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setting boundaries

identify your limits: understand what you are comfortable with and what you are not. this includes physical, emotional, and mental boundaries.

communicate clearly: express your boundaries to others in a straightforward and respectful manner. use “i” statements to convey your needs without blaming or criticizing.

be consistent: enforce your boundaries consistently. if you let others cross your boundaries without consequence, it can undermine your efforts.

practice self-awareness: regularly check in with yourself to ensure your boundaries are still serving you well. adjust them as needed based on your experiences and feelings.

respect others’ boundaries: just as you set your own boundaries, be mindful and respectful of the boundaries set by others. this mutual respect fosters healthier relationships.

seek support: if you’re struggling to set or maintain boundaries, consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor. they can provide guidance and strategies tailored to your situation.

be patient: setting boundaries can be challenging, especially if you’re not used to it. give yourself time to practice and improve your boundary-setting skills.

use assertive communication: being assertive means expressing your needs and rights while respecting others. it’s a balanced approach that helps you maintain your boundaries without being aggressive.

❤️nene

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Any money you spend on acquiring knowledge, looking good or eating well is never a waste. Invest in yourself

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pretty hobbies to try 🤍

cooking and baking

gardening

interior design

reading and writing

antique collecting (or collecting in general)

art (drawing, painting, etc)

photography and videography

sewing

embroidery

tea or wine tasting

calligraphy

learning (new music genre, an instrument, a language, art history, philosophy etc)

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this is the vibe i give off ✨

glossy lips + bambi eyes + pretty face + angel aura 🎀💋🕯️

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Tyla for the 2024 Victoria Secret Fashion Show

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“don’t lie, don’t cheat, and don’t make promises you can’t keep.”

— Unknown

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APPROACHING PEOPLE

✶: approaching people, especially today, can be difficult due to insecurities, lack of social interaction, anxiety, or whatever other fears one could have when it comes to this topic.

CONVERSATION STARTERS

✶: not knowing what to say is typically a big reason we don't approach people. starting up conversation may seem difficult depending on the person you are trying to talk to. my biggest tips are to either find something you both find interest in, talk about everyday topic (school, hobbies, music, etc), or starting off with a compliment. here's some conversation starter examples!!

✶- "I love your shirt, where's it from?" (starting off with a compliment often helps you give off more of a friendly approach that may make it easier for them to talk to you. asking questions often leads to more conversation!!)

✶- (classmate) "the test was more challenging than I thought, how'd it go for you?" (finding common things to conversate over gives you both a flow for conversation. you could also change this around for a workspace or another setting)

MINDSET

✶-cultivating a new mindset could definitely play a huge part on how you interact or approach people. we often feel self conscious about things like out appearance, our mannerisms, etcetera, when it comes to talking to new people.

✶- believe it or not, 90% of the time, the people we talk to don't even know the tiny things you're beating yourself up over. so changing your mindset could make a huge difference when it comes to approaching others.

✶- for example: instead of having the mindset of "they're looking at my hair because it looks bad", instead, think "they're looking at my hair because my hair looks extra good today" (this may take a little bit of delusion 😉)

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Solange and Beyoncé

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A girlblogger's guide to fall/autumn

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Ready to be the it girl this fall/autumn? Vanilla and pumpkin spice lattes, orange leaves and the cozy atmosphere at home, fall is one of the most loved seasons by many. You'll miss summer, that's for sure, but what's best than becoming Autumn it girl? Are you ready? Time for a makeover!

୨୧re arrange your room୨୧

Time to say goodbay to the bikini boxes and the summer decorations and to bring in your autumn decorations! such as pumpkings, leafes and fairy lights. your room must be practical for the new semester and yet cozy for wwhen you want to spend time doing your hobbies

୨୧go out with your friends୨୧

Perfect timing for groceries, decor and more shopping with your friends, Sephora and Douglas might look more yummy and that brandy shop more cozy, nothing beats looking at cute coats with your friends!

୨୧Use new fragrances୨୧

Time for a twist of smells, it's vanilla season, which means more warm and cozy smells till winter! Try pumpkin, cinnamon rolls or cookies, don’t be afraid to smell like a snack!

୨୧Update your tbr୨୧

Autumn is also the season of readers, so pick up that book you wanted to read or make a new tbr and add books related to fall, it enhanches the feels!

୨୧Walk୨୧

The perfect season to go to the woods! Plan a walk or a trip with your friends, camping can be another option, but watch out, it's also a rainy season!

୨୧bucket list୨୧

like for summer it's yime to make your autumn/fall bucket list! Don’t let school and other activities getting in between of your adventures!

Ciao bellissime! I’m back after my random mid hiatus, ready to walk on these streets again, it’s fall which means school! I’ve already seen your asks! They might finally get published next week! stay bellissime

xoxo

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Running errands, manifesting my dreams, pink fits, pink dreams—and we’re making moves and looking good doing it. Success tastes better when i look cute ✨.

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this is literally so me coded 🪽🍰

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Tyla for the 2024 Victoria Secret Fashion Show

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Little things that improved my life 𝜗𝜚˚⋆

Accepting my sleep schedule. I'm a night owl; I focus at night, I'm calm at night, I'm motivated at night. For a long time, I tried to fight this since everyone always preaches getting up early, but since I started accepting my natural sleep schedule, I've been feeling a lot better and have become way more productive.

"drink more water". TEA. Tea is the secret here. I will be honest, I hate drinking water; it doesn't matter if I have a cute water bottle or a cute glass, I still hate it. TEA.

Replying quickly. I used to be one of those people who get a text message and think, "Oh, I'll reply to that later", and then just forget about it entirely. Now, I text back as soon as I see the message. This has not only improved my texting anxiety (which I cause on my own by now replying and then feeling bad) but also deepened my connection to my friends. <3

Keeping my circle small and being okay with that. Over the past months, I've had this sudden urge to expand my social circle and get to know more and more people, especially after I moved in August. However, this quickly ended in what I like to call my "social burnout". I was tired, annoyed, and overwhelmed. It took a few weeks for it to settle, but I've come to the conclusion that I would much rather have a smaller circle of people who I trust and love deeply than a huge group of friends, and that's totally okay.

Wearing what I like. Even though I live in a big city, I'd still say that my style can sometimes be a bit more extravagant than what most people wear, another point is that I'm very uncomfortable with pants so I only wear skirts, which is also considered a bit odd where I live. But over the past years, I've come to accept that and have become so sure of myself and found such comfort in my style that I now just wear whatever I like, and it makes every day a little bit nicer.

Reading and writing for pleasure. Reading books outside of my studies and spending time researching topics that simply interest me is such a great way to calm your mind. Same for writing, I always like to say that to write is to think; putting your thoughts on paper in cohesive and well-crafted sentences that you can then reread and think over again is such a liberating thing to do.

Reaching out more. fuck the whole "double texting" and "no contact" thing. If you want to speak to someone because they mean something to you, then just do it. Unless they specifically asked for space, you shouldn't feel bad about wanting to be in touch with them. Many even really appreciate it when you show that you truly care. Let's stop the nonchalant act, and instead, let's face deep emotions and true vulnerability. <3

As always, please feel free to share your own little insights and things that helped you improve comments! <3

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