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ghostzzy · 1 month ago
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is allowing yourself to feel resentment Part Of The Process
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lacomandante · 6 months ago
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#;ooc#(i will admit i've been somewhat anxious to be on tumblr here bc i feel like.......sort of a failure in a way)#(i feel like im not producing enough art or fics or edits or memes or gifsets and it stresses me out when its silly!)#(ive been in the sharpe fandom for 7 years now when it was mostly just me and sam so its definitely like oh god. what do i have to show for#it)#(i dont have to /prove/ i love this series by making all these things. i think abt teresa and the sharpe series every goddamn day)#(i can do things at my own pace but lord it takes too long)#(i need to go back and fix my old fics bc i want to fix characterizations- i want to post my current art#(i want to post all my gifsets currently in my drafts)#(i love seeing everyone's stuff on the dash but ive avoided a lot of tumblr so im not ignoring anyone!! just being too mean to myself tbh)#(adhd and chronic fatigue and depression make it all the more difficult but i shouldnt let that stop me)#(in the meantime i finished a mockup of one of teresa's dresses- very excited with how lovely it came out)#(i've also made significant process on my drawings of teresa's outfit lineups!! new and old designs)#(and i just started a piece yesterday that i'm really loving so far- my favorite spanish ladies all together)#(i also have some sharpe and antonia doodles that i was working on...)#(anyways. just wanted to get that off of my chest)#(and also FINALLY started working on three different fics that i've had as ideas for literal YEARS)#(they're not that far in but. PROGRESS!)#(anyways......ignore me sdfsdfgsdf)
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landscaping-your-mind · 1 year ago
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[ID: Tags from yaluzaishin reading: “#it’s covered in the fucking ooze. y’know” /End ID]
"i'm not triggered or upset by or even ideologically opposed to it, i just associate it with something so bad that i can't enjoy it anymore" is such a frustrating relationship to have with a piece of media
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felix-the-pup2 · 9 months ago
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Hi, my name is Felix! I'm a fat white autihd atheist trans male system!
im demisexual, i consider myself to be on the aromantic spectrum cause of that. im bisexual but homoromantic. hope that clears up how i talk abt myself and my attraction.
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DNI + BYF under read more
My original tumblr (@felix-the-pup) is unfortunately gone. Now I'm at this one. Anyone else claiming to be me is lying.
My tag "group howl" is for reblogs!
my tag "dogs meow" is for my posts!
my tag "inappropriate" is for ns-for-w posts!
my tag "evil mailman" is for asks!
my tag "pawart" is for my art!
my boyfriend is @maswoom!
BYF
I've OCD and (diagnosis pending) BPD, and it causes me to be rather obsessive towards characters (redirecting it to fictional characters makes it less likely to affect real people). I used to call myself a yandere when I was like, 15, and someone made a call out post on me over it. I didn't use it because I was ableist, I used it because I didn't know why I behaved the way I did (not realizing it was BPD).
If you think narcissists, schizophrenic people, sociopaths, and/or psychopaths are inherently evil, I really really hate you. I don't want anything to do with you if you genuinely believe that. I'm extremely serious.
I'm endo neutral. I think anti endo people are a bit harsh, but I understand the sentiment. At the end of the day, another system's origin is none of my business. I'm traumagenic, though.
I get uncomfortable when mutuals/friends of mine block me without notice, but you're obviously not required to tell me if you're going to block me. It is your choice to tell me, and your right if you decide not to. I'm just noting that that sort of thing makes me anxious.
and my DNI (which is mostly obvious:
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You made it this far, so let me tell you that if you'd like to see my full carrd (which links to other accounts of mine) feel free to ask in dms!
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onedaughterofman · 2 years ago
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Heyoo! how are ya doing? Im unsure if you take requests because i can't navigate tumblr to save my life, but, if you do, could i ask for some Ghost bc x reader birthday comfort fic? like,,, hurt to comfort? yesterday was my birthday and i had a rlly bad day, like, boss screaming at me, ppl forgetting abt it, etc. Can be with anyone, the ghouls, papas, whichever flows better :) Gn reader if possible. If not thats ok! Hope you had a good day!
Hi! Listen, I'm not taking requests anymore BUT I had a draft laying around that could work with this, so I made some changes here and there. It's not perfect, but I hope you like it.
I know your birthday was some days ago, so happy (really) late birthday! ♥ I'm sorry to hear you had a hard time. Here is my gift to you.
Papa Emeritus II x g/n reader. Birthday fluff!
Summary: Secondo is a soft man at heart, with a secret talent he puts to good use for your birthday.
Tags: Rated T, kinda fatherly Secondo, fluff, platonic relationships.
A/N: Look at Papa doing his silly little dance!
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“What’s that?”
Papa’s hand hangs in front of your eyes, a big white ceramic plate resting on it. “Torta paradiso,” he replies, delicately swaying the place to one side and then the other. “All'arancia”.
Alright. That you can see and smell. The delicate yet strong fragrance of the orange permeates the air, making your mouth salivate. The cake looks simple, barely decorated with a bit of powdered sugar and orange zest on the top.
However, you don’t understand why Secondo is placing it right in front of your face, making it serpent like it’s tempting you to sin. “I can see that,” you continue, sitting straight on the couch. The heavy blankets fall around your waist and the cold air hits your skin, sending shivers down your arms and legs. “Where did you get it?”
“I made it myself.”
Oh.
That’s… something you didn’t see coming. A man like Secondo, who always looks angry and intimidating, doesn’t seem to be the type to spend any time in the kitchen baking something as delicate as a cake. Even more, he not only made it, but now he’s proudly displaying it to you.
“I didn’t know you could bake.”
“Can’t an old man have a hobby?”
Tripping over your words, you hurry to reassure him that it wasn’t your intention to question him. Secondo only laughs, a bitter but somehow calm sound that fills the air with warmth. He takes a sit next to you, motioning to move away the blankets. The ceramic plate is placed on the little coffee table.
For a few seconds, Secondo stares at the TV. There’s an old movie there, a cartoon you used to watch when you were years and years younger. This movie always brought comfort to you, awakening memories of hot beverages and butter cookies, of old friends and cozy socks.
Life used to be simpler before. Then, shit happened. Shit always happens, but it hits harder on days like these.
On your birthday.
No one remembered it. This day was just another day, only heavier on the heart. Maybe it’s all your fault. You are fool, as you have constantly been. Year after year, you hope for things to be different, better somehow.
A certain type of sadness fills your body and soul on your birthday. A sadness that walks behind, hugging your back and whispering heavy words in your ears.
No one cared.
No one celebrated it.
No one.
To your left, Secondo sighs. The sound halts the tears that were beginning to form on your eyes. In a swift movement, you hurry to clean any remnant of it, hoping he doesn’t notice it.
If he does, Papa says nothing. He merely reaches out to the plate, cutting a slice of cake before carefully placing it on a napkin. His gloved hand extends in your direction, leaving no place to deny him. You take it.
His gaze is intense and expectant, full of an emotion you can’t quite discern when you take the first bite. Is he nervous? Is he anxious? He’s looking right into your soul, analyzing every little twitch of your eyebrows and searching for any reaction.
The sweet and fresh taste of the cake fills your mouth. The texture is soft, airy and delicate, and the taste of orange and vanilla is comforting. You nod, a smile on your lips. “This is so good!”
“I’m happy to hear that,” he says, letting himself fall on the couch. For another long moment, he stays in silence. His eyes absentmindedly look into the TV, before closing as he exhales. “Happy birthday, kid.”
“You remembered it?”
“Isn’t it a Papa’s duty to remember this stuff?”
Right. A duty. It’s foolish to think a busy man like Papa Emeritus II went out of his way to do something for your birthday, out of the kindness of his heart.
Maybe it’s the way your gaze obscures, or the heavy lump on your weary shoulders, but he hurries to continue. “I mean, I care about every Sibling. I know most of us don’t fit outside this Ministry, but we are a family here. If we have nothing else, at least we have each other.”
The strange softness in his eyes makes you swallow dry. Papa is a stern man, someone who mostly keeps to himself when he’s not surrounded by women. And yet, there’s something deep inside his pupils, a dark veil of emotions that tells you he understands.
Papa is a sad, sensitive and lonely man at heart. “Do you really like it?” he questions, after a beat. “I wasn’t sure if I wanted to make this or a torta caprese.”
“I liked it,” you repeat. Papa smiles, reaching out to wipe a bit of powered sugar from the corner of your mouth.
“So, what are we watching?”
Excitement filling your voice, you explain. Papa listens, nodding a few times in an effort to encourage you to keep talking. When the movie continues, his eyes remain on the screen for a few minutes before you detect the faint sound of his snores.
Oh, well. Papa is also an exhausted, old man. Leaning closer to his body, you wrap the corner of the blanket around him. Head on his shoulder, you take a deep breath and close your eyes too.
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a-s-levynn · 11 months ago
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honestly, from the heart, thank you so much for the compliments and reblogs. It makes me so happy to see a bunch of notifs from you and you’re epic gang liking and stuff!! You’re so cool and awesome as well as your art. I love the way you draw vessel sm and the fact that you draw so teeny tiny is very impressive!!! I’m happy for you if you got tickets to any future rituals (saw you talking abt it and respectfully don’t want to stalk your blog for confirmation [yup, I’m still waiting for California dates]). I’ll stop rambling and say I genuinely appreciate your everything you do 💖💕
(i present photo of vessel rapidly approaching from a ritual back in October I went to)
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Okay okay okay look. What you do is both really fun and super good looking. No way i'm not going to be excited about it. There is something in the way you draw Vessel (and the rest but expecially Ves) that is just.. at least in my eyes just so perfectly captures his energy. And i love the style you have a lot. Also your humour. And all of it combined is just something special. And it's never not going to be immensley lovely in my eyes. So please never stop sharing your creations! 🙏🏻🫶🏻
BUT please NEVER ever for a second think that i'm cool. I'm the one who started to draw Tiny Token because i was too anxious to say happy birthday to someone after all. Half the time i feel too awkward to talk to people even when i have talked with them before. I could not be further from being cool, trust me on that one.
And on the note of "the group" it's an open one btw and you are part of it as well. The fellowship of Sleep welcomes all into the ranks. I don't want to speak in the stead of the others but in general we are just an awkward excited bunch of people who love seeing all the things in the fandom. And basically consider everyone around this ever growing ST community on tumblr to be a part of the friendgroup, regardless of the amount of interactions we had. Which obviously includes you as well; we are just too shy to engage more half the time. The bane of being terrified of being even mildly annoying.
And you can't really stalk much for it, i don't think i made a post yet on which dates i'll be at, because there is still some calculations to do, especially with the two new dates. But i will be at at least a couple of the UK shows in november (so if anyone is going and want's to see my stupid ass and we yet to have discussed it, please feel free to hit me up and we'll coordinate a meetup somehow).
And please by all means ramble on as long as you want to about anything and everything because it is good for your soul. Also I don't know why but for some reason this photo has such a funny energy. It makes me smile so hard, so thank you for sharing! 💖
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coastxlwaters · 6 months ago
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Hi, I'm anxious at the moment so sorry about being anon.
I wanna ask your opinion on something.
I want to share some DCA aus I have but I realized some of them were Sun x Moon and I'm worried now. I had an aninatic I was super excited to share once I ever got it done but once I realized it was a ship thing I'm questioning to just keep it to myself/post seperate from Tumblr.
I know Sams and Fnaf are seperate but idk. I guess I'm worried kf confusion or assumptions kf "Oh you ship this in fnaf, you probably ship in Sams too"
Sorry, this is probably weird. You can ignore it. Sorry for bothering you. I hope you have a nice day and this doesn't make it weird or anything. I'm sorry.
Anon, (or moot? Idk ur on anon so i cant tell but u said it like u might be-) if its DCA no one should care! I bet ur au ideas and animatic are lovely! If ppl annoy u abt shipping them, block them. most of those are TSAMS fans we do not want to be associated with. Same with DCA.
And dw, this doesnt annoy me in the slightest!
Also i woukd like to say this: It was MENTIONED in TSAMS that it is actually RARE for them to be brothers or family! I swear i really dont want to see people hating on this, ITS LITERALLY JUST A SILLY YOUTUBE SHOW. And same for DCA, ITS A FREAKING GAME. If i see anyone hating on stuff like this, ur getting blocked immediately. Ofcourse, u can have ur opinions but pls state them kindly. I do not mind if u dislike ships, but i do mind if u will actively hate on them. There is a difference from hating and disliking.
(pls tag me in ur animatic once ur done i would love to see it!!!!)
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gorgugplushie · 1 year ago
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of the bad kids were on tumblr i know for a fact adaine would run one of those ricky/stray j cat esque blogs for boggy where she posts funny shotty pics of that round ass frog posing as him and making silly captions and itd get popular and theres two ways itd go in my head 1. She gets too anxious abt weird invasive anons the blog is scorched earthed randomly one night 2. Anyone whos mean ends up dying either by her hand or one of the bad kids
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nyxitycatboy · 5 months ago
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the "Get to Know your Mutuals" thing thats going arround except im nyot copying the formatting bcuz this blog is Nyot a medieval princess's bedroom >:c
Tagged by @sluggirltoast and im nyot tagging anyone bcuz shy >w>
-Name/Allias: Breena(the one i use most irl), nyxity(public facing screenname in every game bsides overwatch bcuz im nyot giving blizzard money fur a name change), Tsumiki(nyot meaningfully in use anywhere bsides this blog's header >w>)
-Gender: transfeminine catboygirl :3
-Star Sign: cancer under 12 sign but i feel mewre connected to gemini by the 13 sign zodiac even though i nefur see 13 zodiac stuff >w>
-Height: 167cm (5'6") these might nyot match up since im just going off of mewmery >w>
-Sexuality: demisexual
-Average Sleep Hours: somewhere between 8-11 i think :3
-Dog or Cat Person: cat purrson :3 i'm fine with abstacted dogs (like my boyfriend :3) but real life dogs r usually pretty scawy ;w;
-Blanket You Sleep With: black "standard blanket", grey "standard blanket", second grey slightly fluffier "standard blanket", grey blanket with faux fur texture :3 (i Think what i mean by standard blanket is like, plush or fleece or something? going off of what the pictures from google are labeled :3)
-Dream Trip: nyo clue, maybe japan bcuz im a weeb or something? >w>
-Blog Birthdate: i think the origignal poster genunely just added this so everyone would have a mewment of confusion who wld knyow this ;w;
-Why I made a Tumblr Blog: i started Using a tumblr blog bcuz my friends at the time did and it seemed fun but i actually Made a tumblr blog,, so,,, i cld look at,, slime girl porn when i was like, 14ish >//>
-Url Meaning: step one was "AnxietyCatgirl", which was purposefully using the same letters as ArsenicCatnip bcuz,, nepeta best girl :3 then i added "ny" making it a cat pun and reordering my icon in a discord voice call, and then i shaved off some letters to make it nyxity bcuz i got anxious abt having the term "anxiety" in a moba username and then catboy bcuz embracing how a certain degree of boy is within gender bounds and fun too :3
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pyxscythe · 1 year ago
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You talking about how welcomed you have felt with being a system in lincus community makes me tempted to do the front status thing but also slightly scared
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LINC'S COMMUNITY IS INCREDIBLY EDUCATED AND WELCOMING!!!!! Ok to like elaborate on my experiences:
it's not even that much . But that also means it's nothing NEGATIVE.
All of my friends know I'm a system even if they don't always actively/consciously think about it or necessarily "have it in mind" and even if not everyone is super like in-depth educated on systems they're still VERY welcoming and accepting and no one is weird or ignorant abt it :]
Not everyone will use the name listed in front status, honestly for the most part whatever collective name is still used but SOME people will !! E.x. in Maddy's discord when it was Branzy fronting once she referred to him by name instead of Pierce (which was collective before Dirk was), we liked to push the fact that we didn't care if people just used our collective name and ESPECIALLY streamers because it's already hard enough to remember names sometimes
I mentioned it on twt alt ofc but Linc just swapped names even if we didn't signoff a name or anything in chat??? We just had the front listed as Branzy instead of Pierce on Twitter and discord and then in stream he said Branzy instead of Pierce, Jack actually also asked at one point to clarify if that meant Branzy was the preferred name to use at the time and we just said dw about it (he's not like As Knowledgeable on systems as the other 2)
As for the community in the discord again not everyone will use the front name but everyone will respect your identity as a system :] Maddy's server also has both pluralkit and tupper in it and a separate channel for system intros for those who want to use it, we don't use pk in her server because we've kinda built ourselves up as a collective identity and we can't be bothered in general (we would have to make alts lmao we don't like to rly openly be fictives in public spaces because like. The main fucking 3 fronters a lot of the time are literally introjects of the trio.)
One thing ppl who like follow our sys priv will know is we experience a lot of anxiety involving introjects:
It's not necessary. We just have it anyway. Realistically everyone is very accepting. Maddy laughs at our system jokes. She liked a joke our Maddy fictive made where she said something like "I'd want to be millkberry". I've in some way said on alt that I'm a k!lincu fictive. Pyro literally sent the navy seal copypasta to our Pyro fictive on Tumblr. We can make alter jokes to people and they won't think it's weird. Alicia literally makes me less anxious to be a fictive because she's so Normal about systems. There have been other systems in chat who have talked about their sysmates and no one has judged them for it. I've seen a couple sign off their messages in chat. There's plenty of systems around the ksmp community as well who list their front and no one is strange about it.
This general community is VERY accepting of systems 🙏 No one will judge you no one will be weird about it and if anyone was then literally EVERYONE would fucking jump that person. I would personally ensure they don't wake up the next day. (in a video game)
At the very least no one is judgemental. Even the people who don't really know anything about systems will be accepting. It's kind of a thing that you work yourself up over a lot then when you're outward about it it's really underwhelming and you're like well damn why was I worrying so much. But that's just life sometimes cause being a system is Scary but Linc Jack and Maddy's communities are very welcoming o7
I've like vaguely considered being more openly-a-system again!! But I'm still debating how much I care because really I'd just be putting a name or proxy in a displayname again and we have our front status in discord still so :pp We just wouldn't really be referred to in a system way and that's fine with us, basically it's like "This would do nothing so idk if I care" but also "This would do nothing and I dont mind that so I'm not nervous about doing it if I decide to" yk?
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scover-va · 1 year ago
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Oh yeah since ive realized i cant do one big masterpost abt my security breach rewrite like i wanted due to image limit stuff (i did all the art on my phone and trying to get it on desktop is a painful process), im just making lil snippet posts to slowly feed you guys information. As per usual, it’s a long post so all the info will be under the cut
Starting off! Protagonist role is shifted over to Vanessa (Gregory still plays a decently important role story-wise, but he loses his protag rights), the ‘gameplay’ (said like that bc its hypothetical. Im not making a game) being split into two sections: the Dayshift Phase, and the Nightshift Phase.
Dayshift Phase (which is the focus of this post) is very simple in nature, but also the part that I have less specific details for at the moment due to it being less impactful on the overall story.
Essentially, Vanessa spends this phase running a variety of errands and tasks within the Pizzaplex, spread across over the span of a 5 day work week. For obvious reasons. While the majority of tasks come from whoever her higher ups are (the newest ceo of fazent will be revealed in a later post), there are a few oddballs mixed in thanks to the 80’s serial killer that lives inside her head. Because we’re ignoring Mimic in this au. At least for now. William has no physical presence in the rewrite though, he’s moreso haunting the narrative just as much as he’s haunting Vanessa. It’s complicated and I’ll get into the changes in a different posts where I’ll discuss the changes that have been made to the Glitchtrap situation, as well as discuss the other employees mentioned in Help Wanted.
The map itself doesn’t change too much. Glamrock Bonnie gets to live in this au (i needed him alive and present for. Reasons I’ll discuss when I get to the Nightshift Phase) and Glamrock Chica gets an actual, proper attraction, which is a rollerskating rink. Yes this means her feet/talons/whatever-the-term-is double as heelys.
But, to start off, here’s the main gal herself!
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Vanessa, obviously, gets the rainbow hair back. Because it was the most iconic part of Vanny before SB came out imo. She’s a bit more of an anxious mess, but I would be too if I was under the psychological influence of a serial killer. Her job pretty much stays the same, now working both dayshift and nightshift at the Pizzaplex. Because in true FazEnt fashion, the employees are not treated fantastically.
She doesn’t like talking about either of the founders for wildly different reasons. William because she’s forced to co-exist with him and he has caused great internal suffering over the past five years (Help Wanted takes place in 2033, whereas Security Breach takes place in 2038, so it’s been a long five years for her), and Henry for reasons I’ve touched up on in the past and will further discuss in a later post.
And without further ado, here is her collection of coworkers! Minus her boss
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And essentially all information you see here is all the information I have on them, besides a few minor facts. I won’t state them here partially because it’s an uneven amount of facts between them all and partially because tumblr is now running incredibly slow, however if anyone asks things I can and will answer to the best of my ability. Will I ever figure out the specifics for the dayshift phase’s tasks? Maybe! We’ll see
Anyways that’s all for now, I just wanted to show off the girl of the hour as well as her coworkers before I resumed today’s fnaftober piece because it relates to vanny in the ruin part of the rewrite and giving details for the ruin part before the base game part feels wrong. Alright thats all ty
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atrirose · 11 months ago
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hii, im asking like a bunch of writers for an opinion on this ! im 13 ( ‘10 ) nn looking 2 become a writer on here but i like told one of friends n they were like “ no u probably shouldn't, ure kinda young ” personally i don't see a problem as ill be respecting boundaries of like adults n stuff like that doesn't want minors on their blog, won't be interacting with nsfw works at all nn be in like my own lil corner w ppl that r comfy w a 13 turning 14yro interacting w them and stuff, so is my friend right orr am i able to write nd stuff on here ?
hii honestly i was on social media (not tumblr) since i was 12 too but i wasn’t really writing or anything, to me since you are 13 (about to be 14) i don’t really see problem because as you said you will be respectful of others boundaries and refrain consuming nsfw content
which i hope you do because there have been a lot of cases with minors reading and interacting with nsfw content or interacting with creators who explicitly stated they don’t want to interact with such age groups, that makes it awkward for them and they feel disrespected so before interacting make sure you have read there rules/bfy and if not stated ask them.
next thing abt writing, it’s totally up to u i mean writing is not doing anyone harm unless it’s some form of hate speech. since you are quite young maybe explore your options and then you can start writing.
but since you are so young i am afraid that you might feel pressured at points/stressed, with all the things going on here esp when you get hate anon or plagiarized, i think if you can’t handle all that just yet you need to wait but if u are okay with it then go ahead, it’s inevitable you are going to face some issues no matter the platform. it can make you anxious at times too.
at the end of the day if you are not doing anything problematic it’s all good, and remember you can back off anytime you want if you feel out of place or just want to quit. :)
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otrtbs · 2 years ago
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hi nat!! can I please have 🍭+ 🧿 + ☯️? <3
Loops!!! HELLOO!! <333
🍭 why did you start writing?
i wanted 2 geek abt art history and jegulus at the same time hahhahaha
🧿 what steps do you take to not take things personally if a fic doesn't do well, or if your writing/posting/sharing experience isn't going how you'd like it to?
oooh this is good. i don’t ever take things personally if a fic “doesn’t do well” it never bothers me just because i never expect anyone to read it! i just post stories im interested in and i’m always so thrilled when even one other person is interested in it as well 😋
writing experiences that happen when i receive negative or mean comments do hurt sometimes! but at the end of the day, for me, i remind myself that i’m not a professional writer!!! i’m not in school for writing, never took a creative writing class b4 in my life,, and i certainly don’t have a publishing house backing me !! for me, fic writing is a hobby and if ppl have issues w it, well that’s on them bc i’m having fun 😌
☯️ how do you think engaging with each other through tumblr, twitter, comments, kudos, creates healthy fandom experiences? How do you deal with that if you're not a social person/experience social anxiety?
i do think engaging with each other through social media can be very healthy in fandom instances because i find, for the most part, that engaging w others humanizes you a bit (if that makes sense?) like, when i had a tiktok and someone made a mean video on tiktok abt ahb! i just commented “:(“ on it and the person deleted the video. ahsjdks. i think ppl don’t think that the person will see the mean comments or videos that they’re making about them, and just being more present makes you more human (not that i think this is right or fair ,, it’s just smth i’ve noticed personally)
on a more positive note!! it’s allowed me to make so many friends, people i adore !! and it’s so fun to have a little community to talk to and share things with!!! i am pretty anxious when it comes to reaching out to other people in the fandom (i feel like more than a few people on here can attest bc i slide into dms w profuse apologies and extreme awkwardness most times ahdjkda) but i have found some wonderful friends and i just have to remind myself of that !! reaching out can lead to the most wonderful friendships :,))
q’s from this ask game!
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commaclear · 2 years ago
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Hi comma
I'm not a minor, but I know there's a lot of minors in tntblr and I've been on the internet long enough to realize way farther down the line that I've been in very unsafe online environments before.
I guess I'm saying this because of the new information that came out about that cc called kwite. I just keep on thinking about how uncomfortable it sometimes makes me to be in the fandom of such a homoerotic ship and know so many fans are probably only 15 years old. It seems to be really safe so far despite that, and the soap opera you have going on in your inbox is hilarious, but I guess I'm just worried that this could change.
I absolutely wouldn't be surprised if you delete this ask, it's pretty uncalled for. I'm sorry. But I guess I'm sending this ask because I'm still a bit younger than you, and wanted to know if you had advice for staying safe in online communities.
Only if you're okay with answering, of course. I really hope this wasn't too upsetting to read. I love your work, and I really hope you get that surgery you've been waiting on soon. Get well <3
I really do worry abt younger ppl in this fandom bc the internet safety things that were common when I was fifteen are becoming less and less common, so I would actually love to list a few
Do not share personal info, especially in your bio or pinned post and especially if it could be used to track you down irl (e.g. which city you live in, where you go to school, pictures of a local library/coffee shop/restaurant, your birthday, pictures of your face)
Tumblr is different from places like Facebook or Instagram because you are under no obligation to tell anyone your real name or show anyone your real face, you can and should embrace internet anonymity here because it's one of the last major websites where you can do so
Just saying you are a minor is enough (and you don't even have to do that, no one is entitled to know how old you are), you don't have to go out and tell everyone exactly how old you are because that opens the door for weirdos
You will know if something makes you uncomfortable, trust yourself and listen to that instinct. Even if you can't explain why a certain person/fic/art made you feel uncomfortable, listen to that feeling. Trust your gut feelings because they will figure out something is bad long before you figure out if goes against your boundaries in some way. Children are taught to ignore gut feelings like that, "Oh, it's not a big deal, go give your creepy uncle a hug or you're gonna hurt his feelings". But especially on the internet, where you can end up in dangerous or traumatizing territory without even realizing it until it's too late, you need to listen to your first instinct.
Just to harp on the above point a bit, if talking to someone makes you feel anxious, if you ever have to hype yourself up before you go to message a certain friend because sometimes the things they say make you feel weird, if talking to someone ever makes you feel weird about yourself or second guess things, if they ever ask you to do something you're not comfortable with (even if it's not at all sexual!! If you're talking to a mutual, and you mention you broke your foot and they ask to see the cast, if that makes you uncomfortable this still applies) If any of that happens, take a step back. Distance yourself from the person who made you uncomfortable for about a week and reassess how you feel. If there have been other times they've made you feel weird or uncomfortable, block them. It is totally okay and even expected to block people on Tumblr for literally any reason. It is always better safe than sorry. If this is the first time they've made you feel weird, explain the situation to them and establish a boundary. If they break that boundary, then it's blocking time. It might seem harsh, but to cultivate a safe online experience, you have to have safe people around you, and safe people respect boundaries 100% of the time.
tl;dr don't share unnecessary personal information with strangers on the internet, and if anyone makes you uncomfortable for any reason, do not hesitate to block them. You don't owe anyone anything.
And as tntblr's appa, I've gotta put this out there. If you feel unsafe in our online space or you're not sure what to do about something making you uncomfortable, then my dms are an open, judgement-free zone. I will do my best to help you out, and at the very least, I'm a pretty good listener. Sometimes all you need is a sanity sounding board.
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marauderswolf22 · 6 months ago
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Okay so hi
(Nonono I did a first draft and accidentally sent it, I hope it's on anon pls ignore it)
So first of all I want to say that I'm kinda a hypocrite for giving you advice on how to talk about your special interests more freely while being on anon bc I'm kinda too shy to text anyone without it, ig?
Then I wanna say that I'm probably going to ramble and I hope this can help in you in any way but maybe it's just bullshit.
So, I think that here on tumblr, no one should be afraid of ranting about their special interests because this site is full of weird people with weird special interests and I personally love to read through posts where people are just rambling on about something, trying to get across their point so passionately that it makes you wanna join in, even if you don't know anything about it (I for example had never heard of good omens before and then you started reblogging tons of fanarts and stuff and talking abt them and it's like nr. 1 on my watch list now) and I percieve tumblr as a site where you'll probs most likely find people who are just as interested in your special interest and/or would like to hear about it, even if they never heard about it before.
As for real life, I think it's very dependant on the people you talk to. I think it's very important to talk about your special interests with people you trust, people you know won't judge you, or you could try to introduce them to your interest, trying to invest them, and if it doesn't work, that's okay! You won't be able to make everybody curious about whatever you're curious about, but if they're good people and they like you, they'll let you have whatever special interest you have and not judge you; and if they don't, then they're assholes and you need to surround yourself with better people (not to come across as mean, I'm sorry) because you deserve it.
Anyways, I hope this made any sense and hope you have a lovely evening <3
Anon you're literally so sweet (the part with reblogging good omens stuff? so lovely) and thank you for the advice, it's surely is helpful. And don't worry i don't think you're a hypocrite, i too am anxious to text people privatly here
hope you have a wonderful day <3
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futurefind · 1 year ago
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//dear god i hate anxiety in general but esp the positive feedback loop of 'no talk me anxious' -> extra anxious bc no Talking -> no talk me anxious-- AAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
(vent/neg below the cut :'))) aaaaaaaa)
nothing quite like missing my og tumblr career yeah bc more active rpc but also being able to be shameless and confident!!! bc i didnt have extreme trauma from ppl playing polite to my face and then HAVING to have shit talked me behind my back to organize an en masse blocking And Then give give me a reason you suck speech 'bc you asked for honesty (while having a breakdown on main) that!! explicitly blamed the new trauma thatd ACTIVELY fuck with me for a year on before i could even start to get better abt it!! being too excited!! and not being able to 'tell' that ppl wanted me to stfu/was 'pushing' shit and that ppl were lying to me abt interest!! AND that i was shitty and 'guilt tripping' by saying i felt unwanted/unwelcomed (when i WAS lmfao)!!!! and my first ever 'friend' group/social setting no less!!! on top of making me feel like shit for my Already shitty mh!!
i miss having the spoons and shamelessly to just Initiate and jump into ppls inboxes more!! :'))) i miss when we were ALL younguns w relative spoons and just Time for our blorbo sandbox hobby!!
and!! (esp wrt hellbrain/anxiety bs!! im not blaming anyone for anything at all but!! AAAAAAAAAA) having always always always felt like a Z Team chaser :'))) where if i'm not actively shoving myself in everyones face theyll just ignore me and feel i dont even exist until i myself remind them. and i Know!! its not personal!! and that everyone has their own lives and social circles but!!! i rlly wish i wasnt batting a like max 2% hit rate at Actually making friends to begin with least of all keeping them LEAST OF ALL getting to be a Part of their lives/social circles rather than just a passerby :')))
to say nothing of the hell that is having no irls and wanting to MAKE some....... post 2020. when theres like no third spaces anywhere. or rec centers. or just fucking School Clubs for adults. to say nothing of being unable to even try for Most of that time since then bc too ashamed to bc spent most of that time unemployed :'))) and think ur boring awkward etc etc :')))
to say nothing of pms + having a horrific fight w my bro sunday night just before moms birthday bc 'no one cares abt him/his feelings' and 'everyones gaslighting him' and 'what about HIS feelings'.......... when i all of tried to explain how/why he hurt My feelings like fucking great job dude way to fucking communicate like an adult and not use ur rsd/anxiety/mh as an excuse to bully ppl into shutting up. yeah its bad to tear down ppl and hurt their feelings but only if sb Otehr than you is doing it great talk way to validate me not feeling safe around you and refusing to indulge in you trying to bully/shittalk me into talking to you w passive aggression instead of just Trying To Talk Normally
just!! screams!!!!!!! wish i didnt have to feel cuz its all shit all the way down and!!!!! screams.
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