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actual-corpse · 7 months ago

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Saw a YT vid with the title, "Fandom Can't Handle Asexuality"

You're right, they can't... Because it doesn't fucking exist to them.

#aroace #asexual #enby people arent real either #we're told to stop using neopronouns and to stop being aroace bc 'nobody will take LGBT seriously'#keep being exclusionary #i dont want to be your friend if you're gonna act like that #I'm a genderqueer aroace person who's pronouns are it/its and you're gonna fucking respect that or be called a bigot #this shit has got to stop #also... because it matters #dont be ableist #ever. just dont #one of the main reasons i hate Alastor so much... is the fandom's treatment of him as a character #most of them completely erase his sexuality in favor of shitty crack ships.#I think a QPR with Lucifer or Rosie is a cute idea! but that's it #keep Vox pining for Alastor... that's great too #its like when I tried to erase Porter Gage's Bisexuality.... It was wrong and I've changed (Fallout 4's romanceable companions are cannonic #cannonically bisexual... I don't make the rules) I was just mad because someone had MY BLORBO in a disgusting ship and I got sick of seeing #it... And THEN I learned how to block tags!!!#idk where this is going #i'm just upset that aros and aces and enbys are erased #maybe it's a confirmation bias and i've just spent too long doing demographic research #i HATE demographic research #it takes me to disgusting places #i need to find my sewing patterns so I can refocus my energy into something good

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margarethx · 2 years ago

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I know that it’s not the most common interpretation, because a lot of fans find the actor handsome, but I honestly like the idea of Bucky being... not that attractive. At least when he’s after his Hydra treatment.

Most people see his flirtatious behaviour and good looks as a big part of his characterization, but I prefer to think about those things as something he has also lost over time. It just makes more sense to me that he would look less presentable in the 21st century, considering his experiences.

And it also makes Sam’s affection for him even more special, because it’s not just: “Sam is reckless and does anything for a pretty boy” (which is also a fun plot at times), but more of a: “it never mattered to Sam if Bucky looked good, because he cares about him so much that it’s irrelevant”.

Idk... maybe I’m just not a big fan of a “tragically beautiful” trope. But also the idea of Bucky re-learning how to take care of himself and look better while he heals is more appealing to me that him just being freed from years of torture and looking like a model with no effort. And... It’s also a cute idea for a fic where Bucky would not care about his looks at all, but the moment he meets Sam, he suddenly wants to comb his hair, or shave, or find clean clothes. (Even though Sam had liked him even when he had dark under eyes, uneven beard, or greasy hair.)

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contagious-watermelon · 6 months ago

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what is it with the aro community basically reinventing amatornomativity but including (some of) us this time. acting like QPRs are the solution to your problems and obviously theyre more meaningful and important than friendships and what do you mean you don't want a platonic life partner? well if you're "just friends" they're gonna leave you for their romantic relationship eventually — no, no, you can't mean that, "best friend" is either just the same thing as a QPR or not good enough to stay in your life forever. you don't like how you probably won't ever be able to have kids because who's going to let a single trans man adopt a child, and even if they did how would you support them, and no for the last time i don't want to marry anyone even platonically. i do not want a partner ever. ever.

but don't you know that all of us hate amatonormativity? but we're fine with it when we're included. oh and don't you know aros can date too? did you know? did you know you can date too?

you have problems? society isn't structured for you? you have to learn to navigate socially and legally in a world that's built for couples and that's a very distressing experience and you're invisible if you don't loudly proclaim your aromanticism after every room you walk in — but we're gonna keep arguing about shipping. what do you mean you have more problems than people being stupid in fandom? what, is the one aroace character who got "confirmed" off-screen and never mentioned outside of that at all not good enough for you? that doesn't actually change anything for you societally?

but you surely want a QPR. it's totally not just us forcing some watered-down romance on you after you said you didn't want it (but did you know aros can date too? surely you didn't forget that. aros can still love and we hate that you're implying they can't). all of your problems with society hating you for your singleness and aro-ness would be solved if you just got a partner — no, a platonic one, why would you assume otherwise? this is nothing like telling a gay man to just suck it up and marry a woman. see, that would be homophobic, but you? didn't you know that aros can still date?

#aromantic #aro #amatonormativity #sorry this is very much a rant bc tbh i don't really know how to word it in a way that isn't one #idk its just a very isolating experience being aro when its so hard to find other people who are too #(you can't just casually drop a ''my boyfriend'' the way you would if you were gay)#and even the people i do know irl are a lot closer to the alloro side of the aro spectrum than me #or more amenable to platonic partners or qprs or whatever #idk i hope this doesnt come off like I'm hating on the aro people who do want to date or have any kind of partnership #thats not what I'm saying and i hope thatd be clear but you can never be sure #just wish there was more (or‚ yk‚ any at all) political advocacy for aromantic issues #like the societal structures that benefit couples thing i mentioned. let it be possible to have a family as a single parent #that would help me obv but also other people who are just divorced or widowed too #maybe I'm looking in the wrong places to find that sort of thing #but you can find asexual advocacy groups and stuff #working for their political issues #and obv theres tons of groups for gay and trans people #i just havent been able to find anybody doing anything similar for aromantic people #o.

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captain-k8kat · 1 year ago

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The thought that I could be allosexual and just confused my asexuality with aromantism is a thought that's been cropping up a lot lately and it's terrifying me.

Like it's easier to say that I'm ace/allo, it's easier to say that I'm simply aro/ace, but saying I'm allo/aro just scares me. Because while I know objectively this isn't true, a part of me feel that the moment I identify as allo/aro is the moment I become morally bankrupt. That no matter my sexual history, I will be this heartless creature who's only ever in it for sex in the eyes of the public. And like, I know that just internal aphobia but it scares me regardless.

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airenyah · 10 months ago

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ok so today i had my first thai class after a really long christmas break and somehow andreas gabalier (an austrian folk singer) and his music came up. and i don't remember what exactly my teacher said but he made a comment along the lines of "andreas gabalier is considered a standard good looking dude here in austria, right?" (my teacher is from thailand, so he wasn't sure about austrian people's preferences)

and his question was met with complete silence, because the thing is... our class consists of 3 middle aged guys plus one more guy in his mid 30s. and then there's me. the only girl

and since no one answered the question about andreas gabalier's looks, our teacher then addressed me directly and following conversation ensued:

teacher: "[airenyah]?" me: (feeling slightly shy and embarrassed) ".....i don't know what andreas gabalier looks like 🙈" everyone: (breaks out in laughter) middle-aged classmate: (highly amused) "i suspect he's not your type..." (me: "oh 🙈") "you're not missing out on anything :D"

i really like my teacher but god, let me live. don't put me on the spot like that 😩😩😩

#i hate when people ask me my opinion on somebody's looks #esp if that somebody in question is an older dude (as in significantly older than me. doesn't have to be ''old'' in reality)#idk!!! the person looks normal to me!!! person-shaped!!! idk‚ what do you want from me!!! i'm too asexual for this conversation!!!#we're not super close in this class (it's online which doesn't help with that either) so no one actually knows shit about my sexuality #and idk if my teacher put me on the spot for heteronormative reasons bc i'm the only girl in class #or bc he trusts my opinion (technically i could be considered an expert in austrian culture‚ i have a BA for that now lol)#but somehow my classmate's comment felt really reassuring to me somehow #i have no idea what made him think that that singer wouldn't be my type (maybe the age difference??) but like #so true man. so true. you don't even know #what even IS my type #airenyah plappert #stories from my thai class #also yeah everyone was laughing but it wasn't mean-spirited like. they weren't laughing AT me #i think my comment was just funny to them bc they probably weren't expecting it and so maybe they were surprised #or maybe bc i'm also the youngest in the group so maybe in their heads they were going ''aw she's too young to know andreas gabalier''#(i mean i WAS very much aware of him‚ i just never cared about him and his music and so i didn't care to know about his appearance)#the guys were laughing very amusedly while i was just sitting there like ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ lmao (i too was amused when they laughed tho)#anyway i have since looked up andreas gabalier's face and he is literally just some dude to me #i do hate his hairstyle tho. it looks greasy with gel ewww #but yeah apart from that my opinion on his looks is that he looks like an ordinary human being idk #nothing good and nothing bad about it #(except yeah. the hair gel maybe. maybe that IS bad actually)

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galaxseacreature · 1 year ago

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Weird fucking end of the day, y'all!

I've got a progress pride flag pin and a little round ace pride flag pin on my backpack. The progress pin has been there long term but even the ace pin has been on there for probably a year now. I've gotten exactly one chill "hey me too!" in that whole time (nice!)

So ofc it's the day I'm drop dead tired, I'm talking brain absolutely fried, need to get home asap, lay on the floor, and recalibrate type of bone tired. Ofc THIS is the day a coworker I'm walking out of the building with decides to ask what the ace pin is

#It's chill overall but it was kind of awkward and I just feel kinda weird #I'm weird about it much of the time tbh but especially with my brain whirring along at dial up speed from the world's longest Tuesday #So idk. I guess I sort of came out to 2 coworkers today #The first big test of my ''I'll share if asked/directly relevant'' philosophy given being ace is almost never directly relevant or obvious #No one was bad about it I just said it was an ace/ asexuality pride pin #(I have trained myself to say the full word for better comprehension. but not well enough that i don't still say ace first every time lol)#Got a ''oh I don't think I've seen that one before''#And I said something lame like ''yeah its not as commonly known''#Awkward beat. No direct follow up. Felt like maybe I should elaborate but not sure about what really #Could have explicitly said I was ace I guess. Probably that was the move. In hindsight and all. definitely the move!#I bet people are more likely to understand a direct coming out social script than a nominally-small-talk-about-pride-flags one #Not that I really know what I want someone to say when I come out either. Just....acknowledgement? something not mean?#Idk it just felt awkward all around. Vaguely weird. Not actually bad really. Just. Threw me off balance.#the literal end of dayness of it all too. timing really is everything in this life i swear #So that was my Tuesday afternoon!

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unnecessarilygrandiose · 1 year ago

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me wanting to hope that in heartstopper season 3 aro erasure will get punched in the face the same way bi erasure was in season 2 but also being afraid to hope because i've been burned before

#the thing about aro rep is that at any given moment i have exactly zero expectation of it #and yet somehow #i've still managed to be disappointed by stories before #the fact that the word aromantic was said on screen in itself seems like such a big deal #i feel like i'm setting myself up for disappointment if i hope for too much more #i mean if anyone can deliver what i want to us it's probably alice but still #they seem to identify more with asexuality than aromanticism and if they want to write isaac as such i wouldn't begrudge them #but still. i want the aromanticism to be acknowledged a little more #or maybe i don't idk. i got full body chills and tears just listening to the word aromantic maybe true rep will kill me.#thank you for coming to my ted talk✌️

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statisticalcats2 · 1 year ago

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Oh.

#weird but not negative feeling that there are apparently people with the same confusions as me wow #i think it happened on my nuked blog but i had a bit of an awakening moment #where i realized the only difference i could really see between platonic and romantic feelings was sexual/sensual feelings/actions #but asexuals including completely sex-averse asexuals can still feel romantic attraction #so there's something there i'm missing fgreywiuhij #and maybe it's tied to my autism idk #and hey apparently there's other people missing it too

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sparky-is-spiders · 3 months ago

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Someone please explain the appeal of catgirls/catboys or whatever to me. Like don't get me wrong they're better than regular humans but why not just go full anthro?

#genuine question btw #not judging i just Don't Get It #maybe i'm just too much of an asexual furry for this idk #like i understand that people enjoy looking at other people in theory #but i've always found humans to be so aesthetically uninteresting y'know?

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lieutenantselnia · 4 months ago

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This is super random, but I've recently been watching more German movies (I really enjoyed the performances of some Downfall actors and wanted to see some of their other works), and like what the hell is it with 2000s German movies that there's way too often one entirely random scene with someone having their bare ass out😭😂

Of course it doesn't happen in every movie but still often enough that it's somehow noticeable? I'm not sure if it's more of a time or a country dependent thing, but at least in my perception I just don't feel like this occurs as often in more recent movies and series especially in those from the US (like, I feel I'd have noticed if it did because I'd probably be lowkey annoyed by it😂)

#or maybe the things I tend to be interested are just more targeted at all ages that's why I rarely don't come across it usually idk #I mean in some instances it it's actually sorta plot relevant (like in the final scenes of Napola for example) but in others it's so random #and I'm like ... couldn't you just have lifted the camera angle a couple degrees so we only see that guy from the waist up?#I just feel a little bad for the actors tbh😅 esp in those unnecessary scenes. I mean I guess they knew what they signed up for but still #this is all meant to be /lh to be clear - for the most part I find this literally just hilarious because it's such a random thing #not sure if my asexuality has to do with my perception either. I find it silly and roll my eyes at it but I'm not genuinely bothered by it #but aside from that watching movies because of specific actors can actually be kinda funny #because it makes you take a look at media you'd never have considered otherwise (which can be hit or miss)#like for example now I've watched some of the most random movies ever just because Justus von Dohnányi is in them #(<- he has my recommendation btw. not all of them were even good but I think he's genuinely fun to watch and also kinda adorable tbh)#it's also funny when you watch sth because of one actor and then another one you remember from elsewhere just randomly appears there too #like once I was like 'hey isn't that the guy who played Hewel in Downfall? oh and the one who played that one drunk guy is here too lol'#also idk why but I feel like Thomas Kretschmann is somehow everywhere lmao #I mean it's probably bc he's in a lot of international productions too but still. tbf he doesn't look bad at all #those two and André Hennicke are generally the ones I'm most interested in. maybe Rolf Kanies too #but tbh I feel like he just hasn't been in as many things? idk why though he was so good in Downfall #anyway I think I'm yapping way too much. I just like watching things and talking about them #and seeing actors having fun with their job while also being good at it is just really cool tbh #selnia talks

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baelavelaryon · 6 months ago

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people talk a lot of smack about Buffy and Riley's romance and don't get me wrong they don't really do it for me but NOTHING is more boring to me than season 3 bangle

#cytherea.txt #btvs rewatch #oh they went to a movie and it was sexy and now they're thinking uncontrollable sexy thoughts about each other #but they could Never.... how tragique 🥺#idk maybe i'm too asexual for this shit #like don't fuck it's literally fine what's the deal #anyway im literally looking forward to riley that's how bummed they're getting me

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autistic-greg-house · 5 months ago

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So my criteria for collecting House-adjacent images is usually based on "just how pathetic does that old man look on a scale of 1-10" but! I love a challenge!

Starting off safe. Pretty man.

Oral fixation king <3

Smirk + open shirt collection. Plus rolled sleeves, always a nice bonus in my opinion 👍

Then there's straight up the scenes where he just...doesn't wear clothes lmao.

Ending on a classic 😂

(Hope this fits your criteria! It was fun rummaging through my many MANY House images to find these haha) 🖤

Hello, sick, sad people and their House hyper fixation ! In the interest of saving time and avoiding a lot of boring chitchat later, I'm Doctor Gregory House obsessed, but you can call me "Gay Mousebites." (We need more mouse bites). I'm staffing this blog this morning. I am a Board certified fan of old man yaoi with a double specialty in gay crime and gay medical malpractice. And no, I do not have a fanfiction management problem, I have a too-many-tabs-open problem. But who knows? Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe I've been in horny jail too long to tell.

We’ve got a case - I want to collect the best, hottest and most homoerotic and slutty pics of House himself in one place. Here’s my first best guess, but I could be wrong:

We’ve got an open blouse with a sneaky peak, furrowed brow (the heavy weight of that HUGE brain), he’s getting his coat because he’s about to save someone’s life whilst bullying them 🥵, tousled locks. Points to beautiful? Differential diagnosis for sexy old man, people. Go!

#Real talk I'm probably 100% too asexual sex-repulsed to truly be a good judge of “ooh sexy old man” images but like #Maybe you'll like some of these? Idk. I had fun anyway haha #House MD #Gregory House #Screenshot #L.txt #L.jpg

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eggmeralda · 1 year ago

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everyday I think about the jean alexander "never fell in love/never had sex" quotes

#it's like she never actually said she was asexual or aromantic or anything and she died 7 years ago so we'll never know #and some of the quotes are like. did she just not believe in sex before marriage or was there.....something else......#and i don't wanna like. assign a sexuality to a real person. so one can only dream #also i'm reading her autobiography atm and there have been some vaguely vaguely vaguely aromantic sentences being said #only a few. vaguely. or am i reading too much into it #idk there's something about a real person born about 5 generations before me being maybe asexual that's reassuring i guess #okay even if she's not actually aro or ace she still never dated anyone her whole life and that's still pretty cool :')#okay anyway #ramble

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felkithecreator · 4 months ago

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(Full-Color Version under the cut!!)

I was inspired by @breannasfluff 's pride DTIYS!! But, well, why draw just Triple Threat when I could draw the entire Chain instead???

Is what I thought, when I started this over a month ago.

Reasons why I should've drawn only Triple Threat, rather than the entire Chain, is that this probably would've taken like, 3 or 4 weeks less than it actually did :D. (..that's not true, more like 2 weeks probably.) Ahaha

Still, I'm very happy with how this turned out!! :D

I'm still so so late though it's not even Pride Month anymore whoops.

The flags that I chose are my own personal head-canons for the Chain. But also I'll list some of my relationship headcanons too for fun.

Warriors: Gay, painfully single.

Time: Ambiguously queer, for the purposes of this art I thought genderqueer fit well. Ofc he's married to Malon.

Wind: Queer/Gay (He and Tetra are queer platonic besties to me) I didn't really wanna assign too much to him though since he's like, 14, so he just got a rainbow.

Twilight: Pansexual. Used to have a crush on Midna, later develops a relationship with Shad?? Idk, he can do whatever he wants.

Sky: Bisexual, Polyamorous. Man is totally dating both Sun and Groose.

Four: I have no idea what Four is. Vio is gay, Shadow is gay, Blue and Green are not into romance, and Red is pan. Demiromantic I guess, for all of Four? But like Four would never date anyone cuz the colors. So I just went with a rainbow.

Legend: Transgender, gay, asexual. My headcanon says he's married to Ravio. (For tax reasons, ofc.)

Hyrule: Aroace!! (Aromantic asexual). I'm sorry but I cannot imagine this little fae dating anyone. Queer platonic relationships with the Zeldas though? I can see that.

Wild: Bigender. I also headcanon him as polysexual but I forgot that I headcanoned him as that until literally writing this bit so uh... I forgot to add it to the image. Oh well.

This took forever, literally I am dying, and now I can finally move onto drawing a different piece!! ...I still need to finish my Chain as mythical creatures series so maybe I'll get on that

Here's the full-color version:

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anonymouscheeses · 6 months ago

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CRACKSHIP JUST DROPPED!! GUYSSS HEAR ME OUUUTTT‼️ they would be sooo cute and I love them soo much already!! 😭😭 Gummigoo x Pomni x Striker has my heart snd I want people to be invested too cuz I'm a little bit in love...

They love to tease eachother and kiss excessively in the morning. They are dating guys it's canon I swear‼️ Question you may be asking, why Striker of all the characters not in TADC?? Immediately when I saw Gummigoo, his western accent, his cowboy hat, the vibes, I Immediately thought of Striker and since I have one half of a braincell I was like "what if they kissed.... maybe even held hands...!!" But then later I fell in love with FunnyGummy and couldn't let it go. So. THEY ARE POLYAMOROUS AND WILL GET MARRIED I SWEAR 🗣🔥

Headcanons and art dump below cut ;3 vvvv

THE COWBOYS!! Striker is very flirty and takes the initiative because Gummi is a bit introverted. He likes to dance all the time with anybody but he likes it slow when he's with his partners :>

SHARE ONE BRAINCELL. Pomni is his therapist no questions asked. She's the reason he found out he's asexual. Idk I think they help eachother figure things out and he's soft for her like idk... a big teddy bear or somthn 🥹

DEPRESSED BUDDIES. They have a LOT of angst in their relationship which is good for them because they need emotional healing from the entire... simulation thing. My babiess

Also here's a thing so you can get their relationship a bit more :3

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teaboot · 4 months ago

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hi. there's something i've been wondering and you give good advice so i thought to ask you. there's a lgbt community center near my work that i want to visit, but i'm aro ace and their website makes no mention of asexuality or aromantism, the center is called 'the LGBTI+ Center' with no A in sight. i'm kind of terrified of going there and being told to my face that ace and aro aren't sexualities and that i don't belong here, and i don't know how to ask 'hey do you believe ace or aro people are queer too?' ... any advice 😥 ? thank you!!

Honestly as far as popular recognition goes AroAce identities are still pretty new for a lot of folks- I'd say it's fully possible that people there just aren't aware of them yet, but if you do choose to heck it out and they're willing to reject you for being the wrong kind of queer then frankly you'll know who to avoid at the very least.

But also IRL queer communities are typically NOT like the internet experience- enough real actual people who have been told to their faces that they aren't actually whatever they are know not to be dicks about things they don't get, and those who haven't figured that out either glom together into a sad little crank pile or get weeded out of social events for being goddamn miserable to be around.

In my experience most groups like that are pretty chill but idk prepare for the worst and hope for the best is usually a safe go-to- bring a friend, if you can! (Though I'd say inclusion of the "+" in there is a pretty good green flag- it kinda acknowledges that there are more real queer identities than would otherwise fit on a sign, right?)

Also idk, I figure I might be aroace myself maybe but we haven't figured that one out yet

Def a valid ID tho no question there 👌

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