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https://www.lyfadvisor.com | This article seeks to inform readers concerning the psychological services related to reunification counselling. it is a focused article that will delineate the process of re-establishing a parent-child relationship after there has been a significant break in contact and/or parental alienation.

Marry or form intimate relationships with a partner with the intention to remain with that partner for the rest of their lives. but it's a well-established fact that it doesn't always work out that way. While the divorce rates are not as high as many people suppose.

Generally, a marital split is fraught with grief, uncertainty and fear of loss though one or both of the partners has initiated the split. Sometimes, one or both of the partners become angry to the extent of vengefulness. it isn't easy to abandon a dream of growing old with a much loved spouse. Partners may be bitterly disappointed in the partner, their behaviour and the state of marriage generally. in addition to grieving the loss of a dream of long-standing marriage, partners must sometime endure a significant change in their financial resources and life style. A partner is sure to suffer further if their partner has left the marriage for a new partner.

The dissolution of a marriage or intimate relationship can be a very troublesome time for both partners. this is significantly true once the couple have kids. unfortunately, children are frequently used as bartering chips to pressure, hurt, punish or alienate the other partner for a variety of reasons. Past hurt, resentment, intense anger or unresolved conflicts between the couple can lead one of the partners to place barriers between their ex-spouse and their own children. Circumstances, either real or imagined, may allow one in all the parents to succeed in limiting a past partner's access to their kids to the point of cutting off all contact between that parent and child. it is not unusual for the children to jump into the fray. sometimes the children have been parentified and accorded an adult role that way exceeds their biological process or emotional stage. If they need witnessed intense parental discord and/or familial violence in the past they may simply need to avoid further arguments. At times, a child can agree with the protective parent that it is in their best interest to avoid further contact with the estranged parent because they don't want to emotionally or physically abandon the custodial parent. it is an unfortunate fact that children are usually deliberately or inadvertently, manipulated by the custodial parent into believing that the other parent is "bad", "not a good parent" and therefore undeserving a primary parental role.

The fact that a partner disapproves, dislikes or distrusts their grownup is not cause to finish or significantly limit a child's relationship with the other parent. Unless a parent is actually a danger to their own children, parental alienation is reprehensible. With rare exceptions, a parent has the right to continue a parental role throughout their life and their child's life. There are few avenues for the alienated partner except to seek legal counsel and enter an extended, expensive, contentious battle to re-establish a relationship with their own child/children. reunification counselling is a valid and helpful way to re-establish a relationship between estranged parent and their children.

Reunification counselling

Choosing reunification counselling instead of supervised access or court ordered custody/access after an absence is a prudent means of reconnecting together with your children. a meeting between parent and child, particularly after a long separation, is showing emotion laden. it is often a frightening time for children who could fear alienating the custodial parent if they begin to accept and enjoy a relationship with the estranged parent. If the children have witnessed years of arguing and/or familial violence between their parents the estranged parent may become the scapegoat for all that was considered 'bad' within the family home. without doubt, children have been bitterly disappointed by the breakdown of the family. The estranged parent may have attempted to re-establish a relationship with their kids several times without success. The meetings may are tense and emotional. there is always the possibility that the children will be questioned when they returned home and the estranged parent additional disparaged by the guardian parent. it is obvious that such circumstances can undermine the work afoot at my office and significantly hamper any reconciliation between the alienated parent and their children.

Reunification counselling will require a psychologist or psychological associate who is qualified to work competently with both children and adults. Given the fact that the children may be very young, it is important that the psychologist has completed significant education and training in psychological science and is licensed to work with a young population as well as adults. Unlike many counselors, a trained psychologist has the necessary expertise to read and understand psychological assessments that may have been completed earlier.

My approach to reunification counselling

A prospective client may contact me directly for service or their lawyer may request my services on behalf of the alienated parent. My work can begin with a one-hour consultation with the alienated parent. If the terms of service are satisfactory to both parties and i am ready to settle for the case, i will draft a plan for the reunification counselling and submit it to the client and/or their counsel. An estimate of the fee for psychological services will be submitted at that time with the caveat that additional service will be more costly. (If the client has workplace insurance benefits that cover psychological services some or all of the fees may be recovered.) Simultaneously, the parent's counsel will request that reunification counselling be considered an option by the separated or single parties.

What follows is a general outline of reunification counselling procedure:

1. Time will also be set aside for the counsellor to read any documents concerning the case and make notes that might inform the clinical work ahead. There may be phone consultations with lawyers or letters/emails to counsel. Similarly, there could be emails/phone consultation with the client throughout the reunification counselling.

2. The alienated parent can expect to attend 2-5 individual sessions before and after the reunification counselling begins. It should be clear that this individual work will be limited to reconciliation with their children and their parenting role. It should not be considered personal or individual therapy.

3. Individual psychotherapy or counselling may be recommended for the estranged parent while they complete reunification counselling. in order to best serve the consumer and their kids, the individual counselling should be completed with another therapist, at another clinic.

4. Conversely, the counsellor would expect to establish and maintain an ongoing, individual therapeutic relationship with the children while they are completing reunification counselling.

5. If at all possible, the counsellor might like to meet with the custodial parent at least once in order to explain reunification counselling, their professional role and establish a pleasant working relationship. Such a meeting is not designed to discuss the relationship/marriage, the breakdown of the relationship or to determine who was to blame. Any meeting with the custodial parent focuses on the emotional support of the children while they are completing reunification counselling. it will be essential that he or she be willing to support the reunification counselling and consider recommendations concerning the adult and their kids with an open mind. At minimum, it is essential that the custodial parent does not deliberately undermine or sabotage the reunification counselling.

6. children of estranged or divorced parents have often been through a great deal of emotional turmoil in the past. A elementary goal of reunification counselling is to ensure that kids who are psychologically vulnerable are emotionally well supported. Thus, before the start of reunification counselling, individual counselling sessions will be set for each child. The approach to the work will be dependent upon the age/s and functioning of the children. For example, a child may present as very young, developmentally delayed, gifted, emotionally stable or unstable. counselling with an older child or teenage can ensue in a consultation room where the child and i can talk. A young child may work within the psychotherapy space and use toys, games and play therapy materials in order to communicate feelings and experiences.

7. The focus of the early therapy with the children is to support them as they discuss the loss of family cohesion in an emotionally safe, confidential environment. it will be an opportunity for them to express doubt about reconciliation, any anger that may exist and actively grieve the loss of familial cohesion. it will also facilitate reintroduction to the estranged parent. If is essential that the custodial parent and any other person remain supportive and not question the child concerning their personal therapy. every person, including a young child, has the right to confidentiality when it comes to psychological treatment.

8. Each child will attend 2-4 weekly therapy sessions prior to beginning reunification counselling with their parent. As stated earlier, the counsellor may wish to see the child/children individually or together between reunification counselling sessions in order to ensure their psychological well-being.

9. If there is more than one child in the family it is advisable for the parent to work with the counsellor and each child individually before moving forward. The time required for the actual reunification counselling will depend upon progress made, participant's desire to move forward and the counsellor's clinical judgement. Weekly sessions are optimal and may be as limited as 6-weeks or as long as 20-weeks.

10. As soon as deemed applicable, the therapist will work with parent and all kids throughout each session. Ultimately, the goal of reunification counselling is to use psychological intervention as a means of re-establishing an independent, positive relationship between a parent and their kids.

11. Lawyer/s or court may request a discharge letter that outlines the therapeutic gains and recommendations following termination from reunification counselling.

It goes without saying that reunification counselling can be a costly, time-consuming means of reconnecting with your kids. Having said this, a psychologist's fees may not be as expensive as legal/court fees and a parent will receive sensitive, experienced professional help while reconnecting with their offspring. Likewise, will be well supported emotionally by a clinician with important training and expertise in child development and psychological functioning throughout the process.

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