#<- tagging for reach

[starlight-bread-blog]

I keep thinking about what going with Aang meant for Katara. It meant getting to have dumb fun as the kid she is. Aang showed up and the first thing he said was asking Katara to go penguin surfing.

She said she hasn't done this since she was a kid and Aang said she still is a kid. This means so much. It's practically common knowledge Katara was parentified since the death of her mother. And now she's reminded that she is a kid. Over the course of her journrey with Aang, Katara became someone who clings to her childhood and the fun it. In The Runaway, her response to hearing Sokka appreciating how motherly she is, is to join Toph in her risky scams - to join her in the fun.

As stressful as they were, the events of the series gave her back her childhood and fun.

[sydbarrettism]

hi guys i recently made a server for all adult fans of pink floyd! which means no people under 18 (sorry!) anyway here's the link

[organkitten]

i wish more people understood being a paraphile / having a paraphilic disorder and/or having disorders like POCD/ZOCD/etc does Not inherently make someone a radqueer or some sort of pro contact freak

[goldenpinof]

if anyone is thinking about using Incogni, please google the company 1st and look at some reviews. if it's on Reddit (x, x), then especially the comments.

i'm not saying, "don't use it!", just be careful. there are some things to consider.

[purpleleafsyt]

Hey guys if I do a dtiys with arin sora riyu wyldfyre and euphrasia would yall be interested in partaking in it

[butcharyastark]

spotlighting Walaa Abusamra and her family's gfm again because last one lost traction.

i dont have any catchy new photos that werent included in the last post, i dont know if she has a tumblr account, i just know she still hasnt reached her goal in the months since i last posted it. she deserves help as much as everyone else, please share and donate. everything small matters!!! it makes a difference.

[happystarzarchive]

going thru with this plan i mentioned on a prev post . dunno if im coming back . sorry . fuck im sorry

EDIT ((2/2/24)):: yeah no i amnot coming back here . bye

[radinclus-not-radqueer]

On "consensual incest"

PT: On "consensual incest" END PT

I know I said this wouldn't be an education account, but as this affected me personally and is something other anti-radqueers struggle to argue against, I decided to briefly explain why "consensual incest" is a lie and how it's almost always harmful.

Let's start this out by explaining that, when you're being hurt, you often don't notice it. Any abuse or grooming victim can tell you that when you're currently being abused, you usually don't recognize it. Even if you do recognize that something is wrong, you convince yourself that it is either normal/it'll get better soon or it's entirely your fault. An abuser rarely ever directly states "I'm abusing you" (and when they do, it's often a sarcastic joke made to make the victim think they're imagining it).

When you're a minor being abused by a family member who lives with you, it is nearly impossible to leave. Because of this, your brain tries to convince you that everything is fine because you have no other option besides staying. On top of this, abusers often follow up abuse with love, gifts, and apologies, pretending that they're going to change and that it actually wasn't that bad. This further manipulates the victim into believing everything is actually just fine - and when you can't physically leave your abuser, your brain is already trying to latch onto anything to make it seem better.

People who support "consensual incest" are probably already skeptical of this because I keep talking about abuse - however, there have been many, many studies that incestual relationships badly affect your mental health and traumatize you.

According to this study in 1983, incest victims are much more prone to drug and alcohol abuse, depression, and intense guilt, and are also at an increased risk of marital problems and abusing their children. It also states that victims will usually have PTSD, which will worsen if they don't receive help.

In this study from 1992, victims of incest were shown to have much higher rates of anxiety, depression, phobias, PTSD, and alcohol addiction.

In this article from 2018, it states that survivors of incest are more likely to report feeling depressed and psychologically damaged than survivors of other types of sexual abuse. They are also more likely to be shamed and shunned when they try to go to others for help.

There are many, many more studies and articles explaining the same thing. If you google "stories from survivors of incest", you can find many stories from people who went through this type of abuse.

You can say that everything is actually fine and you're in a happy, healthy relationship, but as I explained above, it may seem like that, but it is often not the case. If you believe that your partner is an amazing person and would never do that to you: your partner is most likely lying to you. You are probably experiencing love bombing - where an abuser tries to act all sorry and loving to keep their victim trapped in the relationship.

Many victims of incest report that they convinced themselves everything was fine. Ex-radqueer victims (including myself) have, time and time again, talked about how they were encouraged to stay quiet about their abuse because it was "consensual" and they were only grossed out because it's "stigmatized".

I was manipulated by radqueers into pursuing a relationship with my sibling. My sibling and I have always been best friends, partially because we've both been through a lot of abuse and trauma from family members. Because of the abuse I went through, I felt incestual attraction towards my sibling as a trauma response. I was in the radqueer community at the time.

People in the radqueer community offered no help. All they did was tell me that I was an example of how people who went through incest-related trauma can still support and be in happy "consang" relationships. They told me to pursue a relationship with my sibling, because that was just what being radqueer was all about.

My sibling and I briefly dated for a few weeks. I was sent to a mental hospital due to several suicide attempts. While staying at the mental hospital, I realized how awful the community was, and I realized how badly being in an incestual relationship was affecting me. I'd tried to normalize and rationalize everything in my mind, I'd tried to see the best in everyone and do my research before supporting things, but the radqueer and "pro-consang" communities had taken advantage of that and used it to turn me into a living proship fanfic.

We both consented. We both desired a relationship. Neither of us intentionally abused each other. Despite that, we both have trauma from it and may never recover.

I'm in therapy now, and I'm recovering, so don't worry about me. Worry about the young, traumatized kids in the radqueer community who are being manipulated into accepting abuse as "consensual" and "normal". After everything I've typed up here, I think it's as clear as can be that nothing about incest can ever be consensual.

[spacedustmantis]

can we do what we did with charlie's nose and muscles with his stature also? stop drawing him as a skinny guy please. he's not a skinny guy

[girlashfur]

doing this cuz im curious and trying to test smth

[starlight-bread-blog]

"Aang Has No Empathy"

When Katara lost her mother's necklace, he made her a new one.

He refused to learn from the sexist Pakku after he said he won't teach Katara.

He helped children of the nation that genocided his people.

Katara wanted to learn waterbending, so he offered to take her across the world.

He saved Zuko - the guy who kidnapped him - from death in the North Pole.

[istudyjapaneseorsmth]

do any other japanese learners have the issue of only pronouncing JPN character names how they’re originally pronounced, even in english/your native language?

[wings-of-flying]

people who watched genloss, on a scale of 1-10 how bad is it horror/gore wise?

[copyspaghetti]

This is a slow fandom zone

None of that "Oh no they bomb-dropped all the episodes in a week 1 month ago, I'm late!" "The tag hasn't been active all week is the fandom dead?" "I only got a hundred shares the first hour no one cares about my art"

Slow down

Take a deep breath and slow down

Fandom is YOU. And me and everyone. If we doodle stick figures for a show that ended 30 years ago we aren't "late" or "doing too little", we're playing dolls in our own time and having fun with works of art that mean a lot to us

You can literally watch and engage with something that aired in 2004 as if it aired yesterday

If the tag hasn't been active for 14 months guess what? If YOU post there, it isn't dead. Literally you can talk about anything you want whenever you want there is no weird law against watching things that people aren't actively talk about

Let's be deranged about stories together

[bug-bundle]

checking out of curiosity. we were going to post our server to Disboard without going to Tumblr, but that seems to not be possible at the moment.

would anyone be interested in a pro-endo mc server that's 16+?