"Thatās not an answer!" Minghao whined.
"Y/N, who is it?!" Seungcheol urged.
But it was too late. Y/N, mid-sentence, had passed out.
Right on Seungcheolās shoulder.
He sighed, looking down at her curled-up form. "Guess weāre not getting any answers tonight."
The members looked at each other.
"Okay, but seriously," Seungkwan started. "Who do we think it is?"
"Mingi from ATEEZ?" Hoshi guessed.
"Nah, I think it's I.N from Stray Kids," DK said thoughtfully.
"No way, itās definitely Soobin from TXT," Dino chimed in confidently.
After a few more wild speculations, the group finally gave up.
Joshua, being one of the responsible ones, carried Y/N to her bed, tucking her in gently.
"Tomorrowās going to be fun for her," he chuckled.
"Oh, absolutely," Mingyu muttered, still bitter about his car.
Seungkwan smirked. "The moment she wakes up, weāre making her relive every single thing she said tonight."
The members all grinned, looking forward to Y/Nās reaction when she realized just how much she had spilled.
Tomorrow was going to be very interesting.
#seventeen#seventeen x reader#seventeen x y/n#svt fanfic#svt x reader#svt x y/n#seventeen fanfic#seventeen imagines#svt imagines#svt fluff#seventeen fluff#seventeen 14th member#14th member of seventeen#scoups#jeonghan#joshua#jun#hoshi#wonwoo#woozi#dk#the8#mingyu#seungkwan#vernon#dino
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This will be long, but question time for the SEA series! (at eleven pm for me).
Can Eclipse play any instruments, sing, or have any odd or seemingly out of character hobbies? Did Eclipse work in the daycare alone. Will the family ever see what the daycare looked like, or will we maybe return to it, and does it loon the same as in Security Breach?
What is Sun's most prized piece of clothing for his cats and the weidest thing his brothers have fought over or about that he's had to break up? How effective is he at cleaning and what does he procrastinate most about doing/cleaning or complain
What is Moon's favorite invention, most useful invention, and something he will fiddle with to pass time? He also seems like the type to know dome pretty good party tricks.
What is the easiest meal for KC to make, and what's his and the individual family members' favorite meals? How often has he had to force one of his kids to go and clean themselves?
What's Lunar's favorite personal video game and videogame genres? Do they have a preferred chocolate type (i.e., milk chocolate, dark, cacao, white) and marshmallow size?
Does Solar Flare have a specified art style that it draws in or? Do they prefer to draw realistically or cartoonish, and have they tried digital art yet, will they?
Does Bloodmoon still prefer O- or a different blood type, and do they have a preferred type of meat? Do they have a bird type they like the most, and do they have a bone collection or keep they horns of, say the goats or cows that they've killed? Something the twins disagree on?
Please don't feel pressured to answer this right away, all of the questions, or at all. My questions are to help with your world building and my own understanding of your stories! Sorry if I missed any of the cast and my awful grammer!
Eclipse can sing, though not very well. He knows a couple lullabies. And yeah, he worked in the daycare alone, seeing as the daycare was making money off of it. And nah, it doesn't look like the security breach one. It looks less vibrant and is also cheaper looking. And the family at best will see it through Eclipse's memories, though that's unlikely. He has an iron grip on his worst traumas
Sun's most priced piece of clothing for his cats are silly socks he made specifically for them. The weirdest argument, to him at least, was the fight about Killcode's taste in men of all things. He's very efficient about cleaning, he's still a TSAMS Sun, he's still very neurotic about cleaning. He hates doing the dishes though. He just thinks it's a time waste what with dishwashers existing
Moon has a bunch of fidget toys that he made himself and he has his doll making which is what he fidgets with when he needs something to do. In his opinion his greatest invention is a better firewall for animatronics, which Eclipse takes full advantage of. And his useful inventions are all upgrades to stuff they already own, where he makes stuff more proficient. He also has a bunch of science facts and cool little experiments he can pull out anytime to impress people (tho he won't)
Objectively the easiest meal ever is salad. You just throw together a bunch of cool ingredients, maybe make a sauce and cook some simple meat, and bam, done. His favourite is szechuan beef with pasta, Eclipse's is lava cake, Solar Flare's is ramen, Bloodmoon likes bloody steak, Lunar loves nutella cupcakes, Sun loves goulash and Moon, ever the simple man he is, loves it when KC makes grilled sandwiches with this special spicy meat he makes. And it depends on the kid. Lunar's the one he has troubles with, all the rest are clean, yeah, even Bloodmoon surprisingly. But SEA Lunar's much cleaner than Canon Lunar, so that's not that big of a fight neither
Lunar really just loves stuff that grabs his attention and can keep it. For example, he really likes Don't Starve. His favourite chocolate is milk and white chocolate, and he loves all marshmallows
It draws in a realistic style because that's what makes most sense to it, but if a drawing is in a different style and it needs to finish it, see cat drawing, he'll perfectly replicate the style of the previous artist. And they haven't yet, simply because they don't have any big interest. They won't ever really draw digitally
Yes they do and they love wild meat. They love hunting birds of prey, finding irony in that and could also get two prey for the price of one if they time right. And in SEA first book I did write Bloodmoon started attempting to make jewellry, that's where the bones, horns, tusks, teeth, feathers, antlers and whatever else of animals they've hunted go. The twins disagree on their biggest fears. Bloody is scared of insects and Rusty is scared of mannequins. They disagree on those
Don't worry about the grammar! I'm quite bad at it myself, haha
Also, I've never really thought about most of these questions seeing as they aren't important in SEA, which I look at more like a story than an AU. It's just not an AU in my mind. I do appreciate the questions tho! Feel free to ask more! :)
#OurEssays#Moongleam answers#Scientist Eclipse's Adventures#the sun and moon show#sun and moon show#tsams#sams#tsams eclipse#sams eclipse#tsams sun#sams sun#tsams moon#sams moon#tsams killcode#sams killcode#tsams lunar#sams lunar#tsams solar flare#sams solar flare#tsams bloodmoon#sams bloodmoon
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ok, people who've read erha, help me out here: are there any moments in volume 6 and 7 in particular that you'd warn someone for?
My 13 year old sister is reading the series ā which. she probably shouldn't. But I'm not her mom and I remember what it was like being 13 so I'm not snitching to our actual mom either ā but we did have a talk about the content that would be too much for her to handle and she said that she knows it's an 18+ book and there's rape in it, but that all happens in the first 2 or 3 volumes so she skipped those.
(the way she consumes media is very spoiler-forward. She'll often know most of a story's plot via summaries or internet posts before actually starting it, so she gets the gist of what happened in earlier volumes without having to read them)
Now, she'll be getting volume 6 and 7 as gifts this christmas, and she told me she actually hasn't seen many spoilers for that part of the story yet. So I just want to know if she's correct in her assumtpion that those two won't contain any noncon. I haven't read erha, I'm only familiar with it through fandom osmosis, so I wanted to ask someone who did. I trust her to stop if she needs to, but it'd be useful to give her a heads up for what to look out for and where because she is still a kid.
#erha#2ha#the husky and his white cat shizun#cw rape mention#the conversation was very embarassing for both of us. i don't think she expected me to know what it was#she was complaining about not being able to read the volumes until christmas and showing me fanart#at which point i clocked that it was tagged ranwan#i was also reading books that were very much not age appropiate when i was 13 so i don't want to stop or control her#but when she told me she genuinely doesn't wanna read the 18+ stuff she just really likes the rest of the story i think that was true#rather than just her being embarassed and trying to get an older family member of her back#(which would be understandable! but I know my sister pretty well and i think she was telling the truth)#so i'd like to help her skip the stuff she doesn't want to read
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the thing about having done a neat two years of voluntary weekly cbt which worked perfectly and cured me of trying to kill myself and about 50% of an eating disorder. is that i'm now very aware that the problem i'm currently having is not one that would be solved by a therapist so i can't even pretend like im going to get a therapist about it
#in that. what i am missing. is a close friend i talk to irl regularly who isn't šø a coworker a family member or also best friends with šø#not because anything's wrong with šø. but because i occasionally want to complain a little bit about some very mild things#about my in laws. and unfortunately my parents are way too geared up to defend me from Not Being Appreciated Enough#and i need to not create a secret rift with my in laws who i really like by telling my parents they were idk mildly critical of the#planned design of my engagement ring.#and i don't want to make it deeply weird for anyone in the other categories#but it's not a therapy problem. i just want to kvetch and be validated. and i don't like doing it over a text chat because i don't#want the ability to reread what i said afterwards. among other things#box opener#this makes it sound very mild and it really is but unfortunately im also lying awake at night thinking about it. so i should do an action.
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Ughhhhhhh I hate writing and I hate not writing and I hate myself
#nearly bought a digital typewriter today. actually i DID buy a digital typewriter today. officially yes i have bought a digital typewriter.#the money for the digital typewriter has left my account but i have emailed them to cancel the order because i can't in good faith buy#a digital typewriter when i don't fucking WRITE#i thought it might help me get back into it. distraction free and while allowing me to not judge my own writing#and be continuously editing while i write and going 'i'm crap i'm crap i'm crap no one will ever read this and if they do they will think#that i'm garbage and that i should feel bad etc etc etc'#but it's too expensive and i have the feeling i wouldn't even like or use the thing once i got it#because the IDEAS! the ideas aren't coming to me. or rather they are but none of them seem to stick#i feel underconfident in writing any of them#and then i have old projects that i've always wanted to get back to like the tennis romance thing but SO much has changed since i first#started drafting it. like i don't even know if i like the main couple anymore. i kind of want to put both of them with different OCs of min#but it'd switch up the WHOLE story if i had a different cast#in fact most of the problem lies in the fact that i have this long-running bedtime story i tell myself every night with lore#and a massive cast of characters that i switch out depending on who i'm most interested in right now and every so often i incorporate new#themes and ideas and motifs and plot points sometimes based on media i've been watching because it's MY bedtime story and it doesn't matter#if i plagiarise in my own brain. but then obviously i can't plagiarise in real life#and none of my bedtime stories are GOING anywhere. sometimes i only get through a scene or two before i fall asleep#all of which means my bedtime story is not so much a sweeping epic novel but a sitcom with way too many characters#most of which are werewolves to be honest and sometimes for my own wish fulfilment one of them will walk out of my head#and take care of my problems for me by lending me Ā£1million or murdering my best friend's ex. in my mind obviously#so it's like. it's a case of getting in there and annexing off the stuff i think i can use#it's like yeah i've definitely written several romance novels in my head in the process of this but does it matter if they're IN my HEAD#to be honest i feel like my main strength is in creating characters. like i have this one family of werewolves i've been slowly but surely#adding members to since i was like 16. maybe younger? no yeah i think i made the first one when i was 12#they're compelling to ME anyway. i care about them. it's just PLOTS. i can't plot#if a book could just be a lot of dialogue and sex scenes and silly moments and character studies i'd be alright#i also can't describe settings. don't ask me to because i can't#and now i'm just annoyed with myself because i sat down at my laptop to try to write and instead i'm here complaining about how i don't wri#and if i had the digital typewriter... i mean i'd probably still be doing this i'd just no longer have Ā£300#i don't have the Ā£300 anyway. i hope to christ they refund my card i'm a fucking idiot
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god i need therapy and to move out
#aka i need to move out#idk how much longer i can take listening to my parents just say shit and have opinions and then expect me to feel the same way#and when i disagree suddenly iām siding with the wrong people#when quite literally iām trying to make you understand that your thoughts are not the only thoughts to be considered#while also trying to validate their feelings but that theyāre not communicating at all and are taking it out on ppl#i am so so so tired of being the constant middleman between my family members and ultimately having to hear everyone say shit abt everyone#and expect me to immediately agree or understand#like girlies you can all be wrong and you all are and the fact that you arenāt willing to admit your wrongdoings is your first problem#your second was expecting me to hype you up and encourage your behavior#having to constantly remind myself that itās not my responsibility to keep the peace or to solve my familial issues#and the one time i tried to explain this it was met with āno oneās asking you toā#which is true !!! but then why are ALL OF YOU complaining to me and only me#why are you burdening me with all of this information#and if i tell you i canāt handle it or donāt want to talk about it iām suddenly the bad guy too#i canāt win here your honor !!! the only solution in which i win is to get OUT#and of course i canāt make anyone say or do or believe anything#iām not naive enough to think i can#but sitting there silent isnāt helping and speaking doesnāt either and thereās no other good solution#itās just exhausting
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i think i should get paid for waking up every day with the worst chest pain ever and having to deal with a family that just goes "but you don't have to go outside anymore!! you don't have to go anywhere!! you're fine!!" and when i say that i'm tired of taking my meds bc even though they help me they also remind me that there's something wrong with me my family goes "oh maybe you should stop taking all your meds then :)" like THAT'S NOT THE POINT.
#like idk have you considered that my doctor literally said āhey her condition will just keep coming back it can't be treatedā#SO MAYBE EVEN THOUGH I'M SPENDING ALL MY TIME AT HOME I WILL STILL SUFFER FROM THAT CONDITION??#and when i get angry my mom just goes āomg are you madddd <333ā like i'm three years old or smth#the only person that understands me is my grandma but she's also disabled and other family members often refuse to take her seriously-#and complain about how annoying she can be. and me and her often talk about it and it just.#idk it's so painful bc you can clearly see the difference between us and the abled family members#[ š š„š¢š§š ššš„š¤š¬ ]
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priests should not fucking go by father outside of church settings like that is so inappropriate imo i am not fucking calling you father ever ever ever
#ik this seems weird to complain about but at least once a shift i have to call at least one person who is listed as like father smith or smt#like why would you put your name in like that knowing full the people calling you from our service are not members of your congregation and#most will not even be part of your same faith. you are not my father!!!!!!!!!#honestly i have this issue with ppl who put any title besides just their name like i am not going to call your fucking cell phone and ask t#speak with 'doctor smith'. even mr and mrs and stuff like that bugs me it feels so weird and formal. but father bothers me so so so much i#think because its like familial and also is supposed to imply like authority and respect. like dude to me you are just a guy i do not care#AT ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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For real though... learning some Tico/Tiquismos stuff while writing this thing has been a delight and a fun challenge, you know?
All because I chose the Spanish surname "Espinoza" (because the Begotten!Twins are thorny as hell, and it suits them) and looking up where that name was very common. Honed in on Costa Rica for the twins' dad.
I'm glad I'm at least aware of dialects being a thing.
(And none of the racist, imperialist, classist BS from my grandpa thinking there's such a thing as academic/perfect Spanish. That anything outside of that arbitrary, practically non-existent dialect, is just fucking slang/wrong.)
#sanders sides#roman sanders#remus sanders#(i honestly think its hilarious how dialect differences can make communications kinda silly tho)#(camotes can mean weirdos or it can mean sweet potatoes)#(languages - like the people that made 'em - are messy and i kinda love it)#(this is also just me complaining about a family member)
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I hate how like. Very often when I'm trying to whine to someone, it goes something like
me: I don't really like visiting Relative A as much as I do Relative B, you know? Relative B always plans a full meal when you're visiting, along with drinks beforehand, and you're talking and hanging out the entire time, so you feel taken care of, and it's nice because it's like they really want you there and want you to have a good time! But with Relative A it's like you get tea when you arrive, but then someone turns the TV on, so no one pays attention to you, and by the time it's time for dinner you're bored, and when it's dinner no one's really talking but watching the TV instead, and it's often conservative news or pseudo-documentaries, so eventually you start bringing books or your laptop and move to a different room, but it's like, I can read and use the internet at my own house, yknow?
person x: oh, I hate being in the center of attention during family dinners tho. like, stop asking if I have a boyfriend!
perxon y: oh man, I'd love to just chill in another room while everyone else is talking, I wish hanging out could look like that
like... right, but... that's not... what I meant, really...
#shrimp thoughts#on one hand I want to say 'please pay attention to what I'm saying! it's right there! in what I'm saying!' but also isn't that being#high-maintenance? like oh who do you think you are to demand people listen to every single word you say. etc#like in general. all my life as I observed normal people interacting with their friends I thought complaining about your life and getting#headpats and then giving headpats and threatening to kill your friend's boss/boyfriend/family members is the norm#but my aunt once asked me if complaining to my friends is something that I NEED? Like it was a weird thing that I came up with?#and it's just like. very tiring to interact with people who fundamentally don't seem to understand what I'm even doing and why#like I'd have to hold their hand and explain that hello. I am talking about things that lay heavy on my mind. The expectation I have for#this interaction is that you comfort me. like WHO the fuck and in what universe does that. I feel like such a total alien sometimes/often
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so the language of the additions on this post was very consciously influenced by my experiences living in countries with laws and cultures dominated by Islam and Buddhism, respectively.
Yes I grew up in an oppressively Christian culture, but Western Christianity is not solely or even necessarily singularly oppressive, and is certainly not the only religious structure that leverages shame in a dangerous way. And we do the world at large a disservice by acting like other major global religious institutions are harmless simply because they aren't Christian. Religious trauma comes in many forms, foreign and familiar.
not to be anti-religious but i do wonder if teaching children that they are innately flawed and sinful is, perhaps, not a healthy worldvi
#not a shitpost#when i say 'not to be anti-religious' i quite literally mean#'not to open myself up to attack for criticizing not just christianity but also other religions beyond christianity and western familiarity#... BUT'#anyways other religions aren't benign or 'exotic' or 'exciting' or 'enlightening' just because you personally#weren't raised in a society entangled and altered and grappling with their inextricable sociopolitical influence#anyways yeah the original post was christian-centric (bc that's where my firsthand religious trauma comes from)#but the additions were written very much with other major world religions in mind#westerners forget: there are actually other MAJOR world religions in existence#and by major i mean large powerful and yes potentially quite harmful. like with most major power structures#this will shock and amaze you but many MANY human beings deal with annoying ridiculous awful religious oppression....#and that religion is not always christianity! because western experiences are not universal!#if you've never heard someone raised (for instance) in an Egyptian conservative muslim family go on a RANT...#... it's educational! they have a lot to complain about!!!#ANYWAY.#just because it's not your oppression doesn't mean it's not oppression. end rant#posts I'm going to lose followers for...#no wait im not done yet: to me religion is similar to a business or government#no it's not *innately* harmful. but it IS a power structure#and therefore highly vulnerable to abuse/misuse if preventative measure aren't taken as it grows#and the fact that it's promoting specific worldviews...the very basis on which we build our understanding of the world and morality...#and that it's so wrapped up in human emotions and spiritually...that makes everything more delicate. and individuals more vulnerable.#so yeah i think religion owes a duty of care to its members to acknowledge this and actively work to protect the communities it influences.#and yeah kids especially! hence this post
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Smth I think about sometimes is how like, I do so much stuff to overcompensate my struggles with various things, but generally I donāt acknowledge that Iām doing outside things to overcompensate or if I do I donāt get into specifics.
And then because of that like even if I tell people Iām struggling with x thing they just wonāt believe me sometimes coz they didnāt see/listen to me doing work on my own time.
Even if Iām already underperforming they wonāt understand how much effort it was taking JUST TO UNDERPERFORM.
But then if I make any progress or arenāt the literal worst itās all swept under the rug as if itās easy for me and I just wasnāt working hard enough the whole time or something?
#thoughts#oni talks#oni vents#It weirds me out how much people will just refuse to take your word for things when it comes to having a hard time sometimes?#especially if they are someone you havenāt seen in a while like why do yāall automatically assume Iām not being serious?#I think the main times itās frustrating is if itās something Iāve been struggling with for a while and I have been trying to get help for it#but bc that help hasnāt been received I have been trying to deal with *insert thing* on my own (and failing) hence the asking for help#but ppl will just?? act like I never asked for help even when I do? or act as if I seemed like I didnāt need help even when I complain?#forever thinking about this one comment from a certain family member where she said āyou didnāt seem like you needed/were asking for help#meanwhile me growing up struggling constantly & while I tried not to ask for help usually as a kid for obvious reasons#there were 10000% times where I would ask for help & be given absolutely nothing or Iād try to do something to help myself & be shamed#but I still never understood the concept of āyou didnāt seem like you needed helpā coz like?? I was obviously struggling?? even when I didnt#ask for help I was never doing particularly well? like I was actively failing out of things repeatedly but somehow I seemed fine???#I also hate how much of my effort is internal or unobservable so even Iām trying really hard itāll look like Iām not doing anything#but idk it just frustrates me sometimes coz Iāll be struggling or complaining & ppl will be like oh itās easy youāre fine like??#but then if I donāt ask for help and fail I get in trouble but if I do ask for help I also get in trouble itās so irritating#granted stuff is generally a lot better now (though I still need to do more)#but idk thereās just a couple areas of knowledge where I get genuinely irritated if Iām not listened to#often itās like that meme of I know more than you like the Ron Swanson one#but other times itās likeā¦ did you even listen at all??#even when Iām trying to relax itās often calculated (which tends to make it harder lol)#in terms of overcompensating itās like sometimes itās rough bc I know if I DO manage a decent job itāll be even higher expectations#idk sometimes itās frustrating when people just assume Iām not trying when I am? i definitely could try harder but also willpower is limited#& I donāt wanna burn myself out coz then Iām gonna get further behind#itās a wonder how much ppl take for granted their perceptions of you when they arenāt even paying close attention to you#or like?? yall could just ask me?? itās wild like i feel like i gotta pre emptively explain myself sometimes
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The Chaos Escalates
Read the prev parts Masterpost (Wrong Number)
A few days after Danny was reluctantly inducted into the Bat-familyās group chat, things began spiraling into pure chaos.
It started with a random text from the group chat late at night.
Dick: Hey, Danny, are you busy?
Danny: Itās midnight. What do you think?
Dick: So not busy. Cool. Whatās your opinion on capes?
Danny: ...Capes?
Jason: Donāt answer that. Itās a trap.
Danny: Too late. I hate capes. Theyāre impractical and get caught on things.
Dick: Blasphemy.
Jason: Told you it was a trap.
Tim: This is why I donāt wear one. Functionality > fashion.
Dick: Youāre all ungrateful. Capes are iconic.
Danny: Theyāre also death traps. Iāve literally watched a ghost get sucked into a portal because their cape got caught.
Jason: See? Ghost Boy gets it.
Dick: This conversation isnāt over.
The next morning, Danny woke up to find at least fifteen memes about capes, all courtesy of Dick. Most were dramatic pictures of heroes with billowing capes, accompanied by captions like, āBehold, the majesty youāll never achieve.ā
Danny sighed, grabbing his phone to text.
Danny: You need a hobby that isnāt bothering me.
Dick: Youāre my new hobby.
Danny: Fantastic. Iām deleting this group chat.
Tim: Youāll just get added back. Trust me, Iāve tried.
As if that wasnāt bad enough, later that day, Danny got a private text from Damian.
Damian: You are the half-ghost Jason speaks of?
Danny sighed.
Danny: Yep. And you areā¦?
Damian: Damian Wayne. The Blood son and The most competent member of this family. Do you also possess combat skills?
Danny: Uh, yeah? Iāve fought plenty of ghosts and a few humans.
Damian: Acceptable. Spar with me.
Danny: What?
Damian: You fly, yes? I wish to test my skills against aerial opponents.
Danny stared at his phone, dumbfounded. Who are these people?
Later, Danny complained to the group chat.
Danny: Whoās the kid who just demanded to fight me?
Jason: Ah, youāve met Demon Spawn.
Tim: Be nice, Jason.
Dick: Thatās Damian. Heās... intense. But he means well.
Danny: He literally challenged me to a fight.
Jason: Yeah, thatās him ābeing nice.ā
Damian: Do not speak ill of me, Todd. Danny, I expect a proper duel soon.
Danny: Not happening.
Damian: Coward.
Over the next week, Danny received a steady stream of texts from various members of the Bat-family. From Jasonās snarky commentary to Timās endless ghost-related questions, and even Dickās unsolicited advice on acrobatics, Danny felt like heād accidentally adopted a whole new chaotic family.
It all came to a head when Danny got a message from none other than Lady Gotham herself.
Lady Gotham: I see youāve met my knights, little ghost.
Danny nearly dropped his phone. "How tf is a spirit texting me."
Danny: Wait. Youāre Lady Gotham?
Lady Gotham: Indeed. And youāve done well to entertain my champions. I am most amused.
Danny: Amused? Theyāre insane.
Lady Gotham: And yet, you fit among them so perfectly.
Danny groaned. He was doomed.
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#danny phantom#danny fenton#dp x dc#blue rambles#crossover#random idea#writing ideas#batman#jason todd#danny phantom dc#wrong number#au#Jason is concerned and doing his best to keep the green at bay#Danny is freaking out cause he just spilled everything#oh no#danny is already stressed over his life#he doesnt need more#anti-ecto acts piss him off cause he technically falls under it too#dps fandom#dc x dp crossover#batfam#danny is a little shit#dpxdc#ghost king danny#dc x dp#sassy danny#danny being danny
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Snowflake Day Tree + Activities
I actually started to make this two years ago and forgot about it but then I got the idea to do it again and remembered that I had already written most of the code. It was sort of like finding money in your pocket you'd forgotten about. š
Much like in real life, I prefer to spend my holidays in-game with family instead of randoms and I just want to open presents without having to throw a Gift Giving party. So I made a Christmas Snowflake Day tree to do that where you can decorate and add gifts to open on Snowflake Day.
I also added some holiday activities for kids and toddlers if you have the More Activities Activity Table. It's an add-on so you need that mod (and whatever requirements go with it) if you don't already.
Enjoy and Merry Christmas!
More info after the cut and Updates here
Decorate the Tree (this is meant as a joinable group activity so you can invite others to join; up to 4 Sims (child+) can decorate)Ā
Add Tree Topper (if you have any)
Hang Ornaments (if you have any)
Turn On/Off Lights (if decorated)
Admire Ornaments (sims may get a nice holiday moodlet - Holiday Memories buff)
Add Gift forā¦
Look at Presents (get information on how many gifts are under the tree and to whom)
Steal Presents (only for Klepto, rebellious, Evil, Mean-spirited; you will get in trouble if someone sees)
Sneak a Peek at Presents - to check out any of your gifts
Invite Everyone to Open Presents - for Snowflake Day, brings everyone on the lot to open gifts under the tree; if someone doesnāt have gifts, they will watch others open presents and if they are in the household they will get a sad buff. Gifts improve relationship score if Sims like it; does nothing if they donāt but if they get too many gifts they donāt like, they can complain about it.
Open Gifts - self explanatory. If you donāt want to gather everyone together, you can open gifts at any time on Snowflake Day. Depending on how many gifts you like/don't like, you will get a special moonlet (Feeling Grateful/Bummer Holiday)
Take Down Decorations
Put Away Tree
Sims can also:
Ask for holiday presentsā¦Toy | Book | Vehicle | Computer | Electronics | Jewelry | Decor | Hobby Object | Sports Object
This is a one-time interaction that Sims can use on any family or household member. If a sim gets what they asked for, they will get a special buff (Just What I Wanted)
Thank for Presents (if they had a particularly good Snowflake Day)
Complain about Presents (if they had a bad one)
With the MAAT add-on, children and toddlers can also:
Make handmade ornaments and hang them on the tree. The ornaments can be stored in the decorations box.
Make handmade Snowflake Day cards for friends and family (kids only). You can give them directly to Sims or put them under the tree as a gift.
Notes and Recommendations:
To be able to utilize all the tree features, make sure there is enough space around the entire tree for Sims to gather and interact with the tree
Your Sims need to have a giftable object in their personal or household inventory to add a present to the tree
When a Sim has asked for a gift, the game checks whether any of the gifts they receive are in the same buy subcategory or object type as what they asked for so if, as example, a kid asks for a toy and you get them a cc toy that is categorized as a plant or deco object in the game, itās not going to count.Ā
To gift jewelry, you need the TS3 Store Jewelry Machine or any custom wearable jewelry objects that is the same object type as the Store Jewelry box object
If you don't have my activities table mod and don't want it, then don't download the two MAAT files.
Requires Generations, Showtime (actually I don't think you need Showtime. I think I wanted to use something from it but then didn't but I'm sure one of you will confirm for me š) and Seasons
Details and Instructions:
The tree and box can be purchased in the Entertainment/Hobbies Section (300 and 200, respectively), the tree topper in the Misc Deco (90) or they can all be found in the custom Snowflake Day collection file.
To decorate the tree, your Sim needs both the tree object and the decorations box. Custom ornaments and tree toppers go into the decorations box.
The tree comes with a default decoration but you can create and add your own tree decorations. The file has an XML (HolidayTreeDecorations) where you can add the Resource Key, Group ID for the OBJD of the decoration, whatever name you want to call it, whether you want it to light up or not, and the image (if you donāt want a custom image, just use the default one in my first entry).
Credits: Meshes by EA, tree deco is from Coral Island (I hope Stairway Games doesn't come for me!!) and the ornaments are by me and Freepik. Images are EA and Flaticons. Animations by EA and me.
Download here
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still on this, the thing that makes markey in particular so galling to me is that he's done NOTHING. he's been in politics for as long as my mother has been alive (my mother is in her fifties) and the only thing he has in his record in terms of tangible achievements is some bill from twenty to thirty years ago that makes it harder for poor people to have internet (in stark contrast to joe's proven bonafides and progressive record but shrug dot emoji). he's accomplished nothing meaningful, his win was based entirely on vibes that children decided he had and taylor lorenz's moronically credulous brain tried to pretend was smart politics, and promises that he immediately turned his back on the second the primary was over. he barely spends time in MA, if it weren't for joe trying to primary him he wouldn't have been in that state at all for the entire calendar year considering he lives in maryland. he's emblematic of everything people claim they hate about politics and careerism, but because he did the right lip service and sponsored one bill with aoc back before her brain developed, a bunch of kids who barely understand how government works went all in on using the internet to pretend he was this leftist king who would be the bernie of a new era and were surprised when a man who voted for the hyde amendment and stood by it even in 2020 and continuously famously doesn't back down on any bad decision he made continued to have the same stances he's had for the last fifty fucking years. fuck him, fuck the 'markeyverse', i'm so glad it basically immediately ouroborosed itself and that they're all useless and can't ever interfere in an election ever again.


calling the markey haters
#personal#do you know how FRUSTRATING it was explaining to people over and over that this man does jack shit#and that's not even counting how abysmal his constituent services was#or his racism#or the times he would make jokes about joe's dead relatives which is acceptable if they happen to be from a famous family#(he started off this fucking primary making some crack at a member of the kennedy family who'd killed herself that month)#(piece of SHIT)#i haaaaaaate him it's so serious and so personal for me#and i'm serious he NEVER changes positions#he still defends the hyde vote and the crime vote (back when people were angry about biden and the crime bill)#(but willing to give fucking markey a pass??????? tf??????)#it was so funny i remember spring of 2021 israel did some bullshit as it does#and markey put out some statement about how blah blah the us must support israel blah blah you know how politicians do#and the markeyverse kids were sooooooooo upset and betrayed and wailing about how he could turn his back on his principles#he has no principles this is who he's always bene you just fooled yourselves because you wanted to be important and you're stupid#(and then later that year calla calling afghans 'afghanis' while complaining about biden god she was dumb)#(can't believe the closest counterpart i had on the markey campaign was one of the dumbest people to ever live)#also not forgiving markey for the environment we had to deal with in that primary either#there's a reason i'm quoted BY NAME in a politico article talking about the death threats and threatening language i had to deal with#and the impact it had on me#god i'm still so heated i'm killing your career one day ed i swear to god
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