#(Am I toxic? yeah. probably)

[gh0stz404]

"our grandpa made a respectful gay joke? i didn't know he knew how to do that!" -me when my grandpa makes a respectful gay joke

and the joke, for those of you who might be curious: "Someone told me my jacket looked gay, and so i told them "it just came out of the closet!""

[mellosdrawings]

Fandom ask #15! Go! >83

15. Fandom I find annoying

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I think all fandoms have an annoying side. And even the fandoms that are labeled "toxic" have their good sides.

At some point it's just a matter of curating one's own experience, I guess. You gotta steer away from the parts of the fandom you don't like and stick to the ones you like. I've rarely disliked my fandom experiences because I just don't stay in the sides of fandoms I find annoying.

Thank you for asking and sorry for the weird answer x)

ASK GAME

[shorterstrides-fasterpace]

Get up????? Go to the gym??????

But I want to WALLOW is false Misery!

I am an hour past me alarm, 30min past the time I should have left for the gym. My bag is packed, everything is ready, if I cut my workout 15min short it would work.

Or, I can make breakfast, calm down, and go to work... I would prefer the gym.

[catkin-morgs-kookaburralover]

"yes im so fine"

*researches whether i can get my hands on ipecac*

[g1ngerbeer]

dr who s3e03 gridlock commentary save me. save me dr who s3e03 gridlock commentary

[whatudottu]

Things are getting controversial in the headspace-

[katyspersonal]

I know we don't talk and there's stuff we may not agree with. But I am truly sorry you've dealt with a lot of drama over fictional crap. And I'm sorry if my posts in the past ever contributed to that. Hope you have a better day.

Hey... That's all fine, don't worry! After all, it takes a lot of time and Insight to realise that Gehrman is a very gentle and respectful man and Godrick is an absolute gigachad kdkdkshdffhhgfds /lh /lh

But yeah, on a serious note. It was quite frustrating to find out the real motivation under all that... mess was something so pathetic, but at the same time this is what happens when people make engagement with media and fandoms a moral, political act. Not necessarily a problem, after all, I was the one who concluded that the way a fan judges fictional characters and other fans will very well reveal how cruel they are to real people who do something bad, or how much they will forgive based on personal sympathies. And my mad ravings about caring about female characters! I think the problem comes when a fan is so insecure that they have nothing else besides this defence of ideals through fandomry. If your only way to assert yourself is to be a good guy punishing the bad guys, and that mad raving loredigger discovers there is NO bad guy, what is left of you?

This is why it is crucial to have passion for nurturing rather than for undermining! I think if you speak like this, you've found this truth too? This is true that I don't know you very much (mutual-in-law thing), but to be honest.. you didn't poison my fandom experience at all? I tend to never be aware about discourse until someone basically calls me for help fhdhgsdgdfs Can't scout the fandom tag regularly!

But not only it actually was a quite long ago I saw a "negative" post from you, but also I've seen through the posts that my friends liked or reblogged from you that you've actually became very eager person to defend people's passion and interests! I think the post that particularly got stuck with me was when you resented seeing someone's light die after some Redditor asshole "well aktualy"'d a thing they were excited about creating (not exact wording but maybe you remember too)? Like... you are fine, man. At that point I realised that you were a good fan and in the end valued people's creativity and passion over personal preferences. That you never wanted to be THAT guy, even if your interpretation could not be further from someone else's. Coming to terms with what actually matters in fandomry is very mature and I am happy to see this attitude!

I am still glad that you messaged me about this though; I did not expect this, but thank you! I think I will continue getting involved in fictional discourse because my autistic senses cannot ignore factually incorrect takes with a clear insidious motive, and.. eh, sooner or later, I'll piss off the wrong guy again. Don't feel bad for me when it inevitably happens :p I've accepted the shortcomings when I decided to be the debate guy. Simply laughing at some gremlin starting a discourse with the girls in DMs and not stressing over it is only funny until I realise that newer fans could get misinformed right off the bat.

[a-concert-just-for-me]

People commenting stuff like “This was so disturbing I had to skip through some of it 😬😬😬 good job tho” on my fics crack me up. My dudes it’s labeled ‘dead dove’ and has a mile long trigger tag list for a reason 😅

[torchickentacos]

taylor idk who chappell roan is i think that makes me disqualified from being queer forever (←sapphic girl)

She's a musical artist! She's pretty up-and-coming right now and is seen as a wlw queer icon in the music industry, but I've never been able to get into her music even though tons of other sapphics love it. I probably just haven't given it enough of a chance. Casual is a good song though!

[adustoflove]

I had a somewhat healing session with my therapist earlier 😍 it'll last about 10 hours before my mindset goes into the gutters but

[rotisseries]

NARINES 4EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! what if there were two guys that not only hated each other viscerally on a personal level but also everything they individually stood for and they tried to kill each other and there's no universe where they both make it and they have a hundred differences and a thousand similarities and they both die for drako and this started as a joke but why does narines lowkey go hard

narines will be an absolutely banger #Problematique rarepair when you're famous

[coockie8]

''like I've definitely slept with him just to get him to leave me tf alone for a few days''

isnt that like super toxic tho?????

Oh absolutely. But this is also the guy who drives around in a BMW but once made me pay half a luxury hotel fee while I make $0.25 above minimum wage. Same guy also repeatedly tried to get back in contact with me for over a year after he was told to never contact me again. He also once pretended to be a stranger texting a wrong number to try to manipulate me into getting back in contact with him.

He, to this day, doesn't understand the issue with any of this, and I don't have the energy to walk an almost 30-year-old man, who is actively training to be a cop (🤢 I know), through really basic concepts.

I'm only currently back in contact with him because he's paying me back for that hotel, and I just don't have the energy to keep avoiding him right now.

[renxmaiden]

You ever just like a character but you've witnessed the toxicity insane behavior from their fans and seeing that character you liked now leaves a very bittersweet feeling within you and you want nothing to do with the toxic fans of that said character

Yeah, this is how exactly how I feel about Ren. This is why he remains to be my 2nd favorite character forever

[deepfriedtrout]

I'm never gonna continue the Ahab-is-Penelope au but thinking about her being canon ahab greatly amuses me.

these hags had a son together. their son is still at home with no fucking idea what happened to his moms. he is twenty with more than a hundred adults vying for the position of power both his parents left him. his mom thinks the other is dead and is on a monomaniacal hunt for a whale she thinks killed her, and his other mom is now currently working with a company that makes her die horribly 2 limbillion times so she can reach home. they're both high-ranking officers. they have one goal and they will do anything to reach it. i want them to [LONG FOGHORN SOUND] me

[kidfoundonstreets]

yeahwhat it all really comes down to is that i hate myself isnt it.

[britneyshakespeare]

I had a dream a few weeks ago out of the blue that H/san P/ker died and I felt really horrible about it. I am not a fan of the Twitch "socialist" man at all, I actually find him really grating. REALLY grating, he also spouts misinformation and then doesn't correct himself, he calls people he doesn't like "nerds" and "weirdos" like that's helpful, but whatever. I felt bad about how pathetic all the work he left behind was. And like since this is clearly not someone I'm a fan of, I should mention, no, I don't think about him independently much at all and I don't watch his content (if you do I'm not shaming you though). But ever since then whenever I've seen someone mention him on the internet I get a jumpscare like wait didn't he DIE? Oh wait no that was a dream.